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"Char log kya kahenge ? " 4 words that screw the life of Indians and Pakistanis alike .
Haha uff yes hate it
Me as a Clinical Psychologist observed that we should also see the other picture of the story and find the perspective of a girl as well that why so do these things .. may be she's depressed or stressed and have suppressed emotions which she needs to be vent.....
Perfectly summed up. Need ur suggestion ,I am from India, MBA from an IIM, decent package and decent EMIs too😂 Family is asking me to get married, had a bad breakup in the past but somehow made up my mind to get married. I have seen a failed marriage of my parents.Registered in one of the reputed matrimonies. Getting decent matches, This weekend I am going to meet the 1st girl. Not sure what to ask, i am self- aware- i need a working woman, jo bura waqt mein saath bhi de, Inshallah. But, what should I ask her, which factors should I consider, kaise parkhu? Yahan pe divorce ka bht masla hai, alimony mangti hai. I am so confused. Can some1 pls help me? Mein yeh bhi chahta hu, ki hum dono ghar ka kaam kare, mulazim bhi rahega, but hum bhi khana vagera banayenge. Matlab , thoda economical bhi hona chahta hu... what if she doesn't want to do the household chores at all, kaise pata chalega yeh sab. Pls help me. Any articles, books, or ur own experience to help me.
As a fuckboy I have observed going down on a woman to give the best orgasm really helps. Shocking that most men find it disgusting. You have to return the favour If she gives you a great head
Agreed. Generally women's emotions are suppressed Cox of family pressure as well as societal pressure. Women of our society are actually depressed and nobody tried to vent
If she is depressed, God gave her tongue, she should consult doctor rather than making his spouse life miserable. you feel me.
@alexalbon6095 yeah right, in most Desi households if you tell u are depressed you will be dismissed as being unreasonable. Here psychological problems aren't taken seriously. Things are changing though. But don't you think she needs her partners help and support for that.
Hi Junaid bhai, I'm a bit fan of yours and your videos make a lot of sense but this time I totally disagree with your opinion. Let me explain...
1. Every human has self respect, no woman would want to marry a guy who is openly against the marriage. She must've been blackmailed as well. And we all know women have vary less say in who to marry as compared to men.
2. Her parents in law are taking her side and she doesn't take care of herself....what does that mean? It means that she's working 24/7 as a maid at their home, she'd be doing all the khidmat for his parents (maybe for his siblings too) and she'd be taking good care of his home. A person looses interest in her/him self only when his/her life is crap.
3. Extra marital affairs are never justifiable. You used somebody as a hook and then cut that person off. A big red light. That guy is either really selfish or confused.
4. Since the guy is 31 and assuming that his wife is of his age, 4 years ago that girl would he in her prime age, he married her definitely with a very less mahar since it's Pakistan(10-50k mahar max), kept her with his parents, made her do work which was never her responsibility, had extra marital affairs, wasted 4 years of her life (Since man is the head of family) and now he wants to leave her. What a joke.
MY SOLUTION:
1. Get your wife a separate home
2. Decrease her workload
3. Be nice to her
4. Give her respect and value her as your wife. Not as a less qualified person who can't get a competitive job
5. Give confidence to her.
6. Do this for 6 months and see the magic
NOTE: YOU HAVE TO MAN UP BRO, YOU HAVE TO CLEAN YOUR MESS. RUNNING AWAY FROM THINGS IS NEVER A SOLUTION. READ THE RIGHTS OF HUSBAND AND WIFE IN ISLAM. GIVE YOUR WIFE HER RIGHT AND DEMAND YOUR RIGHT FROM HER. LIFE WOULD BE AWESOME.
This is the most sensible comment...
Totally agreed!
I was expecting this to Junaid Bhai as he always comment on things so sensibly. 😢 Already men are so vocal about their things please don't spoil a life by encouraging this type of so called gentleman jinki forcefully Shaadi hugai thi. Ab jub hugaai thi and u couldn't take stand on that time please own your responsibilities and be a gentleman instead of running away and spoiling life😢😢
Such women are stupid and they let people to manipulate them
I thought the same thing. This was a very one-sided story. If the guy was so vocally against the marriage you can imagine how he much effort he actually put in the relationship. He unfortunately sounds like the typical unfaithful man who blames everyone starting from the wife to the parents instead of taking accountability for his extramarital affairs.
Extra martial affairs can’t be justified. Just get separated if you can’t live together.
agreed. if marriage is not working, that does not give anyone a pass to have extra matial affairs.
But what to do if your partner isn't cooperating with you on any ground?
@@AbdulRehman-ey7rn its really hard to imagine someone who wouldn’t cooperate with you on any ground, communication is the key in every relationship.
but even then if it does not work, then do a divorce! instead of having extra matial affairs.
