Fathers That Had the WORST Punishments
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I think Garnts dad taught him the value of time on such a young age, tbh that's a good way to teach your children instead of harsh physical punishments that could end up wrong in so many ways.
My Dad would physically Kick me and punch me and throw me in the air across the room until his Anger cooled down.
what did i learn from him, Anger, Anger, anger and hatred.
sometimes i would be punished for doing nothing or even saying good morning, and got beaten because he was not in the good mood.
i call him Man baby.
now he regrets alot and cries to spend time with me. and i say fk off.
True but this type of punishment can’t be used often as parents don’t have that much time to waste every week. So it’s only like a one time desl
hah, mine used to pull out cords from the light fixtures.. not to beat me with it, but to shock my tongue when he thought i was fibbing.. that was the "light" stuff no pun intended.
just an extremely mentally ill person that passed it on by force to my sister an i.
Garnt : listening
Dad : 2 hour lecture.
Garnt : dad ….. just fucking hit me.
In the future Garnt will discipline his kids by forcing them to watch him play Genshin for 2-3 hours
That sounds horrible
Garnt can't even remember what he did wrong after receiving a 2 hour long lecture lol
Time for another lecture
The belt, getting beat with my own shoe, the 2 hour lectures, and the disappointed “I don’t want to talk to you right now” straight up gave me PTSD as a kid. All my white friends got was a just grounding and they complained as if it was a prison sentence.
As a white person I had a wooden spoon and a belt.
But it was only when I realy did smth dumb and crazy
I got caned and gaslighted whenever I misbehaved as a child ( I am Asian)
Honestly, I think that applies to white kids whose parents AREN'T immigrants
And then there's the parent that combines all of them, lecture you, beat you, then lecture you again, then dosen't let you sleep, THEN finally says disappointed in you and refuses to acknowledge your presence for a month straight
I rather just go to maximum security prison in solitary confinement, that seems more humane than some parents
As a white person I got all the things you explained. I knew lots of pocs who had much more reasonable parents. Do not use your anecdotes as a basis for how the rest of the world works.
I loved when garnt said "it's parenting time"
*crowd goes wild*
Patrick Star: *Boo!*
and started parenting all around the fucking room
Garnt's father thinking the long game here lol
I think my mom had the worst method of punishment. She at one point look me dead in the eyes on told me "Son, you are not performing to the expectations i had set for you. Therefore in order to avoid causing myself needless pain I am lowering my expectations for you so I can still love you. " . I truly don't think there is anything more powerful , more motivating or more punishing than a parent telling you that. But, it worked. Full on has been keeping motivated for a few years now as I have been desperately trying to avoid another such confrontation.
I would've prefer this method unfortunately my mother went the opposite and try to force me up to her expectation when its clear I can't with her method. instead of learning anything good I just learn to hate schooling in general. Because what I learned is just equating her view with education and hating it. Thereby wasting my younger years, as I treat school as just something to get out of the way quickly as possible instead of it as an important part of growing up.
My mom has mellowed out or just accepted reality and just go with what I'm only able to do as an adult even though she clearly view the work as subpar. Whenever she brings it up always end up in argument. Never really forgave her for it, and I made it clear to her when it is brought up
Oof both of these stories were heartbreaking to hear... I hope you both have supports around you who build you up and celebrate who you are. Just know, they judge you so harshly because *_they_* failed and they see their own worst in you (rather than seeing what is really there and who you really are). Hopefully, with time, they will come to understand that it was THEMSELVES they were disappointed with and not either of you.
I am sure you are both lovely people doing your best, and that is all you need to be. Try your best, work on you and find a way to glow and grow for your *own benefit. With that base and control of your own journey and independence, you'll find those words get a bit more distant and little less hurtful.
Much love and light to you both!!
What a cruel and manipulative thing to say to a child. Even in the best case scenario, she basically forced onto you an equation according to which her affection for you is positively correlated to your performance. Parental love should not be something you earn, and that idea is certainly not something you try to convince your kid is the case. You seem to have responded positively, but I hope you're doing good.
