Joel Kim Booster: I Knew I Was Gay Before I Knew I Was Asian
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- čas přidán 30. 01. 2023
- Joel Kim Booster (stand-up comedian, writer, actor) opens up about bipolar disorder, his early sexual identity realizations, and the challenges of living at the intersection of a variety of cultures. He discusses the complexities of being adopted as a baby by a white American Baptist family, his tumultuous teenage years of finding himself while grappling with his deeply religious and conservative parents, and how the arts helped him with his coming out process. Joel details how his bipolar diagnosis helped him reframe his life experiences, his “productive” hypomania, the benefits of medication, and why it can be difficult to let go of mental illness. He reveals why social media has been the biggest stressor on his mental health, how the depiction of Asian men fed into his depression, and the frustration and freedom that comes with being “stereotypically gay.” Mayim breaks down the different types of bipolar disorder and how the condition manifests.
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Thank you Mayim, Iam so happy,you exist. Best regards from Vienna
As someone with bipolar 2, this was so relieving to hear you two talking about losing it on people like flight attendants and knowing I’m not the only one who has fought this.
It's amazing how more we are different, the more we are alike. You have great guests. You're the genuine article.
Wonderful podcast. Thanks!
I think I most enjoyed this episode. I can really relate to Joel. I was raised in a religious cult. I am severely dyslexic (among other learning disabilities), and the cult taught that any abnormality such as dyslexia is a sign of demonic possession. I have vibrant green eyes, which is unfortunately a second sign. Those, in addition to the fact that the brainwashing didn’t work on me, did not bode well for my life until I was 18 and could leave. The old saying about the toughest battles and the strongest soldiers…I’m just glad everything is okay for him now. ❤️
Indeed!
A girl with green eyes? What does this mean?
What province is she from?
Hunan?
Her mother?
Her father?
He must be a holy man.
I must know.
I really appreciate how Joel focused on hypo mania in this episode. I don't struggle with bipolar myself, but I while growing up my mother was dealing with it for the first time in her life. I really find it helpful to hear how hypomania feels firsthand, and I appreciate you guys talking about the downsides of it, and maybe helping audiences to understand how damaging it can be to someone with bipolar and the people around them. Thanks!
joel kim is incredibly funny!! loved the episode ❤ once again would like to point out how nice it is to hear about mental health challenges from people we admire and the way mayim (and jonathan) lead these episodes just feels really…”normal”. just people hanging out and talking about their experiences.
Hi, Mayim - just wanted to tell you that your podcast is wonderful and life changing. Be nice to Jonathan - love you both. You matter! Remember - you are more than enough!
I’ve never had someone describe manic irritability and that was eye opening.
I love love LOVE your interview style, and Joel's entire presence. And your voice is so soothing on my brain. Thank you for making this series!
Thank you so much for this! Such a wonderful episode. So much value in what was shared here, resonates with so many of us. ❤️✨
Another amazing episode!! Thank you! I only wish we could get more episodes per week! ❤
Love Joel, his comedy is so great! Thanks for having him on!
I agree with all the accolades you said about him. What a great interview. Loved it, loved it, loved it so very much.
I loved this one (as most) great job Mayim!
Great interview/conversation. 👍🏼
Such a great episode. I will look up all that he has done
This was a great one! Thank you. That aside, I miss Jonathan! This is the 2nd one I've seen without him. There's definitely a void when he's not part of this.
Though missing Jonathan wise remarks & comments in some of this last episodes broadcasted, specially in this with unique in his uniqueness Joel Jim Booster & his Psychosexual & Fire Island works, your “Mayim flying solo” with him about race, racial melting pot, adopted middle kid’s scares (how hurtful, and how difficult to overcome must have been to him, was to watch from his mouth that babies were delievered at US airports as “merch”), bipolar disorder & being gay has been STUNNING Mayim!!👏🏻👏🏻 In caps! THANK YOU for making my Tuesdays better!
Thanks also to all the MBB Team on “backstage” (Scott, Erin, etc..) for making this possible! You all got me hooked from [far now] first episode!And counting! ❤💜
30:00 - This is exactly how the world of arts and entertainment functions on a base level, meaning without the distraction of needing to monetize, homogenize or commercialize everything. Of course, those aspects exist, but ultimately don't dictate how people behave. It's a sort of a haven, in a way; a wholesome influence that carries through, and the only judgment in this particular world that I truly see is the judgment of judgment itself. Like, if you're a member of a music or theater or crafts group you have the support of being seen as you moreso than most places, and to contrast certainly not within most religious groups (from what I've seen). Many are more accepting these days, thankfully. I'm glad for the progress of acceptance across the board. This has been really great to sit through and listen to. Thank you both for sharing.
Great interview! I'd never heard of Joel, but now I'm a fan!
