I WAS RAPED: WHAT I LEARNED
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Laci: what do u know about assault Blaire: I was a victim at 18, Laci:and..
laci was also assaulted as well... she shouldnt judge blaire and you shouldnt judge her
MrEvldreamr Certainly doesn't grant her immunity to judgement, I say.
TheBlue Sentinel
I agree.
She isn't that person anymore she more than likely understands what she said was wrong.
I agree Laci was completely tactless here, but I want to give her the benefit of the doubt as I think she was too caught up in winning points that she wasn't actually listening to what Blaire said. It was also a very unexpected response that probably took her by surprise and she wasn't prepared for an answer so it's almost like she instinctively ignored it without thinking properly.
"No one can fight harder for you than you will for yourself"
blackrave404 quote you wrote? You’re doing poetry now?
Fuck off Odd One
blackrave404
What's wrong with being gay..?
Odd One Fuck off Odd One
Odd One Fuck off Odd One
"Don't pity me, that's gross". I ❤️ you Blaire 😀
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@STRONGEST NATTY IN THE WORLD. ???
That thing is gross
"No one will ever protect you better than you can protect yourself" - a skinny legend
Niklas///Anderson Wow! if that woman in a your profile picture is who you really are, then i would happily serve and protect you with all of my life like a real man i am! 😛😙😚😘
Shah Sevenfold hate to break it to you but I'm a 15 year old boy and my profile pic is of my QUEEN Lana del Rey😂😂😂
Niklas///Anderson Ohh... 😅
Shah Sevenfold LMAOOOO😂
Niklas///Anderson
Ya, I'd be careful about weapons though. Look into gun statistics and him break ins and such, it is really common for someone to shoot a family member thinking it is an intruder than an actual intruder.
My sister was raped and she's basically constantly told she should hate all men because of it, and has been accused of sympathizing with her attacker because she doesn't hate all men. The way SJWs treat victims can be despicable. I'm glad you've been able to overcome it and can speak openly, that takes so much strength.
Elizabeth Elmer i Hope shes fine
What do those people say to men who are raped?
Geesh, that's sick...
Derek Aitken "men can't be raped"
Elizabeth Elmer Good for her for not bowing down to the SJWs. If she hates all men forever, she will never come to terms with it.
I was hoping this was clickbait. This made me feel really sad, nobody ever deserves that. Glad to see you strong about the issue Blaire.
I was hoping it was clickbait too. :(
Not gonna lie, only time I have ever clicked on hoping it was bullshit.
Me too. I was hoping it was something like Blaire talking about something SJWs call "rape" but isn't. Either way, I'm glad I clicked. I think her video was productive in a way practically no other rape-sharing videos are.
How can you tell? Pft Jerk face!
@@unwarysphinx4690 why were you calling them jerkface?
The mental side of rape is WAY harder than the physical part. It's been 6 years for me and I'm still trying to process all the emotions and the anger. Hearing words of encouragement from a fellow survivor is refreshing. Thank you for speaking out and being strong.
Shah Sevenfold Thank you! Hearing kindess from people definitely helps me. Hope you have an AMAZING new year!
Jenna Rose li. Thank you and hope you have an amazing year too! 😊
Did it feel good tho?
~RiceGum
Johnny Gat Wtf man?
Johnny Gat lmao
I was a victim at three, eight, and nine, and now thirteen and fourteen. I'm now fourteen and have reported this. My case is pending.
Edit: instead of 3 separate people it is now 4(most recent is obviously 13 and 14) and my friends still hang out with the guy even though they all know what happened. I'm wondering if they're my friends or not. I feel so alone..
Another edit: thanks for 1k 💕💕
Edit 3: I look back on all these replies when I'm sad :(( it makes me feel loved and supported 💛
Chim Chim I am so, so proud of you
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Chim Chim
stay strong, my heart goes out to you !! ❤️❤️
A h shit I didn't expect people to comment on this. Thank you 💕💕
We love you, Chim Chim💜
This video was demonetized the instant it was uploaded. If you want to help the channel out and fight back against CZcams's censorship, you can become a pledge at www.patreon.com/blairewhite
Blaire White I fucking hate CZcams.
Blaire White I wish I could help. I can imagine how hard it is being demonetized. I want to get to a place with my channel that I can afford to help support others like you whose work I appreciate. Thank you for telling your story ❤️
Blaire White I am so very sorry for the pain that you have to deal with. I've been through hell most of my life. If you need to talk I'm always available.
Can't talk about rape experiences. That could be helpful to someone who is going through the same thing.
CZcams sucks. You don't deserve that at all
''you put yourself in this situation'' this comment section is absolute cancer
i reaily wonder why that is, like for iam actully surprised by it (sorry about my grammar)
that's classic rape culture for people to say that
She didn't say that. YOU are projecting that interpretation. Fuck, you guys are the worst. She's taking her experience and learning from it, but all you have room for is her to be a victim.
I'm right on point with Blaire. Don't tell a victim how to see what happened to them. If we want to analyze what part we might've had in the moment and in our perception of it afterwards that's our right. Don't tell us how to heal and don't twist our words. We don't live in a rape culture. Get over it.
You absolutely CAN put yourself in a dangerous situation. Think about it like this. You wear a seatbelt to not only protect yourself in the situation but to protect yourself from other assholes. Getting black out drunk is dangerous and you can’t depend on other black out drunks to have their wits about them. Protecting yourself is common fucking sense.
Are you interested in helping prevent rape or are you interested in virtue signaling how much you hate rapists? If you just want to virtue signal and don't care about people being violated, then you're doing a great job. If you actually care about preventing rape then you need to realize we don't live in fantasyland and here in the real world you need to take actions to lower risk. We wear seatbelts, we lock our doors, we don't use heroin, we look both ways before crossing the street, etc. Crimes and accidents happen. It's sensible to try to reduce your risk of being involved in them.
I am sorry to hear that. I was molested as a ten years old. I was also sexually assaulted ( raped) at 23. I know how awful it can make you feel, but staying strong is they key and it looks like you are doing just that. Love ya.
lovemybones88 did you ever get the chance to report who did these things to you?
I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope they're in jail. Please Stay Strong its not your fault.
I’m so sorry that that happened to you. Stay strong 💕
lovemybones88 💙
Is it wrong to like this? Like I wanna show you love but I don’t like the fact you were molested please help? Idk if I should like it. I’m so confused? Well I guess imma just show you love through a reply. I’m so sorry, that’s horrible, both of those boys (or girls, female predators/rapists exist, I don’t discriminate) are human scum, don’t ever believe it was your fault. Love ya! I’m so sorry that happened to you!
I got pregnant by the man that raped me. The depression and stress made me miscarry early. I can't imagine taking care of his child. I get awful flashbacks.
