Surviving a friendship breakup: The 3 things you need to do
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- čas přidán 1. 07. 2024
- Your friend just broke up with you. It hurts and it may feel like there's a gap in your life. A hole that just makes you feel lonely and rejected.
Surviving a friendship breakup can be really tough, but it can be easier if you follow the three specific pieces of advice that we reveal in this video.
This video will cover how to survive a friendship breakup and reveal three things you need to do in order to make things easier for yourself.
You don't have to stay hurt. You can survive a friendship breakup.
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thank you so much.... my friend un friended me bc I deleted the house we made 3 months ago or smth....
Literally lost a 5-year old friendship a few minutes ago. Thank you.
sending you empowerment, confidence, and trust that things will be better in the future.
@@DrBenjaminRitter ❤️❤️❤️
I just lost my 5 yr friendship so twins xx
Even I just lost my best friends of 5 years just an hour ago...
Bro here 7 years friendship 🙃
The fact that she ended our friendship just because of an argument that had nothing to do with our friendship says a lot.
She had other resentment she never mentioned. The argument you had triggered the other issues. The hidden issues are why she or he left.
OMYGOSH SAME!
@@tadhikarasa1938 thank you for this! i know its not meant for me, but i somewhat relate to thins
@@ut146bz3 💕
nah me and my ex bff left each other because she said I betrayed her for doing absolutely nothing and when i used to be sad I tried talking to her to cheer me up and her response is “UGH STOP MAKING EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF” like how I’m literally crying and your calling me selfish for having dam emotions!!!??? Like wtf and she used me for everything bro… there more but it’s to personal
it really hurts right now, but I think I can get over it. I’ve been over it before, I’m stronger because of this.
Lending strength your way as well
Imagine if the friend u lost,is watching this to get over you
cause they still care.
I’m the one who ended the friendship and it hurts, and I’m here, so you could be right lol
I was also who ended the friendship because she was a backstabber... I still care about her and I want her to revise what she has done to me and see how sad i am
They don't care. Trust me, I lost the first person I was honest with. No one cares. Especially them
I lost the best friend ...i lost my love....i lost like all the people...and you know what...im really cool and capable and special....so its their los...i was always putting energy to maintain everything while they didnt care...so fuc.k them.
It hurts. It will take time but God will make everything alright
and you will!
If anyone needs a friend I’m here💚
I'm in tears. A close friend doesn't want to be in contact anymore. I respect that wish, but it's still heartbreaking. Even when she will contact me again in months, it won't be the same anymore
My best friend ghosted me for no reason, and I'm heartbroken😔 don't think I'll ever get over it
The same thing happened to me
Relatable . Entire group in my case . Initially it was , you won’t even wanna know how it was .
you will idk how but you will fight through it
SAME
! vent !
i lost my main bestie recently, all because of my boy best friend who keeps lying and hating her, telling her she doesnt deserve to be with me, and he said his family kidnapped him and abuse him, how is a family abusing them but also buying them robux and making them study?! then he said that he is in the hospital. then he found his real parents ALL FOR ATTENTION!!! so that really annoyed her and she just left. left us all because of him. now i got in a fight with him cuz he said i hate him and he is killing himself. what the fuck is wrong with him!! Then he brought up my old besties whatever and said she always hated me. he doesnt know how much that hurt and it all was lies
now to my second bestie, she used to play with me daily and we were the best! until she left me cuz of some reasons idk what r they
... so uh we got back as besties but she started being online 2 times A YEAR. i really hate this why did i have to be so dumb making friends :'(( guess it was nice while it lasted
im sorry i talked too much but i had to let it out :'(
Thanks for this. I just recently lost a nine-year friendship. While nothing will ever hurt as bad as my parents dying, this friendship loss hit me pretty hard.
it hurts to lose a best friend, but i’m on a different path now. after the relationship, i’ve grown and changed. i’m no longer the same person, nor do i want to be the person i was before. it’s going to take time, but i will be better this way than any other alternative.
