Dating women made her understand men's struggles.
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I’d like to personally thank Aba and Preach’s father for not using a condom 🤧😅. Would’ve missed out on all this great content 🔥🔥.
Lol boy you stupid!!!🤣🤣🤣
Owolabby Azeez 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
omo niaja kin ni sho
omo naija kinni show
Like... I get where you're coming from, but at the same time
Bruh
If two girls go out on a date the check collapses into a quantum singularity and vanishes from reality.
Quick question from a Gen Z, are you a fellow Gen Z? For science..
I literally loled when I read this. Thank you.
Underrated comment.
i think i just saw that bill float past my room....creepy
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0:42 Her: "OMG she just used me for a free dinner"
Men: "First time here?"
She needs to watch some Patrice O'Neil.
@@leehalloway8787 yes! Yes she does!
Lol right like that's a Thursday Friday n Saturday when I was dating... She got off easy
😂😂 really thought she was unique with that
But do people actually do that??
Homegirl doesnt "get" men, she just got a small dose of self awareness.
So true
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At least men know they dont understand women. Women believe they understand men.
@@Yeetus223 the arrogance of it all...
@@Yeetus223 wrong once you take the red pill you will understand them perfectly!
Conclusion:
Men have it hard and women have it hard, so we need to communicate with each other and not expect something from the opposite gender.
Finally someone who shares my viewpoint. People are just people lol.
This argument of "women do this, men do that" seems never-ending even though it's consistently the most inaccurate logic to ever exist
@@Symora
Yes it's so annoying
We are all the same but we act so stupidly.
Everyone here is spitting facts
wow, why have i never in my life read this lmfao
If two women go out on a date, nobody has to pay the bill.
Waiter has 2 pay for the food
Ashwin Karunakaran would’ve liked but replacing “to” w “2” hurt me
Ashwin Karunakaran I liked your comment since mr stingy doesn’t want to give you one
Brandon B Much appreciated
Lesbians must be the unhappiest people on earth ;-)
I met a girl and on our second date, she got there early and had already ordered what she wanted and paid. Now we're married, 10 years. 😀
Yeah she actually made a decision, you couldn't drop her😂
A woman that knows what she wants to eat. She's a keeper.
Hell yeah bro.. keep her if not guys will take her that's a national treasure she rare as hell
Impossible perhaps the archives are incomplete
Yeah I’m not surprised
"The solution to racism isn't more racism, The solution to sexism isn't more sexism. The solution to people dismissing you is not you dismissing other people."
That's a bar .
I like that
Yeah it's weird how the best way to stop many of these problems is being empathic and listening to each other more.
@Tony Stark Says Tony Stark, an arms maker.
The opposites the basis for this whole new wave "woke" movement.
One common enemy normally brings people together but everyone is everyone's enemy
Mine and my husband's first date was dutch. He paid for the second dinner we went out. I invited him over for dinner and cooked a good home cooked meal. I fixed fried chicken, greenbean casserole, creamed potatoes, biscuits and fresh homemade jelly.
He cooked for me the next time.
That was over 26 years ago and we just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. He still helps with dinner and we have so many great conversations while we cook. Our kitchen is the gathering place for our family every evening.
From my perspective there are to many self center, self serving conceited, drama loving women out there. Honesty seems to be in short supply now days.
True love is two imperfect people loving each other whole heartedly.
I know this went a little off topic.
Majority of people nowadays don't even know what basic etiquettes are.
That's Amazing
Do you have kids
The dream basically.
How are we supposed to click together if we can't even cook together?
🦄🦄
Awesome, have similar experience. 20 years together and kids.
She's not understanding men at all, she's just learning more about women.
Edit: Thanks for the thousand likes everyone!!!
Fact
Isn't that what she kinda says?
tPeter Aesersen not really she literally said I know how men feels basically
Wow🤔 smart 👌
Just curious, where's your profile picture from?
"it's not a dude thing its not a woman thing. It's a people thing." Amen
Darn right, humans are humans 👏
If men did it too she'd notice men doing it. This guy likes to play both sides too much. Very transparent.
No it's a women thing stop deflecting trying to put blame on men 😒 men rarely ever do this shit almost none existent
Every commenter on this thread so far completely missed Preach's point when he said that. He was specifically talking about being given false expectations & them not happening. Everyone experiences this. It has nothing to do with being a man or a woman or our roles in the dating scene. It's a human thing because we all experience it. "Come to this party, it'll be a blast", tut then you have a shit time. "Just go out with him/her once! I promise you'll like them", but then you don't, etc, etc.
It's just interesting that she phrased it as "feeling like a man" when in reality she just got a dose of self-awareness.
@QuantumEther if only
The girl that asked to come in and make out was probably nervous and wanted her to make the first move... again welcome to our side.
Yeah lmao I was gonna say. Homegirl doesn’t know what it’s like to have to make the move lmao.
I thought that was where it was going, but she never made the connection
Exactly you hit the nail on the head
It's funny because by asking that and getting a positive response, she had already gotten past the hard part
@F Ggl I was actually talking about the girl she was dating. The girl had already asked if Anna wanted to make out with her and got a positive response but was too afraid to actually do it. She gets points for being forward but loses them for failing to follow through. As for Anna, yeah I suppose you can say that she also failed to follow through but we weren't there and it is entirely possible that the other woman launched into conversation. No matter how much someone has indicated their interest, it's gonna be awkward and possibly even rude to just throw yourself at someone who is just blathering on. The host should have made the move here, and probably made it awkward for Anna by talking too much.
Raise your hand if you ever rejected a girl on a first date because her clothes or make-up weren't up to standard.
~hysterical laughter from large stadium of men~
no
Um..? Has this happened to you?
your point isn't really clear...have you rejected a girl because her clothes weren't good enough?
@@patgrenier2888 He's making the point that guys don't generally care how your clothes and make up look on a date. Like Preach said COME AS YOU. The make up and making yourself look fancy is your decision and shouldn't be put on guys to pay for that. The poster was pointing that out with a hyperbolic example. Chances are no dudes here have ever walked away from a date because they felt the girl wasn't dolled up enough for them. It's not really that hard to understand.
She just has to have hygiene, as should men.
"Don't try to understand Women. Women understand Women, and they hate each other". - Al Bundy
Underrated comment
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@@mikesaunders9493 wise words to live by 👏👏👏
I like everyone so 🤷♀️
Preach.
Girls: Guys should open up more.
Guys: _Tells their experience_
Girls: HAaHaAhA yeah sure oKAay...
"guys need to show more emotion"
*shows emotion*
"that's the wrong emotion reeeeeeeeee"
And theyl throw it in your face AS SOON AS you make them even a little bit angry. Ide never considered using any of my exs secrets against them, and they throw that shit at you faster than sonic saying "gotta go fast"
@@kianjelogiorgio1713 probably a good reason why they're your ex :P
Kianjelo Giorgio
Have to remember that you’re always being taken advantage of by people; women especially. They are always trying to get something to blackmail you with. They always operate as though a “group” or third party is watching and they have the capability of embarrassing you.
@@Chavagnatze uh idk what women you're talking to but they sound nuts. just avoid bitches like that?
She doesn't understand men's struggle she just understand what it's like to date a woman
Yeah so she understands her male straight friends.
@@heyilikeair8521 not quite, dating women is not uniquely a guy thing.
@@heyilikeair8521 no cos lesbians don’t date the same way straight ppl do
@@heyilikeair8521 she doesn't understand a damn thing
she understood men's struggles in dating
Girls get this in your mind: NOBODY ASKED YOU TO SPEND HOURS TO PREPARE FOR THE DATE, you did it because you wanted
That's where you're wrong. I've had many men specify they want me in make up and heels for a date. That's usually when I tell them I'm cancelling.
@@analyticalchick3064 You did well. And you might also have expected them to pay if you had gone. But that doesn't justify all the other cases where the man doesn't ask, or like me doesn't even care for make up or 100$ haircut or else, and the woman wants him to pay because of the effort. It's just an excuse. Men might say the same for the time/money spent at the gym, for example. But make up and gym are things you do for YOURSELF, or at least for your advantage (i.e. to look more attractive).
