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  • We weren't meant to do life alone, but being an adult and making new friends can be hard. Join us #InTheRoom for a heartfelt conversation on Adulting & Friendships.
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  • @keamogetswemareme6362
    @keamogetswemareme6362 Před rokem +73

    The lord is concerned about every part of our journey, hence praying for friends in adulthood is of paramount importance. Also, depending on the holy spirit for discernment. The devil can send counterfeits our way. Ya'll are really awesome, I love this platform. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @ayandasibanisezwedlomo3269

    Currently I'm in the season where God is isolating me from friendships and it's very scary and sad sometimes I am doubting if this is me or God because I miss them so much but I definitely appreciate this episode of the podcast.

    • @yolisajijana5348
      @yolisajijana5348 Před rokem +16

      Been there but God brought me beautiful friends at the right time

    • @nuellasnuggets
      @nuellasnuggets Před rokem +8

      I feel you. I have 4 friends I can call anytime to talk to. It was 5 and it's 4 now and I feel it's going to be going down because of the season I'm in. There are a lot of self-growth and new undertakings that I don't even have time to invest in building a solid friendship which is scary because I sometimes feel lonely. Got to trust God through 😩

    • @beencouraged4163
      @beencouraged4163 Před rokem +4

      I was feeling some of the same, but feeling better about it now because of the things Jesus has shown me during the time of separation and pruning. It was/is necessary. Be encouraged and keep seeking Him while remaining focused on Him and what He does in you during this time.🙏🏽

    • @ayandasibanisezwedlomo3269
      @ayandasibanisezwedlomo3269 Před rokem

      @@beencouraged4163 Thank you so much, my Father has already began His work in me and man how great is He!

    • @boitumelomakobosheane2928
      @boitumelomakobosheane2928 Před rokem

      I am also going through the same thing , it’s painful

  • @mjhanse7508
    @mjhanse7508 Před rokem +30

    I just turned 26 last week and I'm now in a season where I feel that I really need a circle of solid Christian girl friends. Earlier today I was telling my boyfriend about me needing to make new friends but that I having social anxiety stopping me. I really needed this. 💜

    • @estamwas
      @estamwas Před rokem

      yeah people who can relate to your christian walk and literally be free with.

  • @michellemaree1928
    @michellemaree1928 Před rokem +41

    Setting boundaries early in those new relationships is key too!

  • @kejuanlynette8531
    @kejuanlynette8531 Před rokem +65

    I can SO relate to Brenda with being apprehensive about adult friends, AND I use to cut people off too, but thank God for progress 😂 I'm glad you guys have each other! This was refreshing to see. I love Stephanie, and this conversation 💞

    • @smileyperlishia
      @smileyperlishia Před rokem +1

      Same!!!!

    • @AdoreMJ833
      @AdoreMJ833 Před rokem +2

      I very much used to be that way too! Lol. Thank God for growth

    • @shae1005
      @shae1005 Před rokem +2

      Thank God for growth indeed!

  • @Tmaria-wn3hc
    @Tmaria-wn3hc Před rokem +20

    This came right on time I just read a verse on do not be yoked to unbelievers n it got me thinking about whether i can or can not be friends with unbelievers. The verse was 2 Corinthians 14-18
    I have a problem of cutting people off lol this was for me lol

  • @JassyFaith
    @JassyFaith Před rokem +17

    I love this 😂 Brenda is funny. I did not know she was from Chicago 💪🏽 but yes this was needed. I use to have the attitude of Holier Than Thou as if I was perfect. God had to humble me through a couple of people. But Thank You God 🥹🥰

  • @godswarriornana5860
    @godswarriornana5860 Před rokem +7

    Friendship should pour back into you💯 if they not adding VALUE to you, they shouldn’t be in your space.