When I was 13, I called some kid a racial slur and my mom beat the shit out of me, but my dad showed me pictures of his dead older brother who was murdered a street gang when he was my age.
Honestly, that fucked me up far worse than getting beaten ever could have.
I got spanked and yelled at as a kid. I was way more scared of my mom because I knew if I whooped that she was clearly very disappointed in me. I remember telling my father once after I got whooped that he wasn't as scary as my mom. He said that didn't make any sense. I told him just because you hit harder than mom doesn't mean you're scarier. He was like fair point.
As a parent I don't use these methods. I wouldn't say I 'm a gentle parent but I am not going to punish a child if it can be resolved through simple dialogue. They get a chance to correct their actions and if not its a time out and we always have a conversation after. We walk away from the time out like nothing happened and the child knows they are forgiven.
I got spanked, yelled at, washed my mouth out with soap, had time out, and the whole “I’m disappointed in you” shit with my mom, my dad hates confrontation due to his trauma with his own parents. I love my mom, I’d die for her, but there are better ways to discipline a child than physical punishments or put them through traumatic harassment. That is just unacceptable. I have issues with intimacy now. I feel weird with physical contact. I shut down when there’s yelling and my anxiety sends me into a panic attack. You don’t need to scar your child for them to better themselves.
Harsh physical punishments is really a double edge sword for children sure it can work for certain kids, but on the flip side especially once they get older and start to have their own views and morals on life, those kids would potentially start to resent you since by that point have their own judgement they could view your physical punishment being just overheavy handed or unjustified or even hypocritical
Like Connor, I used to hide my Nintendo DS in my pillow but my parents figured that out pretty quickly. So what they did was, they took my DS and left it in the living room to charge. I remember I'd wait for hours to hear the sound of my parents' bedroom door closing, which was my cue to spring up out of bed, go to the living room to unplug my DS from the outlet, go back to my room, play games for God knows how many hours, and when I was done or my DS was running low on battery, I'd get out of bed again and plug the DS back in to charge until morning.
When garnt said “i will never forget my dad’s disciplining method” i thought YOU GOT BEAT FOR 30 MINUTES AT A TIME TOO💀💀💀
I like how Joey ignorantly says your parents can’t be angry and yelling for hours. What a sheltered life you’ve led lol
He grew up in australia that gets the cops called on you.
LOL my parents yelled the whole day. Even while I was in the bathroom they yelled at me outside the door
@@dekumdoriya I was going to comment but this one had my mam beat by a landslide. We've gone a few hours, but never a whole day... Oof, the determination there~!
@@dekumdoriya I'd say my mom is guilty of that lol. Now I just chalk it off to the b**tch being mentally handicapped. She has made my life a living hell. She's the sole motivator of why I wanna leave my country. You have to constantly walk on eggshells and if there is even a 1% deviation in her plans, she goes absolutely ballistic, having panic attacks, mental breakdowns, unaliving herself, all the 9 yards. Being with her has honestly made me lose sympathy for all the mentally unstable parents out there.
My mother shouldn't have been a mother, she had so many problems but had to conform to society's bs beliefs of having children and had me. Now I resent my mom and I'll probably throw her in an old age home if the time comes (sorry if I'm being apathetic, but after enduring 20+ years of torment, any form of sympathy or love goes down the drain).
Garnt story really reminds me of my father. It always happened to me when I made a mistake in my school days. I just sat for hours listening to my father lecture and usually the atmosphere at home would be quiet for a while.
I can only hope i can think enough substsnce for 2 hours when i become a father.
