*EMOTIONAL* I GOT PREGNANT WITH AN IUD | Pregnant with Baby #2 | Taylor Lindsay
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#birthcontrolfail #paragardpregnancy #baby#2
I know this vid is a couple years old, but if you’re just now watching this and finding yourself in a similar spot, you’re not alone. I got pregnant back-to-back-to-back (~7 months postpartum). It is different however in my situation because it was on purpose.
I have written out some thoughts that I hope can encourage you and help you feel less alone. (I can’t speak to terminating a pregnancy simply because I have never lived that. Regardless, I hope that you are able to have a healthy, stable, safe life as you grapple with decisions. Likewise with miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy, I wish you peace as you deal with many possible emotions: fear, sadness, relief, grief, etc. I also know I come from a place of privilege. Even though a totally tried-for and wanted pregnancy can have a huge whiplash of emotions, it is different from the whiplash of emotions from a surprise pregnancy.)
Anyway, all that to say, I see you. I believe you. Your feelings and experience matter because you are inherently valuable.
Now, if your current situation is unsafe or abusive, you may not be able to to work through emotional stuff because all your energy is focused on survival. I hope that you are able to believe that you deserve better and find a safe way to
be free. It is complicated and often dangerous, so I hold you in my heart, wherever you are.
Now that those tangents have been addressed:
Assuming you’re pregnant and stay pregnant, give yourself lots of grace. It can feel overwhelming to have a young baby and be pregnant again.
Figure out what the minimum is that needs to get done. Feel no shame if you put a baby gate up in your living room and sleep on the floor while your baby crawls around.
The WHO recommends at least 18 months from the birth of one kid to the conception of the next, so you are doing something that is physically very challenging. Back to back pregnancies can put more of a strain on your body, but that is also highly individual. Some bodies are very resilient and many people are more than okay..
If you’re on mental health meds, many of them are safe or at least very-probably-safe to take during pregnancy. (There’s not a lot of studies done on pregnant people because of ethical concerns.)
Back to back pregnancies is like a whiplash of hormones, which truly has physical effects on your brain. You may be at an increased risk of PPD or antenatal depression. And I don’t say that to make you feel doomed. Different medical organizations have info on the signs of depression/anxiety/ocd/psychosis in their websites. You don’t have to look for probes that aren’t there. But you can be honest with yourself if you are really struggling. Knowledge is power. Treatment is helpful.
If you notice hopelessness/panic/bleakness coming on, there is NO SHAME in telling your OB what you’re dealing with.
If you feel dismissed, it is very reasonable to push back,: “No, really, what I’m feeling seems bigger than situational sadness, discouragement, or pregnancy moodiness. I know you are a professional with a lot of knowledge and experience. I’m telling you that I live inside my brain every day and something seems off. If you really don’t think there’s an issue, I need a referral to someone who can explore this with me further. This is very important to me.”
You need to be healthy for yourself (because you are a human who inherently deserves that.
You don’t need the extra stress of untreated mental health battles while taking care of your older baby. You are allowed to say, “I can’t accept that my current experience is healthy. I need to make sure I’m healthy for myself and for the kid I already have.”
Meds (and therapy if it’s in your budget) can really help lift you back to a healthier state. (I’m living proof.)
And also, you’re not dumb or a failure or deserving of any shame for having back to back pregnancies. People sometimes make comments in casual conversation that are supposed to be lighthearted or funny, but they can feel super weird. Comments like “Oh no, you know how that happens, right?” or “Oh man, you’re in for it!” or making “funny” assumptions about you + your partners’ sex life… Like, seriously. Tone it down a notch. We’re at the grocery store and I don’t know you 😂 .
It’s up to you how you handle it. I really believe most people just say stuff thinking it’s normal and funny. Heck, maybe most stuff doesn’t bother you. Sweet. That’s great. But if it makes you feel weird, you’re allowed to respond in a way that feels comfortable. Humor, sarcasm, ignoring it, honesty… I just wouldn’t recommend a fist fight as a first-line comeback myself 😂
Regarding “gratefulness” and “the miracle of life.” You’re still allowed to say, “This is hard,” “I’m scared,” and more. You don’t have to shame yourself for admitting that it’s hard sometimes or not what you wanted. You don’t have to compare your struggles to your friends’ infertility struggles. Complaining doesn’t mean that you’re an ungrateful or bad person. It means you’re human and are dealing with a lot.
