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She is always late...[Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.01.14]
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- čas přidán 13. 01. 2019
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Hello Counselor EP.395
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If I was his boyfriend i would have broke up with her a long time ago.
*her
@Yong Geun Song Breaking up with her would be a better option, its not worth shifting your entire life around someone when they dont care enough to even be there when they are supposed to.
it's interesting how he called her like "family." i was talking to my therapist and she was saying how if you're around toxic relationships, like your parents, you're more likely to be attracted to people that have similar characteristics like them. she feels like family yet abuses him, gives him food, purposefully says bad things. sounds a lot like what his parents would be like. he can't let go because of that connection she feels like his family and he was prob sad that he had to leave his family and she resembles them. so really, it's not entirely his fault. we all crave love and affection from our parents and if we don't get that, we try to seek it out in the adult world :)
Yeah thats what i thought too. Shes really toxic and tries to manipulate ppl by saying that if a guy really loves you, he can wait. Thats utter bs.
We are attracted to those who hurt us in the same way our parents did.
Great insight- was thinking the same, gosh, his patience is something many girl's would strive to find, I hope this experience teaches her to better appreciate and heckin raise her level of effort ten-fold, cos patience will run thin in the end.
Im not shure about what yr psy said dont keep all the time in mind u will be scared to love someone if u think they might look like yr parents and its false
It's the contrary, its more about the feeling that u need the perfect opposite of yr parents behavior not their so u will be attraced to someone who will be able to give u what u need If you think carefully about who u want
The friend was right, she is thoughtless and rude to constantly have people waiting on her. She's so inconsiderate and I don't understand how the boyfriend or friends could put up with it.
I also put some of the blame on the boyfriend because he keeps putting up with it. After 30 minutes or even 1 hour why wait? If you had plans, if the weather is not right, I wouldn't still be there. I will go on with my day.
How the heck have they been dating for 5 years
Rebekah Park Right!?! I couldn't do it.
He tolerates her missuse and disrespect... only one way to stop it and that's to find a real girlfriend who actually cares for him.
the man is wasting his time on that girl
Honesty her vibes are really negative to me. Something that none mentioned was the fact she would go out with other guys without telling him. I don't think she is just late, I think she is cheating as well. She just wants to marry the guy in order to be financially stable and use him. Also the fact she isn't working shows that she doesn't want to really do anything, even lazy People work.
She is really using the guy.
Here I was expecting her to be this great beauty for him to be waiting around for 5 years. I think the guy needs to move on cause nothing is going to change, the worst part is that she just doesn’t care that she is being inconsiderate. I really feel for him.
Well not every one wait or stay together because a person is beautiful or handsome. But yeah she should fix her problem.
M Sk yeah but people tend to overlook things when it’s coming from a pretty face, they minimize things when they shouldn’t.
Huh? Excuse me but why does it have to do anything with her Face? Like Hell yeah she is Not obedient in her work and yeah she should fix her Problem.. but why you gotta make it seems like 'If she was a bit pretty maybe we should just let her go and be easy on her'?
She's so incredibly selfish but at the same time he has enabled her behaviour for 5 whole years. If he wants her to change he's gonna have to be really firm/strict and show her he won't tolerate it anymore - like how you would with a child lol. Otherwise she will continue to walk all over him and he will end up losing even more friends.
Sorry not sorry but she isn’t pretty enough for him to wait 2/3 hours for a date....Plus her personality truly sucks if she thinks its okay to cancel on him,after he waits hours for her...
Well not every one wait because a person is beautiful or handsome. But yeah she should fix her problem.
M Sk I know,but this is my way of sugar coating the sit,I honestly hope he just dumps her cause she doesn’t appreciate what a great guy he is)
Tea
I had an friend like that and she blew up on me when I stop wanting to hangout. Who wants to make plans with someone who consistently shows up very late or cancel after making you wait for a long time, I know I don't. I heard from an mutual friend that she since then got a lot better but she hates me because I gave up on her. Honestly, I am more angry with myself for putting up with it for so long.
janAUpd true, sometimes it’s hard to find time to meet up with friends,find a place that is good for everyone,you have to get ready(idk like makeup,style your hair,etc) then get there so if u put effort in and the other person just doesn’t show up and doesn’t have a valid excuse I am sorry but Imma dump yo ass....
