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My mom is selfish! Please let me live my own life! [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.02.04]
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- čas přidán 9. 02. 2019
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Hello Counselor EP.398
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"Do as I say not as I do" at its finest
OMG, YES. EXACTLY. smh
spot on.
this is like every asian mom tbh. You get the whole "be home before the sunset" "can't date till you graduate college" "you can't have no opposite gender friends"...then the day after you graduate college they go"WHERE IS YOUR BOYFRIEND?!"
This is also exactly like every african mom too! lol
Oh man!!! This is so true!!!!
@@oluwabunmiaseperi5638 i second that. tho the guy part ait that harsh.
My boyfriend is in a nation called the IMAGINATION 😂😂😂
Suddenly hate being asian, my parents did the same thing too, I really hate them for destroying my life
My mom doesn't even give me a curfew and I still come home before 8pm😂😂😂 I have no life, but I enjoy being home👋🏻
Taehyung's Scenery same😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@yglove8138 army
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Same she always tell me go hang out with your friends ...you are always at home
Nothing wrong with enjoying your home :) it's pretty common with introverts for example to like to come home to unwind and recharge
calling your husband's boss is some next level crazy
A new way to get your husband fired
Tsk. Her mom will never leave her alone even after shes married.
Krystal Chi exactly. She seems to be a control freak who will tell her who to marry, where to get married, how to name her babies and on and on and on.. I feel really sad for her
There is something wrong with his mentality lol, why would someone cut their daughters hair as soon as she arrive, just because she was late.
I believe her mom will never control her anymore after she get married because she dont want bad friend influence her daughter. In islam this is the teachings that parents should do to their children. Thats why many bad thungs happened to children because their parent hever cant control them anymore or parent dont care what their children do or too sporting.
"Let's take a moment for the viewers to relax" IM WHEEZING
Sameee🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂 editors ❤️
Same!!!!
Same
'She's a bad judge at character' Lady, of course she is. You chose her friends for her and never let her be with different kinds of characters. She needs to interact with different kinds of characters to be able to distinguish good from bad people. She's being selfish and a hypocrite
Meanwhile here...im 24 and my mum's begging to get out, find a good man and give her some babies...This week she gave me a judgmental stare when we saw an ex classmate with 2 kids...
Same. But now im 26 😂
Hahahaha same boat
Im 24 too but maybe im too being introvert cant find any man 😂😂😂😂
@@vlee7025 I totally understand you.
Your to young to have kids
When the mom said “ she doesn’t need dating experience “ how else will she be able to learn to love. By the time she has a husband she’ll probably be clueless. Btw she’s adorable 😍 and has a baby face
I'm an adult . Whenever I go out, I will automatically tell my mom where I go and with who because I respect my mom and the freedom that she gave me. So my mom knows that she can trust me. I think her mom needs to learn how to trust her daughter . If you are too strict with her, she will hesitate to share her true thoughts and feelings. This is not healthy . I am thankful that my parents are not like that. They are strict but not till such extend. To trust and to honour it is what they both need to learn and practiced .
exactly same here. Ive never had too much of a problem. yes my parents would text me telling me how late it was, but thats about it. I could easily just say ok to them and continue with my night and we would still be fine the next morning
exactly, and how i wish my mom would read this, i can relate with the daughter and i really cant talk about this with mom, if i want to discuss something, she just ignored me and 'you are just a child, i live longer than you', she will get mad too if i talk like this about her, knowing i cant get out of this just stressed me out
This mother is stressing me out. Its hypocritical for her to go out, drink, and do things she enjoys but not allow her ADULT daughter to do the same. Also how do you want your daughter to get married but won't let her interact with any boys. I understand that the mother had traumatic experiences when she was younger but that doesnt mean she should close her daughter off to the world.
If I were controlled like that I will flip, especially when it comes to career choices. That part where her mum wants her to become a nurse so that the daughter can take care of her creeped me out. Basically the mum is expressing how the daughter's main priority in this world should be to take care of the mum, selfishness x 1000. What happened to letting children blossom and find their meaning in the world?
