But a better life for themselves is also a better life for their children, isn't it? Why is it okay to suddenly assume most immigrant couples are somehow selfish? If you believe you'll be better whenever your parents are originally from there's nothing stopping you from going there
@@HitoriSanzo The point is that it's not selfless, and you don't really owe someone who only helped you by happenstance rather than out of an active concern for you. There's certainly no evils in trying to move to find a better life, but there's no inherent good in doing so either and there's no reason to allow that to be leverage over a person's agency. It's not about demonizing immigration, it's about recognizing that personal immigration shouldn't be used as a reason to attack the agency of others or to make them feel indebted.
I do disagree that the ending was wholly unrealistic, as the ending pretty much portrayed the dynamic between me and my parents. I will admit it’s rarer, but it DOES happen. My parents seriously thought they were doing the best for me but I completely broke out and couldn’t take it anymore, so they chose to support me with my own path. Sometimes, parents DO want what’s better for you- there’s just a disconnect between child and parent. I’m eternally grateful to my parents for managing to look past their standards.
I'm so happy for you, that your parents broke the tradition of disowning a child simply for being themselves. I'm proud of you, a stranger, to have had the courage to speak up and let them see that vulnerability, how much it hurt you. That must have been crazy hard. And we should continue to remember that our parents baggage doesn't have to be ours, and while it isn't easy to put it down and walk away, it's often better than the latter. Being butter and restarting the cycle. I'm so happy you were supported and loved. You deserve that, and so does everyone.
my thoughts exactly!! i had the same experience with my parents, and even though it's not as common, some Asian parents do accept their kids for wanting something different than what the parents had planned. i'll always be grateful for my parents, and i think it's important to emphasize that despite how unhealthy the "typical" depiction of Asian parent-child relationships seems, most of our parents really do love us no matter what.
I’m not Asian but my boyfriend is. I’m black and we went to see this movie together and he was literally narrating this movie like you did the entire time. It was hilarious until we got to the line wade said about your anger comes out when you know something you don’t want to hear. He got quiet for most of the movie after that. I saw a lot of Ember in him but he didn’t see it. Also that awkward family dinner was so funny. Definitely been there
@@Bloomkyaaa lmaoo girl we met on a dating website 😂It also depends on where you live my city is one of the most diverse in the states. So you’re more to find like minded individuals of different races
Its weird Black folk and Asians actually have a LOT in common. Growing up I had a lot of asian friends who said we couldn't be friends cuz of their parents.... So yeah the generational trauma is pretty strong in their culture in comparison to our own. Our generational trauma usually involves experiencing racism for the first time.
I come from a part chinese and part filipino background, and understand all the references. It's a shame because a lot of people dislike the movie for having a poor plot, instead of embracing it for showing representation and bringing light to many asian households and struggles.
@@mydogghost Even if the movie had a poor plot or not, I found it a bit sad that it was marketed as "Woah another Disney kids movie about elements saving the world!" Instead of "A personal story about the directors own experiences with immigration and family." I'm not necessarily saying the plot was good or bad, I mean that many people bashed on it without recognizing the inner storyline.
@@listorin6314 Not surprised. Just by seeing the trailer, I assumed it was some cliche Disney movie with the following predictions: • Ember's parents intentionally force her to take over their "family tradition" and get offended at any opposition. Eventually, the parents support her to "do her own thing" (like Strange World and many other cartoons) • Ember and Wade will NOT fall in love (normally I wouldn't think this, but the recent "woke" Disney movies changed my thought process about their movies) • Together, the love interests will somehow unite all Element citizens to live together in harmony despite their differences with some main character speech (just like Gnomeo and Juliet. Surprisingly, only the Fire people were prejudiced against) So yeah, it's one of those rare movies actually blew my mind by mostly going against expectations. Mario movie was the complete opposite for me though, HIGH expectation but got me mostly disappointed...
I think you couldve also mentioned that the dad of ember's father disowned him for leaving for a better life and did not return the ceremonial bow to him as he did for ember, it could work to give a reason as to why Ember's dad doesn't fully act like the typical asian dad, as he himself experienced it and broke the cycle.
The movie really hit home for us because my wife and I are an interracial couple. She's a first-generation American with parents from South Asia, and our first year of dating was very similar to Ember and Wade's relationship in the movie. It was kind of eerie how our past conversations and arguments seemed to align so closely with the film; it almost felt like we were reliving those moments. Needless to say, when we watched it, we both got pretty emotional and ended up in tears by the end.
The actual definition of Asian parents: (You did an amazing job explaining it. My Asian parents always make me feel guilty by saying stuff like “Everything we did is for you, you’re so ungrateful!” Thank you for mentioning it to us.)
@@Kioshii_My mom always got mad t me when I made bad paintings and told me that she put so much effort into everything else, unlike me. You'd think it was so simple to make a good painting.
I literally cried at the part Wade evaporated and cried again after knowing he still alive and cried again when Ember pays respect to her father and got it back.. I really love the story.. roller coaster of emotions
I'm a first-generation Nigerian-American and this movie hit home several times. Both my parents are Igbo and were negatively impacted by the Biafra War, and came to the US and whatnot. Ember talking aboht what her parents gave up reminded me of my mother and her journey. Thank you for being real in this video!
It is still disconcerting to see that there are many countries that deal with immigration very poorly. I'm Brazilian, and my great-grandfather was a Portuguese immigrant who left his country to have a better life here. After more than 90 years that he left his country, my grandfather now discovered his documents in Portugal. Our family went crazy as we got information about everything! My great-grandfather named my grandfather, great-uncles and aunties in honor of his family. Everyone had his family name so it would never be forgotten. We cried so fucking hard when we discovered that. Everything made sense, my grandpa and aunts cried, my mother was so moved! I discovered that I have the right to Portuguese citizenship too, although I am Brazilian, I am the fourth generation too! Really nice. Brazil is one of the countries that had the most immigrants, miscegenation. The concept of race is completely different here. The movie portrays the life of immigrants very well, of difficulties and acceptance. Soon I'll be moving to another country to discover things, I will do my best now to discover my native Brazilian and African roots. And maybe more, you never know! ❤
I'm not even Asian (I'm an African American), but I can relate to my wants and needs coming second in favor of what my mom wants. Just recently, she gave me an ultimatum of "if you're not going to a team player, then you need to get off the team", which translates into "put your job searching/job training to the wayside and be your grandmother's caregiver or you're not welcome in my house anymore". For proper context, I'm disabled and I have what I think might be a hernia I sustained years ago that is coming back to bite me in present day, but I was made to be my grandmother's caregiver because I'm the only person readily available who isn't working, but I'm in the process of getting job training. Plus I have disabilities that limit what I can do, especially as a caregiver and a lot of the tasks required of me as a caregiver and even outside of the task (my grandmother's house is cluttered and has a lot of heavy objects I can't lift on my own) that are detriment to my overall condition, yet none of that was considered. My availability was the only the my mother considered and not my overall capability while also forcing me to put my occupational goals to the wayside, which is made worse by her saying it "has to" be me, even despite knowing about my physical disabilities. Update: In light of the drama that ensued from me having been my grandmother's caregiver over the course of four weeks and her just being... herself in general, my uncle ultimately decided that it would be for the better to hire a professional caregiver to look after my grandmother rather than have me resume the "job" (which should have been the plan in the first place since my disabilities make me a liability). Also. I wasn't expecting this comment to get over 1,000 likes or the responses from others who could also relate to my dilemma. I thank you all for sharing your thoughts. It truly means a lot to me.
The more I get into learning Korean and chinese languages and cultures, I understand more and more that Black Americans and These Asian cultures have much in common. We're basically second cousins!
4:10 That wasn't actually Wade's father, but his uncle. In fact, I think Wade either mentions or heavily implies that his father already passed away (no idea how). This is also one of the big reasons he empathize so much with Ember and her dad's relationship struggles.
You're right!! It's only briefly mentioned in the final cut of the movie, but in the official novel of Elemental, Wade's side of the story is also shown. Wade and his father had a similar relationship as Ember to hers - Wade's father wanted him to choose one career path and focus on it for his life, and would even make sacrifices just to get Wade into sports teams as he himself was a sportsman. But Wade didn't like that because he wanted to explore many fields of interests instead of sticking to one, and this disagreement caused them to fight a lot. Wade's father died before Wade could ever make up to him, and since then, Wade was filled with regret. He became aimless in life and hopped from job to job, struggling to keep each of them. When he meets Ember, he sees himself in her, and knows that although he can't bring his father back to life and reconcile with him, he can help convince Ember to communicate with her dad. Really sweet and it also shows a lot more untapped depth in Wade's character. In the movie, we only see Wade's impact on Ember, but I think Ember's impact on Wade is that he can finally reconcile with himself and come to terms with what he's lost.
At 6:12, i could really hear the emotion in ur voice when talking about how Ember's parents' emotional manipulation parallels real life families as well as your own experience. i was getting emotional just hearing you talk about it. Thank you for feeling comfortable enough to speak about it, even if we are just strangers on the internet, lol. In all seriousness, i hope things are going great for you, not in terms of success, but just feeling okay with where you are and being happy. Thank you for making these videos ☺
I’m Chinese and my parents immigrated here before I was born, I am super grateful I have a mom and dad that support my passions and hobbies unlike the majority of Asian parents. I still relate to this movie, not because of my personal experiences, because of my moms/dads/relatives experiences I had to witness growing up. I hope everyone of you guys can have your parents accept you the way you are and support you no matter your career, your sexuality, your interests, or for the people you love. ❤️
I had one parent who did, one parent who didn’t. Lead to many many fights between all of us, I’m estranged from both of them now unfortunately. I’m glad your parents were better, I hope to be too if I ever have children.
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If your easily offended don't watch this comment how do we know if ur Chinese everyone is saying that in every comment section like ok cool nothing special
People didn't like this movie because they claimed it was another woke movie with no meaning and just there for the sake of being woke. I disagree because it's not even that woke, it's fun, entertaining, and touched on meanings without being in your face. It wasnt girl boss slay queen ember, it was Ember who has talent and just wanted to find her place. I hate how this movie didn't get the recognition it needed because people keep saying they want original movies and doesn't turn their heads when they're given that
I mean, according to Google woke just means knowing racism exists, so ig this movie is woke. But I agree, such a gorgeous movie getting way too much hate.