Hum chaty hein ke hamara life partner hamare mutabiq chale us se pehly humein apna bhi analysis karna chahiye k kia hum Apne Rab ke mutabiq chal rai hein.
Apne apni taraf se puri koshish kar li ab app dua karein raaton ke uth ke aur Allah ki khatir apne spouse se khair ka maamla karein.
I've been a fan of yours and this is the worst advice I've seen. What's the wife's fault?
The wife is this man's responsibility. All of us should be considerate of others feelings affected by our actions and the attitude that it's not my problem is found in the worst of humans. When the father kept the sword on this boy's neck and asked to either cut the head or bow the head, then it was he who chose to bow the head. In your house where your parents and you play a circus, you should not be inviting any guests to say "We don't have food and it's not our responsibility if no one else gives you dinner."
Pleasure is in taking and happiness is in giving. If there's anything you've learned which needs to change in society, then help others who're planning relationships. As for your case, live your responsibility because you've already taken it. It is you who accepted it. If you were forced, why did you act soft? Forces can prevent someone to get married but how was the force applied to get married? There's a different problem underlying here. Acting soft is a cause of your situation and that's what needs resolution.
Youth are who any nation relies on. Life is tough and so are you.
Wese toh zyada bolna nh chahunga. Since Mai marriage and stuff se dhoor hon. Alhamdullillah 3 behnen hn Mai Ghar ka bara hon. Or Allah Tala k zarye waseelay se ap ne inspire Kya mjhy. Mai individually per believe rakhta hon and Maine unhen inspire Kya chezon ko earn krne mai. Ab ek ki Shaadi hogai Alhamdullillah. Or ab woh apne husband ko chezen earn krne Mai help krti hai Alhamdullillah qk uska nazarya uski thinking uska exposure Deen or dunya ka woh sb change hogya and wajah ap ho Junaid Bhai. ❤ Second wali ki b hojaigi INSHALLAH and woh b ab earning krhi hai. Sath Meri walda b earning krhi hn and Alhamdullillah Mai b ek din Mai 3 jobs krha hon.
Cousin marriage can become so toxic. Sometimes leading to relationships being destroyed beyond repair. It would be interesting to hear the wife’s account. Can’t be easy for her😢
I dont see how specifying cousin marriages to be toxic is justifiable.This can happen to anyone,cousins or not.
@@PR0KZi If you read the comment again. It’s very clear that I say “can be” As opposed to all cousin marriages. All, being the operative word here.
@@PR0KZicousin marriage is scientifically proven to have on average lower IQ children let alone other recessive genes/diseases. And the cycle continues to get worse when children marry cousins so on.
@@basilb2007 its just a few percent higher of a chance than marrying someone not related.You think it makes a difference.And also,the chance of a genetic mutation increases if this is done by every generation of the same heritage.Its just a percentage.You are right at your own word but deney waali zaat Allah hai
How can someone say yes to a woman he doesn’t want to live with. It’s just hilarious that some people can’t even take ownership for their own life.
Family pressured marriages are a curse in Pakistan. I have not seen this in other international Muslim communities, like Turks or Malays.
Yeah Malaysia is more progressive Islamically in these matters. Pakistan is quite backwards and seems keen in staying that ways
Once someone told me, "Mard kabhi majboor nahi hota". I have my reservations about it. But, it fits in this scenario.
He was at fault and should've stood up for himself BEFORE marriage. Horniness is not a valid "majboori".
I am also facing this problem ( big personality clash with her) due to family pressure I’m just finding excuses that I have no job and career and now I’m out of country and trying to pass the time because Baro ko mere batt smjh nae arhi....💔
Shakal wekh te kum waikh
Are Junaid Bhai kia maswara de rahe ho . Itna important maswara both sides ki story per depend karta. there r so many girls who are forced to marry unlikely person but they accept it .this brother is getting very intolerant. If she doesn't budge ,he could take steps to initiate but breaking a family in ego is not justified.
Absolutely
Great.... And that point that if one Person improves his lifestyle from this video then we would think that This video done its job
Bohat Acha bataya app nay 10 out 10 bhai thank you so much
Due to family pressure I have also plunged into an unmatched relationship, he was so toxic and had very backward mindset, there was at least 10 years of mentality gab between me and him, he was empty of ambitions with no direction of life. I stood up for myself to get rid of that trap and Alhumdullilah I m extremely happy now. Allah has blessed me with so many opportunities in life. If you committed a mistake , go and fix it.
I' m a Local Journalist , 43 now never get married never have any physical relation ship because of Religious norms .My parents did not supported me to get married .I Tried my own level best but did not succeed ,And did not get my own home. .After my father's death ,I'm the only who is carrying the budget of my family .I 'have three sisters and three addicted brothers Just one sister is married .I'm the elder child of my parents .People don't likes my family so they don't want any relation with us even our close relatives. What should I do?
to solve these issues .
