My marriage story - getting married at 21! How we met + our journey
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- čas přidán 31. 05. 2020
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Welcome back to another video! Today I’m starting a brand new series on my channel called Talking Married! This series will cover topics related to pre-marriage relationships, married life & everything to do wirh keeping it halal! This video used to start off this series is my own marriage story. I talk to you about the process that I went through to get married, how my husband and I met, and the things that led me to know that my husband was the perfect fit for me!
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“I wanted him so badly but at the same time he wasn’t what I was looking for” SubhanaAllah I’ve felt this
No one is perfect.
I have been with my husband since I was 9 and he was 11. We married when I was 19 and married now for almost 38 years.
I know I am kinda off topic but does anyone know a good place to watch newly released series online ?
@@lilacine7744 primary school FRIENDS*
@@lilacine7744 ik im late how in any way does this statement mean they are cousins?
May Allah always keep you and your husband on the straight path and always supportive of each other.
Not sure why people are "thumbs down"ing this video.
Ameen 💛
Salam Samantha! I usually never comment on videos, I’m more of a silent watcher but just had to on this one! Listening to your story is just proof that if we focus on our religion and building our relationship with Allah swt, when the time is right, Allah swt will guide us to the right person at the best time. That is the way we should go about marriage and spouse finding I believe. If we have someone in mind then focus on Deen and when Allah wills, everything will fall into place i’A! I pray Allah swt blesses your marriage and fills it with barakah and many healthy, happy years. Ameen 💖 x
Thank you for commenting!!! I completely agree 🙌🏼💞
I know this is off topic but it amazes me so much that you don't do your eyebrows. Like forget the muslims who were told since childhood not to pluck. But a revert who practiced this with no harm, just amazes me. Honestly I really wish other Muslim girls can find inspiration from you ♥
Also LOVE THIS NEW SERIES!! I feel like younger girls love talking about marriage. Im not even married but I talk about it with my friends everytime I see them 😂 😂 😂
Loll I’m glad you’re excited about the series! And yeah Alhumdulilah 😅 it was definitely a journey and there’s still times where I’m like.. omg I want to pluck all of these little hairs out 🤣 but I appreciate this comment so much!!
You can't generalise at all, I know she is still very young early twenties is a very tempting age, but when you know the order came from Allah it is the same as wearing hijab :).. I never ever did my eyebrows alhamdulillah and thankfully I have thin ones naturally . But it was very fashional during early 2000s to have them very very thin.. And many girls at uni including Muslims who started wearing hijab from a strong conviction about our faith did stop plucking eye brows!!! Let alone a revert... Who would give up everything so eyebrows aren't a big deal at all :)..
Muslim. Girls threading and plucking eye brows are born to do that culturally and many sadly by ignorance don't believe it is haram even if they read the hadith they don't pay too much attention to it... Sadly.. Anyway I just commented to say not only converts take religion seriously , it is just that born Muslims are overlooked and at the end it is a relationship between the person and Allah soubhanou wata3ala.
@@SamanthaJBoyle everytime you get tempted to do it, remember the angels who curse you while you doing it :) also try saying bismillah before everything you do and when you do that you can never start a bad act by saying bismillah, that'll stop you.
Wishing you a happy marriage, marriage is a huuuuge curve to build (half of our religion if someone does it properly) children will make you test your marriage more and more :) and you will both grow into it. Salam
You look beautiful without plucking your eyebrows may good reward you abundantly ameen
I am really happy for you and your husband your statement about "having nothing about this dunya and you want the akhira.is so brilliant may Allah SWT grant both of you jannatal firdous the highest level ilof paradise
Everyone’s marriage journey will be slightly different - I was a very lonely revert (not lonely as in depressed but I didn’t have Muslim friends or a supportive family) I wasn’t wearing hijab yet but I was crying out too, and at that time I thought I can’t even wear my head scarf in public, I didn’t feel worthy of being a Muslim.
