5 Things We Should Keep To Ourselves

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  • čas přidán 21. 08. 2024

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  • @TheArtOfPersonalGrowth
    @TheArtOfPersonalGrowth  Před 4 lety +63

    Do you have a friend or acquaintance who likes to share every sort of personal information about his life on social networks? What do you think about it?

    • @ralseiofdashrimps3467
      @ralseiofdashrimps3467 Před 4 lety +2

      The Art Of Personal Growth Thanks for your advice.

    • @raqueldasilva4794
      @raqueldasilva4794 Před 4 lety +4

      I can believe people still doing this...
      Let's just grow people please!!
      Be blessed

    • @sudeesha7253
      @sudeesha7253 Před 3 lety

      Umm no they just share it with me but sometimes they call me in midnight to tell me that they won the online ludo game and won some money 💸 it is ok if they call in day but man I was having my best dreams

    • @joebloggs619
      @joebloggs619 Před 3 lety +1

      I think this great. The person is looking for social caring and sharing. They may be seeking others' perspective on their issue to decide best way to handle it and others' views, perspectives etc are often very valuable. Also, when they share a personal problem there are bound to be many others with the same issues and this helps them cope and not feel so alone dealing with it. You do get quite a few mongrels and bitches on social media when you take a risk and share. There are ways to handle these. If you are confident and assertive enough, you can just tell them to simply shut up and get back into their box. Do this in a very public way. Never let these sorts of discussions end up being conducted by more private means eg WhatsApp or Emails, Messenger type apps, MS etc. They can quickly turn very nasty, abusive, bullying etc and therefore it is important to watch how you word your "back off" requests ie politely, legally, but firmly. But always keep it very public be wise you need to have as many witnesses and as much evidence as possible, in case it does turn very nasty and they won't just shut up, back off, mind their own business and respect your democratic right to freedom of speech and expression. Most sites have a moderator and this will put an end to the discussion if it gets too toxic. These are often politically correct types eg feminists, coloured types, pro a certain political leaning etc. You can simply ignore and cease using such sites as soon as you realise they are being operated or moderated by politically correct types eg feminists, like I routinely do now because I don't value these. Which is no crime, by the way. Or, if you are a quiet person, you can simply ignore these social media type thugs aiming to bully you and deny you a fair go, freedom of expression, your right to be as you wish to be etc. But as a veteran of much bullying by such types long before the advent of social media, I wish to publicly share that it has been my own personal experience that such thugs will simply shrivel up and just bigger off and leave you alone or even try to suck up and become your friends, if you find the courage to stand up to them, eyeball them at close range and simply tell them to fuck off. But, you don't need the friendship and respect of such scum, do you, now? You're above that! And there are so many really good people out there to "share" with, who can help you and you them, too. And all by a bit of oversharing. Personal problems, sex problems, money problems, feeling awful and ugly and unlovable, too fat, too skinny, being male, female or some other gender and it's problems, being young or old, having no friends or too many... Sharing problems often helps you solve them. You don't do what others tell you they think you should do. You need to think for yourself and make up your own mind. But hearing their ideas and views can help you decide and so they are very useful when the go to the trouble to say something to share.

    • @jeremygustafson5846
      @jeremygustafson5846 Před 3 lety +1

      I am not sure I agree with your number 5. I understand what you are saying and I agree, however, I have also read that studies point to higher success rates of achieving goals that you share. There's a factor of accountability there. I shared on social media my goal of reading over 40 books last year and was successful due, somewhat, to the support and feedback I got throughout the year.

  • @nrkgalt
    @nrkgalt Před 3 lety +325

    Never tell people your problems. Most don’t care, and the rest are glad you have them.

    • @jani7th
      @jani7th Před 3 lety +6

      Lol true

    • @thecrabpulsar
      @thecrabpulsar Před 3 lety +14

      I disagree. You got to be choosy who u share your problems with, but generally good to share with someone close to you rather than bottling inside.

    • @bethcook1166
      @bethcook1166 Před 3 lety +8

      Sad...but so VERY TRUE!!😊✨✨😚

    • @ingenuity168
      @ingenuity168 Před 3 lety +3

      True

    • @lumabi25
      @lumabi25 Před 3 lety +8

      That's fair enough, but the only reason I'm sharing my problems is because they asked. This always leaves me with a dilemma: do I say I'm fine when I'm not, which I don't like, or do I tell them my problem, which _they_ don't like?