That's a powerful and useful perspective. Making your life work for you
I just had a friendship break up with my childhood friend of about 15 years.. I’m not sure how I feel yet or how I will feel but this will help. I wish him the best
It's been nearly a year. I read our old chats, i could see how happy or secured I was with her in it and now there's nobody like that in my life. I was too attached which is the reason why I'm still tryna watch these videos and get over it. Sometimes being emotional doesn't help at all in these situations where as others who're chill tend to move on quick
I blame myself everyday
Blame can be powerful for growth, if it's used minimally. Are you able to accept the past and move forward?
I am here right now. Since I'm totally devastated 🥺😭
8 years of friendship
I just lost a friend. It was an argument. She no longer serves a purpose in my life. Therefore, I ended up cutting her off. I blocked her. I'm crying and hurting deep inside. I miss her but I did the right thing.
i just went through a really nasty friend breakup with a whole group of friends who i've known for almost a year now. it hurts a lot but i know i hurt them, and i apologized and there's nothing more i can do if they don't accept that apology. this is gonna hurt like hell, i'm not sure i've ever had a friendship breakup this bad before. i wish i had been a better friend, but i wish they would've given me a chance to talk things out. i'm really going to miss them all, i do already.
it can feel like your whole "normal" is ripped away. it also sounds like you learned something from this to take forward?
this happened to me yesterday with my 2 closest friends and now i feel so empty and numb
@@414zoey One thing thats Worse Than losing a friend is IF YA losing MORE fRiENds the only way to Cure is to Get new ✨FRIENDS✨ I hope My comment helped dear😁😁😁
@@dalalraypour4810 thank you so much
I am grieving the loss of a friendship that I had for past 15 years. And I was keeping it in. But today after watching your video I was balling my eyes out in front of my husband finally. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for sharing openly - feeling how we feel is the only way to honor our past and prepare for our next chapter.
Just ended an 11 year friendship last weekend. I can't stop crying. We were Judy and Babs.
I had a major friendship breakup last year with a whole group of friends i known for more than 12 years, they were really important to me and one of them was like really really dear to me something happened between us and i went to her house to talk ut out she ended up telling me to get out of her house! That was the most humilating situation I've ever put myself into in my whole life and now after more than a yeat i am still hurt from what had happened, it feels like i lost the ppl that connected me to one of my most beautiful memories of my life I've had many good memories with them.. i can't get over it no matter how i try i just wish i could get over it one day
Maybe we aren't supposed to get over it, but remember it because it's an opportunity to learn and enjoy life more in the future.
We dalals always have too Get hurt Right? My friend broke up With me and spread bad things about me in the whole sosial media😔😔😔 good to speak to twin sis With the same name😁😁😁
It's been 10 months , did you made any progress? I too am in a similar situation,for me, it's about 6 months now, and it still hurts
For 15 years I felt that we became sisters. Suddenly she broke up. Last phone call month ago i heard her talked to her coach that im the most beloved one to her and there is no reason to that .but i feel she want to go .after 15 years she was like a parasite benefiting from me .when she start a year ago to crtcise my ideas and thoughts in any situation, I realized she want to go .she found a new fake group for her subordinates. She one day will regret no one keep a friendship with her .she always insecure. Now I'm sure there's something changed in her life and she think that i will envy her. Don't believe people .
Ancient proverb. There are 3 impossibles in life : ghoul (type of beasts) , the Phoenix and the endless loyal best friend .
Almost the exact thing happened to me damn
I have friendship break-up like once or 2x/mo. I use to feel hurt & bad but I’m getting use to it & now I don’t take it seriously anymore. I’m not a likeable person maybe, I accept that. I like myself & that is all that matters now :)
What type of friends do you want?
A friend that won’t leave me
I lost my friendship with an old friend literally 3 hours ago, my other friend told me to move on and i think i’m going to try to move on, thank you.
I just lost a friend as well. Moving on is easier said than done but you will get there.
Found this video after crying my eye balls out. Thank you.
my best friend that goes to my school just said she "always makes me angry" or something like that and said it was for the better. it happened a few minutes ago. our friendship lasted for 4 and a half years. i'm crying. thanks for making this video.
One of my best friends just dumped me less than half an hour ago over a stupid misunderstanding that they won’t let me explain. I’m laying sideways in bed, completely numb. I haven’t cried yet. I don’t know how I’m supposed to show up to school tomorrow without breaking down. I only have one friend now.