Side note, a book about Jeju is called The Island of Sea Women by Lisa See. I read it a few years ago, and recalled it when he described it
GREAT interview! Joel Kim Booster is an incredibly articulate and intelligent guy. I will look for his Netflix show and other work he’s done.
I was born in South Korea too, and was raised in Southern California since I was an infant. I love the way Joel expressed his experience being raised in the US because it really matches my own feelings about it. I’m a California girl at heart, and I also equally identify myself with my Korean roots. I’m very “westernized” to my Korean kin because I don’t speak the language, and yet my Asian facial features are distinct enough for colleagues and schoolmates to wonder about my cultural heritage (as far back as I can remember). I think we must “claim” both our cultures for ourselves - regardless of how much anybody in any culture claims us. So as part of the Korean diaspora stateside here in the US (and queen of no actual authority anywhere), I proudly claim you as one of us, Joel! You rock!!
Like Joel, I also was raised in a very religious family, and I often feel like I came out twice to my family - first as a nonbeliever/non-religious person and then as a queer (bisexual) woman. Both attributes were equally repugnant at the time I revealed them to my family. My heart goes out to you so much, Joel. Your story resonates with me more than I can fully say here on social media comments (after doing my own over-sharing). Congratulations to you on your career success - I can’t wait to see more of your comedy and acting in the future.
Thank you so much for sharing such a fantastic interview! ❤ This podcast and CZcams channel is definitely a favorite of mine.
Wow, thanks so much for sharing, Barb. And for the lovely feedback! We are so happy you're here. 🧠🫶
@@MayimBialik I’m glad I’m here too! ❤️
The truth is that I can't sleep without listening to your Podcast. Not mention to the wonderful content, The Voice of two co-host just conforts me. Big thank!💙
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Thank you for this Mayim. I'm loving your videos. Joel is the perfect man in my eyes. Smart, funny, charming, introspective, and not to mention - absolutely gorgeous. I've also loved you since Blossom. What's the secret to your eternal youth?
Loved him on Jeopardy, great to get to know him, a little, this way.
Super smart and kind man!
I am Bipolar Black Gay Man. I enjoyed this Episode . It give me something to Think About....
Miyam. This is the best episode. Thank you. Its been great to watch this podcast grow onto itself. The cross sections of race adoption gay complicated mental health. Perfect. Prrrrr.
Posted three weeks ago. I saw this having been posted, but thought I watched it months ago. How? Why did I think I saw this already?
I love that Joel knows about Australian comedy particularly non-heterosexual comedy
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Hey Dr Bialik. I really love how you accept people. I think it's awful to be bipolar. You're my favorite actress ever! Keep your good job! I read on the Big Bang Theory book by Jessica Radloff you inspired Amy by a professor you met there and that you didn't want to label Amy. I admit I have a bit of autism but nobody ever wanted to label me. You're a really nice person! Nobody could've played Amy Farrah Fowler better than you!
Another great interview. An hour wasn't long enough! Raised in a conservative midwest religious family, I can still hear the whispered hypocritical comments from more than 45 years ago as "the good, upright Christians" guessed about someone's homosexuality. 🙄 Oh that the world could be so perfect like them, as they preached, "but the greatest of the commandments is love."
Can't wait to watch everything he's been in!!!!
We really as a society need to stop trying to fix people and worry about fixing ourselves
I loved Sunny Side!!
That's where i know Joel from
Mayim, Do you think that you will do any interviews with just people that are not in any of the entertainment industry. I really love your show, but I would like to know if you and Jonathan would do any interviews with any plain people that may not have all the money in the world to pay for their expensive therapy. I'm not condemning that at all. I'm just wondering if that would be a huge problem for you guys. PLEASE keep the videos and the podcast coming.
I was dying for him to be here! And, OMG, how I’ve enjoyed this episode!!
Psychosexual is still in my “to watch list”, but watched his Fire Island. Wonderful and highly recommended one!
How it broke my heart watching him to speak about old international adoption process by South Korea he was immersed on. How difficult must’ve been to him to come to terms with his own adoption, roots and identity (even beyond race and being “treated” against his homosexuality before coming out)! The mom in me just wants to hug him dearly..
And a humble request: is there any possibility for MBB team to stop, block or erase all that “Crypto spamming” comments here? They’re truly annoying and out of context!
I love this guy
Yesss🎉finally
I've never been more attracted to Joel Kim. Did I type that out loud?
Once the CCP took control of HK, it no longer was safe for the LGBTQ community. Like many of my friends.... i had to move away for the sake of safety.
But that's only because I'm fortunate enough to have the means to do so.
How is it no longer safe?
@@Tacit_Tern
Physical violence has never been a concern before. The social stigma under the CCP prevents people from having employment and developing relationships. Now, families are feeling pressure to disown, or arrange marriages.... because the social status of the whole family can be affected.
This wasn't the case when HK was free.
A few interview ideas...