@osheridan woke mostly stands for people for example saying "fxck white people " and treating black people as innocent angels who can do no wrong , using race for every argument or people who using their sexuality or gender identity to get what they want , being extremely sexist to men for literally breathing, overall delusional people
I was so happy when this movie was announced, and I ended up basically having the theater to myself. I really enjoyed the movie and I hope more and more people give it a chance
7:10 you know some criticism's on this film was like "why didn't Ember's father like turn around and accept Wade after saving them at the end of the movie?" I think he's only upgraded from not tolerating him to somewhat tolerating him, the main focus of the film was Ember's relationship with Wade, and Ember's relationship with her dad. Truth is it didn't matter at all who he considered is fine for her daughter to date, but that he already wanted her to have her own autonomy.
Elemental is one of those movies (like everything everywhere all at once) where I wish I could explain all the cultural nuances and how much things mean and how hard it hits. Some of the lines ember and wade exchanged about “why don’t you follow your dreams or what you’re good at?” being shut down by “i can’t just do what i want to do because my parents sacrificed everything for me” are conversations I had with so many close friends. Everything about the movie was so realistic, from the fear of dating someone my family wouldn’t accept, to not being able to pursue my dream, to the little one liners about how proud my parents would be when I acted like a studious kid. There’s so so so much to unpack in the movie and it’s so realistic, and I definitely cried when wade couldn’t understand why ember didn’t just go for glass-making under the perspective that anyone can do anything they want, coming from a high income family with connections I just wanna play piano bro 😭
My mom want me to get a work or idk, but she always said "it's to far away" Well, I'm Balkan,my mom let me to things but it's always the same words "are u sure u can do this?" Or "if I said no u wouldn't even dare to go" .(well,I move from nest even when my mom would say no to me. That what I said to her as well.) I'm not a fan of traditional life . I told her ,no matter how far my work/job is I will go . My mom must accept it. Yeah,she cried when I moved to a WG, but I keep walking . Follow your goal no matter what! And dating life well well idk kinda worries about it because of religion etc. Seems like we all feel it ,huh
And I don't even dare to cry when I watch something like that. My mom would say "why are u crying about? It just animation" So,yeah it's not easy as well to show Emotionen
@@nathangebreselassie8515 still, they shouldn't completely shut them down. What the parents should do is encourage them to find a stable job until playing the piano is earning them good money. And what if it's not a doctor, then they should let them do something else.
This movie definetely didn't deserve all the backlash and I'm honestly ashamed at myself for hopping on the hate train without watching the movie and only listening to other peoples opinions. I would like to apologize, best movie Disney and Pixar put out in a while.
Hey- it happens. That kinda outrage is formulated to get as many to hop on and hate as possible. All you can really do is try not to do it again, next time. At the least, you put yourself in the position to have your mind changed. A lot of people just double down. These days, not a lot of people are willing to let themselves do that. So, at least you got that going for ya
@@Adamant_Adam thanks for your kind words but it's honestly sad how that has become a rarity nowadays P.S. I only hopped on the hate train because it sounded mid and I usually agreed that pixar fell off and the only pixar movie I ever really enjoyed before this was Luca. Then I decided to why not watch the movie for myself instead and it turned out pretty good. Some areas could've been done better in the movie but it wasn't bad like other people suggested.
@@Hot_Desert_Winds Walt? Nah lmao no. Just no. He’d 100% turn the movie into nothin but stereotypes and make Wade the mc. I’m guessing you don’t know much about the guy.
As a mixed couple, this film hit very close to home for me and my gf. While we are both lucky to have grown up in households that are very culturally open. We had many conversations reflecting on the fact that what we are currently doing in life is more because we want to please our parents, not because we really want to do it.
Despite being Indian, My parents never pressure me to do anything i dont want to do , and they entirely support my dream of being an animator! Love you Amma and Appa
Riiight. We need to stop this stereotyping lolll. Sometimes I wonder why many Asians themselves support this idea. I get its all in good fun but please show the good sides of Asian parenting too.
definitely can relate to this. i come from a half filipino half mexican ethnicity… however, grew up more in an asian household than hispanic. anyways, feeling trapped and you feel like it’s the only way to make your parents happy and yourself happy-relatable. how i would have to become a nurse/doctor for what my grandparents wants me to be for their happiness. like Ember, i thought i would want to fulfill my family’s wishes, but as i get older, i realize that’s not what i want to be and do. and it’s hard to ‘easily’ pursue what you want to do without the fear of being disowned or have your family become more toxic. but i’m happy this movie got a happy ending with very supportive parents and Ember doing what she wants with Wade supporting her. almost made me cry so hard, just tears 🥹 i wish more asian/hispanic (any type of ethnicity) can become more understanding and open like this movie motivates me to have.
I had no idea you were disowned... I understand. I disowned my family because I was in a toxic and abusive relationship with my family members. They only wanted me to do whatever they wanted me to do and live my life the way they wanted me to. They also manipulated everything I did and the way that I thought about myself. One day i couldn't take it anymore, reported them to the authorities and left.
Man, I feel so lucky as an asian with parents who just want me to be able to live independently and happily. Ironically, I was the one who put the pressure on myself because I wanted to make them proud for being such kind understanding parents. I think that by itself is a privilege that not a lot of asians have lmao
I'm not from an immigrant household, but came from a low income household where I was the oldest child and was expected to care for my younger siblings. This movie hit home in a way that I never would have expected and is an amazing representation of culture. I do like that they showed nepotism too, because so many people think it doesn't exist but it definitely does XD
I love how even though the director of Elemental is Korean-American and the movie included those influences, I could still relate and connect with the story as the child of Mexican immigrants. The burden of knowing how much your parents sacrificed was portrayed so well and that dilemma of whether you want to do what makes you happy or have a career that will support your parents/family was also portrayed well. I'm so happy and grateful that my parents are supportive of me following my passion in the arts field instead of going for a traditional job. Edit: thanks for all the likes 😊. I also like to add on that I think Elemental has changed my life bc I wanted to do something in the arts field, but was hesitant, then i went to see this movie and later when it came out on digital, I showed it to my parents. The movie absolutely helped them understand my experience. So if im famous in the future, i credit this movie for being the catalyst.
I also have mexican parents and want to pursue an art career but my parents said that they prefer that.i become a doctor or engineer just bc I'm very good in math
@@someone-jv2jd It is truly a tragedy that migrant parents know what it's like to endure in a society were they don't feel accepted, yet oftentimes don't wish to be accepting themselves.
Im an Indian Immigrant, me and my family have moved SO MANY TIMES in 2 DIFFERENT COUNTRIES. I was born in Abu Dhabi, UAE when my parents immigrated a few months after their marriage when my mom was pregnant with my older sister (im the middle child 😭) My dad started a restraunt called 'Kusina Restraunt' and it atually did really well, it has 2 branches, one in Abu Dhabi and another in Dubai (he usually works at the Dubai one) My mom got a transfer job as a nurse and started working, we moved like 5-6 times in Abu Dhabi and they always said that 'They did everything for us' even though THEY MOVED TO ABU DHABI for better work and more money. I do sort of believe my mother when she says that she abandoned everything and did everything for us (i have 2 siblings) because she wanted to take the transfer to support her child (my sister) but she has a lot of partiality to my sister and my little brother (which you can expect because the asian stereyotype fits very well with my family, and so does the 'Older, Middle and Younger child' stereyotype aswell interestingly) My dad is just a genuine asshole and says he does everything for us and abandoned everything even though he also buys things only for himself, sometimes even showing visible disgust at the thought of spending money on me and the rest of my family. He has 6 devices all to himself and 2 of em he dosent even use. And ofc just like any asian parent he abuses me and my siblings and my mom..but ive gotten used to his hits but not to his words..whenever he says something its always so cruel and whenever he is angry he takes out that anger with physical, mental abuse and more. We are now in the UK, we already moved once again 💀 Tbh i want my parents to divorce because of how toxic my dad is to my mom and her family and to me and my siblings. But what can i say, we all have our problems.
I genuinely feel for your situation and tho i don’t fully know the context I wish u the best and hope things get better. However… even in Asian families abuse should not be normalised at all… I say this as a southeast asian
@@BigPlayGay if you dont care then dont look or comment at the message? i only wrote this to share my experiece with people who might relate (such as korean comic himself)
Oh boy, sending you a hug from here 🥺 congrats for being the amazing person you grew into, despite the lack of support you faced. I came here because your jokes always make me laugh so hard but I really enjoy this serious (and always relevant) side of you as well. Please keep entertaining us intelligently KC, you shine so bright bro! I'm fond of this series "explained by an Asian", hope you'll still do plenty.
I'm hispanic and I related with this the whole way. My parents get extremely upset when I disagree with anything they believe even in the slightest. Forcing me to even stop being friends with someone because they were gay. They don't know I'm bisexual but I never want them to find out. Along with the fact that if I even slightly disobeyed them even on accident as a kid they would slap me simply because of a matter of being "being disrespectful". For anyome who reads this far, politely disagreeing is not disrespect. If anything, in my opinion, it is the highest form of respect. You and the other person have such a strong and trusting relationship that you two can think differently and still understand eachothers point of view/respect their authority. Rather than simply being in fear or intimidated to go along with them.
I agree with most of your take. The only thing I would change is the ending. No, it's not realistic for the parents to suddenly set aside their expectations for Ember and Disney is still guilty of dishing out a kid-friendly happy ending in classic Disney fashion. But I think it's a nice, if optimistic outcome. The moral of the story is that love can prevail. Wade's well-meaning sacrifice shows that Ember can be loved and the parents, despite all their expectations, just want what's best for Ember and would support her in whatever career would make her the happiest. I know it's not really reflective of a typical asian household, but it's something I wish were possible in every family, and it's absolutely a step in the right direction if there was one thing our parents could learn from a Pixar animated movie. Grown parents of immigrants are not the targeted audience, but it's the thought that counts.
