3 Simple Ways to DOMINATE Your EXs Mind after a Breakup

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Komentáře • 388

  • @blacademic
    @blacademic  Před rokem +8

    Book a 1 on 1 coaching session: calendly.com/breakupcoachtj

  • @JackMT86
    @JackMT86 Před rokem +202

    Don’t reach out for any reason unless it’s to tell them they gave you chlamydia. This happened to me last week

    • @boshascott7375
      @boshascott7375 Před rokem +33

      Omg are you serious. I'm sorry to hear that

    • @gettemdmoney1039
      @gettemdmoney1039 Před rokem +3

      Her and my cousin start arguing and she said you grown as fuck why would you have someone to drop you off. She really wanted me to drive my car my cousin and her were cool. I thought she would be happy to see me but she started tripping.

    • @gettemdmoney1039
      @gettemdmoney1039 Před rokem +2

      Hey man I wanted to know if it was a chance of me getting back with my ex we were dating for 4 months we’d go out to eat and she’d come over everyday. She got mad at me because I got dropped off by my cousin to her house. I had never been to her house before and her and my cousin got into an argument. I told her I love her but she said the things I do don’t seem like I love her.

    • @JackMT86
      @JackMT86 Před rokem +3

      @@boshascott7375 it’s passed and been taken care of now. I’m pretty sure she got it while we were taking a break from the relationship before we got back together. I’m back in no contact. I’m afraid she is too embarrassed to ever reach out again.

    • @andziagreen4922
      @andziagreen4922 Před rokem +8

      😂😂Sorry I couldn't resist, it's somehow funny and very not funny😔... I was there too

  • @flahmadzaki2172
    @flahmadzaki2172 Před 11 měsíci +123

    Absolutely no social media. No insta, no fb, no nothing.. like a ghost.. 😊. This is my mission impossible after being dumped.. of course theres some side effects from the pain.. memories, etc. But, i am a ghost amd can walk freely anywhere wihout prohibition. No way to know or trace me in no contact phase. Almost 90 days now, going strong. So much freedom!!!

    • @ahmadelshbasy3222
      @ahmadelshbasy3222 Před měsícem

      Did ur ex try to get you back?

    • @flahmadzaki2172
      @flahmadzaki2172 Před měsícem

      @@ahmadelshbasy3222 I don't give a shit really.. my life and energy is great.. money, sports car, beach villa and a beautiful supermodel hot sexy🔥 DJ.. thank heavens the break up happens!!! I've never been so happy 😎

    • @unluckydreamer1156
      @unluckydreamer1156 Před měsícem

      How is it now

    • @flahmadzaki2172
      @flahmadzaki2172 Před měsícem +6

      New gf, hot af, dj and supermodel.. my life turned to extravagant.. what a relief! I now drive a sports car, own a beach villa and sailboat. Fuck... What a life!

    • @Swiss_Girl
      @Swiss_Girl Před 18 dny

      @@flahmadzaki2172so you dont miss her? good for you🤗 I also go no contact and he came back, but I don‘t want him

  • @specialkaye3059
    @specialkaye3059 Před 2 měsíci +27

    #1 Silence & Mystery
    #2 Resistence
    #3 Patience

    • @swapnilneware4227
      @swapnilneware4227 Před měsícem +1

      Everything I did but nothing happened

    • @jasonjones759
      @jasonjones759 Před měsícem

      ​@@swapnilneware4227I concur.

    • @Rambo4President
      @Rambo4President Před 24 dny +1

      then so be it. sometimes it takes months or years, sometimes they don’t get back at you ever. BUT they don’t forget you.

  • @Jeff-kq9vg
    @Jeff-kq9vg Před rokem +58

    Let the streets dominate them.
    No contact? Just erase them from your life and mind if you don't have kids with them, and never ever look back.
    Life is to precious to keep on hanging in sorrow about some asshole who promise you the world, and then just walk out of your world, knowing they never let you into their world.
    They are one big red flag.

    • @johnnycalderon9951
      @johnnycalderon9951 Před 7 měsíci +4

      So why ru watching this video?

    • @Jeff-kq9vg
      @Jeff-kq9vg Před 7 měsíci

      @@johnnycalderon9951 To share my subjective vision what worked out for me to get back on track in no-time.

  • @mutechannel13
    @mutechannel13 Před rokem +302

    Ignore them after they reach out too. The only reason why they would want you back is because it didn't workout between them and the other people they were dating. This happened to me as the dumper and I still think about the ones that I never heard from again. I'm the dumpee this time.

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem +26

      You’re so right. Sometimes they want a eagle massage from you to move on. Be very careful. Let them feel pain.