My gramps whenever I fucked up simply goes, "Start running"
When I get angry I cry so I just bottle lit up and when someone starts to tick me off I retreat into my mind
I remember being in elementary and I mind was blown when I learned my friend was allowed to play video games on weekdays *and* didn't have to sleep at 8:00 PM
I know this isn't fully related to the point being made about parents, but I remember this like it happened a few hours ago. I'm over 30 now, when I was 12 years old, I was standing in the canteen queue at secondary school year 7 and I was listening to jokes from my friends. I some how lent forward fast laughing and my mouth went through the queue barriers and smashed my front teeth. I only had one thing on my mind, I didn't care about what happened to me, but I was so terrified to scare my mother. I did not want her to cry. Anyway, in regards to father's my dad never lectured me, he did something worse. He ignored me the whole rest of the day if I did something wrong. But the next day when he woke up, he started a clean slate. It was so subtle yet super effective.
My mom would just lecture me not calmly for 10 mins. Not the longest, but she would repeat the same point sooooo many times, it was insanity. She still does that whenever we have a disagreement. Though she’s a good and hardworking mother most of the time. She also has a temper, for example I remember I said yes to her one time, I think in reality my voice was just getting deeper, but she thought I was “speaking with attitude.” Then began yelling at me. It was a strange assumption cause I was a meek kid. Never even yelled at my mother or spoke with attitude until I was 17. Any attitude was in my physical actions/body language rather than verbal. My poor dad had to console me. A memory that sticks in my head a lot, cause not being believed hurts. But she’s chilled out a bit lately.
Garnt's dad is literally like Nobita's mom from Doraemon.
Man this is Garnt's finest hour. He tells the story so well and It's absolutely hilarious.
When my dad got mad, he got the belt.
Garnt's dad is the GOAT of bad childhood behaviour redirects. Man realized that making you feel trapped in a bad lecture BEFORE you get to university/college was going to be way more educational than a swat to the behind. :'D
Also, for note, physical punishment and reinforcement have been decried as lesser parenting methods for reinforcing good behaviour in children for a few years/a decade now. It was already being shown to be widely problematic as a method when I was in highschool (early 00's).
Intuitive parenting may sound like somecrunchy granola mom stuff, but its actually backed by science and the understanding that the PARENT tends to spawn or cause a lot of the bad habits and behaviours the kids exhibit. We need more parents taking proper responsibility for when the kids "eff up" in some way, because it's 99% of the time a failing of either the parent in oversight/teaching, or the kid in just plain cognitive functioning (kids are literally dumb and being angry at them for literally having under-developed brains and not having learned enough to know "stove hot" or "walls hard to clean" or "permanent marker ruins things" or "damage to apartment loses damage deposit and costs parents money"... is dumb. It's stupider for the parent to be actually mad.
I mean, until they hit the teen years after 15 and start having less excuse. By that point, they've generally learned enough to know better on most things... which is how we end up with "teen problems" (drinking, driving problems, legal troubles, getting in fights, staying out late, sneaking out, etcetc).
Even so, if you raise your children with an open quality that allows for a feeling of safety and security to talk to you about all things (which not becoming a potential violent enemy encourages) you find the kids do those things less in teen years. They party less or not at all, they have less interest in rule breaking and they're wiser with the substances.
My sister and I are proof of that... Mom was pretty typical for a 90s mom born in the 60s. Except that she was ahead of the curve on the idea that parenting should be firm but open to discourse and built on trust and security ACTIVELY such that the kids understand the fact. It resulted in me avoiding a lot of the "bad stuff" when too young for it, I was often the one taking care of the idjits in the groups I hung around. I was often the one with the knowledge to help a situation. I was often the only one with a parent who could be called in an emergency without fear, to get help.
I was able to call mom when drunk and not worry I was going to get my arse kicked (I was 19 by then BTW - legal drinking age here and was not interested in trying alcohol prior). I didn't touch the weed until I was an adult either, and that was not through force but education from her... she didn't shy away from the hard visuals, so I saw raw birthing video as soon as I got my first period AND I was shown, when I hit highschool age, what addiction looks like and what different drugs do to people... So I avoided those things until I was old enough to understand them and be responsible with alcohol and, now, weed.
