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I've been married for 24 years and my advice is; respect each other and be on the same page spiritually and financially
Which every couple can do, and still not sign the Government Marriage License.
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Also a sense of humour is essential.
Great advice.... im having a headache with both of those. Completely unequally yoked. I want to grow, and he wants to stay the same.
And also same values in raising children.
"Every family has crazy in it, if you don't think there's crazy in your family, it's you."đđđ
đđđ I needed that this morning. Thanks!
But I know there is one and itâs me đ€Ł
Ha ha wow
Wise words, lol. I got to show this to my wife.
Really. đđđđ It's the biggest truth!
30 years old with wife and 3 kids have no debt but house and that will be paid off in 5 months thanks 2 Mr Ramsey and his principles
Did u do it
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"You know how much I care? Not at all."
Please put this on merch. đđđ
Carolyna Belle that is a good one, i can t-shirts HMU Iâll make that SHIRT for you
I'd buy it
I love how honest Dave is about marriage. Itâs not a popular opinion. But it is the truth
Yes. I was actually removed from a Dave Ramsey facebook group for explaining this and adding these videos. I only advised of this from his videos. And ppl were mad...
Yes especially for womenâs sake. Once you sleep with a guy they are out of the door. Itâs important for the person to treat you as a person first.
And what about when the woman decides she's bored and to just take all your stuff and leave? Unlike men, women seem to think it's acceptable to leave a marriage without cause and then are rewarded for it by a corrupt judicial system.
Marriage is a terrible deal for most men as it's primarily women that leave and take most of our stuff.
Soooo NOT a popular opinion.
But it is truth.
I like what some would say is his stubborn side. He stands by his morals & principles. đ
Yes
Candace Dawn is why his marriage is working. Thatâs all I look at.
I just like that he goes with whatâs right and what actually works.
As a believer in Christ
We need to stand on the truth, no matter what.
I had an arranged marriage.We both have one account.we both are so careful about spending money.Paid off house.10yrs together
âOne of you spends like youâre in Congressâ best line Iâve heard in a while.
watch more Ramsey, you will hear it more and more
Thanks, Dave. That 50% statistic always scares me because it sounds like the success of a marriage is basically a coin toss, but when you explain the variables and how it's based on good decisions that gives me hope.
1) Be in agreement on money
2) Be in agreement on kids
3) How do deal with inlaws or crazy people in the family
4) Be in agreement on religion
1 agree on what you bring or did not bring into the marriage and expectation of what can be or cant be included when it comes to money and asset right of the bat
2 come up with a plan on how to raise the child that both you can agree on
3 agree on how to deal with reasonable inlaws and avoid the crazy ones
4 preferably have the same religion if not second best thing is to never use religion as a base for argument if religion beliefs is not shared.
@@patthonsirilim5739 If you're religious beliefs are different, it will cause problems.
@@chiaraippoliti not really my wife is a budist im an atheist we argree to never use religion as a base of or an excuse or a subject in our arguments and things work just fine.
@@chiaraippoliti currently in a long term relationship with my gf and we have different religious beliefs. Idk if I'm setting myself up for failure especially us heading towards me being ready to propose.i think we both just pretended this couldn't be an issue idk
@@patthonsirilim5739 does it? I'm struggling with this with my gf. I'd like my kids raised in church
1 Money
2 Kids
3 Inlaws
4 Agreement on religion
Eric Worthington thank you , bc he was taking forever !
#4 more like Agreement on beliefs
9 min is taking for ever?
5. Behaviour towards each other.
@@seekingthemiddleway4048 agreed
I LOVE your faith and how much youâre not afraid to insert Godly principles into your advice
This is what they need to be teaching in school, somewhere around 8th grade and high school.
Agree....
Absolutely!
Yea but it's even better to be practiced at home
@@leahhonore3505 EXACTLY!
It's not the school's responsibility to teach this to students. The school district did not make the kids
It all falls on the parent's as it should
âThe inmates do not run the asylumâ ... I love it!
yea I loved his approach on this one!
The Dave Ramsey 4 tips for a successful marriage:
1. Be in agreement on Money- Where you spend your money shows what you think is important.
2. Be in agreement on Children - How many if any, You run the house, not your children
3. Be in agreement on Inlaws - If you don't think you have a crazy person if your family it is you.
4. Be in agreement on Religion - It drives your beliefs, which drives your attitudes which drives your actions so actions will be in conflict.
Great advice which I will use :)
...would add to number 2...how you treat them, but otherwise comprehensive and concise and largely accurate, to what was said; which I appreciate.
dave i love how you stand strong in your faith and are unashamed. also i think men dont take their woman seriously when theyre not married.