I see your point, but what are women supposed to do then? If they don't "pretty" themselves up, they will be called ugly and will basically be seen as worthless (this is coming from a guy)
@ɢhost literally ALL of my friends (I only have girl friends), the standard for me is so much lower then it is for them and I feel so bad for them :((
@@patrixia_4950 women without makeup are not ugly, some women are ugly, regardless, but the same is for men. I personally don't give too much emphasis on looks, although I recognize that it is much harder for an ugly person, especially men.
What should women do without makeup? Find another man. And don't impose the guy to pay, in wathever case =p
Yeah, she still doesn't know what it's like to be a guy on a date. What she really found out is that women can be entitled. Her real take away should be that both men and women have gender specific expectations put upon them and that the expectations of women are not necessarily made out of sexism and misogyny.
Well said. Your comment stands out as the most sensible
Who would’ve thought it could be so simple?
Gender roles are a hell of a drug, aren't they? Nobody seems to like the results of them, because it leads to heavy unfair expectations placed on everyone. And yet, nobody wants to give them up. Women still want to "be the woman" and men still want to "be the man". Well, you can't be free from those expectations while simultaneously wanting to be embraced in those roles.
Same with transgender people: rather than give up roles, they just switch to fully embracing the other role. Nothing wrong with that, but it still doesn't really subvert the root issue.
@@SacredOne child birth has happened to a woman in a coma but you want a cookie for something equivalent to a duke? Such a snowflake, this one is.
@@SacredOne you know whats difficult, a man knowing one out of his three children ain't like the others. But y'all allow that to happen in his house.
When a girl rejected me, I thanked her, because she did that when she could have conned a free dinner from me.
Jonathan Taylor She probably decided that a free dinner wasn’t worth it.
always split on the first date. always. ALWAYS. its not being stingy, its just sensible.
Lucky you
I’m the sucker who paid for everything.
Trust me. Nobody wants to be put in an uncomfortable situation eating with someone they don't like just for free food. It isn't worth it.
@@ShadowAraun Not always. But if you know you're a bad judge of character or just really don't know about the person then yeah. Nothing wrong with being cautious.
The fact that this woman had to date other women in order to get a perspective on _her own behavior_ is very telling. It just goes to show how a lot of women go on 'autopilot' when they're dating and aren't really aware of their own actions (or at least lack the critical thinking to reflect on it without some external force requiring them to).
Copious Doinks LLC. The only thing going through a women’s mind most of the time I’m sure is how she looks and smells, and depending on the women, what resources she can benefit from.
There is not a lot going on in women's mind. They are solipsistic by nature ! But the most funny thing is that she naively though she could find true love with women. This is what it took to her to understand that her own gender just like what someone can do for them.
at this rate go get a woman in asia. we are traditional
Depends on whether or not she carried out the exact same behavior as them. Pretty sure there's a similar thing with some of us guys not noticing our own actions (or rather how they make others feel) until we're on the receiving end. Then again...maybe this woman just didn't know how it felt until she got a taste of this treatment.
@@tshaolin971 Here's my question to you: What does this mean for homosexual women in comparison to homosexual men in regards to relationships? I want to hear your perspective on this.
"I made friends with her cat. That's not a pun."
Yeah, I know, that's a euphemism. There's a difference.
is this some lesbian jargon im too straight to understand
@@LeMuzi maybe it is r/wooosh for me but I'll cast the reason of doubt.
She means the word we use to describe female cats or when boys call other boys a *word* which describes them as those whom are afraid to do something.
@@danepher she meant she wasn't playing with the chick's pussy, i.e. vagina lol
She said no her actual cat. Like the small house feline people use as pets other wise known as the spawn of satan.
@Oleee bruh, why must my school miss this, I never learned that
She's just dating herself
...I see what you did there...
I was gonna like this but the likes are at exactly 420 and didn’t wanna mess them up. Just know I agree with it😂
“Everybody has their privileges”...great point. Wish more people would be open to that pov.
But only one sex calls are their privileges, "benevolent sexism." Kinda hard to have a discussion on gender privileges when one side can't even be bothered to used the word, "privileges."
@@taurusteelpan Side? Female isn't a side.
@@viktoriyaserebryakov2755 What makes you think that?
@@coreywest9597 Okay. Tell me which side I'm on and why.
@@viktoriyaserebryakov2755 Answer my question first?
You risk being demonetised for the word bisexual? That's bad, CZcams.
I was wondering whether it was a glitch. CZcams is entirely insufficient for a deep or rational understanding of anything.
yes??? I was immediately confused
I suppose it's because of the "sexual" part of the word "bisexual" , because I think the youtube algorithme has to demonetised video with word like "sex" in it.
Also the word racism now too
@@kendrickory5204 he could’ve said bi then
Aba’s point about how women say they look good for themselves not men, then they say they look good for men so men should pay for dates, was one of the best points.
Double standards aren't new, but it is interesting that women were screaming about double standards being a bad thing (and being right about that) for decades and now women are routinely trying to take advantage of double standards for their benefit.
When I go on a date with a guy, I usually prefer to split the tab because 1. I feel uncomfortable letting people pay for me and 2. if a guy pays for all of my expenses, I get worried that he will expect something in return.
This! As someone who has dated both men and women, it's actually something that has happened with both genders. I think it has more to do with people's mindsets and experience in dating/ what is "expected" of them. I've had women try and pay my entire check and men who were looking like they want to dine and dash (and vise versa). Some people are just entitled or really enjoy showering people in their money.
Some men won't let me pay so I leave the tip
@@megamuffinchipalicious898 wow thats interesting, thanks for the insight!
Okay just because we pay for your dinner doesn’t mean that we’re expecting anything in return, (i know there’s some) the purpose of the date is either to get to know you or to just enjoy our time with you! What comes after usually stems to how far a women wants to go! You have the power to say no! Unless of course the man is a rapist or has no control which is a different subject! And depending on the mans culture/religion/environmental influences they will feel obligated to pay!
@@andiimation That's totally fair! I'm sure most men are actually extending the offer of food as a kind gesture. It does at times (in certain situations) feel transactional, so I think it should be way more common for everyone to just pay for what they order; that way people don't get their wallet taken advantage of or get unnecessary pressure put on them. Also, at least for me, if I pay for myself I always feel better if the date doesn't work out or I want to cut it short...then I didn't make the person pay for me.
_I love that he said, "everyone has privileges, they may not be equal or fair, but they have advantages"_
How relevant today
@@TheNebraska402 it really is
Yes!
The last comment she made as a dude “Sometimes I don’t think a girl likes me for me sometimes I think they just want a boyfriend.” Felt that, dawg.
@Odaliz Orozco-Rueda Don't comment stuff like this if you want more people to be Christian.
@Odaliz Orozco-Rueda why?
@Odaliz Orozco-Rueda Think logically and see if you can answer the question “why is God good?” without using the bible. If you find an answer, make it irrefutable, then post it back here to convince at least one person that God is real. Or the God of Christianity is real. If you can’t, you need to change your religion. Just cuz you’ve been told something your whole life, or you felt good doing something, or you wanted something to be true, doesn’t make it true.
I felt this and i'm a straight woman. pretty sure my ex only asked me to be his gf and stayed with me so long bc he didn't want to be alone. I feel like so many guys do this as well
@Odaliz Orozco-Rueda Corinthians 4:20
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1:03 - LMAO he’s over it.
"I didnt ask you to get ready".... instant sub
Hahaha, can you image asking a woman to get ready as a prerequisite to go on a date? The idea is so funny that I almost want to do it.
@@spracketskooch 😂😂😂 Do it
If women get ready, men thinks its extra, if women dont put on makeup, men think they're ugly and disgusting. So thats that
@@michxelll4996 No one asked you decide what men think.
I Think women who chose not to wear make are beautiful. The fact they feel the need to disguise their own appearance to appeases some form of attraction to their looks. That's discussing and ugly.
SO you and the Horse can do one
@@michxelll4996 That's a big generalization, what kind of men are you dating?