  • @refilwetsalaile7647
    @refilwetsalaile7647 Před rokem +7

    Watching from Botswana 🇧🇼 Africa. Love y’all’s ❤️

  • @smartkookie
    @smartkookie Před rokem +30

    Friends come and go. Its great to have solid people that you can trust. Most of my mew friends came from jobs or my children friends parents. Cherish the real ones.💕💕💕

  • @bremoore4431
    @bremoore4431 Před rokem +28

    This was such a needed conversation people need to know how to have healthy adult friendships 💗

  • @Giiiirlllll_18
    @Giiiirlllll_18 Před rokem +2

    When she said" Don't be a Needy friend!" ...Shots Fired !!! Well oh well

  • @ieishaburrows
    @ieishaburrows Před rokem +6

    Great conversation!! It's difficult making friends as an adult but you have to be open to new relationships. Trust me God will send you friends

  • @brittanysands3012
    @brittanysands3012 Před rokem +5

    I can relate so much to this right now. I'm struggling with finding kingdom friendships. I'm definitely giving this to God. Thank you ladies!

  • @molebogengm7456
    @molebogengm7456 Před rokem +3

    Where is the other lady that's normally on the show? I hope she comes back. I love the conversations ladies 🙌🏾

  • @empressericka8062
    @empressericka8062 Před rokem +15

    I’m so grateful for this podcast! I honestly needed to hear this today. I’m only 23 and have been struggling with making friends with like minded ppl but you guys opened up a new perspective that I need to examine myself and my own walk with God. Thank you 🙏🏽✨

    • @noluthandomahlangu29
      @noluthandomahlangu29 Před rokem +2

      22 and appreciate this podcast just as much ❤️

    • @charitytheko8116
      @charitytheko8116 Před rokem +2

      22 and I'm learning alot about adulting and the type of friendships to keep around. I pray that God gives us friendships that is bonded in our purpose for God.

  • @annenoel4171
    @annenoel4171 Před rokem +6

    Beautiful purposeful friendship here.

  • @oscarmike1131
    @oscarmike1131 Před rokem +3

    7:59 and that’s the key. A seek ye first His kingdom mindset will always attract the desires of your heart to you, rather you go after it. Beautifully said

  • @AdoreMJ833
    @AdoreMJ833 Před rokem +5

    This was such a refreshing conversation!
    I totally relate with a lot of the points that were made especially about staying to myself because I’m not trying to be out here being thirsty lol. I too, was apprehensive about letting people in too quickly. I even questioned why I have this such strong desire for friendship but God had to remind me that He put this innate desire in all of use - we need each other. He had to get me together & remind me that He’s given me discernment in this season and that it’s not enough for me to desire friendship but that I have to be willing to move with faith & put myself out there & move with that discernment. I know God is about to bring the right people into my life and I pray that He does the same for everyone else reading this. I’m praying that we all find those people we can be our genuine self around and move in purpose with 🤎

  • @WeAreRoyalty7
    @WeAreRoyalty7 Před rokem +5

    Stephanie is so wise 🙏🏽🥰 love this show, God Bless all you sisters

  • @smileyperlishia
    @smileyperlishia Před rokem +8

    Same… I have no friends… I need some… godly

  • @jasminegeorge2811
    @jasminegeorge2811 Před rokem +3

    The timing of this video is truly God sent for me! Thanks for allowing the Holy Spirit to speak through you all. 🙏🏾💕

  • @omgmikeyg9335
    @omgmikeyg9335 Před rokem +4

    Love these videos every time you guys post 🙏🏽🔥

  • @kala7347
    @kala7347 Před rokem +3

    the louis vuitton part was too funny 😂😂😂😂 but this was absolutely true, especially the needy friends part & the judgment “friends.” authenticity is key! also I was definitely the cut off friend that would cut somebody off at the drop of the dime but as I grow in my walk with God, im more honest, more big on setting boundaries & also recognizing my faults that I contribute.