  • @Peter-gv6vf
    @Peter-gv6vf Před 3 lety +85

    My mother always told me never tell your secrets to a friend, you will never fear them if they become an enemy

    • @audemars_piguet13
      @audemars_piguet13 Před 3 lety +1

      The fish dies because of their mouth. It goes both ways, there's people that are ready and willing to kill a snitch or a untrustworthy human. Stay safe

    • @marymaher4036
      @marymaher4036 Před 3 lety +5

      @@audemars_piguet13 ,Interesting insight and thoughts.The fish gets and receives a 🎣 fishing hook in their mouth.So does a "gossiper"and trouble-maker.I would much rather be "A Peaceful Person ".Living life with integrity and strength within /Trust".

    • @WaluigiPooper666
      @WaluigiPooper666 Před 3 lety

      Or beat him up if he becomes an enemy and want to snitch.

  • @anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788

    1. Your love life - arguments/problems with your partner.
    2. Your money - if you want to share a specific win, go ahead but don't post often about how much or little money you have.
    3. Secrets/gossip - keep your friends secrets safe. Do not break their trust by airing what they've told you in the privacy of your friendship.
    4. Past resentments - don't bring up past issues in public conversations.
    5. Your goals. You don't want to have to regret saying you were going to achieve something you didn't achieve in the end.

    • @josephcusumano2885
      @josephcusumano2885 Před 3 lety +11

      Thanks!

    • @Mary-gu3kx
      @Mary-gu3kx Před 3 lety +8

      Thank you for this list! Was really hoping someone would post! 🤗

    • @grape512
      @grape512 Před 3 lety +2

      What else is there to talk about? 😉

    • @AthenaLolita2
      @AthenaLolita2 Před 3 lety +2

      This is really bad advice

    • @AthenaLolita2
      @AthenaLolita2 Před 3 lety +4

      1. Most abuse are viewed as relationship problems. Sometimes a close friend can help you get out of a relationship

  • @nicholasschroeder3678
    @nicholasschroeder3678 Před 3 lety +40

    Don't arouse people's envy and don't give them an edge on you. Those who will rejoice in your success, or won't exploit your weakness, are vanishingly rare.

  • @amelmatt5641
    @amelmatt5641 Před 4 lety +56

    #5 is especially important. I have found that most people are jealous of other people who are achieving big things in life. Always, always, always best to keep your dreams and accomplishments to yourself. Too many losers out there who know nothing but talk like they know everything.

  • @sofiahatzoglou7499
    @sofiahatzoglou7499 Před 3 lety +33

    Make your dreams come true with silence !!

  • @curtistinemiller4646
    @curtistinemiller4646 Před 3 lety +7

    Silence is a true friend that never betrays.....

  • @supremelyeducated3273
    @supremelyeducated3273 Před 3 lety +35

    Like everyone, trust no one.

  • @zippyblessed839
    @zippyblessed839 Před 3 lety +112

    I learned the hard way
    Dont trust anyone
    Not even your family
    Only trudt God

    • @steethompson9996
      @steethompson9996 Před 3 lety +19

      There are two reasons I don't trust anybody
      1) Because I don't know them.....
      2) Because I know them..........

    • @danielboone72
      @danielboone72 Před 3 lety +3

      I’ve learned this, especially as I got older.

    • @robertl.fallin7062
      @robertl.fallin7062 Před 3 lety

      I dont trust anyone or thing named Ford.

    • @LongCOVIDAdvocator
      @LongCOVIDAdvocator Před 3 lety

      Same then people will spread rumors about you

  • @Percherondance
    @Percherondance Před 4 lety +119

    I went on a date last year with a guy that talked the whole date about his ex and divorce and his bad childhood. Then he told me about his $126k Tesla he bought . Way too much info. He was cute and I felt bad for him, but ultimately he turned out to be really full of himself, yet insecure and seemed like he just wanted attention.

    •  Před 4 lety +1

      you are terrible

    •  Před 4 lety

      so am i

    • @Jessica-tj6ug
      @Jessica-tj6ug Před 3 lety +7

      Sounds like he lacks boundaries, could potentially walk all over yours, is not over his ex, and thinks his car makes him cool. Hopefully, he learns and matures. Great job for walking away!