It's ok and normal to feel sad when things are sad. What are some next steps you are going to take? Did you friend decide to listen to you? Have you thought about trying to invest in new friendships? Hope you're feeling a bit better each day.
Hey how are u now? I’ve gone thru the same thing and I was just wondering how u dealt with it??
@@woahowaj._8519 I’m a lot better. Kinda hate that person’s guts now; in hindsight, they weren’t that good of a person, and I really only kept them around because I didn’t have much of anyone else at the time. As for dealing with it…I think the most important thing in those early stages is just letting yourself feel whatever you feel: grief, anger, sadness, guilt, whatever the case. I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to catastrophize; just sit with your feelings and observe them with as little judgment as possible. It will likely come in waves; this is normal. In addition, taking care of your physical health and having good people in your corner is crucial. Things like this aren’t easy, but they are temporary; I promise you, it will get better. Best wishes ❤️
Same exact thing happened to me like a month ago
Just lost one of my good friendships today 😭 This video really helped.
Friendship breakup hurts
I had a dream, of me leaving a chat group of my friends. It came true. And I blame myself for isolating. I do that every time we got into an argument. Even on our last argument...
Check out the book Crucial Conversations, specifically the Silence way of dealing with conflict.
All the people in comments need a hug and a someone who truly cares...and I'll be that person...🤗..let go of someone who doesn't need you...if they don't want u ,u also don't need that person...As a person who had lost a 8 yrs friendship just now I know how it feels..dnt wry u are not alone❤
how do i avoid things that spark memories when everything reminds me of them?
give away or get rid of gifts, memories...avoid areas you use to go...delete their number and photos...etc. It will take time but it's also about making it easier for your mind in the process.
Thanks bro, just lost my friend group. This has helped so much
Glad I could help. Another group is coming!
Thank you so much. These last few days were harrowing. I couldn't eat sleep or do anything productively, your video was so on point and also appreciate the white background and just you speaking, it was very calming. I'll follow these and hopefully get better. Thanks again
I just ended up losing my best friend with someone who literally saved me from suicide, and so many more things but, thank you so fucking much I really needed this. I dont normally comment on shit but I really do appreciate this.
Im still ruminating about a friend I lost a couple months ago, some days are better than others. Moreover I made stupid mistakes and choices that jeopardized the friendship. We were almost like brothers, and I messed up by accusing him of things that were not even true. I told our chain of command about it because I felt so guilty that I even had these thoughts of him. However I mentioned something that could’ve gotten him kicked out the army. My family has been telling me that if he were really my friend he would forgive me, I hope some day he does and we can have an even stronger bond. I still love him dearly and hope he would return in my life but I know God has a plan for the both of us.
People will forgive when constant effort is showing. Not by waiting it out. If you're really guilty of what you have done, show the effort. You don't break someone and wait for them to fix themselves and move on, they will move on without you.
My friend ghosted me and didn't tell me what I did wrong. It's been a really hard time going through it since I cared alot for him. He was an awesome friend but he changed alot in just a few days. So thank you, I needed this.
Good advice….just at the right moment for me. Thank You.
Thank you for this.
there are times when a friend just dumps you, even after many years.
We're tempted to think there was something wrong with us, but, it may be there was an issue with them.... something we could not see.
This video was played in the best time ever in my life, so thanks alot for sharing it👍
Such great advice! Thank you 🙏🏽
Lost a friend whom I don't wanna lose !
Eventually got to see this vdo 🥺
🙏🏻
18 year friendship - besties - ended because of a text message misunderstanding. WTF
I had a best friend who I thought was amazing. When we went to a new school, I immediately realised that she had gone off me and put multiple people off me too. It has been hard to move on because I always used to go to the places we would hang out. I've made lots of new friends but none of them really bring me the happiness I felt with my old best friend.
Great video👍
Thank you for the note. What were the triggers for the happiness you felt? Can you target behaviors or thoughts?