Just because that doesn't happen to you doesn't mean that's not realistic. My parents are on of the people who have expectations to me for years but in the end suddenly give up those expectations and let me choose for myself because I tell my honest feelings of their expectations
To be fair, they literally thought someone had DIED and that can force a perspective change where it might not have happened before. Maybe it’s not 100% realistic, but the situation itself is also non-real in a heightened sense.
from an outsider perspective (so- take this w a heap of salt, I'm just a humble white boi who likes movies) I was quite happy with the end. And I think it's important that they did this instead of the alternative. I think modeling resolve is good, like in Turning Red or Encanto- It models behavior for a child to learn from. What could a kid have learned from Ember's family not ultimately accepting her? If you want your parents approval (as all kids do) enforcing that stereotype I think might be harmful... Because if the kids sees "well, her father was rejected, and he still feels fine rejecting her... That means there's nothing I can do to not be rejected, unless I ONLY do what they want." I think doing it like this, eventually if some kid who watched this movie grows up and IS shunned, and disapproved, they will already know that it is not right. That's not what was "supposed" to happen and they DID deserve better than that. Any children from any immigrant background might look at this movie, as is, and see themselves in Ember and her father's relationship, or her father and HIS father's relationship. What I mean is- it's already shown what disapproval looks like, does long term, How her father was still able to leave and start new, have a good like. But it also shows how it feels and how it hurts us, and OUR kids even years after the fact... I think it would have harmed the message if the writers chose for it to repeat again. I think that robs the chance to see there is another way. Wheels can break, and we need to show the next generation we CAN break those wheels. Otherwise, it will just keep going on and on. That's just my to cents tho, I like seeing what others think on the matter who might have more first hand knowledge and experience about the topic. So if there is something I missed, or there is an issue with the point of my comment that I did not notice, please tell me! Love this movie
IM SO GLAD you went as deep as you did instead of only funny. we needed the comfort in knowing this movie was explained by an asian who can make it funny only bc he went through it too. i respect and appreciate you and your vidoes more bc you were vulnerable and funny at the same time which many ppl can’t sucessfully do. im proud of your hard work & even more proud you love yourself enough to protect yourself from your own parents. im gonna leave mine one day bc i know they’ll never embrace me. you inspiried me in this vid, thank you for everything :D
I love how you get serious about the toxic mentality that's in most Asian parents. It was pretty relatable since I'm from the South Asia and my parents migrated to America for the "better life" too. I finally got out of their legacy of this generational trauma but yet have to teach my younger sistet about it. Amazing video❤
I'm sorry that some of the more negative elements of the movie hit so hard for you - you deserved support from your parents as a child. the way parents raise their kids is so important because they are literally their child's biggest source of validation and shape them to be confident or insecure. I'm sorry that you didn't get that support. thank you for being vulnerable and addressing the common immigrant household and their issues. I definitely resonated with some parts of this video and there are definitely many people that felt better after hearing your similar experiences :) thank you for sharing that with us.
I don't mean any disrespect through this question, but I feel it is necessary to ask: should we allow such intolerant and self absorbed people into our country.
I’ve always felt that the movie’s focus was far greater on the immigrant story than the romance! Ember’s relationship with her father is emphasised more than her relationship with Wade. From the beginning, we’re shown Ember’s close relationship with her father, and it’s always reiterated how she wants to repay him and take over his shop as his daughter. Wade is the catalyst to Ember’s development, in that he shows her the world outside and helps her realise her bottled-up feelings, but even at the height of their relationship - like the romantic scene under the bridge when Ember and Wade learn that they can touch - Ember’s mind drifts back to her father, and how he told her, “I’m so lucky to have you (as my daughter)”, bringing her back to the reality that she’ll always be bound to following her father’s sacrifice, even if Wade showed her a glimpse of freedom. That’s why I think the ending is really satisfying. I’ve seen a lot of people unhappy with the ending because it’s so vague - it doesn’t tie together Ember and Wade’s relationship, they don’t get married or anything! They just go on a boat trip for Ember to pursue her dreams. But to me, Ember and Wade were never the focus of the movie - Ember and her father’s relationship is the focus. Ember leaving the home that her parents created is a direct parallel to the very beginning, where her parents leave Fireland, also by boat. While Ember’s father was disowned by his father for choosing to leave for a better life, Ember’s father doesn’t do the same for her, and instead bows to her, a sign of respect that symbolises the breaking of generational trauma. The movie might be a romcom, but at its core, it’s about a complex father-daughter relationship that has to grow and change in order for them to live their own lives. In the novelisation of the book, Wade’s side of the story is actually developed on, and it’s shown that he also has a very complex relationship with his late father. His situation with his father was very similar to Ember’s, except his father died before they could settle things, so their relationship is marked by regret. The novel honestly just further emphasised on complicated father-child relationships, and that’s something important to me because of my complex relationship with my dad (as an asian girl who desperately wants to live up to his sacrifice). So I’ve always felt that Elemental, while being a romcom, ultimately has its message in the relationship between Ember and her father, not Ember and Wade. Anyway, I love the video! It was a funny watch, burst out laughing a lot. Elemental was the first movie that made me cry simply because of how much I related to it (I have NEVER related to any other movie this much), and seeing all the reviews calling it unrealistic and poorly-written made me feel so alone. But it’s nice to know that other people actually felt the same way about the movie as I did.
@@sahlahanifa8402In the novel, Wade and Ember share almost-equal halves of the story as the chapters alternate between their perspectives! Wade’s father is named Dewey. The first time we see Wade and Dewey is in Chapter 3, and immediately it’s established that they had a really loving and sweet father-child relationship (In this chapter Dewey comforts a terrified five-year old Wade, and brings him to the ocean, teaching him to “scream your big feelings into the ocean and let the water spread them out and smooth them away until you feel calm”. I’m guessing that that’s the reason why Wade brings Ember to the ocean, although it’s not explicitly stated.) However, when Wade entered his teenage years, he and Dewey began to have a lot more disagreements. Dewey was a talented sportsman and wanted Wade to follow in his footsteps, so he went great lengths to personally schedule tryouts for Wade in waveball (in-universe baseball/basketball?). Wade missed both tryouts, because - in true Wade fashion - he got distracted along the way by the marching band. It’s here we learn that Wade wants to try everything, and hates the idea of being stuck to a single interest, so he’s constantly switching interests and exploring many things (he’s a go-with-the-flow guy, after all). However, Dewey wants him to settle down, be focused, and make a real decision for himself. It’s worth noting that Dewey never really forced Wade to do anything, but rather wanted him to choose a path and stick with it. Still, they both fought a lot and couldn’t make up. After that, we’re shown Wade in his young adult years. In Chapter 7, Wade is a construction worker working with cement (this is actually referenced in the movie! Wade can’t get help from his construction buddies because he eventually accidentally causes a cement explosion). Wade mentions that he hoped to show his dad that he was right about his decision to explore everything instead of sticking to one field, but his dad died before that. By this it’s implied that they never reached an agreement or reconciled before Dewey died. Unfortunately, Wade is also unable to hold a job lol. He gets fired from the construction job after causing the explosion (which happened because he got distracted when he was talking to the rest of the team. he managed to connect with them and get them to feel invigorated and inspired about their own lives, but then proceeded to forget the safety rules of his own job). He was also fired from his previous jobs - a shipment job that he lost because he got distracted talking to the other sales reps, and a guide job that he lost because he got distracted talking to the mayor and got them both lost. Wade begins to wish that Dewey was still here to guide him, because he’s starting to understand (now, too late) that his father was right and now he moves too much without being able to hold anything down for long. That’s pretty much why he’s so desperate to help Ember. Wade knew that his father loved him, but was too stubborn to properly communicate with his father and reach an agreement before his father died. In Ember’s story, Ember wants to explore the world and try more options, but Bernie wants her to stay in Firetown, to continue running the shop and preserving their legacy. Bernie is also starting to cough and show signs of illness. Wade’s story parallels Ember’s story, but the difference is that Wade never got the chance to reconcile with his dad, while Ember still has the chance. So throughout the movie, Wade constantly pleads with Ember to talk to her dad, and insists “your dad will understand you. You have to try!” Because he knows that it’s way better than losing your father without ever trying to make that connection. Real interesting lore to be honest. Wade had SO much untapped character development that the movie didn’t show. Wade definitely is going through some rough times during the movie, but we only see him as a side character to Ember’s plot. This is why I swear the movie isn’t about Ember and Wade, it’s about Ember and her father! The novel is about Ember and Wade! If you want to read the novel, it’s called “Unlikely Friends”, and while it’s a junior novelisation, I absolutely love the language in some passages.
Well the ending is also vague in that like, couldn't fire people sue for the flooding of Fire Town, since it could've killed them? Did they ever repair that dam?
@@disgustof-riley8338the ending in the movie is also incomplete 😢! In the novel, it’s shown that after the flood, they take a few months to rebuild the town better than before with the help of the other elements. Gale utilises her city supervisor role and gets every able-bodied construction worker in Element City to fix the dam and rebuild Firetown. The Fireplace (Ember’s family’s store) is made a historical/cultural landmark (since it *is* the very first location where fire existed in Element City), so it cannot be torn down, only renovated to be safer. Because of this, Firetown opens its doors to the other elements too, which can be seen in the movie when other elements are customers of the store. (Hell, Bernie is even shown trying Water food.) Ember’s departure by ship to pursue her internship actually only happens several months after the flood, instead of how fast-paced the movie made it seem. It was probably cut because of a lack of time.
This movie is actually my favourite Disney movie and I really cried watching it. The characters and the lines of the plot running on how love can come from many places really hit hard. Even the part where one can feel like their parent would never understand, because most of us really relate to that.
I'm not Asian (I'm African) but somehow relate to the burdens and expectations of a demanding family. I'm glad some of them are beginning to change and I know it can be hard to cut off ties with toxic family member I'm glad that you've spoken the truth that Asians and immigrants go through and all I can say to my Asian brothers and sisters is I hope you manage to make it out of that toxic environment and just say, "To hell with it!" bite the bullet and go out there and live your life. It's going to be hard and they'll be difficulties but maybe being with friends who've gone through the same will help.
My parents were at one point like Ember's parents but later in my teenage years, they realized that they were losing their daughter completely with their parenting methods. Sure it led to a horror look of me about to end everything but my father sure shut my mom down when he saw me that way. My mom acknowledges her past mistakes as a parent and I can see that in how they take care of my sister even if she is being a jerk at times. So I can relate to Ember a lot and how much she cares for her culture, her family, and her responsibilities she also realizes that she didn't keep any time for herself or knows any self-care at all. Wade just shows her a mirror of what happens when problems arrive and how she is unable to handle them other than bottling up her emotions. A lot of people do that including me, I am still unable to express any emotions other than speaking it out for others to understand. They did tell me everything they did was for us like earning money but they never used that in an argument saying i am ungrateful because they know it was their choice.
As a daughter of African parents who immigrated to Europe to build their careers. To offer a home and a better future to me and my siblings. (I'm the eldest) I related to this movie so much cause even tho they may not realise it themselves. The pressure and fear of disappointing them after all they've done for us. Or even forget and letting down our legacy and community. It's real. And I felt so good at the end of the movie. It's the kind of film made for children, parents and young adults. Everybody can relate to it in differents ways imo. I loved this movie and was so sad to learn that a lot of people didn't get the thematic. It's not pixar greatest masterpiece but it has definitely become one of my favourite movie from the studio. This movie is a gem and I hope it gets the recognition it really deserves.