    • @warrior_of_da-Tetragrammaton
      @warrior_of_da-Tetragrammaton Před 3 lety +4

      No one cares

    • @homewithmyblessingsditlvid7758
      @homewithmyblessingsditlvid7758 Před 3 lety +4

      Typical covert narcissist...Make us feel sorry for them so they can exploit and manipulate our empathy.
      Run away as fast as you can.

  • @Melly16yr10
    @Melly16yr10 Před 3 lety +30

    Your Age, Height, Weight, Debit card number, medicare number, are also things to keep off line in the Web.
    These are personal details not to go sharing online with the exception of a doctor or medical professional.

  • @maryrichardson6029
    @maryrichardson6029 Před 3 lety +15

    Familiarity breeds contempt

  • @jessieo3351
    @jessieo3351 Před 4 lety +15

    I like the gossip one. I think of it as, "not my story to tell" "not my news to share".
    If I wasn't there and I wasn't the one who something happened to, my experience was just a bystander. It's not as interesting as hearing it from the main person involved.
    In positive stories, you could be stealing their thunder. In negative ones, maybe they don't want that shared.

  • @alessandromonti8822
    @alessandromonti8822 Před 4 lety +17

    my ex-gf was sharing everything in fb and insta, so annoying! Fortunately we split!

  • @thecrabpulsar
    @thecrabpulsar Před 3 lety +3

    Goals for most people tend to be non achievable if they don't share it with nobody. Sharing can put positive pressure on you to achieve it.

  • @jovanna1967
    @jovanna1967 Před 3 lety +8

    So don’t let the manager know that you’ll be applying for a promotion within the company

  • @grantchow13
    @grantchow13 Před 3 lety +4

    We lead 3 lives, public,personal and secret.
    Secret doesn't mean it's bad, just not something that's going to affect anyone else.

  • @juliettevonarnim9180
    @juliettevonarnim9180 Před 4 lety +18

    It’s a great video in that it touches on so many aspects of what we seemed to have forgotten about but is key. Thank you for posting!

  • @Lawless.butterflies
    @Lawless.butterflies Před 4 lety +22

    “ especially if you didn’t earn that money yourself”
    Me: “ daddy’s money, daddy’s money, daddy’s money”

  • @thewebster2464
    @thewebster2464 Před 4 lety +3

    Some times sharing your goals tells the other person that your working for something and your dreams so in my opinion it really depends

  • @robertmurphy2629
    @robertmurphy2629 Před 4 lety +13

    I loved the video, I have a couple of friends and share EVERYTHING about their personal life on Facebook and Instagram, and then they have the audacity to complain about the lack of privacy on the web...absurd! Great channel by the way, subcribed!

  • @zakariyeabdikarin7008
    @zakariyeabdikarin7008 Před 3 lety +3

    Keep it silent with your especial things because Everyone is not Happy with you
    ...your Money (Salary)
    ...secret
    ....love
    Well said keep up

  • @mwoods8020
    @mwoods8020 Před 4 lety +3

    I agree with oversharing on the internet, but I don't agree that silence is golden. It does more damage to our psyches if we just bottle everything up inside.

    • @audemars_piguet13
      @audemars_piguet13 Před 3 lety

      True.
      You have to pick your targets, who share with. Make sure you will never see them again or use disguises or change your traveling routes everyday.
      Marine Corps taught 🤯and if they screw you over, no better friend no worst enemy
      One in the head two the chest, bayonet stab the bullet holes so they know it was us oooooorah

  • @DMRoper1
    @DMRoper1 Před 3 lety +1

    Good points. I especially appreciate point 5. Don't share goals before achieving them. I know that is true.

  • @MrJerryk55
    @MrJerryk55 Před 4 lety +7

    This is so positive and I love positive things, thanks.

  • @TheSuperGarvey
    @TheSuperGarvey Před 4 lety +40

    I would say politics and religion

    • @Melly16yr10
      @Melly16yr10 Před 3 lety +1

      That's definitely one for sure

    • @littlesam6280
      @littlesam6280 Před 3 lety +1

      Jesus loves you please repent Jesus is coming very soon Jesus is the way to heaven

    • @rebeccaoprea9917
      @rebeccaoprea9917 Před 3 lety +1

      But why not ? That’s what we’ve been told . If anything that’ll help you gauge the person better .