  • @Maria-006.
    @Maria-006. Před rokem +1

    Much needed 🙏🏻😍❤️Thank you so much ladies!!!
    God Bless

  • @kingdomofzionministries

    this blessed my soul! Thank you ladies for your authenticity

  • @jessicastroud3042
    @jessicastroud3042 Před rokem +2

    Y’all had me cracking up laughing and then in tears. Sooo relatable.
    Thank you for continuing to be so transparent with us ❤️

  • @godswarriornana5860
    @godswarriornana5860 Před rokem +3

    Whew every time these 3 Queens coming together they be dropping heavy gems💯🔥 so grateful for y’all. Thank you for feeding us🤍

  • @chal8495
    @chal8495 Před rokem

    Ladies, this was beautiful! I praise God you all did this episode; it came at the right time for me. 🙏🏾💕

  • @lornamcclurkin3026
    @lornamcclurkin3026 Před rokem

    I am late to this party! I'm so glad I stumbled upon the room! You ladies are AMAZING and real! Thankful!

  • @gracewangechi2941
    @gracewangechi2941 Před rokem +3

    God authored this.Been going through a rough phase with friendships then this is video I see first

  • @marjorymsuku9312
    @marjorymsuku9312 Před rokem

    So true that good godly friendships are a Gift... Maybe one day I can know what that feels like. To have good friends, as well as put in the work to be a good friend.
    Love how your friendship is routed in purpose, n secondarily about hanging out n having fun. God continue to bless you n your brautiful friendship.❤❤❤

  • @TytianaBurgess
    @TytianaBurgess Před rokem +4

    BRENDA was so on point !!!

  • @D.S24
    @D.S24 Před rokem +2

    This show is Amazing, I truly understand & I went through this myself with friends & a past relationship🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️

  • @oyamamdleleni
    @oyamamdleleni Před rokem

    This was such a refreshing perspective on adulting and friendship. I am that awkward person in starting new friendships and I have been praying that God sends my way lile minded people who will be my destiny partners. I think also not pre-empting according to our own liking like selecting people according to status what they have but really opening up ourselves for what the Lord has, He might just do exceedingly, abundantly, above what we can ask, think or imagine. I would love to be blessed with a friendship like you ladies have.

  • @JoyOLaw-gx2tl
    @JoyOLaw-gx2tl Před rokem

    For real! I agree on saying out what's bothering you in a friendship, instead of keeping silent ❤️

  • @UtobivbiOghenetega
    @UtobivbiOghenetega Před rokem

    This is great. It's so natural how the convo is going, no outline just spontaneity to each line of convo. They just chilling, having an outpouring of mindsets concerning a subject and I'm outchea learning.

  • @rosejacob2017
    @rosejacob2017 Před rokem

    I absolutely love this podcast. I have learned so much from you all. I praise God for your ministry.

  • @jesusencounteredtv
    @jesusencounteredtv Před rokem +2

    This conversation is EVERYTHING!!!!

  • @slicingitupwithselena2234

    I’m so happy I stumbled across you’ll page, you ladies are such a blessing, and the topic today hit home. Being a single WOG and serving its hard for me to make friends with the ladies in the church because they don’t want to associate with a single women and of course their all married, so I serve and stay to myself, I don’t want it to be that way, because I want that Christian sisterhood. Thanks for an amazing show 🤦🏽❤️

  • @daughterofzionjudah
    @daughterofzionjudah Před rokem +1

    This was such a powerful convo!! Received a lot from this!

  • @AlmasiD
    @AlmasiD Před rokem

    I love this podcast ladies !! Have a wonderful day ‼️🤍🤍🤍

  • @aishagreen5638
    @aishagreen5638 Před rokem

    I am only 3 mins into this video and can already relate. Thank you God for the conversation!

  • @Onalenna_Thobega
    @Onalenna_Thobega Před rokem

    I can't stress how yall spoke a mouthful. I will add and take nothing from all that's being said. I also love how you put a strong emphasis on genuine authenticity, that's one value I live by in friendships. and also the need to take inventory around the people the people God puts around me and why I'm not letting them in. I know I'm guilty there. I had someone relentlessly pursue friendship with me in this season and I told her I wasn't ready to be friends. She's quite patient with me but I'm realising the fear may never allow for the friendship to happen. So thanks for this again Guys.