He need to be like “ Thank you Next “ to her ungrateful behind .🙄😂😂
She don't value your time, she dont value you. The BF needs to walk away
He doesn't love her he just got used to her in his life ......my friend met her boyfriend right after she lost her dad and she dated him for 4 years but she couldn't handle him no more he was not showing her in the slightest bit that he loves her or he cares about her I told her to breakup with him and I remember she said she couldn't because he was with her when her dad died and she dated him for a long time but after few months she couldn't take it no more and broke up with him
He should starting telling her the time that's 3 hours earlier than the actual time so she'll be on time lol
It seems like he went from being abused by his parents to being abused by his girlfriend. She is definitely emotionally abusing him. She seems to have narcissistic symptoms, all of her actions seem to fall in line with the symptoms. She's not going to change if that's the case, she'll pretend like she's trying to get him to relax then slowly go back to being hours late.
omg I hope he looks at the comments and take in the advice.... I sincerely wish he would break up with her cuz it's not just about being late... she simply does not respect him at all
Guy is dumb if he doesn't ditch his GF. If he stays and marry her, he'll be waiting most of his life for her to get ready. I don't see what he sees in her, but as they say love is blind.She doesn't respect nor considerate of him much less to his friends and parents by being this way. Up to him though.
Amazing, she just puts the blame on other people for her own faults,
“I’m always three hours late but if they don’t want to wait then theyre not true friends”
I don’t understand how this guy could even last 5 years.
Despite the fact she is late you can tell they really love each other. That being said she needs to stop being selfish. Time is super important for everyone. No one has enough time to be waiting on you all the time. It is ok to be late sometimes...not this often.
Both of them need to get their priorities straight. She's inconsistent, inconsiderate and rude. (See @17:02) He's consistently enabled her poor social behavior. He even ended a good friendship over a girlfriend who treats him like an option. What a mess.
At first I thought "Wow he really loves her" and then I realized, no. It's not that he really loves her. He doesn't love himself enough. Which is why he's allowing himself to be devalued and treated as a non-priority. He still has very low self-esteem and self-worth from the abuse he received from his parents. Which is why for 5 years he held onto someone who treats him less than. Bruh, please *DO NOT* marry her. You are worth more. You deserve more. Value your time, energy, and efforts as highly as you will value another's. You deserve someone who can't wait to see you. Wish you all the best man ❤
This is really about him. He doesn’t want to lose people he’s close to even if they’re hurting him because he doesn’t have a good family. He needs to understand that letting her go will not mean he will be alone. There’s a woman out there who would love and respect him. Unfortunately he wasted years with someone who doesn’t care for him much, he’s a convenience for her because he puts up with her crap.
when you take 3 hours to get ready but still look like someone ran a car over you
If I was him I would have left her years ago. She seems selfish, inconsiderate, and lazy. Definitely not wife material until she works on changing that.
Just break up with her... She is a selfish... Theses people will leave you in desperate time to save their self... He seems a decent guy.. He deserve better one.
he is used to be abused. If he can't get over this ordeal, he will be doomed to stay with this lady but at the same time, his confort zone is where he is being abused despite what he is saying.
lol my whole family has that problem that's why when I go to class I tell my mom to pick me up 45- to 1 hour ahead of the time my class us over and even then I wait like 10-15 minutes...
I admit being late at times. But I have NEVER let a person wait for me for even a minute. I was always the one who waits. ☺ lucky for me though because I don't have friends like her.
He deserves better. So girl if u want to be with him, well u need to be better before he find someone better.
I just thought that girl was Yang Sechan with a wig...
This comment had me on the floor.
No wonder she looks familiar
Nur Amirah Rahim bruuuuhhh, that's so funny
yang sechan would look prettier than her because he is a nice person =__= this girl annoys me
"her warm heart"
That was a funny joke I almost laughed
Woman or man, if you treat me like that I'm out ✌
Note: I'm not a psychologist but I'm able to suggest this because her traits also appear in myself (I'm an INFP) if I couldn't control myself or being stressed. So I know her position and try to make solutions that suits her the best.