The daughter's sunny and nice personality is part of the reason why I love watching Hello Counselor though! She is not really resentful but is still fighting back! hahaha I'd rebelled like mad and told my mum she's guaranteed to have no care from me when she's older. Sometimes I just need to look at some golden mentality like from this daughter.
Well, from an Asian perspective, I feel like a lot of Asian parents have their word when it comes to career choices. (I went through this, my friends went through this, and we're all feeling unhappy about this but well...) Some parents just feel like their children have to respect their wishes or have excuses like "You're too young to understand."...
@@AliceKamiya you're missing the point... this mum right here is up to another level of selfishness: she is not only trying to determine her daughter's career path, but she is doing it out of her selfish intentions so that her daughter will be able to serve her better when she gets old. Most other parents are just doing so under the illusion that they're choosing a stable future for their kids, not because they want their kids to be useful for themselves, haha.
@@rjgo5229 Some parents might just want a stable future for their kids but my mom wants that not because she wants a stable future for me but she expect me to be a source of income. :')) So.. yeah, might not exactly be the same but I still kinda can understand.
@@AliceKamiya most asian parents are basically like that honestly including mine they dont care about what u like or stuffs they want u to go to a path where u can only study study and study and get good paying job... includin my parents sad life some asian kids have to go through.
My parents aren't like that... I understand that it's a stereotype that does have it's bases in truth but I feel like it's hurtful to the parents who don't treat their children like that. My parents have always supported me, even if they were a bit hesitant about some extracurriculars they thought would wear me out. But in the end, they're always there for me. So instead of grouping people together, let's just say that this woman is a prime example of how to *not* parent.
Her mom keeps insisting it's ok for her because she's old. But rapist, murderers and thieves don't care about age. Mom looks young so there is no reason why a rapist wouldn't target her. Sometimes I think this show is not the right place for many of these people to solve their problems because they aren't professionals. Some of these people seriously need professional help and not comedians, idols and actors. There should always be a professional on set if that's the case.
This show isn't to solve their problems tho. I guess it's just some show to come and talk about their problems with what will also give them a public broadcast. In Korean, this show doesn't even contain the word counselor so idk why in English, it does. It's just anneonghasaeyo which is hello
25:08 thank you i need that 😂
Omg the chat group thingy is taking it a little too far...I would be creeped out as her friend if her mom ever invites me to some group chat o.O Imagine the opposite though: the daughter creates a group chat for the mom's friends to search for missing mom at 7pm and forbids her mom to go out!
Here is people having serious problems but I'm dying from laughter omg.
I laughed without control when the screen played the forest scene for relaxation!
I love that person who did this!
I think that when you don't limit your child, they end up being strict to themselves just because. I mean, you have to make them understand that there are some dangers and that they are responsible for themselves. My mom is not strict at all, I always go anywhere I want and I don't have a curfew, but she always make clear that I'm totally responsable of myself. She teached me how to be independent and never regret the choices I make. Sometimes she annoys me with school and stuff, and I really never listen to her, but at the end of the day I end up doing the things I have to do just because I think in me and how can that affect me.
Virginia Traverso yessss correct cua my parents are like that too
The mom is not just being controlling, she is selfish and inconsiderate. Giving all sorts of contradicting excuses and reasons to explain why she is controlling towards her family members. I wonder if she ever considered about her daughter's feelings and relationships with her friends :(
"Let's take a moment for the viewers to relax", I couldn't agree more to that 😅😅😅
I can totally relate to this! like my case is 95% similar! Worst part is they'll still blame me for not having a social life after restricting me so much :-(
Oh my god SAME, one time my mom look for me at a party at 11pm !!!!!!! I was so ashamed i never went out until almost finish college
"ppls who stay longer then 10:00 p.m are bad"
that makes sense, so maybe you should take your own advice😂😌
In my mom’s famous words, “Move out if you don’t like it.” It’s harsh, but she right.
my mom says that to me ....=(
i wish my mom would said that to me instead of caging me
the mum is so self-absorbed.
My mom and my father doesn't give me a curfew and yet I sill come home before 6pm. I cannot say that I have no life because I understand my parents' concern for me so I respect their opinion.