No no no sir... this time you are surly 99% wrong sir.. kindly review this case and make another video... coz some innocent person could suffer her whole life... dont take this burden on your shoulder.
Great 👍
Im going through the exact same thing Junaid Bhai , except for the fact that I haven't consulted any psychiatrist yet 😷
Love from India junaid bhai 🇮🇳
Gun point pe tau koi nhi Nikah namay pe sign krata. Us waqt koi stand nahi lete and baad main they are like oh I dont like my wife.
That man could have left the house for some time to make his family understand.
Damn.
This is exact my story.
Although, I am just on stage one, trying to convince my parents and relatives that It might not work.
Wish me luck.
بلکل ہاں مت کرنا بڑوں کو پتہ نہیں کیوں سمجھ نہیں آتا۔۔۔ اڑ جانا لڑ جانا ورنہ پوری زندگی برباد ۔۔۔ لڑکوں کے لیے تو پھر آسانی ہے ہمارے معاشرے میں لڑکیاں زیادہ بھگتتی ہیں 😢
I think that boy has to understand that girl in deep and try to find out the ways that makes her happy, but why he will try! He is actually interested in some other girls. It means he didnt wait for the perfect timings and situation he just tried to move far away from his betterhalf anyhow.
If he totally accepts her as her life partner anyhow, then he should give her 100% to understand the beauty of her wife and the things get automatically sorted
It just my way of thinking and i am not a girl 💞
u cant accept ice when u r fire
Same applies to her. Why can’t she be the woman he wants? He is providing for her after all so it’s more on her to be in tune with him rather than the other way around.
Yeah it always the man's fault. LOL. you guys need to press your reset button
I'm facing almost same issue but I'm not married yet.
Mny apni family ko inform kia that we've zero compatibility jo k mny is aik saal m hi dekh lia hai. But nahi, family aur parents kehty hain dekh lengy kr lengy, abhi time hai, bnda change ho jaye ga, waqt do etc etc.
Bs Allah sb k haq m behtr kren.. Ameen
Kabhi bhi mat krna werna sari life rogi kabhi bhi nahi kerna
Never get married with that person.. i beg u to not marry that person if you guys have no understanding & compatibility.
Sir most important thing for not getting motivation is depression .
Sometimes your partner is in deep depression and you get annoyed on his / her lack of interest.
At least get consult from psychiatrist before deciding for future .
Everyone say pagal ho jo psychiatrist ky pass jaa rahy ho ! We need to change that .
woman can sense even the slightest bit of dislike or repulsion that her sppouse might feel towards her. Trust me women are so good at this. She knows he doesn't like her. She knows he doesn't find her attractive. She knows he has relationships with other women. She probably depressed severly. Therefore she has no motivation. Be a decent man. Start taking care of her. Compliment her (even if you have to lie) take her on trips and fun events. Sleep together . Start healthy physical intimacy. Say she is beautiful AND SHE WILL BECOME BEAUTIFUL,help her in chores, encourage her no matter what. Make her feel wanted and valued and then see how your life changes. Just stop thinking Me,me me. Give a couple of years to her .
Can someone explain to me how I can get in touch with Junaid bhai.