But Elhamdulillah Allah sent my husband to me
We married after 2 months - even when friends and family was against it and bet we’d not last the month
31/2 years and 2 beautiful daughters later were the happiest we’ve ever been
I don’t want people to go into marriage with expectations too high - me and my dear husband for the first year argued often
were from 2 different cultures and we had a lot of stress from outer sources but we knew we’d made a commitment and we weren’t giving up easy
I’m from a family which is very much if you argue too much then you’re not supposed to be, just give up and move on!
I knew that wasn’t for me, we gave it our all and all thanks to Allah we are stronger than ever, were a team through and through!
The advise from another sister on youtube that got me through and I always remember it still whenever we argue
Your an imperfect person and he’s an imperfect person and your 2 imperfect people coming together - it won’t be easy
In my opinion Compromise and communication is key
I wish you all happy and blessed marriages insallah
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Selamın aleyküm 🌷
I met my husband 2 years before getting married. We married late because we wanted to marry the one and not got married to copy other people. He was working in an environment full of men. I was also working amongst men but I didnt want to mix work and private life. the 1st year was mainly to know each other. What we love. How we see the future. Our values. How we react when bad things happen. What we love. The activities we like to do. If I can stand him more than one hour 🤣.
Then he proposed me. Then 1 year to prepare the wedding (where I leave it takes time to get a place, etc). Moreover I were looking at an appartment to buy (at 1st for my mother and I. but it ended up to be for my husband and I). The 2nd year was hard but very interesting. We had to manage the wedding in a challenging environment (long story). So we faced a lot of issues and have to talk a lot to each other to solve the issues. Finally it was a good way to test our relationship and to learn how important communication is. After the wedding, to be honest, we waited few days for our "1st night". Firstly we were exhausted. 2ndly we needed time to feel more confortable.
Living toghether was not that hard. Of course we needed to get used with each other habits. And discuss a lot when we dont understand or dont agree or are bothered. To be honest it happens to be the most important thing. Sometimes men see that as wasting time. But my husband did the effort and now he is happy we did this way. Well we know each other for 6 years and are married for 4 years. We have a cute daughter. Dont rush to get a husband or a wife and when you find one, talk and explain how you feel. dont forget we are humans with flaws...The person in front of you doesnt have superpower...he is like you full of dreams, doubts, fears...
Do you think you could talk about the first night of marriage on this platform? I feel like its such an important and needed topic for young women such as myself. Honestly, the fact that you even said "sex" seems to be revolutionary in Ummah 😅. Thank-you for your content!
Lollll 😂😂 I almost edited it out because I know some people are just sooooo strange about it! But the reality is that it shouldn’t be taboo! InShaAllah I do plan to also speak about it in future on a public platform, but at a later date because I’d love for people to hear my husbands take on it as well xx
@@SamanthaJBoyle would love to know what it was like for your husband to see your hair too inshaallah
@@abbeykielinen4551 since they knew each other before she put her hijab on, i guess there wasn't an element of surprise.
@@SamanthaJBoyle Giving general advice about marriage and sex is fine but in islam it's not ok to speak about your own personal intimacy.
Ness Ness thanks! I’m aware!
Thank you sister, being a revert , I am going through the same situation, I got clarity and confidence. Jazaqallahu Khair
I love that you made this! Since reverting Ive been worried about how marriage will be, but this really helped me. Also I pray that I will be given a partner who will have as strong of an Iman as it sounds you two have!
Inshaa Allah,. Allah Bless You to have such a good husband.
May Allah Bless You to have a good soulmate.
I got married at 20 and I'm so happy with it, may Allah bless youuu guys ❤❤
Alhumdulilah 💞
what are the questions one should ask their spouse before marriage? assuming that it's an arranged one and you're meeting him for the first time, A video on this would be great!
InShaAllah will make this 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Samantha J Boyle yes, please do!!
love you samantha and your video gave a huge positive energy
Finally! So excited to watch
Yayyy hope you enjoy!!! 💛
Was waiting for this for so long 🤍
Finally here 😍
Insha Allah I would marry out of my ethnicity
OMG! You are in22 it seem you in 33 sister I am new follower of you please speaks little more slowly I can't catch and figure out speech coming out😄❤️
I watched the wedding video about the wedding you were so beautiful and I just want to wish you a happy life with your beloved husband.
