Sad multifandom | Moms are not suppose to be the cause of your pain
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- Sad multifandom | Moms are not suppose to be the cause of your pain
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"I needed my mom i" felt that🙂
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Me too man..
I still have to deal with it
Fr
Which movie is that from?
What happened to us was suppose to make us strong.
But we were children, we didn't need to be strong, we needed to be loved.
So true ....
Instead it made us frightened and fragile
And feel protected
exactly, it's okay to not be strong, it's okay to realize what happened to us wasn't our fault,
it's expecially okay to not ever forgive those who hurt us when we were at our most vulnerable
You are right.
Since I was like 8 I decided that I would never cry, because my mom was my worst enemy and I couldn't let my enemy to see me weak, in a part of my life I couldn't cry, I closed my feeling so harsh, that nothing could make me cry, and now I can't deal with the fact that I want to cry, but I can't, I just hate this part of me
"Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child"
So true. Some people aren't meant to be parents
Agree
True, I didn’t expect another army to be here
Well said.
@@hankpeterschmidt8626 yes, they arent meant to parent us in the first place. It sucks how much i hate my own mom, the cause of my tears
" I never wanted you in first place''
Damn I feel it.
What movie is that from?
What is the name of that movie
@@harahara6557 little fires everywhere
Worst mother ever imo
The most hurtful words
I know she love me but whenever I heard her telling me I love you I dont feel anything but pain😭😭😭
Same. I do love her, I just don’t wanna say it back due to the arguments and the stuff she has said to me that is still in my head.
I think I appreciate everything my mom did for me, but I can't forget what she didn't do. And I just don't love her, don't miss her, don't care about her. But I know I'm not an horrible person, I'm just in pain
I know that she loves me but whenever I hear her saying what a disappointment i am, that I'm not enough, that she should have not have me in the first place. I sometimes question "does she even love me?"
I agree with you
I relate so deeply like I love you doesn’t mean anything even though I know she does she just causes me so much pain
My grandmother was physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive to my mother. It was one of the main reasons she didn't want kids because she was terrified of being what she was. Then I came along and she is the best mother I could have ever asked for.
i’m so happy for you
That's so sweet T-T
because she knew who not to be :( were gonna be such great mothers
I'm really, really happy for you. But somehow I'm kinda jelous too, haha.
I have a similar situation but my mom didn’t became the best one she became like my grandmother…
My mom put me through so much pain mentally and physically. I'm 25 now and she still doesn't admit to being a major part of how I turned out. She's living her life now that I'm no longer her legal responsibility and I'm here trying to find my own identity and figure out how to survive in this big world
Oh I feel your pain too girl 😔♥️🙏🏻
Stay strong girl, I'm proud of you❤️you will get through ❤️
I feel your pain. I hope I can also pass this phase fast 🙃
She complain of me being on bed all the time.
Similar situation
Moms. Moms are supposed to love you unconditionally, and trust you. Moms are supposed to NOT hold you to sky high standards, and understand that you slip sometimes. Moms are supposed to hug you and tell you it'll be okay, not hit you and scream. But, I guess we don't have that privilege. Funny, right? It shouldn't be a PRIVILEGE. it should be a RIGHT. It something we ALL deserve.
👍🏻🥲
Yea I didn’t and don’t get that privilege
Sometimes when i see childrens or people of my age getting love from their parents... Hurts me like why don't I deserve that same love ... Am I so bad?? 😔Those children are so lucky❤❤
The worst part about this is that the line between "I'm being strict to my child because I want them to grow up to be the best they can be" and actual abuse is finer than one may think. There are probably at least a few parents who genuinely believe that what they do is good parenting, but in reality is not and unfortunately they're too stubborn to learn.
"im proud of you" that's all i want to hear. Nothing more
Same
i know i am total stranger but i’m rlly rlly proud of you. you’re doing so well and you’re so so so strong i love you !
Exactly 🥺
Yo I’ve never heard my mom say that and I just realized that... the more you know 💫
I dont know if you need it from me but im proud of you
My mom think she is doing the best while she was destroying my trust for anyone,giving anxiety, making my depression worse,making me think that everything that should be instructed by her because if it's not it will always be wrong, making me feel bad about the way I look, making me feel dumb, and making me lose all my hope in life.
Your not alone, ive sometimes felt the same way, my mother denied even hurting me, and says she a victim, not realizing that shes the one creating victims.
@@magicrabbit9446 omg I can say that my mother is same. She is a narcissist and she always putting me down, cursing me, scolding me without any valid reason and still she plays the victim card in the end and made me feel guilty as if I have done something wrong here. Like every single day it's constantly fighting and my mental health is getting worse.
why do i relate this?
All I can say is that you are not alone. You are strong. You are wanted and loved, even by us the stranger on the internet. You have a bright future.
Same
"I love you unconditionally and your grades don't define your worth as a person nor how much I love you" that's what I want to hear from my mother.
I think it's time for people to realise that you don't need to have a child, IT IS A CHOICE.
Sometimes. If you aren't sexually assaulted then yes I agree
It's important to remember that a lot of women aren't made to be mother's. A lot of women don't want to be mothers. A lot of women aren't good mothers because although society makes women believe that being a mother is their duty or a goal they should have some women will never be good mothers. Being a mother is work, it is sacrifice, it is a job, and it is hard.
Thank you. Thank you so much for this
Is fucking hard trust me
You’re right of course, but that still isn’t an excuse for being abusive or neglectful. Some people can’t be parents that is true. They can at the very least be decent human beings.
