Emotional Intimacy // Season 2 Episode 9 | Honest Tea Talk
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- In this episode, we discuss the importance of emotional intimacy in relationships, and what happens when it doesn't exist.
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with Aliyah, LaYinka & Sumayah
Inspired by Jada Pinkett-Smith's 'Red Table Talk', 3 Muslim women have set up a platform to speak openly and honestly, giving viewers an unedited insight into the minds and life of Muslim women. Honest Tea Talk brings deep and often unspoken topics to the table to lay down our masks and start much-needed discussions about matters related to Muslim women and the ummah at large.
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I love how Sister Sumayah doesn't speak too much but what comes out of her is always accurate🙌
Right mashAllah
@@sumayalewa9627 true
Mashaa Allah!
I just wanted to say that as an organizer of sister's events in my community mosque.
I started this honest tea talk series in the mosque, being inspired by you lovely sister's. To break taboo topics and create a safe environment in the sister community of the mosque and support each other with the guidance of Allah subhana wa ta'ala
May Allah swt reward you sisters for this and bless you ♡♡♡
Can share some of the topics you discuss
@@womenislamicacademy6971 Yes, we discussed friendship, gossiping and backbiting. Unfortunately we wanted to continue and go to more taboo topics such as intimacy and high and lows in deen. But due to the coronavirus we have cancelled all activities.
The planned setting was as followed. So we devided the group sisters into small groups. And gave them 5 questions that they could discuss.
1) How do you choose you friends?
2) What is gossiping?
3) How do you react to gossip?
4)What's is aamanah?
5)How do you give naseeha?
So they could discuss all those question. And in the end we gave the answers based on hadith and quran.
I think there's so much trauma and pain that is intergenerational for migrant families, including experiences of racism and discrimination, shame, abuse, poverty and family breakdown. So if you're not brought up in a house with love and the expression of opinions and emotions, you're not going to be able to do that very well in marriage. That's why we need to learn emotional intelligence and self awareness before marriage, and get onto a pre-marriage programme that explores relationship dynamics so that we are better equipped to choose a partner that is right for us and more compatible, and unlearn the negative aspects of our upbringing and habits so we can be better partners and parents eventually and don't repeat the mistakes we grew up with. That's how we stop this intergenerational fear towards vulnerability, so we can embrace it and feel fully human and empowered.
Perfect point brilliantly expressed my friend 🙏🏼
It's really nice listening to women for a change, rather than just listening to reminders and advice from male sheikhs, scholars and ustadhs every time. Barakallahu feek.
InshaAllah i will be get married soon. Your discussion helping me a lot. Pray for me sisters. Jazakallahu khairan.
May A (SWT) make it easy on you, and bring you immense joy in your next step in life. Praying for you and your partner to have a fulfilling and contented life, based on Deen and mutual respect, care and understanding. IA
Asma Mushtaq Ameen ❤️😊
TabarakAllah
Alhamdulillah... I got married with my beautiful wife. Thanks for all the dua made for me. Thanks Again... Sisters...😇😇💐💐💐💐
Ameen
Thank you very much. I’m engaged right now and your videos helps me understand my partner even more and how to be a good husband in inshallah
My only concern is that communication can only happen if someone is open to communicating. Typically, from what I’ve seen a lot of people just can’t communicate or they don’t care to. They don’t see anything wrong with what they’re doing. Since I converted and stopped dating I just am so scared of this, scared of finding a husband who can’t/isn’t willing to communicate. (Granted I’m not looking to marry til after college) Inshallah we find husbands and wives who support us and are willing to listen to us and let us open up.
Communication is key for happy marriage
Allaahumma Aameen
Ma sha Allah tabarakaLlah that you are a muslim! I wish you an amazing marriage , there is just a little advice from me. Do not overestimate the person only based on his religious knowledge. I did it. And I'm struggling so hard to keep that marriage going because my husband is simply not a match for me , and as you said "he doesn't care" about communicating, I'm sure he has never been taught to do that in a gentle manner , as he should with a female. But still he is religious. After having several meetings with your potential spouse (of course within sunna rules) you have the possibility to know each other better without intimacy of course, and if you feel like it's not the right person do not lie to yourself, it will cost you a lot
Alhumdulillah, I'm one of those person that the sister is referring to in my home I wasn't taught the emotional language in means of expressing it. I was taught to buried those types of feelings. So I completely understand what the sister is saying.