I'm sorry that happened, hes disgusting for that
"victimhood is a choice" wow. it's a shame so many people hate to hear that, because it's an incredibly powerful and liberating phrase. you're truly an amazing, intelligent woman and an inspiration for many, myself included
Sailor Earth - Did you watch Blaire's video? She VERY clearly explained what she meant by that, and any of her commenters finding strength in her statement very clearly understood her, and it's not a disgusting mindset at all. That you're so foolishly misinterpreting it so that you can yell at somebody is EXACTLY what Blaire was calling out.
+sailor earth you obviously misunderstand what both i and blaire meant by that, and i'm going to be nice and pretend like maybe you're just tired and not thinking clearly after a long day as opposed to you being a troll or a cretin.
what we mean by "victimhood" is a certain mindset of some people affected by negative experiences (including rape, trauma after non-sexual violence including domestic, mental illness etc., pick your poison) and the way they approach life. being hurt, whether by other people, accident, or just the way you were born, is not a choice (uh, duh).
how you deal with what happends afterwards and how being hurt defines you, however, now, that is a choice. an anti-recovery mindset is a choice, a choice that is sadly made by many victims every day, refusing to even make an effort to recover, prefering instead wallowing in their own misery. because it feels good.
i used to be one of those people myself. but once you realize that ultimately, there's only a certain point to which you can blame external circumstances for the way you are, then embracing the fact that victimhood is a choice is liberating. it places the agency back into your hands, though the price to pay for that is shouldering the burden of resposibility for your own damn self and your own damn well-being.
is this explanation clear and concise enough for you? honestly. how could someone possibly misunderstand what blaire, a rape victim, said, as "its ur choice to get raped or not lulz". good god.
Victim hood in a way is a choice.
@Charmed Diaries you do not choose to be a victim no but you can choose whether or not being one controls your entire life, every action and interaction
Holy crap I think this is the first time i've ever heard someone talk about rape without using emotional arguments. This is super powerful and super insightful. I was raped and if it ever comes up I say "I'm not a victim" and move on and can never quite articulate that no, I'm not man-hating and I don't think every dude is a rapist. This helped me a lot.
Look up "Marra Jane" she talks about the topic very well herself. Small channel but worth supporting.
momoyome not every man is a rapist, but enough of them are to realise there's an issue
Amaia - It's not about men. Rape is always an issue, and it's not gender based.
hla0roo She's not a troll, you're just painfully stupid. 98% of perpetrators of rape are male, you moron. More specifically, for male survivors of rape, 93% of the time a male was the perpetrator. And for female survivors of rape, 98.1% of the time a male was the perpetrator. So yes, it kinda sorta is a huge problem with males specifically.
momoyome People discuss rape with emotional arguments? Emotional arguments like what?
I also experience this "delayed" emotional response with traumatic things. Sometimes months later.
yeah that's the sucky part about being sexualy assaulted or raped. Sometimes you won't report it until years later because for years you supressed how bad it actually was because of low self confidence. But then it's too late, the police can't do anything then.
As a cop, I performed CSI duties at several rape scenes and seeing the pain of the victims was one of the most difficult experiences of my life. I’m so sorry you had to endure such a horrific experience. Thank you for sharing your story, Blaire. You are amazing.
Robert deserved it
"It was hard for me to give myself to someone when I felt like I had been taken" - this hit hard. Amazing video, thank you for being so open and sharing your strength and insight.
p.s. how was the dick lolololol?
why r u homosexual? (nothing against the gays)
I can't relate to that at all and I hate that about myself, I was younger than 5 and it went on for over 10 years, growing up I felt if I was forced into it then I should change it and do it consented with people, I felt like I should have sex with people so I don't have to only be forced and can get over it, now that I'm 18 and it stoped a few months ago I literally freak out, I don't wanna go and have sex anymore I feel gross and I can't cope, I think about it all the time and almost everyday cry. When it happened I tried being strong and coping and now it's over I can't cope anymore.
Maz W This is a bizarre situation & response if I understand you correctly. You should seek help from a professional. There are counselors that specialize in your situation. There are also group counseling programs for victims of sexual assaults, abuse & rape. They can help you face what happened & help you recover & cope in a healthy way. I would do it sooner rather than later. You don't want to hurt like this or remain a victim your whole life. Best Wishes to you. ☺
Becca Chii As soon as you drop the word “Rape” in your video or “Rape” in the title, instantly demonetized. Doesn’t matter in what way you’re talking about it, CZcams will still demonetize you.
I am so sorry that happened to you, I hope you've been on the road to recovery. *Hugs*
BenjiXAddictX4Ever What are you doing here?
lmao literally the most cliched youtube comment section
BenjiXAddictX4Ever she says in the beginning that she doesn't want (any kind) of pity and that she has recovered, after a few years.
Good GOD, CZcams comment sections are well on their way to becoming worse than 4chan! You homophobic racist pieces of shit are the absolute worst.
NiggaNig420 TOONZ
> *so edgy*
At 14 (or 15, I can’t remember because I try to forget) I was sexually assaulted by my ex-best friends brother. I was basically blamed and talked out of telling my parents (my friend and her family kept saying stuff about my mom taking the boy to court and I was afraid that all this would ruin my friendship with the girl, so I didn’t say anything). Six months later I tell my mom after me and the girl stopped being friends. I never got justice. I will have to go through life wondering if he’s hurting more girls. It depresses me.
Same, something similar happened to me, but I do know he still does stuff to girls but like I can't so anything cuz I can't share my story like that cuz that will VM involve me comming out to MANY people which makes me uncomfortable and also I dont like talk about my sexual experiences
Coraline Gage, I'm very sorry that happened to you and that you didn't receive justice.
Are you certain the statute of limitations ran out? I believe some states extended the time period regarding child sexual assault.
I’m so sorry, I can only imagine what that’s like. Stay strong, love 💕
Middle Eastern and rape victim here.
I am so glad I was recommended on your channel and even more so that I had this video among the few popping up to me. Thank you for sharing your story and for the type of contents you post.
Now back to my previous declaration. Sadly, you cannot even imagine how correct you are. Surely there are some women who do dare admitting they were raped, some of them even do get justice done, but most if not all of those who are eventually winning these few cases are going through a living hell first and the vast majority knows they can either be accused for "asking to be raped" or even harmed for either "shaming the family's honour" or "not being worthy anymore". All these "feminists" claiming America has a "rape culture" or stuff like this - they're such spoiled brats, it makes me feel sick every time I listen to their whines about how "oppressed" they are. I wonder how would they like hearing their own father repeatedly saying how "women who were raped were asking for this" and being frightened to look at him in his eyes as he does so, not wanting him to ever find out what happened to you.