Its ur choice... But her mom is so selfish..
watching this makes me really grateful that my mom (and dad) is not like this and is very understanding, I would go crazy if I was her daughter. I feel bad for that girl, her friend and the dad
before going out for a date with a guy, introduced him first to your parents so they will know whom you are dating and will feel at peace.
mom: i‘ll stop controlling you when you get married
also mom: *does the most to prevent her from getting a bf*
....... makes sense
this is the reason why her parents should use birth contraception
I don't drink alcohol, if I go out I come home before 7pm, and I don't date anyone rn, but I really understand her feeling I personally think being too strict to daughter and don't let her live her own life is really wrong, let she learn. If you controll your kids too much they will become wild
The main problem with the mother seems her childhood. She grew up without her parents, she had to control everything alone at young age..What I'm trying to say is I kinda understand why she is so overprotecting, she had nobody who would protect her and tell her what to do when she was young, because her parents passed away and because of that, she got in several bad experiences which had to be very traumatizing to her - not talking now about the human trafficing or almost raping/killing her, which she spoke about, but something she didn't tell. I mean she wouldn't say that after 10 PM there are usually bad people if something didn't happen to her...She is probably traumatized till today and that's why she is so worried about her daughter and so strict with her, she wants to give her what she didn't have when she was young so partly it's not her fault, but still she took it too far away. She seems to be very selfish.. That argument "I'm old now" is like..bruuuh, that doesn't mean those things you are worried about can not happen to you again.
Wow. Another selfish woman, who thinks she's all high and mighty and that EVERYTHING must revolve around her. Lack of empathy towards others even her own family. Wants to end all of their other relationships and just be bind with her while she can go out almost everyday, came home late and drunk. Lol the irony.
She is narcissict, thats why rules apply to other but not herself And thats why she plays nice there, but as her friend say SHE SCREAMS And mistreat her daugher at home
........she's insane. (lmao, but not really...cuz she's being super selfish) :/
boys look fr booty men look for marriage
She needs to go see a psychiatrist for her controlling issues and her selfishness.
I KNOW HER MOM HAVE A BAD EXPERIENCE WENT SHE YOUNG. BUT DONT DO THAT TO MUCH TO YOUR DAUGTHER SHE NEED A FREE LIFEE !!!! I HATE HER MOM SO MUCH
I think im perfect to be her daughter bcoz im lazy to date boys and im a homebody person but i like kpop :))
I hope she can be visual artist and live somewhere far from her parents house. Be free girl!
The first time we need a forest to calm down.😤😤😤
My mom is like this too. But one day I just exploded. Now she's not that too strict.
My mother has never liked drinking and, before I turned 21, she told me that she didn't like the idea of me drinking even when I was old enough. I obviously wanted to go through that rite of passage, but I didn't push further on the subject because I respected how she felt about it. To my surprise, on the day I turned 21, my mom took me to the store, gave me money, and told me to go in and buy a bottle of Brandy. I was shocked. My mom smiled and said she didn't like the idea, but she knew it was something I wanted to do. She also made it clear that drinking wasn't bad as long as it is done in moderation. I will always remember that 1st drink and the conversation that followed.
The mom is 46????! Woow she looks 20 years younger! I want the skincare routine!
My mother is not like that but my father. Even though I'm in college and working I must go home before or on 10 pm but I still try to understand them at least. And I still have a life.
But her mother is really strict like she can't merely breathe and enjoy her life as a youth. And thinking that she will do it until she gets married?! Like just wow.
Yea my father is like that too. In my country ppl above 17 could drive car already. When I was below 17 I asked him "would you give me permission to drive?" He said "yes after 17 years old" but now I'm in my 20s already he wouldn't let me drive still. I'm concerned abt his health tho since he's getting older & weaker now, why wouldn't he let me drive the car for him till now? He's reading too much news as well, some more when he say that because I'm a girl, not a boy.
Ohh. Yeah, we're in modern age yet we, girls are still not free to do what we wanted even tho we know what's right and wrong. Even though we're in our right age, we can't still be free like others because we have strict parents. Haha.
@@jobfigueroa5138 are you the only child? Cuz the only child in the family likely suffers this overprotective parents syndrome
@@soniahardani Nope, I have an older sister who is a year older than me but were both an adult now yet we still have a curfew until 10 but we must go home at 8 lol.