Islam is so perfect why do we make it so difficult may Allah guide this ummah real man in the Deen if you fear Allah and want to make it to Jannah insha'allah get closer to Allah stand up
This episode is really amazing, Am a muslim girl and i know i've had conversation with some guys and most of them say that women are such dramatic creatures that they expect too much and has unnecessary demands but the simple truth is that they have this old idea that women are just supposed to be there like some robotic dolls doing what they are told without even any arguments or any saying and if u don't you are regarded as a dramatic or rebellious girl i mean really at some point they have to know that we are humans we feel we get stress and we need comfort just like them because this is a 2 sided way and u cant actually have a proper sane communication with someone who regard you as a dramatic or rebellious person .So i feel its more into changing their ideas and their acceptance to our nature not putting some pointless ideas on who we are while its clearly not like that.
Really
A.o.a sisters, Sometimes when i share my deepest feelings that i've never even spoken aloud, with my husband, I feel that he doesn't response well. He's just quiet and doesn't support me emotionally. So then I blame myself for sharing.
Stay strong sis ❤
Sister have you told him that you feel like that he isn’t listening? And can it be that he doesn’t have the right words to say to you?
Men are not like women. Women handle feelings better. Accept your husband as he is, he isnt as in touch with your emotions. Allah is with you. Stay well.
Subhan’Allahi wa bihamdihi Subhan’Allahil Azweem❤️
Subhan’Allah❤️
Alhamdu lellah❤️
Laa ilaaha illaa Allah❤️
Allahu Akbar❤️
Laa hawla wa laa kuwwata illaa billah❤️
May peace and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved prophet his companions and entire household Aameen❤️
Aamiyn
May the angels say the same for you as well Aamiyn
Sometimes I really want to get married but sometimes I just don’t want to bcs of how you hve to be vulnerable and opening up yourself to hurt and so much emotional play?? And idk I’m awfully sensitive and let things that annoy me eat me alive. And I’m afraid I’ll let them hurt me because I love them?? and if I love someone I give it my all. 😔 I hope I can overcome this. May Allah bless me with a man who understands and empowers me Inshallah Ameen
Ameen😂
I have the same problem....And I'm getting older, I don't want to keep on being like this.
False expectations, is the straw that broke the camels back! Alhamdulillah communication is key but in a calm setting meaning not when either party is upset so its not going into deaf ears
As a man, having a companion in a relationship wearing a mask is a problem because, I cannot do everything by myself. I will need her help. I cannot be living with a phantom.
Sisters, I agree Allah led me to your honest tea talk during Ramadan regarding emotional/intimacy regarding males' attitude in relationships/ marriage Allah all-knowing and merciful
I just discovered this channel and I love it. As a young muslim woman, I often watch talk shows hosted by women but I am always sad to see that there's no muslim women to express their point of view. And this is a bowl of fresh air, a need that I was lacking that AL HAMDULILLAH got fulfilled by this channel and thank you sisters for this good work ma shaa ALLAH, a quality content with depth and compassion, all with the wisdom of our beautiful religion. May ALLAH bless you and bless your work. Thank you so much for what you're doing for the community. Much love from Mauritania
The lack of communication breeds contempt.
Lovely channel! Can you please have a discussion about PMS? I recently had a terrible experience (anxiety, panic attacks etc) and I found myself looking up answers online (on Islamic sites, for reliability) but I found nothing and felt INSANE. Please discuss menstruations, the physical and mental effects of it and how to cope/be understood as a Muslim woman! PLEASE ❤️
Ur sitting there u want a hug but the man doesn't even know you want a hug hahaha so funny. And layinkas face after she says that. Too true ladies
@@LaYinkaSanni Hahaha Layinka♡
LaYinka Sanni
Ukhti, I love you for the sake of ALLAH. I am a sister by the way 🌸
alas, tis true, we men are neither clairvoyant nor telepathic. Marriages would be so much easier if only we could read women's minds and thoughts and feelings.