Nah really how u know that? Sometimes when girl chest and a guy kill that how u know he loved her
SpecialTreasuresForU they donât take them serious when they are married!
Arlene Augusta exactly what I was going to say.
It would help if more women took men seriously during.marriage
Iâm married and some husbands donât even take their wifeâs seriously. But I definitely believe in finding the right partner and marriage.
Dave Ramsey is now my dad.
I suspect a lot of people feel the same
I feel the same way đ
He's my favorite uncleđ
I went up to a Buddhist temple in a middle of the mountain to train, I am 100% sure I am the crazy in my family
My marriage is the greatest challenge I have ever had. BUT I would not want to quit. God is concerned with our holiness, not our happiness. I am growing, even when it is hard or painful. Love is a decision, not a feeling. It is a commitment to what is best for the other person.
That's the conclusion I've come to understand
I get what you're saying. Still, the bible says, "Finally, brothers, continue to rejoice, . . . and the God of love and of peace will be with you.ââ-2 CORINTHIANS 13:11.
We are encouraged to count it all JOY even in the worst of times so God is concerned about our happiness. Absolutely he is!!! I'm definitely concerned about the happiness of my children and I wouldn't put myself on God's level under no circumstance. đ»
DPurple Palm Holiness brings happiness, God comes first, and he likes order.
He said something so quickly at the end that I almost missed "being in harmony intentionally." That's important
I like hearing Dave every time he talks about marriage. Really good advice and lots of respect and talking about the marriage team instead of a âball and chainâ.
Living with someone says without marrying them is like saying "Well you're good enough for now, but I want to leave my options open in case something better comes along." and your partner is willing to go along with it because they are doing the same thing. If you really are committed, prove it. It's not expensive to get married, it's only expensive to have a wedding, but nothing says you have to have a wedding.
Robert Dickey itâs a piece of paper. Itâs pretty much meaningless. It not like that person is any more bound to you because you have a piece of paper saying you wonât leave.
It becomes more complicated to leave because you get the government involved, but thatâs about it.
if you view a contract as "Just a piece of paper" then yes, you're right, but you will find very quickly that no one will want to sign contracts with you. Trust is the cornerstone of our civilization. If someone can see documented evidence that you aren't a trustworthy person then they are less likely to trust you. A marriage contract if the most important contract you can sign, and if you break it... well that isn't the kind of person I want to do any kind of business with.
Robert Dickey truth
Robert Dickey the point is you donât need a piece of paper to trust someone.
Understandable, and I agree, but there is something about making a public declaration and contract that gives weight to that.
My kids say consequences and privileges all the time. Deciding to be a stay at home mom to raise my children has been my biggest accomplishment. The sacrifices are worth it.
Hi,
How were you able to afford to be a stay at home mom
Really? Deciding to stay home and not have a job is worth it? Oh, dear, have a trophy!
Looks like me and my husband have a very low chance of divorce đ
And i love you and your Husband for it!
"You're never going to have a great relationship when one of you wants to spend like you're in congress and the other one wants to save everything and live in a cave and only come out on triple coupon Thursdays and collects lint." XD
I look forward to watching the ramsey show! I watch a lot of CZcamsrs about budgeting and money and it seems to me that majority of them follow your process and call it a different process! Haha your doing great things Ramsey, I wish I would of had a financial class like this in high school! I'm 24 now and my husband and I have really been following your process and it's been a huge difference in a matter of just a couple months.
Man Dave!!!
You are such a force to reckon on and how i wish i had your teaching earlier on!!
Love you more than you deserve.
To the Ramsey family. God bless from Jamaica. Sound advice!
I don't know why this video doesn't have 1Billion views. He spoke FACTS!!!
Its so hilarious to me that Dave is the ultimate no risk taker and yet he's an advocate for marriage. Don't do it guys!
Dave NAILED this! Good stuff!
Tripple Coupon Thursday!!! đ€Ł
That part gave me a good laugh. I'm a triple couple Thursday girl haha
I think what he's referring to is extreme cheapskates like on the TLC show extreme cheapskates.
I don't see why this would be controversial. Of course people who aren't on the same page on critical issues are likely to have a failed relationship.
love u, Dave Ramsey! your logic, facts, and beliefs are golden!!!
"you're smaller than me, i can take you out and make another one just like you" omg! Ahahahahaha you're hilarious Dave !!!! But i LIKE THAT! đđŒđđđ
I needed to hear this! Thank you dave!
Quick Recap:
Agree on...
âąMoney (spending/saving habits)
âąKids (How many? How you'll raise them)
âąInlaws
âąRelgion (Do you agree on core beliefs?)