I never dated a man who treated me like I was "ugly and disgusting" for not putting make-up or for wearing casual clothes, and if a man does do that you can just dump him and move on. It's bitter to assume all men are judgemental, shallow and horrible people.
More often than not if a guy is actually attracted to you they probably think you look good when you get ready, and that you look good when they're casual. If not, it's not the guy for you, and that's it.
Remember, girls don't have to pay cause we spend hours getting ready....
I'm losing brain cells listening to that reasoning -_-
I appreciate when there's actual smart people still left these days
When it’s time to pay I’m sure you don’t even reach for your purse
Luis Diego Morataya idk about yall but I’m from Finland and this whole topic even seems weird to me, isn’t it normal for women to pay? Of course everyone pays their own meal or the one who invited.
Pihla N not in the UK and I think the US as well I remember when I was on holiday and met a load of Dutch kids mix of girls n guys. Everyone paid their own way whereas in the UK even if your with a group most of the guys will pay for girls drinks. It’s socially expected. Know a few girls who’ve only paid for a handful of drinks their whole lives
I find it funny cause I've known guys, perhaps bit feminine guys but still hetero, who genuinely can take a long time to get ready and puts effort into their appearance. Shouldn't that be the same if they date a girl who takes less time? Should we measure paying eachother by how much effort we put into our appearances?
"I didnt ask you to get ready"
Hell, I didn't even ask you to get dressed
Hehe 😏
Yeah but guys are asking out the girls that look “hot” meaning put together to a certain extent because that’s what the men want. The woman does you the justice of keeping her appearance up to ensure you’re at least seen with someone who looks a certain way and not a raggedy girl.
@@Tionaintown876 going for looks over personality and possible quality of time to be spent is what leads to people in unhappy relationships. If I ask someone out, it's because I think I will have an enjoyable time with them. Not because "this person looks pretty, I want smash"
T.B Comics While I get what you’re saying, both are equally important to a lot of men. Men will also use what you’re saying and enjoy our company in the beginning but as soon as the initial buttery phase has ended he’s gonna cheating with someone hotter and more feminine.
@@Tionaintown876 but does that go for all men? Or just a percentage?
I've had many relationships that were ended short because the other half either didnt put effort into the relationship or they went behind my back to cheat. But I'm not saying all women do that. If I'm investing as much time as possible into a relationship and enjoying the company of the other person, even if it's something as small as watching a movie or cooking together; I'd expect, at the very least, the same amount of effort from the other person.
Relationships are not easy, but if both sides are equally invested into the relationship and the other person, it becomes easier. Then looks shouldnt matter at all
I think it’s nice she was at least trying to understand and put herself in your place. Why not give her some credit for it?
Except she wasn't trying to understand or put herself in the place of a guy...
She wanted to enjoy being treated special like guys seem to treat girls on dates, and got a rude awakening as to how "normal" treatment is far Different from special, and how they've normalised special treatment from men and that has issues.
She wasn't trying to, she certainly didn't want to.
It just happened that way when she felt it herself.
I mean they did technically give her some credit for it. They said their thanks for pointing out some points but also give thier own opinion on the rest that they were less agreed on.
She wasn't really trying to understand. As several other comments have pointed out, she still doesn't actually understand us. She's just become more self aware of the things she and other women do that makes us feel like shit, but she still feels very differently about it than men because she's taking it as a woman, who already has the expectations of being treated as such.
The fact she had to be in that position exactly to understand men it’s quite worrying since men have to understand either way
she didn't even set out to date women with the goal of trying to understand men, she tried to date women because she thought it was more convenient and found out just how annoying women are. Big props for her
I'm straight, does that mean i understand lesbians? 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
Lmfao maybe masculine ones
Chile.....
Omg 😂😂😂
one of the favorite people I ever worked with was this super butch lesbian lady. We talked about tits and ass all the time
@@darkhighwayman1757 you were both exhibiting symptoms of tOxIc MaScUlInItY SMH !
"You pay for the meal because I spent hours to look good." - girl
"Gym" - guy
Yea... chances are you only went out with him because he looks good, otherwise you would of been disgusted. Maybe even consider it... what do they call it again? sexual harassment? for simply asking for a date?
A lot of girls spend a lot of time working on their bodies at the gym as well
Total utter bullshit. PURE BRITISH ACCENT
@@asmrpinotnoir yes and a lot guys of also spend hours on their looks before a date minus the makeup part and also the amount of guys that go to the gym are way higher then girls because some girls are naturally curvy and to have nice body they only need to eat healthy and men will find their body really atractive but theres no such thing as a naturally fit guy you have to workout or do some physical activities to be considered having a nice body as men
ChronoCross 866 it depends on the individual person, but some women have to work EXTREMELY hard to maintain a healthy body weight. Especially after giving birth. Many women also spend a lot of time trying to grow their booty muscles, thighs, etc in the gym. Also, I’m pretty sure there are more women who do their hair and makeup for dates, than the amount of men who go on dates, who spend a lot of time at the gym.
She's barely seen the tip of the iceberg and already she's complaining.
Wouldn't say that, she said she's sharing her experience and as a female subscriber of hers, I find it important that women are confronted with these things.
It's not really speaking for men but a comment about how women justify a bad attitude.
I would love to see a part 2 and 3 of this discovery shes made
You’re the kind of guy that complains about women not understanding male struggles and when they do you call them shallow. Be happy, move on.
@@sparksfly6149 you are the kind of girl who guesses the personnality of someone just with a comment and then try to shame them in response even if his comment was just a personnal observation
Monkeydienani
“You either die a hero, or live long enough to see yourself become the villain”
I love how these guys put everything on a more serious and deep level,this thing is serious and affects a whole generation.
when two women go on a date together,
they want the owner of the restaurant to pay for the food.
check mate.
@Ray MASSIH landlord?
@Ray MASSIH 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
What if owner is a women too? Our landlord is a women or landowner is a women. Who pays?
Is “check mate” a double entendre
Lol amazing comment
"We spend hours to make ourselves look good for you".
Also women: "wE dOnT DrEsS uP NiCeLy Or WeAr MaKe Up FoR mEn". So which is it?
For me it's definitely dressing up nicely for me - I'll wear the same thing I wear outside at an only-girls sleepover. But then again I'd never expect a guy to buy me dinner!
Whichever is more convenient for them at the moment. Selective equality.
It's both tbh
They are flip floppers
day-to-day not for you. on a date w/you=for you.
why is that hard to understand?
She womenplained the unfairness of the dating scene
Basically
Nah WH@RESPLAINED......women are NOT all the same just like everyone wasn't a SLAVE in this country.....
Black MEGriffin actually I respect wh@res more than most women. They are honest from the start and you know what you are getting.
😂😂😂 first world problems.. Africa can only be entertained
Heres the thing tho. Its not only the women you date that act entitled. Women that are your friends? Entitled. Women on social media. Entitled. Women that are gay? Entitled. You dont gotta date women to see the entitlement. Trying to see that could save a lot of dudes some time.
My current wife of 6 years never let me pay. She either payed the whole bill or split it. I seen character and responsibility in her from that trait.
She is an amazing woman.
I pay most of the time but my girl does too and thats how it should be especially because we work at the same place the same wage as well
Doesn't anyone else find it strange how some girls say they use sexual indicators in the workplace for the sole purpose of making them "feel good" about themselves and not for any male attention. Then use the very same sexual indicators on a date, claiming that it's all for your sake and therefore, you should pay...
Cognitive dissonance at its absolute finest.
Absolutely.
That’s a good point. I’ve always pointed out to women who wear tons of makeup and reply “i do it for me, not to please men” out on their BS, it’s basic mating call in standards of evolutionary biology. The woman is just doing a shitty mating call
It's their ugly nature the reality they reject to be true they don't want their image to be tarnished they always and for ever want to be put on a pedestal
It's something I pointed out in the ocean of arguments. Women put on make up to be more sexually enticing yet at the same time expect men in the workplace not to be attracted by the sexually enticing display... unless it's from the right guy.
It can be used for both. I dress nicely because I like it and also because I want to attract male attention. I have also attracted male attention while looking bummy. It's not black and white.