  • @smileyperlishia
    @smileyperlishia Před rokem +2

    Awesome transparency ❤️So much fun

  • @shannonwilliams9958
    @shannonwilliams9958 Před rokem +1

    The beauty of even the dynamic of you ladies’ friendship. It’s admirable. How timely as I’m in a season of transitioning from isolation to community. It feels so uncomfortable, but I know it’s necessary and what God desires for me.
    Also - c’mon reggae. I’m here for it. It’s absolutely in my iTunes playlist. 😬 Thanks for finally saying that Christians can be dope and have a semi-corny swag as well. Lol ❤️

  • @artforchrist5065
    @artforchrist5065 Před rokem +2

    This is so good & right on time. Thank you for this ladies! I believe that God is preparing many of us for Kingdom friendships.

  • @cpalmer0903
    @cpalmer0903 Před rokem

    I just LOOOOVE this podcast! PLEEEEEASE keep going🙌🏾🤸🏾‍♀️

  • @amandaecheona1457
    @amandaecheona1457 Před rokem +1

    Fatima I have a very similar situation, at my own wedding last year someone came with her husband that I have not spoken to in a long time and the relationship was unresolved. And when I did my rounds at the tables to say hi and thank you, I told her I missed her and I am sorry and those tears were healing tears.

  • @reneeorsak1144
    @reneeorsak1144 Před rokem +3

    Such a word. I have always been that thirsty friend 🤪 Seeking the Lord like never before and it’s lonely for sure. Thank you for sharing ladies!

  • @maryericksonjussah8743
    @maryericksonjussah8743 Před rokem +2

    Wow, this is really insightful that as Christians we don't have to play the police of who should come into our lives for the fear of someone hurting us. Come on girl, the Lord is our Shepard and as a Shepard he knows exactly where greener pastures are. We should let him lead us trusting that he knows exactly who should be in our lives for forever,for a season or just to show them direction and that's it. We are safe where we are 💕#enjoy
    For a start you are my friends, I found pastor Stephanie here on CZcams just last month,I have watched almost all her teachings,all your talk shows,I mean intentionally watching that I was with her in my dream .
    I believe in predestination. YOU ALL ARE MIRRORS 💕🤍🥰 THANK YOU.

  • @ohianioyiza8396
    @ohianioyiza8396 Před rokem +1

    I wish this episode was longer!😢❤️

  • @jermainerobinsonjr.5873
    @jermainerobinsonjr.5873 Před rokem +1

    This is so good. Thank you ladies. It’s amazing to watch God redeem relationships in full time as you partner with Him in obedience to just allow folks in, even the same ones that you’ve hurt or have hurt you and to watch hearts soften right there. It’s weird when you’re witnessing it, but it’s nothing but His grace and a solid yes.

  • @kathyjohnson2487
    @kathyjohnson2487 Před rokem +1

    I am grateful for this topic, I'm definitely learning the true meaning of friendship and have healthy, whole, spiritual minded friendship. Thank you

  • @Zenani_Sizane
    @Zenani_Sizane Před rokem +10

    Love this ❤️ Hey Guys, I’m new in this journey with God and I’m currently struggling with what Fatima said about what music to listen to etc so if you guys can please do a chat on “What a real relationship with God looks like” because I’m in a season where I sometimes condemn myself for listening or watching certain things, and it crippling me in my relationship with God.
    Thank you for this platform
    God Bless ❤️

    • @madaleinem8109
      @madaleinem8109 Před rokem

      Clear out your worldly playlist and just left with gospel music 🎶..