    • @selectorjahoutofjahfarisound
      @selectorjahoutofjahfarisound Před rokem +16

      Exactly. A lot of times they are reaching out for attention and to see whats going on with your life. Last time mine reached out and wanted sex. I agreed but then she flaked. Waste of time.

    • @YourEasyLifeAmbassador
      @YourEasyLifeAmbassador Před rokem +13

      If you want them back that’s a horrible idea. They’re not going to continue to pursue if they’re being ignored… 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @PipSqueekOG
      @PipSqueekOG Před rokem +6

      ​@OhYouBougie_Shi you're right. I reached out for a month, she ignored me so I gave up. Still hurts.

    • @YourEasyLifeAmbassador
      @YourEasyLifeAmbassador Před rokem +8

      @@PipSqueekOG I’m so sorry! Please stay encouraged and don’t break it. I’m only 3 days in because I have to keep starting over. I feel your pain.

  • @TimStJohn-xp8rv
    @TimStJohn-xp8rv Před rokem +103

    I finally got the courage to block my ex on all social media! She text me a week ago I ignored it, a week later she text me and asked to sit together at church! I waited 2.5hrs to respond. Not wanting to look to anxious! That made her mad and stated that we don't need to interact in any way! So this was my option to get my power somewhat back after being vulnerable and letting her mentally abusing me again! I hate games! But this is the only way I feel to not see her and to send her a message" I am giving you what you asked for"

    • @XCVi_MAC
      @XCVi_MAC Před rokem +20

      I blocked mine as well she was wasting my time stringing me along lol. Honestly after you block and not know much about them they start to become less attractive lol. Plenty of other females…. Preserve your energy and watch the natural charisma

    • @cvgodd1432
      @cvgodd1432 Před rokem +17

      Make sure when she sees you you’re smiling and having fun. It will get her pissed! Act like your on the phone texting and laughing. She will think you got another girl lol. Never let them win.

    • @cvgodd1432
      @cvgodd1432 Před 11 měsíci +4

      Another thing is if she calls keep short and simple. Hang up before she even says bye. Act like your busy and her mind will start wandering.

    • @TimStJohn-xp8rv
      @TimStJohn-xp8rv Před 9 měsíci +3

      Thank you! We are devoted believers! She has trauma that she refuses to address! Cornered me at church to start counseling and when the counselor called to set up an appt, which she found she called me and backed out! Fearful Avoidant! 4 yrs of going back and forth!

    • @gracelikerain5039
      @gracelikerain5039 Před 9 měsíci +2

      Thought she was blocked?

  • @jie1136
    @jie1136 Před rokem +29

    I always pray to god whenever I'm in a relationship, this would be my prayers, God if he is not the one for me please remove him from my life so I won't be get hurt,, so when it didn't work I'll just think that god hears my prayers ☺️

  • @chiderafortune8422
    @chiderafortune8422 Před rokem +46

    Ain't gon' lie your videos have really helped me through my last break up, she broke up with me on December 2022, I remember I chased her for 1week and luckily for me I found your video on my CZcams feeds and since January 3rd, I've been on no contact, and just yesterday she called 6times and I picked the 7th one although I was busy. She said I came into her mind and she decided to call And I said okay, and with like 30secs of silence between us guess she wanted me to say something but I didn't I just hung up!
    Thanks coach black, am really getting myself back! Focusing on my craft and making my clients happy! 😊

  • @norfadhilah9838
    @norfadhilah9838 Před rokem +54

    Yes. Patience is the key

  • @munirbello
    @munirbello Před rokem +8

    My G! Thanks for the advice buddy, much needed

  • @rafybj1981
    @rafybj1981 Před rokem +3

    Thanks for the advice, you the man with the master plan

  • @rinjinmin8426
    @rinjinmin8426 Před 6 měsíci

    Coach is right to the point, awesome

  • @williegroden1505
    @williegroden1505 Před 11 měsíci +4

    One of my favorite ones I have watched, thank you

  • @chipashachilao2077
    @chipashachilao2077 Před rokem +4

    Very informative 👏

  • @jeannievail
    @jeannievail Před rokem +3

    So glad I found you. Thanks

  • @edzordzinamishmael9927
    @edzordzinamishmael9927 Před rokem +6

    Love your voice man

  • @gabriellaberetta2465
    @gabriellaberetta2465 Před rokem +3

    You are so fantastic, please never stop

  • @luisaah5707
    @luisaah5707 Před rokem +4

    Thank you coach blac🤗. It is so true. It took 1 month before he reached out and I only published right in the beginning one photo of my Portugal trip. Just a change in profile picture.

  • @TrevorLarezma-tk2iu
    @TrevorLarezma-tk2iu Před 4 měsíci +6

    Damn, this dude is bringin' the truth. In a very simple way. And he seems to understand everything. Fantastic channel.