Jinger Dugger
Shane and Hannah Burcaw
Chris Ulmer
Very interesting episode. Now I have to go watch psyco-sexual
Missed Johnathan.
Can you get Gabriel (fluffy) Iglesias on the breakdown?
Hi, Babs! So glad enjoyed this one, and we can't recommend PSYCHOSEXUAL enough! We had the wonderful Gabriel Iglesias on the pod last year. Here's a link: czcams.com/video/oBlP2GR2hGM/video.html
Happy watching!!!
@@MayimBialikWow, thanks.
I never expected you to respond personally with all the comments you get.
1:15:33 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆 Mayim, you should say see you next time, so long, everybody. 😀😆😆 You know I love you. 😀😆😆
I'm curious if anybody on here can answer what the difference is between hypomania in bipolar and hyperfocus in ADHD. It seems like there is a lot of overlap when looking into it. Thank you.
NEXT GUEST: MILEY CYRUS!!!!
Love Hannah Gatsby
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Loving the podcast! I hope yall would get Miranda Hart on the show!! I would love to know more about her process w Miranda and the relation to CMK!
Awesome! Curious about that too!
**trigger warning*** Okay here's my thing - about the bipolar diagnosis. I was diagnosed at 16 years old. and at first I took the medication and just went with it. But looking back, I feel like the medication made me worse in many ways - I had a terrible experience with psychiatrists. I was seeing psychiatrists since I was a baby basically, at 4 years old with severe ADHD. and because of that - it's extremely hard for me to settle for the idea that I'm defective, that there is something wrong with me - when my anger and my depression hold so much merit during my -episodes-. and especially now when I've managed to live a successful life in spite of it all (literally in spite, its overcompensation hands down lol). I'm a straight A student at 32 years old when I used to make straight C's Ds and Fs on medication in high school, now im living by myself in a luxury apartment - working as an IT systems administrator. Off meds. Reading is my favorite thing to do when i used to think I couldnt because of ADHD. and I really feel like I can learn to manage my emotions better. and I have kinda. I think I can communicate thoroughly enough to show people that I am what I say I am and that I really do try. Idk - I've been in denial for several years and I find it hard to trust psychiatrists because of the unpredictability of antipsychotics. It scares the crap out of me. Because some of them make me gain weight, some of them make me want to die, and I really don't like everything that goes into finding the right combo. I almost killed myself when I forgot to take one of the two medications I was on several years ago, because thats what brain chemistry can do. Everything can be fine - but you take the wrong combo of medication and you suddenly find it perfectly reasonable to jump off of a 5 story building. and I live alone now, I cant afford those kinds of mistakes. I don't have anyone looking out for me now. but I know there is a right combo, I've been there. My ex of 8 years saw me on a 'right combo' of meds for the first time after I was baker-acted for a suicide attempt, and I came out of the hospital completely neutral and content, happy even, like... 'normal'.. and I think it scared the crap out of him. And I'm single now because I tried living through crisis so long without getting help. (I didn't take meds for 8 years because I was in denial of the bipolar diagnosis - honestly because he kept telling me bipolar isn't real, until he realized it was) but it's .. very difficult to live this way when youve lived so long like this... especially knowing how people look at you differently when they find out you're bipolar. They really do. and its not fair.
hello to i have had issues my whole life from trauma before i was born and my first years were not good. i am 66 and was not medicated as in those days children were not medicated. i have been watching Gabor Mate' speaking about people being traumatized as children and it has opened up to me many things i knew within me that i saw but could not fix through counseling because counselors generally do not know how to help me heal.
i have started to micro dose with mushrooms and have had good results with sleeping and anxiety. it is hard to get mushrooms but a long time friend has been able to supply me for a short while. i am looking into getting a steady supply and into how to heal from 55 years of struggle with emotions that make life rotten. i have longed for death for 40 years at times and that is just so hard because it seems the only way to be rid of the mental anguish i live with. i do have hope now even though i have avoided hope for 5 years and had given up on being able to sleep or not have anxiety.
perhaps you can watch mr Mate' and get a picture of what is possible for people who have had trauma and are not able to live in peace he talks about his own life openly and talks about what is helping him and his family. we can be healed i belive
In the south, people claim it’s Canadians that don’t season their food. 🤔😂
Lmfao I mean I’m canadian and my parents are totally the epitome of white people cooking, like I add a pinch of red pepper flakes to something and my dad will say its spicy lol
Great channel! Needs better intro music🫤
He has his moments but overall this man is not funny. The good thing for him is that he is young and has the time to come up with material that is.
I appreciate there are those who like him just like there are those who take their kids to trans story hour at the library.
Wow, comedy ... no ... lots of anger
That's debatable...not with that haircut!!
Apparently you've never heard of Richard Pryor !!!!!°
People who say things like, I knew I was gay before I was Asian, have so many more mental problems than their sexuality. It’s sad.