Her traits are more likely to be unhealthy INFP (in this case, she uses her Fi function excessively). It makes her being inconsiderate to people and likely selfish. She tends to do what she believe, what makes her comfortable, and once her boyfriend/friend tell her that they believe in her, she'll always use that term to excuse her being selfish.
Never tell her that if she late, she'll make people wait. It makes her being controlled by other and she'll likely refuse it (which tend her to be later than usual). Try to focus on the purpose/goal about WHY SHE HAS TO BE IN TIME. Try to tell about if she is able to do it, she'll gain more advantages, for example she could date her boyfriend longer so it will increase the preciousness of her adult life, or if her appointment is shopping with her friends, they could hang out longer and more things to buy.
Instead, engage her to practice her Ne to press down her excessive Fi. Bring her to a library, a concert, a museum, or simply a park and ask her what she thinks about the place. Always try to make her more talkative by bringing abstract topics, for example art, literature, conspiracy (if they're able to do so), etc. I think she's interested with fashion and beauty, so try to compliment her sense of fashion and try to make her talking about fashion and beauty. But never force her to tell them all. She'll likely choose one or two topics that she's interested in. It'll makes her less selfish and she'll likely easier to find the meaning/value of something. She'll understand people's point of view (people are living for a reason) and try to be more considerate to them.
More important key: BE PATIENT.
Try to slowly bring her outside more. Be talkative about abstract topics with her. But never force her. Never emphasize that she has to do it for people's sake, she has to do it for her sake. Try to respect her personal value, never compare hers to other's value.
My once tennis mixed doubles partner had the license plate on her car which read, "Always late, but worth the wait." One time she was so late even to our tournament match, we had to forfeit it. That was the end of our partnership.
Leave her, boi! You gotta respect yourself and deserve someone better. I personally really hate it when someone coming late more than once. Kinda feeling disrespected lol.
IT WAS SO FRUSTATING TO WATCH I'M-
I personally know someone who is very much like her in terms of lateness. Not dressing up, just late in preparing to go out. She prepares to go out at the time when we were supposed to reach the location, and has to shower, change etc, and by the time she reaches the place, it is at least 45mins to an hour. Sometimes I seriously wish that the restaurants we reserved at would just not let us in so that she can learn from it, but we never go to popular restaurants, only regular ones so they always let her get away with it. It is really hard especially since she is not only my elder, she makes her own mother wait as well, and her mother complains that she has been like that since young and not sure why she is this way.
You should go here in the philippines. And you will never be late.
She's disrespectful and does not care abt him..his wellbeing such as the time he said he couldn't breathe or his time. What more should we say..wish him all the best
One word she doesn't respect him and their relationship shes so rude but the boyfriend is very understanding
I had a few friends like this..... one offered to pick me up from the office she was close by, but ended up being late for 45 minutes, when I called her she said "You should be happy that I offered to pick you up in the first place."... the 2nd one asked for lunch at 1230, I arrived at the restaurant at 1225 to wait for her. She called at 1230 and said she was just leaving the office and it would take her 30 minutes to get there so I told her I'll order my food and leave at 1330 as I have only an hour. She got mad and said that she had to stop to talk to a colleague, since I work for my own business, it shouldn't matter. That day, I told her "My time is precious too and if you don't respect that, we'll not have lunch any longer." Yes, it would have been best to lose that friend if she is always late and making sure her time is more precious than my own. Friendship goes both ways.
I feel sad for the guy coz he just wanted a family and he can see that to her but the girl does not appreciate it. :(
9:46 it's not about if he loves me if he dies in the heat or cold is it then you will know he loves you come on be realistic
Yall are talking everything else I just die when the boyfriend brought up the fact that she was late to meet the parents . An elderly woman gave her the nastiest side eye😂😂😂😂
She’s taking him for granted. She’s lucky that he’s patient and forgiving
God....she’s lucky to have him...sticking around being like that....she wants the world to go according to her....girl...this is the real world...you have to somewhat have to follow
the love he has for her .. like "we been together for 5 yrs" ... oh lord thats crazy... he must be really patient with her .. girl needs to get her act together be4 another girl eating beef steals him from her..
If she truly loves him she wouldn't make him wait.
She’s mediocre-looking at best and a selfish, self-centered brat. Her boyfriend is too good for her and needs to walk out the door. Unbelievable that he even put up with her antics for this long. People need to stop enabling this woman.