Salaam 'alaykum,
It serms like communicating in this discussion was all about expressing sadness, problems. What about communicating good feelings, appreciation, gratitude and how that can go a long way to boosting relationships, not only between spouses, but also between parents and children, friends too.
I believe the problem of how express positive things also exists.
WA 'alaykum Salaam WA Rahmantullahi WA Barakatahu.
Na'am I agree💖
@Witness Truth I've experienced being teased & disliked because of my happiness. Hurt ppl hurt ppl most times it's hard to genuinely be happy for someone else who has what you don't. Or what you want we as ppl are flawed we were created in haste and allow our desires to overtake us & sometimes fall for the deception of the shaytain in. May Allah protect us from jealously and envy and from the whispers of shaytain Aamiyn
@@aamiemujahid3564 Salaam 'alaykum sis, I have experienced the same, but what I have seen is that it is not about not having only, there is a type of person who has his/her own joys/achievements/ means, but will still grudge you having yours, as if it is their sole right to be happy. When you expect them to be happy for you, what you see is a glum face or you get 'eyed' up and down, or some negative remark. They don't share your joys with you even if you share theirs with them.
Then there is the type that is truly happy for you, even if they do not have the cause of your joy. These ones increase your happiness.
It is said, "Happiness shared is happiness doubled and problems shared are problems halved"
@@fatimahsahid6869 WA 'alakumus salaam my dear sister. Na'am you are spot on, a comment was made to me about me being bright in complexion by a person LIGHTER than me in complexion I joyfully said it's the Nur of Allah her face showed she was angry that I said that this person is allegedly my best friend my sister friend as she call me but her actions always soeak louder then the love she spews out if her mouth. I love for my sister what I love for me the Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallaam said you do not truly believe until you live for your sister what you love for yourself (paraphrasing). Sallahu Alayhi Wasallaam is my role model as are those who follows him. I am no better than anyone but myself if I want Jannatul firdaws for myself then why not for my brothers and sisters in this deen. Allah has bestowed his Mercy upon me so who am I not to give it to myself and those who testified to La Ilaha Illallah WA Ash hadu Muhammadan Ar Rasulullah. Fisibillah.
@Witness Truth in surah Al-Anbiya ayah 37. We apply the Quran to our lives how we need it. Allah says I am as my slave thinks I am.
PLEASE keep these videos up ladies!, you guys have no idea just how much you're bringing to the table. The mere fact that you're practising, intelligent, calm and introspective Muslim women brings a much needed voice and important topics of discussion to our community and even our fellow non-Muslim neighbours. Barak Allah feek and may Allah bring greater success to the channel.
I love the honesty & the real advice you all explain.
who else hums the melody in the intro😭😭😂
Me! I want it as my ringtone in sha Allah!!
I hate nashid and follow the opinion to avoid it and it can imitate choruses, I do like poetry!
@@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 didnt ask
Can you pls tell me the name of the nasheed
Loving those relaxing and deep talks
Well needed discussions thank you sisters...you actually owe us something from all of us...thank you sisters..your actually doing something very important.
Thank you! Sister's😊 Keep it up, I have really learn alot from this. May Allaah protect you all Aameen! Communication and mutual understanding are the most important key in marriage.
Jazaki Allah Khairan Sisters for this discussion.
I love how this ladies share the talk. I feel the sisterhood vibe❤️❤️❤️
Very insightful, Jazakh'Allah Khairun for this sisters.♥️
Communication is definitely the key followed by compromising and listening.
I hope you guys can talk about the people who have trouble being vulnerable and opening up with others. Exploring more into that would be appreciated 🙏🏾
I love how modest and calm you are.. Keep it up sisters. 💯💜
Am speechless...this is resonating sooooo ssooo much...
So proud of you gals , such a courageous step towards a honest education fir the most vital people 👏👏👏💕💕
MashaAllah sisters. Can't wait for the next episode on jealousy. Please do cover the other sicknesses of heart too anger, showoff etc
I feel like specifically amongst the ummah there has to be a measured effort to ensure healthy emotional intimacy especially in marriage as you (in various cases) are marrying someone you've most likely spent very little time with. I think this causes a barrier with a lot of couples that is either worked at to break down or upheld. Fully agree with Layinka that there are many people that don't even have the emotional literacy to be able to build and communicate on the level of emotional intimacy needed to make a relationship work.