I’m still struggling to face my parents when it comes to what I want vs what they want 😢 the positive reaction of Ember’s parents is what everyone who grew up with Asian trauma needs to heal their inner child
God this is sooo true! I'm Taiwanese and my parents are very strict , and always say" if you don't what what or else something" or " don't you know I gave up everything for you!?" , these sentences are always getting in my head, and I some times even started blaming myself for things I didn't actually do.
There’s this book about a Taiwanese American girl named Mei called American panda by Gloria chao she was forced to go to college when she should’ve been in high school and had an arranged marriage. Her bro was disowned for his white girlfriend
As much as I love your humor and interpretations of various films, hearing you talk about this movie in a more serious light was really nice. Thank you for sharing parts of your own story with your viewers and keeping in mind just how real these kids movies can be.
yooooo asian parents thinking you should put their happiness first over yours is pretty true my parents always said “do it for make me happy” and they still do since im living with them and usually I dont get much of a choice.
Honestly I hope you can make more movie reviews/explanation videos like this, like more serious ones. It really lets us reflect on our lives and you explain them quite well.
I was one of the people who didn't have many expectations for the movie when it was being advertised, but once I heard it was an immigrant allegory I got curious and ended up enjoying the movie a lot more than some other Pixar movies because of how real it felt to me. I'm one of the lucky ones whose immigrant parents are very supportive but still gave me some generational trauma, so the parents not being completely toxic but still having those expectations resonated with me. As I knew more about Ember's family I was reminded of my own and the stories they told me of leaving their home and adjusting to America (in my family's case it was a war when they were teenagers). I think it's good that a movie like this was produced, for people to see and understand, both the good and the bad parts of a family life like it portrays.
Honestly, the, I did this for you is not Asian (or even POC) exclusive, and has a lot more truth than a lot of people let on. My dad pushed me (and still does) towards achievement in math and science because he’s seen where the high paying jobs in the future will be. He does want me to be a doctor, but hasn’t pressured me on that path. A lot of the lifestyle choices he has pressed me to make are a result of things he’s seen in his own life and in the lives of the people around him, and that I have actually found really reasonable (like hold off on dating and courtship until I am set in life, and make sure you have those assets divided and that prenup in place). I personally plan to allow my parents a lot of weight in my relationship when I set out to build one, simply because I know they’ve succeeded, and they’ve seen so many failures both in their family and their friends that they’ll be able to tell me something that I may not be able to see and save me a lot of hurt. Even within my own family I’ve been able to see for myself how my own siblings turn out when my mom didn’t heed my dad’s warnings regarding behavior patterns he saw early on.
I'm so sorry your parents were so awful. You deserve so much better. I'm glad you got away from them, and I hope you're living your best life. This was a really interesting take on this video! Thanks a lot for the insight!
I'm a Korean American and I was exactly in her shoes. My parents and I are immigrants from Korea and we struggled so much to make a living here in the US. At one point in my life when I was in my early 20s, I started dating a hispanic man and that caused so much problem. I struggled exactly what Ember went through, so much self doubt, self hatred, guilt, worry, etc.. It was many years of struggle, breaking up and coming back to one another only realize we love each other so much..We just kept coming back for each other out of love. It took many years till my parents turned around and accepted our love. Been together for almost 10 years now and we are happily married. My husband and I hugged each other as we were watching this movie.. This movie will always have a special place in my heart
6:21 That one I am sorry ya had to suffer through that, mine is somewhat relatable, but my fam were Christian fam, so they really really cared, and overtime lowered expectations.
Bro I loved this. You were so passionate and open all while being hilarious. You have a bright future in entertainment and if your parents don’t want you, you can be my son.
8:05 "kowtow". Usually an act of grovelling to show servitide, respect and submission from a "inferior" to a "superior". So Embers dad doing it back to her is very inaccurate yet heart *warming* . K ill see myself out
4:42 that is so true. it's sad pay with riches or charaisma otherwise get out certainly does feel like the motto. thankfully getting both is possible regardless of who you are but the desparity is still uncool.
Brilliant commentary. It gets a little better each generation so have hope KC. My grandparents immigrated to the U.S. around 1910 from Poland. My parents were the first generation born in the U.S. & much more modern but still had many conservative beliefs about how you should live & who you should marry. My grandparents were very foreign & old world (Europe) & poor. I'm the second generation born in the U.S. & share almost nothing with my late grandparents except my DNA! My parents had a very tough time with me & my sister when we were teenagers & we weren't even difficult but we smoked & wanted to date! So shocking to them. Anyway, you, the first born outside the "old country" will have the most difficulty with your parents, but you will not be like them so if you have kids, it will be much easier for them. It's the immigrant story around the world! Love this review!!
6:50 I agree with everything as Asian but selfish is just so lame I get cursed as 1)duryodhan (a villainous character in Mahabharata who destroys his entire clan just for his greed, selfishness and being oberly loved by his parents ). 2) pitrkulavinaashi (means destroyer of ancestrial clan) 3) durmadha (confused ignorant being) 4)kumati (destroyed brain of brainless guy)
Dude, I'm Asian, and it doesn't matter which country you're from, almost all Asian parents are the same. For me, my mom was the toxic one. I can honestly say that what doesn't kill you does make you stronger.
I loved the movie because I could relate to this, The one part that really made me scratch my head was at 6:07. I've never really considered that whole idea until now and only now realize how crazy true this could actually be.
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"They immigrated because THEY wanted a better life" SOOOOO TRUE!!!!!
But a better life for themselves is also a better life for their children, isn't it? Why is it okay to suddenly assume most immigrant couples are somehow selfish? If you believe you'll be better whenever your parents are originally from there's nothing stopping you from going there
I don’t get it, what’s the issue?
@@wildfire9280 Asian parenting itself is a massive issue
He says that, but showing graphics of their old house being completely smashed kinda just runs against that…
@@HitoriSanzo The point is that it's not selfless, and you don't really owe someone who only helped you by happenstance rather than out of an active concern for you. There's certainly no evils in trying to move to find a better life, but there's no inherent good in doing so either and there's no reason to allow that to be leverage over a person's agency. It's not about demonizing immigration, it's about recognizing that personal immigration shouldn't be used as a reason to attack the agency of others or to make them feel indebted.
"cheap child labor, the common asian practice" 😭😭😭😭😭
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Me spending my middle school Summers illegally picking produce in fields 😥
Now now, we need to be accepting and tolerant of differing work ethics across cultures lol
I do disagree that the ending was wholly unrealistic, as the ending pretty much portrayed the dynamic between me and my parents. I will admit it’s rarer, but it DOES happen. My parents seriously thought they were doing the best for me but I completely broke out and couldn’t take it anymore, so they chose to support me with my own path. Sometimes, parents DO want what’s better for you- there’s just a disconnect between child and parent. I’m eternally grateful to my parents for managing to look past their standards.
I'm so happy for you, that your parents broke the tradition of disowning a child simply for being themselves. I'm proud of you, a stranger, to have had the courage to speak up and let them see that vulnerability, how much it hurt you. That must have been crazy hard. And we should continue to remember that our parents baggage doesn't have to be ours, and while it isn't easy to put it down and walk away, it's often better than the latter. Being butter and restarting the cycle. I'm so happy you were supported and loved. You deserve that, and so does everyone.
You're very lucky. I'm happy to hear that about you.
Mine too! It went exactly like this for my mother, I keep rewatching the movie because ember reminds me so much for her ❤
my thoughts exactly!! i had the same experience with my parents, and even though it's not as common, some Asian parents do accept their kids for wanting something different than what the parents had planned. i'll always be grateful for my parents, and i think it's important to emphasize that despite how unhealthy the "typical" depiction of Asian parent-child relationships seems, most of our parents really do love us no matter what.
Who cares? it’s animated
I’m not Asian but my boyfriend is. I’m black and we went to see this movie together and he was literally narrating this movie like you did the entire time. It was hilarious until we got to the line wade said about your anger comes out when you know something you don’t want to hear. He got quiet for most of the movie after that. I saw a lot of Ember in him but he didn’t see it.
Also that awkward family dinner was so funny. Definitely been there
How you get him, where should I be looking? 👀
@@Bloomkyaaa lmaoo girl we met on a dating website 😂It also depends on where you live my city is one of the most diverse in the states. So you’re more to find like minded individuals of different races
So you guys ARE like Ember and Wade, just with the genders swapped
Its weird Black folk and Asians actually have a LOT in common. Growing up I had a lot of asian friends who said we couldn't be friends cuz of their parents....
So yeah the generational trauma is pretty strong in their culture in comparison to our own. Our generational trauma usually involves experiencing racism for the first time.
i’m not even asian and i understood this completely 💀
Same bro
Lol same
Same
And me 💀
you don't need to be asian to undesrtand immigrants troubles
I come from a part chinese and part filipino background, and understand all the references. It's a shame because a lot of people dislike the movie for having a poor plot, instead of embracing it for showing representation and bringing light to many asian households and struggles.
Plot is important if it’s poor people have good reason dislike.
@@mydogghost Even if the movie had a poor plot or not, I found it a bit sad that it was marketed as "Woah another Disney kids movie about elements saving the world!" Instead of "A personal story about the directors own experiences with immigration and family."
I'm not necessarily saying the plot was good or bad, I mean that many people bashed on it without recognizing the inner storyline.
@@Soy_Milkk understandable
@@Soy_Milkk did people really think she was saving the world?💀 she was trying to save her own world
@@listorin6314 Not surprised. Just by seeing the trailer, I assumed it was some cliche Disney movie with the following predictions:
• Ember's parents intentionally force her to take over their "family tradition" and get offended at any opposition. Eventually, the parents support her to "do her own thing" (like Strange World and many other cartoons)
• Ember and Wade will NOT fall in love (normally I wouldn't think this, but the recent "woke" Disney movies changed my thought process about their movies)
• Together, the love interests will somehow unite all Element citizens to live together in harmony despite their differences with some main character speech (just like Gnomeo and Juliet. Surprisingly, only the Fire people were prejudiced against)
So yeah, it's one of those rare movies actually blew my mind by mostly going against expectations.
Mario movie was the complete opposite for me though, HIGH expectation but got me mostly disappointed...
I think you couldve also mentioned that the dad of ember's father disowned him for leaving for a better life and did not return the ceremonial bow to him as he did for ember, it could work to give a reason as to why Ember's dad doesn't fully act like the typical asian dad, as he himself experienced it and broke the cycle.