Parenting is best done on a sliding scale of careful consideration... Every blow has a negative reaction somewhere down the line, even if you don't realize the link. A lot of insecurities and feelings of anxiety are born early in the heavy hand of a parent who uses corporal punishment and fear to rule the home.
connor has told the hair story but me having a quick deja vu panic when I heard this again is such a Trash Taste moment lol
Good ol chancla is an underrated weapon of punishment
Im pretty sure Connor already told that hair scissors story lol
For real and I'm still deep dive to find that episode cause no way this was the first time he told that story
@@aceremo2 Episode 39
PFFT 🤣 Grant's dad: Listen son, you're not allowed to go to bed until you hear my 2 hour lecture.
Conor’s excuse was like the excuses I used to say when I was a kid😂😂😂 it’s always the most dumbest and humanly impossible lie
I would hide my DS under the mattress at night. or under the bed. One of my best hiding spots was I would hide my iPod touch (which I would read fanfic on until like 3am. I had an addiction) underneath the bed skirt thing, but in the tray that holds the mattress on the bed. It’s hard to explain but it was a genius move
that's where my brothers put candy haha
when he said wave of memories i thought of light getting his memmories back in the heli
these punishments sound pretty good actually
My father would legit slap my bro and my bro would start laughing and he would do it again and he would keep laughing and it could go for 10-15 minutes like that
That's fucked up.
'bro'
💀
Cruel and unusual punishment.. 😂
Grant reminded me of my childhood there. I got spanked, lectured, and yelled at. Spanking/hitting traumatized me to anyone touching me, mostly my back. I can handle being yelled at because I'm desensitized to it. Lecturing me usually came out of nowhere, I'm the eldest of 3 to I got blamed for things my siblings and younger cousins did. That just pissed me off.
So, parents punishment is basically a tedious lecture pill or the good ol' slap and hit from an object pill....
I think my culture/city takes pride in the abuse-I mean discipline, they use on children so much so that our baseball team has been named after one of the weapons which is a chancla (a sandal in English) Yes our baseball team is called the flying chanclas 🥸 another popular punishment besides belts,slaps to the face, being yelled at/being called names, and spankings is kneeling in dry rice for an extended period of time to where the rice gets into your skin and may cause bleeding because it cuts through the skin after some point 😅
Thumbnail brought back some dark garnt memories
i was conditioned to being a good liar as a kid. it was like a double or nothing gambit, if i was found out i was punished for the original misstep and the lie. but if i got away with it, no punishment at all. good outcomes i think
I don't even remember what I did as a kid, but one time in elementary school I did something that my dad punished me by taking away the entire summer break, I was grounded from everything, and since ofc I was a young child and he couldn't leave me alone at home, when the rest of the family went to like the public pool I had to sit off on the side, fully dressed, as my siblings got to play in the water, I also remember losing alot of trick or treating as a kid, I was like a menace for some reason as a child
So his choice of punishment was just psychological torment.
Man i gotta get the context cause some things could definitely warrant that
See because I never saw my mom mad when I was kid, when she is angry at my dad it sort of comes as a “Oh shit, she’s actually mad” in my mind. My mom was the lecturing type while my dad was the shouting type 😅
Honestly it's not the worst I've heard. Maybe not the absolute best but definitely did a lot of things right by calmly lecturing him. My mom wouldn't lecture me growing up she'd just gently scold me for like 10 seconds, but I was basically a perfectly well behaved child anyway so there was hardly ever anything to even scold me on. If I was doing something wrong it's probably because I didn't know it was wrong.
Garnt the “like” guy
I think I was reading a book on my tablet one time at night or I was watching something, can't remember but my mum somehow new even though she can't see me on my bunk. She came in and straight up dropped the tablet on my chest and just didn't move with my eyes shut but at one point I moved slightly just move it so it fell to my side. But my mum was just not having it that night, she reached up (I don't know if used a stepping stool or something) then literally searched me for the tablet and reached further just to get it from my side and lecture me in the middle of the night
When I did something wrong my dad slapped me, but for some reason that didn't work 😅😅. But putting me outside, just next to the backdoor worked. Because 10 meters next to that was a compost barrel. And I knew there were rats there at night and I'm still so afraid of rats. So that made my mouth shut immediately.
this is literally my parents. Never again.