Positives:
There are definite perks to having kids close together. There can be a sense of “getting it over with” as far as pregnancy and the newborn stage is concerned.
Your kids will be close enough to have similar interests and your older one will probably not remember life without a sibling.
You may feel guilty that your older baby already has to share you. I get that. I feel that deep in my soul. It IS a trade off. A little less of you, but they will get a peer to grow up with. Not everyone is natural bffs with their sibs. And jealousy and rivalry are super normal and common. But parents really can cultivate a home culture where sibs learn how to treat each other with decency and respect. That leads me into…
I highly highly highly recommend checking out Big Little Feelings on Instagram. They have amazing content for grownups with young children. Stuff like: introducing a new sibling to a toddler, handling “irrational” toddler behavior, and tantrums, meltdowns, independent play, food pickiness and more. I adore their stuff. It is clear, concise, backed by actual scientific knowledge of child development. They know their stuff and their ideas are amazing.
I mention them because having a young/pre-verbal toddler and a newborn at the same time can be intense. Young toddlers don’t have great impulse control and they’re still pretty much babies in many ways. You may be able to save yourself some headaches and power struggles with help from Big Little Feelings. I know I have!! (And I wish I had a code or something to give you, but they literally don’t know I exist haha. I’m just a random mom on the internet who loves pointing people toward helpful content.)
I was definitely raised a bit more “old school” and I was skeptical of a gentler approach. I’ll say I learned “gentle” doesn’t mean overly permissive or never having consequences and I’ve been really amazed at the overall environment in our home thanks to resources like Big Little Feelings.
Other perks:
That being said, there is a sweetness in seeing your 16 month old spontaneously kiss a newborn or bring a toy to share. There is the possibility of syncing up nap schedules. There is freshness of literally having just done all this so you haven’t forgotten much.
You are far from alone on this version of child rearing. Do what you need to and cut corners where you can. If I had a nickel for how many times we’ve had waffles for all meals… or just said “f*ck it, kids your dinner is crackers, instant mashed potatoes, and a spoonful of peanut butter because I know you’ll eat it and i don’t want to put in any more effort than I have to.”
Embrace being a little jank if it takes stress off you: Let your toddler run around in just a diaper so you have less laundry. Take a nap under your desk on your lunch break. Let your kids draw on themselves with washable markers if it gives you a few minutes of peace. Heck, download some toddler flashcards or animal sound games and hand your older kid your phone when you need.
You’re not lazy. You’re not bad. You’re not selfish. You’re taking care of a baby and growing another one at the same time. best wishes.
Thank you so much for those kinds words of advice!!
These are the most beautiful words I could ever hear from a woman. Why don't you create videos with these words to spread some power around for struggling women? You are a beautiful soul, I can feel that from your words 💖
My sons are 14 months apart and were not planned at all. I will admit I was NOT excited when I found out which I felt gulity about but my husband and I had just moved and had no money in savings not to mention I was just pregnant and to go through another pregnancy again I was so scared. I found believe everything happens for a reason as well. Two weeks before my due date my 25 year old brother died suddenly. That baby was the healing my family and I needed at that time.
planet blu00 wow ❤️ im so sorry for your lost, but happy you do have this bundle of Joy that will heal your family.
planet blu00 I’m sorry for your loss love
maybe he is the reincarnation of your brother
I'm sorry for your loss, and congratulations on your baby! I'm so glad that it brought your family happiness, especially in dark times
My brother and I are 13 months apart. He was a surprise and it was tough on mom. She’s gone now and we have each other.
Boo boo Weezlz awe this makes my heart happy. I have twins and it was so hard in the beginning but I’ve always thought that the hard work will be worth it because they will always have each other. If I leave the world I won’t have to worry because my babies won’t be alone.