Preach!! not a lot of people should be parents
@@silverdarling2 no one said its an excuse...if anything this is telling women here that dont care for kids to never to produce them in the first place.
"Oh it's your family, they love you, love them, be with them"... after all these years... Fuck people that say those things, I will be much happier without my mom and I am 100% sure of that.
Same
Same, if my mom died at birth, I would’ve grown up thinking that my mom was this awesome person I never got to meet but who would always be there for me even from above. I would’ve been raised by my aunts and my dad and things would be sweeter and peaceful and beautiful
I would’ve probably grown up without knowing my parents got a divorce because she died before they could get one and I probably wouldn’t have this mental health issues.
But she didn’t. And now I’m a fucked up mess living under the same roof as the worst person I’ve ever met who fucked me up. Thanks mom. If I had known you for reals in the womb, I would’ve probably strangle myself with the cord. But no. So thanks.
@@a_gurl596 i can relate a lot to u...
Now my parents hate my boyfriend and don't let me leave my house, also they started using the wrong pronouns and sometimes his dead name, i am so mad...
But hey, dont know how old are you but for me, in one year i'll go to college so... i won't see them almost anything so stay positive... one day we will be completly independent and we won't need to have shitty people around us. Good luck buddy, hope one day everything gets better.
@@alexdaisy9016 Im happy for you, I have 2 years and a half until I graduate and I hope I can find an apartment 'til then since colleges here dont have those. But I'll figure it out, thanks and bless you too
Same
"If you want to be in this family" - I felt that. I've lost count of how many times my mother has said that to me
My mother would have the monologue: "When I was your age...."
And compare her and my sister's life to mine.
And since I grew up I found out just how pointless the things she said were.
“You’re so selfish and it freaking sucks” I felt that :(
So we are all here reunited by mommy issues? :( Sad.
Yep unfortunately
Yes unfortunately
yep I have mommy issues and daddy issues and a horrible brother,cousins,friends,grandparents,relatives, neighbours so yeah...
@@touyaasher7530 oh my god I’m so sorry about that :((
@@touyaasher7530 samee dude I relate and it sucks
She just wanted a perfect family, something I couldn’t fit. So she hated me and made me know it. This hurt.
I feel u
I hope you're okay 💞💞
@@beobb8338 same to u
Ure more than just a daughter 🥺🥺🥺smile cuz i know ure better and going to be a great mom one day
@@sadiyahlallmamode543 thank you
@@Melotinecookies your mother clearly didnt deserve you, your more of a blessing than she ever deserved.
i just collapsed when she said"i never wanted you in the first place" this reminds me of my mom and how she always told me that it would've been a bless if i died in her womb..
I am sorry.. you don't deserve that. No one deserved to be told that..
Same here
my mom chose to change. generations of mothers were horrible in her family tree, but she made the change. she stopped the evil and decided to be a mother she never had. she is a mother of six and has loved us all. a person i look up to everyday and the strongest person i’ve ever known.
it sucks, my mother always blames me. I am the root of her problems, and yet here I am crying cause no matter how hard she scolds me or verbally puts me at a low, I still love her, unconditionally.
Don’t. She’s not worth it and doesn’t deserve it. As soon as you can, leave and be free of her. See how it goes and decide if you want her in your life.
@@cobbler9113 u r wrong!! mother's might say that they dont love their child but deep down they also love their child unconditionally. they love us, we just need to see it.. every mother loves their kid. they might beat us, they might abuse us. but they love uss! always and forever
@@ananyasaraswat9878 Coming from someone who is married to a woman with a narcissistic and controlling mother (also an alcoholic to boot), your comment is not helpful. My wife receiving love from her mother was conditional based on doing whatever her mum wanted her to do. Any remote deviation was met with a vitriol that shocked someone like myself (raised by two excellent and loving parents).
This person used other people to get her way so that she could have total control. Now she has none and all concerned are better off for it. I would also suggest you seek help for your own issues if you’re being abused and are being gaslighted into loving your mother despite what she does.
@@cobbler9113 i am sorry. Becoz i never saw anyone do that to their child. my mother loves me unconditionally that why i thought that everyone's mother loves them.. well i guess i am wrong. thanks for making me realize that.
@@ananyasaraswat9878 Just to clarify, I know nothing about your situation so I have no idea what your mother is like. She might be absolutely lovely for all I know. If however you are being beaten, manipulated or controlled that's something you need to escape from. If that's not the case, that's superb and I'm happy for you :)
That's why I can't be a Mom. Not all people are born to be one!
Can't blame me, my parents weren't a good example.
it’s great that you can come to terms with that instead of possibly making children not have a good parental figure. we need more people like you!
Same. And if I did consider having any I would make sure to take care of my mental health beforehand, maybe some therapy sessions. That way I could nearly guarantee I wouldn’t end up quite the same. My parents were emotionally damaged teens when they had us. They created us into emotionally damaged people as well. I just don’t want history to repeat itself.
Actually I think it shows a lot of character that you can come to terms with that. It shows that you’re a good person who cares about the environment around you. You clearly care a lot about the impact you have on the world
@@jingbahurfavboobah6748 I really do admire you honestly, to have the maturity to understand that mental health is so important and even more when you plan on raising a child, I admire that and I respect you. Much blessings
👏👏👏
"I didn't hear anything from her."
"But I needed you. I need my mom."
I wish.