  • @HomeSpaAllure
    @HomeSpaAllure Před 5 měsíci

    You’re an awesome coach! Thank you for your teachings. ✌️

  • @callum3147
    @callum3147 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Your videos are helping me cope. Thanks sir. 🙏

  • @shanawazahamed3759
    @shanawazahamed3759 Před rokem

    Great 👍 one bro God bless you

  • @imgrateful7142
    @imgrateful7142 Před rokem +3

    I love the way you say contact. 😊

  • @victorianorris1916
    @victorianorris1916 Před rokem +25

    I love you videos, I’m always learning something new!!

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  Před rokem +3

      Thanks so much for watching! 🤞🏿

  • @Elevenbravo_ABN
    @Elevenbravo_ABN Před 9 měsíci +22

    When I broke up with my girlfriend, I was fine for about a week or two. After that, the pain was almost unbearable, even though I was convinced that I did the right thing. I didn’t expect that breaking up with someone was almost as bad as being dumped.
    Unfortunately, I lost my willpower and went back to her after three weeks. We lasted 2 more months but she eventually broke up with me. I wish I had used the No contact tactic, but I maintained contact and made it much worse on myself. I’m still struggling to get over it and thankfully, I am getting better.

    • @iBtally
      @iBtally Před 8 měsíci +3

      Same happened to me. I broke up with my ex, 1 week later we had s*x twice , then she tells me it’s not working. Somehow I feel used but at the same time I know I messed up by keeping in contact with her. Now I know what to do, *No contact* and on to the next one.

  • @christieshafer1438
    @christieshafer1438 Před rokem +1

    thank youI appreciate this

  • @oumougnaissa5915
    @oumougnaissa5915 Před 8 dny

    Thanks for helping

  • @PaulW1954
    @PaulW1954 Před rokem +6

    Awesome coach .. Thank you 🙏

  • @TheAnuThebest
    @TheAnuThebest Před rokem +2

    Thank you,💗.this is what I have to do..to be much more stronger 🙏💜!!..helps me healing too... I being too available to him and nothing being chance in 2 years. We did take time out and no talking about be apart or breakup.. but it's being go more and more distance behavior from him.. and I being stuck 😔

  • @scripturallove8567
    @scripturallove8567 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Now NC day 2. I have initiated NC again after a failed 3 day NC and me responding to him bread crumbing me "checking up on me after surgery". I could feel myself falling into the long msgs so then I said thanks for checking up on me, i'm home from surgery. NC since then. I want to be pursued. I'm no longer chasing.

  • @mbuameisabella3147
    @mbuameisabella3147 Před 5 měsíci +1

    The videos are way educative

  • @tru3g3mini44
    @tru3g3mini44 Před rokem +28

    I pretend to be my exes friend and rub my single hood in their face!!! At first I couldn’t do it because I still had feelings for them but now I listen to them talk about their new boo and feel nothing!!! I brag about me traveling and living life!! I love to listen to them skirm and be jealous after they’re the ones that left me… call it childish!!! BUT THAT’S WHAT I DO!!

    • @Beth1300
      @Beth1300 Před 11 měsíci +4

      Why even communicate with them?

    • @LILSLEEPY81
      @LILSLEEPY81 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Why even waste your time... how long is that going to last? Because eventually whatever you do won't keep you satisfied

    • @RetiredDealerBayArea
      @RetiredDealerBayArea Před 9 měsíci +3

      Your still worried about them your in denial 😂😂

    • @MrJRD827
      @MrJRD827 Před 7 měsíci

      @@LILSLEEPY81because females currency is attention. They think it hurts but it’s really another way of showing that person you really care

  • @PeterHealthyLifestyle
    @PeterHealthyLifestyle Před 9 měsíci

    Hey bro, what's the title of that song on the background ? I am a big fan man. Peace

  • @krasigeorgiev5193
    @krasigeorgiev5193 Před měsícem

    Thanks coach

  • @PeeWeeDaOg
    @PeeWeeDaOg Před 2 měsíci

    Coah i thank God for your existence. Ive been in NC for a week. Been together 7 years im use to fighting more than her, changing etc. But today i noticed my power of self control and my emotions are fully back. Today my roomate asked if i wanted to hit her up n ask her over because his lady will be visiting. I went to say u know what F IT ima.....didnt even finish the thought JUST SAID HELL NAH BRO I CANT BREAK 4 NOTHING! Thats all im use 2 and she is use 2 APPRECIATE YOU KING 💯 STAY BLESSED REGARDLESS NO CONTACT BECAME SOLEY 4 ME NOT THE RELATIONSHIP. STILL A PROCESS BUT IM BECOME STEONGER AND WISER BY THE DAY