Please advice people like these marriage counseling
Allah inke Liye Asaani kre ameen
bro zaat k msly hain, naam k msly hain, khandani paisha kya ha, title kya ha, language kya ha, or ye sb chutiye dkh rhy hain insaniyat ko hata kr, and this goes both ways larki ki traf se b or lrky ki b
These are the things I'm scared of marriage like what if she doesn't vibe the same
اسلام میں نکاح کی بڑی اہمیت ہے۔ اسلام نے نکاح کے تعلق سے جو فکرِ اعتدال اور نظریہٴ توازن پیش کیا ہے وہ نہایت جامع اور بے نظیر ہے۔ اسلام کی نظر میں نکاح محض انسانی خواہشات کی تکمیل اور فطری جذبات کی تسکین کا نام نہیں ہے۔ انسان کی جس طرح بہت ساری فطری ضروریات ہیں بس اسی طرح نکاح بھی انسان کی ایک اہم فطری ضرورت ہے۔ اس لیے اسلام میں انسان کو اپنی اس فطری ضرورت کو جائزاور مہذب طریقے کے ساتھ پوراکرنے کی اجازت ہے اوراسلام نے نکاح کوانسانی بقا وتحفظ کے لیے ضروری بتایا ہے اسلام نے تو نکاح کو احساسِ بندگی اور شعورِ زندگی کے لیے عبادت سے تعبیر فرمایا ہے۔ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے نکاح کو اپنی سنت قرار دیا ہے۔ ارشاد نبوی ہے: ”النکاح من سنّتی“ نکاح کرنا میری سنت ہے۔(۱) آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے نکاح کوآدھا ایمان بھی قرار دیا ہے ”اِذَا تَزَوَّجَ الْعَبْدُ اِسْتَکْمَلَ نِصْفَ الدِّیْنِ فَلْیَتَّقِ فِیْ النِّصْفِ الْبَاقِیْ“ جو کوئی نکاح کرتاہے تو وہ آدھا ایمان مکمل کرلیتاہے اور باقی آدھے دین میں اللہ سے ڈرتا رہے۔(۲) نکاح انبیاء کرام کی بھی سنت ہے۔ ارشاد ربانی ہے ”وَلَقَدْ اَرْسَلْنَا رُسُلاً مِّنْ قَبْلِکَ وَجَعَلْنَا لَہُمْ اَزْوَاجًا وَّ ذُرِّیَّةً“ (اے محمد صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم) ہم نے آپ سے پہلے یقینا رسول بھیجے اورانہیں بیویوں اور اولاد سے بھی نوازا(۳)۔ اس ارشاد ربانی سے صاف معلوم ہوتا ہے کہ انبیاء کرام بھی صاحبِ اہل وعیال رہے ہیں۔ارشاد نبوی اس طرح ہے حضرت ابوایوب انصاری فرماتے ہیں کہ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے ارشاد فرمایا رسولوں کی چار سنتیں ہیں: (۱) شرم و حیاکا خیال (۲)مسواک کا اہتمام (۳) عطر کا استعمال (۴) نکاح کا التزام(۴)۔
نکاح کی اہمیت ان احادیث سے بھی واضح ہوتی ہے۔ حضرت عبداللہ بن مسعود سے روایت ہے کہ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا: ”اے نوجوانو! تم میں سے جو نکاح کی ذمہ داریوں کو اٹھانے کی طاقت رکھتا ہے اسے نکاح کرلینا چاہئے کیونکہ نکاح نگاہ کو نیچا رکھتا ہے اور شرمگاہ کی حفاظت کرتا ہے (یعنی نظرکو بہکنے سے اور جذبات کو بے لگام ہونے سے بچاتا ہے) اور جو نکاح کی ذمہ داریوں کو اٹھانے کی طاقت نہیں رکھتا ہے اسے چاہئے کہ شہوت کا زور توڑنے کے لیے وقتاً فوقتاً روزے رکھے(۵)۔ اسی طرح ایک مرتبہ جب بعض صحابہ کرام نے عبادت و ریاضت میں یکسوئی و دلچسپی کے پیشِ نظر آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم سے اپنی قوت شہوت کو ختم کردینے کی خواہش ظاہر کی تو آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے ایسا کرنے سے منع فرمایا اور شادی نہ کرنے کو زندگی سے فرار اختیار کرنا قرار دیا۔ اس لیے کہ اسلام زندگی سے فرار کی راہ کو بالکل ناپسند کرتاہے۔ چنانچہ ارشاد نبوی صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ہے: ”وَاللّٰہِ اِنِّیْ لاَخْشَاکُمْ لِلّٰہِ وَاَتْقَاکُمْ لَہ وَلٰکِنِّیْ اَصُوْمُ وَاُفْطِرُ وَاُصَلِّیْ وَاَرْقُدُ وَاَتَزَوَّجُ النِّسَاءَ فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِیْ فَلَیْسَ مِنِّیْ“ بخدا میں تم سب سے زیادہ اللہ سے ڈرنے والا ہوں اور تم سب سے زیادہ اس کی ناراضگی سے بچنے والا ہوں (لیکن میرا حال) یہ ہے کہ میں کبھی نفل روزے رکھتا ہوں اور کبھی بغیر روزوں کے رہتا ہوں راتوں میں نماز پڑھتا ہوں اور سوتا بھی ہوں اور شادی بھی کرتا ہوں (یہ میرا طریقہ ہے) اور جو میرے طریقے سے منھ موڑے اس کا مجھ سے کوئی تعلق نہیں۔(۶)
She is maybe having physiological problems and hurts scare she may had in the past cause her Trauma. This very common in our Asian culture due to shame factor - We do not disclose our weakness or admit or challenges.
0:43 going through the same 😢
It's just a movement of emotion..
Alag hona is not the solution ya to shadi nahi krta bt jab osk naam lga lia ha to nibhao.....wrna larki k kia bany ga
Cheating is never justified. Kinda disappointed that Junaid swept it under the rug.