You ladies are great, very insightful and masterful at articulating that very slippery emotional literacy !
Keep it up.
Subhanallah! Beautiful beautiful beautiful one❤️as always. Jazakhallahu khairan sisters
One of the major challenges I find when it comes to communication between spouses or peers is the lack of emotional literacy as had mentioned in the video.. more so stressing the point being, not all married adults have developed that area of their intellect to be able to interpret and converse in a civil way on the deep level.
Your videos are very insightful! It's reassuring to know others also acknowledge the importance of emotional intimacy.
I love to watch this with my wife Masha Allah. May Allah bless you Sista's inshallah
Communication is the key and essence of establishing a fruitful, productive and successful marriage
Sometime been honest makes you vulnerable.
Maa shaa Allah! Thank you very much for bringing in amazing and real life topics that anyone regardless of religion can relate to. A lot of people, myself included always tend to think that emotional intimacy, communication and all those good stuff ONLY apply to spouses, but No. It applies to all relationships. Yes, with spouses more because the way your parents or guardians live and communicate will even affect others (children or others) in one way or another. I agree A LOT with what you are talking about especially with staying back and thinking that the person you are in relationship with will figure out what you want or what has made you sad, etc. and react about it yet they don’t even have a clue about it. Thanks for the tips to what to do to improve our communication and emotional intimacy! Looking forward to trying them out with my parents and spouse in shaa Allah. I know that sometimes it’s not easy but a 100% worth investing in. I love you ladies. You are such an inspiration to me and for sure a lot! Allah bless you! Ameen!
Layinka I like how u always stick up for the men. It's actually good because the men are always attacked. But we should think they have a side too
@@LaYinkaSanni subhanala yes we are all human
Sometimes we get upset with men and we forget they are human too:(
@@Aliyahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh thanks for pointing it out, after all we come from a man & woman. every son has a mother and every daughter has a father. So how can sexism or dishonest communication to either men or women be healthy when they/we are needed to help each other optimize or even before how can that be Islamic? In Islam we are to be just and to optimize as thw key word layinka said we are to strike a balance which can have some variation depending on the ppl involved. May Allah guide us to empower and help each other!
This episode is essential!
Please continue talking. Love sumaya’s talks
Aslm alk.I'm just excited about chancing on this.Brilliant discussion by wonderful sisters.Jzk.Ramadan Mubarak
Mashaa Allah , I am grateful that Allah leads me to this wonderful channel. I always find it so difficult to be emotionally vulnerable and completely honest, I always find it a struggle to find the right words to express myself. Sometimes I resort to just keep what I am feeling inside because I am afraid that by being honest I can hurt the feeling of other people...but soon I realize that in order to have a healthy relationship, we need to break down those walls and be our honest and truthful self. Jazakillahu Khayran for this amazing discussion Dearest sisters. Your discussion has always been so wonderful 😍💞🌻
Amazing MashaAllah TabarakAllah
this was my favorite episode :)
“ The way we choose to communicate ourselves. It either furthers intimacy or shuts it down completely! “
So well said. May Allah grant us to implement healthy forms of communication in our relationships Ameen ❤️ especially a maturity to open channels of communication where necessary.
Salam aleikum I just found your channel and I'm really impressed by your discussion and thoughts on different type of very important topics. Thank you so much for doing this show! Greetings from Germany
By the way you ladies are so beautiful inside and outside Mashallah.
I liked the episode so much thank you for sharing ... and I think I have a small problem with communication 'cause of things happened to me when I was growing up .. but Alhamdulillah I am going over that 😍😍
Communication is very important 👏🏽👍🏾
I hear Marshall Rosenberg haha he's really key ✨✨✨✨ mashaAllah, islam + non violent communication is key ❤️
Recently came across your channel and enjoying the useful content. You sisters are super articulate ,intelligent and very direct. It is so important that Muslim Women have a platform such as your channel so that sisters can learn and educate themselves on very sensitive matters which are often over looked in the community. I love your studio decor and it feels so cosy , it reminds me of when I am sat in a coffee shop with my friends. :) Please could you have an episode on narcissistic mothers/fathers. Thank you.
