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  • čas přidán 29. 10. 2022
  • One for the boys.
    Who ever made the statement 'Boys don't cry' should really be ashamed of themselves.
    Are men not supposed to be human?
    Let's break some stereotypes..

Komentáře • 103

  • @heartfeltscenes
    @heartfeltscenes Před rokem +105

    Thank you so much for this. It’s such a gift. If no one takes care of you emotionally when you’re a kid, you grow up thinking it’s normal to have no one take care of you emotionally, and it’s really hard to start letting someone in to do that. But it feels so good when you finally do. Guys, we are human, not robots. Be humans! ✊

    • @Lianna_Is_Me
      @Lianna_Is_Me Před rokem +3

      True

    • @orbeez2322
      @orbeez2322 Před rokem

      Sounds like an excuse

    • @heartfeltscenes
      @heartfeltscenes Před rokem

      @@orbeez2322 Thank you for this helpful and constructive comment!

    • @orbeez2322
      @orbeez2322 Před rokem

      @@heartfeltscenesanytime! i hope people stop glorifying weakness soon

    • @heartfeltscenes
      @heartfeltscenes Před rokem +2

      @@orbeez2322 If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.

  • @christofferthorsson607
    @christofferthorsson607 Před rokem +136

    You know, it's almost funny. I've been in the "boys don't cry" mentality for so long that it comes naturally at this point. Even if I'm sad I force it down on instinct. I want to cry, because they say it helps, but I can't

    • @danielreed7705
      @danielreed7705 Před rokem +1

      I hope you're doing okay and having a good summer.

    • @TheNick-pt9xq
      @TheNick-pt9xq Před rokem +5

      Got stuck like that for almost 5 years, trying to cry and not being able to. It gets better

    • @Banana_Man17
      @Banana_Man17 Před rokem +9

      Bro same, I'm bawling my eyes out right now, I only cry at night when no one's awake, it's sad AF tbh

    • @DemonicGaming998
      @DemonicGaming998 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Even now it's hard for me to cry

    • @lauchlamash
      @lauchlamash Před 9 měsíci

      Same

  • @nontoxicpoison6113
    @nontoxicpoison6113 Před rokem +30

    This made me cry. A genuine cry. Something I haven't done in years due to my survival instincts effectively stripping me of that ability. and for the longest time I was training myself to be an emotionless automaton, to fake emotions in front of friends and family. It got so bad that I was even questioning if my "feelings" we're real or just emulated from my instincts. This audio has proven to me that I still have genuine feelings. Albeit buried deep. And will take time to coax out. But still there

    • @riczardgaming
      @riczardgaming Před rokem +1

      Same bro

    • @Nistaa
      @Nistaa Před rokem +2

      For real, you wrote my life. Never thought some people would exactly think the same as i, about the whole :" Are my feeling real, or just emulated ? "
      Feels good to know i'm not alone.

  • @brightshock6750
    @brightshock6750 Před 11 měsíci +11

    I needed to hear these words every couple weeks to remind myself I can cry , I don’t have anyone in my life I can comfortably cry in front of and this helps me a lot .

  • @SolarGirlASMR
    @SolarGirlASMR Před rokem +29

    And although I'm not a boy, this one was a real pleasure to listen to! Your comfort audios are always so special and gentle 😩💛

  • @JesusJuarezGutierrez
    @JesusJuarezGutierrez Před rokem +67

    i will forever blame society and whoever started this "boys don't cry" yes we do have feelings and emotions too. loved the audio Sarah and Happy Halloween everyone if it's celebrate it where you live. 😊

    • @blackbullet4254
      @blackbullet4254 Před rokem +10

      This whole shitty mindset existed from always I think. And in today's society it's even worse, if other men see you being even a little bit emotional they think of you as weak, looking down upon you, that's why society is just a horrible place to be.. we are not freaking robots. We are humans with real feelings and emotions, men are allowed to cry too, that doesn't take away from their value, I'm glad people like you can understand that, have an awesome day my g 🤝🏻

    • @randomperson1617
      @randomperson1617 Před rokem +7

      boys wanna be tough but that does not mean we don't wanna cry at times

    • @yorkoxmaul
      @yorkoxmaul Před rokem +5

      It is what it is.