Sir Ek podcast Sayyad Muzammil Sir ek Sath please
Jb shuhar bahir kanhi masrof ho to hr waqt comparison krta rhy ignore krta h bat bat py gusa or beizti krta h ye khud bahir involve rha h is ny Kya koshish ki osy change krny ki muhabat deta to sb change hojata osko be asra chor k konsi khushi pa lyga ab krli h shadi to jitni mehnat or twaja bahir dy rha h or khud ko mazlom smj rha h itni wife py dy to sb theak hojyga
The parents inadvertently fuck everything up most of the time .
You can not justify this act. There are so many ways to say no. You give him answer in an islamic manner. What our prophet muhammad swt said about in this situation
There is very big responsibility when you give someone marriage advice
Junaid Bhai how to contact you? I want to discuss something important going on in my life and want to take some counseling.
See a counselor/therapist please not him
bhai yeh bekar banda h islam ki dhajiya ira rha h yahan beth k
u should connect with some islamic scholars llike tuaha ibn jalil and someone else which u follow.
Do logon mein koi clash na ho ye to koi ideal situation hogi .. perfection doesn't exist in any relationship,
I have two suggestions for you (husband)
1st suggestion:
dono ko as a couple kese parhy likhay mature behavioural psycologist k pas jana chahea taky vo aap dono ki is marriage mein counseling krain .. there is a possibility k aap dono ka relation itna acha ho jaai jesa k aap without counseling khud expect nhi kr rhy
2nd suggestion :
As I don't know wife's side of story so
as per your (husband's) situation your wife is not cooperative so instead of having extra marital affairs and ruinning your own aakhirat ! don't divorce your wife ...instead go for second marriage. Aap b khush aur aap k ghar valay b khush ..
Aur aap ko is baat pr pareshaan b nhi hona pry ga k aap nay apni wife ko tb divorce di jb vo helpless thi aun ko family support hasil nhi thi....
Is silsilay mein aap ko apnay ghar valon ki help b leni chahea k vo aap ki first wife ka khial rakhain jb aap vahan na hon as it is obvious k aap nay dono wives k hakuk puray krny hn ..🙂
Islam aik khubsurat religion hai.. dusri shadi mein yhi hikmat hai k aesi situations mein aap ko pehli wife ko divorce nhi deni prti ..is mein aurat ka bhot faida hai jesa k hamari society mein log aap ko divorce ka mashvara deny to aajaty hn mgar divorcee say shadi krny koi nhi ata ..
Junaid bhai- thanks for talking about topics like these.
People like you give me hope for Pakistan 🇵🇰.
Keep up the good work.
I am going through same situation
i really love this girl but can’t marry her and not even forcing her to marry me in future as i have seen so many red flags in her which will hurt me if she became my wife. sad but i have to face the truth
Pls can you tell me some of the red flags and how did u find out those. I really hope u take out time to respond . Really confused. I am 29. Lots of love from India
HELP HELP HELP
Perfectly summed up. Need ur suggestion ,I am from India, MBA from an IIM, decent package and decent EMIs too Family is asking me to get married, had a bad breakup in the past but somehow made up my mind to get married. Registered in one of the reputed matrimonies. Getting decent matches, This weekend I am going to meet the 1st girl. Not sure what to ask, i am self- aware- i need a working woman, jo bura waqt mein saath bhi de, Inshallah. But, what should I ask her, which factors should I consider, kaise parkhu? Yahan pe divorce ka bht masla hai, alimony mangti hai. I am so confused. Can some1 pls help me? Mein yeh bhi chahta hu, ki hum dono ghar ka kaam kare, mulazim bhi rahega, but hum bhi khana vagera banayenge. Matlab , thoda economical bhi hona chahta hu... what if she doesn't want to do the household chores at all, kaise pata chalega yeh sab. Pls help me. Any articles, books, or ur own experience to help me.
Talk to her clearly about your requirments
Responding as someone who views our culture from the same lens as Junaid. You can meet as many women as you’d like through the matrimonies, key thing is you must get to know the woman before committing. Working woman or not, she must have respect for you and your values. Remember a woman is a compliment to your life. She is not your life.
I think it should be a man decision. I am glad that this guy was aware that he needs a working women . In our socity the main concern is self awareness that what we want. if you want someone to keep the household right (which is okay) if you are earning good than find someone who is raised like it. and if you need a working women marry someone with a drive. Please do not marry a doctor and ask her to sit back home because you are not only runing her life, you have ruin her seat which could have been utalized to someone who may have served the humanity.
