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I think a lot of people are missing the point ,he said to marry someone YOU find attractive. Our brother also mentioned beauty Is in the eye of the beholder ,he is not suggesting to find a super model with deen,but someone you atleast find attractive and a comfort to the eyes. A women society might say is unattractive but to someone else she could be the most beautiful women . The point is find someone you're happy with ,firstly deen character and pleasing to the eye .Also attractive doesn't mean non religious, there is many beautiful pious people, just make dua Allah blesses you with one .
Finally found a mature person in the comments.
@The Alpha I see a lot of immature guys and galz in the comment section and just the thought of trying to reason with them is draining my energy. That's just disgusting that anyone would say such things about brother Gabriel or anyone. Everybody in the comments talking about deen above beauty but their way of talking is definitely not deen. We should also acknowledge that there are very immature brothers too who can't take any criticism and make it about man vs woman. You know the kinds that will say "we are build like this naturally" but when a girl says "we see this and that lacking in today's young men" the boys get defensive and condescending. Like chill out, you're not the only ones with a "natural tendency". That was just an example.
My parents, uncles and aunts tried so hard to coerce me into an arranged marriage with unattractive, obese cousins. Their absurd reasoning was that you should marry into the family because everybody knows the girl and attractive women have very bad personalities. I rejected all their claims, because I do not approve of incest and unattractive women tend to have far worse personality flaws.
@@beachboy_boobybuilder are you a muslim?
@@beachboy_boobybuilder you do realise that cousin marriage is not incest and that the chance of a disabeld kid is doubled which on its own is only like 3%. It is halal nothing wrong with it
Deen comes first and physical attraction comes next and I agree 100%. I could never imagine marrying and living with someone I'm not attracted to. It would be continues torture for me.
its the other way around first attractiveness then you eliminate those who don't have religion ...
@@ThaEzioAuditore No
@@safax5759 Some scholars regard it as mustahabb, if a man wants to propose marriage to a woman, to start by asking about her beauty first, then about her religious commitment. That is because it is known that people seek beauty first and foremost.
Imam al-Bahooti said in Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat (2/621):
He should not ask about her religious commitment until he has been told good things about her beauty. Ahmad said: If a man wants to propose marriage to a woman, he should ask about her beauty first, and if good things are said, he should ask about her religious commitment, and if good things are said, he should marry her. If he does not hear good things about her religious commitment, then he will have rejected her because of her religious commitment. He should not ask about her religious commitment first, then if good things are said, the he asks about her beauty, then if he does not hear anything good, he rejects her because of beauty and not because of religious commitment. End quote.
Actually attractive is more easier to spot. Select those and then you can look for deen
@@Dont-worry1618
That's gonna make it harder to find.
Cause, in these days attractive women tends to lean towards haram things more.
Because of the entertainment industry, tiktok, facebook, Instagram etc etc
It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said: "It was said to the Messenger of Allah: 'Which woman is best?' He said: 'The one who makes him happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and she does not go against his wishes with regard to herself nor her wealth.'" Sunan an-Nasa'i 3231
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@The Alpha - no they do not. You have to choose between physical beauty and personality.
@The Alpha - yet women (including muslim women) demand men to have the full package.
@The Alpha yes. But idk where oof
@@beachboy_boobybuilder akhi stop making it men vs women. Its just going to cause useless arguments which is a waste of time and could lead to sin.
جزاك الله خيرا
Sisters, marry an attractive man so you don't end up with someone you find repulsive when he approaches you. Common sense but it seems some men think women don't care about looks. Perhaps its easier for them to think that rather than realize that there is a possibility that their wife isen't attracted to them anymore or perhaps never were and only married them due to pressure.
Yeah
@Wz Bushra we get it calm down sister
The only men who say that are the ones trying to justify not doing anything with their lives it rarely has anything to do with people who are married already
Also you’ve got some spelling mistakes
"some men think women don't care about looks"
it's not about the thinking of some men. it's a fact.
I saw many beautiful girls with ugly rich/successful man.
But not so many men with ugly rich/successful woman.
Thank you brother . I’m 1 year new to Islam . I desperately want to put the Haram behind and live a 100% halal life . Alhamdulilah. I’m now looking to get married .
I hope that you find good wife inshallah brother 🤲🏾
Correct Title: Marry a Woman/Man you find Attractive
You need to find your wife attractive or your gaze will not be protected. I am so attracted to my wife that I don’t even want to look at other women, it makes protecting my gaze so much easier.
But her true beauty is below the surface 💕
Alhamdulilah I don’t know what I did to deserve such a woman but alhamdililah 😍😌
May Allah bless your marriage with goodness and protection. Ameen. It's nice to read something positive about women in the comments in the times of manism (vs. feminism).
@@aminaahmet1025
Ameen ya rub ❤️
I feel more like masculinity is being completely demonised these days. Allah made us each with our own role and we compliment each other. Men shouldn’t try to be women and women shouldn’t try to be men, we are different. It shouldn’t be a competition between us but a synergy.
@@domhamai I agree with 6 points of yours, just one not: We're not completely different, just some aspects (10% difference?). Remember, a woman was created from, out of a MAN. Hence a woman carries most of the masculine genes.
When you talk about the creation, you need to follow the analogy of the thought from the begging till the end. And in the beginning there were no two separate creations. There was one, Adam aleyhisalam. And then OUT of this one, a genetic derivat woman, Hawa radialahu anha.
@@aminaahmet1025
His helper.
Women are soft, men are hard.
Women are more intelligent.
Women can multitask, men cannot.
Women bare children, men cannot.
Men can think 10 steps ahead, women cannot.
Women are more emotional, men are more logical.
Women are more people orientated, men are more thing orientated.
We are both human but we are night and day.
Women are the most beautiful and wonderful creation but they are not men, they have strength where we have weakness and they have weakness where we have strength.
We were made to compliment each other, not to compete against one another.
There’s a lot of fitna, deception and confusion in the world today. Don’t fall for it. You will feel more fulfilled and be more successful in life. Islam has made clear for us our rights alhamdulilah.
@@domhamai I appreciate your list of opposites between men and women. One thing caught my eye: you say that women are more intelligent than men. And at the same time you say that women are not able to think 10 steps ahead. how do you explain that
I know someone who got married to someone he wasn't attracted to, for her deen. They got divorced. It's a huge mistake to make.