My sister's and I are years apart, which means we are not close. By the time the youngest was 9 I had moved out. My mom died January 2019 and I'm in a nursing home alone.
My guys are 16 months apart. Definitely not planned. I was scared too. They are best friends. It's incredible. You'll love it.
Ah so overwhelming! As you said everything happens for a reason and as you come to terms with your new little addition it will be more exciting! Blessings for a healthy pregnancy and delivery 💜
LADIES!!!!!! WHENEVER YOU GO TO THE DOCTOR'S OFFICE TO HAVE A PROCEDURE DONE PLEASE READ THE PAMPHLETS!!!! It tells you in the pamphlet how to take care of your IUD...Even if a doctor forgets to tell us something we still have the paperwork in the instructions and the warnings that we can read for ourselves. We should always read things for ourselves. ♥️
#this
I read the heck out of my Mirena pamphlet. I read it at the office. I read it at home. I went on their website. I check my strings before every single time I have sex. Ya girl aint looking to air BnB her body for 9 months!
Yes!!! Always !!! Please please read info about medications or any procedure that was done.
AMEN - it's NOT the IUD's fault. Her body expelled it and she wasn't checking the strings. People have to be their own advocate when it comes to their health.
Yes
I read articles/and went on the Nexplanon website to ensure I knew everything! I’m in college and pregnancy is absolutely NOT happening anytime soon for me.
Doing everything in my power to ensure that!
I never knew about needing to check after every period! Thank you soooo much for making this! Sending many prayers.
After reading the comments I am shocked, I had no idea that pregnancy with an IUD was so common
I’m so shocked as well
I think it's definitely more than 1% for sure
@@unprocessed_life well one percent is a lot of people if you think about how many women have IUDs. 1% of about 4.4 million is 44,000 pregnant women!!
@@nickelpennybanks true
Anna w It’s less than one percent but I suppose I hear a lot of horror stories. I’ve been 3 years on the Mirena though and no problems
Girl almost exact same thing happen to me. Mine are 14 months apart. I was so scared and worried. I was honestly devastated. But guess what! Best thing ever! My son completes us. And my second was so easy cause God knew I was overwhelmed. Lol they have been each other’s best friends. They learn at the same time. So many pluses of them being close in age! I promise, you will be more than ok! Mine are now 11 and 12 and I miss them being little so often. Just take a breathe and I promise it will all be wonderful! 💕
Thank you for sharing your story! You were brave and explained your situation well. I really like how you are doing your best to be positive and tell yourself the truth you know, "everything happens for a reason". I believe this too. Nothing in my life as gone even close to "following the plan" and I have really learned how to just roll with the punches and trust in God. My life is more beautiful this way. I am so happy your husband is thrilled and supporting you! You are on an amazing journey!
I got pregnant with the Paragard IUD too!! AND my name is Payton...So crazy. You got this though mama🙏🏼 prayers for you
How old is your little one? Its nice to not feel like the only one 😊
He’s 6 weeks on Tuesday...I understand how you feel though. I was a junior in college..and my whole life has changed. Check out my video on my CZcams!! I talk about my experience :)
Hey Payton how long did you have your IUD? Jw, I just got mine in today.
Ashley Reid I had mine for 11 months until I got pregnant!
Payton Anton sorry to keep asking questions but...I just had my paraguard IUD in three days ago and lord knows I have terrible cramps I’m not use to also I’m bleeding. Another thing is I feel like the iud is a tampon and I need to pull it out as if my uterus feels really heavy (if that makes sense) I’m sorry it’s TMI just need answers to them and I feel like I cannot find anything
My kids are 12 months apart. I honestly was super excited about it my husband was scared out of his mind. It's no walk in the park but once you give birth you'll learn to cope with everything. Stay Blessed!
It's okay to feel worried, sad, or scared. It's nobody's place to judge!! I'm so sorry this happened girl. I think you are incredibly brave, strong and a wonderful mother. I do pray that this child will bring you so much happiness and joy one day. I hope everything works itself out. Keep us updated!
Totally legitimate feelings. Give yourself time and grace to process. You got this, Mama!
My heart broke when you started crying. Thank you for sharing this story.