Thank you my lovely sis xxx
Subhanallah this is a really good example of the importance of working on yourself before getting married. A few years of turning to Allah, it changes everything!
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You were wise enough to get more mature and "find yourself" and what you want in life before marrying.
Congratulations my sister I’m happy that you got married it’s nobody’s business, but yours love you always
Beautiful story sis & beautiful outcome. Alhamdulillah 🤍
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Well said.
"Every single person chooses Islam for themselves at one point in their lives".
Love the color choices, the navy with beige ❤💜
Thanks 😍
Growth story 😍 love it
Sister Samantha I love your content, could you please please make a video on long distance marriage . I would and also others truly appreciate it !!!
As asalaam aliakum warahmaturahi wabalakatu my beautiful sister mashallah you have humbled me as grown-up Muslim women. May Allah keep guiding you, your such an inspiration.
"Allah is the best of planners" [quran], Masha'Allah
When you said that at first you thought that he wasn't for you because he didn't have the same goals reminds me of myself and the guy I was introduced to a few years ago and I refused him because he is muslim but islam wasn't a prirority in his life (I'm also not perfect because I struggle with my emaan but I strive to be a better muslim in and out) but since we didn't have contact after that I hope he did come closer to Allah and I still think of him once in a while and keep him in my duaas
Great video! I love the idea of getting married when you are ready! Alhumdulillah May Allah give you happiness on earth and in Jannah. The video made me realise that i am so not ready for marriage, like eventho I am 19, marriage is really not one of my goals rn. One reason could be because I havent met a person I see myself married to.
Allah guides you to everything when it’s your time for it 🙌🏼
Congratulations!♡♡
Asaalamu Alaikum Samantha and everybody here. Really enjoy watching your videos as they’re very informative and just make me feel so much closer to Allah(swt). May He bless you and your marriage. Please pray for this world and all that were going through rn. And ask Allah to cure everything that has recently happend within this year. Allah has the power to change the destiny of anything and everything. All this stuff that is happening is so discouraging, scary and upsetting, but Allah knows best and decrees each and everything. So let’s just all hope and pray He helps us! And changes the conditions of this world in order to be better again. Ameen
Congratulations!!
Sooooooo happy for you :)
This video is so heart warming sis. I truly believe you married your best friend. You two deserve all the happiness in this world. May Allah continue blessing you always in the dunia and akhira. You inspire me in so many ways and for that jazaaka Allahu khaira.
Ameen 😭💛 this comment is so sweet, thank you!!
@@SamanthaJBoyle you are so welcome sis. I meant every word from the bottom of my heart.
Salam samantha ever since i have seen and heard your story i have admired you sooo much and i just loved your family....they are so sweet ...May Allah always keep you and your family happy and blessed...Also i loved the way Allah planned your marriage...my marriage was arranged but i was asking Allah to plan it because I always said Allah alone is the best planner...Alhamdolillah my husband and I say we couldnt have found each other ....without Allah's help
Salam beautiful sister, I really was waiting for this ❤ MABROUK again and Allah swt bless you ❤
WalaykumAsalam my love!! 💕💕
Semoga Samantha dan Suaminya menjadi keluarga SaMaWa (Sakinah, Mawadah n Warahmah), Aamiin Yaa Robbal 'Aalaamiin 🤲
You found your love one at 21 that's cool, I am still looking forward to find better one at 23 years
ان شاء الله you'll find love one day and get married
Have you yet?
Thank you for being so transparent. Personal aspects of your life is indefinitely scrutinized and judged but I honestly think that shows how much Iman you have to go forth and still share your experience with the world, knowing Allah SWT is fully aware of everything and everyone at the end of the day is more scary than what other people may negatively think and say.
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I love the fact you say we met in non Islamic matter and I would not recommended it. You are truelly wise for your age. May Allah keep you steadfast in this. Amen.🧕🏾🇸🇴😍
A tent in Saudi Arabia 😂😂😂 great story sis !! Thanks for sharing.