I've got a friend who's mom is like this. She legit started yelling at my friend the first time I met her and got in front of my friend and I yelled,"Maybe she's like this because she has you for a mother." I then pulled my friend back out of the house, called my mom and we hung out at my house for the day. After that, her mother started treating her a lot better. A week later my friend almost tackled me in a hug and thanked me for helping her. This was 3 years ago.
“I needed my mom…” can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve cried that to myself in the past 4 years
Exactly
That scene breaks my heart every time I watch it 😔 Dianna had raw emotion and it made me cry each time I hear her voice crack
My mother wanted to be a mom but didn’t want to take care of a child
I can hnderstand your pain...my mom whould leave me in a room fir nany dats nd wint ask how m i doing..if i do anythjng good fir her like cooking ir gifts she whould discard it saying the gift is nit her standrd...nd whenever she is angey at something else she whould out allegations kn me of being a theif nd start abysibg me un every way possible..
Whould taunt me thati look so ugly no one will marry me nd makes fun of my phydical appearance..my personal life..
Nd she destroyed everything..
I studied hard worked hard so she naybe proud of her but she jusf wants to put me under her shoes..
I dont know..
Many tkmes i cried myself to sleep bcz i needed her but she was nit there..
Im just tired now
I dknt call her abusiv mother but is she a norml mother
I question myself
I didn't know my mom was toxic till the 7th grade when people and teachers told what moms were supposed to do and what they do..... My moms nothing like that....
Same I didn't even knew that getting hit and being scolded unnecessarily is abuse until 7th grade.
God, I feel this one
Same I'm in 8th grade now so last year my sister actually told the truth she said i was old enough to hear the truth but ever since she told i just feel broken
I didn’t know until recently that a handful of my issues were stemmed from my mother’s behavior. I’ve always thought it was my father to blame. But in truth, it were both of them.
Same goes with me too
I told my mum about my depression and anxiety and how i felt so insecure, she called me crazy and that i was just ungrateful. Thanks mum, that totally cured me :)
If my mom had said that to me I’d of slapped her back and disowned her
Very few things hurt as much as realizing that your mother has never loved you.
I realised long ago that some bad parents teach you better than good parents. Teaches you who not to be
Thanks for the likes and replies. Some people made very valid points but I feel that if you have a good heart and you focus on you, you will be able to be whatever you want. Keep heads high kings and queens
But you will be damaged enough to be another version of a bad mom.
@@sinobomityhoba4523 Not always the case. You can choose to be better.
@@asiadavisgurl1 that is true
True
It depends how bad you mean,
Taking things hard is different from abusing.
Kids who were abused by their parents can't have a easy normal life, there's always a break point where they can't take it anymore.
And the more time passes more they realise what they've been through.
My parents wanted a son in my place but got a daughter, me. They raised me up screaming , beating when I was just 4 years old. They tried to raise me like a boy. After my brother was born they still kept on teaching me to be like a boy. Now they tell me to act like a girl but I just don't know how.... and everything hurts so much. It did back then and now too
Edit: soon I will go to college and try to fix myself someday
Cheer up girl 💜
It happens
Just be the way you want 💜💜
@@snehasamikhyasahoo2 if overcoming trauma and/or changing the impact our upbringing had in our lifelong behavior traits was this easy, therapists’d be out of a job, meditation’d be a hoax and we’d not be in the middle of a worldwide mental health crisis… 😂😂- I wish… 😿
It actually takes a lot of courage, effort and patience to get to know yourself.. and unless you know what you’re made of you can’t know what you want. Simple? Yes. Easy? Well, it does take some insight into the human condition itself and the nature of mind… lol
@@tai.dewitte
I think that you have never gone through anything relating to that
But I have gone through it and I overcomes from it too .
I didn't go to any therapist or somewhere like that all I have was my friends who were helping me and those little things are also Valuable to me
If you can't understand this then don't say anything. 💜
I’m so so sorry you experienced that. I can’t even imagine what it must’ve been liked for you. All I can say is you are loved, so much more than you could ever know. The Maker of this world made you too. He knows everything about you even the tiniest detail like the number of hair that you have. God calls out for you everyday, and I know this! Honestly I felt really sad after seeing your comment and was going to click another video, but I felt compelled to comeback to the comments section again and reply to you. I’m just a messenger telling today that you God loves you and wants you. He sent his only beloved son to die on the cross for sinners like us so that we may be with him. I don’t know if you’ll ever see this. God bless you.
I tend to just pour the Gospel out as best as I can but I get so overwhelmed by it that my description of the Gospel sometimes sounds confusing. If you have any questions (not that I’m an expert, but I know enough and am learning everyday) please feel free to ask.
@@jaeleyvang3038
Thank you very much. This message means a lot to me 💜
And you don't need to be sorry for this because you are not the one who did this but you are the one who is comforting me
Now I am free
Now I am by myself. 💜
I don't need any help but i would really like to talk with you like this.
💜💜💜
"You were my mother too" I felt that 🙂
My mother always favored my brother. To this very day as adults she still favors him. In arguments/disagreements she backs him up even when everyone else sees when I’m in the right. Throughout the years I grew distant towards her. When she tells me she loves me I feel nothing.
Oh God I promise I will never be like my mom :(
Same
Same
FR
I swear i promise i'll never be like her!!!!!!
samee
Can we talk about how a lot of our “daddy issues” are actually “mommy issues” for just a second, alot of us really only know abandonment from our fathers.