Thank you brother. Needed to hear.
it hurts.. and i miss them so much. and i also feel very lost in life without them, and them being in my life makes me happy. but in time, ill get over them and follow your 3 rules..
the distancing from them, the building new relationships and connections, and the not taking it personally stuff. thank you, ill try. i have a lot with myself i need to work on and heal from.
it sucks.. and im trying to not take it personally, because part of the reason they left is because of me. and i live with regret. but i can find a new meaning to it, and go forward from there.
thank you :)
I've had three friendship breakups. The first affected me the most. The other two didn't hurt me as much, but I feel like it's all because of me! My last one left me because I accidentally vented to her too much and she blocked me, didn't wanna deal with my drama. I asked her friend about it and she accused me of knowing what I did when I really didn't until it's too late! That involved her leaving me as well! It like whenever I try to help or do something or anything to do better involves people leaving me! All I want is a friend who doesn't leave me! 😭
omg tell me why im going through the same thing rn. the past 2 years I’ve been loosing friends left and right. some friends from home and now others from college. i know we all make mistakes but it’s crazy how ion like to be drama and it always seems to come my way. ik when i was younger I did immature things which im able to understand. the worst thing is when they stop speaking to you and didn’t even know what you did or when your “friends” say they love you and it’s gonna be for life and then a blocking you i be like wow. it just hurts to see people you go that you love leave you time and time again.
@@meeezy It really does hurt. One of my friends didn’t accept me for my sexuality, one left because I accidentally vented to them too much, and I had a few encounters with toxic people and it hurts when they hurt you.
I felt like i had a bigger chapter in that friendship...... thanks bro
Yes, ive just lost a Hong Kong friend that i'd known for about months over some unknown reasons
this videos sure helps! thanks! U really brighten my mood!
this is the deepest video I’ve seen about this topic
Appreciate that!
Thank you. What you say makes perfect sense. I just need to listen to it over and iver
my friend she hurt me so much and now all she does is be rude. i tried to save the friendship 3 times but after watching this i have a hope that i didnt have before that i can move on and start afresh. thank you so much i am really grateful.☺️
Thank you.
There is nothing more painful...
Lost a friend of 20 years but I realized that my best friend is my girlfriend and shes the only friend I really need is this world life will go on and in sure I'll meet new friends someday
Powerful words and thoughts.
our friendship wasnt long. But me and her had alot of things in common, i had a small crush on her too, but i was getting to comfortable and making her really uncomfortable, I feel really bad and guilty. I lost her friendship about 2-3 hours ago, when she sent her last texts to me and the blocked me. This really helps, Really, Thank you
the only person i loved the most and trusted the most literally became someone else and left me for "cooler" people and that hurts so much :( its been 3 to 4 months and i still cant get over it and hope for she to comeback saying that she misses me
Ive always felt like a backup friend in a the relationship i had, while i saw her as someone that filled my emptiness. Because ive never had an actual deep friendship before, its always joking here and joking there but this friend actually listened. But ive always felt like she never saw me and someone more than a backup friend. she only talks with me when she has no one else to. And she just stopped talking to me now. It feels unreal. I feel lonely. I felt like i built something up just to have it break down in front of my eyes. I feel very sad right now, i hope something happens. To anyone reading, thank you.
The worst part is that everything makes me think of them. All of my hobbies, and of course there is always yet another photo that I haven’t deleted yet. I can’t even play video games without thinking of them.
i experienced a friendship breakup once because of my friend KarateTomato i use to play roblox all the time with him until one day he never went on then he had discord so i added him and we talked for a while and he said he’s going around and stopping online i was young i was 9 and he was 16 i said i was 12 to not act weird and also it’s been 2 years he’s 18 and i still miss him he’s in high school or maybe higher than 18 in college i really miss him now i experienced it again because of a friend
Lost 11 years of friendship and there is no sign of hope
She blocked me after I got mad at her for calling me a shitty friend (I had been going through a hard time and told her i didn’t wanna talk about it/needed space). She also blocked me. A 10 year friendship just down the drain.
This bro knows what is going on in my life
The intro hurt me inside literally I'm heart physically hurts.