    • @rast7408
      @rast7408 Před 3 lety +1

      My Mom always said that ✌🏽👍🏽🙏🏽👊🏾

    • @littlesam6280
      @littlesam6280 Před 3 lety

      @@wintersolstice4793 I agreeee so much

  • @roseellencarlson3588
    @roseellencarlson3588 Před 3 lety +2

    Focus being discreet with people you don't really know well or not be trusted

  • @catherinenolan2177
    @catherinenolan2177 Před 4 lety +7

    Very wise words wish i could carry them out

  • @lindamccracken2053
    @lindamccracken2053 Před 3 lety +3

    This is brilliant advice, thank you.

  • @xrmerkur
    @xrmerkur Před 3 lety +1

    #5 is the only suggestion i don’t agree with. i believe we absolutely should share our goals, especially with the closest people in our lives. sharing your goals helps keep you accountable and often inspires others to strive for theirs. if you waver or change directions, how you handle the response provides growth for your next maneuver. there’s a reason people either support or criticize your progress. maybe you aren’t living up to your own expectations and people will call it out. sometimes friendly competition promotes progress too; motivation. we need people to ask how are our goals coming along. If we can’t articulate then maybe we don’t believe enough or aren’t investing enough. if you don’t proclaim your goals they will suffer from paralysis. never mind all the confusion the world may bring, we ourselves are our worst critic. strength comes from diversity. sometimes solely relying on our inner voice will produce false measures of growth. no... outside voices don’t make you, but you’ll learn sooner than later if you really have what it takes to overcome.
    PS. and don’t worry about someone stealing your ideas either. that’s another whole story.

  • @MoPoppins
    @MoPoppins Před 3 lety

    I think it’s helpful for people to share ALL of these things, if they can either be anonymous, or accept that they’re a public figure whose life can be used as a case study.
    We don’t all have people in our lives who are wise or willing to share their wisdom (or reveal their lack of it), all of which we can benefit from, and not everyone likes the book format, so I personally think it’s great when people share anything and everything that I can learn from. That said, I’m an INTJ who won’t betray anyone’s trust, and I never gossip, so for me, I just listen and ask questions the way an anthropologist would-very objectively, and I try not to have any preconceived notions.
    If you’re an educator or eduTAINER of some sort, and have a CZcams channel, podcast, blog, etc., then you know that you’re serving as an archetype / ambassador to whichever demographics you represent, and the info you share is invaluable.

  • @sulijoo
    @sulijoo Před 3 lety +2

    These 5 points sum up everything wrong with modern TV. It breaks every rule.

  • @TT-jw1dp
    @TT-jw1dp Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for posted this video, I see what I need to improve for myself

  • @laurice8056
    @laurice8056 Před 3 lety +6

    Loose Lips Sink Ships.🤐

    • @audemars_piguet13
      @audemars_piguet13 Před 3 lety

      Loose lips get lead or stab wounds. Always two sides of a coin 🤯

    • @laurice8056
      @laurice8056 Před 3 lety

      @@audemars_piguet13 what do you mean?

  • @mmatladiramonyai1923
    @mmatladiramonyai1923 Před 4 lety +2

    Valuable info required. Thank you

  • @geriboisse1244
    @geriboisse1244 Před 3 lety +1

    Nice sharing thanks

  • @andrewcharley1893
    @andrewcharley1893 Před 4 lety +3

    Some very very good advice thankyou!!!!!👍🏾

  • @rw9019
    @rw9019 Před 3 lety

    Mind (within your own mind)
    your own business (not sharing with others.) Your mind, your business.

  • @Jeff-lg5hb
    @Jeff-lg5hb Před 4 lety +6

    Disagree to the extent with 5. Expressing your dreams is meant to keep you accountable.

    • @TheArtOfPersonalGrowth
      @TheArtOfPersonalGrowth  Před 4 lety +1

      I agree, if you are someone who delivers on what he says. The 5th point is aimed to those who talk big but never back up their words.

    • @xrmerkur
      @xrmerkur Před 3 lety

      @@TheArtOfPersonalGrowth sometimes we need to be tested. it’s not so much what they say, it’s how we respond with words or actions.

  • @r.thomaslee8417
    @r.thomaslee8417 Před rokem

    I think you should share you goals because, sometimes, you can make a goal without having enough relevant information regarding that goal. You may change your mind after more information comes to light [ subsequently abandoning your pursuit ] but the world sees you as not achieving your goal.