It's worse when our moms abuse or abandon us because they're supposed to protect us and nurture.
can someone explain this sentence to me cause i just dont understand
Not me, I was raised by my Father it was just when my mother came over to pay us a visit. Is when and my little brother's got nervous.
@@josusuu no shade but what don't you understand?
@@amanakakei6028 i dont understand the daddy issues are actually mommy issues part
Though this is old, I'll vent my problems.
My mother thinks she's doing her best, thinks she knows my brother and I best and thinks everything should go her way. I'll admit, her mother died while she was very young but her own Dad supported her through it and tried making her feel better, but it didn't work. She does take care of us and cooks us food. But every time we try to open up our feelings, there's nothing but disappointment written all over her face. Every time she walks in the same room as me, I get Anxiety and scared. She is impatient and a toxic lover. (Which is why my Dad left) But I love her, even though she gives me Anxiety.
My mom has said many things to me
"Use your head for once"
"You're just useless arent you?"
But the thing that hurt me the most was when she said she'd disown me if i never said i was Christian or if I was gay. I am both, so im here crying because everyday I remember her words and promise. I just want her to accept me, to actually love me for once, to not be neglected or scorned for once.
Sweetie, if their love is conditional then are they really good Christians themselves? And besides which, since she's made herself _very_ clear on where she stands you can always leave and start your own life up sans mom.
Sincerely, a sister who's told she doesn't wash dishes fast enough and is in the same shoes as you 🧋🧋🧋
@@hahh234 I'm hoping that you're saying _used_ to because you're now out of that situation ^_^'''
Mine said....I am a whore when I was only 7...where do I stand?
Personally if that’s how your mother is then you’re better off without her
Many parents can't accept their child for who they are. All they want is this doll that can be designed to their whims. And that is not right. It is natural to need your mother's love. But sometimes people can't do that. Let her be the way she is. I know it is easy to say. But you can't force them to love you. But there's a lot of love in the world. So much love to give and to receive. Hope you find that and be happy.
I swear to myself everyday that when get older and I have kids I will not treat them how my mom treats me now.
Same here. I will raise them with the good traits, I was blessed from my father (patience, security, love care).
No disrespect to my mother she was also good, but she didn't surpass my father in patience unfortunately...
I know she loves me but....I dont feep love..whenever she says "i love you" I just feel pain
I’m sorry that you have to go through that. I hope the pain will fade away❤️
Thanks for this comment. I never was able to describe it. And now here I am crying because of your comment. But it feels like a relief to know that it’s valid to feel that way and that I’m not the only one.
Me too
They’re times when I feel the same , and as much as I wanted to lash out for feeling like that , I can’t bring myself to do it.
I don’t feel anything when my parents say they love me. At this point, I don’t feel any thing when anyone says they love me. I just respond with “I love you too” because if I don’t things get bad.
It’s hard to mourn someone who is still alive especially a mother
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No matter how much pain my mother causes me. I still love her, even if it destroys me because she’s my mom.
I feel like the worst is when the person who is supposed to love you over all tells you to look at everything they did for you, as if you asked for anything except love. As if you were the one asking for too much, even if you couldn't even write your name correctly at that time. I am not even refering to a teenager necessities, but even giving you food and a house to live is something you should be thanking them for. It is their job as parents, but still it is you who is asking for too much. Well well...
This. My mom needs to read this.
@@pragatip777 My mom too, but she doesn't know English
@Diana Marinho if I were you, it wouldn't matter if my mom can't read English. Language isn't a barrier but emotions are.
If you think that translating (what you wrote) for your mom so that she's able to read it will make a difference, then I say go for it.
If you do maybe I will too.
Have an awesome day.
@@pragatip777 you are so sweet! Although my mom is like a wall when it comes to emotional issues, she has been raised with a "Elsa of Arendelle" kind of mantra, so basically whenever emotions come, the answer is violence and running away, because she doesn't know how to deal with it. Even if I am aware of it, I still don't get why it has to be like that though...🤔
But you definitely need to try too, I support you 100%
@@dianamarinho4293 tell you what, try try but don't cry. In my culture, they say nothing is impossible because if you know where to look, you can find God himself. Or whatever cosmic power you believe in.
Have a movie night or something when you both are mentally relaxed and in that 'peaceful silence' moment when everything is calm. Then just tell her.
Your existence isn't a necessity. It's an opportunity that should be celebrated. It needs to be lived.
"It couldn't have been that bad. Besides, it was Gods plan so it just made you stronger" I DIDNT NEED TO BE STRONGER. I didn't need the trust issues, the anxiety whenever I'm in any public place, the constant thoughts of I'm not doing it right. I was 9 years old. I needed love and support. Who takes that away from a 9 year old?
She did. Yours did. Mine did
I'm so sorry that happened to you. My own mum went through something similar. As a Christian I loath that whole 'using God to justify abuse' thing. Parents have a duty to love and care for their kids as best they can and you are right, you didn't need to be stronger. I pray you are in a better place now!
@@shristijalan8082 Yes, and it makes you crippled for life.
God gave us free willto do what we want as a Christian who is very close to God I cry everyday hoping to escape my house because God promises us to be with us through these tough times and help us escape I hope you find happiness in life
@@indiascarlett Same a lot of moms do that but that is not true God clearly says anyone who claims they're a Christian but then do stuff like that (abuse) are not actually Christian
How does it feel to be loved by your own mother? She blames me for everything bad that ever happened to her. When she tries to apologize, she just says things like, "My mother did the same thing to me." It makes me stronger and I hope to be the best parent I can be one day.