I learnt how to poker face really early (like 7 year old?)
I uhhh... managed to get away with quite a bit of lies
My mum made a litry book about what would make her disepointed.
I rember one time she gott disepointed at me for wanting candy when i was a kid, so she bought the candy i wanted then sat me down infront of her and she slowly eat it all up and then sent me to the room...ye that works.
I remember my mom doing it for instant ramen and yeah.... that taught me to use my allowance to secretly smuggle in snacks and stuff and never breathe anything to my mom, so it goes two ways ig.
When im a parent i want to read a book of dissapointment at my kids 18th birthday,
You guys gotta watch the Boondocks parody of Beyond Scared Stiff
Garnt: That punishment was horrible.
Garnt's Uncle: If only you knew.
One of the best hides I ever did was with my DS one night. If my dad ever suspected mischief, he’d come in and look under the covers. A few times I’d hide a book under my pillow, but he caught on. Until one night, I heard him coming and was able to (while fake sleeping, because I slept on my stomach a lot as a kid) shove the DS under my mattress AS HE WAS COMING IN. And he looked under the bed, removed the pillowcase, shook out the covers, everything, but couldn’t find it. I never tried it again, but I remember the thrill that came from winning against an adult.
garnt is the anime protag since childhood gdi
If Garn'ts kids misbehave he'll just explain fate lore or evangelion to them
My parents had more of a bad cop and even worse cop thing going on. My dad was the bad cop who was trying to not be as bad as his partner so he wouldnt do the spankings or anything. Long lectures that would go on for hours. What would seem like infinite chores that had to be done. That kinda stuff. My mom however was a complete wild card. One time she just yelled at you, then the next she just grounds you. And then of course the spankings. One time she made my brother's favorite meal for dinner but told him he gets a ham sandwich and a bottle of water while everyone else got to eat the meal she had made. Basically Dad was too much of a wuss for anything extra. Mom did whatever it took if it got the point across.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Looking back on it now I get a laugh at how creative the punishments got.
Chancla that is all
Truthfully, I don't think punishments work like parents want or intend for them to work. Beatings, getting grounded, lectures, none of them really work because they don't teach kids about the true consequences of an action, but instead immediately give a negative consequence that they'll want to avoid from then on. You either teach them to not get caught doing it or to not do it to avoid the punishment, not the consequences.
Sadly I'm one of the Asian kids that got bludgeoned by my Dad when I made a mistake. Punched in the Gut, Smacked in the face so hard that gave me a bloody nose. I wasn't even that bad of a Kid. It made me fear everyday that I would get beaten whenever my dad came home. He has changed a lot since then, but, the trauma is still there even after I'm already over 20. Sometimes just hearing his voice gives me anxiety even if he's me calling in his most calming tone.
Bard an person born at the same time at me. Close to my mirror image. He had a father who liked spitting in his face (this is no joke) He would actually spit him in the face if what he said was unpleasant.
My moms technique was simply just making me watch sad movies with her so that Id always feel guiltly to not do bad shit. If I did, shed pinch me.
I always have been a good liar and was caught like 2 to 3 times only. Idk how but I can come up with beliveable stories on the spot
Just 2hrs? thats quite short
My Father would send you outside with two trash bags and you have to fill them with garbage and living in the middle of no wheres it took an hour or two to find that much trash along the road. So if you were punished too often you would need to go further and further to fill the garbage bags. The neighbors thought we just cleaned up along the road because we caring about the environment.