@@jobfigueroa5138 I'm the only child, I wish my father could let go off his traumas, let me live my life as a normal adult now, not as his baby girl that has to be 24 hrz a day just with him only. I hope he could not be selfish anymore by just keeping me for himself all the time
I CAN RELATE WITH THIS GIRL SO MUCH!!! BE STRONG BUDDY
My mum is like this too but not to this extent (she won’t call my friends but she’ll wait for me to come home and shout )
Classic r/raisedbynarcissists . The mother is crippling her deliberately in order to make sure the daughter can never have an identity outside of the one she serves for her mother. Girl get out while you can...it's only going to get worse from here.
Exactly, is so scary that almost no one notice ... I Guess you need to be a son of a narcissict to understand that right away... She DOESNT café for her daugher only ABOUT how her daugher can be benefits from her like being her nurse at older age
.... Also narccisits has a whole set of rules for everyone else but those same rules dont apply to herself . Also she plays nice woman outside but yells And SCREAMS at home... Classic narcissist.
can't relate cause my parents are giving so much freedom to go out and enjoy my time but I just love being home this poor girl hope things work better for her
She was basically going to work the system by making her daughter a nurse.
Her mum makes me feel disgusted
Just started watching this but I feel bad for the girl because you only turn 20 once and she missed her chance to drink right when she turned 20 (in Korean age I think?) :( It's not nice to break a promise. May encourage the child to learn bad things o.O Maybe her mom had her reasons though?
how i wish my mom would watch this, i can relate and totally understand with her urghh
i always respect, i try to be gentle, to be obedient till i got sick of it and become a rebel and exploded, but no, mom would never give freedom bby
25:08 I was actually starting to get really frustrated listening to the mom and her double-standards. I needed this more than I thought XD thank you, production team.
Fortunately I left home when I started college in another city, but still I come home before eight 😐.. so much excitement I have😐
I love watching Hello Counselor. But it would be great if there was a PROFESSIONAL on the show, someone who would give actual facts and advices to these people.
I had the same problem until I was about 23 years old. After that I told her not to call me when I'm outside, because I have my own life. She was angry at first, but after knowing that I can take care of myself, she stopped checking me that often
When I lived with my mom in Ecuador she used to be same as her mom, when I moved to the US she still tried to control my life and it was so annoying, honestly. I've been in her spot and I totally understand how she feels.
No parent has the right to control their children’s career….this lady is so selfish it’s unbelievable 😡😡
I'm 21 years old
I'm done with university
I'm working now but my curfew is 6pm and I can't even complain 🙃🙃
I feel her so much my mom is just like her mom I have a curfew, I can’t do to much things and from dating I shouldn’t even think of it and that’s also because my mom watches to much news and those crime things.
I can understand her feelings and her mom feelings both her mom wants her daughter to be safe coz she has experienced some problems when she was at her age but her daughter wants her freedom so I can say to her mom is that let her do whatever she wants and don't be too rude ask her calmly to come home timely so that she will understand 😊 and plz don't keep in your home always coz she might feel that she is living in a jail and also it may coz her health problem so be kind to her
Thank you🙏😇
This is where people are careless just because you're old doesn't mean all those bad people won't come to you. Bad things can happen anywhere, anytime and to anyone, it doesn't matter if you are young or old. it can also happen to elders like grandma or grandpa.
I feel u girl! My mom the same cant wait for college!
My brother was the one to always cut my hair when I was younger 😂😂😂
I feel like they glossed over the career thing. That's something that is very hard to change your mind about in Korea, since entrance exams are very difficult... I'm actually really impressed that the daughter was able to prepare applications for two different majors, but it shouldn't be necessary! It's her daughter's life, if the mother doesn't have any real concerns she should at the very least let her OWN CAREER
So hypocritical. Calling the boss on her husband's whereabouts is just... wow. that's next level stuff.