You are so sweet, don’t feel bad for feeling scared that’s completely understandable in your situation. But it sounds like god has blessed you with a loving husband and put that precious midwife in your life when you needed her so he’s taking care of you and everything will work out. Praying for continued peace
It’s okay mama you got this! You have a great support system ❤️
You will be fine miss dont worry, it is truly a blessing. My wife got pregnant just 4 months after delivering our first daughter, we were a little scared too but more excited also because it took us two years just to get pregnant with our first daughter so we saw it as God’s way of rewarding us for our patience for those two years by blessing us with two beautiful daughters back to back.
Our daughters are only 13 months apart (2018 and 2019) We love them so much. Our newborn sleeps very well and our first daughter sleeps now at least 8-11 hours at night so God made everything easy for us.
You and your husband need to work as a team and make the experience fun. May God make this pregnancy easy for you amen😊
P.S. my wife is on depo shot right now but she hates it because it causes so much spotting, she is thinking of IUD right now but if she gets pregnant on it, then it is God’s Will and God never tests us with something we cant handle 😊
I know you’re probably feeling so incredibly overwhelmed and scared because you are likely exhausted and just trying your absolute best right now ... but this is such a blessing and I wish you the best with your pregnancy love
Oh Mama... my heart hurts for you... it's so, so hard no matter how prepared you are. Sending so much love and support your way❤
I got pregnant with an iud as well. Im so happy i did because i got divorced when my baby was just 2. I cant imagine my life without her.....she is 10yrs old now!
Mine are 14 months apart, DEFINITELY not planned (I was on the pill), and I felt exactly how you are feeling. Now my surprise baby is 6 months and him and his bubba have the sweetest relationship. Couldn’t imagine life any other way now. You’ve got this, mama❤️❤️ God has you!
Girl I felt the same way when I found out I was pregnant when my son was 8 months old too!! Sending love and hope!
my mom got pregnant with my twin sister and I at 20 years old and was a single mom, you can do this!! everything does happen for a reason :)
I love the honesty here. It’s a flood of emotions!!
everything will work out for you ✨ my brother and i are 14 months apart and both my parents are disabled and it was SO hard for them but they did it 💛 and so can you! plus i loved having my brother growing up, i think it makes it easier for both the parents and the kids! :) just cause you dont have to have their friends over to distract them all the time, they're already distracted with each other ✨✨🙏
My first & only pregnancy I had twins. Be strong you’ll be fine mama. It’s normal to feel this way ♥️ You’ve got this
Awww don’t cry hun, you will be ok and a great mother to your unborn child.. you’re a super mom! You got this !
Thanks girl!!
You got this Mama! My second baby was four months old when I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd that turned into baby 3 and 4. When I found out it was twins it took me weeks to get excited. Here we are two years later and I can’t imagine life turning any other way. It’s going to be tough, but you will make it thru. Best words I can describe it as is beautiful chaos.xo
You got this girl! Down the road you’ll be so thankful it happened and everything will work itself out!
❤😢 I feel you girl everything happens for a reason
I also got pregnant with the paragaurd, after 5 years of it working well. I also, freaked out. I’m 24 yrs old, & me and my husbands plans were completely different. We weren’t planning to have kids till 27-28. I’m a very controlling person and ever since this happened the best advice I can give is “ you make plans and god laughs “ && now we are over the moon happy & you will be too! Hang in there, let go and let god!
Omg are you me?
xXShiroXx haha! Crazy right?!
“You make plans & God laughs”😂😂 So very true!!!
Was baby born safe?
THANKS FOR BEING SO BRAVE! EVERYTHING DOOOOES HAPPEN FOR A REASON & GOD HAS HIS PLAN FOR YOU & YOUR HUBBY & WERE EXCITED TO WATCH YOUR JOURNEY!
My daughter and my son are 14 months apart and I’m sooo thankful it happened like that even though at the time I was so scared and wanted a bigger age gap between babies.He is the biggest blessing ever!