This proves......women only like listening to themselves.
Whoa... shit came all full circle, didn’t it.
Tabs T THIS WOMEN. Not all
@@Hero-up8hv *Woman* since you're being singular
😂😂😂😂😂😂 hahahahahha
@@kiatorrette5631 hahaha
When two women had a dinner date and the bill came: "When an immovable object meets an immovable object"
*unstoppable force
@@n8style imagine missing the joke
physics is still struggling for an answer to this one real world issue
😂😂😂
When you strap a piece of hot buttered toast to the back of a cat and push it off a table to get a suspended Free Energy Turbine.
“The solution to sexism/racism is not more sexism/racism.” -well said!
My ex girlfriend from 14 years ago finally got it. It took her dating a guy that had no money because he couldnt work. She paid for everything. Planned all the dates, and went to pick him up. And when she was complaining about it to me, I told her this is exactly what men go thru with women and an awkward silence. Then....karma is a bitch!
I hope your happy in life without her. It sounds like she's trying to shimmy her way back. Don't do it!!
@@mauricerobinson3184 No im not taking her back. Havent spoken to her in 10 years.
Why are you still in touch? This is the problem with western men.
@@israelchinainitiative I am not in touch with her. As I said, I have not spoken to her in 10 years. How did you conclude what is wrong with western men? Did some shit their pants in front of you? Cuz that would be funny as hell!
@@israelchinainitiative u and your 7 thumbs up don't read
"The solution to racism,sexism is not more racism,sexism" I've been saying that for so long but then i get looked at like im crazy.
Only 61 of us...
You'd think they'd get it just knowing you don't fight fire with fire 🤷♂️
Wtf? Who thinks your crazy for saying that???
@@z.incognito6259 when I say we shouldn't have race/sex questions on job applications there are plenty people who give me looks. Also there are plenty people who buy into the whole "white people cant be victims of racism" thing.
@@urfavginga5765 I honestly find it weird when people say that white people can't be victims of racism or that "you can't be racist to them". I just don't get it. Absolutely anyone can be racist and absolutely anyone can be a victim of racism. You can't just specifically pick a race, be racist to them and think to yourself "that doesn't apply here".
This feels like someone got pulled over once and now claim to understand "police brutality".
Yeah. She just got light of dating. She should come back when she gets stuck with child support for a kid that aint hers😂
😂😂😂
wait till she hits the wall
@@vNill I imagine she'll be a lesbian by then.
😂
As a woman I've always gotten those comments about "making a great wife" or "our kids would look amazing" from men who I'm not even dating and I understand how uncomfortable it is 😩 find it so crazy that women say things like that and that she would need to date women to know how weird that is lmao.
I’ll give you that one. That some weirdo creepy shit rigth there.
That's a madness. Not even dating?😭
That the only way women learn
@@michaelzero5278what?
Lowkey being single saves a lot of unnecessary stress😂
Edit: holy crap! Thank you so much for all the likes! Hope your day goes wonderfully🙏
Factual
Haha facts
I wouldn't mind having a relationship, but imma be looking for diamonds not turds or rocks. By diamonds I just mean girls who aren't willfully ignorant, stuck up, emotionally immature or just a thot altogether (i.e. someone who's mature and at least a bit self-aware). I know that might be a tall order in this crappy world but I'm young and I've all the time in the world 👌
MikeKnight009 Respect
And money
Selective equality is the perfect definition of her discovery.
"just the good parts" which magically no longer makes it equality.
In other words, she's cherry-picking. She's selectively Feminist and also selectively Traditional like a lot of them are.
So short yet so truthful.
All the rights, none of the responsibilities. That's how we acheive equality! See, if women were ACTUALLY interested in any kind of rational, logical equality then we would have had women register for selective service starting in 1920. But that's a responsibility, not a right or privilege, so women aren't interested in equality on that front. You never see women advocating for 50/50 in garbage collection, factory work, mines, or any kind of dangerous/laborious jobs. They just want the top 10% of high paying jobs to be 50/50. The bottom of the spectrum can be 100% men, that's fine.
Boondocks Reference - Riley: "Well I'm paying, which makes her a ho"
All women are not hoes 40... 60% tops- huey freeman
@@minatodroger7890 90%
@@ClearSmoke100 yes🤣😂
Lol
Big Fuhgin Facts🔥🔥🔥😫☠️☠️☠️😫☠️☠️☠️☠️
I'm a woman, I already understood this kind of stuff since I was a teen.
Since I've always liked observing people's behaviours and stuff.
She's sympathizing and learning a new perspective, and sharing it. Why are y'all so mad? I for one found it interesting. She's not saying your feelings are invalid until I feel them myself, she's saying feeling them myself gave me a new perspective.
They got so defensive 💀💀
That's just the problem though, a "New perspective" is what it shouldn't be.
Because an issue like this didn't havr to require a video to be made. People constantly say, "Imagine being on their shoes", but can't follow through with it. They have no idea what the actual situation is. In the aspect if dating at least.
I'm not upset but at the same time this shouldn't be a surprise to her to know that men aren't lying about alot of these things. We've been complaining about it for years and you still got women who think men make all this stuff up.
Huh
They take hours getting physically prepared, while we take hours getting mentally prepared for the BS we are about to put up with lol
💀 LMAO. Hmm 😅
I wouldn't say hours I would say days, cuz I been mentally.preparing myself for days about just going to the dentist
Facts
Meditating and Focusing like a shaolin monk, and a few hours before the date opening your eyes, ready for battle...
@@McNeck-wy3vb The drive to pick her up is the worse, no music can drown out the voices in your head from your PTSD symptoms for Ex G.F's
Does this mean if I date men I’ll understand women’s struggles? Does this mean I have to be gay to understand feminism?
I don't think so. You guys cooperate with each other much more peacefully than women tbh
Hahaha
You should do it and report your findings.
naw...cuz we men dont have Cognitive dissonance lol
@Robyn Benson even after 20 years they will still be mad and wont even know why
BTW, her video came out a year before this one. She left a pinned comment stating:
One quick note on this. The line I said "the amount of kisses promised didn't equal the amount of kisses delivered" can be interpreted as problematic and I want to clarify that ANYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO REVOKE CONSENT AT ANY TIME. I just thought it was a funny thing to say, and was bummed that we didn't make out cause she was very pretty & intelligent. However I am not entitled to anyone's body, and they are free to not make out with my face if they don't want to anymore. In this specific situation, I think we were both merely afraid to make the first move, but want to clarify for those who may take it in the way it isn't intended to be: just a funny little line I thought of.
Western dating is a joke. People really treat basic human relationships like some incompetent bureocracy with checks and stops every 2 steps. Being kissed when you don't want or not being kissed when you do after a romantic going-out is just an awkward little moment you have a laugh at down the line. When you make out every insignificant little action into some statement about consent, that word losses meaning.
"It's not a men thing, it's not a women thing, it's a people thing."
I've been trying to tell people this for a long time. And not just when it comes to dating. People these days have a knee jerk reaction to just assume everyone of a particular group has a hive mind.
You're definitely wrong and naive.
People should perhaps try leaving the city. I doubt that they understand that they too are likely like this themselves. They live in an egocentric era I don't understand why they think themselves the exception. When I lived in the city? Women wanted something from me. Men wanted something from me. Both were equally selfish and manipulative. I wonder how many of these people have found partners and started families with someone of integrity. If they haven't then maybe they aren't one themselves.
Mmm, depends what groups we're talking about.
Lmao you naive duffus.
I could not have said it better myself.
Thank you.
Another thing is that we need more high IQ humans and prevent getting more low IQ humans(better nutrition is one part).
The “getting ready” argument was dumb as hell.. lmao taking hours to get ready isn’t a requirement. However I believe the person who initiated going on a date should either pay or split it. I’m in a 5 year relationship so sometimes I pay, sometimes he pays and sometimes we split. But if your single and ask a guy to take you out to dinner you should pay lmao
Agreed.