Abu Huraira reported God’s Messenger as saying, “A woman may be married for four reasons, for her property, her rank, her beauty and her religion; so get the one who is religious and prosper.”* Sahih Muslim 1466, Sahih al-Bukhari 5090
I love my husband for who he is, love is not always a feeling, but it’s also a choice. Sometimes you have to choose to love your partner.
Ok🙂
I hope i succeed in forcing someone to love me or the opposite may happen just like you said love is also a choice😊
@@rabbi619 it's no longer a choice if you have to force it
@@dracuii1582 Yes it is a choice because she can still leave me if she wants later on it is not like a one shot choice. She will have many more choices i can just covince her to choose this and she can take her heart back if she wants.
You know that love before marriage is a new concept, it was very rare before and ppl grew to love each other. This idea of marrying only for love is a huge mistake. Feelings and attraction do develop and so does love.
Social media gives off the impression that most good looking/attractive Muslim women are indecent and irreligious, even the less attractive women are following suit. I know this not to be true in the real world, but it's still something to consider
@Ma Khi I'm a niqabi and In public yes I'm not attractive as I'm covered head to toe in black ,however at home I workout and dress up still and get my hair done .I don't wear anything fake as a previous beautican I see the damage it does to natrual beauty and my husband don't like the fake look .A women can be modest and attractive, she needs to be attractive at home and modest in front of non mahrams .May Allah make it easy for everyone ameen
@Ma Khi Alhamdulillah sis this is how it should be ,don't worry about others not knowing, in shaaa Allah it will be a unexpected bonus for your husband one day (if your not married already)
I understand its hard ,expecially as us women are compared to thousands of photo shopped fake beauty .What comforts me sis ,if we make it to Jannah we will be so beautiful and this beauty will increase every Friday, so when you find it hard remember that. May Allah give us Jannah ameen
Remember he says the most important thing is faith
In my opinion as a Muslim man, a woman doesn't need to be a super perfect looking person exactly like a supermodel, she needs to be tolerable enough to look at with slight attraction, obviously, I'm more into deen and character Alhamdulilah.
But no wife wants to be tolerable for her husband, she wants to feel special and beautiful!
@@aminabesic9693 it's not what about what the wife wants, it's from a man's perspective I'm talking about in terms of looks that us men need to consider the absolute minimum to look at and of course she will feel feel beutiful and special, why else would a man marry her in the first place.
Yeah and dont forget that feminity is also attractive to males. If you see a softhearted shy girl, that’s actually attractive.
If she behaves man-like then its a big turn off.
@@aminabesic9693 a female will also be attractive for her sound feminine nature.
BaarakAllaahu feek
Brother it's enough, we get the point. Have some Hayaa
Brothers and sisters, listen to Bilal Assad. He has a series on the lives of the Prophets, which is a must watch Imo. Brother Gabriel may have good intentions, but I think it's for good reason why Imam's don't obsess over these kind of topics. Allah said in the Quran: "Indeed we have created humans in the best form" surah At Tin, verse 4. Say Alhamdulillah for how you look, and don't pay attention to frivolous matters that take you away from your Deen.
Marrying an attractive women is the sunnah confirmed by multiple Hadith, don’t let any emotional women or pathetic guys try to guilt shame you for looking for an attractive woman.
Source please ?
@@tmmmohseni2560
Marrying a beautiful girl is sunnah:
“It says in Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat, which is a Hanbali book (2/621):
“It is also Sunnah to choose a beautiful woman, because it is gives a greater sense of transquillity and is more likely to help him lower his gaze and love her more. Hence Islam prescribes looking (at one's fiancée) before marriage.”
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: It was said: “O Messenger of Allaah, which of women is best? He said: “The one who, when he looks at her he feels happy, when he tells her to do something she obeys him, and she does not go against his wishes with regard to herself or his wealth.” Narrated by Ahmad (2/251)
Imam al-Bahooti said in Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat (2/621):
“He should not ask about her religious commitment until he has been told good things about her beauty. Ahmad said: If a man wants to propose marriage to a woman, he should ask about her beauty first, and if good things are said, he should ask about her religious commitment, and if good things are said, he should marry her. If he does not hear good things about her religious commitment, then he will have rejected her because of her religious commitment. He should not ask about her religious commitment first, then if good things are said, the he asks about her beauty, then if he does not hear anything good, he rejects her because of beauty and not because of religious commitment.”
Yes brother you are right. I hope you will be Just too with your women In Sha Allah
@@tmmmohseni2560 can you marry another wife?
@@firmman4505 as in divorce or get a second wife ? I mentioned polygyny a few times to her and she threatened to take the kids away from me. Living in western countries, it’s not realistic unfortunately. They will just call the police and you’re in jail for something etc.
Seeking the most attractive partner has led people to delay marriage until 35 , 36 years old and still unmarried. Once you cross the marriage age, you got to settle for less attractive than you initially fancied for. GET MARRIED EARLY.
Facts!! 👌🏼
If men nowadays weren’t emotionally immature in their 20s, us women wouldn’t have an issue
@@rakivjabbar9632 and where might they be? Lol
Especially ones in their 20s?
@@erzascarlet5078 well the men you are complaining about are usually raised by single mothers. That's what happens when women divorce their husband for no good reason and think they can raise their sons properly.
@@Life-zz1qz LOL I love how you ASSUME without evidence😂. Ps: all the so called “men” that come to mind rn actually have both parents present, but the FATHER (yes that’s right NOT the mother but the FATHER) is emotionally unavailable… hmm… now I wonder who they could get their emotional immaturity from🥲🥲
100% agree about the sister part accepting a man she is not attracted. It happens all the time but in the end sometimes it becomes a problem because when a woman is not attracted to her husband she is not as patient.
Agreed.I have seen this alot. Not only she is not as patient, but she wont respect him much either. "Wandering eye" is associated with men generally, but good sisters will have that temptation if they are not attracted to their husband and they meet eyes with someone else they find attractive - not saying they wont protect their eamaan - but they feel a problem.
I agree with you 💯 brother.Masha Allah. May Allah guide us all.Ameen.
I was going to fall in this trap..until my dad told me the same point Br Romani mentions. Alhamdulillah. This idea makes sooo much sense.
Thing is, if you’re a 4/10 brother, you can’t be expecting the next Miss America. And if you’re a 4/10 sister, don’t be expecting a Leonardo DiCaprio. Yes you should be attracted to your spouse, but also be aware of your league lol.
I think everyone should keep their expectations moderate, that perfect dream man/woman you’ve made in your fantasies probably won’t come along any time soon.