"bro got that crying rizz " I cant 💀💀
The movie really hit home for us because my wife and I are an interracial couple. She's a first-generation American with parents from South Asia, and our first year of dating was very similar to Ember and Wade's relationship in the movie. It was kind of eerie how our past conversations and arguments seemed to align so closely with the film; it almost felt like we were reliving those moments. Needless to say, when we watched it, we both got pretty emotional and ended up in tears by the end.
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*And I hope you two got hot and steamy afterwards, you know what I mean*
This is meant to be funny but hearing this without even watching the film yet after a fight with my parents, I cried and cried and cried.
Im srry to hear that :[. I hope u get better now
stop crying go study medicine
@@paeppafpaefpafepa2part of the problem much lol
@@paeppafpaefpafepa2ur weird
@@limerobloxgaming8567 ur judgemental
‘built like a daddy but acts like a baby’ holy shit that MURDERED me 😂
“Man he really wants Amber, GAWT DAYUM” 7:29
had me on the floor
Hes just helping her because hes apparently H Y O U R N Y
*ember NOT AMBER
The actual definition of Asian parents:
(You did an amazing job explaining it. My Asian parents always make me feel guilty by saying stuff like “Everything we did is for you, you’re so ungrateful!” Thank you for mentioning it to us.)
My goodness, that's so toxic. Asian parents are traumatizing their kids and make them burn out. Why can't someone's best attempt be good enough?
@@elin_ I agree. My efforts are never enough for them. 😭
@@Kioshii_ so f*cking tragic.. I'm so sorry
@@elin_ no need to be lol. I’m still alive either way haha
@@Kioshii_My mom always got mad t me when I made bad paintings and told me that she put so much effort into everything else, unlike me. You'd think it was so simple to make a good painting.
I literally cried at the part Wade evaporated and cried again after knowing he still alive and cried again when Ember pays respect to her father and got it back..
I really love the story..
roller coaster of emotions
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Saaaammee❤
Why are u crying in your profile picture too?
Bro influenced you
Jesus how fragile can some people be?
I'm a first-generation Nigerian-American and this movie hit home several times. Both my parents are Igbo and were negatively impacted by the Biafra War, and came to the US and whatnot. Ember talking aboht what her parents gave up reminded me of my mother and her journey. Thank you for being real in this video!
It is still disconcerting to see that there are many countries that deal with immigration very poorly. I'm Brazilian, and my great-grandfather was a Portuguese immigrant who left his country to have a better life here. After more than 90 years that he left his country, my grandfather now discovered his documents in Portugal. Our family went crazy as we got information about everything! My great-grandfather named my grandfather, great-uncles and aunties in honor of his family. Everyone had his family name so it would never be forgotten. We cried so fucking hard when we discovered that. Everything made sense, my grandpa and aunts cried, my mother was so moved! I discovered that I have the right to Portuguese citizenship too, although I am Brazilian, I am the fourth generation too! Really nice. Brazil is one of the countries that had the most immigrants, miscegenation. The concept of race is completely different here. The movie portrays the life of immigrants very well, of difficulties and acceptance. Soon I'll be moving to another country to discover things, I will do my best now to discover my native Brazilian and African roots. And maybe more, you never know! ❤
Good for you man!❤
Thank you bro
I'm not even Asian (I'm an African American), but I can relate to my wants and needs coming second in favor of what my mom wants. Just recently, she gave me an ultimatum of "if you're not going to a team player, then you need to get off the team", which translates into "put your job searching/job training to the wayside and be your grandmother's caregiver or you're not welcome in my house anymore".
For proper context, I'm disabled and I have what I think might be a hernia I sustained years ago that is coming back to bite me in present day, but I was made to be my grandmother's caregiver because I'm the only person readily available who isn't working, but I'm in the process of getting job training. Plus I have disabilities that limit what I can do, especially as a caregiver and a lot of the tasks required of me as a caregiver and even outside of the task (my grandmother's house is cluttered and has a lot of heavy objects I can't lift on my own) that are detriment to my overall condition, yet none of that was considered. My availability was the only the my mother considered and not my overall capability while also forcing me to put my occupational goals to the wayside, which is made worse by her saying it "has to" be me, even despite knowing about my physical disabilities.
Update: In light of the drama that ensued from me having been my grandmother's caregiver over the course of four weeks and her just being... herself in general, my uncle ultimately decided that it would be for the better to hire a professional caregiver to look after my grandmother rather than have me resume the "job" (which should have been the plan in the first place since my disabilities make me a liability). Also. I wasn't expecting this comment to get over 1,000 likes or the responses from others who could also relate to my dilemma. I thank you all for sharing your thoughts. It truly means a lot to me.
I hope they support you in the future
Stay strong always!
Don't give up on your dreams ❤
That’s why I left. I wanted to be my own person. And that’s not allowed in a family-oriented society.
The more I get into learning Korean and chinese languages and cultures, I understand more and more that Black Americans and These Asian cultures have much in common. We're basically second cousins!
yeah
oh wow, as a fellow African American i understand completely
4:10 That wasn't actually Wade's father, but his uncle. In fact, I think Wade either mentions or heavily implies that his father already passed away (no idea how). This is also one of the big reasons he empathize so much with Ember and her dad's relationship struggles.
You're right!! It's only briefly mentioned in the final cut of the movie, but in the official novel of Elemental, Wade's side of the story is also shown. Wade and his father had a similar relationship as Ember to hers - Wade's father wanted him to choose one career path and focus on it for his life, and would even make sacrifices just to get Wade into sports teams as he himself was a sportsman. But Wade didn't like that because he wanted to explore many fields of interests instead of sticking to one, and this disagreement caused them to fight a lot. Wade's father died before Wade could ever make up to him, and since then, Wade was filled with regret. He became aimless in life and hopped from job to job, struggling to keep each of them.
When he meets Ember, he sees himself in her, and knows that although he can't bring his father back to life and reconcile with him, he can help convince Ember to communicate with her dad. Really sweet and it also shows a lot more untapped depth in Wade's character. In the movie, we only see Wade's impact on Ember, but I think Ember's impact on Wade is that he can finally reconcile with himself and come to terms with what he's lost.
He said his dad died twice in the movie
@@yeetgirltsubasa5235wish they added that into the movie.
1:11 WHY CANT YOU VEGANS JUST EAT SOME CHICKEN *room explodes* got me dead on the floor
@yeetgirltsubasa5235 :O I wish this was in the film! Maybe in the sequel or if a spin off series is made
At 6:12, i could really hear the emotion in ur voice when talking about how Ember's parents' emotional manipulation parallels real life families as well as your own experience. i was getting emotional just hearing you talk about it. Thank you for feeling comfortable enough to speak about it, even if we are just strangers on the internet, lol. In all seriousness, i hope things are going great for you, not in terms of success, but just feeling okay with where you are and being happy. Thank you for making these videos ☺
8:17 was too relatable and hit too close to home.
I’m Chinese and my parents immigrated here before I was born, I am super grateful I have a mom and dad that support my passions and hobbies unlike the majority of Asian parents. I still relate to this movie, not because of my personal experiences, because of my moms/dads/relatives experiences I had to witness growing up. I hope everyone of you guys can have your parents accept you the way you are and support you no matter your career, your sexuality, your interests, or for the people you love. ❤️
its nice to see not everyone had to live that
I had one parent who did, one parent who didn’t. Lead to many many fights between all of us, I’m estranged from both of them now unfortunately. I’m glad your parents were better, I hope to be too if I ever have children.
this is me LOL
@@mattkim96 0 PLEAZE DON'T HAVE KiDZ. & NOT JUZT TO U BUT EVERYONE. EVEN iF U DON'T REPEAT THAT CYCLE, MAKiNG MORE HUMANZ iS NOT SOMETHiNG WE SHOULD B DOiNG, AT ALL !
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2 OUR HORRiBLY DETERiORATiNG HEALTH B CAUZE WE KEEP iGNORiNG, WHAT i LiKE CALLiNG, THE "SWALLOW WEB" / "FOOD WEB", WHiCH BASiCALLY=HOW WHAT WE EAT AFFECTZ US & WHAT iT TAKEZ TO EVEN PRODUCE, SHiP, HARVEST, & MAiNTAiN iT
3 ALL OUR WARZ & TREACHERY AGAiNZT EACH OTHER ON A, SHOULD B, DAiLY BASiS
4 ADDiNG MORE TO THE SEWER SYSTEM
5 & i'VE BARELY EVEN TOUCHED ON ALL THE THiNGZ WE DO TO OTHER LiFE FORMZ THAT AREN'T HUMAN THAT R ON THiZ PLANET AS WELL, BOTH PASSiVELY & iNTENTiONALLY
6 & U'D JUZT B MAKiNG MORE TO PROBABLY DiE, UNNECESSARiLY, ON TOP OF ALL THAT. THE VERY KiD U HELPED CREATE
[NOT YELLiNG SURPRiSiNGLY. JUZT LiKE TYPiNG iN CAPZ]
If your easily offended don't watch this comment how do we know if ur Chinese everyone is saying that in every comment section like ok cool nothing special
People didn't like this movie because they claimed it was another woke movie with no meaning and just there for the sake of being woke. I disagree because it's not even that woke, it's fun, entertaining, and touched on meanings without being in your face. It wasnt girl boss slay queen ember, it was Ember who has talent and just wanted to find her place. I hate how this movie didn't get the recognition it needed because people keep saying they want original movies and doesn't turn their heads when they're given that
I mean, according to Google woke just means knowing racism exists, so ig this movie is woke. But I agree, such a gorgeous movie getting way too much hate.
Yeah it was def by those conservatives who keep on saying make new diverse chat ters and when you do it still gets hate
@osheridan woke mostly stands for people for example saying "fxck white people " and treating black people as innocent angels who can do no wrong , using race for every argument or people who using their sexuality or gender identity to get what they want , being extremely sexist to men for literally breathing, overall delusional people
Also calling things woke is not valid criticism unless someone’s some backwards backwater a-hole
I was so happy when this movie was announced, and I ended up basically having the theater to myself. I really enjoyed the movie and I hope more and more people give it a chance
7:10 you know some criticism's on this film was like "why didn't Ember's father like turn around and accept Wade after saving them at the end of the movie?" I think he's only upgraded from not tolerating him to somewhat tolerating him, the main focus of the film was Ember's relationship with Wade, and Ember's relationship with her dad. Truth is it didn't matter at all who he considered is fine for her daughter to date, but that he already wanted her to have her own autonomy.
