CUT HER OFF If She Does These Things During The Dating Stage! (VET HER OUT)

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Komentáře • 203

  • @cruzmartinez347
    @cruzmartinez347 Před rokem +69

    Sweetheart, this is one of the best videos that you've posted. Thank you you've said a lot of very important points.

  • @guntertorfs6486
    @guntertorfs6486 Před rokem +154

    Unfortunately , you've described the behavior of more than 80 % of women nowadays.

    • @kubo5668
      @kubo5668 Před rokem +1

      Bruh you’re just sad

    • @malineli3266
      @malineli3266 Před rokem +4

      💯%

    • @batzgameguru
      @batzgameguru Před rokem +5

      100%!

    • @shaunwalsh85
      @shaunwalsh85 Před rokem +18

      You’re very kind. I was gonna say like 97%… lololol

    • @ngalahansel6066
      @ngalahansel6066 Před rokem +14

      Absolutely what I was thinking. In the end,as a man,you just have to be really smart and NOT spend too much of your money on her until you feel that the relationship is also healthy FOR YOU as a man

  • @robertmaciaczyk57
    @robertmaciaczyk57 Před rokem +61

    Very true when it comes to "women needing you emotionally". When someone wants to dump their shit on you continually - its extremely bad sign. It means she will drain you, and act as a victim all the time, because she cant handle anything. Don't waste time on emotionally immature women, it's not worth it.

    • @maryn1160
      @maryn1160 Před rokem +1

      Or it means you don t love the woman enough ...men like IT when they are sick worried etc to be listened and cared for by a woman (including being spoiled with money attention etc) but when the lady needs help with negative period in life very few men stay and take care of her emotionally especially. Plus real men like to impress a lady and take care of her especially in terms of being interested in what She has to say and help her.

    • @thomasgrabowski2202
      @thomasgrabowski2202 Před rokem +3

      ooof....yup...I feel WAY too deep with my ex partner with this kind of mentality and it was EXTREMELY draining....I just thought maybe if we worked harder on our relationship things would improve. I ended confronting her about it and then she broke up with me lol...And things got worst after words because I was an emotional MESS afterwards..............Like I have to go to court and shit...........super bad......:( !

  • @charlessarver1637
    @charlessarver1637 Před rokem +28

    Stay away from broken women, that is great advice. That has been my problem in the past

    • @thewarinside
      @thewarinside Před rokem +3

      Sometimes we find ourselves looking into broken mirrors to get a reflection of ourself

    • @BihFaca11
      @BihFaca11 Před rokem

      Agree with you 100%.
      Sadly more are broken then not, growing up without a father in their life, abusing alcohol, drugs, casual hook ups.

    • @user-uu9yb9wb5b
      @user-uu9yb9wb5b Před 6 měsíci

      @@thewarinsideyep, usually you have unhealed trauma as well if you keep attracting “broken” women.

  • @irenenjeri8720
    @irenenjeri8720 Před rokem +10

    If you have been all nice ,communicative and not toxic at all and she does this definitely cut her off

  • @markbrown7058
    @markbrown7058 Před rokem +2

    Great video. A lot of things to be aware of during the talking stage. Some of these things occur in the relationship stage as well.

  • @erikbartlett2147
    @erikbartlett2147 Před rokem +1

    This is one of your best video's. The video really spoke to me and what I've been thinking about & have been through.
    This came right on time. Thank you

  • @EJK26
    @EJK26 Před rokem

    This is a great video Apollonia! Thanks for sharing, I spotted a few of these traits in women I was texting with recently and it's a relief to know that they are gone.

  • @sammy_lynn
    @sammy_lynn Před rokem +5

    This is great advice for any sex but I'm glad to hear someone giving it to me in a compassionate, kinda objective way lol.
    I think it's so important and refreshing to find men that respect their own boundaries, not every woman wants what you want, don't pretend because you keep us and yourselves from finding the right partner. It's ok to walk away. There's no lack. On the way to becoming your best self or as your best self, you'll find you're a magnet for the right women. We have options and you do too. Choose what's best for you. We will too.