I never got why it's expected for the guy to ALWAYS pay. Like when my bf and I went on our first date, we went to an expressive restaurant with several of my friends who were also going out on dates and when the bill came, my bf's eyes went wide after seeing the bill and he was all like, "Oh gosh!" And our waiter was like, "Oh be quiet! You took her out on a date."
Well, he didn't have any money (he comes from a poor family, this was in HS) so I handed him the money under the table. I wasn't upset, I didn't care honestly if I had to pay, but I didn't want him to be judged.
@@VirginiaDowdy777821 Good on you, but should it really matter if he's "judged" by women with such superficial logic? Anyone that thinks it's just natural l for guys to ALWAYS pay for dates, even if she's got a better job, more money, or initiated the date, or just feels like being equal, isn't someone who's opinion should matter to you (I think). In a day and age where both genders work, and can be successful, it's just taking advantage of convenient past standards that only exist when it's beneficial to them. Selfish.
As a man. if I ask a girl out to dinner then I'm paying. And I dont mind paying for everything. Because shes giving me her time, which imo is the most precious thing anyone can give you. You dont get that shit back
@@cmacbrown You are also giving her YOUR time. But I guess your time is free.
Her lack of self awareness is so cringe. She doesn’t understand men, because she doesn’t understand herself.
You shouldnt make fun of the FACT that she Didn't know. You have to understand that privilege isn't seen to the privileged
@@hope1785 Yes and western women are privileged beyond all hell.
Better late than never, maybe every woman should have some experience dating other women.
@Brett Kozlak Also known as Virtue Signaling.
@Joe Edwards Pun very much intended. ;)
She just made a video about how she understand how men feel and she sees problems with how women act with dating and yall for some reason are offended by that? How the tables have turned. She just shared her perspective and there are so many reaches in the comments. She basically was just like "Oh now I understand why you get mad when we do this" and people in the comments are like "im offended that you didnt understand before." The heck? Her perspective really was needed and a good perspective and it somehow got turned into an Incel vs. Feminazi debate for zero reason.
It is virtue signaling. And they addresses the entitlement of women: men must understand them without being in women's shoes. But this lady is making a video saying she understands men after being in their shoes.
Because its virtue signaling from a woman who doesn't care about men.
as if women are so blindsided by logic that they are required to experience something to even grasp the idea of it.....crazy
EDIT: as some did not get it and took it a bit far: To be "Blind-sided by Logic" is to fail to understand it. A logical, rational being, has the ability to empathize for something that they have never experienced based of the brains ability to go through the logical progression of thought and imaginary experience to take it to a place of empathy for the current situation someone else may find themselves in. However, an irrational, emotional being, cannot grasp its own surroundings let alone reality. it is constantly in fight or flight mode due to its lack of understanding of its surrounding world and lack of logical foothold in reality. That type of creature does not have the ability, possibly even the knowledge or will, to empathize with your situation. Hence Why i thought it was funny and ironic. If you want proof....read comments.
Not logic.. emotions and unrealistic expectations
as if women are so blindsided by feelings that they are required to experience an emotion about something to even grasp the idea of it.....crazy
fify
They're very narcissistic.
Women: logiq? Responserbeleries? What is accounterbilery?
Wow you guys hate women deep down.
When men make comments on women's make up, they get told that they didn't put it on for them, but as soon as it comes to paying for a date..... "My investment was in getting dolled up for you".
You gotta use big brain move “I’ll be back gotta go pee”. And leave
When it comes to finances, feminism is out of the window lmao.
Same women who say they want equality but then say men should pay.
Thespokenone it depends if the man expects it and comments on it if you don’t get dolled up then he deserves it but usually it’s a bs excuse to get out of paying.
I've always thought it was funny how girls say "I put makeup on for me" but when it's convenient they say "I took all this time to look good for you" like jesus I only take 10 min I don't waste any time or money with that toxic shit. I've always felt bad about thinking that way bc they'd say I'm jealous that I can't do makeup lol! Sorry, I'm just more confident than you but they not ready for that talk
Isn’t the rule that whoever initiates the invite pays for the date?
Lmao if that was the case there would be about 50% less dates. Not only that but uhmm there's this thing called "going Dutch"
No if a woman asks me out I pay not because it's some rule it just feels funny the other way around to me but
Trollonoa Zoro as a woman, I’ve asked guys I was seeing to go out to dinner and offered to pay because it was both my idea and choice of place. The financial responsibility of a date should be on the person proposing going somewhere to spend money. If the other person wants to split the check or pay instead, thats fine. But if you’re asking for a date, it should be with the assumption that it’s on your dime and not to get a free experience, regardless of gender or gender identity.
Trollonoa Zoro You’re allowed to that opinion. But there are women aside from just me who feel the same way or similarly.
When do women ever make the first move? Yeah, ok then.
The irony is that usually it seems like when I pay the tab, it doesn't go anywhere. But if we split the bill, we see each other again. This seems to hold true even when she's moving to pay her own bill and I stop her and handle it myself.
bingo
A lot of the stuff she “discovered” is pretty obvious lol. All you gotta do is pay attention sometimes and you can see how unfair some things are
Tell me about it. Common sense these days is surprisingly uncommon
yeah yeah and 80% of men still struggle to understand why leaving the toilet seat up is rude.... I guess all they need to do is pay attention
@@CapeEniEer king 👑
@@IbrahimHassanDayTrade that’s a female
True. But it still hits different when it happens to you. Its wayyyyu easier for me to empahtize with men now then it was before I started dating women.
You raised a point I didn't think of. "Why is it acceptable for a women to complain about male problems, but not for a male to complain about male problems? Am I, as a male, have a less of human decree than a female, so SHE must complain for ME, a male?"
I do appreciate her for raising those problems for us, but it also shows a serious lack of empathy towards men in general.
(I started the vid with 'why tf are they mad about her' and ended it with a 'oooooooooohhh true af')
"Why is it acceptable for a women to complain about male problems, but not for a male to complain about male problems? Am I, as a male, have a less of human decree than a female, so SHE must complain for ME, a male?" it's to make sure we don't "mansplain" it. hahahaha
@nahkxxx it's a shaming tactic intending to encourage you to adopt group think
@nahkxxx arguing with a woman is like playing chess with a pigeon. it's only going to knock the pieces over, shit on the board, and claim that it won.
She is the kind that needs to explain your problems to you.
Don't get it twisted. She wasn't complaining for the sake of men. She was doing it for herself. All women do it with their own goals. They're solipsistic by nature.
My issues is “why did it take her dating a woman to see that?” So, essentially she made her “paying for girls to get ready statement” without seeing it from another’s perspective.
Most people can't relate to other peoples experiences. They have their made up opinion and they try to defend it in any way possible. It's harder to think about your believe systems and maybe reevaluate them.
Because when something isn't happening in your life, it's difficult to form an emotional connection to the situation. Sure, you can say, "yeah, that's pretty bad," but you'll *know* how bad it is if you actually experience it.
She appears to be incapable of sympathizing or empathizing with the males perspective having not experienced first hand.
R.O.T.C SEEM Women are usually more empathetic than us men that’s why they are nurtures. As a kid if you hurt yourself like a scrap on the knee who would you go to mom or dad?
@@galaxylucia1898 very very sound argument.
i feel like y'all are just tryna find shit to react to, even if it really isn't anything worth commentary. she didn't really say anything bad.. she shared things she learned, her new perspective.
They gave their perspective on hers. Whole point was that they disagreed with some of hers. And i feel like u just tryna find shit to shit on instead of understanding the things they learned, their new perspective.
But did she learn any lessons? Most likely not
@@abelardopascual6564 fax
I remember my first date with my bf we went out to eat and when the bill came I said "I can pay for this" he smiled and said "no, no, I can pay for it" I replied "split it?" 5 years strong.
You're a good woman.
@@chrism2887 I always pay half n half too, women like us arent rare. Men just need to be more intolerant of entitled women, and entitled women exist coz they get away with it almost all of the time.