i will marry a doctor and force her to home because poor woman are idiots and greedy and ugly and they dont know how to live life
doctor woman are more educated and better so i will force her to be my house wife and take care of me
Perfectly summed up. Need ur suggestion ,I am from India, MBA from an IIM, decent package and decent EMIs too Family is asking me to get married, had a bad breakup in the past but somehow made up my mind to get married. Registered in one of the reputed matrimonies. Getting decent matches, This weekend I am going to meet the 1st girl. Not sure what to ask, i am self- aware- i need a working woman, jo bura waqt mein saath bhi de, Inshallah. But, what should I ask her, which factors should I consider, kaise parkhu? Yahan pe divorce ka bht masla hai, alimony mangti hai. I am so confused. Can some1 pls help me? Mein yeh bhi chahta hu, ki hum dono ghar ka kaam kare, mulazim bhi rahega, but hum bhi khana vagera banayenge. Matlab , thoda economical bhi hona chahta hu... what if she doesn't want to do the household chores at all, kaise pata chalega yeh sab. Pls help me. Any articles, books, or ur own experience to help me.
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brother we live in a gynocentric world and woman are oppressing man .
india ma law relaxed ha alimoney ki payment kar na zarori nai
you are Muslim and were in pre marital relationship
@@nimfall Omar bhai, kaise ho? Mera sawal de do... bht zyada confused hu yaar
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your age ????
any woman intrested in you at now
Before marriage, meeting in presence of mahrams is allowed in Islam but we're not availing this opportunity.
There should be frequent family outings before nikah in which the to-be-weds must be present. Some of the outings/campings/tours should be with one brother or one sister only. This will allow them to have friendly conversations, jokes, debates, discussions and it can show each other who they are intellectually.
This social practice is what's missing in Pakistani culture today. After nikah, it's too late to build understanding of others weaknesses or demands because the commitment is already made. The consequences we're seeing is the absence of availing this opportunity which Islam has given.
ap ye bat 2018 ki kr rhy hen hmari itni educated family main abi b yhi hy
Jitna Dukh Apnay Daitay Hain, Koye Nahi Day Sakta! Kash Hum Apnoon Kay Sath, Ghairoon Wala Salook Na Karain!
Sorry to say jisney mail ke hai wo mard he ni hai talaq dey ni skta lekin haram rishtah dosri aurat sey rakh sakta hai Phele mard bano phir dosri shadi krna Jab tak mama boy ho kuch ni kar skty zindagi mey
@12:30 same situation, un k ghussa krny pr me ne memes bhjna hi chor diye.😔😔
Jab dusri shadi hogi to first wife ko second wife ko dekh k ehsas hoga ke unho ne apny or shohar k sath ziyadti ki hai... plz husbands wife relation is a blessing please realise husbands is a great friend. 👍
I feel sad for the girl! Unsupportive bhai behen and a cheater husband.
Bechari ladki, me hota to us ladki ko aur bhi jyada pyaar deta cause she is a introvert person, she needs love more than anything...
I've seen her kind , my own father is like that & trust me , if I was allowed to unalive (cuz you CZcams algorithm) such individuals, I would . These people have no desire to improve themselves or their lives and their entitlement prevents others from progressing & moving on as well.
has anyone told u .. u got doppelganger in India.. n thats Amit Shah ur older version
This story reminded me of pakistani drama Humsafar. Men need to man up hoenstly. The girl doesn't deserve a coward & selfish man like him. May Allah swt make it easy for her and for so many other women out there who suffer at hands of own families and then they get husbands like these as they dont even have stability to take stand for themselves cuz in our society women are married off without support, independence and maturity.
Kis ny kaha pasand ki shadiyan nhi totati.. advice dyny sy pehly ye bata tou dein k love marriages ka kitna kabara hota hy.. zira google tou kr k dekhein ek bar k divorce rate love marriages mein zaida hy ya arrange mein
Yaar eik to Cousins marriage kam kar do khatam nahi kar sakte to 😂
How to contact u for guidance please
I understand that this guy is dealing with a lot of unwanted shit and I agree he need to have another marriage by his standards BUT you said its a good thing to have extra marital affairs? Mr.Junaid sorry to offend you but consider a scenario in which you are not fulfilling your spouse requirements so it means your spouse also gets a pass to have extra marital affair right? its a good thing you said eh...??
Marriage is not easy
us bande ko thodi bht humanity thi k bechari kaha jaegi agar use chod dia to .. apne uski pareshni bhali bhati cheen li ye keh kar ki ye to uska prob hai
The generation X and earlier didn’t had such issues. Most men never thought the “compatibility” aspects. Wives getting ready with make up and all were not an expectation.
Men were the bread winners but homes were run by their wives. Now expectations are artificially enhanced and a sense of disconnect among spouses is increasing.
A marriage is a bond which you made in front of Allah by making Him witness that you will look after each other till the end of your life. Period.
I believe there is only 5% of people who could have genuine reasons to have divorces but in this case I simply can’t see any solid reason. Having extra marital affairs means the guy was already corrupt in his mind so how can he feel satisfied from his wife and how can his wife will love him?