Otherwise you’ll be searching for ages and will only be left disappointed, unless you manage to get fortunate. But until then save yourself the disappointment and be realistic.
May Allah grant everyone righteous spouses. Ameen.
Exactly well said. Everyone should be aware of the qualities and traits they bring to the table
If u r a successful and rich Muslim man, get a woman way out of your league, you can afford it. While you are at it, get four of them.
problem is the 6/10 sisters don't want 6/10 brothers, they want someone better than them.
@@GokuBlack-sn5dr u mean they want a road man.
Lol and how did you come up with that number? It’s all in the eyes of the beholder
Excellent video brother, Brother Mahdi Tidjani has also regularly spoken about how important physical attraction is between spouses, if there isn't any then it can lead to resentment and divorce.
Attraction is important but looks fade so the woman has to have more going for herself other than her looks. Men are more about the visual so that is all most of them care about. When you are an attractive woman men can’t see past that and it’s annoying. This will be an interesting topic.
Why get annoyed with the reality? It is what it is. Allah designed men as visual creatures, hence why Hoor Al-Ayn are physically described in Quran.
Chemistry not only attraction. We can be attracted to someone but not have a chemistry with them so their beauty becomes just their beauty and nothing else. When we have chemistry it helps us to create much deeper connection with that person so when their beauty fades we still have so much adoration for them that it tramples it. We get to have much meaningful love and consequently life. May ALLAH bless us with righteous spouses that will be the coolness of our eyes and we their's, amin.
Women care more about looks than men. Almost all men will sleep with a short woman.
@@jeffreyepstein4310 😊 true BUT I would say it is not his face that attracts most of us but the build. Women drawn to larger men indeed and I think it is more of subconscious choice because larger man =security/protection 🤔 who knows but men go fir the face mostly and then for the body parts 🤷🏻♀️ SubhanALLAH we are indeed interesting creatures
I’m very different… if I don’t find a man physically attractive I can never look at him through a romantic lens.. I hate this part about me because it just makes very difficult to find a good match
Just deen isnt good enough. My parents both pray 5x a day and practise the islamic practises yet i grew up in an abusive family dynamic where my mum took so much abuse from my dad. It has left me with childhood trauma which has effected me my whole life.
Abuse in what aspect if you say that both parents practice Islam?
@Ma Khi youre spot on. Thats how my dad behaves to my mum. Speaks to her with such vile condescending language and has no respect for her. Constantly belittles her and makes her feels worthless. He is emotionally abusive and a narcissist. He is all this yet prays 5x a day and fasts and stuff. People need to understand that someone can be practising islam yet be an extremely horrible person. Ohh but for some reason dean is the number one most important thing to look for in a spouse. ... well i say to that, not in my experince anyway!!
@@purplebear445 where you from, nationality?
@@purplebear445 that's not being a practising muslim then. Good character is included when it's said that a muslim has good deen.
@@purplebear445 sis Deen is #1 but you have to have the right definition about what Deen means. What you describe as your father doing is not correctly practicing Islam as taught by quran and sunnah. He is just preforming his most basic obligations as a muslim. People now a days think that a "practicing/religious" muslim is one who prays and fasts. SubhanAllah that shows how low we've fallen from actual practice of our beautiful Deen.
I respect brother Gabriel alot but I thing his point is incomplete. Beauty is important but
Funnily enough, I once heard a Shiekh say that people come up to him asking to get married to a beautiful spouse, a spouse that is 9 out of 10, and when the shiekh ask them to rate themselves they say 4 out of 10. So the Shiekh says that why would the more beautiful would marry you?
The point being you should know where u stand and anything above that should be a bonus.
Another thing is that our generation has unrealistic and corrupt concept of beauty, derived from Hollywood and social media models. We need to get our heads straight.
One more thing is that the more beautiful your spouse is, the more self absorbed he/she would be. If you want a loving, caring, and responsible husband or a obedient, faithful, loving wife than you have to opt for equal or less.
But then again this is just my observation, what I have noticed by going through the process of finding a spouse and still finding.
And Infact, ALLAH knows best.
May ALLAH helps us all to find the best spouse suited for deen, duniya and akhirah.
Ameen
Agree
@@each1teach1 looks in-balance will lead to one of the spouses pedestalizing the more attractive cant imagine that would lead to a heatlhy marriage
Thank you.
AMEEN
This should be a lesson to sisters. Go to the gym, improve and preserve your beauty and seek excellence for Allah and your spouse. Because the spouse you’re looking for will also want and be doing the same thing.
Of course females only or just at home. Actually eating healthy is mostly more than sufficient
@@sofyanachi784
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu
I have seen your comments and replies on this comment section and from them I feel that you are simple person and i like it i also have this thinking like you.
Jazakallahu khyran kaseera brother
We don't need the gym, simple exercise like going for walks is enough. Eating healthy is most important
Actually both brothers and sisters. Men, don’t forget to take care of yourselves as well
No to gym .. eat good sleep good .. be healthy
What? If a man is not attractive I don't want him
You missed the point
Me too I will not marry and ugly men, or men who don't have many.
Every individual has their own type and the brother is saying that if you marry only considering deen, then that could be a problem between their intimacy
I have noticed a common feature in women. Just because she wears headscarf or niqab, it does not mean she is a high calibre woman (or even a nice woman, for that matter). But a lot of them have very high opinions of themselves.This is a sign of the times. We are in akhirul zaman.
@The Alpha - our women have been brain washed by western feminism.
@The Alpha - yet women (including muslim women) demand men to have the full package.
@@beachboy_boobybuilder that’s modern “ism”affected liberal Muslim woman for you in today’s age
@Ma Khi - Agree.
@@beachboy_boobybuilder when Muslim woman see that Muslim men are not attracted to the covered and decent women and are constantly following non hijabis on Social media and what not, then of course you will see a huge shift in their behavior and their dressing mode.
I invite everyone to get more knowledge about ISLAM
Righteousness must be always there no matter what.
Beauty fades away within the first year of marriage what remains is deen and character of your spouse.
This is what I have heard from married people.
I agree from experience, once the deen and character change it becomes game over for the marriage
This is a coping mechanism unattractive married people say.
An attractive woman is like an aston martin you will never get bored looking at.
@@wenky_facewenky6257 I know of men who have beautiful wife's yet cheat in them with unattractive women because they are bored of their wife, I do not speak to these individuals anymore but if my wife was very attractive and had a horrible character I would rather be single then stay just because she is beautiful.
