Super helpful, thank you Alex. I' ve recently returned to a semi-rural community and have been wanting to fit in, but there's one person I knew previously who decided otherwise. She has been spreading malicious gossip and overstepping my boundaries in very big way. What she doesn't know and is beginning to learn is that I've changed since I last knew her. I now feel I know who I am , and I'm not afraid to let other people know. I can take time over my responses and I don't have to be nasty and cruel with them. There are creative gentle ways to make a point :) I also finally accepted the fact that not everybody is going to like me, and to let that go and be free, which is the important part to me. It's been a slog, but with support from you and others I found it's possible.
I have just left an emotionally manipulative relationship of 2.5 years. The very deep need that was met for me was physical affection without feeling objectified. It is insanely difficult for me to give that up. I am struggling through it and trying to do all the right things to feel the pain appropriately and understand how to meet this need in another way. Thank you for this video.
And it is my determination that I am being emotionally manipulated not by one person not by a small group of people but the entire LGBTQZ community. I reached out to said community for like-minded individuals to be in my life and have only been gas lit by them the whole time when I call their leadership out this double shield initiative that sadistically abused me I get stonewalled. Not a single person in this loving accepting community has addressed anything I've said. So the result the community that wanted to manipulate and accuse me no longer has my support. I don't need a therapist excuses for a communities unethical behavior it is their choice to do this to me it was their choice to blow me off they will never be trusted in my life again and I will never support the LGBTQZ again. People wanted to play a manipulation game with me I told them years ago to knock it off they refused they continue they ignored everything I've said they refuse to respond they refuse to talk to me face to face they refuse to be honest they refused to be real they have done this to me for years I will never support the LGBTQ again
For me its cash need _ survival need. Im a scapegoat my whole life _ people hire me because im a scapegoat_ ive never worked in n healhy work place_ in my opinion they dont to exist I can see the gleeny shine in their eyes when they make sight of me_ they even circle me _ literally_ and size me up like a cow. They all do rhe same thing_ really _ they all behave the same narky way _say rhe same naeky things _ try to trigger me in the same way_ like they think they got the operating manual of me. I learned in the last few years that its " scapegoating" I cant forget anything so its easy for me to flash card events to now categorize my experiences _ Im pretty sure my brain didnt get to prune _ I had to keep all nerve cells for survival _ thats the story and im sticking to it.
I think I'll 🙂think about it Sorry for the joke but I'm not it close narcissistic relationships for years and decades... I'll listen to it second time PS I did I had it in the last few months... Somebody was trying to manipulate, not only emotionally... And I don't like it... I couldn't be the worse time for me... No, those not close relationships... I always kept my distance and tried to keep my distance... But timing was much worse than bad... and play on my feelings, emotions and overall empathy, sympathy, compassion... No... I can't allow to happen it again...
Super helpful, thank you Alex.
I' ve recently returned to a semi-rural community and have been wanting to fit in, but there's one person I knew previously who decided otherwise. She has been spreading malicious gossip and overstepping my boundaries in very big way. What she doesn't know and is beginning to learn is that I've changed since I last knew her. I now feel I know who I am , and I'm not afraid to let other people know. I can take time over my responses and I don't have to be nasty and cruel with them. There are creative gentle ways to make a point :) I also finally accepted the fact that not everybody is going to like me, and to let that go and be free, which is the important part to me. It's been a slog, but with support from you and others I found it's possible.
I have just left an emotionally manipulative relationship of 2.5 years. The very deep need that was met for me was physical affection without feeling objectified. It is insanely difficult for me to give that up. I am struggling through it and trying to do all the right things to feel the pain appropriately and understand how to meet this need in another way. Thank you for this video.
It's great you're holding out for your sweet self in this tough situation. Good on you!
And it is my determination that I am being emotionally manipulated not by one person not by a small group of people but the entire LGBTQZ community.
I reached out to said community for like-minded individuals to be in my life and have only been gas lit by them the whole time when I call their leadership out this double shield initiative that sadistically abused me I get stonewalled.
Not a single person in this loving accepting community has addressed anything I've said. So the result the community that wanted to manipulate and accuse me no longer has my support.
I don't need a therapist excuses for a communities unethical behavior it is their choice to do this to me it was their choice to blow me off they will never be trusted in my life again and I will never support the LGBTQZ again.
People wanted to play a manipulation game with me I told them years ago to knock it off they refused they continue they ignored everything I've said they refuse to respond they refuse to talk to me face to face they refuse to be honest they refused to be real they have done this to me for years I will never support the LGBTQ again
For me its cash need _ survival need.
Im a scapegoat my whole life _ people hire me because im a scapegoat_ ive never worked in n healhy work place_ in my opinion they dont to exist
I can see the gleeny shine in their eyes when they make sight of me_ they even circle me _ literally_ and size me up like a cow. They all do rhe same thing_ really _ they all behave the same narky way _say rhe same naeky things _ try to trigger me in the same way_ like they think they got the operating manual of me.
I learned in the last few years that its " scapegoating"
I cant forget anything so its easy for me to flash card events to now categorize my experiences _ Im pretty sure my brain didnt get to prune _ I had to keep all nerve cells for survival _ thats the story and im sticking to it.
EXCELLENT .....
Thank you for the video. Informative.
Nothing to do with your vids though but where is that shirt from?
I think I'll 🙂think about it
Sorry for the joke but I'm not it close narcissistic relationships for years and decades...
I'll listen to it second time
PS I did
I had it in the last few months... Somebody was trying to manipulate, not only emotionally... And I don't like it... I couldn't be the worse time for me... No, those not close relationships... I always kept my distance and tried to keep my distance... But timing was much worse than bad... and play on my feelings, emotions and overall empathy, sympathy, compassion... No... I can't allow to happen it again...