  • @remlapgarage
    @remlapgarage Před rokem +5

    This helped me out remarkably this morning with a woman I've been talking to. I don't want to waste any of our time and this has confirmed what I needed to do. Thanks Apollonia

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  Před rokem +1

      I'm so glad this helped! Thank you so much for watching!

  • @snamflow
    @snamflow Před rokem

    You couldn't have said it better. These are great points.

  • @mrchango7510
    @mrchango7510 Před rokem +10

    The financial and emotional dependency is my ex, exactly like you said she was toxic, and her energy bought me down. It took some time to break that "curse" it's difficult because we have a child together and I know she tries to use that because of my dedication to my children

  • @lexserr
    @lexserr Před rokem +7

    Hello Apollonia. You're like the sister I've always needed to talk sense into me when it comes to women.

  • @nielsboesten204
    @nielsboesten204 Před rokem +1

    Really interesting perspectives on situations that many people will recognise to some extent! Great work Apollonia!

  • @lookfeelbehealthy6320
    @lookfeelbehealthy6320 Před rokem +14

    Most of this is common sense. The things that now save me a ton of time, which was not common sense for me in the past but is now, is having a consistent personality and putting you down. One of main things I say in all my dating profiles is you MUST have a consistent personality, say what you mean, mean what you say, and always follow through on your commitments.

  • @shamilton2719
    @shamilton2719 Před rokem

    Thank you so much for all you do!

  • @leg414
    @leg414 Před rokem +3

    Very good video and tips every man should know to avoid a "bullet" to the heart and wallet and his sanity! Thank You! Peace!

  • @bluraywater8217
    @bluraywater8217 Před rokem +1

    thank you dear lady for giving such clear instructions; too many men are being tricked and abused by women into toxic relationships; the vetting process is absolutely essential to ensure men do not get stuck with false rape charges or divorce court proceedings;

  • @swfadarkansas3734
    @swfadarkansas3734 Před rokem

    Your videos have helped me so very much! Thank you!

  • @RunsHorses
    @RunsHorses Před rokem

    These points are incredibly on-target. Tough medicine to take, but needed.

  • @TheBuldog2000
    @TheBuldog2000 Před rokem +1

    Gr8 job 👍🙏💐 Thank You 😊

  • @Jazz313
    @Jazz313 Před rokem

    Great advice ❤keep posting

  • @PredatoryTeeth
    @PredatoryTeeth Před rokem +1

    Apollonia in this video shatters the myth of saving the best for last. Why do I say that? Because she comes out swinging with INCONSISTENCY being the FIRST thing she discusses here! It ultimately is not only the most important, but also the easiest to spot, or at least to look for. A woman who makes no effort is a woman worth no effort. Thanks Apollonia, for all you do.

  • @vernondelancy6281
    @vernondelancy6281 Před rokem

    Great , Great information ❤.

  • @nestorcolt
    @nestorcolt Před rokem

    on point! Thanks Apollonia

  • @hcwoolfgmailcom
    @hcwoolfgmailcom Před rokem +1

    ONE OF YOUR BEST, MOST EDUCATIONAL VIDEOS!!!!!;

  • @vincentgumina7425
    @vincentgumina7425 Před rokem

    I ❤ Apollonia Ponti's channel. 🙏🙏

  • @quentinowens5959
    @quentinowens5959 Před rokem

    I thank God for you for enlightening this relevant truth about these kind of women that I most surely want to avoid.

  • @atama01
    @atama01 Před rokem

    Thank you. Good advice.