It's simply how the human race works. Finding faults where there are none and exploiting the shit out of a system already heavily tipped in your favor. The world doesn't need feminism anymore, feminism died with the third wave. We need some fucking equalism in the places that actually need it. America is more "progressive" than most places.
keep being strong. you’ve earned much respect from me 🙏🏼
Victim blaming and victim mocking and shaming by other sadistic relatives/people worsens the trauma and happens in every country. Most of it is too humiliating to repeat, the best thing you can do is move to a new area and make a career for yourself in any new place whether it's a city or country and don't put yourself through telling people you suspect will behave in this way about it until you've put enough distance between the two of you to cut them off if they do this.
Just because some countries have it worse doesn't mean America doesn't have rape culture because it does
fuck i hate when people politicize rape. i guess we can't just leave it at ''rape is bad''?
I wish I could jump through the screen and give Blaire a hug.
Jack Watkins and a kiss
ha, gay!
Bigby Wolf I can live with that.
omg Blaire :( youre so strong
jsjfdhsj i watch your channel lmao
Summa y'all be stupid
Matt Penna she literally in the first sentence stated that she doesn't want your pity. FUCK YOU
seaweedhoe : Yup, she's so so stronger (for handle it a 2 Big Long C***s)
Fin.
All the rape victims in the comments make me so sad. I wish everybody so much love ❤️ Blaire included❤️♥️♥️
Same here.
Blaire, you have an old soul! Very insightful. I'm an old lady and I am inspired by your maturity and intelligence. New sub for a couple weeks.
Im happy you're ok and stayed strong
Ben Dover
Really bad timimg to use this video to share your story.
Talk about insensitivity and poor judgement.
Just a simple question, I am curious. This is not an accusation or anything of the like. I am genuinely curious and I mean this question word for word as literally just a question:
"Does anyone think Blaire lied just now? Is that a possibility in anyone's mind at all?"
I'm not sure how i can properly answer that question. Blaire seemed honest in my opinion, and she didn't even give out the name of her rapist. So even if she was lying, she wouldn't be falsly accusing someone. However i don't think it matters because, whether she was telling the truth or not, her message that victimhood is a choice and that no one can fight harder for you than you will yourself is still more important.
Thank you Distaxel.
i mean, Blaire herself did say many times that gender dysphoria IS a mental illness, and that she was born biologically male and will die that way. So you're not really wrong i guess
I hate people using rape politically and I honestly wonder how many sjw will doubt your story because of your politics regardless of their always believe the victim thing. I hope rape stops being a political topic soon because it just makes it so much worse for everybody
Bacon
Yeah except she has just used it politically, you do realize that, right?
Losing 30lbs In A Year true but her “political agenda” was stop using rape for political agendas. If you want people to stop it how else will you do it besides telling people to stop it?
Lena Dunham is fucking disgusting.
I hate people who kill for nothing.
Bacon Puppy What do you mean by "political"? How is rape made political?
"No one will ever fight harder for u than urself." Beautiful. Strong. Inspiring. Yahs Blaire. What an empowering statement. Thank u.
"hard for me to give myself to someone when I felt like I had been taken in some way"
That's probably one of the most powerful things I have ever heard
*sees title*
Oh no...
RawrRawr 4 Gannet
My words exactly.
knuckles
my exact reaction aswell
That was my reaction as well
"No one can fight harder for you than you will for yourself."
Now those are words I can frame on my wall.
Took guts to do this, good for you!
+bod smith Except CZcams demonetized her videos.
Maya Bhatt exactly
That's about as stupid as saying it took guts to say you were accused of rape with no content .
but rape is nice
I'm sorry that happened to u
I was molested when I was around elementary age... it’s really affected my trust in people as a whole. I was so traumatized my mind blocked it out until my Junior year of high school, now it’s always on my mind.
you're so strong blaire i love you
sarcastic Harambe worshiper they're obviously a troll don't give attention to insensitive idiots like that
so gay
i can't thank you enough for this, blaire. i was raped last year, it was how i "lost my virginity". you're one of the people i look up to most, and to see how strong and happy you are despite that gives me a lot of hope.
jess ica you didn't lose your virginity if you didn't consent to it
Virginity is about more than skin. Virginity is about the choices you make. If you didn't choose sex, then you didn't lose your virginity.
Brooke On Film technically he\she did
I'm a sense she did as her body now knows what it is to be penetrated!😑 that physical innocence is lost.
However the ability to choose love and become vulnerable emotionally and physycally is kind of virginity thats within her power!
In other words consensual giving herself to someone willingly for the first time is a gift she can still give herself which no one can take away.
Hope you all understand what I'm trying to say.
You look stunning in this video Blair. You are a very wise young woman. Remain a victim? No. I became the Victor. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
It has been over 25 years since my rape; and the circumstances of that, and the ensuing re traumatizing at the hands of many others, caused a deep crack in my well being that has never fully sealed. But what you say about lessons learned is key. The biggest lesson I've learned is to stop obsessing over what I COULD HAVE DONE to get out of the situation.
It was not my fault. I said no over 100 times. That should have been enough. I know others do the same. You have to stop blaming yourself. Love to ALL survivors.
He's a man.
Kelechi Asika Who are you referring to? Blair, the person who raped me, or me? Either way, it's highly inappropriate for this topic, and this comment.
I'm trying to spread positivity online, where it's needed most, but as I now have advanced liver disease, I have lowered tolerance for insensitivity that has no place.
Be a human and have empathy or just use your option of choice, and don't watch this content, and keep your mouth shut when you know you're intentionally trying to hurt someone's feelings. That being said, I wish you nothing but happiness and success for all the days you have left, which I genuinely hope are many.
Blaire is a man, that's fact. He's DNA, genetics and chromosomes say so. There's nothing inappropriate or insensitive about that. It's fact whether you like it or not and fact doesn't care about your feelings nor does it cares about Blaire's. So yes, I was referring to Blaire. If you are a transfemale then that applies just as much as it does to you as it does to Mr White.
Hey, I love UK Garage as well uno!
I'm a truth absolutist so I'm sorry but I refuse to go along with this lie that Mr White is a female. He is a male, was born a male and will die a male. If it's hurtful then my only response to that is truth hurts, fact doesn't care about feelings.
No, surgery would not make someone the opposite sex. According to the Weizmann Institute, we have 6,500 genes in our body that are very specific to our biological sex. So, if a man had surgery to become a woman then even though he will have the appearance of a woman he still has the genes of a man so yes, he is still a he. Secondly ... surgery cannot make Blaire produce milk nor would it allow him to produce eggs, menstruate or give birth. So no, he's still a man. They are incapable of doing what a biological woman does. Thirdly, again ... Blaire has XY chromosomes which are that of a male and surgery cannot change that to XX so again, he's still a male.
wis-wander.weizmann.ac.il/life-sciences/researchers-identify-6500-genes-are-expressed-differently-men-and-women
You say that being trans is not about deconstructing nature ... I completely, totally and absolutely disagree. Natural, organic and biological women are being pushed aside because of transwomen. You only need to look at what's going on in the world. Caitlyn Jenner is getting female awards over women who have done so much more than him, transwomen are being allowed to compete in events for women in sports which gives biological women an unfair disadvantage and more transwomen are gaining roles in the entertainment industry over real women. So yes, it is absolutely trying to deconstruct nature.