Whenever my mom tells me she loves me it feels like she's forcing herself to lie I just can't believe a woman who abusive me could ever show such a strong emotion and its really getting overwhelming
Same God bless you!!!!😢🤧😘😁😇🙏
Being scolded and abused unnecessarily without any reason. My mom was always dominating and fighting with me. No wonder I got into depression and mental health got worse. She was supposed to love me and support me but ain't nothing like that.
i'm so sorry, anytume you need a friend to talk to, I am here. you can just reply to my comment. take care dear stranger, I love you so much and please know that there are so many people out there that we haven't met and will love us and care for us.
@Minali Priyadarshi Same here. The culprit here, is the "cultural" component. People here have normalised abuse to the extent of placing parents on the pedestal of God.
True, I totally relate
I am going through the same thing for past 9 years, and now it I secretly dragged myself to counseling in college at my spare, because I was in this stage of life where I thought I was the wrong person in life for her, and of my own that I could not trust. No one was there to support because majority obeyed her as she was a sweet spot to the outside world since day 1.
Now? Let's see where life and God takes me.
@Minali Priyadarshi I hope you r doing well now.
when my mom says “i love you” i don’t know how to react. it’s so awkward for me and i just give her a slight smile. i do love her but i’ll never forget all the hurtful words she has said to me. im scared to talk to her about my feelings, she’s going to say that she’s had it worst and that i should appreciate all i have. every damn time. it’s always the same damn answer.
I completely understand you hun. My mom found out abt my s3lf h@rm & spent 4 hours screaming at me for being ungrateful and unappreciative of “the great life she’s given me”. It’s not your fault, and don’t trust her with your feelings because it sounds like she’s just like my mom. But please, don’t bottle them all up either. Find someone or something to share those feelings with & don’t let them eat you up. I know it’s hard, but it’s so important. I’m sending you love 💗
My dad left before I was born, all I ever had was my mom.
My mom has BPD, and whilst she received help when I was a baby, she relapsed over time. After taking down a few trips to memory lane I pinpointed she began spiralling when I was around 9 years old. It started with impulsive bad ideas, then came the anger tantrums like the time she aimed a VHS tape at my head. It got even worse when we moved away when I was 14 due to a traumatic event she caused, and after years of broken promises that she'd change, I stood up for myself at 20 and said what I needed to change and that I needed it now. I reached my breaking point at 21, and at 23 I'm desperately trying to find my own place, talking to social workers and trying not to kill myself because of how miserable she makes me. Some people just don't want to get better, and they do it at the cost of their children's happiness.
Moral of the story: Don't ever be as stupid as me and think you can inspire a mentally ill parent who tells you they're happy being the way they are, to get help. I wasted years trying to make her into a better mom. I failed, no matter how polite, sweet and caring I was. It didn't matter. Because when a parent puts their own feelings of comfort above the happiness of their children, it's a signal they shouldn't be taking care of you.
My mom was and is still nothing but a painful reminder someone I can’t even look at anymore my mom is an example of nothing but pride, expectations, self preservation, unrealistic standards, and a woman who I cannot claim to have loved me because emotionally she had been absent all nineteen years of my life since I began aging throughout my adolescent years I began nothing but emotional pain regret self hatred at the hands of my mother my own guardians who were suppose to protect safe guard me from being hurt heart broken but never held me talked to me about how I was feeling it was always just about themselves poisons to me someone who toxically invested in ensuring I’d never attempt to love my mother my father never taught me raised me to be well mannered I’ve raised myself never had permanent friends relationships or family love they’ve been the cause of my depression and anxiety I hate them I hate how damaged I am because of the one who brought me into a world of pains and pure shit I never asked to be hurt to be betrayed heart broken the way I was by everyone who stepped into my life I was never raised to learn how to socialize how to love right I’ve only ever learned how to treat people because of my parents who showed examples often nights arguing yelling fighting physically emotionally I’ve watched them scream and break things since I was a child something I should’ve never watched constantly growing up never had one healthy moment in my relationship with my parents being broken physically mentally being nothing but a working slave I only ever appeased to make them happy and I ignored my health my happiness my needs I barely slept nights I worked and worked to do well in school and neglected myself because I thought that was the right thing to do I only ever learnt to ignore my wantings and needs never cared about my emotional growth just ignored me whenever I wished to speak about anything never was once open to honest conversation my mom taught me to judge to criticize to hate to lie to be bad to people she taught me to put my selfishness first but thanks to my gaming friends the ones who raised me to be who I’m proud to be today I became better because of my gaming mates who became my parents my family they raised me like I was their own child and now I’ve learned to put myself first to love myself to forgive myself no thanks to my biological parents who painfully raised their hands to their baby never having known the pain I was going through accusing me of having been lazy they accused me of not working trying hard enough but knowing how many nights I stayed up crying from abuse and neglect at home how often I’d think about walking into traffic on my way to school everyday as a ten to twelve year old I attempted to committing suicide I wanted to jump to run to cut to bleed until I was dead but thankfully my friends raised me I have them to thank ❤️
I don't think there's enough out there about bad mom's. Period. I don't think it's talked about enough at all. My mother is bipolar and abusive. She traumatized me so much that I still feel the reverberations of it today. My sister and I had to stop her from suicide attempts when I was 10 and she was 12. My mom made fun of me tapping my knuckles together while I hyperventilated and had a panic attack. She ripped skin off my hands and tore them apart while trying to take my cell phone as I was calling for help. She is the worst person I know and I have blocked her and not talked to her for years. All of it made me a better person, a kinder person, and more resilient, but damn do I wish I didn't endure it at all.