Girl you got me crying 😭😭 I pray that everything works out for your family. It will get better with time and like you said everything happens for a reason. Be blessed momma😘
I’m so sorry ☹️ I’m sure everything will be okay. ❤️
Truly love how raw this video is. You are human. Thank you for sharing your experience. ❤
Thank you for saying that. Means a lot! 💓
Just stumbled across your video! I’m currently expecting in September, and it was unplanned!😳 it was a total surprise too, but I’m a firm believer of everything happening for a reason! God gives you unexpected surprises!
Congrats mama!
This is the first video I saw of yours and I immediately started following you. Thank you for your honesty!
I am currently pregnant with number 10...children are such a blessing. It’s work but work that I enjoy and it is so rewarding. Motherhood is a gift not everyone can have a baby cherish this baby you will see that they will be best friends:)
I got pregnant w paraguard iud last March (2019). It came out when I hit 16 weeks and was a successful healthy pregnancy. Thanks so much for sharing your story as it brought me encouragement soon after I had my iud pregnancy confirmed!
I didn't get pregnant with an IUD, but as someone who has faced an unplanned pregnancy I do know that it can be a huge shock and hard. Things will work out, but It is totally fine to take that time to adjust to it and grieve your plans, and be shocked and emotional. It is totally normal. Hugs and It will get better soon.
My brother and I are 17 months apart and it’s so fun to be that close in age! He’s about to move to college with me and we’re moving in together. Don’t feel bad about not being able to spend as much time with your baby, she’ll love having a sibling!
These comments have me so scared. Our two are 21 months apart and we’re done at two. I got paragard a few months ago and now I’m thinking husband needs to go get the snip 🙃
Melissa Bamsey if you’re both done he should deffs be the one “unloading” the gun as it were! It’s reversible in most cases as well, so go for it!
Melissa Bamsey he should use condoms too if y'all don't want anymore and don't have any complications with condoms ummmm
Melissa Bamsey yes thats the best option
I have copper IUD had it for almost a year now. Got it checked couple of times and no issues for me. Although I have IUD I still use condoms . Because it just take a little nudge or move from IUD and someone to ejaculaye inside it you to get pregnant. I am super careful , I use all the backups I need. Regardless of how effective my doctor tells me it is, I dont trust nobody. Again congratulations on your pregnancy, I am sure you will be fine and its hard to get through. but your tough and I have faith in you.
Ashley Hickey I have had two copper iuds. I had the first iud removed after 10 years and had a second on inserted and I’m getting ready to have this one out after 10 years. I have never had any issues with it and obviously never gotten pregnant with it. From the comments it looks like more than 1% have gotten pregnant with the ones that are not copper. People need to stop paying and having those inserted! Horrible!
Ashley Hickey you're right. I've been thinking about getting the copper IUD. I noticed many women get pregnant on it . But then again if you don't let your partner ejaculate inside of you, you will be protected by the IUD. That 1% won't effect you.
Ruby Rodriguez honestly!! I don't find birth control as protection for sex at ALL because A) it's more of a risk if their partner ejaculates inside of them (instead of condoms where it's protected on them) and B) it doesn't protect from STDs. I believe that people should use every form if they REALLY want to protect a pregnancy!! If their partner doesn't like wearing a condom, they need to suck it up if they don't want a baby.
I was thinking that...I was like some of the ladies must be letting their partners ejaculate inside of them.. and if it has shifted and they do pregnancy is inevitable...
But I mean I’m sure the doctors know some women are going to let their partners ejaculate in them 🤣 that’s why the BC is SUPPOSE to stop the sperm from getting in, and they usually only say use condoms to protect from STD’s. I guess that depends on how many partners you have! & That’s also why some people get on birth control, solely so they don’t have to use condoms with they’re partner. and it’s not suppose to move that easily you’re partner can’t go in you’re cervix no matter how “big” they are.
Congratulations I’m due December 19th! I was feeling the exact same when I found out I was pregnant recently! I have a three year old! Hang in there. :)
Amberlyn Yates I just came across this.... on December 19th 😂 coincidence! Hope you’re having a healthy baby today!