PS. The lie of a male or female brain has already been debunked.
www.theguardian.com/science/2015/nov/30/brain-sex-men-from-mars-women-venus-not-so-says-new-study
www.livescience.com/52941-brain-is-mix-male-and-female.html
Calling me an asshole? Yeah, very tolerant ... now you're just being a hypocrite. By the way I watched this video because I stumbled across it I never went out of my way to watch it thank you very much. Age is irrelevant so I don't know why you even brought that up, there are young people who are very clever and there are old people who are very stupid ... again, age isn't relevant. It's not my opinion to call a transfemale a male, it's biology, it's science, it's fact and it's the truth whether you like it or not. Thanks for the 5 minutes by the way, much appreciated.
PS. Sorry to hear about the liver disease (and no that wasn't a joke or an insult, it was genuine)
Raped 3 times in my life. At age of 12 when moved back to Ukrainie, by one guy. At age of 13 by 5 guys and at age of 14 by my boyfriend. Still alive. But totally not ok. I don't hate those people, I just said "ok, fuck them, I won't stress myself cause of them". But problems are now developing more and more. I am becoming asocial really fast and I am really stressed walking in the evenings home, walking alone or staying with stranger in elevator. I am crying at nights. My parents didn't support me in any way, in any situation. So guys, stay strong and awesome. Everything is gonna be ok
Aleksandra Shelestiuk Oh my god, stay strong, boo! You are a survivor& I believe in you. You can do this. ❤
Soundtracks & Music nah nah nah, don't ecer dare to ask a rape survivior again wether they liked it or not. Don't. It is so traumatic and scars the soul for a lifetime. Don't, because it suggests that victims should have enjoyed an event which suddenly shattered their whole life to pieces.
What the fuck how does this all happen to ONE person in such a short time?
TOTFAHRER you remember the "pat you on the back but actually stick a note that says kick me" phase? They were doing it with a "rape me" sticky.
Aren't there any real men in your family that can take care of you?
Holy crap, Blaire. Ironically it took balls to share this story.
She's got both metaphorical and literal.
Geuss she didn't remove all of them
Jack Antaya she didn't remove any of them as far as we know
I think she had facial surgery stuff not genitals
u r 10 year old with anime pic , gtfo
When I read the title my heart sank
Spider-Man I was hoping it was clickbait or like a video making fun of sjws. Wish I was right.
I was a victim at age 7 to 13 yrs. I was groomed, and eventually turned into rape for many years. I'm 55 yrs old now. Most of my adult life I looked for the Cure that I never found. I want you to know that you have helped me through your videos to accept what happened was NOT my fault, and now I don't look at it as I'm a victim. You helped me learn how to be a survivor. So my dear Blaire, I love you for who you are!
It is important to understand the difference between a victim and victim-hood mine set.
Victims do need time to greive and process, depression can be part of this. PTSD is very real and can be hard to get through. "You have to feel/process it to heal it".
We need to be careful as not to see those struggling or reaching out for help as victimhood mind set, when they just really need help and love. (Problamatic in Australia at least).
Victimhood is when you start using your trauma or victimized circumstances to excuse bad behaviour, to punish or belittle people or people groups.
I like how Blaire says that it is a bad person not that all men are bad.
Ann Hope I agree 100%. Thank you for this comment.
Blaire, you definitely have your head screwed on tight. No ambiguity, no excuses just a hard learned lesson. Good going girl.
I think it goes in cycles in a culture. You go into the emotional connection and awareness to address scars, and then emotion becomes commoditized, then you get the 'brecht' look at human interactions which is more distant, then emotionality is distilled, and then you get back to square one.
Spank me grandpa
TheSassyLibertarian dude shutthefuckup. You sound like a triggered SJW. Get the fuck off here. He literally mirrored what she said. Fucking SJW shit
stop with the brain-diarrhea please. i didn't like the way that Blaire phrased it either; this video almost sounded like she said "I was raped, but i learned my lesson." And by the way, I'm not the one who's triggered, bro. Youre the one whos sh*tting your pants over a perfectly reasonable statement that I made. Kind of snow-flakey of you, isnt it?
TheSassyLibertarian perfectly reasonable? Lmao. Nothing reasonable about discrediting someone because of his sex and age. Feminist trash. If anything he probably has more wisdom than you. Second of all whats wrong with learning a lesson from a bad experience? Pretty sure thats how we learn to make better decisions. Idiot cancerous fuck
You're so strong, stay that way
The Channel of Random Video Games & More stop looking for weed late at night
Thanks for the video. Many men accept "no" and move on. Those that ignore "no" and rape are monsters.
If many men accepted no, rape wouldn’t be in the discussion you bald dipshit
I was raped at 12 by a group of boys at a Christian childrens group home a few times they kept getting away with it because they only did it when a certain staff member was working and he would leave them alone to do it (he wanted them to think he was a cool guy btw last I heard they fired him for that) the ring leader of the rape gang is now out there selling his ass for crack but even after all that the scars still remain I'm 38 now and I'm trying not to let that determine my future to this day so for your honesty you have my thanks and sub
slate0 that's horrible. I'm really sorry you had to go through that. Christian groups are usually the worst because of that. I hope they all got what they deserve. Have you kept your faith despite all of this?
You are so strong, this is how a strong woman does it, they don't blame men or society, they use it to make them stronger.
Miss Mayfair 👏👏👏👏
rape is not a tool to make women stronger... all women and men are individuals and therefore process sexual assault differently as individuals. there is no one right or wrong way to deal with trauma. that said, i applaud blaire for opening up so candidly
Miss Mayfair Strong man or woman because men get raped too.
Scorpion Sub-Zero true
acb 1994 uh I never said that? I said she's very strong for using her trauma for good and not letting it stop her
I'm extremely glad you were met with support and love from those you trust and love about the incident. I wish that was the same for very many other victims of rape. From my experience, I received very little to none support, especially from my school, friends and to some of those I trusted enough to share my experience with. Many did not believe me, and some tried to shift the blame onto me for what happened. Knowing many people go through this doesn't make me feel better about what happened or worse, but I'm glad that you've been incredibly brave enough to share this!
You are a very strong beautiful and smart woman
Mark Martin she's a he
@@jasondelaloire9167 fuck you. You prob didnt even listen to the video. Just leave.
@@jasondelaloire9167 can you not
Oh for fucks sake Blaire doesn't need white knights defending her. She's quite capable of standing up for herself.