  • @renostubbs8504
    @renostubbs8504 Před rokem

    Excellent points,you can going into to detail on each of these points and make 10 videos,it would help greatly...you are amazing

  • @novastartech9581
    @novastartech9581 Před rokem

    I usually don't leave comments but this was very helpful

  • @louieray1027
    @louieray1027 Před rokem +3

    Thank you I’m traveling to Texas on my first date coming from Minnesota so definitely I’m utilizing these tips. Thank you

  • @jonathanjojophiri4611

    Always watching you Apollonia greetings from Zambia

  • @ApolloniaPonti
    @ApolloniaPonti  Před rokem +5

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  • @mickbray4195
    @mickbray4195 Před rokem

    Apollonia!! Your back!! Where have you been all my life? Thought about you a few times, but couldn't find you until now.

  • @nubianwinner6758
    @nubianwinner6758 Před rokem

    🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🎯🎯🎯. Right Knowledge. VICTORIOUS JT

  • @danielosoba5723
    @danielosoba5723 Před rokem +1

    You're so on point coachee.
    ❤️ ❤️ 🇳🇬

  • @jehriasean6379
    @jehriasean6379 Před rokem

    Great video

  • @joshuaallenwood5944
    @joshuaallenwood5944 Před rokem +2

    Thanks coach I definitely need some great advice I’m going back out there

  • @maniammanetta
    @maniammanetta Před rokem

    Wonderful video, tx

  • @johngonzalez4298
    @johngonzalez4298 Před rokem +3

    Happy Thursday, AP! Wishing you a wonderful day ❤

  • @moisesmontanez5101
    @moisesmontanez5101 Před rokem

    Beautiful video with powerful words thank you young lady🥰❤😇😊😏🙏

  • @thewarinside
    @thewarinside Před rokem +2

    Sometimes we get stuck in these situations, where we start looking to other people for our self esteem. And sometimes we find ourselves looking in broken mirrors to get a reflection of ourselves.

  • @d.leroy2567
    @d.leroy2567 Před rokem +2

    I say this in my head all the time and I’m glad you say it cause it validates what I’ve been thinking

  • @henryleyva3039
    @henryleyva3039 Před rokem

    I love your videos! 👍 I have learned so much. I follow you on tic tok also💙

  • @scorpions6434
    @scorpions6434 Před rokem +8

    To the streets she shall return

    • @TomFox1
      @TomFox1 Před rokem

      I GOTTA FEED THE STREETS

  • @yahosephbenyisrael917

    Hey Queen Apollonia

  • @Brookie408
    @Brookie408 Před rokem

    Beautiful ❤

  • @daggerkero_official
    @daggerkero_official Před rokem +1

    It's like your giving a story of my current relationship 😢

  • @jermainepatterson3213

    The part about night in shining armour your one choosing them hit a cord there apollonia made me realise i wasted lot time excusing bad behaviour causedl wanted to be loved, but that past thank u for helping to save me x

  • @thehealthbodyfitness
    @thehealthbodyfitness Před rokem +1

    This was perfect Timing it’s like this girl has issues in her life family Drama an I wanted to save her I can’t save her from it I felt kinda helpless or powerless but she was giving the Damn Mixed Signals But like she said if someone wants you too they will make time for you an they Won’t tell you one thing an do the opposite 🤔😔

  • @abouthisbiz4330
    @abouthisbiz4330 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Sorry I had to cut it off at number seven, was starting to get flashbacks of her. Still can't believe one person fits all your bad traits, can't believe I tolerated it for so long just because she was so fine and felt so good😢

  • @naturelove9139
    @naturelove9139 Před rokem +1

    Neatly explained for all confused men on women behaviour

  • @chaithanyakadagala4367

    Iam always waiting for your vedios..and ..your vedios are amazing

  • @juanderuano8969
    @juanderuano8969 Před rokem +1

    Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her..

  • @sserunjogiahmed7974
    @sserunjogiahmed7974 Před rokem

    Best female relationship coach ever in the world. Keep it up sister. Ahmed Qatar.