@@CapeEniEer normally I'll offer to pay, especially if it's a first date. I don't mind it but I've never been on a date where the woman offered to pay or split it. If that did happen, I'd double check by asking "are you sure? I don't mind paying." And if she insists, then I'll agree to it. I'm sure it isn't that rare, but it's very rare for me. I don't like that sense of entitlement. It makes me feel like she's only going on the date because she's getting free shit instead of agreeing to the date because she really wants to get to know me. I'll gladly take the latter over entitlement every time.
@@chrism2887 where are you from u seem like rare unicorn lol where can we find females like u lol 😂
@@CapeEniEer yeah men who are like "women like this are so rare" like bro just get out more and surround yourself with better people and a better community.
Women: I don't want your compliments! ... Unless I like you, then it's cool, happy guessing.
Men: I'll take the risk, or humanity is doomed, and you'll start calling me incel thinking it's a mercy.
“Happy guessing” 🤣 I personally like compliments, but sometimes people don’t know when to stop. I’d like to share a story, I hope it’s alright. I had a really crappy job in a bar and so I put out applications in hopes of getting a better job. Maybe it’s a bit old fashioned, but my parents taught me to always dress up for an interview. ALWAYS. So one day I left an interview and decided to pickup my check from the bar while still being dolled up. I felt cute as hell and I did actually want my coworkers (men AND women) to see that I could be more then the goblin looking thing that slips into the kitchen every morning. I went in and I shocked all my coworkers with my “glow up” and all their compliments made me happy. Come back the next morning and two of my coworkers who were sweet to me before and complimented my outfit and makeup the other day suddenly can’t keep their hands off me. They’d slip an arm around my waist with every chance they’d get and keep a hand on my lower back. I became super anxious and on the brink of tears. I told my manager about it and she said, “That’s what you get for being so cute.” The point is, it is nice to be noticed and admired but some men think that our acceptance of their attention is a sign to move forward. So instead some women reject the attention altogether rather than deal with the confusion and all.
@@phoenixharris9857 what's so hard about telling someone to respect your personal space? i don't understand why that's traumatizing.
@cheezyridr I wouldn’t say it was traumatic, just a big learning point for me. I knew that something like that would happen some day and I was sure that when the day came I could speak up for myself. But I am a very quiet and anxious person so I didn’t quite live up to my own expectations😅 Truthfully, I was scared. Both men were far older and stronger than me (not to mention FAR more experienced in my work place. If I made an issue out of it I’d be the one to go) and I had actually developed friendships with them. I was worried that I was going to mess it up. Naive? Maybe. Probably. But that was the first time a coworker started putting their hands on me and I didn’t know what to do. Anyway, I was just offering the story as some insight (maybe?), cause I know my situation wasn’t a BIG deal, but it’s a sample of how bad it could be.
@@phoenixharris9857 of course they see acceptance of compliments as a sign to move forward...their compliments are asking you if they can move forward lol Thats the point of this video, men getting all the blame when it takes two to tango. Like come on, YOU were anxious and nervous? The guys had to make a move and compliment you knowing full well that you might think they are jerks. They might have been nervous too, but decided to go through with it. Not tryin to attack you, this is more of a general thing rather than directed personally towards you, but if some dude is going to take a chance and hit on you then the least you can do is say yes or no (or you arent sure about it) rather than just sweat about it and go tell someone else, he needs an answer cuz if it isnt "no" he will probably continue and that can lead towards bad things for him and you because he couldn't read a woman's mind vs their actions. But again, it seems like the only focus is on how the woman feels in the situation and it paints the men in a negative way. This causes tons of dudes to feel like they cant approach women, and when they finally get the courage too, a story like yours will demolish that courage because it tells them that they can not hit on you, and must wait for you to hit on them. Women hardly ever make the move, and especially one like you, if anxious and shy and all that (which is fine) its gonna make a guy who wants you not be able to do anything, and that will float in his mind constantly and could get in the way of him seeing you for who you really are, because he is stuck trying to figure out how to flirt with you or if he even should, when he knows he wants to. And thats why there are so many men who dont bother considering you, because then they would have to deal with all that stuff i explained and way more, constantly, thats why the "nice guys" usually dont get anything done, they are trying to figure out how to approach you to keep you comfortable and also feeling safe, meanwhile the other dudes just want to charm you so its yest to anything and its much easier. Some men (like me) cant just charm a girls pants off because I force myself to always be aware they are a person with a soul and not just an attractive being. Imagine all this stuff running through your mind when a cute girl says hi to you...thats what its like for a considerate guy sometimes.
Sorry for the novel but I really wanted to get into the complexities of these situations that both sexes face because i think it offers more of an understanding that we do NOT know what the hell we are doing so we should cut each other some slack
@Kyndral22 I think I understand what you’re saying. But my issue is I just accepted a compliment. It’s not like they had a slow considerate process or way to move forward. I was happy with their compliments, I said thank you, and then spent my next shift with hands all over me. There was no conversation or close bonding in between. We were good coworkers one shift, then next we suddenly were not. It should be also mentioned that these men were the same age as my dad (I was 19). It should be pretty clear to these two full grown men with families that just because I said thank you doesn’t mean I was open to being touched. And because these were two middle aged men I did go to the supervisor cause that’s what I’ve always been told to do. Besides, giving a compliment and having it received isn’t a sign to move forward. It especially doesn’t mean you can put your hands on someone. How can us women freely accept compliments if there’s a fear of underlying intentions behind something that’s just supposed to be nice? If you’re giving a compliment and expect something back then it’s not really being nice, you know? I’ve had other male coworkers compliment me simply cause they liked what I was wearing/doing, but they never took my gratitude as a sign to move forward. Those are the guys I really believe to be nice, because their compliments were genuine and expressed to me without expecting anything back. Compliments should come without strings attached and if you’re asking, “Then what’s the point?” I’m sorry to say this but I don’t think you’re being as nice as you think you are. (I’m also not trying to attack you. I don’t mean you specifically, but those who see it that way.) If you’re just trying to be a nice and considerate guy, then go ahead and give a compliment! If your compliment is received then, yay! You’ve made somebody’s day a little better! If not, just move on. Just because they’re guarded doesn’t make you a creep, if you understand yourself and what your intentions are then you know that. Compliments are meant for encouragement, uplifting, appreciation, and at MOST an opening for conversation. But if it’s taken farther than that, it does feel threatening. Although I still accept and give compliments to the people around me, my situation has taught me to be wary of men’s intentions. If my situation had been any worse or if I had gone through it numerously I might be more guarded like others.
Preach doesn't always speak as much as Aba, but when he does he earns his name.
Yeah, I honestly don't know how Preach suffers Aba hogging so much microphone time and even speaking over him at times.
Two women are on a date together. The check comes and is paid for without incident or any uncomfortable hesitation.
GREATEST piece of fiction ever told.
No standards like double standards, right, ladies?!
Hell I feel like it’s like a triple standard
And she still doesn't know half of our men's struggles. We die more, pay more taxes, commit suicide more, more likely to have our own kid stripped from us in family court or to be put on child support etc etc...
Women don't know or care
MGOTW knows, MGTOW cares, MGTOW remembers.
Exactly.
you're so fucking dumb. most women genuinely don't care as long as women are being taken care of (regardless if it's directly or indirectly) everything else is irrelevant including the sacrifices men make.
"We don't need your empathy, your sympathy is enough."
So on point fellas. Many women expect the empathy of men but are unwilling to extend their sympathy back. Powerful observations and another great video!
I’ve never been in the situation that she described in that last part. But even though everyone does have the right to take back their consent at any point, I’m sure it wouldn’t make it any less frustrating and make you feel like they were actually lying rather than they just changed their mind.
My logic for "who pays" is, the person that invited is the one that pays. Man or woman, if you invite, then you at least sincerely offer to pay.
... Or you just pay for what you eat 🤷🏽♀️
@@Zeverinsen sure, that's also a good option, a very German one
My original opinion comes from culture though
@@Zeverinsen Hmmmm... I'd still feel mislead. Maybe it's me, but in my book whoever invites arranges the event from A to Z. I do make a difference between inviting someone to an event and asking them if they wish to join an event.
An G lol no culture is offering your guest a drink, cooking the food and hosting paying for someone isn’t culture...