6:55 but Wade is "HoRnYyYyy💅💅"
Elemental is one of those movies (like everything everywhere all at once) where I wish I could explain all the cultural nuances and how much things mean and how hard it hits. Some of the lines ember and wade exchanged about “why don’t you follow your dreams or what you’re good at?” being shut down by “i can’t just do what i want to do because my parents sacrificed everything for me” are conversations I had with so many close friends. Everything about the movie was so realistic, from the fear of dating someone my family wouldn’t accept, to not being able to pursue my dream, to the little one liners about how proud my parents would be when I acted like a studious kid. There’s so so so much to unpack in the movie and it’s so realistic, and I definitely cried when wade couldn’t understand why ember didn’t just go for glass-making under the perspective that anyone can do anything they want, coming from a high income family with connections
I just wanna play piano bro 😭
My mom want me to get a work or idk, but she always said "it's to far away"
Well, I'm Balkan,my mom let me to things but it's always the same words "are u sure u can do this?" Or "if I said no u wouldn't even dare to go" .(well,I move from nest even when my mom would say no to me. That what I said to her as well.)
I'm not a fan of traditional life .
I told her ,no matter how far my work/job is I will go .
My mom must accept it.
Yeah,she cried when I moved to a WG, but I keep walking .
Follow your goal no matter what!
And dating life well well idk kinda worries about it because of religion etc.
Seems like we all feel it ,huh
And I don't even dare to cry when I watch something like that.
My mom would say "why are u crying about? It just animation"
So,yeah it's not easy as well to show Emotionen
if you just play piano and do nothing else, theres a high chance you'll be a broke ass. parent's dont want you to be a doctor for them, it's for u
@@nathangebreselassie8515 still, they shouldn't completely shut them down. What the parents should do is encourage them to find a stable job until playing the piano is earning them good money. And what if it's not a doctor, then they should let them do something else.
I’m surprised they’re not forcing you to play piano but that’s a stereotype
This movie definetely didn't deserve all the backlash and I'm honestly ashamed at myself for hopping on the hate train without watching the movie and only listening to other peoples opinions. I would like to apologize, best movie Disney and Pixar put out in a while.
So true, but if Walt were still alive, I have a feeling the plot would’ve been better
Hey- it happens. That kinda outrage is formulated to get as many to hop on and hate as possible. All you can really do is try not to do it again, next time.
At the least, you put yourself in the position to have your mind changed. A lot of people just double down. These days, not a lot of people are willing to let themselves do that. So, at least you got that going for ya
@@Adamant_Adam thanks for your kind words but it's honestly sad how that has become a rarity nowadays
P.S. I only hopped on the hate train because it sounded mid and I usually agreed that pixar fell off and the only pixar movie I ever really enjoyed before this was Luca. Then I decided to why not watch the movie for myself instead and it turned out pretty good. Some areas could've been done better in the movie but it wasn't bad like other people suggested.
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@@Hot_Desert_Winds Walt? Nah lmao no. Just no. He’d 100% turn the movie into nothin but stereotypes and make Wade the mc.
I’m guessing you don’t know much about the guy.
"Bro has got that crying rizz" (3:21) GOT ME DEAD AISSADSADJSJFDSNVDJD
As a mixed couple, this film hit very close to home for me and my gf. While we are both lucky to have grown up in households that are very culturally open. We had many conversations reflecting on the fact that what we are currently doing in life is more because we want to please our parents, not because we really want to do it.
Despite being Indian, My parents never pressure me to do anything i dont want to do , and they entirely support my dream of being an animator! Love you Amma and Appa
Same here but my sister was the reason I wanted to go to animation school in the future
sameee not all asian parents are bad loll
Riiight. We need to stop this stereotyping lolll. Sometimes I wonder why many Asians themselves support this idea. I get its all in good fun but please show the good sides of Asian parenting too.
@@katgreer6113 ikrr I agree loll
Awww. What lovely parents you have! ❤❤
You cannot hate this voice 😂
💀💀
YES😊
to the point at the end i love how real you are with it and don't think it's 'too serious' or anything it's nice to hear something authentic
definitely can relate to this. i come from a half filipino half mexican ethnicity… however, grew up more in an asian household than hispanic. anyways, feeling trapped and you feel like it’s the only way to make your parents happy and yourself happy-relatable. how i would have to become a nurse/doctor for what my grandparents wants me to be for their happiness. like Ember, i thought i would want to fulfill my family’s wishes, but as i get older, i realize that’s not what i want to be and do. and it’s hard to ‘easily’ pursue what you want to do without the fear of being disowned or have your family become more toxic. but i’m happy this movie got a happy ending with very supportive parents and Ember doing what she wants with Wade supporting her. almost made me cry so hard, just tears 🥹 i wish more asian/hispanic (any type of ethnicity) can become more understanding and open like this movie motivates me to have.
I had no idea you were disowned... I understand. I disowned my family because I was in a toxic and abusive relationship with my family members. They only wanted me to do whatever they wanted me to do and live my life the way they wanted me to. They also manipulated everything I did and the way that I thought about myself. One day i couldn't take it anymore, reported them to the authorities and left.
I hope you are happier now
No one deserves to be in that kind of relationship with people
@@wolfy973 thank you. I am now.
I'm so sorry, I can relate. You're brave for reporting them, it's something I wish I did.
@@eri_noemi1462 oh my goodness... I'm sorry. Are you doing okay now?
Disowned? Good luck finding strangers who will take care of them when they get old.
Man, I feel so lucky as an asian with parents who just want me to be able to live independently and happily. Ironically, I was the one who put the pressure on myself because I wanted to make them proud for being such kind understanding parents. I think that by itself is a privilege that not a lot of asians have lmao
Yeah I’m sure their parents were the opposite
I did stuff that My parents didn’t necessarily agree with but they love me which is why I appreciate them 🫶🏼
Kinda same with me, but I feel more pressure to make myself proud
Lucky I want to be a chef and my asian mom says that's not a job be a doctor
I'm not from an immigrant household, but came from a low income household where I was the oldest child and was expected to care for my younger siblings. This movie hit home in a way that I never would have expected and is an amazing representation of culture. I do like that they showed nepotism too, because so many people think it doesn't exist but it definitely does XD
5:40, sadly i understand that. My parents tell me they are okay with everything, but seem to want me to be successful.
I love how even though the director of Elemental is Korean-American and the movie included those influences, I could still relate and connect with the story as the child of Mexican immigrants. The burden of knowing how much your parents sacrificed was portrayed so well and that dilemma of whether you want to do what makes you happy or have a career that will support your parents/family was also portrayed well. I'm so happy and grateful that my parents are supportive of me following my passion in the arts field instead of going for a traditional job.
Edit: thanks for all the likes 😊. I also like to add on that I think Elemental has changed my life bc I wanted to do something in the arts field, but was hesitant, then i went to see this movie and later when it came out on digital, I showed it to my parents. The movie absolutely helped them understand my experience. So if im famous in the future, i credit this movie for being the catalyst.
Oh my gosh that’s amazing! I’m so happy for you!
I also have mexican parents and want to pursue an art career but my parents said that they prefer that.i become a doctor or engineer just bc I'm very good in math
@@someone-jv2jd It is truly a tragedy that migrant parents know what it's like to endure in a society were they don't feel accepted, yet oftentimes don't wish to be accepting themselves.
Im an Indian Immigrant, me and my family have moved SO MANY TIMES in 2 DIFFERENT COUNTRIES. I was born in Abu Dhabi, UAE when my parents immigrated a few months after their marriage when my mom was pregnant with my older sister (im the middle child 😭)
My dad started a restraunt called 'Kusina Restraunt' and it atually did really well, it has 2 branches, one in Abu Dhabi and another in Dubai (he usually works at the Dubai one)
My mom got a transfer job as a nurse and started working, we moved like 5-6 times in Abu Dhabi and they always said that 'They did everything for us' even though THEY MOVED TO ABU DHABI for better work and more money.
I do sort of believe my mother when she says that she abandoned everything and did everything for us (i have 2 siblings) because she wanted to take the transfer to support her child (my sister) but she has a lot of partiality to my sister and my little brother (which you can expect because the asian stereyotype fits very well with my family, and so does the 'Older, Middle and Younger child' stereyotype aswell interestingly)
My dad is just a genuine asshole and says he does everything for us and abandoned everything even though he also buys things only for himself, sometimes even showing visible disgust at the thought of spending money on me and the rest of my family. He has 6 devices all to himself and 2 of em he dosent even use.
And ofc just like any asian parent he abuses me and my siblings and my mom..but ive gotten used to his hits but not to his words..whenever he says something its always so cruel and whenever he is angry he takes out that anger with physical, mental abuse and more.
We are now in the UK, we already moved once again 💀
Tbh i want my parents to divorce because of how toxic my dad is to my mom and her family and to me and my siblings.
But what can i say, we all have our problems.
Dude as an Indian immigrant im so glad I don't have parents like yours
Let's just be better husband and father when our time comes and make a bit space in our schedule for couple hours in therapy....
I genuinely feel for your situation and tho i don’t fully know the context I wish u the best and hope things get better. However… even in Asian families abuse should not be normalised at all… I say this as a southeast asian
No one cares
@@BigPlayGay if you dont care then dont look or comment at the message? i only wrote this to share my experiece with people who might relate (such as korean comic himself)
2:41 She said she looks like 💥😜 LIZZO 🖕✨
Did you just flip me off?
Oh boy, sending you a hug from here 🥺 congrats for being the amazing person you grew into, despite the lack of support you faced. I came here because your jokes always make me laugh so hard but I really enjoy this serious (and always relevant) side of you as well. Please keep entertaining us intelligently KC, you shine so bright bro!
I'm fond of this series "explained by an Asian", hope you'll still do plenty.
I'm hispanic and I related with this the whole way. My parents get extremely upset when I disagree with anything they believe even in the slightest. Forcing me to even stop being friends with someone because they were gay. They don't know I'm bisexual but I never want them to find out. Along with the fact that if I even slightly disobeyed them even on accident as a kid they would slap me simply because of a matter of being "being disrespectful". For anyome who reads this far, politely disagreeing is not disrespect. If anything, in my opinion, it is the highest form of respect. You and the other person have such a strong and trusting relationship that you two can think differently and still understand eachothers point of view/respect their authority. Rather than simply being in fear or intimidated to go along with them.
This is why Christ should be our only authority
@@locinolacolino1302 Um... sorry, no. Not everyone is religious and one shouldn't force religion or one's beliefs onto another's life.