  • @baraahjarkas5517
    @baraahjarkas5517 Před 5 měsíci

    thank you ❤

  • @kelvinkollie3000
    @kelvinkollie3000 Před měsícem +1

    He is the 🐐🐐

  • @horaceblige2699
    @horaceblige2699 Před rokem +13

    She lives rent free in my head

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem +7

      Go no contact kick her out your mind and replace her with the new version of you. Do something new. Money wise physically wise and intellectually wise. Live the emotion alone 😊

  • @ritatemporado1825
    @ritatemporado1825 Před rokem +5

    I am learning so much I was doing all the wrong things and it's been 2 years I am going to start doing what you suggested I started doing it about 2 weeks ago and he called me my husband I don't know where. It really does work I do have to be patient and still be no contact and patient

  • @jenuwineblu450
    @jenuwineblu450 Před rokem +17

    These videos have helped me so much . I just recently left my 13 yr relationship. I haven’t talked to him in almost 2 weeks. That is really big for me. He always on my story tho watching me. But I’m really proud of myself. I was so week in September. That pain I felt motivated me to not break no contact.

    • @furahayamoyo9193
      @furahayamoyo9193 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Sorry for everything, 13 years is a long time with someone. How's it going for you now?

    • @jenuwineblu450
      @jenuwineblu450 Před 11 měsíci +2

      It’s going now he is taking it out on kids cause I refuse to talk to him. I’m so angry at myself for letting it last as long as it did. But I’m just thinking of myself and the kids. I’m not sure of what stage I’m in. But I finally realize I don’t want to ever get back with him. I’m still on my healing journey

    • @furahayamoyo9193
      @furahayamoyo9193 Před 11 měsíci +3

      @@jenuwineblu450 Trust me I know the feeling. We tend to stay in unhealthy relationships longer than we should. I have blamed myself for the same reasons, but better late than never. Now it's your time to put yourself first. I hope everything goes well for you ❤ You deserve to be happy!

    • @jenuwineblu450
      @jenuwineblu450 Před 11 měsíci

      @@furahayamoyo9193 Yes I blame myself for waisting so many years. But this new freedom I have I’m never letting that go.

    • @jenuwineblu450
      @jenuwineblu450 Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@danilaroche1156 He blamed it on not having money. Then hit me with the he not ready. Purposed in 2020 even made a music video & perpose that’s up here. But never no marriage. I got tired of the breadcrumbs. I only wish I woke up sooner. He calls & text all the time. But I don’t answer. I really don’t have no want to even speak to him.

  • @hjot483
    @hjot483 Před rokem +9

    There wasn't a breakup! We had a misunderstanding but I thought that was rectified. No goodbye! He ghosted me two and a half months ago

  • @terrycomrie5533
    @terrycomrie5533 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Love you content listen I know for sure no contact works 💯% I’m good at no contact it’s fun to me just watching them run behind you 😂

  • @hilo5901
    @hilo5901 Před rokem +3

    🎉 not to be chased! ❤️love it! Okay play it cool-😂❤🎉

  • @eddieevans2212
    @eddieevans2212 Před měsícem

    I agree with not rushing back in a relationship. The main most important question everyone should think about is how will they know they won't suffer another breakup from them again. I'm learning that, but i haven't heard from my ex. I'll never know when a reconnection will happen again.

  • @cvgodd1432
    @cvgodd1432 Před rokem +6

    Lol when I broke up with my girl she initiated it. She thought I would keep calling and begging to get back with her. She thought I would still be friends with her like we used to be before we dated. One day I’m like why am I doing this to myself, she’s gone! So she called and I told her nicely, I don’t want to talk to you so stop calling my phone. She said ok like she didn’t care. Than she calls a week later asking why I’m mad and why I don’t want to talk/see her. Another week she’s calling asking if I can get her weed and a T-Mobile phone. I said I have weed but not for you CLICK! For the next 7 years she calls my phone here and there in private and hangs up. I know it’s her but refuse to even ask or care. I thought to myself if she’s doing this with her bf, imagine what she was doing when I was dating her. She had a baby daddy too, caught her sending him money and clothes because he got deported to DR. I let it slide but she definitely kept doing it. It’s almost ten years later and I still get random private calls and I know it’s her. When’s the last time you got a private call lol. I know it killed her when I didn’t chase her and beg her to get back together. Her baby dad did this and I always told her that she enjoyed it. Some girls love when men beg for them and go crazy because of them. She was one of them and I refuse to let her win lol. If I talk to her today I’ll have the same attitude. “Yea wassup? Yea cool but I gotta go. Call me some other time!” One time she called and I know she heard the girl I was with talking in the background. She probably cried that night lol. I know her very well and I know she sits around thinking if she made the right decision. Well too late now, I’m all set and idk why I dated a girl with a damn new born in the first place. My mom warned me about girls with kids. I learned the hard way!