Jason deLaloire If u go around in public calling her who visibly looks like a she, a he then you’re just going to look like an idiot fam
Please, try not to see it as "this is just life". There's no excuse for rape.
Sure there’s no excuse but she took her experience and accepted it because she couldn’t change what happened to her
CZcams is disgusting for demonetizing you. I'd say this is a far left swing but I honestly don't know. I remember reading about how Riley Dennis has been experiencing demonetization on her videos too. Instead of starting her own CZcams channel, maybe the CEO can answer for why this site is cutting off the people that bring in the traffic.
Kelly Fulton it's just shitty bots. it's hitting beauty people, right wing vloggers, and liberals
*sigh* Why are you acting like only "anti-SJW" are being hit? Are you living in a bubble, like this is a conspiracy? It's been affecting everyone because CZcams runs in a shitty way.
It's the same reason why some CZcamsr's videos don't appear on your notifications. It's just flaws in how CZcams operates.
Osmosis Wright please read full comment before responding. You clearly missed the part where I acknowledged that probably isn't * just * anti feminist channels
It isn't just "probably" it's a fact.
It’s not left or right wing related... it’s just CZcams being shitty. Anyone covering any topic slightly controversial gets demonetized, it’s ridiculous. I understand CZcams wants to keep advertisers happy, but at this point daytime tv is more controversial.
See this is why I love you babe. Instead of swimming in self pity and blaming men and blaming society, you took steps to help yourself move on and also how to be more preventative of rape. So to all the ladies who say "Teach men not to rape!", take some notes. Thank you for opening up Queen ❤❤❤
People say "Teach people not to rape" because it's the source of the problem, not because they blame.
alpaca pomme People say "Teach men not to rape" because yes they wanna play the blame game on a whole gender instead of the individual who did the crime. And maybe I'm crazy but I'm pretty sure most rapist do not need to be teached because they know its bad, they know what they're doing but they just don't care. How about we teach moms not to drown their kids in a bathtub? Both are dumb statements but a majority of sjws and 3rd wave feminist only get pissed about one
I've been raped twice and this was very powerful for me to listen to. It was last year fairly close together , The first one was nearly identical to the experience you had, and after I swore I would always defend myself. But the second one happened when I was black out drunk and I couldn't defend myself so I held a lot of guilt and still do. I'm working on the trust aspect, and men still make me anxious but I know it's not all men. Your perspective on this really helped guide my train of thought to a more positive direction and reinforced what I knew I had to do. Thank you.
only came across this video now. thank you for the positive message. much needed for me to get a wake up call.
This was brave Blaire❤️❤️❤️
That's horrible would you have to go through I in my personal life I have two female friends who went through this and I also know of my best friend's brother who was accused of false rape because he didn't want to sleep with the woman because he want to be a good father and husband and it's horrible anybody could do anything like this to people including other violent crimes but even though this was a horrible thing at least you saw some silver lining in it you learn and got stronger from it which is something I respect immensely
Mrfox456 my brother was accused of rape too; he had to get a lawyer and everything. No one reimburses you for those lawyer fees.
Kyle Rainer so sorry that happened and it sucks that you still have to pay for everything and the person who made that accusation usually doesn't get punished and even if your acquitted that label stays with you even if you didn't do it
And usually the person who accuses really doesn't get punished I don't know if you have heard but recently a woman falsely accused a soldier everybody believed her but this is a good part there was proof that she was lying and the judge told her I am tired of people claiming face rape because it hurts others and you also you destroyed his reputation Etc the judge force her to pay million of dollars as an example that people shouldn't do this I'm going to go look up the story and see how much he got
That was one of the longest sentences I've ever read.
Mrfox456 2 friends and your brother? Where do you live? Hell?
Just a simple question, I am curious. This is not an accusation or anything of the like. I am genuinely curious and I mean this question word for word as literally just a question:
"Does anyone think Blaire lied just now? Is that a possibility in anyone's mind at all?"
see! us females aren't paranoid for wanting to meet up with strangers where people are around and not at night!(and preferably not hours away from relatives and friends). I've told my BF about what my mother has nailed into my head about precations over the years and he had never heard of it. Guys are blessed in that sense that they don't have to fear walking alone as much or after dark. No idea if u were a female back then or still a guy but whatever precautions are always good and I'm sorry that happened to you. I wonder if Blaire was taught precautions since she was born male..... Hmmm must be weird to suddenly have to adopt the female paranoia when transitioning cuz to me it was drilled into my skull sinse birth so I already knew...
Males are more likely to be physically assaulted or murdered while alone.
@James Miller Damn. Why males getting murdered unless you know the person or is in a gang? Are you talking about innocent men or men that are in gangs cuz that difference is huge. I think girls are more likely to get drugged and then being shipped to another country to be sex slaves aswell.
+zebnemma it has nothing to do with being in a gang. Evil people just want to hurt others for no reason. Evil doesn’t discriminate
Everyone should be paranoid to some degree when they leave the house.
I think 18 was pre transition for her.
“Victimhood is a choice.”
Did I tell you that I adore you?
Life is all about hitting you hard. The question is, are you going to stand back up or are you remain on the ground?
Life is learning how to take a beating and learning from it. :)
I've been sexually abused multiple times in my life, and videos like this make me feel so much less alone. I can't thank you enough for just understanding and being brave enough to speak about it. So proud of you❤
I needed someone like you to look up to. :)
Nice try but I know that's not a lamp, blaire
bamboozled those are anal beads
Ur DISGUSTING
She’s talking about being raped so this is a nice time to joke about her lamp huh?
@@chadleyjohnsonson4865 I saw it as a joke against the people who disagree with Blaire and appreciated the comic relief, but maybe I'm wrong? I hope OP wasn't trying to be jerk, anyway.
G A I A how is it a joke about people disagreeing with her? I don’t think they meant anything by it either but it is a little insensitive
You're so honest, blunt, and strong. I just made a pledge to you on Patreon. I can't send too much at the moment, but I'll do what I can.
Your serious videos make me cry
It's not supposed to make you cry, it's supposed to make you stronger on her behalf.
Skinny Guy Don't cut yourself with that edge.
i cri evry tim
I am Sancho I was raped my my hand
Random Commenter same
Takes a lot of strength to share something like this, a lot of strength to react towards it as you did. You don't deserve pity, you deserve respect.
