My problem is they don't give me a chance, so how would they know? The girl who's being manipulative and baking him cookies? They give her a chance. The girl who goes down on the first date? She gets a chance. There's no chance to get to know a guy in a meaningful way.
.. and it's often a blessing that he doesn't like you enough, because *he can't see your worth but your worth was and is always there.* If a person likes you or not, it never adds to or takes away a millimeter of your value 💛
When a guy truly likes you he does not play games: I.e - pulling back, hot and cold, breadcrumbing. If he is doing these things it is because he is unsure about you but still wants your assets. I feel like this should be the preamble to every ‘dark psychology’ ‘do this when he does this’ dating advise video. There is no hope of a relationship working out if he plays games. Place your hope elsewhere and do not give him the assets.
All of my ex boyfriends kept me in the grey area but my boyfriend now doesn't keep me in the grey area when he thinks he is slowly losing me he sends me a love song and he reminds me how we met and he tells me how beautiful I am when I am feeling down
My ex kept me in the grey area, and then spent 100s of dollars on a flight to Alberta to see his ex and never spent that much money doin anything with me. I was sticking around for nothing, so painful, I really loved him.
Im so sorry for wht happened I am in the same situation currently,this guy im talking to doesnt care abt my feelings and will always apologise for his actions but wouldnt change a thing in his behaviour. I had already given him 2 chances but now its over i think im gonna ghost him from now (I just hope he stops texting)
A guy did this to my sister and I beat his ass and messed with his car and he didn’t know the woman he was treating better was born a man and I exsposed him to his family and they disowned him and it was funny, because when I found the person he was messing, with, I knew just one looked at the person imitating a woman was born a man I’m a smart woman and even though I’m married I have to watch out for my female family and friends because men now days treat women poorly and blame women and don’t want to take responsibility they just use their male privilege to blame women and yet most men nowadays want to have sex with female impersonators and marry them
That is why I haven't been with another man like that 17 years after my ex-spouse I don't want to go through that with another you know not another man never put me through that.
The way my ex made it clear he wanted me and everything fell into place. I do miss him sometimes, but my future husband will be doing the same if not better 😊❤
This is *exactly* why I no longer believe in lifelong commitments. A person needs to *continue* to prove that they want to be/deserve to be in my life...just like they do in the workplace. People lie, but energy doesn't. And when one's energy tells me they've checked out, I need to retain the power and authority to do the same.
Thats the exact point. Hes basically giving you enough to keep you hooked, not too much so he doesnt give you everything, but not too little so you wont leave. You should just go because if he wanted to be fixed hed be fixed. Hes just stringing you along. Sincerely a former fuckboy.
@@billyb4790 no your right. But it's also because typically we as men are choosing the wrong women. And we also don't uphold any standards. I realized recently as I started to intently work on myself and self improve, that someone who truly recognizes the value of the qualities I'm developing and sees what I'm building they'll stick with me. Those that can't see it will keep moving and weren't worth investing time into. That's not to say I'm suddenly some amazing person. But at the very least I have to give up some temporary pleasures for long lasting happiness. Which is more than most. And anything that could take me away from my path I'm currently on simply isn't worth the consequences of losing my way. You choose women more carefully. Carry yourself with more confidence and control. And things will eventually fall into place. Not because yiur waiting and manifesting. But your actually sowing seeds of progress and you'll reap the benefits later.
What if he puts you in the friend zone telling you he just isn't ready for a relationship yet but maintains a very close emotionally close friendship till he is ready, but refuses any physical contact because he wants to not only protect himself but you as well. There are no "assets" but he reminds you he likes you but he wants to make sure he is ready before he puts you in that position in his life. He is terrified to loose you but knows you won't wait for him.
I was wondering the same question too…I don’t want to think he’s talking to someone else, but I get that feeling sometimes…i don’t know if he’s truly being honest or not
Story time! So basically this guy added me on snap and it was the usual wyll, and that. He said that I was cute and asked me if I was single and things like that. Then the next morning I said goodmorning and he said it back, but when I asked him later if he had a a good day he didn't respond and just sent another snap. I'm so confused and idk what to do
It's really so simple, yes you'll know. I think more women should raise their standars and know what they deserve. That's why I've been single for almost 5 years. You have to meet me where I'm at :)
Late to the party but watching some of your videos. LOVE your content. I"m in psychology. That doesn't mean I have all the answers. The harsh reality that I don't think most people want to acknowledge, at least from my perspective is that women need to "date down." Do you feel like this is right or not? All the women I know who are in loving, nurturing, successful relationships with men they love more than life itself, all of them, every single one have had to "date down." --- So on the other end, I've advised a few guy friends from a clinical psychology perspective to change their standards, and in respect to looks ... basically "date down." They're all happily married. like super happy. Thoughts? Do you have a video on this somewhere I can watch? Basically do women need to look for lesser hot men/ lesser cool men to find a partner and accept that reality? --- It's only anecdotal evidence, but I've never seen a couple - to date - where the woman was happy unless SHE dated down. I just want a reality check on this. :) Please and thank you. Give it to me straight.