  • @andziagreen4922
    @andziagreen4922 Před rokem +60

    Actually "no contact" didn't work in my case😔 now after nearly 6 months I'm giving up my hope... I'm still healing and thinking God removed them from my life because there was something else which I didn't know about...

    • @TinfoilHatGirl
      @TinfoilHatGirl Před rokem +23

      It still worked because you walked away with grace and even if they will never admit it directly deep down they have respect for that. I'd recommend to put an own deadline on a break up anyway, like 2 months or 3 MAXIMUM. who comes running back after that much time only comes because they run out of other options and should not be taken back anyway.

    • @marcGOAT1
      @marcGOAT1 Před rokem +2

      why did the relationship end?

    • @shubhamgavande4681
      @shubhamgavande4681 Před rokem

      Use nevellie godard lectures dear

    • @devishivrattan4735
      @devishivrattan4735 Před rokem

      That's my point

    • @312Freecity
      @312Freecity Před 8 měsíci +4

      Hope is the biggest form of manipulation when it comes to people. Don’t hope. Focus on becoming a better you put your hope into yourself where you can control it 🤞🏾❤️

  • @csg45001
    @csg45001 Před rokem +9

    I recently had a break up. I caught him texting another lady, I asked him to be honest because we had stated a couple weeks before we are together just us. He wasn’t totally honest he was leaving for work asked me to stay so we could talk about it when he got home. My anxiety reached a super high level and I left him a break up note and left. We barely spoke for the next couple days and after he had some time to think about it he didn’t want to continue the relationship due to me going to the extremes and not being able to talk it out. I realized I made a huge mistake and I want him back but I am giving him his space. It’s been two weeks and he texts the “bestie” messages here and there.

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem

      Updates

    • @csg45001
      @csg45001 Před rokem +3

      @@benithacalloway8286 I gave him the breakup coach lee on CZcams. I went no contact. He lasted 8 days. But he was still hesitant, we finally met face to face 5 weeks after. We both apologize. Him and I have kind of started over in a kind of way. It’s been a month and we seem to be almost we’re we left off, I think you should learn from each break up and if it’s right you can have a better relationship then before if both of u are willing to work at it.

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem +1

      @@csg45001 yepp! Coach Lee😃 let them cleanup their mess lol . I’m happy for you. You’re in the right direction.! Coach Blak lol thank God! 🙏🏽

  • @terijordan6354
    @terijordan6354 Před rokem +1

    Thanks

  • @7clippers1
    @7clippers1 Před měsícem

    Im day two out of 7 years with him. I’m not interested in dominating… I’ve crawled under a rock for now to lick my wounds, God knows there’s healing to be done.. I wish him well and I hope I come out okay.

  • @Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387
    @Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387 Před měsícem

    I’ll try it

  • @misscooks601
    @misscooks601 Před 3 měsíci

    5:39 I felt that. My man is so dominant he would not even budge.

  • @thabomotaung7703
    @thabomotaung7703 Před 3 měsíci

    1.Silence and mistry
    2.Resistance - Don't be in a hurry to lock them
    3.Patience

  • @roland4859
    @roland4859 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I block in a way that they can’t reach me in any way. No text no call. The only way is a letter or showing up at my house.

  • @oluwadamilolaoriade5426
    @oluwadamilolaoriade5426 Před rokem +19

    I can't forget about him, the love I have for him is so genius ❤ 3 months of no contact with him.. I remember him everyday

  • @kristinastutchman6597

    Do you have a video on if you have children? How to work to get them back when no contact isn’t possible

  • @chrishardy7781
    @chrishardy7781 Před rokem +6

    Do a video on an ex with who you have a kid with and what to do

    • @shyannedukes6941
      @shyannedukes6941 Před rokem +1

      Yes please lol I have soo many prob. Going on right now. My head is spinning! ...15yrs & 2 kid's me and my ex are talking I just dont know what to do

    • @chrishardy7781
      @chrishardy7781 Před rokem

      @@shyannedukes6941 we’re not even talking and she’s dating someone else and making it difficult with our daughter too

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem +1

      @@shyannedukes6941 do things that benefit the kids. No romantic strings attached

    • @neikethozotepa1115
      @neikethozotepa1115 Před 9 měsíci

      I have kids too. I Cheated my wife how shall I get back her. Im sorry for what I've done. I can't forget my Child and my wife.