But the attraction will still be there if u are attracted to both the outside and inside beauty.
In fact it even grows more and more.
U learn to love each other in a different way from what it was before getting married.
@@Random-Days cheating on a beautiful wife is irrelevant, men are not monogamous by nature its a recent social construct that men are expected to only be loyal to 1 woman.
These kind of topics really need to be given by someone wise, fair, balanced with proper Islamic education. I can see many sisters thinking they're unattractive and getting fillers etc. I know a revert sister who has a hard time trying to quit these procedures. It's a sensitive topic that needs to be treaded with wisdom as it may cause more harm than good
How is Gabriel not wise, fair and balanced ? Lol it’s a topic about men right… in a 13min video.
You can’t always do both sides every damn time just to please the audience.. he has made plenty of videos with men being the target and saying what women need to look for . So go watch them
@@dariusdreams8480 prophet Muhammad sallahu alayhi wsallam said, “The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife.” if this is a topic for brothers, he should have mentioned that as well instead of picking and choosing what only supports his view as opposed to what's more comprehensive and honest representative of our religion.
Also Gabriel obsession with these kind of topics is evident he is treating Dawah as a business move and catering to a niche market rather than being balanced in his approach to target the masses which would be counterproductive to business and marketing.
@@kugh2384 I agree he is targeting a niche market, becus this seems to be his fulltime thing and there is nothing wrong with monetising Islamic knowledge. There’s already a hadith on that. You’re allowed to charge people to teach the Quran… but the money itself can’t be the main motivator.. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with his choice of topic, as you’d be smart to talk about topics that aren’t spoken heavily about from other sheikhs as they choose to avoid them.. which isn’t right in my eyes. But anyways sure he could have added more to his message, made it better, made it more wholesome … there’s always ways to better what you are doing.. I can agree that much. But I honestly believe he’s done great and should keep doing what he’s doing. He’s opening people up to the brutal & honest truth which many hide behind… I know countless people that were living a life of Haram and all of a sudden when it’s time to get married they start prioritising righteous wives with deen etc … and think that forgoing looks and choosing deen will be beneficial.. and end up divorced 2-3 years later.. that doesn’t help anyone
@@dariusdreams8480 your anecdotal tales do not negate what prophet Muhammad, sallahu alayhi wasalam, recommends. Only righteous men really consider and value what the Prophet says, so it's more likely them who will take heed and marry righteous wives, not men who try to nullify the Prophet saw recommendation with anecdotal experiences.
@@kugh2384 so you taking one line and negating everything else. Where the prophet PBUH said to ensure there is attraction before marriage! When a companion was going to marry someone simply based off being righteous… tell me how a marriage goes with a 300pound chick who’s a hafiz , wears a niqab and is the mother Teresa of her community 😂
Wow nicely detailed video, good open talk like this- may Allah accept and reward accordingly. I am thinking, if rightly blessed, even attraction may increase in due time,
He's right. Religion comes first and attraction comes second. Marry a religious woman/man whom you're attracted to in simplest terms.
I agree with Gabriel here that mutual attraction and chemistry is important. I wish to hear this topic from women's perspective, too. The issue is that women love to be with an attractive man, just lower their expectations when other expectations fit or they feel firced to marry someone by family, culture, circumstances.
Interesting point sister.
After so much of waiting....!!
Loved your content always waiting for some motivation😄
You said it all Jazakalah Brother
It’s so hard finding someone nowadays who ticks like at least half out of all boxes😓 Allah Musta3an 🤲🏼
He’s obviously talking about physical attraction. Nikah is to protect chastity. If the man is not sexually attracted to his wife then what good is the nikah? Men get aroused primarily through looking. That’s the way Allah designed human nature.
But the unnatural bombardment of Digitally tailored images have ruined perception for men especially and women as well.
Women also get attracted through looking. This is why women would find it absolutely repulsive to have intimate relations with a man they find ugly,
@@bellak2140 True
Women get aroused through looking as well, that is why Allah told both genders to lower their gaze.
for me being attractive is not enough, also they must be willing to stay in shape, i don't want to be like typical muslim family where they get fat after marriage and let themselves go
Hahaha so true
Good discipline is important
Gotta get out with her and stay active. I've noticed when I just stay home 24/7, I get chubby because I'm not moving around. Getting away from the kitchen helps too.
Same that was o was thinking. I wouldn’t want to pay the hospital bills
Chad move, told my wife the same when we got married 👍
I don't understand why some men are worried about women leaving them !!! Why would you even care if she leaves you ? Go for women who wants to stay with you.
Chadpilled
@ابو أسلم البربري lol if she can do that, why can't you ? This how simps are made. I just feel sad for those kind of men
@@Mark-go7qm simple answer, it messes up the lives of the children and can have lasting psychological trauma on a child if their mom or dad just up and leaves one day.... I thought this was obvious
@@sweettea1193 nope. That would really depend on how you deal with things.
@@Mark-go7qm what do you mean "deal with things?" You can try to deal with it however you want, but your parent just up and leaving you isn't something you easily get over.... I've seen kids who go through this and most are scarred for life
I have noticed that in almost every lecture about marriage, the importance of beauty in a woman is the main content, beeing mentioned with the argument, that "it's in the nature of a man" to desire beautiful women. Yes, it's true. But it's also true that "it's in the nature of a woman" to desire a wealthy husband. Every woman who will say, that she wants a spouse with a stable and high income will be called a "gold-digger". No man on earth is beeing shamed for his inclination. Sickening hypocrisy.
Of course, who denied it ? Where do women marrying broke men ?
@@Mark-go7qm The average Muslim man isn't wealthy. In fact, if you look at the statistics, Muslims living in the West are economically weaker than Non-Muslims. The majority of people aren't wealthy nor beautiful. Not saying it's unimportant but as Muslims we shouldn't overexaggerate these things.
@@The984523 prophet said it. What do you mean by exaggeration ?
@@Mark-go7qm Why are you resisting to understand what I'm stating? Again: The majority of people aren't wealthy nor beautiful. You and lots of other men will most likely NOT marry a beautiful woman. If you are a 4/10 guy, you can't expect a 10/10 woman. Especially if one isn't wealthy (majority is NOT!). If you live with the expectation, that someday you will meet a woman like Monica Bellucci you will end up single and lead a miserable life. The same goes to woman. If a woman thinks she will marry a millionaire, she is delusional. My point is: be REALISTIC! DONT EXAGGERATE for God's sake.