I'm actually very relieved to hear you share your story (not that I would ever wish for this to happen to you). I don't mean to compare my situation to yours, because you have no doubts. But I had a situation when I was 18 where I was assaulted in a bathroom stall by someone I trusted that followed me in there. I was extremely wasted, but it still wasn't a situation I (literally) asked for, enabled, or expected, and I also told them to stop the entire time. I guess for me though, was that, being in a very incapacitated state and in and out of consciousness, I didn't do a lot to DISable it other than use my voice after it started happening... I ran away afterwards. My mother was more or less the one that got me to acknowledge it because she could tell I wasn't okay. The MeToo movement had me even more confused than I had ever been about it 10 years later - and regardless of what you would classify it as - had me feeling like the perp didn't do anything wrong, and that I just willed it to happen. I don't know that it happens as often, but rape is assumed to be violent 100% of the time. I still don't know what to call my situation, and am always *afraid* to victimize myself for fear of crying wolf. Like, genuinely OCD about it. Even if I know in my heart I was wronged. (I also wasn't his first victim. He was some what of an "artist", if you will). But whether it be assault or rape, I know it wasn't consentual, and I could very easily see a situation with absolutely no violence that is as black and white as a violent situation. The MeToo movement and victim culture has, at the very least, seriously undermined the feelings and actual severity of anybody with a similar story, or even worse, God forbid.
I'm very sorry that this happened to you and that it seems like your inner voice sometimes tended to try to justify what he did. I think that a lot of people don't fight back physically, because that'd make it worse or because it's their boyfriend, or because they are intoxicated. Of course we think of some kind of harsh physical violence when we hear the word "rape" but in the end I'm sure that it often isn't like that and the victim then questions if they weren't raped, because they "didn't do enough against it". What I do to prove myself that words are enough, is to ask myself "If a girl or a boy would say no and ask me to stop if I started a sexual activity, would I stop without hesitation?" and the answer is yes, immediately. This always reminds me that every decent human being would stop and take the hint. Someone who doesn't stop, knows that they do this against the consent of the other person. And thereby it can't be anything else than rape.
@@arianebekett1957 I appreciate the way this was articulated. A deepest thank you for taking the time to type your comment, because your simple perspective has allowed me more clarity on it than perhaps I have ever gotten.
Thanks for sharing. Getting past rape is different for everyone. Having the opportunity to identify w someone else's experience helps in that process. You are generously offering that, and that is amazing. Love you💗
Bravo Blaire. We need to hear more stories like yours. People who have gone through shit like this yet refuse to play the victim and the 'let's blame everyone' game. Fantastic!
You will always have our support and my support. We love you, thanks for telling us the story. Glad you're strong
I've never been sexually assaulted personally, but my heart goes out to people younger than me, the same age as me, and older than me who have gotten sexually assaulted. All of you are so strong, and I wish the best for every single one of you. It isn't any if your faults, only the rapists should take blame for their horrible actions. The most important thing is to see a therapist or seek someone close to you to help you move on from the past, or at least heal the pain some. I wish the best for you, amazing and gorgeous people ❤️
I was raped in kindergarten by one of my own family members its really sad that theres literally so many people in our everyday community who are rapists or criminals
Posted a few seconds ago.. already has dislikes.
I disliked only because of the rape part.
I think people are pressing dislike because rape sucks
Seaphunk ️ fuck those idiots
Some people don't want to hear about someone's story. And that's hard to know that people will allow their discomfort with a topic block a survivor from speaking. But clearly Blaire has many supporters, and that's the best thing
Every video has dislikes. People are reading way too much about likes/dislikes.
So I want to start my comment by saying thank you for sharing your experience. It means a lot to survivors for public people to speak out about their experience and really helps us to know that we aren't alone. I just want to tell you/people reading my comment about my experience. I was raped when I was 16 at a party. I had passed out drunk and my friends left me alone upstairs in a bedroom. A dude found me unconscious and raped me, and my friends found him and pulled him off. After that, i was blamed by them for getting too drunk, they stopped inviting me to parties, and the dude i was dating at the time didn't believe them or me about it. I'm not saying America is a rape culture like some middle eastern countries, but America is not kind to all rape victims. If we did anything that they can use to blame the rape on us for, they will blame us.
I am sorry for what happened to you and I hope you are in a better place now.
* I'm not saying America is a rape culture like some middle eastern countries, but America is not kind to all rape victims. If we did anything that they can use to blame the rape on us for, they will blame us.*
This part struck me the most and in a way it is true. This is why I don't get tired of saying this: No one is going to protect you in this place, you should take your own precautions to avoid tragedy. In an ideal world no one would have to fear about getting raped or murdered for money, but the US is different, the country is changing for the worse and it is better to avoid getting drunk and or have the means to fight back (guns, pepper spray, self defense classes, anything really). I live in NY and have been sexually harassed by women in the train, school (female classmates) and one time I had 2 drunk women and a hooker following me back home when I was in Highschool (had to find another route and run, had I fought back I could have been sent to prison since more often than not the law does not favor men). Even in my home country I had to avoid older classmates (and some old women) because of the daily harassment. Anyways my point is to protect yourself and limit the danger you are exposed to. Please don't think of me as blaming you for what happened, you were unconscious and young so it can't be blamed on you (I mean everyone is reckless and likes to have fun at that age). Well, I know I might be repeating myself but I hope you are in a better place. Good day.
I'm sorry. Hate that it happened hate the response. I responded to a friends account of her rape when she was 13 going on 14 (she was almost 17 when she let it out) not with anything of the sort of blaming her or thinking ill of her. I took my feeling about it out on him, then she and her friends took their thoughts about that out on me. Fuck me, I'm glad I had a rock solid alibi. She even was upset to begin with that he might do it so another girl, I fixed that problem. I did then, still kind of do believe it is right up there with murder, unintentional manslaughter at the very least. Happy you're alright.
Blair, you got my support!! I was raped too but at the age of 20. I know the pain but I also know that coming out of it wasn't easy. I continue to share how I've felt and learned that others are not alone. I wish I can hug you and tell you, you're a strong one to keep going! I love this!
Wow thank you for being so vulnerable and strong. It’s not your fault what happened. It’s good to cry 😭 especially for people who don’t usually cry. Tears actually release stress but it’s very important to reframe your trauma looking back. I think you’re great and stay safe.
I have gone through that when I was 15. It's been almost 6 years now and I only told one person, my current boyfriend, cause I was always afraid that since I met him online they wouldn't have believed me. Now I am mostly ok aside from nightmeres from time to time. But I also experienced what you did in regards to problem being intimate. Even now it could happen that everything is going ok but then all of a sudden I get turned off if something reminds me of it. It's actually nice to know that someone else has gone through in a similar way
Niko Faershee Aww.. you're a gorgeous person
Stay strong my friend. Evil happens and I'm so sorry that it did but clearly you are better and can overcome
Actually you just told everyone on the internet.
JackstandJohnny yeah but nobody I don't really care about strangers
Elenora Talia you are 15. You are useless to society as well
I hate the way feminists waterdown rape and sexual assault from severe traumatic experiences of violence to regret, thanks for talking about this topic Blaire.