  • @khemical133
    @khemical133 Před rokem +1

    Hey coach I currently live in AZ and moving to OR(where my ex lives for a job) should I let her know(hence why I break up was distance)

  • @Naterade719
    @Naterade719 Před 7 měsíci

    I feel like she's so distracted by other people hitting her up and her busy life that she's not even thinking about me. No contact is going strong though!

    • @giovannipantorno884
      @giovannipantorno884 Před 7 měsíci +1

      Usually when the girl leaves she ain't coming back. It'd happening to me now

  • @tjasakrajnc2801
    @tjasakrajnc2801 Před rokem +12

    My ex and I broke up in late august. I was stupid, I texted him, I was waiting for him. I was still totally in love with him. So we get together in late november for one week! Then he dumped me again. I belived him that he loved me, he even cry, that he need me. He left me again, like I was piece of ****. I should mention, that he has some mental problem. This relationship destrojed me. And now he is happy without me. He didn't text me or nothing. I'm nothing in his eyes. This hurts so much. I loved him (still) so much, more than myself and this is wrong. So, some ex don't come back. These are the facts.

    • @ninjamy9866
      @ninjamy9866 Před rokem +3

      yes depend ont he situation of breaakup..some breakup with the peace and both not do anything wrong ,,,but breakup without explanation its the most hurt

    • @tjasakrajnc2801
      @tjasakrajnc2801 Před rokem +3

      @@ninjamy9866 yes, you are right! I just don't understand those people, how can be so cruel and so lack of empaty. i'm not a bad person, I'm a teacher and very empathetic, but I wish that karma hits those people really good.

    • @afrintayeba2981
      @afrintayeba2981 Před rokem +2

      Stay strong..be patient...

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem +3

      Never initiate contact with dumpers just what coach Blac says on his videos. They’re the ones who dumped you let them put their own hands to pick you up. Let them dig deep where they trashed you. Let them pay their own consequences . Because you’re too nice they see you as clingy. Go back with no contact. Learn something new. Trust me he’ll wonder why he hasn’t heard from you. Just what coach Blac says on his videos. Scarcity is attractive. when you open up door for dumpers to come back it’s easier for them to exit. Wishing you success on this 😊

    • @tjasakrajnc2801
      @tjasakrajnc2801 Před rokem +1

      @@benithacalloway8286 yes, you are right and thank you! We don't speak anymore. More than 2 month...

  • @lamar4333
    @lamar4333 Před měsícem

    Please tell me the background music you are using? It’s so relaxing

  • @rosesamuri17
    @rosesamuri17 Před rokem +5

    I (30f) chased him throughout the course of our relationship in some form and at every turn this bit me in the ass. I approved of him before he'd proven himself because I was so attracted to him in the beginning. I broke up with him a little over a week ago and its been murder on my heart. I'm walking around with a hole in my chest because I still love him despite his lack of trying to prove his metal. I discovered throughout all of this that he doesn't love himself at all and has no real intention of loving himself, healing his past, or protecting himself. So I'm wondering...am I wrong for wanting to end it only to start over and try again? To be the one who is chased by him this time despite the fact that I broke it off with him?

    • @newzealand_travelstories_a8684
      @newzealand_travelstories_a8684 Před rokem +1

      Wow, this is exactly my situation. I walked away three weeks ago. He has not healed from his past relationship and now is not willing to make this work. Is it right for wanting him back, although I was the one who walked away?

  • @Tamara-mr9he
    @Tamara-mr9he Před 7 měsíci +1

    My ex will use our son. He hasn’t contacted in over 5 weeks for him but he will come in with the ‘sorry I haven’t messaged but how are you and little one?’ He knows I’ll reply 🤦‍♀️ but I’ve disappeared. Deleted apps except Facebook but I don’t post anything at all.

  • @IdrissAloma-ov7rp
    @IdrissAloma-ov7rp Před měsícem

    Have been going through all u mentioned in this video . Need help how to get my my power back over her . I invested alot in her she was nobody

  • @billionairegang9285
    @billionairegang9285 Před rokem +2

    My ex contacts me three days in my no contact journey..actually with a different phone number so I pick and pretended I was asleep and told her I would call back..what do I do now please 🥺

  • @johndevlin7148
    @johndevlin7148 Před rokem

    I ignored her n one time she accused me of taking something in her bag which I used to do when we were dating after a day or 2 she came n asked for a pen I told I don't have I didn't even realize what I was doing I was just focusing on me n yeah I'm still in school

  • @louisem8564
    @louisem8564 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Can i ask if you sell a property you owned together too cut ties will they still try too come back ? I have gone no contact 9 weeks and changed phone number after he walked out with i dont love you anymore or trust you ...Thankyou

  • @millwallfan06
    @millwallfan06 Před 4 měsíci

    Any tips on how I do this with two beautiful kids involved? And a whole lot of hurt dished out to me from her toxic self

  • @PinkyandtheBrain215
    @PinkyandtheBrain215 Před rokem +1

    Does this work on ppl you were dating for awhile? Like two weeks?
    But the connection was there?
    I'm the dumper..I told him I didn't want to pressure him into anything.