You're so sweet! Don't worry, sometimes we overthink things and in the end everything works out. Embrace the blessing God has granted you with. It will be challenging but you will be alright. Blessings to you and yours. 💖
Im currently 40weeks pregnant with an IUD baby!!! 😁
Congratulations
Congratulations
Sending prayers to you mama. The newborn stage is SO hard but you CAN do this. 💛
I also have an IUD baby. He's turning 5 soon. It was a shock and it did take me the entire pregnancy to get around to the idea. He's the best thing ever and clearly, it was meant to be. Today I wish I had taken pregnancy photos and things like that because I barely have anything as I was so reluctantly pregnant. He was baby number 4.
Oh girl! Everything will be fine! Just take it 1 day at a time! I have an almost 2 year old and I'm 7 months pregnant now and sometimes when my toddlet has his bad days i freak out bc I think to myself "how will I handle 2 babies?" But it comes down to patience. Breathe! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💓
Some family friends adopted a baby in January or February and she's about a year now and her biological baby sister was born maybe a month ago and they adopted her as well so they have a one year old and a one month old at the same time. Mom doesn't sleep between feedings of the infant and the one year old waking up and their different nap schedules, but they're so glad to be doing it all at once and they love that their daughters will be so close in age as they grow up. It's a lot right now though
I have a 2 year old and a 5 month old..it's hard sometimes especially now that my husband works out of town...some days are hard I get so overwhelmed but I take each day at a time
Oh mama ! After we had our three boys ages 5, 3, 1 we wanted to take a 3-5 yr break . Well 14 months later I got pregnant with baby number 4! It was such a shock and surprise! We got our GIRL though ☺️❤️
I was in complete shock when I found out I was pregnant when I had an 8 month old also! Now that I have a 2 year old and almost 1 year old, I can honestly say, I wouldn’t want it any other way. It’s an amazing journey for sure! 💖
I got pregnant with my second baby while on the copper IUD. My son was only 14 months old when I found out. we were definately not ready for another baby but now he is 9 months old and the joy of our lives. God has a plan for all of us.
Mine are 10 1/2 months apart and everything is just fine! They’re 19 months and 8 months now and they’re so close and act like twins honestly 💜 you guys can do it! 💕
Thank you so much!
Kristin: are you saying you got pregnant when your first was only like 2 months old?
I got pregnant in January of this year with a perfectly placed Paraguard IUD. I had mine for 2 years and 9 months before it failed. I felt so much of what you felt and was a mess for honestly a month, but I’m now 25+ weeks with my first daughter and getting so excited. Like you said, God has a plan and a purpose. Thanks for sharing your experience, good luck, mama!
LOL me TOO. got pregnant in Jan. With paragaurd. 24 weeks now haha
simplylovely319 Do you know why it failed??
How many weeks were you when they took it out?
Just stumbled across this video, I also got a surprise pregnancy when my daughter was only six months old and felt the exact same way. Now that my son is almost one I can’t even imagine my life without him. Don’t worry, you will figure out your new normal in time
I am so sorry for your unplanned pregnancy. My second daughter was a surprise, my girls are 20 months apart, and I cried almost every day of my pregnancy. I felt like I was losing so much precious time with my oldest daughter but honestly she didn't notice at all. She has no memory of her life without her sister which is pretty special. They are 7 and 8 now and are so close and have a unique bond that wouldn't be there if they were 3+ years apart. It's okay to cry and feel sad, depressed, guilty but know that it will all work out in the end. Praying for you!