@@The984523 the only problem is women intolerance to understand men's rights and preference. First of all, beauty is universal
A sound feminine nature is attractive too
Just to add, or reiterate, beauty is very much subjective. So if you think the social conditioning makes you to be in the 'unattractive' category as hollywood, Bollywood and tv in general categorises it, and most importantly for some reason you too have accepted it and/or believe it, trust me I have met countless number of males and females who will find you the totally opposite. Subhanallah Allah SWT has made our brains like that. Totally fair and logical.
no it is not. no one finds the maldives landscapes to be ugly. something might not be to your taste sure but dont act like objective beauty doesn't exist
The same goes for women, aim for the best !
but the best dont want you 🤣🤣🤣
@@ThaEzioAuditore say who bahahahah
بارك الله فيك
Very beneficial video
A few thoughts about beauty in woman:
- I have a friend who thinks all women are beautiful. It must be nice to be him.
- I once met a beautiful girl in my college, but all my friends disagree that she's beautiful. Met a few 'beautiful' girl like this when I started working.
- once met a girl who don't think she's that beautiful, I friends agrees with me with this one too, but I'm attracted to her feminine nature: the way she dressed, talks, smile.
My point are beauty is very subjective and it's also an art that can be learn and must be learn by all muslim woman.
Another point is don't be fat. No body looks good if they're fat. Almost everyone looks good if they are thin.
@@razmiihsan8897 but studies have shown that most of the attractiveness of a person is influenced by society around us
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@@maryamb223 Because of all the trolls and dishonest people who have nothing better to do than to Annoy other people.
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Also as time goes on she will only get less attractive, her body will continuously change if she is having children.
Exactly. Stretch marks all over her stomach, baby fat, saggy breasts from nursing, ect. The woman you see during nikah will not look the same after she's birthed 3 of your children. Even if she takes care of herself, she'll never look quite the same after having kids.
Women’s physical attractiveness is mostly about the face, IMO
@بيبي شاريني
I’m talking about physical attractiveness. That’s mainly a woman’s face IMO
@@Theshowoffcollector no, it's actually the body. The chest, hips, butt, legs, ect. That's what men look at when a woman doesn't cover. Those are the parts men stared at before I started wearing hijab. Most women have average faces under all the makeup. The average woman's face is nothing special. It's her body that will capture men's attention if she doesn't cover it, not the face
@بيبي شاريني oh I know. Anonymous just made it sound like men in general prefer faces over bodies and from personal experience, I had to disagree. But of course personality and Deen are more important
Each creation of ALLĀH is beautiful
no there are ugly people in this world
He is right. I know a brother who is highly educated and has a good career. He was coerced into having an arranged marriage to a hijabi muslimah who was not attractive. Not only did intimacy make him feel unfulfilled and very much dissatisfied, but it actually made him physically sick. In the end he divorced her (also because she had totally different personality and they had absolutely nothing in common). Six months later, he met a Russian lady (a nurse, working in his department). Personality wise, they got on really well. She was also very pretty. He started giving her dawah. She accepted Islam and they got married. He is now very happy. He told me this is the sort of woman he wanted to marry in the first place.
@@soundheart4013 🤦♂️ 🤦♂️ 🤦♂️
You mean he preferred a non Muslim European woman who I presume might already have many sexual partners in her Jahiliyah days.
@@Aquacrystal78 you don’t get to accuse a woman of doing zina just because she’s a convert
I’d like to hear the hijabi woman’s side of the story. Sounds horrific for her too. If he didn’t like her he should not have married her. What’s the point of having all that education and career and you can’t even open your mouth and be a man and speak up! Weak character, he ruined her life.
@@Aquacrystal78 - when a non-muslim embraces Islam and gives shahadah, then Allah swt forgives all of their past sins. Who are you to over-ride the grace of Allah by treating a revert with contempt?. Your comment says a lot about you and none of it is good.
Walaikum salam!
You are in Dubai...
Sadly standards of beauty have changed thru modern culture and media...
If men lower their gaze and women guard their beauty...men will find satisfaction in their wives....but nevertheless compatibility is preferred in shariah that's y the case when holy Prophet SAW allowed a women to ask divorce from one of the companions ra based on unattractiveness....
Exactly. Women cover up and men lower the gaze. We need both hands to clap.
The thing I fear is if we as men aren’t attractive enough to marry attractive women 😔🤣
Don’t let women determine your self esteem. Let them worry about their self esteem, it suits them more
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@Ma Khi exactly ! And character, manners and attitude also play a big role of attractiveness in a man. It compliments beauty. Confidence is important too !
Good point
@@greenlobster9171 absolutely, if a woman says you are unattractive, u r just brok pocket in her eyes.
I feel the fire and the heat from this video. Another BANGER inshallah 🔥
Again Compatibility is important!
Compatibility in Deen, in characters, and in looks.
You won't know if you guys are compatible until after you're marriage, because that's when you can have a proper chat with that person alone...
@@sweettea1193 You can have conversation with him i.e. asking him directly, you can investigate by asking about him to his friends/family/neighbours/colleague, and first and foremost you ask Allāh whether he's good for you or not, only Allāh knows best, and surely He will show you.
@@al-Jakarti people don't act the same in front of the wali and other chaperones. Your spouse is going to be on their best behaviour during marriage meetings so what you see of them is not their true behaviour. And friends and family can lie, this happens all the time. Yeah, dua is all you have
@@sweettea1193 Allaah is the only one whom you put your trust fully. And if your intention is right, in shaa Allaah, Allaah will give the best for you. All we can do is do our part, if you're good person with the right intention, Allaah will surround us with good people too, biidhnillaah.
There are thousands of couples from the time of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessngs be upon him) until now who sought marriage in this halal way, and by Allaah permission they have long lasting marriage with barakah and sakinah from Allaah.
@@al-Jakarti yes, I know. But we aren't in the prophet's, pbuh, time, we're now in the times of social media, of mental illness, and of lies and trickery. Deception is everywhere, and it's often the good brothers and sisters who suffer. May Allah help them
You might cause fitnah in the minds of some women who are experiencing difficulties in accepting their looks. Beauty is relative. What I find attractive won't be your cup of tea. They might interpret a video like this thinking that islam stands by conventional Hollywood beauty metrics.