Hmmm! Well said sister Layinka about the problem being the way communication is established not that there isn’t communication at all. Funny enough the verbal part of communication is the least weight with only 7%. The tone- 38% and body langue -55% play more role in effective communication between two people, and these are the parts people pay least attention to when communicating.
Jazaka Allahu khairan sisters. May Allah Subhanallah wa Taala continue to increase you in ilm. Aameen.❤️❤️❤️🙏🎉
Beautiful. I love interracial and intercultural weddings and relationships. God bless you.
Love this show💛
Jazakillah u khyran kaseera sisters 💕💕
masha Allah good conversation i benefited a lot Alhamdulillah keep it up ladies! may Allah bless you abundantly Allahuma ameen
Alhamdulilah. Communication is the key to an intimate relationship. Right-On ukhties. May Allah grant us a special mate with the same compassionate communication as well as to understand us a women. And visa versa. I need someone whom is open to communication on a level of maturity and respect of listening too. Not judging me are humiliate me. Insha'Allah. Jazakallahu khair Hababti Ukhties for sharing
Grazie mille sorelle state facendo un buon lavoro.
Very beautiful and useful program
Masha allah.
2:41 "ceeb" whoever understood that word. Hit like.....
I was actually thinking that she is Somali Maasha Allah I’m good at guessing my Somali pple
@@halalpolice7544 I believe that word is actually arabic
@@MINA-wh2sx Oh didn’t realize it was also Arabic 😂 anyway I’m sure Sumaya is Somali 😏
Yeah. In the beginning I used to go to my friends first. But after my husband and I had a better connection and communication I felt like I didn't need my friends in that regard anymore. It is actually really good to feel like I dont need to talk to anyone but him...and I think people use their friends because there is a barrier between the couple that we might not realize.
Great when you have a husband who listens 💖
Yea sadly I heard many girl friends give bad advice try to sabotage relationships out of envy in the west! May Allah protect us.
@@worshipthecreator9081 sometimes when you have a husband who doesn't listen it's a good idea to have a mediator like a couples therapist. My friend had to do this because her husband didn't listen he ignored their problems and eventually she told him either we go to therapy or I'm leaving you.
Good for you!! Just don't ignore your friends. Friends are not only to be there because you have issues with your husband, but just to have some people around.
jazakallahu bi khaira, it's nice topic of discussion. sisters please keep it up.
I Love u sisters you really hitting the points
Jazakumullah khairan
the problem is vulnability can leave you really hurt and hurt for a long time. I was someone who was in a realationship, yes a haram one, but at the time i was complealty lost in her. I opened up and essentially showed my vulnerabilities. And then it went wrong and i was distroyed. I'm pretty damaged right now and was in a compleate mess after, so you shuld be carefull with this
When you said "he doesn't want to touch you" all that came to mind to was corona virus lol
😂😂😂
Hahahahha
I loved this talk, x thank you so much ladies for making this video and giving your advice x
mansha allah
Ladies thank you .
Sometimes it is just professional help needed. We had to get a counsellor, that’s how bad we had it. It helped about 50% although cost a fortune and so hubs did not want to pay for any more sessions.
May Allah bless u and ur family Ameen
Subhanallah apsalutly love this!
When one person communicates with another person with judgement instead of openness and with the mindset of solving issues versus having a hidden agenda like “controlling, shaming or condemning, problems within the relationship will develop. Initiating a relationship requires both parties to show-up with who they really are and not the “representative” of who they want you to think that they are. I say, “leave the “representative” home” when we meet.
Jazakallha hoo khairan
13.15 literally yes!!
I was just researching on how to be more vulnerable to my friends
Don’t be vulnerable to your friends never put too much trust in friends . You never know when they will switch up. Lol
That's very important sisters May Allah reward you people jennatul feridaus
I think the issue of emotional intelligence and how to communicate effectively is a problem for both men and women. So many brothers say things without thinking as well as sisters. I include myself of course as we’re always trying to improve
Lovely and insightful episode, this resonates so much with me.