You’ll be okay . You’ll look back later on and say “ I wouldn’t have changed a thing for this world” so just push through
I’m from NJ and we moved to Wilmington NC. I totally understand what your going through, So hard with no family here. It will get better.. I promise
My first 3 kids are 14 and 13 months apart. I was terrified!!! But like everyone says they grow up to be the best of friends and I wouldn’t change it for the world!! Yes you have to divide your attention between them but they also have each other as little companions so it all works out! Your daughter is going to be thrilled to have a little sibling to dote on😊 hang in there mama!!❤️
Praying for you🙏🙏 You got this❤
My kids are 13 months apart, missed one pill and was only 3 months PP. they are now 2&3, there are overwhelming times but for the most part it has been a huge blessing, even though I bawled my eyes out at that first appointment finding out. They are now best friends & I never found it too difficult to handle
I got pregnant with the IUD as well! Crazy
My older sister and brother were born 11 months apart. (Sister first born on Feb 12th my brother was born Jan 12!) I always was so in awe and envious of their relationship and closeness they shared. Being so close in age is really such a beautiful thing. They always hung out with eachother and all their friends hung out with eachother! It’s such a cool thing! You can and will do this!!! Like you said everything happens for a reason and no matter what your first born will now have a best friend for the rest of her life!❤️❤️❤️
I got pregnant with an IUD as well. Unfortunately, it ended in a miscarriage. You got this! Everything has a purpose 🙏🏼 God bless you and your growing family ❤️ Congratulations ❣️💞
Don’t worry about it! If I can do it with twins you can! This baby is meant to be here!
Alejandra Hunter ????you can’t tell someone not to worry about it. You don’t know their situation.
LEYLA90 I prefer to stay on the positive side darling! You should try too... sending you lots of light and love! ☀️
Oh everything is going to be just fine the kids will grow up together and love each other it will be hard at first but all will work out
Yes, I so agree. My two youngest are 17 months apart and are very close.
I’m pregnant with my first & he was planned but I’m gonna hop on the pill as soon as he comes out. For some reason I just don’t want anymore kids anytime soon 😫 idk why I feel that way but my mind may change. God blessed you! You never know the reasoning but I’m sure it’s a good one. Congrats!
It’s ok mama you got this !! 💗
Same thing happened to me...my son will be 15 this year...I already had two sons they are now 26 and 19...it was also the Paragard
I got pregnant 5 months post partum. I cried and cried when I found out I was so scared and nervous for what was to come. I'm now almost 19 weeks. Just found out he's a little boy and there will be 14 months between them both when he gets here December 23rd 😍 2 & done !
Same exact thing happened with me on Paragaurd 😓 my son is 5 now.
Many blessings to you and your family 😇🙏
I used to be a nanny for a stay at home mom with twins in the Wake Forest/Raleigh area. In my experience she was able to spend time with her kids but also focus on house work and cooking the basic stay at home responsibilities. We went to parks, had picnics, went around the Raleigh area and places so she could get out while her husband was working. I’m no longer in the area, but it was a blessing to be a nanny. You really get to love the family and the kids you’re with and you see the weight lifted off the mamas shoulders! searching for a nanny might be a blessing for you and your family! the care.com app helps with that search! praying for you and your sweet family ❤️
God bless u & ur family. I know exactly how u feel this just happened to me January 2019 & I lost the baby cause I didn’t know until April 12 th 2019 & all I can do was cry because I felt so bad an now I have to wait 1 month for a IUD check up .
Sorry for your loss. You got pregnant when my mom died. May your next baby be healthy and you all be happy.
Bless your heart. I’m sure this was very overwhelming news. I truly believe you are going to love having your children so close together. My first two are 17months apart. I got pregnant when my first was 9 months old. They are each other’s best friend. They go through phases, together. Liking similar things and enjoying each other’s company. Yes, bad days will happen, but that is with any kids, with any age gap between them. This is a blessing. God has a plan for your family and this precious new baby. Congratulations. I hope you have a safe and wonderful pregnancy.
This was so sweet to read! Thank you so much for your kind words!! I'm getting more excited and relaxed as the days go on ❤
Light and love your way. It's ok to get emotional over the news. Doesn't mean the new baby won't be just as loved as your first. I know this first hand. I cried so much with the announcement of my 3rd. And he's my buddy now. You'll look back, after the baby is here and think "what a crazy story of the beginning of my baby" 💓
I admire your strength. Everything does happen for a reason. God bless you and your family.
Thank you so much. That means a lot. ❤️
Thank you for sharing this!