@@Sandra...fornow I think they meant Christians by "our"
@@Im_Here2, I see. Thanks for the clarification. 👍
I agree with most of your take. The only thing I would change is the ending. No, it's not realistic for the parents to suddenly set aside their expectations for Ember and Disney is still guilty of dishing out a kid-friendly happy ending in classic Disney fashion. But I think it's a nice, if optimistic outcome. The moral of the story is that love can prevail. Wade's well-meaning sacrifice shows that Ember can be loved and the parents, despite all their expectations, just want what's best for Ember and would support her in whatever career would make her the happiest. I know it's not really reflective of a typical asian household, but it's something I wish were possible in every family, and it's absolutely a step in the right direction if there was one thing our parents could learn from a Pixar animated movie. Grown parents of immigrants are not the targeted audience, but it's the thought that counts.
Just because that doesn't happen to you doesn't mean that's not realistic. My parents are on of the people who have expectations to me for years but in the end suddenly give up those expectations and let me choose for myself because I tell my honest feelings of their expectations
And yes I'm Asian. A SEAsian.
To be fair, they literally thought someone had DIED and that can force a perspective change where it might not have happened before. Maybe it’s not 100% realistic, but the situation itself is also non-real in a heightened sense.
from an outsider perspective (so- take this w a heap of salt, I'm just a humble white boi who likes movies) I was quite happy with the end. And I think it's important that they did this instead of the alternative.
I think modeling resolve is good, like in Turning Red or Encanto- It models behavior for a child to learn from. What could a kid have learned from Ember's family not ultimately accepting her? If you want your parents approval (as all kids do) enforcing that stereotype I think might be harmful... Because if the kids sees "well, her father was rejected, and he still feels fine rejecting her... That means there's nothing I can do to not be rejected, unless I ONLY do what they want." I think doing it like this, eventually if some kid who watched this movie grows up and IS shunned, and disapproved, they will already know that it is not right. That's not what was "supposed" to happen and they DID deserve better than that.
Any children from any immigrant background might look at this movie, as is, and see themselves in Ember and her father's relationship, or her father and HIS father's relationship. What I mean is- it's already shown what disapproval looks like, does long term, How her father was still able to leave and start new, have a good like. But it also shows how it feels and how it hurts us, and OUR kids even years after the fact... I think it would have harmed the message if the writers chose for it to repeat again. I think that robs the chance to see there is another way.
Wheels can break, and we need to show the next generation we CAN break those wheels. Otherwise, it will just keep going on and on.
That's just my to cents tho, I like seeing what others think on the matter who might have more first hand knowledge and experience about the topic. So if there is something I missed, or there is an issue with the point of my comment that I did not notice, please tell me!
Love this movie
Why wouldn’t it be? Disney and Pixar movies are family movies. Not baby movies.
Bro was sharing his life story damnnn
IM SO GLAD you went as deep as you did instead of only funny. we needed the comfort in knowing this movie was explained by an asian who can make it funny only bc he went through it too. i respect and appreciate you and your vidoes more bc you were vulnerable and funny at the same time which many ppl can’t sucessfully do. im proud of your hard work & even more proud you love yourself enough to protect yourself from your own parents. im gonna leave mine one day bc i know they’ll never embrace me. you inspiried me in this vid, thank you for everything :D
"Oh my gosh they're dating, yaaaas.Bros got that crying rizz."
My favorite quote
I love how you get serious about the toxic mentality that's in most Asian parents. It was pretty relatable since I'm from the South Asia and my parents migrated to America for the "better life" too. I finally got out of their legacy of this generational trauma but yet have to teach my younger sistet about it.
Amazing video❤
0:30 the voice change 💀
IT SHOCKED ME SO MUCH
I'm sorry that some of the more negative elements of the movie hit so hard for you - you deserved support from your parents as a child. the way parents raise their kids is so important because they are literally their child's biggest source of validation and shape them to be confident or insecure. I'm sorry that you didn't get that support. thank you for being vulnerable and addressing the common immigrant household and their issues. I definitely resonated with some parts of this video and there are definitely many people that felt better after hearing your similar experiences :) thank you for sharing that with us.
I don't mean any disrespect through this question, but I feel it is necessary to ask: should we allow such intolerant and self absorbed people into our country.
I’ve always felt that the movie’s focus was far greater on the immigrant story than the romance! Ember’s relationship with her father is emphasised more than her relationship with Wade. From the beginning, we’re shown Ember’s close relationship with her father, and it’s always reiterated how she wants to repay him and take over his shop as his daughter. Wade is the catalyst to Ember’s development, in that he shows her the world outside and helps her realise her bottled-up feelings, but even at the height of their relationship - like the romantic scene under the bridge when Ember and Wade learn that they can touch - Ember’s mind drifts back to her father, and how he told her, “I’m so lucky to have you (as my daughter)”, bringing her back to the reality that she’ll always be bound to following her father’s sacrifice, even if Wade showed her a glimpse of freedom.
That’s why I think the ending is really satisfying. I’ve seen a lot of people unhappy with the ending because it’s so vague - it doesn’t tie together Ember and Wade’s relationship, they don’t get married or anything! They just go on a boat trip for Ember to pursue her dreams. But to me, Ember and Wade were never the focus of the movie - Ember and her father’s relationship is the focus. Ember leaving the home that her parents created is a direct parallel to the very beginning, where her parents leave Fireland, also by boat. While Ember’s father was disowned by his father for choosing to leave for a better life, Ember’s father doesn’t do the same for her, and instead bows to her, a sign of respect that symbolises the breaking of generational trauma. The movie might be a romcom, but at its core, it’s about a complex father-daughter relationship that has to grow and change in order for them to live their own lives.
In the novelisation of the book, Wade’s side of the story is actually developed on, and it’s shown that he also has a very complex relationship with his late father. His situation with his father was very similar to Ember’s, except his father died before they could settle things, so their relationship is marked by regret. The novel honestly just further emphasised on complicated father-child relationships, and that’s something important to me because of my complex relationship with my dad (as an asian girl who desperately wants to live up to his sacrifice). So I’ve always felt that Elemental, while being a romcom, ultimately has its message in the relationship between Ember and her father, not Ember and Wade.
Anyway, I love the video! It was a funny watch, burst out laughing a lot. Elemental was the first movie that made me cry simply because of how much I related to it (I have NEVER related to any other movie this much), and seeing all the reviews calling it unrealistic and poorly-written made me feel so alone. But it’s nice to know that other people actually felt the same way about the movie as I did.
i never knew this movie was ever novelized! can you pls elaborate more on wade's relationship with his father, i'm so curious
@@sahlahanifa8402In the novel, Wade and Ember share almost-equal halves of the story as the chapters alternate between their perspectives! Wade’s father is named Dewey.
The first time we see Wade and Dewey is in Chapter 3, and immediately it’s established that they had a really loving and sweet father-child relationship (In this chapter Dewey comforts a terrified five-year old Wade, and brings him to the ocean, teaching him to “scream your big feelings into the ocean and let the water spread them out and smooth them away until you feel calm”. I’m guessing that that’s the reason why Wade brings Ember to the ocean, although it’s not explicitly stated.)
However, when Wade entered his teenage years, he and Dewey began to have a lot more disagreements. Dewey was a talented sportsman and wanted Wade to follow in his footsteps, so he went great lengths to personally schedule tryouts for Wade in waveball (in-universe baseball/basketball?). Wade missed both tryouts, because - in true Wade fashion - he got distracted along the way by the marching band. It’s here we learn that Wade wants to try everything, and hates the idea of being stuck to a single interest, so he’s constantly switching interests and exploring many things (he’s a go-with-the-flow guy, after all). However, Dewey wants him to settle down, be focused, and make a real decision for himself. It’s worth noting that Dewey never really forced Wade to do anything, but rather wanted him to choose a path and stick with it. Still, they both fought a lot and couldn’t make up.
After that, we’re shown Wade in his young adult years. In Chapter 7, Wade is a construction worker working with cement (this is actually referenced in the movie! Wade can’t get help from his construction buddies because he eventually accidentally causes a cement explosion). Wade mentions that he hoped to show his dad that he was right about his decision to explore everything instead of sticking to one field, but his dad died before that. By this it’s implied that they never reached an agreement or reconciled before Dewey died.
Unfortunately, Wade is also unable to hold a job lol. He gets fired from the construction job after causing the explosion (which happened because he got distracted when he was talking to the rest of the team. he managed to connect with them and get them to feel invigorated and inspired about their own lives, but then proceeded to forget the safety rules of his own job). He was also fired from his previous jobs - a shipment job that he lost because he got distracted talking to the other sales reps, and a guide job that he lost because he got distracted talking to the mayor and got them both lost. Wade begins to wish that Dewey was still here to guide him, because he’s starting to understand (now, too late) that his father was right and now he moves too much without being able to hold anything down for long.
That’s pretty much why he’s so desperate to help Ember. Wade knew that his father loved him, but was too stubborn to properly communicate with his father and reach an agreement before his father died. In Ember’s story, Ember wants to explore the world and try more options, but Bernie wants her to stay in Firetown, to continue running the shop and preserving their legacy. Bernie is also starting to cough and show signs of illness. Wade’s story parallels Ember’s story, but the difference is that Wade never got the chance to reconcile with his dad, while Ember still has the chance. So throughout the movie, Wade constantly pleads with Ember to talk to her dad, and insists “your dad will understand you. You have to try!” Because he knows that it’s way better than losing your father without ever trying to make that connection.
Real interesting lore to be honest. Wade had SO much untapped character development that the movie didn’t show. Wade definitely is going through some rough times during the movie, but we only see him as a side character to Ember’s plot. This is why I swear the movie isn’t about Ember and Wade, it’s about Ember and her father! The novel is about Ember and Wade! If you want to read the novel, it’s called “Unlikely Friends”, and while it’s a junior novelisation, I absolutely love the language in some passages.
Well the ending is also vague in that like, couldn't fire people sue for the flooding of Fire Town, since it could've killed them? Did they ever repair that dam?
@@disgustof-riley8338the ending in the movie is also incomplete 😢! In the novel, it’s shown that after the flood, they take a few months to rebuild the town better than before with the help of the other elements. Gale utilises her city supervisor role and gets every able-bodied construction worker in Element City to fix the dam and rebuild Firetown. The Fireplace (Ember’s family’s store) is made a historical/cultural landmark (since it *is* the very first location where fire existed in Element City), so it cannot be torn down, only renovated to be safer. Because of this, Firetown opens its doors to the other elements too, which can be seen in the movie when other elements are customers of the store. (Hell, Bernie is even shown trying Water food.)