These kind of topics really need to be given by someone wise, fair, balanced with proper Islamic education. I can see many sisters thinking they're unattractive and getting fillers etc. I already know a revert sister who has a hard time trying to quit these procedures. It's a sensitive topic that needs to be treaded with wisdom as it may cause more harm than good
You didn't need to tell us we need to get an attractive woman bro. That goes without saying.
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Exactly lol
The main reason there is close to 1000 comments about this simple and clear msg, is most people and especially our ummah, have very LOW standards, men and women, our men especially our young men are NOT on their purpose, you have to become valuable and you need to add value to one another, our men need to become strong providers, leaders, sisters if he wants /needs you to work, he WILL Not fulfill the hypergamous nature you sooo much need and desire! Men, sisters need to be fit, feminine, friendly. As this Brother whom I love for the sake of ALLAH is one of the veeeery few Muslims that have their priorities and goals straight! I told my young sons to subscribe to this channel! Today’s shaykh are lazy, not fit mentally and physically, its NOT about the knowledge/info. It’s about awareness and implementation with vigor, sincerity and purpose. May Allah keep us sincere for his sake and cause. Ameen
Brother Gabriel is definitely in the UAE
A lot of women who are 8 to 10 in looks are usually unmarried🤷🏾♂️
Sometimes men can get intimidated by an attractive woman and don’t approach her orr maybe she’s all looks and no brain
@@noragira6677 you are spot on sister
@@noragira6677
No, it’s the fact they usually dress provocatively and live an immoral lifestyle, so men simply avoid such women.
Because some of these woman are addicted to attention, and therefore wants too much till she her eggs dry up and is not valuable anymore to most men.
@@Jirenblack82 I’m talking about the Muslim sisters who cover and are 8 to 10 in looks
I've noticed marriages can continue with beauty and islam. Minimum
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It’s almost impossible to find a righteous woman in general , let alone one that’s Super attractive. ThTs why people settle
I mean there is a difference between righteous and religion or am I wrong
I remember 2,5y ago a guy told me he doesnt look other women anymore coz he thinks he found everything in me...and he still chasing me...he is not yet qualified in my eyes in some areas yet and he is working on some things, but what Gabriel is saying is true, ladies and fellas. Chemistry is very important!! SubhnaAllah, May Allah make us among the righteousness..aamiin
Poor guy. Hope he gets well soon. Pinning all his hopes on one girl...
Fellas, can you imagine pining after someone for 2.5 years and you’re still getting ignored?
Lmao that man is desperate.
That can be dangerous sister I’d suggest that you let him know straight up that you don’t want him at all
For all your information he is not being ignored and am not waisting his time. We both know that this love is for real just we live in diffrent continent and we praying thay Allah will soon united us in marriage inshaAllah, pray for us. Jazakallahu khairan.
سلام عليكم..
If I remember right..
Its a Hadith which told a man to go looking @the women first..
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Personally I married Arranged..
And I did know that it should be some Attraction there..
Its important..
Also I loved about Hidjab that our Beauty are enjoyed privately..
Be equal in a way..
Be respected not because of our beauty which is a Blessing from Allah..
Our character..
Also if men Lowering Gaze the beauty of his Wife would be more potent..
Its a Hadith which explains..
Lowering Gaze Increases Sweetness of Eman..
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"words can't hurt me these shades are gucci"
May Allah reward you Al jannah Ustaz , merry a handsome man as well like why not ?
Be attracted to her but she doesn’t even have to ‘look good’ for you to be attracted to her
Plz explaine that, can she look uggly to him and he is attractive to her?
Unclear.
@@af-tx8sp from what I've seen, men will stare at anything and start having dirty thoughts. Example, I could flash my arms and shoulders on the street and most men will stare lustfully, even though my arms and shoulders aren't that pretty. It doesn't take a lot to get the average man fantasising about you know what....
@@safwanshahriar4108 exactly
@@sweettea1193 hm okey I dont really know, but what I think is that men on the street just to like that for the sake of doing that, when I was pregnant with a big tummy and one other baby, gues went after me like crazy, but I dont think they actually would marry you they just behave like that, I dont know I am not a man but that is what I think
This video triggered the Muslim feminists
Ugly men don't have money canot too marry a pretty girl.
Some of us who are not 'attractive' are doomed 😅. Especially when standards of what is attractive is determined by the media 😅.
Errm sis you're flippin' gorgeous ☺️ I'm a sister btw so not a creep lol.
Oh btw Allah has predetermined our spouses so it's nothing to stress, what can one do other than make dua and leave it in Allah's hands.
Ignore these people & the usual virtue-signalling brothers who will tell you that you'll "find" someone. A good woman is worth her weight in gold & you will know if a man appreciates the other things you bring to the table because beauty is temporary. Even the most handsome men will become old, saggy, wrinkly & ugly. That's life.
Physical attraction only lasts for a short while it needs to be deeper than that, it has to be about overall attraction, their character and personality and nature and of course one has to be physically attracted to them, but it really isn't the end all and be all. Ppl who appear attractive initially can lose their appeal just based on their character. So we need to look at the whole person. Men still cheat on stunningly beautiful women at the end of the day.
Is it really a deterrent though? I’ve observed a good number of men, Muslims included, who are below average looking with absolutely beautiful women yet still can’t control their wandering gaze. Perplexing how such stunning women can be with such undesirables. Attraction is key but getting the full package is unrealistic when the majority of both women and men are not physically attractive or wealthy.
“Undesirables” sounding like a naz¡ 😂
Lol, why are women unable to see things at a deeper level? These relationships are not natural and are very rocky. None of those men wear the pants in the relationship and are bossed around like they have no value. In addition, the vast majority of those relationships end up in unhappy/dead bedroom marriages.
You will get a tremendous amount of insecure men saying ''I know a friend who was 5'5, ugly and fat but drives a Saudi number plate Ferrari in Central London every summer and he gets alot of stunning women''. What they fail to realise is those women use him and will never respect him in a relationship. Women are hardwired to respect and submit only to guys they are sexually attracted to.
@Bs sS Wow!! Steady on with the assumptions. None of which are even remotely true btw lol.
@Sam Khan You must be delusional. Keep making up stories if that’s how you console yourself. Imagine whinging and throwing bold accusations far from reality against a complete stranger on CZcams just because you disagree with their analysis. The fact that you are so wrong in your assessment of me only further proves your sad state of mind. Typical little red pill intoxicated bloke always hyper defensive, self serving and shutting down a woman’s thoughts with “feminism” like the rest of your RP cult. You and your buddy must really magnify my odd comment here and there since I rarely visit these channels and consciously refrain from commenting as much as possible. Also my profile name isn’t the most unique you know! Anyway I’ve wasted enough time in this boring thread.