Could you like upload all your episodes for the season at once. We are all tired of waiting😀😃 (Ps you can all like this if you agree, there's power in numbers😁)
Might be best to savour them slowly since we only have 2 more episodes of the season left, and then we'll be going on hiatus for some months.
@@HonestTeaTalk 😁😁
Subhanallah this topic hits so close to home. ❤️ jazakunn’allahu khayr
Masha'allah
Masha'Allah
My God protect you
Very nice video
Thank you
Jazakum Allah khier
I kind of disagree with what they said about meeting your emotional needs with other loved ones and about getting advice from friends first. While this could be helpful and maybe work for some, I think carrying your baggage to friends all the time and getting into the habit of that is actually quite dangerous. I think the relationship between husband and wife, to a degree, needs to stay private. A solid relationship needs that private space to resolve issues. The more people you carry into you marital issues the bigger the problems gets and the more opinions you invite... And sometimes too many opinions can drown out your own voice.
So my word of advice would be to go to your spouse first, resolve things with them first, if you fail try again, try til the load feels lighter. Then if need be confide in a close friend or two. If your struggles are serious seek couples therapy. It's important to start conversation between husband and wife FIRST. X
Thank you for sharing your insight. We agree that one's spouse is the first person to ever talk to about marital problems. In the episode, we weren't talking about going to friends about problems, we were talking about friends meeting one's emotional needs.
@@HonestTeaTalk Yes I see what you mean! I think friends can meet emotional needs and it depends on the individual in question if that's enough for them. Thankyou for taking the time to write back to my comment! Love you ladies!!!
I can't believe you are talking about my current situation, my husband keep shutting me down if we have a problem he builds up this wall between us.He don't communicate with me he waits until it festers then spits it out.
Your husband is probably a victim; moulded by his family environment. His negativity affords you the opportunity for positivity-worthwhile; but demanding.
I will pray for you, right now.
🫂🙏 🤲
I agree . I have been Married for 25yrs and my husband has always been using islam and my weakness throughout our mariage.
EMOTIONAL ILLITERACY.... That's the word, never knew there was anything like that. I think that is my problem😥
Always remember emotions are a 2 way street and personal thing. Customs have taken a part in ppl's interactions but we are individuals as well! Try to be balanced and indepedant and optimize acc. to the Sunnah and serving Islam is how I see it!
mashAllah nice talk, may Allah swt keep blessing all of us.
Definitely your absolutely true communication is very important, sometimes you don't know how to communicate or what to say or the you feel that the order partie is not paying attention to you. Or your feel that you're not connected but for the other partie is okay.
And then one day the man is telling you that he is going to get married with other women, sometimes you feel confused don't what to do.
(I am a woman)
girl if your man is talking marrying someone else..Dump him because he dont want you. Dont matter if he jokes about it or not...its too risky and he don't value you.
A man ignores, distances, reduces or stops communication with a women he dont want.
He said he wants another wife because he doesnt want you.
He is already looking for your replacement.
Please pack your stuff, sell everything in home, file divorce...and Keep him out of your life.
He will hurt you if you allow him back in.
If you got kids...keep it business like...strictly the money and visitation time only. Therapy helps alot.
To understand this a bit more, I’m trying to read With the Heart in Mind | The Moral & Emotional Intelligence of the Prophet ﷺ By: Mikaeel Ahmed Smith
Sounds like a good book!
Have you got any plans to make the audio available in a podcast format? :)
It already is. You can search for Honest Tea Talk on popular podcast platforms.
Wow! May The Almighty Allah continually bless you my sisters for such an important discussion. As a Muslim man, I am always researching not only Islamic sources, but also other sources to become a better man. If you haven't yet, for this topic I would recommend you reading the book "Girl Logic: The Genius and the Absurdity Book" by Iliza Shlesinge. This opened my eyes. I would recommend this to all Muslim couples too. May Allah reward us all, and grant us guidance.