Exact same thing happened
to me about 33 years ago...biggest blessing ever. XXX
Dollar tree has pregnancy tests. I just got my paraguard removed 2 weeks after I got it because it was making me angry and a few other symptoms that I watched other women on CZcams experiencing. I had my sons 14 months apart. My older son is extremely active, started walking at 10 months, climbing out of his crib at 12 month, climbing everything. My husband and I don’t have any family in the state we live. You will be fine and everything will work out, it might get crazy and hectic at times but it will all be ok. I hope you enjoy NC, I loved it when I lived in Charlotte.
Thank you for sharing this video. Its very helpful
My babies were 1yr apart it was so hard thankful for my hubby such a big help ❤️ you got ths ❤️💗
My 2 youngest boys are 13 months apart. They are now 29 and 30 years old and are best friends. Wouldn't have had it any other way. You'll be glad they are close together. Enjoy, they grow up way too fast.
I have 3 kids. 13, 10 1/2 and 9. I had my iud right after having my son 9 years ago. Just last week I took a pg test and was in shock to find that it was positive. I went to dr. Yesterday and confirmed pregnancy and had iud removed. Im still paranoid of the what ifs. My next appointment is in 2 weeks and seems like forever. But watching your first 2 videos is giving my hope
You will look back at this video and realize how lucky you really are. It is so AWESOME having your children close together. It will be hard the first few months (or it may not) but you will be just fine.
Good luck mama “you got this”
Thank you so much for your sweet words! Means a lot 💕
The woman of NC rock! They are the best group of Mom’s and you will make friend’s quickly!
Watching this because I think I might be pregnant on the IUD as well.. I’ll be waiting another week for my period. Wish me luck 😭🤞🏼
Stay strong girl!
Same here!!!
Same 😩
So what happened, were you pregnant?
Me too!!! I’m having weird symptoms but scared to take a test. My doctors appointment is next week Thursday. I don’t want this iud to cause issues if I am pregnant.
Oh honey.... seeing you cry makes me sad!! Everything really does happen for a reason! I have 3 kids, they’re all about 2 years apart. The newborn stage is very hard, but you can get through it. ❤️
Love your heart! You have had three traumatic events that we know of! I just subscribed! I think you have a wonderful head on your shoulders though! You are taking it as well as anyone could in the situation! I am excited to watch all of your videos, because I know this one is older, but being new, I have to watch them all! Bless you hon and I hope everything is going better now! Guess I’ll see on the next video! 😀
You're so sweet! Thank you so much!
Awe I get how you feel. But trust me God knows what a great mom you are. And he needed you. You’ll see your heart will grow and then you will hold that tiny baby in your arms and look up and say thank you. Planes can fly family to you.....Congtats on a new little life growing inside yo🥳😘
I just moved to California from Ohio with my boyfriend and started bawling the other day realizing when we start having kids I won't have any family (hopefully some friends by then) :( praying for you!
just coming across this video... you are so strong. ❤️ i hope you’re feeling better about everything. yes, God has a plan for your family 😊
Yes, doing much better now that the initial shock wore off and now that we're feeling more adjusted to NC. Thank you for the kind words!
Ugh 6 weeks pregnant here and I sobbed when you started crying! 😭😭 darn hormones! I’m sure you are at a much better place now with this! Babies are a blessing
Oh the pregnancy hormones are sooo realllll! Congrats on your pregnancy! I am in a much better place now, thank you
Having kids close in age is difficult but it's fun and ur first little one will love it and they'll be very good friends, life will be good for you all
I live in NC mountains i just found your channel Best of luck to you 💙
You got this mama!!
Stress can make the body do some wild things! I know this wasn’t what you had envisioned for your life, but this baby was VERY meant to be!
Congratulations!!! I just came accross your video. I've had my current paraguard iud in for a year now and i usually get my periods every 28 to 30 days... I noticed i havnt gotten mine . I took a test 2 days ago it came out negative. Hours later i went to throw it away i noticed a very very line skinny line going down. I think it was a evap line. Yesterday i took a cheap test $1 it came out negative. I keep feeling tired and a cramp more on the lower right side.. I keep saying i feel im going to get my period. This is so frustrating! I had an iud a few years ago for 4 years untill we wanted another child. Then it worked so well.. I never miss periods.
DragonFlyDivine Light did you end up pregnant with the iud?