Ember’s departure by ship to pursue her internship actually only happens several months after the flood, instead of how fast-paced the movie made it seem. It was probably cut because of a lack of time.
That’s 4 whole paragraphs *wow*
Asians are pretty much the experts at explaining things. I've learned this from experience.
its actually so wild how long it took me to realize the two different voices are the same guy
This movie is actually my favourite Disney movie and I really cried watching it. The characters and the lines of the plot running on how love can come from many places really hit hard. Even the part where one can feel like their parent would never understand, because most of us really relate to that.
3:35 I like how wade becomes nervous when he calls him out 😂
It was on point 😂
😂Lol, it's like he's talking to him, so relatable to my brother, when my brother ask the question in that tone 😂
He’s like “Uhhh, no heheheh.”
I'm not Asian (I'm African) but somehow relate to the burdens and expectations of a demanding family. I'm glad some of them are beginning to change and I know it can be hard to cut off ties with toxic family member I'm glad that you've spoken the truth that Asians and immigrants go through and all I can say to my Asian brothers and sisters is I hope you manage to make it out of that toxic environment and just say, "To hell with it!" bite the bullet and go out there and live your life. It's going to be hard and they'll be difficulties but maybe being with friends who've gone through the same will help.
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@@locinolacolino1302 thank you for liking. 😆
“and if we refuse, we get disowned” BAHAHAHAHAAH THAT KILLED ME AS AN ASIAN
Kids, don't be racist 0:18
💀💀💀💀💀
My parents were at one point like Ember's parents but later in my teenage years, they realized that they were losing their daughter completely with their parenting methods. Sure it led to a horror look of me about to end everything but my father sure shut my mom down when he saw me that way. My mom acknowledges her past mistakes as a parent and I can see that in how they take care of my sister even if she is being a jerk at times. So I can relate to Ember a lot and how much she cares for her culture, her family, and her responsibilities she also realizes that she didn't keep any time for herself or knows any self-care at all. Wade just shows her a mirror of what happens when problems arrive and how she is unable to handle them other than bottling up her emotions. A lot of people do that including me, I am still unable to express any emotions other than speaking it out for others to understand. They did tell me everything they did was for us like earning money but they never used that in an argument saying i am ungrateful because they know it was their choice.
5:24
This part was so relatable that I nearly cried
This was a better movie than i expected. Disney did a poor job on marketing the movie.
“Why can’t you vegans just eat some CHICKEN” *explodes cutely* 💀😭💀😭
"Bros got that crying rizz" had me rolling on the floor💀💀💀💀
same dawg
3:18
CRYING RIZZ LMFAO-
Why watch the entire movie when this gentleman can explain it less than an hour
"And if we refuse, we get disowned" Pretty goddamn much🤣
As a daughter of African parents who immigrated to Europe to build their careers. To offer a home and a better future to me and my siblings. (I'm the eldest)
I related to this movie so much cause even tho they may not realise it themselves. The pressure and fear of disappointing them after all they've done for us. Or even forget and letting down our legacy and community. It's real. And I felt so good at the end of the movie. It's the kind of film made for children, parents and young adults. Everybody can relate to it in differents ways imo.
I loved this movie and was so sad to learn that a lot of people didn't get the thematic.
It's not pixar greatest masterpiece but it has definitely become one of my favourite movie from the studio.
This movie is a gem and I hope it gets the recognition it really deserves.
1:54 Well of course he does, he is a babygirl 😫
5:35 Lmao that’s literally why I’m going to school to be an engineer thas crazy
I’m still struggling to face my parents when it comes to what I want vs what they want 😢 the positive reaction of Ember’s parents is what everyone who grew up with Asian trauma needs to heal their inner child
God this is sooo true! I'm Taiwanese and my parents are very strict , and always say" if you don't what what or else something" or " don't you know I gave up everything for you!?" , these sentences are always getting in my head, and I some times even started blaming myself for things I didn't actually do.
My best friend is Taiwanese too!
Holy! I'm Taiwanese too, and yea I can relate
@@pinkieishere I was born in Singapore tho, but 你好! 現在台灣是晚上，所以晚安:）
@@kristy_risky THAT IS SO COOL
你好 :DDDD
晚安:333
There’s this book about a Taiwanese American girl named Mei called American panda by Gloria chao she was forced to go to college when she should’ve been in high school and had an arranged marriage. Her bro was disowned for his white girlfriend
As much as I love your humor and interpretations of various films, hearing you talk about this movie in a more serious light was really nice. Thank you for sharing parts of your own story with your viewers and keeping in mind just how real these kids movies can be.
I’m Nigerian and this movie made me cry in the cinema with the kids. Knowing that your parents dreams are not yours hurts.
yooooo asian parents thinking you should put their happiness first over yours is pretty true my parents always said “do it for make me happy” and they still do since im living with them and usually I dont get much of a choice.
Bro took it personally. Thank you for representing us and giving us a voice 🙏
Honestly I hope you can make more movie reviews/explanation videos like this, like more serious ones. It really lets us reflect on our lives and you explain them quite well.
I was one of the people who didn't have many expectations for the movie when it was being advertised, but once I heard it was an immigrant allegory I got curious and ended up enjoying the movie a lot more than some other Pixar movies because of how real it felt to me. I'm one of the lucky ones whose immigrant parents are very supportive but still gave me some generational trauma, so the parents not being completely toxic but still having those expectations resonated with me. As I knew more about Ember's family I was reminded of my own and the stories they told me of leaving their home and adjusting to America (in my family's case it was a war when they were teenagers). I think it's good that a movie like this was produced, for people to see and understand, both the good and the bad parts of a family life like it portrays.
3:58
Man he really wants Ember's
Fire 𝐅𝐮𝐒𝐬𝐄𝐢́
@@Kazukokit1LOLOOLOLOLOLOLOOLLOLLOLOOLOLOOLOLOLOLO
The accent made it better
This guy is literally funny. He needs more attention
It's not underrated. It's the same plot we've seen a million goddamn times now
Honestly, the, I did this for you is not Asian (or even POC) exclusive, and has a lot more truth than a lot of people let on. My dad pushed me (and still does) towards achievement in math and science because he’s seen where the high paying jobs in the future will be. He does want me to be a doctor, but hasn’t pressured me on that path. A lot of the lifestyle choices he has pressed me to make are a result of things he’s seen in his own life and in the lives of the people around him, and that I have actually found really reasonable (like hold off on dating and courtship until I am set in life, and make sure you have those assets divided and that prenup in place). I personally plan to allow my parents a lot of weight in my relationship when I set out to build one, simply because I know they’ve succeeded, and they’ve seen so many failures both in their family and their friends that they’ll be able to tell me something that I may not be able to see and save me a lot of hurt. Even within my own family I’ve been able to see for myself how my own siblings turn out when my mom didn’t heed my dad’s warnings regarding behavior patterns he saw early on.
I'm so sorry your parents were so awful. You deserve so much better. I'm glad you got away from them, and I hope you're living your best life. This was a really interesting take on this video! Thanks a lot for the insight!
*Narrator:* "Amber can't hold it in anymore and lets out her rage."
*Moans.*
I'm a Korean American and I was exactly in her shoes. My parents and I are immigrants from Korea and we struggled so much to make a living here in the US. At one point in my life when I was in my early 20s, I started dating a hispanic man and that caused so much problem. I struggled exactly what Ember went through, so much self doubt, self hatred, guilt, worry, etc.. It was many years of struggle, breaking up and coming back to one another only realize we love each other so much..We just kept coming back for each other out of love. It took many years till my parents turned around and accepted our love. Been together for almost 10 years now and we are happily married. My husband and I hugged each other as we were watching this movie.. This movie will always have a special place in my heart
One of the best, honest reviews you’ve done. No need for apologies when getting real with the feels.
3:21 the YASSSS I cannot not 😂 lol
3:20 Is this when they said it? Bruhh...I sound goofy ah
6:21 That one I am sorry ya had to suffer through that, mine is somewhat relatable, but my fam were Christian fam, so they really really cared, and overtime lowered expectations.
He swaps from joke voice to not joke voice and I love it.
Bro I loved this. You were so passionate and open all while being hilarious. You have a bright future in entertainment and if your parents don’t want you, you can be my son.
8:05 "kowtow". Usually an act of grovelling to show servitide, respect and submission from a "inferior" to a "superior". So Embers dad doing it back to her is very inaccurate yet heart *warming* .
K ill see myself out
“FiRe fUssY”💀💀💀💀
Lol
4:42 that is so true. it's sad pay with riches or charaisma otherwise get out certainly does feel like the motto. thankfully getting both is possible regardless of who you are but the desparity is still uncool.
5:24 the funny thing is that I’m Asian and I want to become a doctor,
I want to be a doctor for the money
Brilliant commentary. It gets a little better each generation so have hope KC. My grandparents immigrated to the U.S. around 1910 from Poland. My parents were the first generation born in the U.S. & much more modern but still had many conservative beliefs about how you should live & who you should marry. My grandparents were very foreign & old world (Europe) & poor. I'm the second generation born in the U.S. & share almost nothing with my late grandparents except my DNA! My parents had a very tough time with me & my sister when we were teenagers & we weren't even difficult but we smoked & wanted to date! So shocking to them. Anyway, you, the first born outside the "old country" will have the most difficulty with your parents, but you will not be like them so if you have kids, it will be much easier for them. It's the immigrant story around the world! Love this review!!
6:50 I agree with everything as Asian but selfish is just so lame I get cursed as 1)duryodhan (a villainous character in Mahabharata who destroys his entire clan just for his greed, selfishness and being oberly loved by his parents ).
2) pitrkulavinaashi (means destroyer of ancestrial clan)
3) durmadha (confused ignorant being)
4)kumati (destroyed brain of brainless guy)
Things get worse later
I can't give you a hug bc
1) I don't know you
2) bc you are a comment
But here you go *hug*
Maybe somerime violence is given
7:07 the mom scene is still accurate to asian many families are superstitious, referencing to the match making scene
Dude, I'm Asian, and it doesn't matter which country you're from, almost all Asian parents are the same. For me, my mom was the toxic one. I can honestly say that what doesn't kill you does make you stronger.
I loved the movie because I could relate to this, The one part that really made me scratch my head was at 6:07. I've never really considered that whole idea until now and only now realize how crazy true this could actually be.
4:15, that’s Wade’s uncle
*him:* "Amber"
*me:* "Ember! It's Ember!! Get it right.."
I love the way he says "baby" in some of the explained by an asians
1:20 my water i was drinking came out my nose like a freaking sprinkler when i heard that 💀