    • @randomperson1617
      @randomperson1617 Před rokem +1

      I f-cked up my spelling

    • @n0-b0dy
      @n0-b0dy Před rokem +5

      i am a woman and i find it hot when a man shows emotions and shows his vulnerable side. i just want to hug him and make him feel good again. i’m a very shy person, but for my dream male wife, i am willing to go out of my own limits and be brave for him. stand up for him. fight for him. shield him. comfort him. even die for him. i wish more guys could dare to show their soft sides and dare to be different. i wish there were more emo boys in this world.

  • @BPEJS24-7
    @BPEJS24-7 Před 6 měsíci +3

    There are only like, 4 things in life that makes me cry.
    I only cry on occasion. But i prefer to do it when i am by myself. Not necessarily from any "past experiences", just because it's always been my natural instinct since I can remember.
    No matter how supportive anyone is about it, I still hurriedly leave and go to the most private area i can find or to my room and then let it out there. To me, it's like cleansing the soul or draining the pipes, exercising my tear ducts etc.
    I just don't see the point of crying in front of others. Has nothing to do with what society says or what certain people say or think.
    Just how I've always been.
    I just don't want anyone to see that side of me.
    Fortunately and oddly enough, i have found myself crying less as I've gotten older. (I am 27 as of this comment)
    To me, it's the same as i don't defecate or urinate or fart or anything else in front of anyone. I also try not to lose my temper or share any unpopular or controversial opinions.
    It's pretty easy to spare everyone unnecessary burdens or nuisances or awkwardness and spare myself the unnatural and pointless feeling of over-exposure and get my business over with comfortably and privately, to be honest.
    Just my take anyway.
    In a world where everything is out in the open whether you like it or not, it's nice to have some things that are secret, silent, and private and I value my privacy and solitude very much.

  • @xaxmxixnxex
    @xaxmxixnxex Před rokem +6

    Man this brought tears to my eyes this really hit home you know I wish I had someone to cry on their shoulders but it's ok I can take it ☺️
    Great video sooo much love ❤️

  • @TheRealDoggoCEO
    @TheRealDoggoCEO Před rokem +5

    Thanks a ton for this. The timing of the video was perfect, just at the right time

  • @leah2271
    @leah2271 Před rokem +5

    How much it is possible for one person words effect to all these societies I thought it was only in my society but I was wrong
    Since we were young we heard that boys don't cry I didn't know how much not crying affects people in a very bad way I am a girl but when my father bassed away one of my friends told me not to cry in front of anyone be strong for your mother and yor siblings I listened to that advice at that time and this was the worst thing I could do in my life in a short period of time I lost myself that changed I became that angry person all the time for no reason I became more isolated this was very bad
    And the truth is that Asmr Video is what helped me to come back feeling that it is normal to cry and these days your videos helped a lot sometimes just listening to them Without feeling sad or something make me cry and i'm so glad for that for you thanks 🌼

    • @blackbullet4254
      @blackbullet4254 Před rokem +1

      The whole "men shouldn't cry, that's only a girls thing" has probably always existed. It's so sad, having society to tell you what you are allowed to feel and show and what not. F them. Stay real, if you need to cry, freaking cry. Doesn't matter what they think, never lose yourself because of others

    • @leah2271
      @leah2271 Před rokem +1

      @@blackbullet4254 This is the most wise thing I've heard in a while.

  • @JRostiPHI
    @JRostiPHI Před rokem +5

    Haven’t cried in years and I’m still scared to do it. I’ve trained my body not to so now I’m just numb

  • @hypersaiyan7102
    @hypersaiyan7102 Před rokem +6

    Saiyans always have to be strong.