  • @seankelly1366
    @seankelly1366 Před rokem

    I most certainly could not agree with you more Appolonia....It's difficult enough for men to have to face the "arena " every day and have to resort to "call and answer " from someone who has absolutely no definition of the topics related with the subject as well as having understanding to self esteem..

  • @RGM91
    @RGM91 Před rokem +1

    All this is true lol. Choose your person wisely.

  • @thisthathighlife
    @thisthathighlife Před 3 měsíci

    💯💯❤️

  • @gdaymates431
    @gdaymates431 Před rokem

    I stumbled upon this. As a woman who dates women, it was really interesting.

  • @JosefAGreen
    @JosefAGreen Před rokem +1

    Beautiful

  • @edgreen8140
    @edgreen8140 Před rokem +7

    Don't make people show you who they are more than 2 times. It's a pattern. It should be two equals.
    Self entitled probably self centered. Pronoun density- I, me, mine instead of we or ours. Written by a psychologist ,yes dansel in distress, victim mentality is a red flag. Vulnerable narcissist is a chronic victim. A person who can make their own decisions in reality using critical thinking. Any chronic fantasy based behavior or wants should be avoided. Yes being dismissed, dismiss her or it will occur for life. Like dismissive avoidant attachment style who refuses to work on their issues. Boundaries
    Addictions go hand and hand w severe personality disorders. Wish I heard this on the 1980s.

  • @travisbartholomay
    @travisbartholomay Před rokem

    Udagreatest. Thank you

  • @geeveeme
    @geeveeme Před rokem +7

    Once I had things I wanted to do for me , start my band up again , work out , I went to see her and drove an hour there to spend the weekend with her it ended up being almost zero us time and it wasn't the first time this happened , then she started trying to belittle me and be disrespectful , cold and because I was tired of being the initiator in affection I pulled back and ended up asking myself as I was laying in bed with her on the other side ,why am I even here ??
    So I was supposed to go with her in the morning to here doc appointment but told her I was going home and I knew It was going to be the last kiss and hug with zero passion I was going to give ....I'm 100% sure she was sensing a bad vibe from me for wasting my time
    ... so she called me the next day and for the 3rd time wanted to take a break from the relationship and just be friends...she actually beat me to the punch but I was going to say its not going to work and lets go our separate ways so I respond simply "Okay" but no thanks on the friends and that I wasn't interested , told her there's to many options for a real and solid relationship and for her to take care ,
    I know it sounds mean but she in my mind deserved some crap for being rude and acting disrespectful for the last couple weeks we were together , not heart broken but embarrassing to have spent a month or more of weekends driving 2 hours round trip to find out she was this way and now me for choosing her , I need to continue to have an increase in self worth and attract ' look for someone who as you say AP brings somthing to the table and shows up !! YOU AP are why I had the sense to walk away...TYVM!!❤💯

  • @RyanTheeBroski
    @RyanTheeBroski Před rokem +3

    I really wish I saw this sooner. But, I’m really here because a lot of these things happened. You live and you learn. Take notes gentlemen. It might save you some time, and a little bit of your sanity.

  • @justincasper9792
    @justincasper9792 Před 3 měsíci

    Stop right there . I'm a sigma male and I'm secure with my self and my life . I'm not concerned with being an Alfa or concerned about any of their traits . Thank you . Have a nice day .

  • @FedUpCanuck
    @FedUpCanuck Před rokem +3

    My neighbor was like this. Amazing hugs beautiful smiles.....BUT when she knocked on my door which was frequently even late at night you know she conviently ran out of something. This lasted 3 weeks untill I gave her a list of everything 'borrowed'. Asked when she was going to return the stuff. I was her supermarket and she has not spoke to me since

    • @Areolainspecta
      @Areolainspecta Před rokem +4

      Bruh she wanted more than to borrow stuff

    • @lifedocumentaries9303
      @lifedocumentaries9303 Před rokem

      We cannot teach you everything

    • @stevenporter863
      @stevenporter863 Před rokem +3

      Honestly, it sounds like she was looking for an excuse to knock on your door (and late at night).