    • @yolisajijana5348
      @yolisajijana5348 Před rokem

      Get around genuine people,ask God for genuine people and trust that He will bring them,just like Stephanie says towards the end of the convo

  • @sammie_407
    @sammie_407 Před rokem +3

    I love you guys...friends ❤️ in my head :)... I struggle with making friends...but I have faith that GOD is going to put the right ppl in my life at the right time

  • @nancydessources1240
    @nancydessources1240 Před rokem

    I LOVE THIS SHOW!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH! THIS WAS GREEEAAATTT!

  • @wtfavor
    @wtfavor Před rokem

    I love and appreciate these women🤍

  • @marthashalom-aviela721

    I love this so much. Y’all gave me goosebumps 💜💜💜💜

  • @Chanfb915
    @Chanfb915 Před rokem

    I appreciate all of the episodes and I find this to be timely especially as I see the Lord making moves and building in my life

  • @naomitruth2000
    @naomitruth2000 Před 11 měsíci

    Such a blissful chat as a wife and mum life is so busy and with full time work - friends at work come and go but solid Christian sisters are truly a great gift and i pray for myself and other Christians out there to find a true loving Christian friendship that would help us enjoy life even more

  • @TimewithLivi
    @TimewithLivi Před rokem

    I love this so much and resonate with all your topics!

  • @hillaryxoxo372
    @hillaryxoxo372 Před rokem

    I loved this. This was so therapeutic to hear.

  • @deejdaniels
    @deejdaniels Před rokem +2

    I haven't even heard it yet but by the title alone YES YES YES!!!

  • @quanlynn6128
    @quanlynn6128 Před rokem

    Great job again ladies 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @chassityg.1643
    @chassityg.1643 Před rokem

    Thank you so much for this conversation. I’m currently working through this. I live in a small city and the people around my age are leaving in masses (I wish I was exaggerating) but I’m trying to make adult friendships but may have to drive to a larger city to be in an environment with friends around my age who are like minded.

  • @sheisstrongpodcast
    @sheisstrongpodcast Před rokem

    y'all this podcast is too good , thankyou for doing this,, this episode is a reminder that hey, on the right path sis ,, hehehhe, God bless y'all ..

  • @Becomingbetterdaily
    @Becomingbetterdaily Před rokem

    Wow this episode was amazing thank you!!!

  • @beautifulj1982
    @beautifulj1982 Před rokem

    I love the freedom to be real and transparent! 💙 But still Seeking to become a better you !

  • @reneeorsak1144
    @reneeorsak1144 Před rokem +6

    I love you ladies! Weirdos connect 😂💝

  • @TheAniyaMarie
    @TheAniyaMarie Před rokem +3

    I enjoyed this conversation 💕

  • @ItsjustmeBREE
    @ItsjustmeBREE Před rokem +1

    Omg needed this

  • @laquonsabest7973
    @laquonsabest7973 Před rokem +1

    Absolutely love this ladies!!! We pray for God ordained true and authentic friendships to occur with like-minded believers in Jesus name 🙏😍 🙌 ❤️ 👏 💕

  • @nuellasnuggets
    @nuellasnuggets Před rokem

    The Redemptive part is big!!! I know someone with who I wanted to be a friend but I messed up the relationship before it even got anywhere. The funny thing is after God dealt with me on the issue which included an action towards the person's business, I had a dream that we were talking and laughing and everything was okay. When I woke up I laughed 😂 at the idea because of I was her, I wouldn’t want that old me close. But I’m beginning to believe in redemption not just in my spiritual walk but in all areas.

  • @ebonybillups425
    @ebonybillups425 Před rokem +1

    I wish this was on Apple Podcast!

  • @coachswd0
    @coachswd0 Před rokem +1

    When I went through this, I knew God was working with me helping me align better with people who have a heart for Him.