stay hard, stay strong! proud of you
„be happy at least you have your mom.“ I want a mom who is actually caring for me and loving me
"I never wanted you in the first place" I've heard that and i feel it
The first one broke my heart
Brought back bad memories for me;-;
I was lucky enough to only have an abusive father not mother in my life
waistlength whiteblonde hair, hurts having it yanked out in handfuls. she chopped it all off to cover that up. i interupted her on the phone and she just said real calm, "can i call you back..?"less than an hour later she was trying to convince me to let her tidy up my "pretty new hair cut, you must feel so much better without all that hair getting in the way.." i was an 7year old girl with undiagnosed adhd who loved climbing trees, i had never been allowed to cut my hair.. i was her eldest, her best friend when she needed one, the root of all her problems when she needed that..her little angel with my four younger sibblings. her lifesaver when she wanted to show off to others. she used to tell people "i couldnt cope without her" and they would coo like that was so sweet but the reality of having a mother who was a monster and a father who was a martyr & saw me as a diversion for her rage against him was tough. especially because i loved them both.
@@MhyAl-yv7rr 😭😭😭😭😭 i wanna meet you
It really sucks when she pretends to love. But she doesn’t know how to lol and now neither do I. Fun.
my mom always judges the way i dress.. the way i act.. i know i’m vulnerable, i know i’m not the daughter that she wanted.. but the way she treats me, the names she calls me, it just hurts so fucking bad. i shouldn’t want to live with my dad instead of her… but my dad treats me 10x better than she ever has… 💔
the worst feeling is having something resonate with you so much and then you can’t fucking cry.
I guess I just completely lost hope in there being any sort of change.
As a person with extremely shitty relationship with own mom.. I just want to say to those that are also in situation of having bad mom..
It's okey to be angry. You shouldn't feel guilty for hating your mom. I personally hated my mother more than anything.
We all have our reasons and life stories. If you feel like cutting your mother off your life.. then DO it! It's going to make everything so much easier. Just trust me.
My mother was really bad at being mom. She has own personal issues. I always felt like I was bad daughter for hating her, feeling anxious around her.. I always blamed myself for how she acted around me. She was manipulator, mentally ill, mean.. drug and alcohol addict.
Not until I was 16 years old, I finally started to stand up for myself.. and now. I am 18 year old young women living my best life without my mother. Do not feel guilt! This is your life! Don't waste it!
I face weirdly the exact same situation with my mom only that I set boundaries at 15, I’m 16 and a half now. I have to ask, how did you cut her off of your life? My mom lives in the same house with my two aunts and I try to avoid her when I can but it’s hard to do sometimes. So I wonder how did you escape her? Because I want and need to do the same thing, please
@@a_gurl596 I'm sorry to hear that. I basically just ignored her completely, no texting no replying to texts or calls.. act as if she never existed pretty much. Good luck!
@@kivakala5418 Thankyou! I'll try
@@skylarjenner4135 I'm sorry to hear that. I personally was able to refuse to be around my mom as she and my dad are divorced. Just try to fight through it. When you turn 18, or when ever you get to decide things on your own, just go for it and cut ties if you feel like it. I hope you all best! I know how awful life can be with bad mom.
Youre lucky you can physically stay away from her. I cant ignore my mother cause i live with her. And it kills me everyday.
Shameless scene always gets me 😭
Me toooo
When the mom cut off the little girl’s hair I started crying, I’m so grateful for the amazing mom I have, if you see this mama, I love you more than words could express!
I never think that I'm going see this video and cry.
Now I understand this video.
My mom was perfect to me, I was proud of her until now
1st clip hit a little TOO close to home. That is EXACTLY what my mom did to me except after throwing the brush down she told me "Don't believe your friends and classmates when they tell you you're beautiful, because they're lying"
I bet you're really beautiful. Some parents can be jealous of their own child.
narcissist
Shame on her
I know she's trying now but their cries and screams still ring in my ears
a year ago i watched this crying non stop , now i watched it without even a single drop of tears
"I hope ur happy"
That's all I want to hear from my mom.
The beating parts and the cutting the hair part really hit home.
Okay, but the one from Bad Moms, I felt like her kid was being a bit of a brat. At the beginning of the movie, you see how much Amy does for her family, without much being done for her. When she decides to do some things for herself, her kids throw fits.
The same with the one from Joyful Noise. Olivia was being a brat to her mom, and constantly was talking down to her. Some of these are spot on, but others, not so much.
But your kid being a brat doesn't entitle you to abuse them. They're kids. Sometimes they're going to annoy you.
@@darkhorseash4337 Okay, literally no one in those films were being abused. Especially Bad Moms. Jane acted like a brat for no reason and was really ungrateful to her mom, especially considering all the shit that her mom did for them. Literally, that woman made their projects for them!
And in Joyful Noise, the entire time Olivia treated her mom like a villain, despite the fact that her mom was shouldering taking care of her two kids (one of which had autism), having a husband in the military, working her ass off as a nurse, and being the choir director. It was so ridiculous. Yeah, Olivia got slapped. However, the way she kept talking down to her mom and being a real jerk, I honestly didn't blame her mom.
But hey, if you want your kids to walk all over, that's fine. You do you. But some of them are just assholes, despite being brought up otherwise.
Timestamps?