    • @daryl9799
      @daryl9799 Před rokem +1

      You were being used if it took you that long to figure that out its your own problem come on man.

  • @ArkhynHiel
    @ArkhynHiel Před rokem +3

    "so one of the things I would strongly suggest for you to do is basically tell her how much you do like when a woman does initiate, she reaches you to you, she plans things from time-to-time maybe you'll pay for the dates, obviously, if that's your go-to..."
    Wait, what?! My bros, don't be paying for the dates (especially as a go-to) for women just because they planned the date for you, for a change, especially if you had to ask for them to do so! You can maybe pay for the FIRST date, if you're a traditional type, or maybe OCCASIONALLY as a treat or surprise. As soon as you present it as 'please plan the dates, I'll pay for it if you do!' you're in major simp territory!
    Men 'who come from a place of abundance' don't go down to that level. C'mon, Apollonia! That advise was so contrary to what you normally give!

  • @ratoneJR
    @ratoneJR Před rokem +1

    Financially independent women tend to become masculine in today's society. So, you need to keep your eyes open for that type of behavior.

  • @lexicon4u
    @lexicon4u Před rokem +4

    I feel like these women don't care about your standards and boundaries. As soon as you uphold them they're out. Some of them are just immature and do double standards

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  Před rokem +2

      Exactly the immature ones won't. The mature ones will.

    • @lexicon4u
      @lexicon4u Před rokem

      @@ApolloniaPonti just to be clear, my standards are not too high. Like basic dating etiquette of not using your phone or coming on time becomes a problem for some girls.
      But good video, you hit on some stuff I thought I was crazy for expecting (like her also being responsible with finances)

  • @shieldoftruth-maganshalahm3520

    I can laugh at myself, I can laugh at subject matter, as long as I go back to reflect on it.
    Or I could take it truly honestly, and cry 😒

  • @Brookie408
    @Brookie408 Před rokem

    ❤❤❤

  • @andrewhoward5528
    @andrewhoward5528 Před 10 měsíci

    Yeah I think I give up it seems like it's the same every time I'd rather be single

  • @JussiTuukkanen
    @JussiTuukkanen Před rokem

    Thank you, the 10 secrets you're allowed to keep video was nowhere to be found/there was another video in it's place ( in the end )

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  Před rokem +1

      Thanks for the info! Looks like that one will be posted on Tuesday and I will update it. Thanks for letting me know. :-)

    • @JussiTuukkanen
      @JussiTuukkanen Před rokem

      @@ApolloniaPonti you are welcome, thanks

  • @mikeactual7640
    @mikeactual7640 Před 11 měsíci

    As soon as I have to start thinking "why am I doing all the work" or if she takes a week to reach out there will be zero response or further action out of me. Next please.

  • @alvertosb.p.9424
    @alvertosb.p.9424 Před rokem

    Well done!

  • @erictripton
    @erictripton Před rokem +1

    Wow, Apollonia. A lot describes one I know. Except she is on the end of power being in a managerial position, but I really see heavy manipulative subtle stuff.
    Without going into detail, this inspires me to disappear even more, since by error on my part of not guarding my heart and falling.
    Great vid, for me at this stage of things.

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  Před rokem +1

      I hope this video helps! Thanks so much for watching!

  • @degraham9198
    @degraham9198 Před rokem

    I do what I do.
    And this burns you stalkers up.

  • @yoyoyo8011
    @yoyoyo8011 Před rokem +1

    6:49 NO.
    Do NOT repeat do NOT choose a woman who is independent (ie - money). Women who are independent lose their humility and therefore their respect for men. Think feminism.
    Women who are dependent financially on men treat men infinitely better. There are plenty of women who are not independent financially that are high quality women who are HUMBLE. Be smart choose them instead.