    • @Nistaa
      @Nistaa Před rokem +2

      There are days where you can't lift the shield..
      Even saiyans, full of pride, let their defense down sometimes (hey vegeta, gohan, trunks, and so on.. )

  • @YouWantUppies69
    @YouWantUppies69 Před 8 měsíci +5

    I haven’t cried in years because I have just stopped feeling. I won’t lie because nobody will find this I’ve been cutting myself just to feel better when I’m sad. Anyways love y’all gn ❤❤❤

    • @mellojello6888
      @mellojello6888 Před 4 měsíci

      I found it, and I hope you are you okay. Do you want to vent? I can listen

  • @Jacknicleson007
    @Jacknicleson007 Před 7 měsíci +2

    I just can't seem to man I'm trying but it's like I have no tear duckts I'm sad I wanna just release it all but how much I try I can't seem to cry. Sometimes I get this fear that what if I won't even cry at my grandma's funeral I won't shed a single tear drop for my parents they made sure of that but my grandma has been there for me I feel pain in my chest I feel numb and my throat closes up but I just don't cry anymore I fear that I've lost that ability

  • @mattvsf
    @mattvsf Před rokem +5

    i needed that, damn.. awesome video, fr you helped a lot

  • @simonlixen262
    @simonlixen262 Před rokem +5

    Jag skriver på svenska då jag märkt att du är svensk. Jag älskar dina videos, videosarna ger mig den tröst och komfort jag önskar att jag fått av min mamma. Du heter ju däremot "Yourgirlfriend" men ändå får jag den komforten. Så TACK för det! Sluta aldrig med det du gör. Jag använder bara ASMR när jag ska sova, du lyckas att söva mig varje gång jag lyssnar på dina videos!

  • @aliprime6734
    @aliprime6734 Před rokem +5

    With every video you upload, you give me more motivation to improve myself and fight in hopes of a better tomorrow. You're an absolute legend, you dont know how much every upload means to me!

  • @larrybryant8714
    @larrybryant8714 Před rokem +3

    Amazing comfort video

  • @archertf141macmillan7
    @archertf141macmillan7 Před rokem +1

    I feel this to be honest I have not cried in 4 years I can be sure because last time I cried was when my grandpa passed thank you for this

  • @imadgenius
    @imadgenius Před rokem +1

    One of the things I'm grateful to my parents for is that they never encountered this awful stereotype that men don't cry. I can't begin to imagine the harm that would have caused me, had a believed it.
    This of course, doesn't excuse all the shitty things they did but indeed that it's worth noting

  • @Nothing-zg7km
    @Nothing-zg7km Před rokem +1

    Thank you for doing something positive for men.
    The way men are treated has slowly gotten worse.
    One side makes the argument that men need to be strong and stoic all the time because their viewed as weak otherwise
    (And id agree only with that with men in positions of power should not get emotional in public, because it teaches your opponents your weaknesses. If a president burst into tears at the podium, that country would be viewed as weak by its enemies)
    But then the other side says your masculinity is "toxic" and that you need to be more feminine and emotional, and then mock them publicly when they do so.
    Meanwhile everyone Says men are "privileged" and you're very existence "oppresses" someone else.
    Despite the fact men have an insanely high suicide and depression rate.
    Men
    Especially young men
    Are left with nowhere to turn because basically everyone seems to be doing and saying something that works against them, and public figures who do try to actually become a good role model for the "incels" are shamed and "canceled" for it. So They get crap advice from tik tok instead, and then don't understand why it doesn't work.

  • @ucthinhmai7998
    @ucthinhmai7998 Před rokem +1

    Not as cry crying but feel so tired exhausted and exhausted...