  • @alisterfolson
    @alisterfolson Před 3 lety +2

    Things to consider:
    - EVERYONE posted a POA (Price Of Admission) ico relationships and it's no one else's business
    - If you cheat on your significant other and regret it, chalk it up to "lessons learned' and try to never do or tell anyone ever again
    - If you agree to father a child for a family friend and his wife (who can't conceive in their own) without your spouse knowing, mum's the word 🤔

  • @sharondamarrell4488
    @sharondamarrell4488 Před 3 lety

    Yes that's true 😊❤️😊 people also try to get in your business on purpose

  • @naina9807
    @naina9807 Před 3 lety

    I like how you put the time stamps! So many videos don't do it so I don't even end up watching them.

  • @ramongonzalez6565
    @ramongonzalez6565 Před 3 lety +1

    actions and not words

  • @impreciousnhissight
    @impreciousnhissight Před 3 lety +2

    Stop a gossiper in their track! If someone says, I shouldn't say anything about such n such but...nope. Say, then don't. May be uncomfortable at first but eventually it will be clear that you will not be a receptacle for their trash

  • @watsonkashala99
    @watsonkashala99 Před 2 lety +1

    we love this channels

  • @charlottepeukert9095
    @charlottepeukert9095 Před rokem

    At some point, you won't be able to hide what you're doing or are up to. It would also be damaging to your plans not to involve people with a distinct knowledge of what you're planning. You can't do it all alone. Life is a team-sport.

  • @mariagalbova9891
    @mariagalbova9891 Před 3 lety +5

    Be quiet and everything will be ok. My boss is totaly crazy.

    • @montsergirl
      @montsergirl Před 3 lety

      That’s so sad I get it, mine is such an asshole.im scared to talk. Ugh.

    • @mariagalbova9891
      @mariagalbova9891 Před 3 lety

      @@montsergirl You too?

  • @kimsmith819
    @kimsmith819 Před 3 lety +4

    I believe that I am a, the less you know about me, the better off i am. Certain family members and a small amount of friends are all that know 80% about me. Im a awesome secret keeper to those i know.

  • @bobbileehall3567
    @bobbileehall3567 Před 3 lety +2

    A woman I barely know chastised me 3 times b/c I’m content happy whole peaceful single never married; she has no right to ask me my personal desires she is jealous nosy she is not safe to tell anything to! Yuck.

  • @sagas0014
    @sagas0014 Před 3 lety +3

    Agree with you! 👍😻😍👍😻

  • @soulrpower3031
    @soulrpower3031 Před 3 lety

    Is this about all the nasty innuendo and accusations that CZcams tarot readers keep spewing about someone? Who’s feeding them that crap? Hmmm. Seems like a lot of trouble just to slander someone, but then again why would someone even want to do that? 😳
    I take being trustworthy and loyal very seriously. I like being dependable for my loved ones. Some of us don’t have anyone in our lives like that so I appreciate the honor. I would feel sick if I betrayed someone’s confidence that had been entrusted to me. For some people, trusting anybody isn’t easy so if they put that kind of faith in me, there is no way I would let them down. I may not have much but I do have that going for me. 💯

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 Před 3 lety

    Great advice, To be applied. Thank you.

  • @johndelaney4778
    @johndelaney4778 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you ❤️

  • @andyokus5735
    @andyokus5735 Před 3 lety +1

    I don't care what other people think of me because I don't need anyone else. I'm an authentic individual. I'm not scamming Utube and the internet for a living.

  • @iamthebean940
    @iamthebean940 Před 4 lety +3

    Cool channel , you'll have millions one day 😊❤ best of luck

  • @tonypolito8930
    @tonypolito8930 Před 3 lety

    Nice work! Thank you for sharing.

  • @darlawoodman4964
    @darlawoodman4964 Před 3 lety

    Thanks n thanku Jesus. Wise people r of a few words, but where's my best friend? Some people tell me their secrets, bcuz I forget them. God bless always.😇🙏🤔☮️🎶✝️🇺🇲

  • @Mark-yb1sp
    @Mark-yb1sp Před 4 lety +2

    Excellent.

  • @mrnisqually9533
    @mrnisqually9533 Před 3 lety

    Scary. Like really familiar scary. I've been chastised for keeping my distance from people in social gatherings.