  • @davem3708
    @davem3708 Před rokem

    I’ve been guilty of making excuses for a woman . Not not next.

  • @sunnyphoenix5603
    @sunnyphoenix5603 Před rokem

    Is there a video you've made on where to meet high value women?

  • @BrooklynBoy1906
    @BrooklynBoy1906 Před rokem +1

    Dump them fast !!!!!!

  • @charlessarver1637
    @charlessarver1637 Před rokem

    Equal partnership right? I agree

  • @moeketsipitso6205
    @moeketsipitso6205 Před rokem +3

    Where can we find these women?!...I hate dating these days.I feel like we are being used as men!!!

  • @mav1877
    @mav1877 Před rokem +4

    I totally agree with finding an independent woman financially. Especially with recession looming or already here.

  • @zackeryjoshua
    @zackeryjoshua Před rokem

    Do you have a book i can read

  • @SunRise-ul7ko
    @SunRise-ul7ko Před rokem +2

    Rule number one. Men never pay for a first date. Women got the right to vote. With equal rights comes equal responsibility. Split the cost from day one. Get it. It's absolutely disgusting, to exspect anything.

  • @casillasangel
    @casillasangel Před rokem +5

    For she has many lovers thou shall wear a rubber

    • @ApolloniaPonti
      @ApolloniaPonti  Před rokem +3

      LOL This is VERY true. Great wisdom and advice. :-)

  • @sunnyphoenix5603
    @sunnyphoenix5603 Před rokem

    Where can I find a quality woman .? I have no addictions /behavior problems .. its hard to find a good woman that is kind and shares my values . 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨

  • @rickcardenas8841
    @rickcardenas8841 Před rokem

    I need to walk……..ugh……….again

  • @chrisl1414
    @chrisl1414 Před rokem +2

    I am usually very skeptical about women content producers who provide relationship advice for men. This video however was very good with solid advice. Thank you and keep up the good work.

  • @TomFox1
    @TomFox1 Před rokem

    too late!!

  • @napolic4696
    @napolic4696 Před rokem

    I’ve been dating this woman for over 2 months things have been really good and we always have a great time. She texts /initiates contact first 70% of the time but does not plan dates because she’s not in a position to pay for dates so she would rather I lead. Do I need to address this? I don’t mind paying even if she asks although she would feel bad asking and having me pay for her ideas.
    By the way you are amazing!!

  • @batzgameguru
    @batzgameguru Před rokem

    I bet if a man felt this way, That he had to watch a video like this and show this to his girlfriend that the girl would get pissed off

  • @kc270352
    @kc270352 Před rokem

    honestly AP, what is the skin care secret lol

  • @sunnyphoenix5603
    @sunnyphoenix5603 Před rokem

    You just described toxic women I ve dated

  • @augustoveliz8726
    @augustoveliz8726 Před rokem

    Hi

  • @Paul723
    @Paul723 Před rokem

    Wonderful.

  • @kile6105
    @kile6105 Před rokem +5

    this video just made me don't wanna suicide anymore. I realised I'm the good guy here. I'm the one who helped her financially when her and relatives , even her brother asks money from me and I always give. Now I realised, I don't deserve lazy broke women. I deserve INDEPENDENT WOMEN.

    • @gregorylatta8159
      @gregorylatta8159 Před rokem +3

      The independent one's are not submissive. You need a woman who supports your role and contributes her share. Very rare these days.

    • @IC33E
      @IC33E Před rokem

      What you need my brother is a Woman that fits you. But remember don’t chase, ….pursue
      You attract what you are, not what you want
      Keep and grow the good character mate

  • @albertarias-cd7us
    @albertarias-cd7us Před rokem

    It seem's that everytime i meet up with my girl, it has to be planned. I't makes it seem she's seeing someone on the side / ex or coworker. I can't control what she doe's. Just don't want to know about it.