Yeah that's sounds like me
Man im so jelly about people who had healthy childhood , man i got hit with shoe , cable , belt ,foot , hand ,stick , jeans ,hairbrush , rake ,rolling pin ,a spoon .Man my parents were angry bunch , they stopped punishing me like that when I started laughing while they hit me lmao
Jeez… I’m so sorry you had to experience such abuse, you shouldn’t have had to suffer from the hands of the people who raised you like that. Hopefully, things are better now, but I know that those kinds of wounds run deeper than just skin deep. 🙁 you’re amazingly strong for getting through all of that and you deserve to be treated with tenderness and love instead of anger and abuse, never forget that ❤
@@autumnlove96able the abuse stopped several years ago when i was 14 , my father is now on medication so he is much more relaxed , thank you for your kind words it really means a lot 💗💗💗
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Always interesting hearing from people who had a healthy childhood
My mother weilded a wooden spoon that she'd smack the shit out of I and my brother with when we were ever out of line. She used the same spoon on I and my older brother and I remember once when I was 10 the spoon broke as it cracked against my arm. That spoon survived +20 years of tomfoolery and she went to Macy's to buy a heavy dutier spoon at the end of the week.
When my brother had his first daughter my mom bought him his own wooden spoon, same make and model.
That’s horrific, it shows she hasn’t changed and doesn’t regret it at all.
When im a parent i want to read a book of dissapointments at my kids 18th birthday..
DID WE HAVE THE SAME FATHER WTF? 😭💀😭🤣💀
My dad talk with his mouth, My mom talked with her fist. My father talked for 2 hour, My mother "talked" for 5 minute. Guess which one i prefer. A good lecture is so effective to discipline a kid.
I imagine It as:
"the average length of a frog is 6-9 centimiters, the females have an average of 100 to 1000 eggs..."
All with the same calmed cold voice.
So those Scared Straight programs exist outside of the show and have for years. Typically they're only for kids that have already committed some kind of crime. It's not the kids that forgot to put their laundry away one too many times, it's the kids that are selling drugs or mugging people.
I'd rather take the 2 hours lecture than getting whipped by belt, you kidding me ?
I remember when i was a kid i wanted to get a KFC but my parents didn't get me KFC and i cried and next thing you know i got belted when we got home.
My dad did not spank me or lecture me, he used my likes and dislikes agaisnt me. He used my material attachment as a method of discipline.
As in, anything i enjoyed, he removed from my everyday life until i did what he expected out of me, whether it was getting better grades, saying sorry or changing my bad behavior.
Oh, you like this? You need this in your life? How about i take it away from you, and when my request is complete,you get what your stuff back.
That was enough to keep me in line 😅😅
Why the Hell are we all living the same fucking lives bro!! What in Gods name is going on?! This is definitely the matrix.
A one man podcast lmao
as a white, slavic kid, my mom would go balistic on me, in different ways depending on her mood, but my dad was more like a super powerful warrior, who had high enough power level, to make me scared without him even doing anything
I bet the lecture was all about something like every action has an equal and opposite reaction and you just elaborate on all the consequences and then go further elaborating the consequences of the prior consequences.
I did this to my sister when she was about to do something impulsive without my parents knowledge and I think I managed to convince her but we'll see. It's definitely fear mongering but it's in a way that allows her to think further rather than just be scared of a punishment. Don't yell, don't hit, that will only make them close up to u
my dad would just outright run towards me and beat me with full power then sit me on the floor to scream about how worthless I am for am for 2 hours
Bro u good, do need someone to speak too??
@@yasers. yeh I’m Ight it stopped when I got taller
getting lectured for hours as punishment, WEAK. my mother almost biedaily had hour long monologues about thing i don't care fore that worst of all where sometimes just word for word repeats of something she talked about last time with no escape.
Sydney is pregnant. First to say it.
6 hours
Amateur
You know the cliche where right before a parent hits you they say, “This hurts me more than it hurts you,” my father took that literally.
Whenever I would misbehave, he would grab his belt, and threaten to hit himself with it. And that was enough for me to stop misbehaving since I didn’t want him to be hurt lol.
I'm happy you guys don't have a clue about what trauma actually is.