  • @goldenlifelove7251
    @goldenlifelove7251 Před 10 měsíci +8

    My ex reached out after 10 days of dumping me, to wish me happy birthday. I know he did it out of guilt cuz we were supposed to spend my bday together & cuz he knows how important that day was to me. I responded "Thx" 3 days later. Part of me hopes he'll reach out again because I want all my questions answered & I want to know that he misses me. The other part of me knows we'll never be friends in spite of how close we were.

  • @christinabonillas8689
    @christinabonillas8689 Před rokem +2

    What if you have kids and no contact isn't an option?

  • @sabihanahla9841
    @sabihanahla9841 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Our heart is our enemy

    • @annsumrall2593
      @annsumrall2593 Před 4 měsíci

      Thats for darn sure. I hate my heart for falling so in love with this man. I gave up a man who loved me for this man who just left me. Now my damn heart is broken and i am so lonely and depressed

  • @carolnaidu5273
    @carolnaidu5273 Před 5 měsíci

    He comes and goes always. He says he will always come back to me. I feel like he doesn’t realise what he does. The moment he faces any difficulties in his life. He breaks up with me and then he comes back. I think he loves me but is depressed in his life. He does plays games. I don’t know what to do

  • @lisarodriguez4172
    @lisarodriguez4172 Před rokem +2

    What if he’s in a rebound relationship

  • @danielbeverly2147
    @danielbeverly2147 Před rokem +2

    My situation is easy I sincerely don’t want a relationship with any of theses 304’s. All we can talk about is coming over and giving me some sloppy.

  • @cuteandfluffypikachu3405

    This only works if you ex has empathy unlike mine I gave up with the NC it is pointless

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem +1

      Empathy is charity. It has nothing to do with attraction. Still some people settle for that less.

  • @pjabolt9015
    @pjabolt9015 Před rokem

    Hi coach,does no contact still work even if me and my ex still talked and met up (just to smoke pot together)but will going no contact work if i just suddenly go silent?at the same time I dont want be rude by not just texting back but i really love her and want her to be attracted to me

  • @devishivrattan4735
    @devishivrattan4735 Před rokem +1

    What if the ex has someone else????

  • @BeeGuerrero-rw1dt
    @BeeGuerrero-rw1dt Před 5 měsíci

    We have 2 kids together and 21 year marriage and I have not cared about no contact, been blocked him out of social media, I don’t call or text and he don’t bother what recommendation do you have?

  • @Viajecomigo1000
    @Viajecomigo1000 Před 14 dny

    Going to no contact 🙏

  • @estherloma157
    @estherloma157 Před rokem +1

    How can you work on it if children are involved?

  • @mottley5216
    @mottley5216 Před rokem +3

    I appreciate your counsel very much.. can you give some pointers for coparenting please ? Divorced 1 year, we share 3 kids together.. how do I successfully go no contact ? Effective boundaries ?

  • @Yeyyea
    @Yeyyea Před 6 měsíci

    What if you have a child together???

  • @czarmitsanze4509
    @czarmitsanze4509 Před rokem +1

    Hey coach, My ex wanted to meet me last week but I was out of country, should I call them and ask them to meet or I should continue with NC, btw it has been almost 2month NC.

    • @lovelifeeat7761
      @lovelifeeat7761 Před rokem +2

      If she knows that you were out of country. Then leave her. She will contact you if she really wants you back. Be patient. I m not expert. It’s my suggestion.

    • @mikew6052
      @mikew6052 Před rokem

      Contact her but let her come to you, she has to put in the effort. If she doesn't accept, you know enough

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem

      Contact back to apologize as the reason you did not reply. that will put you back in power

  • @carolnaidu5273
    @carolnaidu5273 Před 5 měsíci

    How to deal with such kind of people ?? I do love him a lot and I do forgive him everytime because I know that he really needs help
    But I don’t know

  • @dopevibestv2988
    @dopevibestv2988 Před 7 měsíci

    @coachblack if my ex posted pics of me and us after our breakup what does it mean ? I know she’s being indirect but what else ?

  • @higherlight67
    @higherlight67 Před 7 měsíci

    Does this apply for long distance too?