I love watching your channel :)
Masha’Allah, I am so happy for you sister ♡
How do you overcome wedding day stress
Can you help me find a summer prayer dress at cod , i have been seaeching it but coudn't find one.
Your dress at home where no men are present you can wear loosely fited dress which is easy to Ruku and Sajuda. If you are outside or in Mosque, you should follow the dress code as other sisters using.
Shukr clothing has some nice summer clothes that are very modest. And its fair trade and ethically made
A big hug all the way from Morocco sister Sam.
Salam Allah aleikum! May you write me on this mail:mahamatzene2013@gmail.com
Love youuuu ❤
I love you too!!! 💛
Asalaam Alaykum. My dear sweet sister in Islam SAMANTHA, It's my first time to hv watched your Video and I really honour you for being who you are and Walahi am proud of you and blv you me I'll always be looking for your videos In sha Allah. Thank you.
Thanks sister for your Interesting and informative story. May Allah bless you and your family.
Great video, new subscriber💕
Masha Allh stay blessed for both lives🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳congrats
Salaam from the UK. Great channel.
Mash'Allah on your relationship! No evil eye for your happy marriage
?....what is that ur photo??nunaa
What is that ur photo,2 girls hugging!😥😥😯nunaa
The thought of commitment and marriage makes my stomach churn. It's going to happen eventually right? I'm only a year younger than you and I'm so immature 😂. Your story is beautiful, you were made for eachother, Subhan'Allah
Don’t stress yourself! Everyone’s timing is completely different 💛
I'm 20 too, and I got married this year, and Alhamdoulilah I'm really happy ❤❤
@@zinebmahjoubi1992 aww, Masha'Allah. May Allah swt bless your marriage 😘
@@SamanthaJBoyle hehe, when I was younger I thought I was cut out for (young) marriage life. Thanks for the reassurance
Insha 😂
I know this is a weird question for this video, but do you bleach ur eyebrows, or how do you do them?
No I don’t, they’re just natural! This is just how my eyebrows are
Aww Sam mashaAllah I loved this! 😭😭😭❤
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Beautifully said Samantha. May Allah (SWT) make your marriage stronger and blessed every day. 🙏🏻💐
Ameen lovely 💞
Very good, even though I did not understand your language, but I loved you and loved your veil and the Qur'an. I hope there will be a translation into Arabic for your Arab Muslim viewers
Mashallah beautiful story Sam ❤️
Mashallah Sam. The hubs and i had a similar experience. I didn't know it then but Allah SWT works in the weirdest ways. And alhamdillah we are still strong. ❤
SubhanAllah how it works out 🙌🏼🙌🏼 May Allah swt put barakah in your marriage x
Oh my gosh Sam dont make me cry im so emo lol. Watched this and was like 😭😭😭 lol I'm so dumb. I wish the same for you and alhamdillah for the hubs cause if we didn't get married I probably never would have gotten married lol!
Asalam walikum. I totally respect you and learning so much. 💚
I ask allah to make you both coolness for each other eyes and grant you peace and love in your life and grant you jannah insha'a allah, the way you talk about him is so cute💚 and i truly admire you for acknowledging your part in bad situations and at same time not put your self down, i hope i can be like that at some point of may life🙃
Masha’ALLAH this story was beautiful
Please share your thoughts on revert to Islam non Muslim family issues .. problems facing the community..university after converting
مَا شَاءَ ٱللَّٰهُ
May Allah ﷻ Shower his blessings & mercy upon you sister.
You are indeed a very matured young lady! Mashaallah!
Barakallahu fikum.... be easy on your husband.... looks hard from the outside but fragile from inside... Ladies are able talk away their pain but man many attimes will bottle it in....so be the sakinah that's your major jihad/struggle and its not weakness on your part but strength.