Bonuses:
âąDo not have a child out of Wedlock
âąGraduate after 4 years at a college
They are clearly financially not compatible, and marriage is not the answer to his question. You either accept the person you are with, or you will end up getting married with a hope of changing them. You can't change anyone who does not want to be changed. â€
financially not compatible is the probably the biggest reason for all divorces in the world.
True if they can't come to an agreement and a clear unified financial vision they will always struggle over money.
Amen!!! Single mom ,I told my son when he was young thereâs only one crazy person in this house ,thatâs me heâs 25 years old and Iâm so proud of him
Ha ha ha... funny. You let him know the job is taken, He had better behave!
Mr Ramsey,you should be a preacher.God bless you.
I appreciate your honesty! God bless you!
Do not, I repeat do not marry someone that is still supporting their grown children that make more than their mother does. Nothing good comes of this.
By the way he is 42 and im 36 yr old divorced woman with an 18 yrs daugher in college,and im thinking about having another kid if i get married to him but she doesnt want him to have anymore kids,she is the his only daughter as well her mom and him were never married because he was too young to get married when she got pregnat but always been a good dad,i thing she doesnt want another kid to take her place as a spoil woman,who used ask her dad to take her shopping intil a year ago that i met his dad and i told him he should not be doing that because she is a married woman but he still gives her money,i love him but i dont want to deal with his brat daughter the rest of my life.
Do not marry anyone with kids. It's asking for trouble. So glad my ex's 2nd wife left. She costed a fortune and I could always help him out. Guys I wanted to date wanted his money he gets from me for the kids. Move it all of em.
AWESOME advice Dave!
Love this video Dave - great 4 points !
Dave - your 'shack up' and 'marriage' points were great + the word of God and data backs it as you said! It's true - there is no 'we' in shacking up. Lord help us and help them.
We need to be talking about money much earlier in relationships. You can't wait until you're living together or married.
Dave talking about kids "You're smaller than me and if I wanted to I could take you out, and make another one that looks just like you", HAHAHAHA
Love Dave! The voice of wisdom great video thank you â€ïž
Love you Ramsey! This is the truth. I've lived with a "man" playing house instead of really being committed on the track towards marriage.
Great video..lots of truth
Lol đ âthe inmates donât run the asylumâ love that. Canât wait to tell my husband this.
Great advice.
Thanks Dave
My wife and I have two completely different views on religion and we get along great because we respect one anotherâs right to our own beliefs
phantumgrey same here
For now...
@@brittb.3829 What are you implying?
I love it. A man who isn't afraid to say it like it is. "Shacked up".
I hate to hear young women say "I don't believe in marriage" AKA you don't expect your live in BF to actively make a decision to marry you. So sad they settle, its not love its lack of commitment!
I feel like friends are also something u need to agree on. Just from personal experience the people ur SO hangs out with can effect things. If u donât like the ppl they hang with it can cause issues in the relationship
đđđđ Dave, this is hilarious but so good
Thanks Dave
God, what a wise man. đđ
Wow awesome advice đ
Literally just have your vows mean something instead of getting a divorce after one insignificant problem
Truth well spoken
Thanks you said it all.đ
This man is a genius đ đ
As me coming from a different culture...Dave was to the point.
Married for 20 years and it was like I was in a fog, i said yes to being the only borrower on our mortgage, 2nd mortgage, closed my 401k that had since 21years old, and I knew that these loans wouldnt get paid and now I have much catching up to do. (Marriage/divorce and finances) I am doing it because I listen to Dave everyday!!
Still donât think getting the government involved in my private life is beneficial at all.
Wow I love this
You know how much I care? Not at all!! I died!!! Love you and your show so much
if you wait 10 years to pop the question, shes prb not the right one
Dang, this is great!
Love it! Great Advice :-)
best advise ever.
Him talking about his grandkid đđ€Ł such a proud Papa
SCHOOLS SHOULD TEACH BASICS LIKE THIS. WE USE IT EVERYDAY,
truth is becoming one is not easy. but if you become one. it will be the best thing you experience!
Yessssssssssssssssssssss!!!!!! Thank youuuuuuuuuuđđđ
I'm constantly being pulled between collecting lint and going out to eatđ€Ł.
Good stuff
I'm proud to say that I have all four of them. God first.
Keep up the good work Dave one of these days Jesus Christ will tell you well done my good and faithful servant
How to deal with in-laws is very key. My family are not in my life but boy.... his family. Wow.
Please ensure that you don't just have a similar view on faith but also how and how much it will impact your day-to-day life. Because when two people believe the same yet they are different in how they allow their beliefs to impact their actions then it can cause issues. (Some people choose peer pressure or culture over faith while the other one won't, for example)
Also, please ensure that they see eye-to-eye on money in terms of whose money it is. My husband still to this day calls the money "my" money becausw he doesn't work for it and I am covering expenses so he can focus on his education. This causes arguments a lot as well because I call it "our" money.