Edit: I also want to say that Blaire is right on self-defence, as someone who has experienced sexual assault, self defence is the best way to prevent harm, not 'teaching men not to rape'
The data shows otherwise- Angry Foreigner has a good video on this. The good news- it's possible to teach young people about boundaries and most of them will WANT to do better. Research on rape prevention classes is very hopeful. Self-defense unfortunately isn't so hopeful- a lot of people freeze up in shock or the rapist selects a victim that has little chance of fighting back. So I vote do both, but we teach kids not to steal or hit. Why not teach teens to respect sexual boundaries?
Forest Bird I meant the attitude that girls shouldn't try to defend themselves because boys should be taught not to rape, helping people to defend themselves and carrying pepper spray or learning a martial art can't hurt in this situation really because ultimately somebody will rebel against their conditioning (but I do get your point and think it's valid, I think consent should be taught as well as self defence)
In my experience, I actually did freeze but eventually I resisted him and prevented him from going further so I can easily see both sides
In most countries, if you bring any kind of weapon with the intention of protecting yourself, it's considered a planned assault. I was assaulted by a guy who was weaker than me; Acting fast was his method.
alpaca pomme oh, I don't know if the law works like that where I live because I haven't heard heard of that before. And I know that from your experience resistance may not seem the most effective method, and that may be true, but in my experience it was the best way in my situation
It's so inspiring to see how you're processing this while carrying on being your awesome self. The abuse may not have made you stronger, but your reaction to it DID. Thanks for the advice, I start self-defence courses soon.
Wow, the strength you have and the horrid acts which you've gone thru. I'm not going to say sorry for what you've been thru, because if it wasn't for the negative you wouldn't be this strong now. I have also been raped and assaulted and I used that to fuel me to be who I am since mine started at a very young age, four, I didn't know life not having it happen. My last resulted in my baby girl. She saved me, she was my youngest and the smallest little beauty, but she was the one who ?ade me realize I wasn't a hole and a heartbeat, which my mother said I was at 4, I was a Mom, a wife, now a veteran, ex paralegal, now an Oma (Grandmother) to three gorgeous babies. Strength is found in the oddest and worst areas but it's what shapes us. May God bless you gorgeous girl, no one should have to face what you did but I'm glad to have run across this.
You're such a strong, inspiring person Blaire. I'm sorry that happened to you. Love you ❤️❤️❤️
stay strong blaire. you're doing great in staying stable.
Check your profile picture
TABOO MY FUCKING AS YOUR A GROWN MAN FUCK YOU
Adolf Hitler
Who are you talking to?
Samuel Edward: As if the criminals will give you the time and chance to call 911? When someone are pointing a gun on your head, do as they asked, no other choices. I always hide a tiny gun in my pocket, but i am a big strong man, have not met anyone to rob me or rape me yet haha
I totally agree with your views, especially regarding not letting another person control your happiness.
It took me close to 15 years to accept what happened to me, and I'm still in support groups, seeking therapy, and anything I can find to help cope with the resulting paranoia, panic attacks, insecurities, and crippling anxiety. My partner is still dealing with his shit, and it's been over 2 decades for him.
You're such a strong person, Blair. I admire your honesty regarding this topic - especially regarding the shock of having to deal with such a traumatic event. I empathize with that entirely. And I respect you immensely for having the willpower to not let it control your life and your future happiness.
Maybe it's the beer talking, but I admire you, and think you're a beautiful, smart, caring person, despite not knowing you personally, and having only watched a handful of videos. Suffice it to say, I found this video incredibly helpful, and inspirational.
Thank you, Ma'am (if I might all you that ;P) Should you ever visit Manchester, I would totally offer to buy you all of the Bailey's ice cream, and indulge in some kitten therapy. Perhaps hustle some pool, whilst getting shit-faced to 80s pop.
I am 14 and I was raped when I was 13 by a family member. I tell myself when I think about it sometimes, "He doesn't even matter to you. DON'T let it effect you."
I was staying the night at his house (the 1 night my brother wasn't with me). It happened at around 3-4 AM because I woke up at 4 AM and he wasn't on his couch and my underwear was at my ankles with a white stain. I just remember freaking out. I later visited my mom and she told me that he had raped her too, the year before. My dad found out and cried (as he had experienced it too by a different family member) and cut off my brother and I staying/seeing him. My brother was hysterical and was crying, I later found out he was doing drugs after he had found out and he got help for his issues. I haven't opened up to my counselor about it yet because I don't feel emotions at all. I am left with a couple of questions about the whole experience, Why? What did I do to him for him to do that to me? Now, anytime I see a man, I just imagine the worst, so it has taken a toll on me, but I am a very strong person, and I will and am getting through it.
Please know that you can get away from anyone who hurts you. You're a brave young person
1) I think your mom should have warned you against him, but that's in the past now.
2) Talk to your councellor. You might not feel anything, but you just wrote yourself there are issues stemming from it, so help could be useful.
I love your serious videos but this is heartbreaking
Thank you for making this. I used to be upset that I wasn't a "prefect victim" because I could put quite a bit of blame on myself, but as I got older I realized that I was actually too young and naïve to know how to get out, that I know now, and that no one else was blaming me (it was statutory but even still most people understand that forcing it until they like it still counts as rape).
For people who fall into the "grey area," it's especially important to learn what went wrong and how to move forward. Pity only gets you as far as acknowledging "this was bad," and then you have to work to make sure you take as much from the experience as possible and grow from it because you can't change that it happened.
I'm glad you've learned to stop blaming yourself, I know it's not an easy thing to do. I was from age 8 to 9 when it started happening and didn't do anything about it because he was an adult and an authority figure. I blamed myself for not telling anyone or doing anything about it for a long time. It's hard to come to terms that nothing about shit like that is your fault.
Amen sister. I see we are similar in the way we deal with sh*t. I get a lot of flack for being “cold” or “suppressing things” or being “blunt”. There’s a difference between choosing to dismiss things and not let them effect you forever and not Facing them. Thank you for explaining the difference in how some of us deal with stuff and not making me feel like I’m weird. Ps: I was 20 when it happened to me. I’m 38 and haven’t cried. I don’t think it’ll happen, and I’m ok with it. I also vowed to not allow myself to be a ‘forever’ victim. The “V” word itself makes my left eye twitch.
You're smart and have a sense of perspective about dealing with life and not blaming an entire group (men) for the behavior of one sick member of that group. I wouldn't be able to be that analytical about being victimized, where I could just let it go. I don't know what makes for differences in people's ability to process and get over things, but I think there may be biological differences along with attitudinal ones.
Yeah, her ability to move past it is amazing.
However not judging a whole group based on one individual should be a given. The fact that it's something noteworthy makes me sad for the world.
She was a man.
What a powerful , inspiring woman.