  • @vincent61532
    @vincent61532 Před 4 lety +3

    Fabulous fabulous

  • @heatherr1141
    @heatherr1141 Před 3 lety +2

    Should I talk about my health issues

  • @jamescreek1319
    @jamescreek1319 Před 3 lety +2

    You have the right to remain silent but unfortunately you don’t have the ability

  • @Knaeben
    @Knaeben Před 3 lety

    #1 --> I've never met a woman who didn't immediately go to her women friends to describe any sex she has engaged in in great detail.

  • @17thUnicorn
    @17thUnicorn Před 4 lety +3

    Great video!

  • @moussinobied5013
    @moussinobied5013 Před 3 lety +1

    Art man your brillant
    Good advice
    Wow

  • @ellaeef9192
    @ellaeef9192 Před 3 lety

    1. המטרות שלי 2. סודות של אחרים. 3. כסף בחשבון הבנק . 4. מצב זוגי. ( זה יכול להציג אותנו כאינפנטילים. 5. האשמות על מקרים שקרו בעבר. ... אבל אני מרגישה שכולם סיפרו את הסודות שלי מאחורי הגב שלי.

  • @sam.lipchutz
    @sam.lipchutz Před 3 lety

    This is true but it’s very difficult to not talk about the things that mean the most to you

  • @InternetPirate7
    @InternetPirate7 Před 4 lety +55

    *me casually joking about suicide around my clearly uncomftrable peers*

  • @joseenoel8093
    @joseenoel8093 Před 4 lety +4

    Summer sharing=my shorts are stuck to my innerts (chicks by visual front de-wedgey) and lower mid-rif outters (guys by shaking it loose) 😖

  • @jessieo3351
    @jessieo3351 Před 4 lety +19

    6. Your bowel movements.

    • @sirensatnight4463
      @sirensatnight4463 Před 3 lety +4

      How about 6. Your health . . . countless people looking for attention tell incredibly cringe-worthy details about their operations, their ongoing struggles to keep their heart beating, their fitbit data, their nutritional requirements, their allergies etc. Tell those things to your doctor, but unless you are that person's caretaker or they are yours, keep that kind of information to a minimum. We just don't want to hear about your colonoscopy and results.

    • @rebeccahawkins3172
      @rebeccahawkins3172 Před 3 lety +1

      I’m literally having one as I watch this. I probably should not be sharing this.

    • @emmanuelchineduministries
      @emmanuelchineduministries Před 3 lety

      😂😂😂

  • @tod3msn
    @tod3msn Před 3 lety

    Secrets are just that secrets. People want to confess everything on social media which is a bad idea. Resentments are a source of negativity for people. Resentments keep you tied to yesterday. You gotta let go.

  • @savahbejin7511
    @savahbejin7511 Před 3 lety +1

    Always keep your next move to yourself.

  • @ThePancakeJedi
    @ThePancakeJedi Před 3 lety

    Wow. Everything you just described are the basic rules for becoming a succesful influencer.

  • @sylhomeo6351
    @sylhomeo6351 Před 4 lety +1

    And what are you supposed to do with past resentments, bottle them up for the sake of looking mature? What about giving the advice of actually expressing them and then letting them go?

    • @TheArtOfPersonalGrowth
      @TheArtOfPersonalGrowth  Před 4 lety +2

      Open up with a close friend or relative maybe? Making it public won't do any good because most people won't care, they have their own life to think about. Also, if something is important to you, why would you tell everyone?

  • @sandraroutos9343
    @sandraroutos9343 Před 3 lety

    Great advise!