I had a friend who's very toxic, the friendship was 5+years, we were gonna graduate this year, like bruh ending it Before graduation is just cruel
Story:
So I went to get new glasses but I accidentally got the same kind. Then she got mad over this tiny thing, she even texted "ugh now the class will think so many shit". Like the same gender and best friend matching, what's the problem anyways. And is good to match, that's just very toxic.
Although I enjoyed the times, I do kinda wish I didn't meet her so I don't need to suffer about it. I'd rather be lonely
My friend broke up with me a few hours ago with no explanation and I'm really hurting and feeling low thank you this helps a lor
I've had just ONE friend, I've got social anxiety and i never had that bond with anyone other than her, I keep thinking that she'd return , keep hating my own self for some reason, thinking about i was incorrect, i can't hate her, and that's causing me not to move on, the feeling of her returning is what hurts the most
Hating someone keeps an emotion, accepting that they moved to a different path and to reinvest in yours allows you to see the world in front of you. Are their hobbies that you enjoy where you can spend time investing in yourself and possibly run into new people?
i get that, my brain keeps thinking they're gonna come back
She was my everything!
She's gone!
I stuck in this pool of emotional baggage.
its been years but still i miss her..
this helped me, really. Thank you so much, i miss my friend tho i dropped her because she had friends who were toxic to me, and she was also toxic to me. She made fun of my feelings after i dropped her, it pained me so so much. But this helped, thank you! 😭🙏
It's a very tough situation. The pain doesn't go away overnight but it will
@@DrBenjaminRitter thank you!! 🙏
It's been a year since my "best" friend and I stopped talking ,we knew eachother for 11 years. And a multitude of things piled up until it broke the camels back and I ended our friendship. I realize now that I miss the idea of who I thought they were but now that I know the real them my life is better off without them. It's hard and look here I am again looking at videos like this to find comfort in my decision.
A few days ago I lost a 7 year relationship that left me quite empty and sad and made me realize that I don't have anyone else to call 'friend'.I am trying to get over it... it's not easy...but I am trying.This video helped a little, thanks 🙏
Hope you are okay
I really messed up, and now my whole group of friends hates my guts, and pretends I don't even exist. I've sent an apology letter and said I was sorry millions of times in any way I could, embroidered a little soccer pin for one friend in particular, but with no response, no true answer. They haven't forgiven me and probably never will, I just wish I'd been better, from the start. It's been a month. I'll never get over this.
Thank you. I needed to hear this.
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks
Thank you.
It's really hard, I had a friend for about a few months and they were such an amazing friend. They called me their best friend and unfortunately we were both a little toxic in the end. It hurt like hell letting them go and they were so good but then it all went downhill. It's been really hard still learning to let go because she played a big role in my life and when she distanced herself it felt like I was falling apart. It's hard to distance from her now because I'm still really close with her family and all her siblings, I'm like an older brother to all of them and I love all of them like my sisters and brothers. The one I was best friends with is also within one of my friend groups and it's hard to hang out with that group without feeling a sense of loss. She found another best friend and I'm happy she did, she always wanted a good friend and she called me the person she prayed for in a friend, now someone else takes that mantle and it's hard to hear the things they do together without looking back and thinking "We planned to do that." It's become hard to distance myself from her because I see her everywhere and I just don't want to see her face ever again, when I see it I can't help but think back to the times we had fun together and she was there for me when I needed her and I was there when she needed me. There is this huge gap now that I try to fill with other friends but I can't help but feel empty now whenever I think back. In the end I was a bit of a jerk to her, she expressed interest in someone who I had been friends with since childhood and it broke my heart, I just said the wrong things and tried to explain it to her but it wasn't possible. We were still friends but we were sending mixed signals and falling out of friendship with one another. Then I had another person come along and fill the friendship gap for me and when all three of us had hung out it was just too much for my ex best friend. She proceeded to say a bunch of hurtful things and express how she didn't want to be my friend if I was friends with that other person. Then I sent her a message saying how I was hurt by this and how she hurt me and I said something that I shouldn't have said to her and one thing led to another and we fell out of friendship entirely. This happened nearly a year ago and it's still very painful for me to go through even to this day, some days are better than others. I can't help but blame myself sometimes. Her siblings are still my best friends though, I still fill the role of the older brother that they need. Things are healing slowly but I don't think I'll go back to being best friends with her again.