  • @Dredd-JB
    @Dredd-JB Před rokem +4

    Crying is the response to some emotion, be it sadness or joy. It is not subject to being a woman so that they do not see it as weakness.
    I grew up with that ideal, my parents never told me not to cry because I'm a man, but I always heard it from other people, men and also women.
    I particularly don't like to cry, but not because of a question of social stigma. I just don't like the feeling of doing it, just as I wouldn't like the feeling of burning, I hope you understand what I mean.
    Anyway, great video 😉👍

  • @mcgrathswife5356
    @mcgrathswife5356 Před rokem +2

    I love When u post a New Vídeo.... I ' ll come back when I see it.
    Have a good night Sarah 🥰

  • @leah2271
    @leah2271 Před rokem +2

    F4M 😌 I don't mind watching it either.

  • @Pauli-dg2yv
    @Pauli-dg2yv Před rokem +1

    This is wonderful..Unfortunately in the real world. the moment a man shed a tear, most women would definitely see him as a weaker being. Though at least in fiction, I can feel validated. thank you for this

  • @amandagresham1298
    @amandagresham1298 Před rokem +1

    Awwww!!!This is so sweet and soothing and I loved this audio Sweetheart your amazing love you ❤❤❤❤💖💖💖💖

  • @matty3582
    @matty3582 Před rokem +1

    But society says I do, therefore I must.

  • @jamilmalick5171
    @jamilmalick5171 Před 22 dny

    Bro I'm always putting on like a tough face but at night it all comes back to me 😢

  • @conanninteeneightyeight3512

    the Sims analogy

  • @ucthinhmai7998
    @ucthinhmai7998 Před rokem

    Not as cry crying but feel so tired exhausted and exhausted... Im commenting this while watching you know...

  • @romaramirez5578
    @romaramirez5578 Před rokem +1

    Not a man but definitely gonna enjoy this one

  • @MrAnqueetas
    @MrAnqueetas Před rokem +1

    Thank you ❤❤

  • @newkid6165
    @newkid6165 Před 25 dny

    Naturally i gave up on feeling stuff like that i didnt see a point anymore so i fot rid of emotions so people think im just lazy or carefree when reality i just dont wanna feel nothings given me a reason to express much its rare and true ive gotten more lazier but still take care of myself but lazy cause i see no point in trying really

  • @epicsandvich014
    @epicsandvich014 Před rokem +2

    Welcome back to another episode of “That’s comforting, too bad I’ll never have it”

  • @scpfoundation2549
    @scpfoundation2549 Před rokem +1

    This is nice.

  • @blury5730
    @blury5730 Před rokem +2

    Love it

  • @porkpatty845
    @porkpatty845 Před 5 dny

    I do not cry, i was taught to be a big boy and crying does nothing to sol😊ve any problems

  • @Lianna_Is_Me
    @Lianna_Is_Me Před rokem +2

    I am a girl but still feel weak for crying

  • @wyattmartin6920
    @wyattmartin6920 Před měsícem

    Still won't cry tho rather just bottle it up 😅

  • @JeffStaniski
    @JeffStaniski Před rokem

    Lately it feels like im never strong

  • @greg403
    @greg403 Před rokem

    Thank you for reminding me❤ 😉

  • @chocolita727
    @chocolita727 Před rokem +2

    I'm going to be dead honest I'm scared. Everything in my life has been going downhill I've tried everything and I don't know what else I have left to try. Each day is getting worse and worse, I'm always on the verge of crying and I'm sick of always hiding it. I just want someone to at least show a little interest in me. So if this is my last comment then so be it, I had a good run and see you all on the flip side.

    • @Hannahleigh_b
      @Hannahleigh_b Před rokem +1

      Please don’t give up! You are so loved and there are people in your life who care about you. God has a plan for your life, even if it feels like your life is meaningless. Seriously, take care of yourself and talk to someone you trust, like a parent or friend or a therapist. I’ll be praying for you!