My situation is exactly like yours 😭 I really don't know what to do
Salam alaykoum dear sister my Allah safes you both all our dowa to your lovely mam to join you soon in the isalam we do asking Allah the hedaya for her.. Salah eldin.. Afrom Sudan. Africa
I don't like religion but I love hearing your stories 😁
Omg finally.
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i agree that the relationship is forbidden ... i think the best halal way to know each other is after engagement if both know each other well in this period, and they know that is the *one* so going for marriage ...else...if they not happy each of them so that cant live together then cancel the engagement and search for another person
Such a beautiful scarf mashallah 💓🥺
الله يديم عليكم الرحمة والمودة ويرضي قلوبكم ♥️
Love ♥️♥️♥️
I just want to say MahshAllah.
i couldn't have said it better , i always that about revert and born muslim thing , i myself was born into a muslim family , but i feel like at a certain point i choosed alhmdulilah
what is his ethnicity?
Your teeth are so beautiful sis Allahumma barek 🌻🥰
Nice story
Love this 😌 mashallah
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I was supposed to get married when I was 18… he was 24 and pursued me, I want to be a wife and mother so badly and just want to have a family of my own. But he was cruel and treated me badly, I had to say no. I’m 20 now and sometimes it feels like I gave up my one chance and now I’m going to be alone. God willing, I hope not.
you are a good example. If you are not married, will we get married?
Good luck with your marriage may Allah put a lot of baraka in it.
Allah tests the ones He loves,so if u r being tested,it means Allah loves u ❤salam from Bosnia 🇧🇦
your fellow bosnian heree too 🤗
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Selam ❤️
Hey
this is better than a fairytale, mashallah
allah bless your marrige and make you a clothing for each other in this life and the after life.❤❤
Just a slight comment on the subtitles, some don't translate correctly what your saying. Kind regards laila
Girl I'm 16 rn and I've been too busy thinking about how I want to get married asap. I'm getting truly annoyed by myself 💀
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May Allah protect you and everyone in your family
Is it normal for my husband not touch me for months. He has only touched me 2 times this year so far. How many times do couples get intimate? I'm devastated and confused and upset. Do husbands sleep with their wifes on a weekly basis? If any muslim sisters can answer me. It would be a relief for me. Pls help...
Please speak to your husband about this and be direct with him about your needs. He should definitely be intimate with you more often and should meet your sexual needs as well.
yessssss
Please make a vlog 😊☺️
I think your age is a good age to get married ❤️ I'm turning 20
Everyone’s timing is different 💛
Try to select a good soul husband i.e.soulmate
Sister also made some videos about bad deeds/acts and ask about forgiveness from Allah and how?
Mashallah.. May Allah SWT bless you sister and your family.. as well as a blessed marriage and happy together in this life and the hereafter...
Wassalam Alaikum...
Wawww beautiful family allh peace u 🤗from Somalia
Mashallah you look and seem very mature ❤
You r right Allah swt is the one you make the matches we just try..and also believers for the believers and non believers for the non believers
But we don't know his face. Please make him a video
Oh Allah have mercy (three minutes in and I'm tearing). This same situation is happening to me right now, theres a sister I know in my neighbourhood as well and am planning to marry her, the age gap is exactly the same(I'm 21 and she's 16). I think she is also interested in me because of how we used to talk a while back(yes i know its haram and I've made Taubah for it Inshallah Allah will forgive me). Anyway am currently pushing myself to graduate college in accounting (Insahallah may take 1-2 years) and find the courage to send a proposal to her father (whom i know quite a bit as well). So I really need advice(serious help lol). Should i go ahead and let my parents know im planning to marry her ( btw the my folks are really strict so I may scratch that idea for now) or go right ahead and schedule a meeting with her father personally. Second thing is, is it wise to marry if she's still in high school or am I supposed to wait until she graduates?
1 yes go ask for her hand in marriage get engaged and get married after she finished high school or graduates
Omg no way it’s been 2 years are you married now ???
السلام عليكم ستكونون سعداء أنشأ الله ساتفرحون باولادكم ولكن يجب أن تصبرو ولن تندم أبدا
Be always safe and my Allah bless u always respect from Pakistan 🇵🇰