  • @jasonrockwell5997
    @jasonrockwell5997 Před rokem +8

    My ex broke up with me back in Oct. I've done the no contact, she keeps reaching out here and there but it's nothing meaningful and all it does is mess with my emotions I've been trying to ignore it but it's usually bout small stuff I left at her house, I'm at my wits ends I've watched lots of videos and I'm not reaching out to her I'm just getting to a point where I'm lost

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem +5

      No contact work on yourself is your only solution

    • @mutechannel13
      @mutechannel13 Před rokem +4

      I've been through this too. If the stuff you left there is important go get it. Dont ask her any questions about her life. Every question she ask you keep it short as possible. Try to smile if possible even if it's fake. Don't show any resentment at all. I did this after my ex cheated and left me. They may ask questions just to see if you are doing better than them. Don't give her any more fuel to degrade you to her friends.

    • @jasonrockwell5997
      @jasonrockwell5997 Před rokem +3

      @@mutechannel13 I barely said anything just got my stuff, showed no emotion and turned around and walked back to my car, didn't say bye or thank you or you're welcome, just walked away and left

    • @Zsuluap
      @Zsuluap Před rokem +1

      Dont react unless she really is asking something meaningfull. I had the same thing happen last 4 months and got friend zoned because i stayed nice.
      Full no contact and not looking back is the best. I ruined more by trying to be friendly and chasing (not even over chasing) but always being available etc etc.
      Just dissapear for a while asap.

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Před rokem

      @@jasonrockwell5997 updates please

  • @NaJohnsonWPhilly
    @NaJohnsonWPhilly Před rokem +3

    😂 facts whenever I got caught or she assumed I was cheating she was on me even more but whn she pulled bck and I started chasing it went dwn hill fast I say tht to say stay on ur purpose THY SAY U CAN NVR LOSE WOMEN CHASING MONEY BUT U CAN LOSE MONEY CHASING WOMEN SHIT IS CORRECT it all starts with self love

  • @williamdolan7189
    @williamdolan7189 Před rokem +3

    I still talk to ex and we even meet sometimes for a talk we are friends starting from scratch and so we shall see how it goes

  • @Dbrwrld
    @Dbrwrld Před 7 měsíci

    No contact almost 60 days and she just unfollowed me but I didn’t react. I think I got a condo in her head now but just seeing how it plays out

    • @runout1013
      @runout1013 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Damn you should reach out to

  • @MegasTeque
    @MegasTeque Před rokem +3

    What if they follow your blog or CZcams? You can't unsubscribe them or stop yourself from working on a passion, what do you do?

    • @oscarbravo8585
      @oscarbravo8585 Před rokem

      Ignore her and pretend she does not exist.

    • @dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473
      @dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 Před rokem

      You can block on CZcams..I had 2 trolls on my channel and I blocked them it’s the 3 dots in upper corner

    • @OGTrollTroll8
      @OGTrollTroll8 Před rokem +3

      Be happy, Succeed and grow right infront of them.

  • @G0tYaa
    @G0tYaa Před měsícem

    Hi. Me and my ex broke up 4 months ago..no drama involved (12 years together, i still have huge feelings for her. jealous etc..) and she is dating some1 new.. We should have our 2nd meet up with a drink next week to catch up how life is going. Do u think its ok to text him that "Sorry. I would like to see you but I can't at the moment. I've made my thoughts in a better direction and right now i would only woke useless dreams and hopes in my head.
    I need a little more time.."
    OR
    should i go for the drink, be confident etc and after that start the no contact.

  • @kaybautista2306
    @kaybautista2306 Před dnem

    How do you make this work if you are in opposite ends of the country and the strain of the distance is what primarily caused the break up?

  • @filyciamoyo6727
    @filyciamoyo6727 Před rokem +1

    I reached out to my ex yesterday telling him about what the baby needs and he ignored he did not respond so I just let him be. I didn't shout I didn't make I unnecessary calls coz he had not replied my text.we hv been on 2 months no contact.

  • @idae6668
    @idae6668 Před měsícem

    What about if you have blocked them from your phone and social media?

  • @user-hp8xg7ke2n
    @user-hp8xg7ke2n Před 6 měsíci +1

    I. Don't. Want. Any. Parts. Of. My. Ex. He. Wanted. To. End .our. relationship. So. Now. It's. Over. I. Wont. Make. The .same. mistakes. Twice.

  • @user-vk7zw4vw2o
    @user-vk7zw4vw2o Před 6 měsíci

    Coach blac what if its a baby Involved its so hard not to reach out only time i do for the baby & the same for him

  • @eriktorres8975
    @eriktorres8975 Před 12 dny

    My ex tried to hmu if she can use the pool at my apt, and if I still had connections with Mexican asthma inhalers I keep it short one word answers idk if I did the right thing or I should just ignore them all together.

  • @sha28sp
    @sha28sp Před měsícem

    We just dated for two months but we had instant connection and we got close really fast but suddenly he got cold feet and we broke up! Would this work for short relationships 😭😭