And communication and not taking each other for granted
I think Dave misses the mark when he just tells people to get married- what if they are currently dating the wrong person? "Get married" is not great advice to tell someone you've never even met.
Wow, WHY are you dating the wrong person???
@@nervotica7991 ... that's what dating is. Figuring out whether or not this is the person I'm going to marry. Lol.
@@haleytruslow7200 - I don't think you understood the question. Lol.
@@nervotica7991 I'm referring to the fact that he says this all the time. And even in this situation- if they're not married yet, there's a reason.
Well, he is speaking in this context to a couple who have been together for ten years. His point is, don't play house.
*points* He's right you know.
Some advice to all the commentators here:
1. Yes it is true that many marriages both christian/religious fail according to the statistics. But lets be honest. Is it really about the marriage or the lack of character development of the said individuals? You see becoming married doesn't fix a broken character. Not saying that anyone is perfect because we are not. Nonetheless you WILL bring your laundry list of faults into a marriage if you are not already in the process of working on them when you are single.
2. Just because everything looks good to the outside world, doesn't mean all is well inside. Nice house, car, good job, kids, church attendance, 35 years of marriage blah blah blah. Those don't mean a thing and in no way indicate a "good" marriage. The HIDDEN man / woman on the inside that no one knows about is what REALLY matters. For those who are married, if someone were to pull aside your spouse in full confidentiality and ask them to give an honest opinion about you what do you think your spouse will say? Chew on that for a bit.
3. Next to knowing God himself, marriage is one of the greatest blessings one can experience. However the wickedness of the world has sadly tainted the beauty of marriage. Most who profess love, really profess lust and fleshly desires and don't really actually care about their partner. Truth be told, when the going gets tough (and us men unfortunately are guilty of this) we bail out and wave the divorce flag. Usually it is much easier to put the blame on someone else than to look inside of ourselves and see what's really going on in there.
4. The basic human desire is self sufficiency. It means that at our core, we seek solely to please ourselves and ONLY ourselves. However those who truly profess to love God, everything that they do is motivated about of a desire to serve him and to serve others. Remember those words at the altar? In sickness or health, rich or poor etc.? How quickly we speak those words at the altar and how soon do they fade away the moment life gets hard. Truly, the only thing that guarantees a genuinely happy and successful and blessed marriage is one where each individual is centered upon God, and the two together as a couple are centered around him.
Did Mexico pay for this wall?
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What is a marriage that is "both christian/religious"????
I'm sorry to break this to you, ....but you are not married unless you sign the State Government Contract (Marriage License). God has nothing to do with being officially married. There are so many religions on planet Earth, and you can have any ceremony that supports your hobby, but God is not going to force either of you to do anything if things go south in the relationship.......ah, like, but the GOVERNMENT will.
So good.
Triple coupon Thursday! đ€Łđ
Amen!!!!!!
First!!! Love the vid Dave and Crew
Seriously!!!No wonder i will marry when i need to...I owe you a debt free Rooster the day you come to Uganda.
God Bless Dave!!!
This great!
PREACH IT BROTHER AND GOD BLESS, IN JESUS NAME.
5:57 "...the inmates do not run the asylum" lol!! how i feel during COVID quarantine
The problem is that if you're married and she doesnt get on board with a budget/saving, you're helpless to stop her. You either have to keep paying for whatever she wants, or divorce her and lose half and pay alimony until one of you dies. Either way, the man pays. That's why marriage rates have been declining year after year. Men are finally waking up and realizing that marriage is a bad deal for men since any benefit a man gets from marriage can be taken from him by the woman at any time, for any length of time, for any reason, or no reason.
Have you ever met a woman with a job AND her own money?
On point
I married my high school sweetheart when I was 17 years old. We have been married for 18 years now. We are finally on the same page with money. His family is actually crazy so they are not in our lives at all so in-laws are not a issue and religion is not a issue as well and all the kids stuff is 100% my decision because I said so lol my husband is incredibly submissive and laid back and always number chill mode and couldnât care less about me controlling everything. Thatâs how we are still married lol but it did take some time to get at least on the same page with finances. Sometimes it just takes a lot of time to figure things out.
1. Money
2. Kids
3. In-laws
4. Spiritual beliefs
Hereâs the summary of this video:
1. Money - Coming to an agreement with how money will be spent.
2. Kids - How many kids, how youâre going to raise them
3. In-Lawâs - Dave didnât say this, but the saying goes âYou marry your husband/wife, you are also married with his or her family.â
4. Religion- Being in agreement in religion or not having one
Lol I love the children talk. Weeee run this household !!! Letâs go lol