Tip for the girls: search for a guy who loves his mother and take care of his sisters.
Bet on him and you will never lose.
The moment a grown man says "Qubool Hai" ...the woman's emotional, social and financial wellbeing is his responsibility. No matter who pressured him ,who blackmailed him. It was him who signed the papers. Take a stand before ruining another person's life. Unsupportive siblings are her problem?? Then unsupportive and stubborn parents are his problem.
How can we email you?
The suggestion you are giving to that guy is to end the Marriage is not Good at all . This issue can be solved by talking to the girl who is married to this guy . Larki k agy peechy koi nhe ha aus k parents b nhe hain siblings b supportive nhe hain or mousoof keh rhy hain k larki ko chor do .
He said he talked to her many times and the girl has said she cant change so it is a helpless situation
Aur usko shabashi derha hai uske affairs per..
His ideology is quite liberal lately ...
V good message
Such hypocrisy from junaid... He laughed at the first question and blamed him but made the girl in the las question look like a victim... she cheated on him and didn't tell him about it before marrige..
Hhmmmmm..... Only marry the one you want or don't get married at all
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ye kon sa tarika ha k ab chor do , us k siblings supportive ni hn to us ka problem ha tmri responsibility ni ha , ye ab us ki hi responsibility ha kue k us ny shadi ki us orat sy , jb is larky ko phly hi pta tha k hmri compatibility ni ha to us wqt mard ka bacha banta r saaf saaf mna krta k mny shadi ni krni to ni krni .
ye log phly sir jhuka k shadi kr lty n bad ma in ko yad ata ha k hm ni ry skty .
is my us larki ka kia qasur ha , ho skta ha us k sath koi nafsiati masla ha , us ko psychiatric ki zrurt ho r wo betr ho jy .
junaid bhai ! mazrat k sath, ap galt mashvra dy rhy hn k chor do , us ka problem ha , asy ni hota .
ye bat shadi sy phely sochni chayiea thi.
Extra marital affairs hongee tou u will need psychiatrist,bad deeds bring problems
Can't Judge Junaid bhai From One Side Picture...
In our society we spend our energies on our children and due to social pressure we randomly choose spouse .Hur ghur Ka musla
Have you listened to other side?
Bewi k veran dil ko abad kry khushi muqadr bn jay gi
Junaid Bhai with all due respect here I would be disagreed when you say k aap to os wqt raazi nahi thy aapki responsibility nahi hai. Why? My heart cries out man 😢He accepted that relationship infront of Allah and he'll be accountable as his parents are. We can't see if someone is signing the papers forcefully or what. He has right to get married to another woman but his wife is his responsibility and he'll be answerable if he does any injustice by leaving her. As you mentioned she wants to live with him and doesn't want to leave for whatever reason. This is so sensitive and you can't suggest anyone to leave a person when there is no parents and anyone else. Please don't do this with any woman 😢😢
Jab aik larka apni marzi sa shadi nae kar sktaa to wo biwi b na rakhe to acha ha q k abhi wo shadi k qabil nae hua,,,ab rona mukadar ha mazeed rohoo
bhai mujh sy krwADO SHADI I AM READY
Wo husband h osy janna chahiy k wo ayesy ku h osy pyar sy normal krna chahiy muhabat sy change kia ja skta h aurat ko osy confidence dy wo osy ye ehsas dilata rhy ga k wo sath rehna ni chahta osy disrespect kryga to wo kyesy interest lygi ho skta h is ki shadi sy pehly ki koi bat os k dil ko lg gai ho k hony wala husband mjy psand ni krta or ye oska reaction ho
I have an idea for this person, you can divorce your wife and remarry her with any of your relatives or any person in your community by the agreement of both.. I just don't know where such people came from, Sometimes I think marriage should be banned in Pakistan, people really don't know the meaning of marriage... if ypu tell someone this happened in the islamic republic Pakistan they will actually laugh on you.. o come on yr,,, marriage can nevcer be done without the approval of one of the two persons involed, but in Pakistan it's done by the choice of parents or families, o come on yr its not your turn, not you atte getting married.
Essi kon si achievement hai jo nam doob nae sakta😂😂😂😂
He should still fulfil her obligations. She has no other support nor a good career it seems. Why cause pain and suffering? He can get a 2nd and or 3rd wife and continue to keep this relationship. Zani and haram way but not the halal way to honor ALL the women and get married to someone else ?
Lawyer or Lowyer ? A or O ?
Laawyer hota hai bhai😂😂
Pakistan is a failed result of 'Desi parenting' ..
Chaipdi bhai ko khala ki beti desi ama aba nay. Apnay sar say utardi aur hath saar karlie.