  • @joebloggs619
    @joebloggs619 Před 3 lety

    It doesn't really matter what you share eg a romantic victory, a lottery win, a new good job or promotion, business success by honest means, a massive weight loss success you have been trying so hard to achieve or some sporting success, winning some talent quest etc. You are entitled to feel good about it if it was all by honest means and share your joy, though I would never do this in a way that puts others down and is calculated to make them feel inferior. That is very scummy, I think. I'd just modestly tell what I felt so happy about and do it in a way that gives others not so lucky a feeling of hope for themselves, too, in a kind way. But, too often, on social media, we see boasting that is obviously calculated to make rivals feel inferior. Well, there is a right and a wrong way to be a winner worthy of any genuine respect and it is not by making others feel inferior to you, simply because you succeed at whatever they were also hoping to achieve. However, it is so very true that many people simply cannot accept the reality that somebody else is far better than them at certain things, in certain respects and it was all natural and honestly. And simply admire them, enjoy their success and let them bask in their glory, which is not hurting you, unless you suffer from pathological jealousy, envy, hate, spitefulness, as I see many women, especially young ones and migrants and and also some males, too, all do. The successful person might be richer or smarter or more popular or beautiful or stronger or have more power than you or own a luxury car or several, live in a mansion, take frequent luxury overseas cruises (and catch Covid???). And you don't have but still would like such things. So what!?! Just suck it up and 3njoy the good things you do get to have, which they may lack. Or do as I do and simply enjoy admiring whatever they have that I have not. You do not have to possess something in order to love and enjoy admiring. I can get onto social media eg Instagram and see all those perfect bodies in bikinis, appearing to be leading these wonderful lives, jet setting around and think "Wow! They look so good. Certainly better than me." But it does not bother me that they do. But there are many whose envy and competitivess completely consumes them with hate and rage. Theses are the types I would consider to be the real "haters",not the ones who disagree with certain political views, on politically correctness issues, who automatically labelled as haters or narcissists, just for having a different view on some socially sensitive issue eg feminism, multiculturalism etc. You are a hater if you are just any nobody with a different point of view. To be elevated to the status of "Narcissist" and get that 'title' you have to really work at it. Not only must you first qualify as a "hater" but you then also have to be exceptionally successful or possess some enviable traits eg wealth, beauty, popularity, power etc. And, oddly enough, although women are generally more vain ie narcissistic than males, few women even make it to the ranks of being called "Narcissists". The rare few that do are often in the performing arts and very beautiful, popular, good at what they do. So good that other women who can't contain their own envy, spite and jealous rage all collude with each, forgetting their hatred of each other as competitive women, to form a "sisterhood" for the express purpose of bringing down the far superior narcissistic one they simply cannot tolerate being as good, beautiful, successful, loved etc as she is. It is so socially ugly and toxic. And good enough reason to completely ditch all social media, if it were not for the fact that there are also many ver fine decent people worth meeting through social media, on line etc. And since technology has completely destroyed our former traditional ways of connecting socially, doing business etc, we are allowed no other means of connecting with people, other than by such toxic on line connection means. So, one has to find an effective way to deal with scum on social media and elsewhere on line who bother you when all you want to do is connect with kindred souls to care and share with just those you wish to know and no others. .

  • @amurrjuan
    @amurrjuan Před 4 lety +4

    Oh god. That 1st one pisses me off. My ex did that all the time and it’s why I still hold a grudge. Honestly, that’s one of the worst things you can do in a relationship. I immediately lost all respect for her.

  • @YACKYSNACKY
    @YACKYSNACKY Před 3 lety +1

    Nice!

  • @professorbaxtercarelessdre1075

    in regards to number four and past resentments, what if an issue comes up that you never addressed before because you were too afraid to, and it keeps coming up every once in a while. do you keep ignoring it? or do you address it, and if so, how do you address it without bringing up the fact that its been ongoing?

  • @espyrodriguez6512
    @espyrodriguez6512 Před 4 lety +1

    WHAT IS YOUR ! KEEP IT TO YOUR SELF..YOUR BUSINESS. IS YOUR.NOT TO WORLD.

  • @Pian0Mon
    @Pian0Mon Před 3 lety +1

    #1 Keep to yourself what you think others should keep to themselves.

  • @rodingentandem8278
    @rodingentandem8278 Před 3 lety

    I keep my love life, my money, my secrets to myself. But the bitches who dump me spread them around to warn others.

  • @ZD-zc1ly
    @ZD-zc1ly Před 3 lety

    Yup

  • @desiderata333
    @desiderata333 Před 3 lety

    Everything....