Being habitually late isn’t about just being late. It’s being inconsiderate.
She's adorable
It hurts me when he calls her "family". I can feel that he truly loves her even tho i don't think she does.
I have a friend who is just exactly like her. Now we are not that close anymore because I cannot take her behaviour. I did not want to feel upset all the time because she always turned up late 2 to 3 hrs, so I chose to keep my distance. With my personality who always try to be punctual, I would never understand this sort of habit. Not that I did not try to be considerate to my friend, but I could not let her do whatever when I knew it's a bad habit that she had to fix. I hope this girl can change and start learning to respect other people's time too.
Wish to meet someone like him
I dont understand how someone can be so very inconsiderate and selfish, very thoughtless as well. I consider myself to be considerate even when I dont exactly want to be but you gotta do what's right
The girl is so inconsiderate and I feel bad for her because employers don't like late workers. You can even get fired for excessive lateness. The guy needs to find someone else who will make him happy and not use his parents situation against him. He also needs to apologize to his friend because it's friends over relationships till you say "I DO". I have late friends myself and I never entertain them once they are late. I always tell them "At this rate in which you are late, hope you won't be late for your own funeral because it looks to me like you'll miss it." He has entertained her enough, it's time he moves on and finds someone else.
I’ve dealt with people like this in my life. Honestly it just boils down to they are inconsiderate and don’t want to have to wait for anyone so they make everyone wait on them. Just people with big egos. After a while, everyone around you doesn’t want to invite you out anymore.
You should be grateful as guys like the bf is very rare these days
Her friend and sister are right when they said she is rude and inconsiderate by making people wait for her. Also, the boyfriend shouldn't have continued to put up with this. She shouldn't have made him wait 2 to 3 hours on the first date. I think he should've broken up with her a long time ago.When was having an allergic reaction and almost died she made him wait while she went shopping for her pet. That is horrible and that along with always being late would be reasons to break up with her. But he has also continued to let her do this and he should've been more firm about it. She is also selfish. i like that he said he will break up with her if she doesn't change. I think it's wrong of her to be upset if someone makes her wait, but she thinks it's okay to make others wait.
I am a person who doesn't like to be late. I think I am only late for only once? twice? per year and in those times that i'm late, i would feel so nervous and guilty at least for the first few hours... on the other times, i would be at least 10 minutes early, or even 1 hour earlier... idk how can she stand being late for so many times....
나는 남자가 대단하다고 느껴진다
헤어지지 않았다는게,,,,,흠,,,,
대단한게 아니라 멍청한거죠 ㅋㅋ
I don't understand why he didn't break up with her. I think their relationship is a little bit toxic.
Here is an easy solution to this. Tell her the date an hour/two hours/three hours earlier than it actually is. So she either comes on time(if she is late lol) or comes early(and experience waiting, maybe she'll understand then lol).
Or you can both come late lolll. If you are both late technically you are both on time Lolololol (unless it's a pre-booked event like a bought movie ticket or something)
what!!!!!!! love is mutual.
She is not pretty thus she wants to look pretty and it takes time for her to be pretty... so she always late😂Sorry but... overall..she is rude and not attractive...man leave her😶
If you are true hosts you will wait for her answer 😂😂😂😂
She is taker not giver
yeay~
Her name shouldn't be sloth but "slowth" get that😏
Y do I feel like she talks like Suga? In that slow and calmly composed way...
Looks a bit like him too, without the makeup and all...
Am I the only one???
I have the same problem as her. I like to play my phone for a while after i wake up and i’m very lazy to leave my bed also i take super long to choose my outfits i keep changing and changing but i’m aware of myself and i will feel bad if i make someone i’m meeting wait for me for hours so i wake up extra 2-3 hours early and if i know that i’m surely gonna be late i inform my friend in advance to not leave the house first because i will be late so if she knows that she’s this kind of person she should be more considerate and put in more effort to wake up earlier to prepare there’s no excuses and stop pulling out the if he loves me he should wait for me thing it’s super selfish and inconsiderate!
I just clicked, and the title reminded me of Kakashi
23:52 wow our thoughts match😂
He should just break it off and see if she’ll be motivated to change by that. She’s taking him for granted and she probably doesn’t feel like he’s really going to break it off due to their 5 year history. If it’s a problem now then it’ll be a bigger problem when they decide to get married.