This friend broke up with me a year ago, but i just read through our old texts and cant stop thinking about it.
Honestly, I feel more relieved after my long term friend dumped me, I'm not perfect but he expects me to be always there for him, he got offended because I was trying to keep a bit of distance between us just for my mental health, I always try to find the way out of mending out friendship but I won't do it this time! Have decided to be quiet and am walking away cos he said we should go on our own ways! I respect and agree with his decision! It feels bad but it's worthy it
Thanks for sharing that bit of inspiration. Think of all the energy you now have to invest in other people that are healthier for you!
I dearly needed to read this. I’m so thankful.
they ended our friendship instead of telling me what was wrong. im exhausted
Thank you very much.
lost a 3 year friendship just almost an hour ago and arguments formed way too often. even when i was looking to have fun, they still started an argument over it and it got me upset but eventually i just realized it was time to end this cycle, and i feel happier but i have a feeling some of it was my fault
when i was 12 i used to think i had around 20 friends, as the years passed i became more and more mature and i started to realize that they didn't actually like me or cared about me, i was just that guy who stuck around and said something here and there, from that point on i realized who actually were my friends, 2 people were the closest to what i call friends. 4 years ago only one of them would stick around and became what i call my best friend, i really thought he was the one, until 2 years ago when we suddenly stopped talking to each other, well lockdown played a huge part in it, but he also got a girlfriend, it made me feel like he just left me for his gf. But last year i made one last friend, we stopped talking because we graduated and got into different universities, or so i thought. Looking back at those friendships it felt like i was the desperate one, they always had other friends, but i didnt, so i didnt have anyone else to hang out or play videogames with, but they always had, and thats what made me not want to make friends anymore, it will just kill me again and again, i wanna be someone's only friend like they would be to me, but i cant start conversations or simple interactions with anyone, so its just impossible to me, every friend that i had and will always have is extroverted, and they always have someone else, they can always find someone better than me, it feels like im just not meant to have friends
edit: sry for the long paragraph i really needed to get this off my chest
I don't think i'll ever get over her, she meant everything to me.
She was my only friend, she always made me feel happy like I was never alone. She showed me so many new things, everything reminds me of her and I have no one to just let out my feelings on.
Same . In my case many of my group . Just be brave , unapologetic and try to move on . World is big and we are young , there’s life ahead . It was just a chapter of life , a big chapter maybe . Get busy , focus on yourself for a while , breathing exercise , work out , diet , express your emotions to your family or close ones .
It'll be alright again, keep going
Thanks for this
Happy to add some value
ugh it hurts so bad
happen yesterday and I cant stop thinking abt it
anyway, thx for the tips!
it's for sure gonna suck for a bit...it's about making it suck less
I told my close friend I loved him (im a a male btw), and we are taking a 2 week break from each other, I hope this doesn’t mean that the friendship is over, even if I still feel the same about him.
@@12Acorns relationships are about balance alot of the times. When it feels off it creates a feeling of discomfort. I hope it works out.
I had a good friend of 2 years end it with me earlier. She never was there for me and I always felt unappreciated but I stayed because she was going through things and I thought it was me. She blocked me on everything and said it was my fault. I don't really care that the friendship itself ended because it felt like a mantince to keep since she was very needy and treated me pretty poorly. But instead of talking to me like a normal person, as the coward she is, decided to do it over snapchat. She said that it was me not her. I was always there for her no matter what, stayed on the phone for hours when she was about to commit suicide, but when my brother died she didn't seem to care at all. It's the fact that i put so much time and effort into it, then she ends it like its a game. I just can't get the words out of my head
Being with people that are misaligned with us, take advantage of us, etc, breeds resentment. Which just gets worse when THEY decide to leave...
It doesn't feel good and if you personalize it can make you feel like you did something wrong or aren't good enough. WHICH none of that is true.
They weren't good for you and it's time to surround yourself with people that love and appreciate you.
I'm 65 and my best friend for over 10 years is turning 31. For an unknown reason, he will no longer call me. He was like a son to me and I am absolutely heart-broken. I have to move on but it's going to be a very very hard road.