Masha Allah
Alhamdulilah I love this show can you sisters do a show about how important it is for the youth to get married and how alot of the Muslim parents always try to discourage the youth for what ever reason but if we trust in Allah and we take one step Allah takes 10 social status should not matter about marriage this is the future ummah
No disrespect we’re still children people spend the majority of their lives thinking about perfect situation but when reality hit are you prepared being a youth myself we believe we know it all but we don’t life has a way of punching you in the face in other words when adversity strikes in your marriage are you able to overcome it and majority of us are not.
@@ibrahimhassan3583 how much do we trust in Allah is the question young marriage can be done and with the help of the community if we don't go that path guess what we are subjecting are shelfs to Zina e.t.c e.t.c let's not let society narrative dictate prophet Muhammad's ummah (pbbuh)
I like this invisible net that kind of gathers different people from different parts of the world and at the different time communicating here in a comment section. I found myself very disappointed by my husband because he doesn't even think that communicating with me is more important than communicating for HOURS with his friends. And I found myself losing this ability to start conversations . Even if it's in a form of "text"- my text looks like an essay, his text looks almost like a smiley , like one or a couple of words. This is killing my marriage every day. And he doesn't want to divorce me because of our child.
Ladies what u must understand is that it is not necessarily the case that if a woman chooses to put herself in a vulnerable situation and has a open hearted discussion with her spouse it will lead to emotional intimacy enhancement between the two!...No this is not always the case..Sometimes openness,putting yourself in a vulnerable position in the hope that your partner will acknowledge this,leads to the mature, honest vulnerable talk falling on deff ears, or silence as a response from your partner!!..This is a very common problem amongst couples.
Can someone please tell me the name of the song in the beginning its so beautiful
This episode resonated with me the most. I have a mask up amongst most of the people I associate with on a daily basis due to fear of facing past problems again. I have one colleague in particular who pried into my personal life and made some hurtful remarks. I was totally uncomfortable with this. She still pries up to today. I've kept my distance from her to safeguard myself and I've tried to forgive her but it's not easy. As of late, our friction has come to light and many people who do not know the exact situation keep on asking me to forgive her. Yes, forgiving is a good thing but it's so difficult especially since she still pries. And since it's not simply a thing of the past, merely trying to overlook it wouldn't help my case since I'm still being reminded of it every so often. Do you have any suggestions?
Sister what you said is soo relatable, i am the type who is very friendly with everyone but i only open my true self to some people. It so happened that i shared sth with a new friend of mine, i clearly didn't know her nature, later i took a lesson to only share things when i have known someone for months, only when i have known their true nature. I know it would be very hard on yourself to actually do what i will be saying to do, but you have to be able to forgive her, without forgiving, you clearly will keep getting hurting without forgetting and taking lesson from this particular situation. Sister, remember, when we forgive even when it is the hardest, Allah will forgive us as well for our gravest of sins, only if you do that for His sake no matter how impossible it may be, I pray that the Healer of all hearts heals you real soon in ways you never imagined, and restores the peace of your heart that you may be so yearning for. Aameen ya Rabb
Shining Star I understand where you are coming from and I myself face that too. Like I tell myself that I’ll forgive and that I have forgiven them but the thing is I still ponder over those words or just the hurtful act that was don’t on me. Idk what to do it is very hard to forgive I want to so bad but when I try I still think about it and forgiveness is also letting go I would say I want to forgive but my heart is aching and not wanting to let go of the damage that has been done😫😫
@@zahara7551 To be very honest, forgiving someone who has caused deep scars, takes really long time, what i would say is we are humans after all, give yourself time to heal! May the Healer of the hearts heal you. Aameen! Eventually you will be able to move on but yes it's all about time, especially when the damage is permanent!
My suggestion is to be 100% brutally honest and tell that person that she hurt you by criticizing your personal life and that from now on she needs to stop asking about it. Just tell her she is being nosy and she's prying and its rude and disrespectful.
@@beyondhope4humanity I've faced betrayal of trust many a time. So it isn't surprising that I'm so guarded. I've still not even truly healed from many of these incidents. This is the most recent one though. And it's not like anything I've dealt with before
is there any way to have a consultation with one of the ladies ?