  • @boitumelomakobosheane2928

    Love These conversations ❤️🥹

  • @lyrictroy2466
    @lyrictroy2466 Před rokem

    Can I just say it’s good to see believing women who look like me , have genuineness convos

  • @brittanyb9292
    @brittanyb9292 Před rokem +5

    This was so good to talk about making friend with unbeliever so powerful y’all friendship seem so genuine and authentic this podcast made me laugh 😂 on day where I need to

  • @nkycrystal
    @nkycrystal Před rokem

    I needed to hear this discussion about having non believers as friends

  • @musicj953
    @musicj953 Před rokem +2

    Yo "Just say it"! Brenda was right on that one. On a side note if you all take requests, could y'all talk about prophecies that went wrong. Like in the beginning stages of learning how to discern if God is speaking to you or not and when was the turning point?

  • @MyeshaMarie
    @MyeshaMarie Před rokem

    This is such a good episode 💕

  • @agnesndodi3288
    @agnesndodi3288 Před rokem +1

    This is so beautiful

  • @BreaStevens
    @BreaStevens Před rokem

    So good ladies 🙏🏾

  • @donnap7757
    @donnap7757 Před rokem +1

    Loving this convo.. you ladies are the bomb..
    🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲 Heeeey 🤣🤣🤣 Curried Goat n white rice..Oxtail n beans.... 🍹
    Congratulations Stephanie Ike-... PT Mentioned you getting married today. 🍾🍾🍾🙋🏾‍♀️🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @nassoliaovs6656
    @nassoliaovs6656 Před rokem +2

    I have enjoyed this conversation thanks sisters

  • @bennikakuta4130
    @bennikakuta4130 Před rokem

    The special part for me was mentioning that because God is continuously working he decides which doors to remain open, closed or swinging. It’s so easy to determine the status of a relationship when it’s ended badly “I’m done with this person”. But God may not be. So I’m getting that if we allow God to decide the people in our lives, we will allow ourselves to experience what comes with it

  • @JusttJass
    @JusttJass Před rokem

    So good!

  • @kimberlyflowers6121
    @kimberlyflowers6121 Před rokem

    I love this

  • @nuellasnuggets
    @nuellasnuggets Před rokem

    I'm 100% protective of my friends too 😅 I had to talk to God about it because I became jealous and envious of other people coming into my friends' lives.

  • @freedbychrist2156
    @freedbychrist2156 Před rokem

    Am in a place of trying to understand who my new authentic self is, I been a Christian for about 3 years but I don't have Christian friendships only non-Christian friendships that I have for about a decade and longer but I usually stay by myself because most things I don't do anymore and some conversations I don't entertain anymore

  • @1201_DeZigns
    @1201_DeZigns Před rokem +1

    GREAT WORD

  • @taiwoayomide9587
    @taiwoayomide9587 Před rokem +1

    I'm here!!!!! 🙌🏽😁

  • @anitagracious2609
    @anitagracious2609 Před rokem +1

    Where are my two friends at? 🤔. Lord bring them please 🙏🏾

  • @BritniMichelle1
    @BritniMichelle1 Před rokem

    I'm in a season right now where i think God is weining out the friends who ain't for me. it scary for me because these are friends who've i've been friends with for 20+ years. but patterns and revelations are being exposed to me , and i'm SHOOK. like God if you want me to be alone just say that 😂. great episode ladies!

  • @MrsBaty-wo9jm
    @MrsBaty-wo9jm Před rokem +2

    OK! God sent me to listen to this because I’m going through a situation with a needy friend right now! When Stephanie made the comment about offense setting in when dealing with needy friends! I had to rewind it and listen to her three times! She was so on point with that comment!
    🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @carriehaouse1617
    @carriehaouse1617 Před rokem

    Great video friendship is necessary

  • @smileyperlishia
    @smileyperlishia Před rokem +1

    Ask God to send me genuine people 🙌🏽So true

  • @Lebomannathoko
    @Lebomannathoko Před rokem +3

    Beautiful ❤️

  • @Psalm5110
    @Psalm5110 Před rokem

    👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻first of all I would not watch this🧐🥴🤨 LOL☺️I love it 👌🏻👌🏻💃I love you ladies thank you thank you! you inspire❤️❤️❤️ all of you, thank you JESUS🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