Yeah, it’s hard being a mom, I think we just forget that they once were us, and sometimes they forget that too. I have held my mom sometimes, and watch her cry. But she works hard, and looks to the future, every time I get in trouble and she gets mad and punishes me she says, bad things have consequences. And yeah she used to spank me, but that’s how I learned obedience.
Yh she was big brat frl
Pissed me off when watching bad moms
And then they expect us to love them when they're old, visit them, take care of them and if we don't, we are bad children. Like you aren't the one who taught us how to 'not' do all of those things. You never set the right example. Everyone glorifies the sacrifices of parents, and how parents are so forgiving, but no one speaks about how much pain and suffering a child has to go through by the hands of abusive, unsupportive, negligent parents. That's all okay, because they have birth to you, that's all okay because they raised you. It never is. Making a child feel like they are not worthy of love and care and that everything is their fault is never okay.
1:53 I wish I had guts to say this to her!!
I held on to my mother for so long because I needed to believe someone was there for me. I was living in denial though, and realising this is crushing me. I do think she loves me in her own way, but she doesn't love me enough.
1:39 the way she backed up after what she said. I've been there, immediately regretting the things I said afraid of what would happen next. Either I'd get hit, or the yelling got worse.
"You are my mom too "💔
My late mom was the cause of the pain I suffered for a lot of years, especially after I graduated from high school, when I wanted to set my own course in life.
I’m 14 and i hugged my mom for the first time in a very long time because i needed comfort, and she was like, well this is new, and i started crying because she’s never comforted me before and merely hours earlier she was screaming at me telling me i was the reason she wanted to die. It hurts, why does she do that
Okay the Bad Mom's clip doesn't belong here. She simply broke off with her husband who cheated on her and was trying her best to be a good mother despite all the set backs and selfish attitude her children had.
"You're so selfish" is not a justification for not getting your way, even for a kid. Sure if it was a kid under 10, it's understandable, they don't grasp the situation but older children gotta actually take their parent's feelings into consideration before saying unjustified words.
But that's the thing older children are worse it doesn't matter how much they try but a child that age is an emotional wreck and don't most children tend to see their parents as perfect. Furthermore, what does a child know about relationships they just want two parents. True she didn’t deserve to be called selfish but have you ever thought about the fact that her life will never be the same and what may seem like a small thing to one may be a big deal to another.
@@FB-xd9yq "emotional wreck"? Um no , they can be mature but they choose not to be , I went through family at that age but I wasn't an asshole and not just me there are many kids who become mature when it's the need of the hour.
But mom should not forget her responsibilities
Like understanding or believing your child
@@ArtiDevi-bt4df But in this context of Bad Mom's, she was bloody hell mature and didn't let go of any of her responsibilities. She raised the kids as a single mother, even before she was divorced since all her husband did was laze around. As a child who has a father who does the same, I'll let you know that we grow up before our age. It's a sort of responsibilities children take seeing their parents struggle.
The daughter in Bad Moms was completely blind to her mom trying to juggle between working and being a full time mom who babied her kids to the point that she made them their assignments.
I don't remember my parents doing that for me because as a kid I felt it was my responsibility to not add more work to the already hardworking mom I have.
@@FB-xd9yq Children are emotional wreck with bad atmosphere around them. I don't remember being an emotional wreck going through puberty. Hell I'm probably more an emotional wreck now as an adult.
Also I understand that their life wouldn't be the same but so what? You want mommy to sit down and think "Well my kids need their father, even though he cheated on me and our life will never be the same and I'll always constantly be battle depression, asking myself why I was not enough or why I had to go through it, so what? I can always pretend to be happy around my kids until I die"
If I grew up in such an environment and later found out my mom had stuck together with my dad despite him cheating on her for me, I'd be devastated enough to go look for therapy. The guilt of running someone's life is far greater than momentary outburst of a child who would later realise why their parents had done it after some serious talk.
Never been so happier in my life now that she is totally out of the picture, all ties cut. Grieving your mother who's still alive is a weird thing tho. It can be quite isolating at time, but damn if it is not freeing as well. 100% worth it.
The one where the mother cuts the little girls hair shatters my heart.
This really makes me appreciate my mom, she's a queen and a strong woman♥️
Is it sad how the only ones that I can trust to see me vulnerable are my dogs…? My mom hasn’t been a mom since I was eight. Both of my parents suck. In all honesty. The only mother figure that I had was my oldest sister and now I don’t have that. I mean yeah, I visit her a lot…but still…I want to learn how to be a mom…so that way in the future I won’t end up anything like my so called mother. Tbh I think that I just have a horrible relationship with everyone in this broken home. I mean I hardly let anyone see me cry. I don’t open up. My other sisters tell me that I can trust them…but I have this gut feeling that I won’t be able to do that. Because I feel like they will only make it worse. Like how they did whenever I first told them my ever single day thoughts. Whenever I’m old enough to buy a house, I’m getting out of here. Parents are supposed to love. And be there for their kids. Not only care about their grades! Because that’s all what my parents do! But hey…at least she actually brought to my sisters attention that I am the only one that hasn’t gotten a break…they have practice and friends…I have no one…I’m always left out…yet I care the most…I can’t even think of the last time that I went to a friend’s house without any of my family…sorry…just kinda really can’t tell anyone else…but it’s just kinda easy to open up here…because other people have gone through the same thing…
It's relatively normal, I guess. I only ever feel comfortable crying around my cats too. I dislike humans seeing me vulnerable.