@Sam Khan Lol…you’re the same person using 2 accounts to duplicate your bile? More sad than I thought.
What is attractive? If you ask 10 men they might give you different qualities they like in a woman. It means different things to different people. He should of said marry someone YOU are attracted to. Which should go for both men and women.
I mean yeah he says an attractive woman , who does it apply to otherwise ? i am not going to marry a woman that an other man finds attractive while I do not. I mean i get your intention but have some good assumption of the brother, you get the idea. Everything has to be pinpoint perfect in saying nowadays 😆
True he should have mentioned it as such.
@@pacogek123
Constructive Criticism improves people in their delivery ,especially in case of a mixed online audience.
@Ma Khi thats such a good point. I was brought up with insecurities like that. Remember racism and insecurity is taught. Its most likely the product of insecure parenting. Thats why Parents should show their children unconditional love regardless how they look and, teach them not to discriminate others for their skin colour and image. The parent is the first and most important role model in a child’s life. Children mirror everything that their parents do and say. That’s why when you see a disrespectful child you think “gosh who raised you?”
So when someone is racist, they were conditioned to think like that. For instance it could be by hearing the parent say things like “darker skin is ugly” or witnessing the mother degrade her image so the child thinks “thats how i should behave toward myself”. Children also take jokes and sarcasm seriously.
The moral of the story is: love your children, don’t teach them to be racist, islam teaches us that:
“There is no superiority of an arab over a non-arab or a non-arab over an arab… except by piety and good action”
Hope you enjoyed reading this, if writing essays in youtube comments were a marathon i’d win a gold medal lolll
@Ma Khi that’s sad to hear from such a young child. White colonialism has left its scare on many countries. They convicted the people if you did not look like them then you were inferior, which helped them maintain power. I find a lot of the older generations in these communities have held on to this mind set and it’s ingrained. I see a changes in mindset of the younger generations, inshallah it will continue.
Men change their preferences very often
Wa alaykumu as-salam Warahmatullah Wabarakaatu
i’m so picky with my man he doesn’t exist 🙂
attractiveness is subjective everyone has a type
i hate controlling annoying men like my brothers and father 🙂
You "control" men?
*almost puked*
Nowadays in BD it's very hard having an attractive wife around without being stared at by construction workers and rickshaw pullers on the streets
I'm a Bengali and I can relate. It's pretty scary. Your wife will have to wear niqab.
@Bs sS She's murtad....
That's a South Asian problem unfortunately. There has been a crisis in that region. Men all over sub-continent just cannot control themselves.
Is that problem only exclusive to BD? It is universal.
@@maquacr7014 false information. It's universal. In the west it's even worse, cause there is "cat-calling"
Brother My Brother a devoted muslim got married to a girl at 22.The woman had a past relation which she hid ,now he found out that she is in contract with her previous lover perhaps physical too.. what can we do??
I like good looking people that's the way I'm but I respect all average not looking too
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أنا مع هذا الكلام فلن أكون سعيدة مع شخص لا أشعر تجاهه بشيء ولن أسعده بالتأكيد و حتى لا أظلم نفسي أو أن أظلمه لكن مع الدين
ولكن الانجذاب حسب معايير المجتمع و شباب اليوم هو الفتاة التي تضع المكياج و المال و الوضع العائلي حتى لو كانت الفتاة مجذّبة أو لم يكن شكلها عادياً ستكون بنظر المجتمع أقل من عادية المفاهيم تغيرت و حتى الأذواق
أختي صحيح الرجال يبحثون عن الجمال لكن صدقيني مش صعب ترضي وتجذبي رجل مسلم وبالذات إذا كان عربي😂 فلا تأخذي هم إن شاء الله وإياكي تنخدعي بسطاحة المجتمع الحالي وتصدقي إنك لازم تغرقي في المكياج وتكوني ملكة جمال العالم هذي كلها مبالغات وأغلب الرجال مستحيل يرضوا يتزوجوا متبرجة
@@yes-wo7qn بصراحة مابهمني تفكير هيك ناس أنا بعبد الله مابعبدهم يلي بهمني رضا الله وإذا مافي نصيب مو مشكلة بس المجتمع صاير سخيف كلو مظاهر
@@sarah-xz1wc فعلا الله يسهل إن شاء الله
@@yes-wo7qn حسب المجتمع عنا بيشوفو البنت يلي مابتتمكيج مابتعرف تهتم بحالها
@@sarah-xz1wc هذا يمكن من منظور الحريم يمكن لكن صدقيني الرجال يفضلوا البنت الغير متبرجة المحتشمة. أكيد تهتم بنفسها لكن مش شرط مكياج
I would advice the man, who intent to have only one wife, to choose a pious and very beautiful wife, especially if the man works for example as a doctor,or have professions where they must mix with woman because of theyr work.
Study Shows that healthy attractive women are more fertilie
Get she has din اللهم ارزقنا دات الدين,,🤲
Really want answers to the questions such as if the girl is a niqabi and if I approach her for marriage, do I get to see her face or not. Looking forward to this inshallah
If you can’t find a way to see her face ask a woman to look at it and describe it to you.
@Ma Khi
From Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him)” ‘The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wanted to marry a woman, so he sent another woman to look at her and said, “Smell her mouth (front teeth) and look at the back of her ankles.”
Reported by al-Haakim, 2/166, who said it is saheeh according to the conditions of Muslim, and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. Also reported by al-Bayhaqi, 7/87. In Majma’ al-Zawaa’id (4/507) he said, ‘”Reported by Ahmad and al-Bazzaar, and the men of al-Bazzaar are thiqaat.”)
In Mughni al-Muhtaaj (2/128) it says: “What we understand from this report is that the one who is sent may describe to the one who sends her more than that which he himself may see, so this sending achieves more than just looking.”
@@Theshowoffcollector - oy vey.....women always embellish.
It is permissible for you to see her face. If she refuses, then walk away. Don't be a blue pilled simp. You are the man so you should be in control.
Scholars have said women should even show their hair in a marriage meeting.