    • @ethanburch422
      @ethanburch422 Před rokem

      Its when you feel most alone that God is right there reaching out. Turn to Christ my friend. He will never leave you nor forsake you

    • @blackbullet4254
      @blackbullet4254 Před rokem +2

      @@ethanburch422 Yeah, let's not start the religious bogus. If Christ really cared about people he wouldn't allow all these innocent souls to suffer every day things that they don't deserve. If god is real, he doesn't give a flip about anyone, he probably enjoys seeing his creations suffer

    • @The_Doomslayer69
      @The_Doomslayer69 Před rokem

      @@blackbullet4254 The reason god doesn’t get rid of all suffering immediately is because he wants us to seek him to help us so we can build a relationship with him. If he removed negative emotions entirely then nobody would look for god anymore. That would also ruin the whole point of heaven since it would be impossible to feel sad or angry like in the heavens.

  • @J_GB
    @J_GB Před rokem +1

    please let me have this just once in my life im actually begging

  • @natedogg1088
    @natedogg1088 Před 11 měsíci

    A man crying is disgraceful... I even believe it... And somehow I'm still here. I'll admit it, I'm perplexed.

    • @YourgirlfriendASMR
      @YourgirlfriendASMR  Před 11 měsíci +2

      There is nothing wrong with a man crying. Men are not robots and deserve compassion and kindness.

    • @natedogg1088
      @natedogg1088 Před 11 měsíci

      @@YourgirlfriendASMR you're not wrong, but engrained habits are hard to break

  • @MrSHADOWANGEL999
    @MrSHADOWANGEL999 Před rokem

    Lovely

  • @TameKozuki
    @TameKozuki Před rokem +1

    💜

  • @zach99999
    @zach99999 Před rokem +2

    I wish I could open up to someone

    • @Hannahleigh_b
      @Hannahleigh_b Před rokem +1

      I’m here for you, if you’d like to. No pressure or judgment

    • @zach99999
      @zach99999 Před rokem

      @@Hannahleigh_b sure, but how?

    • @Hannahleigh_b
      @Hannahleigh_b Před rokem +1

      @@zach99999 idk you could just do it here if you don’t mind the possibility that others might see it. I didn’t really think that far to be honest

    • @zach99999
      @zach99999 Před rokem

      @@Hannahleigh_b I can't do it here. If you're serious, the channel name on my shared channel list is my name on Twitter

    • @Hannahleigh_b
      @Hannahleigh_b Před rokem +1

      @@zach99999 I am so sorry, I don’t have Twitter. But whatever is happening, you are going to be okay. You are loved, and cared for, and there is a plan for your life. Stay strong and keep going!

  • @PrimoWind457
    @PrimoWind457 Před rokem

    GIVE ME DA PUPPY VID

  • @alexissolis4626
    @alexissolis4626 Před rokem

    I felt so alone the last year but I heard this I felt like I was actually talking to someone no on in real life would talk to me even when I want them too but I listen to this audio and I gotta say thanks for this

  • @cardo3566
    @cardo3566 Před rokem +1

    💙🦋

  • @mimo-yj8su
    @mimo-yj8su Před rokem

    Me: I am a boy.
    Also me: umm no your-
    Me: YES I AM SHUT UP IM WITH MY GF

  • @babarazamsucks
    @babarazamsucks Před rokem

    I’m here after reading some mean replies to my comment from another ASMR CZcams channel called Kaitlynn Rhenea and feel depressed like I have in the past feeling all alone and not liked by anyone especially by another girl after reading that I don’t have a chance and just hating how I look.

  • @bigfreak4969
    @bigfreak4969 Před rokem

    due to my current position im not allowed to show aby emotions what so ever thx for this even if it is not real it makes Life a lil bit easier

  • @DanganHarmony
    @DanganHarmony Před rokem

    Off topic HAPPY HALLOWEEN EVERYONE

  • @LifeontheBush
    @LifeontheBush Před rokem +1

    I was born female (now consider myself non binary) and all my life I was taught that emotions were bad things, never giving comfort, neglect when I cried, told to shut up or that I was being too emotional whenever I tried to let my parents know that they were doing something that I didn’t like. I was taught that my emotions were bad things and now I constantly feel like a burden.