I’m a failure. I had perfect scores until this year. My grades aren’t that good anymore.I was physically and verbally abused my whole life, and guess what? It didn’t make me a better person, my grades were my redeeming qualities in her eyes. But now, I’m just nothing . I don’t matter.This day,I’ve been humiliated too many times to count,and every time I want to stop crying and start studying ,she won’t let that happen and makes me feel even worse. My dad is not the best dad,he never played a major role in our education,and the fact that he doesn’t know how to handle this situation makes me feel like crap . I’m trying my best I swear, I just know that I’m in a very bad place now. Can’t wait to turn 18 to finally see a therapist !
If your parents are that bad go to the police and get the help you need
I can truly relate to this.
My mom always yelled at people. Always gossiping about people including me in her topics. First it was my older sister, next it was my older brother, then it was my other older brother. And when all of my siblings had finally got out of the same house as her and when I was the only one left - all hell broke loose from her. Her and I would always get into arguments, my dad would side with her most of the time - and I even told her I hated her and I don't regret saying that.
I hope I’m not overstepping but I say shame on your siblings for not helping you. If I was your older sibling when I left home I would’ve taken you with me to get you away form those psychos
@@domonicredmond1894 I’m the youngest too and I sometimes feel a strange combination of feelings - on one hand, I resent my older siblings for leaving me at home with our parents, knowing what they’re like. But a more mature part of me resonates that they didn’t really have the option to take me with them and I’m just glad they made it out the house.
@@hi-ls6lt personally they should’ve at least gone to the police about I say that because I’m the son of a former officer so naturally I can’t stand injustice. I always say abuse a child go to jail no questions it doesn’t matter if they’re family!
the moment I saw this I just bursted out crying this video knows my pain more than everyone so thank you for this
The hardest thing to ever open up & talk about is my mom. I always wondered why I couldn’t be enough for her, they say when you come into the world and your mom hears your cry, and holds you for the first time. It’s supposed to shift their world. I didn’t do that for her. Some broken part of me, has been broken for a long time. But what cures the pain she left me in? she cost me a lot. I payed prices I shouldn’t have paid. She was supposed to love me. She’s supposed to be here. Pain. It’s inevitable. It’s never ending. When does it end?
I feel like my mom is trying to live her dream life out through specifically me, but also my siblings. Which is why I think she doesn’t 100% mean it when she claims to love me. She loves the ‘perfect’ world she created to ‘fix’ her broken one.
It’s painful yet somehow comforting to see I’m not the only one who was mentally and emotionally abused by my mother
I’m so glad we are strong enough to be here
But today she killed a part of me yet again
They have never admit that they were a terrible mothers, that's the PROBLEM. You grow up, they forget, but you don't, because things like this are unforgettable....
Today she scold me for nothing,again of course, but I love her.
My mom wanted 3 sons but got a girl instead. Once my brother was born, she stepped aside as a parent, called herself my "teacher" to get support, and basically trained me to entertain. She fed into a lot of my body image issues, along with truama, depression, and much worse. This hits a lot when you can relate on so many levels.
Wow, this hit close to home 🤧 raised yourself and your younger siblings, because when your father died, your mother was busy focusing on herself and her grief to actually fill that gap he left. 🙁
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This literally hurts and I shouldn't be crying so bad right now.
What's the name of this series'
@@rohinighangal4188 little fires everywhere
3rd one. this part of Riverdale hurt me so bad. i felt so bad for Cheryl....
i'd do anything to love my future daughter like how I wanted to be loved
I just relived all my trauma by watching this. What an experience
This made me realize how much my mom really hurts me, my mother loves me more than anything but she hearts me even more
It's weird how the one person we would give our lives for, can hurt us in the worst ways. I am so sorry to everyone that's here. I wish parents could be better.
My mother never said "I love you" to me bc I never hugged her, the only thing I feel is pain I couldn't do anything, all I do is just fake everything, she always say I always sleep in the mornings just bc I don't sleep at night I always try to tell her tht I overthink stuff and others things but she doesn't listen she just continues talking about it, thts why I'm afraid of her and my dad, when they play fight with me, I get scared of cover my face, and when they compare me to someone else, I started to cry so yeh, thts why I stay in my room for years now, use to go outside alot but now tht my mother talks how I dont work in the house, i just ignore or and stay in my room forever tbh
"-And we gave you everything
-Everything but love, respect, self-esteem and care"
My
If I ever have a kid I’ll do everything in my power to love them and educate them the best way possible.
I get the point of the video but you shouldn't have included Hope Mikaelson saying, "I just want my mom!" because that was a moment she was missing her mom after she died. Hayley did right by her daughter. She made sure she was loved, protected and most importantly, that she could have the innocence of childhood that Hayley herself didn't. Hayley lived for Hope, and she died protecting her! ❤
i don’t feel like the originals/legacies and bad moms clips should be here because hope’s mother died. she wasn’t a bad mom, she just died. and amy was a great mother. her daughter just couldn’t process the fact that amy needed to divorce her father.
Hayley was the mother everyone deserves
MAA.... THANKYOU COZ U R ALIVE & I CAN STILL SEE U , NO MATTER WHAT IT IS. STAY SAFE STAY BLESSED & SMILOOO ◉‿◉
All i can ask is for normal childhood... a happy life and supportive family but all i get that i don't deserve anything, i just not deserve to be loved
I've had to stand up to myself by saying,"you scare me"
You know I once did that and it didn’t work... it actually backfired but anyways
Yes it doesn't work you just need to get out for ur own sane