@@chickenlittle567 Sounds like you haven't met nice, Turkish people. They're like the grandmas almost forcing you to eat. It's nice, but kind of weird for me to literally get invited into your stranger neighbour's flat just for food, drinks, and hospitality. Definitely cultural, because we're I'm from that both looks weird, and isn't reciprocated.
I am female and have dated both genders and went "dutch" or paid for the whole meal. When I paid for both our meals the women were grateful but the men were next level grateful. It was noticeably different.
Preach, at least she got it. Some people walk through life and never experience the empathy that she has. What if you had a revelation and then someone said, "Well, you should have known that already?". I absolutely understand what you're saying. Especially the solution to something is not the initial problem. If I'm not a subscriber I will definitely be one. You guys are awesome.
Yes I don't like everyone hating on her in these comments! And on top of that she is willing to share her lessons with the world that should count for something! Man this is sadly making me realize that people will find any reason to hate on people these days. 😕
I guess it really depends of the people. I once went to a bar with some friends that invited me because they wanted to drink something. It was my birthday (do I need to tell that they didn't invit me because it was my birthday, but only because they were thirsty). I expected at least that people paid for themselves since I wasn't the one wanting to go there, and since I was somehow dragged along without really wanting it. But for some reasons, all of them "didn't have money". I had to pay for the boyfriend of the girl, who said "I will reimburse you, I am sorry since it's your birthday". Had to pay for 2 others guys. And had to pay for the girl in question. No one, obviously, reimbursed me, and since I am not greedy I didn't ask twice to get them pay me back. I understood that none of them had the intention to reimburse me at first. It wasn't even a date, just some after school meeting at a bar, they obviously had to pay for themselves, but they didn't, and never felt ashamed for that. I am someone who is pretty honest. I always paid my part on a date, even though I wasn't the one inviting, it has always been a point of honor, even when I was a student. Never made a guy pay for me. Never. I feel like just some people lack of good manners and feel entitled to everything for some reasons. Since I am really not like that, people like this make me angry the most. So maybe more girls are actually like that, but guys also see you as a walking wallet, even more if you are someone "naive" and honest. And the more you are honest and generous, the more people will try to take advantage of you, no matter your gender. Now I am a 30 years old, I am not fooled by those tricks anymore (and anyway I am with someone since many years now, so all of that is not my problem anymore), but well, it was a long way to go. Most people are rude, dishonest and selfish as fuck, and only a few deserve generosity. It's on us to find the ones who deserves it.
That's because selfish entitlement and narcissism is disgustingly common among women, women cannot empathize towards men, this is why ppl ssay women could never truly love a man women only like what men can do for them
@@kuja5809 Not true. Some of us just want to be loved for who we are. While we might like it if a man spoiled us and in fact even want it that in and of itself is not fully enough, not if we don't feel truly appreciated by them. That in and of itself cannot make us love them.
@@kuja5809 bro she didn't even realize she just proved ur point lol
what gets me is that we somehow "need" the wisdom of a bisexual woman who dates women to tell other women how men think.
very strange times
Right. It's like a woman has to be the one to legitimize the complaints of men to other women. If there was a scenario where the sexes were switched on that, the woke crowd would have a field day. No a field _year._
Absolute bullshit.
@@ThomasJDavis I know, dude! People don't understand how childish and barbaric it is to try and make society work like that.
@Atur Sams yuh. these be some really screwed up times
We live in the worst timeline
No one "needs" it? She just made a video based on what she learned (flawed or not). No one "needs" the opinion of Aba and Preach, they're just putting it out there cause they can. I like both creators, I'm just sayjng
“The kisses promised were not the kisses received”
So girls are like cable companies
Every single dependent personality problem in the West
"Whats wrong with selective equality " .... damn I felt that
Idk why I died when he said that 😂😂😂
'' Women have integrity amnesia what they agree to on the front end they don't always agree to on the back end''. It could also be considered as a form of double think.
100% agree with you. I had an agreement with a girl friend that was struggling with paying her rent, that I would move in with her in order to help her out and I would give her a certain amount each month as rent help which she happily agreed to. Months later she said that she felt it was unfair (while crying) for me to not give her more to cover rent and that I should pay for utilities as well (Note I used 1 room and she had the rest of the house to herself plus 2 dogs). She ended up saying that she didn't remember agreeing to our arrangement and tried to guilt trip me into doing so for months. In the end I got tired of saying no and moved into another place smh...
@@ZayTson "Anything you do for a woman more than three times is no longer a favor it's an obligation."
Square pimp brigade lets go!
Some 1984 motives, life is turning into a George Orwell book in front of our eyes.
Omg!!! This!!! They agree but when it comes to them all of a sudden they don't agree... yea sure thing let me just flip flop real quick. They don't want equality they want their cake and to eat it too
"I like, totally understand what's it's like to be a man now" Um no. The arrogance is staggering.
Is it that hard to be a man? Maybe a man who is also a minority. I can see that. But I think it's bad for both sexes.
why is it arrogant???? why is she fucking getting hate for trying to understand men and telling other women that they are making things hard for men???? WHY ARE MEN HATING ON HER FOR TRYING TO HELP MEN OUT?
@@CapeEniEer Because she isn't.
@@CapeEniEer It's cringe as hell and nobody's buying it, because the people she's saying she "understands" are seeing this knowing full well she hasn't even scratched the surface on the reality of what she's saying.
@@CapeEniEer She is not helping men. She is FINALLLYYY reflecting on being an ass to men who tried to tell her. Shows lack of empathy and understanding as a whole damn person.
Me and this girl were talking after I met her in person and she said I looked good in person. Later on maybe a week or two later she sees some old pictures of me and decided I wasn’t attractive anymore.
The best part is when people like this walk out of your life it’s a huge relief.
She sees some old pictures of you, eh? They didn't happen to be your mugshots did they, Mr. Felon? 😉 Forreal though, it's always a relief when the garbage takes itself out. You certainly dodged a bullet there.
Fun fact: women actually dress up and all for validation from other women sense they’re the most judgmental. Going to back to what you said about men judging in a curve.
Other women also have more color vision. Lol.
That's not really true, though. They might be dressing to look good in the eyes of their female friends,, but the standards of what looks good is still 100% rooted in what men find attractive. They key point is that they are still dressing up to look good to men, even when they are seeking female validation for how well they're doing.
Lodatz I feel like it’s neither of these. Maybe a girl is dressing up to look good for a specific guy, then some unattractive man give her attention that she’s has no desire for. If your a man, imagine if a man started flirting with you. You’d be creeped out. That’s exactly how we feel.
@@passengerprincesspodcast
"If your a man, imagine if a man started flirting with you. You’d be creeped out. That’s exactly how we feel."
1. Not the same at all. There is a difference between I'm not gay and I don't find you attractive.
2. Women should still deal with it with self control and class. How many protests do you see started by men complaining about other men hitting on them?
3. Be consistent. If an unattractive guy treating you like a piece of meat is unacceptable then it should be equally unacceptable for a guy you find attractive to do the same.
Agreed
"And there was just talking, and I don't mind talking...." Believe me, we can tell.
This is a rare one, where preach does the majority of the talking. Nice.
Lol I know what you mean.
@Natalia Aba is a bit more artiicualte and long winded in his response to things, which as a result i think shuts Preach down a little more. I would love to see more vids like this with Preach at the helm and giving more of his perspective.
My father taught me to ALWAYS be ready to go Dutch on every date but especially the first. If the man insists on paying that’s a plus in the W column but not to write off the guy if he doesn’t. I think it’s fine if what is essentially a stranger doesn’t want to pay for my meal, but I’ll appreciate the chivalry if he does pay.
Why can’t we all just get rid of these “dating rules” are start becoming best friends with the lovers we want ? Going out to dinner: offer to split the bill or pay in full, either way, have a great time and enjoy each other’s company. Going to their house for the first time: watch a movie, play some games, TALK TO EACH OTHER! Whether you are gay or straight, make up your own rules to dating and try your best to just be yourself. The more organic the relationship starts off, the more you’ll know if you really want that person or not and you won’t be sitting there pissed off about your first dates.