If people don't value my friendhsip theirs is worth even less to me.
my bff just said she want to end our relansonship all in a sudden
I'm so happy I watch this video
Sending you positive thoughts and new relationships!
I was the one to call it off but it still hurts just as hard
I am currently having this problem. I have been very sad because he help me a lot and everything. This would be hard but I can and will move on from this
I’m the one who had to pause the friendship. It’s just as heartbreaking to be the one who puts the pause on the friendship. But the friendship was hurting me and even though I tried to work things out for 8 months…she could not see where I was getting hurt. I love her and want the best for her. I want to reconcile. But I would need trust to be built again. When there is a friendship breakup, it could be necessary. And all we can do is work on ourselves and heal so we can continue to have healthy relationships
I think I would be able to get over it bc its summer but then I remember that in school I will have to see her and we were together everywhere. We sat together, did projects together, ate lunch together, had the same friend group together. And i just don't know how i'm going to face all of that apart...
I was close to a female friend. She was nuts and crazy funny and it was me and her against everyone else. Then her contempt crept in, it became fun for her to be 'Joking' in her abusive and dismissive behaviour. That is when you know it's gone. yeah, it really is heartbreaking, but you can't rely on good memories in the hope it will fix your present.
Crying my eyes balls out cause
My best friend literally choose a girl he knew for 1 Yr over the only he knew for 7fking years.
And I still can't get over this shit damn it hurtsss!!!!!
For me its really hard because she was like my soulmate and we planned everything together and wanted to live our live together as best friends and then one day it was just to much for her. It really hurt me and I still dont know hoe to deal with it because I miss her so much and always have to think about her because we did so much together. We danced together and even had like a little dancing group and I miss dancing with her so much that it always hurts me when i try to dance again, even tho its actually something that brings me so much joy.
I talked with her just recently about some stuff that happened and also apologized to her but I dont feel like it changed something. I still cant get her out of my head and also cant really find new friends. I have really big anxiety problems and dont go to school often because of that. Also i dont feel like I'm worthy enough to be here, I feel like I am a waste of time for everybody and people are always annoyed with me and dont understand my problems. I know that this is a lot but if anyone has any tipps i would be really glad because slowly i am going down with this and dont want to be here anymore
My only friend of 7 months cut me off because he blamed me for his depression getting worse. It's hard not to see myself as a bad person now.
I needed this. My best friend of 3 years just left me after saying I wasn’t there for her(which I was)
Of course. Happy it helped. We don't get to control the other persons story...at least we can accept that it's not personal, but their own view on the world.
Sometimes they just have different expectations and it could be that one or two episodes which they think it's not enough and selectively omitted all the moments you were there. I get the same too when I think I have been for the person in many critical milestones and when I wondered how come my good friend simply gave me cold shoulder for a few mths and do not respond to multiple invite outs, then it turned out she was so called tit for tat. And it hurt because I would never do the same to a good friend and I have never ignored her. Yes late replies bec I am busy but never intentionally ignored.. I still made the last attempt to invite to talk it out if this friendship is still worth salvaging and she did not bother. I think when we have done what we could, we just let it be as our conscience is clear. No one can force a relationship.
They made me feel like a horrible friend to begin with just for the littlest things but I still feel sad. I also only met them in august 2022 but yet again I still feel sad.
Thank you so much Dr my best friend just broke up with me today
Sorry to hear that - I hope you get closer to the next part of your journey each and every day
i just lost a friendship of 15yrs hard to move on we grew up n did everything together
This is a really great video, thank you. But how do you deal with the possibility that you may have actually been a bad friend? Surely there *are* instances when you *should* take things personally? I’m feeling pretty confused and hurt right now but I know things happened for a reason and neither side was perfect. But how do I grow?
Everyone has there idea of what's "bad" or "good". You acted how you decided to act. That was a choice and the other person decided to make a choice for themselves. It's great that you want to reflect on your actions and find opportunities for improvement. But the goal isn't to sit in regret but to move toward progress. Growth can be admitting where you could improve and taking action to do that for yourself.
this heped so much
I got let go by a friend today. She was the only person in my life right now that I’d truly talk to for hours on end. I’m quite hurt, but she had reasons.