#dedicated
Your an angel for posting this with such a cold headed and helpful message. I wasn’t raped, but I was taken advantage of and I couldn’t get it out of my head. It’s been 3 years and I think about it every day. Thank you for this video and how can I change my viewpoint to move forward and leave this behind. Wish you all the best.💕
I love you, but saying “ew don’t pity me that’s gross, this is just apart of life” almost normalizes rape, especially for the girls who watch this video younger than the age of 18. Obviously no harm no foul but I don’t want someone to watch this, hear that and think they just have to get over it. Love your videos bye
Sadly here in Denmark we have one of the strictest weapon laws in the world. ANY kind, and i mean ANY kinda of "weapon" is illegal. Even pepperspray is illegal. Anything except your hands is illegal, and in most scenarios so are your hands. You cannot carry anything what so ever to defend yourself. There was a case recently where a 17 year old girl walking alone had a man grab her and force her pants off her, about to rape her she pepper sprayed him and she was facing jail for carrying and using an illegal weapon. There is nothing you can do here to legally defend yourself in any scenario pretty much. You're just supposed to let whatever thats about to happen happen, and then call the police and hope for the best.
I mean "badass" as in raping, murdering, and pillaging everyone they meet. Vikings was way before anyone civilized.
Yes the title as Rape & Murder champions of the 10th century is a title we hold dearly as a nation.
Akinto710 Carry pepper spray anyway. All the streetwalkers in Denmark do, they're not completely stupid.
Well prostituion is legal in Denmark, but the ones who do it legally are generally not on the street. And if you're into illegal prostituion anyway, yeah, a pepper spray probably wouldn't change much if you're already into some shady shit. I don't know anyone who has pepper spray. Sometimes you hear stories about people going to Germany and buying it but that's about it.
The thing is i would love to carry pepper spray or other kinds of self defense, but i wouldn't want to deal with the consequences. For me, a 6'7" guy, the changes of me getting raped on the street is pretty minimal and in Denmark you don't really worry about criminals being violent like you do in America. In America if a guy wants your wallet he pulls a gun on you and tell you to hand over your wallet. In Denmark, the guy just tells you to hand over your wallet or he'll punch you or something. Criminals generally aren't armed unless you're talking about gang stuff. And criminals also know that no civilians are armed so therefore they don't really bother with weapons either. If someone mugged me, broke into my house etc. i wouldn't really be worried about my life. So if i had pepper spray and fought off the guy i would get a fine and jail time if it was a repeat offense. So generally as terrible as it sounds it better to just let whatever happens happen and deal with your insurance afterwards. Carrying pepper spray or any kind of weapon in Denmark is "Possesion of an illegal WEAPON". It's a fairly serious charge, and if you use it, even worse.
The only thing you can do in Denmark is perform a citizens arrest but you CANNOT do anything uneccesary. So lets say your partner is getting jumped on the street and beating to a bloody pulp, you can break it up "with force of needed", but once it's broken up it's assault if you hit the guy who assaulted your partner as it is "uneccesary".
Same with other kinds of crime, if your bicycle gets stolen it's illegal for you to take it back if it has a lock on it that isn't yours because then you would be stealing or damaging someone elses (a thief with your stolen bike) property.
If someone stole your car you can, and i quote "Knock on their door and try to talk them into giving you your car back. You cannot use threats or violence or break into their garage or property to take it back."
Another quote "If a thief breaks into your house you can threaten him or punch him to save your property that he is in the process of stealing. You CANNOT hit him with for example a bat, or shoot him because you're not allowed to do anything except the neccessary to "responsible" to defend the attack. You can however hit him with for example a bat if your life is in danger."
So you can like hit him with a bat AFTER he stabs you or shoots you, not before. If you aren't in direct life danger, you can't do anything pretty much.
What the hell happened to Denmark? Surely the politicians there know that the criminals aren't going to obey the "no weapons whatsoever" law. I hope nowhere in the US stoops to that level of stupidity. The state/law enforcement cannot possibly help all the people who are/would be hurt if they couldn't fight against their attackers.
Thank you for sharing this Blaire. I am a therapist and I work with many people who have been raped and abused. It's wonderful that the people in your life have been loving and supportive. Many people are not as fortunate. Many of the people I work with have been blamed and shamed for what happened to them. And these are young men and women right here in America. I know you don't like the term "rape culture" but I ask that you consider that not everyone recieves the same support and love when they share their experiences with rape.
I just love how you are and how you think and how courageous and wise you are, nobody should suffer at the hands of others, ever
You're stronger than most people, Blaire. You make the world better with your pressence.
My best friend was sexually assaulted once. It wasn't full on rape, but she was restrained at this guy's house, and he forcefully groped her and kissed her against her consent. She managed to get out of it by telling him her parents were expecting her, and he panicked and she was able to get away. She asked him via messages why he did it and said several times it wasn't okay. And the guy, in those messages, flat out confesses he did do it, and the sadist even blames her for what happened. I, and her parents, and her (mostly male) friends told her to go to the cops. We insisted for weeks that she needs to contact authorities. She has evidence. She knows where he lives. But she ran into a feminist nurse who told her that telling the cops would be pointless. My friend was told that nobody would ever take her seriously. Instead of being supportive and trying to help, this so called feminist pulled her whole 'rape culture' spiel and scared my friend so bad, she never came forward with it. I only found out months later that she had never contacted authorities, and that this was the reason why. Sexual assault cases are best handled by reporting them right away. But she waited so long. I'm scared that it's too late now, and that this mam will never be brought to justice. All because of a feminist fear monger.
I really respect the way you went about talking about this topic
I was molested when I was 12 by my "friend" if it wasn't for the people around me I more than likely would've been raped. I know this video is old but it made me feel confident to finally tell my molesters family of the incident because for the longest time I felt I would be made fun of for letting myself be vulnerable and touched by someone because people close to me called me a whore after the truth got out so I denied the incident and only my brother knows what happened since he caught the molester in the act and helped me.
Oh my goodness I am so sorry that’s terrible! I’m glad you’re happy and strong now. Keep doing what you’re doing, and spreading the word about the issues you speak about!
holy shit Blaire, there aren't words. I'm glad you were able to move on from this, it isn't an easy thing to overcome. i know it took years for me to talk about it too. love you so much!! i really appreciate your thoughts on this, self defense is so important and not enough people realize that 💛💛💛💛
Yet you don’t cry and whine about it. Super proud of you Blaire. Fuck CZcams for demonetizing your channel. Love you💖
I was a victim at 14. The dude was 19. In don't like to call it rape because I was basically "OK" with it. But at 14 you can never say yes. It traumatized me. It happened more then once. In regret it deeply. I wish it didn't take my first time.
I'm sorry for what happened to you, no one deserves that. It is horrible and appalling. I'm glad you were able to move past in your life and I think it's really great what you doing, you are using your channel to help reach out to people and make a difference. Great job, I hope everything goes well for you.