Well said
Aiming for the best neds sabr
Your analysis is too simplistic. Men want Kardshians or whatever the next fad is. However this is not the reality and beauty changes significantly after child birth, age, sickness. Looks don’t last.
he is saying go for someone realistic. Someone who looks good not whatever you have listed.
we know that it doesn't last and things change.
men don't care about fads. The fact is that if you are beautiful you are beautiful no matter what time you are in.
The obese population of the world is rising. due to their own fault.
are they gonna say that men keep changing the fad and they want a thin woman?
They have always wanted a thin woman.
Actually not true.
It’s funny I only see females saying “men want kardashians”, but me and the guys Ive talked to think they look fake plastic and gross. Maybe listen to what men actually say they think is attractive rather than listening to what girls say men find attractive.
@@tawhid-al-ibadah Majority of men just want a girl with natural beauty without make up. Beauty standards are only high because of make up, once you remove the make up from alot of women they don't look nearly as good. Women like the Kardashians are only "beautiful" because of their make up and surgeries.
@@tawhid-al-ibadah i think that jewellery (In public) defies the hijab. since it causes her to get attention.
Men like jewellery on their wife.
Lol I don’t think all 4 qualities exists in one woman
They do exist, but such a high value woman is not going to go for the average Joe who works at an office making £10 per hour, lol
@@sweettea1193Alhamdulilah, Allah gave me a wife with all these qualities, and yet I don't make much money and I don't consider myself handsome(my wife does).
@@mysticminority9060 AlhamduliLlah, may Allah keep you guys happy ameen
@@96muslimgirl Ameen, jhazakhallu khiran sister. May Allah grant you jannatul firdous.
@@mysticminority9060 ameen, you too. Ameen
Walikum aslam wa rahmatullahi wa bartakathu
I am sorry but WE HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT ATTRACTIVENESS IS THE LOOK AND WE LOOK AS ALLAH CREATED US ,LET'S SUPPOSE THAT THE ATTRACTIVE MARRY THE ATTRACTIVE ,WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO THE" LESS ATTRACTIVE "????? IS THIS THEIR FAULT TO BE LIKE THAT?
REMEMBER MY BROTHER AND SISTER THAT LOVE IS RIZK ,IT COMES FROM ALLAH AND HE IS (al_razzak)الرزاق 😉
Don't worry it's all just theory. Allaah who is the controller of every heart. Allaah can make any person attracted to someone whom they think is not their type. It happens many time.
@@al-Jakarti exactly ! I think that gabriel el romaani focused a lot on attraction in his video .
@@beauty4804 attraction is important, but he always focus on human efforts a lot. In reality it is Allaah who is in control of everything. It's written for us in Lauh Mahfuz. It is easy for Allaah to grant us whomever we desire. The problem is, how is our relationship with Allaah, do we deserve to receive what we want? Is what we ask for, good or bad for us?
Yes we do our part as humans to look and choose, but I think it would be easier if we rely on Allaah rather than rely on our limited efforts. Allaah can make the impossible possible.
So what about the brothers who are short and unattractive? Women don't like to marry them.
@@taym2720 who said that ? The short that you are talking about is tall in the eyes of a short women or even the tallest girl may fall in love with him cause he makes her feel secure ,appreciated,...
I WANT A BEAUTIFUL RELIGIOUS WOMAN YA RAB AMEEN
However, my experience is the more beautiful a woman the less likely she is to be religious.
The more richer the man the less religious.
This is a pattern
Not saying everyone
I could be wrong.
You are wrong. Allah guides whom he wills. All practicing sisters are beautiful in their own ways, just not in ur eyes so look for on that is beautiful in ur eyes
@@ssmmm1926 Yes they are beautiful in their own ways no 1 is denying that.
Beauty has many aspects.
One aspect is physical beauty.
@@abdullahahmad9300 some scholars have mentioned that you shouldn't marry a women thats to pretty so that you become distracted
The MAN will chose what he wants. The WOMAN will accept or decline. Mostly likely Accept. End of Story.
@@al-Jakarti You are not supposed to have a standard. Your standard should be ready to have a baby
@@al-Jakarti Be humble. :)
My iman is too weak to marry a woman I find not attractive.
But also I have no social skill to find a girl.
Result: no marriage, remain incel.
But it is better to be miserable alone. I would rather love what I cannot have than have what I cannot love.
work on your iman
@@tarek399 Easier said than done.
@@TheShardulofAllah And those who strive for Us - We will surely guide them to Our ways. And indeed, Allah is with the doers of good. (69) Qur'an 29:69
What attractive??? Attractive looks?attractive personality?her religious inclinations???As a woman...I say marry for her Deen and her personality.Looks fade...If shes too attractive....u will face issues!!
Yes, all of them. Every aspect that makes a man likes a woman. Ignoring some aspects, especially if it's problematic, can lead to dissatisfaction.
Both men and women demands something in marriage, it's nothing to stress about.
@@r-7498
A perfect women doesn't exist.
This is Dunya not Jannah.
You are bound to find deficiencies in the real World and eventually have to prioritize things you can compromise on or can't.
Some women r not physically attractive, but have amazing qualities and her personality makes her beautiful..What's attractive???Women caked in makeup?😁wow...u men need reflection
@@Aquacrystal78 yeah, definitely. I think you get the wrong impression of what i said. you don't have to be a perfect person to be liked by anyone. Everybody have their own plus and minus and Everybody have their own preference. You can't simply just force people to like you. What I'm saying is, consider every aspect. don't ignore it. Some people can tolerate the bad things in you, some people can't. All we have to do is strive to be the best version of ourselves according to Quran and Sunnah.
Men marry to satisfy their desires. If they marry someone they are attracted to, they will stay satisfied inShaAllah. If they marry someone who they secretly think is ugly, they will be looking at other women even after marriage. What is the purpose of such a marriage?
As for you saying "some women are not physically attractive", beauty is something different to every person. If one person doesn't find a woman attractive, you'll find another person who finds that woman attractive.
Great, I guess an ugly woman like me is never getting married. Time to go into another depressive episode and cry myself to sleep tonight.
Beauty is subjective. Sawdah Bint Zam'ah (May Allah be pleased with her) was overweight and of older age which even affected her walking. She was even a widow. Do you know what happened?, Mohammed (peace be upon him) the prophet of Allah (Exalted in Might) asked her hand in marriage and she became his wife and the mother of believers.
Don't think that way, inshallah Allah has someone who will appreciate you and find you beautiful. Even fat women are getting married because they're some brothers who just like big women.
Don't worry, there will always be men in the comments virtue signalling & giving advice they won't follow themselves