Her mom is exactly like my mom except the fact that my mom doesn’t drink and she doesn’t stay out.
ok so i get where's she's going in the sense that it's a dangerous world and she wants to protect her daughter n shit but she needs to release the more pressure and restrictions she puts on the girl the more she'll fight back and that can ruin their already mangled relationship. the fact that she's a hypocrite makes everything a whole lot worser
god i thought my parents were strict especially my mother but wow
She’s the type of mom that will ask her daughter out of the blue when will she get married because she wants grandkids when she doesn’t even have a bf but it’s her fault because her daughter was not allowed to date
i have a selfish mom too so i know what that feels like, i really hope the daughter can get a job and get money so she can move out.
I relate so much to this. I now that im 27 my mom still wants to manipulate how I will live my life. Thats why we always have quarrels and mosunderstandings. I also feel suffocated most of the times. I feel trapped when o just want go spend my life without regrets.
Sometimes parents are blinded by the fact that they want to "protect" their child so that they will not get into trouble. But too much will make ypur kids suffer more. They're still human beings and they deserve to spend their lives the way they want to.(sorry for the wrong grammar)
AHAHAHAHAHAHAH they were so frustrated and even anticipated the frustration of the viewers that they put an intermission for us to chill xD Good job, PD-nim!
I'm in USA IN MARYLAND. The mom frustrated me so much and was smiling like controlling is cute. Aaaaiiigggooo
I don't know why but I feel suffocated if my mum calls me all the time or be protective like this , but I tend to follow the rules inside the house so I think this is why she trusts me .
I know respect the parents but I don’t understand why the kids just say no or leave they are adults now
Culture. For them it’s not good to go against them. Also if you shelter too much it’s hard to leave.
@@tvtvtfan3767 I understand the culture but it's so annoying when the parents try and control a grown adults life
We're asians sis, as long as we live with them, we need to follow their rules and their way of life
farah hanani that’s how my mom is but she doesn’t control me or chose my path of life for me
Being able to live on your own straight out of high school and cover all your expenses isn't easy financially in any country. Even as someone in their 20s it can be hard to move out because key money or the equivalent to a deposit is so damn high. Most people in their 20s don't have that kind of money saved up which is why commonly the young people who come on this show to talk about their problematic family still live with them unfortunately. I hope that wasn't too drawn out of an explanation
My parents never strict me about dating or having many friends, to make it secure, my parents always told me to invite my boyfriend and my friends to my house. I have boyfriend since elementary school and always meet him in my house with my parents. They give me privacy but also i feel secured because i can experience dating and know much people bcs my parents always let me did what i want
I never experienced about having “back street” relationship or having alcohol or delinquent behavior bcs i feel experienced enough in heathy way.
Mother in this case must found the solutions together to make her daughter can experienced many things but also feelin secure. Im grateful the daughter has a father who is on her side not her mom about this perspective. That’s why she still know what is wrong and right behavior out there
Can relate Im 22 and my mom keep texting me to go home at 8pm hahaha
im.sorry but if im 20 and i still get treated like im 5, goodbye MOM.
I'm 20 and I said that some years ago too but unfortunately, it is easier said than done.
@@oluwabunmiaseperi5638 luckily for me, im out of my house after i turn 21. hehe.
Im stress with her mother alreadyy
She is like indian mom u can do whatever you want but after get married 😂😂😂
I feel like I'm watching a concern between me and my mom, this is exactly how my mom is.
I'm old enough to go out with friends and such but my mom stops me every time.
This house feels more like a prison than a house tbh, I'm so sick of my mom acting like I'm still a baby.
I feel her but on a different kind of level during my teen years the only social life I had was during school hours if I wanted to hang out with friends it had to do something with school couldn't hang out with friends during the weekends didn't attend their birthdays didn't experience going out on dates still don't at the of 21 they always called or texted every 5 mins couldn't decided what I wanted to do after I graduated currently having a mental break down because of all this pressure I just want to hug her dude we're on the same boat don't worry we'll get out of it
omg my mom is exactlyyyyy like this minus the drinking and going out too late but she also has all these beliefs and texts all my friends all the time to make sure that i'm with them and not with a guy.. im also gonna be 20 in 2 months :)))))))
my parents are also quite disciplined. they have to know who I'm going to, even my friends have to ask my parents for permission before leaving. so they won't worry and know who to contact if something happens. if I leave from midday I will usually go home at 9:00 at night. I also have to reply to an sms or call from my parents. but I understand because they are worried. I can understand the reason why I can't go out at night and drink. but his mother must also set an example. if he forbids him to go out at night, then don't go out at night too. if there is a ban on drinking for their children, then parents are the same. because children will imitate their parents
My curfew had always been 10-11pm ever since high school ( I'm 15 right now )and if I was a little late, my mom would understand and forgive me. Like the time I went to got7's concert but the subways were a little delayed. I'm the type of daughter that doesn't really listen to my parents sometimes. But I am still able to make my choices. She listens to her mom all the time but she couldn't get to make her own choice even at the age of 20 😤I feel bad
wow, when I was in my second grade I can go to some convenient store and restaurants near my school, my 3-4th grade I can go to my friend's (just to eat lunch), 5th grade I started going out with my friends and going to their homes or resorts(sometimes when there was events), 6th grade, I can go to my friend's house and go to places often, and now It will be my 1st year of highschool(grade7), I wonder if I can go to the mall with my friends.