  • @crystalracing4794
    @crystalracing4794 Před 3 lety

    Hiding in my Room needs to watch this

  • @cherias.4069
    @cherias.4069 Před 4 lety

    🤔Incorrect, as to not sharing certain 'Personal Information'. Here is Why. In order to Light💡 A Clear Path For Other's ,rather than abandoning Them "Unto the Deep Dark 'Void',We Must Be Willing To Do Exactly The OPPOSITE of this Video Narrators "SUGGESTION"(?) ....For It Is Truly Our Very Own Personal "Experience(S)' & "Choices", that have MEGA 'Vibrational' "Affect" upon ALL Within Close Enough Vicinity ...And, "Influence' through MUCH "Repetitional Behaviours, Repitional "destructions' called "Accidental'--NOT! Because Malingnant Narcs. are deadly for Real, tis best to simply Share helpful video's, as you avoid Naming Anybody at all. 🤔Bob Larson has my Respect 😍For pointing out that if A jezebel Spirit "Manifests' ,along with other Demon Spirits--that each have their own Separate "Duties" "Terrors to commit,such as: "tempting" "harrassing" "neglecting" "over-compensating"😬😱 behaviours", "Narc. 'hovering' is only to "Enable' Spy & "Disrupt'" Narc. FAKE BUT VERY REAL😲😩😕😱 'Mode', even though was acertained that this would not occur...ah! the World of Malingnant Narcs--😂"The "Gift" that keeps on Giving ...giving ....giving....giving.....giving.....giving......giving....mostly 💩Whilst "CREATING/MANIPULATING" "PERCEPTIONS OF ALL ANY "SURROUNDING' "HUMANS"through many sneaky "jihaddy's" --🤔Some may be being paid large amounts of $$$'s for their guaranteed DESTRUCTION of ? Whoms?. Many means of "Demises/Destruction are 'implemented' *at One Time....alternating only in Frequency, Pitch,& Exposure TIME,ect. .... Falling Asleep... .💤💤💤💤Did not become "sleepy as heck' when younger..... except ,after Excessive Studying......& Creating. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🤓🦅🌈💖🤔Much "Structural Pinging"s" CURRENTLY occurring at exact location...🤔Might be nothing at all --

  • @larryquisno430
    @larryquisno430 Před 3 lety

    What to do about repeatedly same words.the s dreamed and and d.ders

  • @ismailguelmouss2009
    @ismailguelmouss2009 Před 3 lety

    The title of the: 1 you shouldn't share. And that is, you're love life,
    Cos it's already shared with somebody else isn't it ? Except that you can share anything else...

  • @ribapurackal2399
    @ribapurackal2399 Před 4 lety +1

    6th thing is this video. keep it to yourself and practice it. Don't go about merely sharing it😜😜😜

  • @josielancaster7095
    @josielancaster7095 Před 3 lety +1

    Less is more

  • @rexnino0807
    @rexnino0807 Před 3 lety

    Thanks for this video! So much wisdom as usual. Can you also make one video about inappropriate things people asks in casual conversations and specially during reunion dinners with relatives ? Hahaha

  • @peterney2402
    @peterney2402 Před 3 lety

    NEVER LET ANYONE KNOW WHAT YOUR THINKING. quote from the godfather.

  • @Nahid1347
    @Nahid1347 Před 3 lety

    True

  • @jqjosh
    @jqjosh Před 4 lety +1

    That last ones such beta sh*t, tell people what your gonna do and f*cking do it ffs

    • @TheArtOfPersonalGrowth
      @TheArtOfPersonalGrowth  Před 4 lety +2

      No problem in telling what you are gonna do if you know you are going to do it (and you have a track record that proves it).
      The reality is though, that those who build great things are not the ones who are saying the are going to build great things, but those who shut up and work their ass off to make it happen.

  • @Mmyers1177
    @Mmyers1177 Před 3 lety +1

    Most People Can’t Handle Their Own Life Situation, Why the Heck would they Care About Yours? Keep personal shit locked away tight or learn to live by yourself. In the end nobody really gives a flying Fuck......

  • @gregorypeterson9
    @gregorypeterson9 Před 3 lety

    Always gets me when you first meet someone and in your first conversation you know their entire life story....SCARY

    • @audemars_piguet13
      @audemars_piguet13 Před 3 lety

      Most people lie. I wouldn't believe people telling stories theirs or others, sometimes the only reason people will listen to another tell their life story is because they think they can gain leverage but in reality when someone shares a lot of their life, you have to be really careful those are people who in their mind have nothing to lose and will take your life and your family without having regrets or second thoughts. My advice to you would be, be very careful who you believe or listen to and specially if it is a life story, usually those people that share much are also willing to take your life.... Keep thinking the way you do and you will fall victim to it 😎

  • @simanyemaqungu
    @simanyemaqungu Před 4 lety +1

    Someone share this with Kanye

  • @iceberg1560
    @iceberg1560 Před 3 lety

    I love listening to you but I'm about to beat both my sisters up cause you showed me they are the haters