Danni Kris No, as a man you have to let her know upfront that you are romantically interested in her. If you come at her like a friend for the most part you will remain her friend. Maybe she likes you romantically maybe she just likes you as a friend also but if you come at her like a friend you won’t know how she feels about you. I’d rather shoot my shot get rejected and move on to the next. Than to catch feelings for someone who never felt the same way about me.
It could be that simple, but gender roles and expectations is so ingrained in EVERY society that it will nothing short of an apocalypse for societies to let them go.
Sorry that should be ‘gender roles’
David Alvarez That’s totally different from what I was saying, my point is, when you establish that you and another person have mutual feelings for each other, you should look at the relationship as two people getting to know each other instead of worrying about who’s paying for what or how many kisses you get at the end of a date lol a relationship is bond between two people, all that other crap is made up by society’s standards. My boyfriend and I are best friends and we made sure to make that a point while also loving each other deeply.
Danni Kris only reason you’re saying that is because you’re woman who doesn’t have the burden of paying for dinner and doesn’t have to worry about getting dates/sex/kisses because you can get it easier than men. Have you talked your boyfriend about this? Because I’m pretty sure he feels differently about this than you do.
My problem is with the idea, "I groomed so you must pay." Is extremely close to just objectifying your partner. Like what, if you decide to not look as good as you did on our first date I don't have to pay now? When you have a long day at work and want to eat something nice I don't have to pay when you are in work uniform? I should time myself on getting ready and when it comes time to pay I should be like, "Naa i used extra stuff to look good today so you are paying. You only took an hour to get ready and I took an hour and 15 minutes."
"I groomed so you must pay!"
"But you don't look that good..."
holysmokes44 has always happened when the last night you
Exactly this is such a weak and dumb argument lmao. If I want to pay for a woman to look good, I'll hire an escort
It's actually worse than that. It's objectifying yourself. the thought process is "me prepping myself = exchangeable for cash". and that carries on further into the date / relationship as "me making an effort = exchangeable for sex". so basically objectification is fine so long as they are the ones doing it, but if it disadvantages them, then somehow it's a problem.
Sorry, I just came in from the eye doctor. Won't be able to see you much. You still wanna go out tho?
K who's paying?
This is why I only date men. No homo.
this is just weird to say
I just lost all my brain cells after reading your comment
😂 this is a very underrated comment
😂 Holdup...
I legit wish I were gay sometimes, man...
"Its a people thing." Loved that rant. Thanks for sharing a sensible and integrative perspective.
Just to make this clear: Anna Akana is not speaking on behalf of all women. Just because she thinks men should pay on dates, doesn't mean "we" all do.
What I relate to is that being bisexual has probably helped me understand the negative impact of gender roles and stereotypes in relationships. But also has helped me understand how pervasive they are.
Excellent point
@A G: Right? She merely got a little glimpse on how the dating game actually looks like from the other side. That still doesn't make her an expert yet.
As a guy, only a couple of times has a girl ever offered to pay for me on a first date. There are two types of situations where a girl with offer to pay for her own. One is that she knows there will not be a second date and doesn't want to feel like she owes me something. The second is if she thinks she might actually want to date me long term and wants to appear that she isn't selfish. Later on she might pay to even things out some if she's nice. But out of dozens of first dates I can count on one hand the number of times a girl has offered to pick up the cheque, and I immediately wondered what the hell was wrong with her.
@SoulRebelsoltera3 yo bro don't be mad about it. Be a 10 and then don't got to worry about shit.
@SoulRebelsoltera3 ^this!
She doesn’t realize that women will instantly judge a man by his looks and expect us to treat them like a queen 24/7
Nice pfp🤨
Men do the same thing. Lol
@@monkey23gorilla 🙄😑
@@monkey23gorilla
Since when are we asking to be treated as kings? Life humbles the fuq out of us. We don't own shit entering and leaving this world.
A fat man is made fun of.
A fat woman is still loved and catered for.
@@siratlas9005 😄 I didn't make a comment to get you or anyone upset. Men and women do it to each other. I thought that would come clear to what I said. IT'S WRONG PRERIOD!!!! Not justifying men or women. I just don't like it when "we" as a society try to make it about one gender when both do it. Again, it's still WRONG! And on that note I hope you have a great day and stay safe 😄.
Anna Akana has never been that bright. Just because she’s articulate when she speaks doesn’t mean she’s right about anything...
She sort of gets it and then doesn't. Shes a hit and a miss on some issues. I think she means well .
well yeah in a way. shes not always there but whats nice about her channel is she does TRY and see things from multiple angles and i can appreciate that. shes also experience driven and when making future videos she as far as i can tell has no problem talking about her previous faults and bad thinking.
She thought disney was racist cause she didn’t get the role for Mulan 😂🤦♂️
She still the same as she's always been. When she thinks she's had perspective on a topic, especially a social one, she doesn't just talk about it but talk at you about it.
@@lynnpabontheelitehero6579 Means well... So you're saying it's all good, because she has the best intentions?
"Some of the worst things imaginable have been done with the best intentions." - Dr Alan Grant (Sam Neil), Jurassic Park 3.
I don't like many of her stances on things. So yea..
I can only give her credit that she takes on her past mistakes and owns them. Accepts it and learns, unlike most women in media these days. At least it's not the "I'm famous so I'm right!" crowd, or the really, really bad at math wage gappers...
As a woman (and feminist), my experience with the first thing has been that even though (at least starting a few years ago) I go with the intention of paying for myself because, like you’re saying, the double standards are stupid, discredit feminism and are unfair to men, many guys are strongly against letting the woman pay. Once I was out with a guy and he paid while I was in the bathroom then when I tried to pay when I got back he literally ATE THE RECEIPT. Like crumpled it up, shoved it in his mouth and SWALLOWED THE RECEIPT because that’s how set he was on paying for everything. A guy I dated was always really insistent on paying for everything and when I asked him why, he said it was to show he could provide even though I had never indicated I was looking for someone to provide for me like that. I mean the guy had a minimum wage job I clearly wasn’t with him for his financial prospects but it was like me paying was a slight to his masculinity. I used to get really annoyed with my clueless feminist roommate who would bitch when a guy didn’t offer to pay for her and agree it’s hypocritical for women to talk about equality then act like that. BUT I just wanna point out there are lots of men who are so set on traditional gender roles or whatever that they make it damn near impossible to split a bill. And hey if a guy has so much machismo he won’t entertain my sincere offer to pay, I’m not gonna argue about it cause that’s his dumb pride’s fault and it’s degrading so I don’t feel guilty about it.
She just found out what it's like to date herself 🤷🏾♂️
When a woman spends hours getting ready for a date without even bothering to consult her date on what things they like, that's time spent on her appearance for herself and nobody else. When my girl wants to get dressed up for me you know what she does? She asks me if I like her outfit, or how she should do her make-up. If you wanna say that you're getting dressed up for someone, it's important to know what that someone likes first. Otherwise, you're not dressing up for anyone but yourself, which is totally fine, just don't get it twisted and pretend like you're doing it for me. You don't even know me.
I feel like you don’t even have a girl lmao
They definitely try to look beautiful to impress you.
It's all projection for them. Most dudes DO NOT LIKE the mountains of makeup chicks wear, hell most dudes are fine with no make up at all. We want to date YOU ladies, not the monster you paint on your face thinking you're doing us a favor.
I think the whole men paying thing probably came from when women were property and weren't allowed jobs and stuff but times have changed so that should too
Some men still like that. Guy I was dating got insulted when I offered to pay. He asked if I thought he was broke. I just looked at him like he was crazy. We didnt last much longer after that
@@michellerichardson3090 I'd ask my guy out the most he'd let me do is split the bill. And my dad was disappointed that he even let me pay for my half?? Obviously if I can I'll continue to split the bill :)
@@rebekanickell8451 idk why your dad was disappointed. If you're cool with it, then that's all that matters
@@michellerichardson3090 dad's more traditional and "manly" lol. He thought that splitting the bill made him look weak
@@rebekanickell8451 oh boy lol