Suggestion is not good as u giving😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
From where I can get your email? I need to share something which is bothering me and I am thinking of suicide, I know its haram in Islam but I am tired of this relationship
I think youre looking at such matters in your liberal POV and what youve seen in western world... Yes the guy has the right to b happy, but you also have to understand that our culture isnt perfect,..you gave props to the guy for cheating and encouraged him to let her go, but you do realize how bad it is for divorced girls right?
Shes an introvert, so what is she supposed to do for rest of her life?? Stay single and miserable??? Why did the guy agree in the first place to get married?
Idk but not satisfied with the advice bro
Perfectly summed up. Need ur suggestion ,I am from India, MBA from an IIM, decent package and decent EMIs too😂 Family is asking me to get married, had a bad breakup in the past but somehow made up my mind to get married. Registered in one of the reputed matrimonies. Getting decent matches, This weekend I am going to meet the 1st girl. Not sure what to ask, i am self- aware- i need a working woman, jo bura waqt mein saath bhi de, Inshallah. But, what should I ask her, which factors should I consider, kaise parkhu? Yahan pe divorce ka bht masla hai, alimony mangti hai. I am so confused. Can some1 pls help me? Mein yeh bhi chahta hu, ki hum dono ghar ka kaam kare, mulazim bhi rahega, but hum bhi khana vagera banayenge. Matlab , thoda economical bhi hona chahta hu... what if she doesn't want to do the household chores at all, kaise pata chalega yeh sab. Pls help me. Any articles, books, or ur own experience to help me.
Mr Junaid change your way of thinking .... Divorce is worst act of humain on eye of ALLAH SWAT .... So be advice to understand other by they way of Islam not by the ranginiya of dunia .... he making afair with other now at this stage if women try to talk with other person to understand then woh tu bad kirdar banjaey gi .... Jo hogya naimat samjho usi ko thek kero .... Apny apni Marzi SE shadi ki larki k Sath reh k samjh k Islam main aysa nhi ... Ab JB hogai tu ik dosry ko samjho .... Woh larka phly hi itnaa naa or choti soch Wala ummed shakas hai jo biwi ko bahir ki zinat or apna fashion bana chahrha .... Itni umer k bad bhi relation ship Rakh Raha tu us ki agey ki naslain bhi aysy hi hongi k Dubai main Philippine k Sath reh k shadi ker Pakistan ly ayegi aur kahey gi yh apki Bhao hai ... Spa main thi Meri understanding hogai shadi kerli
Pakistan k murd ko jab tak unk ma baap baby bana k rakhain gaye tu unk decisions bhi phir wohi layain gaye… murd banay khud settle ho aur apnay Faislay khud lay… Usko maa baap ki financial support bhi sari zindagi chahaye… unki property ka jump start bhi chahye… so yeh tu phir ho ga../ Baqi duniya main murd itna mazloom nahi jitna pakistan ka murd hai… bcoz Usko mehnat karnay se dar lagta hai aur comfort zone chorna nahi chahta…
افسوس کی بات ہے مگر ہمارے معاشرے میں لڑکی کی ناں کو بھی ہاں سمجھا جاتا ہے ۔۔۔ یہ کہہ کے چپ کروا دیا جاتا ہے تمہیں نہیں پتہ یا سب ٹھیک ہو جائے گا ۔۔۔ سب کچھ خد بہ خود ٹھیک ہونے کی خواہش نے ملک کا بیڑہ غرق کر دیا ہے
To ye sala aysi bv lye Jo bahr kama ley sab Kam krly or ye khud Ghar me Bethay bachay paida kry ghardari kry..or larki iska pait palay Ghar chalae
Exactly kuttay harami ki baatai sun k to lagta hai k yehi chahta hai
Zabardasti ki shadi toh islam m hai hi nhi.. Pasand ki shadi is the only shadi in islam.. Zabardasti ka nikkah toh islam m mana b nhi jata
It's not a suitable solution. Shadi karna sa phela sa soch leta.
Khud wife k liy Kya change kia h zindagi m is ny wafa to kr ni ska khud osny ye harkat ki h k bahir mo mary. Ye dosri k bad b kuch arsy k bad yahi kryga wife ko koi sunny wala chahiy wo ni chorna chahti yehi kafi h sath rehny k liay.competibility rakhny walo ki b divorce hojati h ye to koi pemana ni hoa ehsas or mohabat sy pesh any sy koi insan b ho pigal jata h wo to phr biwi h
Unhn nai us larki ko bahu kyun bnaya??? Woh usse beti bhi to bnaa sakte the.... Larka bali ka bakra bnaya gya beech main
The worst thing that has happened to Pakistan is the boomer generation.
This Guy is not mentally stable
Boys and girls love is nothing... They guy who was weeping was fool
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