im grateful to my mom and dad because they trust me so much, that's why I need to study hard to give them the life what they want, I feel bad even if I can see their smiles, because my mom and dad married early because of my sister's birth, my mom had a hard time raising us but she told us that they didn't regret giving birth to us and it's not our fault, so I need to study hard and give them the life they wanted few years ago
I’m so mad at the fact that this case not even close to solved. I know they have limited time, but if they’re only solved easy case, what’s the use of this program? Just to tell the whole people the problem?
It’s so suffocate me to imagine that girl will went to her home without even have a reconcile talk to her mother. With 154 people in studio said that it’s a problem, I don’t think her mom’s attitude to her will change. If I’m in her place, I think I’ll regret my decision put my effort to give them ‘story’ to air. Well at least that’s my opinion.
sad but the show is funny l love this show
I get the mother. when you hear so much about these attacks on women and know people who have been in situations like that it can really mess with you. but she needs to remember there's a difference between making sure someone is safe and controlling their every move. we live in a world that is wholly unsafe for women. it's so sad that this is the case, but it shouldn't stop us from living out our best lives.
I thought I was the only person with a mom like this 😳
I think she is my mom's twin sister lol😂😂😂
While watching ..I felt listening to my life expect my mom she shouts alot ...I have no social life 😢
My mom and dad never let me go out with my friends they only let me hang out with them at school I asked them nicely but no they just wouldn't let me😣 and still to this day they still wouldn't let me go out with my friends and it's starting to separate me and my friends
Her daughter is gorgeous
omg, the girl was so cute, must protect but like legit, my life is just like hers. I honestly lost quite a number of friends because I couldn't come for any gatherings and when we're back in school, I would get so left out that I would drift away from my friends. it was bad enough that I didn't have a phone to communicate with my friends, or i could have at least be updated online and wouldn't be left out in group conversations :(
tbh this is quite a sad situation. The mom is relying on alcohol, overworked, and traumatized from attempted assault probably, so she wants to protect her daughter from having those same experiences.
My mom is strict too, but she is never like that! Sometimes i go to my best friend's house, i have to beg her for hours and she would agree if i said i'll come back at 7:00 4 to 7 (is literally like 3-4 hours) but after a while she will call me to see if i've arrived, then she won't call me until 7:00!
I've a dad more worst than her my curfew time is 5pm in summer and 4 in winter. Once I got late because of university function and reach home 6 and he told me to stop learning but the thing is I call him every now and then but still it was of no use. Once when I became teacher our colleagues went out after our class to have something but call me up scolded me in front of everyone 😥😥
Same. My mom didn't allow me to have a boyfriend or went out too late at night. She strict to me but not with my brother and sister 🍃 Now, I get used to being alone 😌
can someone help her???she needs life..
She is like my mom and always have negative idea if I am later after 12 🙂
I love the look from the 👩
She thinks to herself “am I that terrible?”
Of course!! You *****
25:11
Relax time, I really needed this.
*LOL* 😂😂😂😂
I swear I've been watching this show and saw many concerns and i swear this is the most frustrating one, omg. At first i was like she's just like my mom but no, she's much more worst. Omg
I don't know if anyone else caught it, but whenever the husband said "wife" in Korean, the literal translation was "house person"... isn't that just a little weird?