Why not tell her the real time theyre supposed to meet and give her an appointment thats three hours earlier than the usual
Dude, please stay away from her before you got trapped deeper. She is so selfish. She doesn't deserve you. Please do before you regret. You deserve a better girl.
And I thought my exes were rude.
im sorry, what’s a dialect and why’s it like a big thing in korea?
The word is egocentric. She thinks the world revolves around her. I don't see her changing. She may even end up alone.
I don’t know how he did it for 5 years!! I get anxiety when me or the person I’m hanging out with is late or going to be late so if I were her friend I wouldn’t be able to do it! I hate being late and I’m always 10 to 15 minutes early so I wouldn’t care if she was still in her Pajamas I would drag her out of her house so we wouldn’t be late! Or at least just pull out whatever outfit I find in her closet, tell her to get dressed and drag her out once she’s out! Seriously how did he wait for 3 hours for 5 years!!
She is taking him for granted
yeongja didnt say a word bro, thats it
omg i have a friend like this. its really annoying!! when i let her decide the time, she will be late again even her house is near from our meeting place. i once said to her "youre not even working but youre like this? how unprofessional" SHE IS ALWAYS LATE AND SHES NOT EVEN SORRY LMAO
가장 기본인데 죽을때까지 안바뀝니다 헤어지는게 답
I’m always late but I’m not that late. I’m lazy enough to not eat food even if I starve to death but I’m not like her. I wonder how she survived all this time
I can't believe there's someone like this. It couldn’t be worse.. terrible.
I would walk away on our first date if the guy is late!! 😤😤
I know this is beside the point, but Hui looks well and I hope he’s okay after the whole Hyuna and E’Dawn business.
Not related to the concern but that girl at 4:55 kinda looks like Hani from EXID
If I want to hang out with her but often damn late on time, I don’t want to deal with it! I rather to be on time and go on to enjoy with true friend. But her...I don’t think so.
Because it happened one time when my friend and I were waiting for other friends to come to restaurant to celebrate her birthday but end up to wait for two damn hours! We were pissed off and hungry! My mom texted me if I have enjoy my dinner with them but I told her...in annoying that I haven’t eat!! She was like...oh my lord. At the end, I went home late after ten clock pm. My mom doesn’t want to bother me if how was my day because I was pissed. 0.0”
The girl friend only loves herself. Until she can learn to respect her family and friends, she does not deserve a boyfriend. I do not think that the man is even a boyfriend. She has not shown even an ounce of caring towards him. She should just stick to dating herself.
When she told him to find someone else if he can’t wait, he should just be quiet and find someone else without a clear breakup with her. It’d be nice if she still calling and expecting him to wait for her while he’s got new gf already. I have a friend who’s always late. I’d told her to meet at 10AM but I leave my house around 11AM and we will meet around 11.30AM which is fine. Now she’s still late but only when her patients have urgent issue, but that’s totally understandable now since doctor can’t just ditch their case. This girl, however, has no good excuse and just rude. She’s not even pretty, almost below standard actually...
Come on bro 😑😑😑 leave her 😏
People who are late create dead time for those who are waiting. I won't stand for it anymore.
Dude how is he still with her??
To the boy at first you see her problem being late why you still go on date to her!
There is one way , tell her 1 hour before the time
You'll probably have to tell her 3 hours before the time since she will arrive anywhere from 30 minutes to 3 hours late. You don't know which one it'll be that day. Lol
만약에 저 여친분이 저래도 약속 시간을 안지킨다면 그땐 진짜 방법이 없지 그땐 남친분이 여친을 포기해야 상황까지 오는 거지 저 여친분이 만약 내 여친이었다면 나는 저런 여친과 안사귄다 나는 약속 시간을 안지키는 여자 안좋아하고 질색이다
나는 약속 시간 안지키는 여자 싫어 한다
그와중에 남자친구가 있네
I would befriend her longtime ago . Wahhh that guy is way to patient
wow~! he is so handsome. (sorry)
I hope they're not together now😩
PH time is real
Damn people are really wasting their lives on people like this 🙄 if someone doesn't care enough to put time and effort into you when you would do it for them , DROP THEM!
7:55 vampire teeth