He will tell you everything. Watch you like a Hawk through life & through death. Men will play Bullshit- he will end their Game. There is no “Universal Buddy Code”. God bless ✌️
Okay so now I would honestly really like to know if this guy who I used to know who teased me and was annoying to me and used to laugh pretty much EVERY single time he saw me and or pointed me out or gave that look towards me that said "She's here!" with or without my family friends who he was close to ...if this guy honestly couldn't stand me or if he liked me ? I had had a crush on one of the sons in my family friend's family and I guess he probably knew it (I am guessing this but,I don't know this for sure)... The strange thing was was that whenever I saw this friend of the family friends, he was usually alone or with coworkers and he would look right at me,or turn to stare at me, or he would laugh whenever I walked by him across a street from him...and I just thought he was acting so immature...(he was a bit older than I was)...Can you please tell me if he liked me or didn't like me?
That's not really true. A better option is not who they set him up with because they listen to phone calls and set him up with A girl just to take his focus off the girl he really loves. But let's wait and see
Guys can someone tell me if a guy does this, does he like me cuz we don't really talk or text. * Whn he is talking to someone else he fixes his position to look at you while talking to the other person * He acts quieter around me and talks fast while trying not to make eye contact with me *Sometimes he ignores me sometimes he doesn't *His friends started to look at me more than usually *One time he made a joke just randomly in front of me or only mocks my friends PLZZZZ ANSWER ❤❤ I NEED TO KNOW❤
How much better do the options need to be? I don't think I'm picky. I thought men weren't picky. I pulled objective parties and even used AI: I'm a 7. So, I look for guys in this neighborhood who have roughly the same qualities as me. I don't go for the hottest guy in the room. I go for guys with health problems an gay face. I care about them matching my values. There's always something that they find.
“When a guy is interested in you he doesn’t put himself into a situation where he can lose you” very wise words there. Amen.
My problem is they don't give me a chance, so how would they know? The girl who's being manipulative and baking him cookies? They give her a chance. The girl who goes down on the first date? She gets a chance. There's no chance to get to know a guy in a meaningful way.
@@Poodle_Gun its about looks most of the time tbh so… that’s why
All I need to know , cheers
Lose
.. and it's often a blessing that he doesn't like you enough, because *he can't see your worth but your worth was and is always there.*
If a person likes you or not, it never adds to or takes away a millimeter of your value 💛
This man is speaking facts.
It’s called being a place holder in his life until the permanent holder he wants becomes available.
Yep. And I'm out. Out out out.
My husband asked me to marry in 8 months. We have been together 20 yrs.
Wow, how'd you get him to do that?!
Wow❤🎉
Y'all in the replies acting as if you've never heard of marriage before
When a guy truly likes you he does not play games: I.e - pulling back, hot and cold, breadcrumbing. If he is doing these things it is because he is unsure about you but still wants your assets. I feel like this should be the preamble to every ‘dark psychology’ ‘do this when he does this’ dating advise video. There is no hope of a relationship working out if he plays games. Place your hope elsewhere and do not give him the assets.
what is breadcrumbing?
What assets would that be? Sex?
@@gojo-ep5zu^^ wondering the same thing
I guess it’s giving bare minimum to keep you happy
Yeah im done with this bullshit. Fuck these childish ass games
Needed to hear this 10 times in a row to get it through my head 😕
All of my ex boyfriends kept me in the grey area but my boyfriend now doesn't keep me in the grey area when he thinks he is slowly losing me he sends me a love song and he reminds me how we met and he tells me how beautiful I am when I am feeling down
Painful but so true! This is when you end up in a situationship with a guy
My ex kept me in the grey area, and then spent 100s of dollars on a flight to Alberta to see his ex and never spent that much money doin anything with me. I was sticking around for nothing, so painful, I really loved him.
Same. He would go out of his way to please this girl in the city but couldn’t even spare time to text me back. So glad I’m in a better position now
What did you love about him?
Im so sorry for wht happened
I am in the same situation currently,this guy im talking to doesnt care abt my feelings and will always apologise for his actions but wouldnt change a thing in his behaviour.
I had already given him 2 chances but now its over i think im gonna ghost him from now
(I just hope he stops texting)
A guy did this to my sister and I beat his ass and messed with his car and he didn’t know the woman he was treating better was born a man and I exsposed him to his family and they disowned him and it was funny, because when I found the person he was messing, with, I knew just one looked at the person imitating a woman was born a man
I’m a smart woman and even though I’m married I have to watch out for my female family and friends because men now days treat women poorly and blame women and don’t want to take responsibility they just use their male privilege to blame women and yet most men nowadays want to have sex with female impersonators and marry them
Meh. It probably doesn’t make you feel any better but now you know how most men feel 😂
As a woman who has been cheated on multiple times, I can vouch this is true. We lost five years because he waited for better.
I need to hear this every morning when I wake up
Slay, I'm in the grey area 😮
No commitment, no 'assets'. ❌❌❌
This is so hard to break free from its intermittent reinforcement
yeah this is the worst
That is why I haven't been with another man like that 17 years after my ex-spouse I don't want to go through that with another you know not another man never put me through that.
Every time I need a reality check, I come to this video
this actually helped a lot
Relationships aren't commitment to men anymore. Loads of men will give qn empty title
I wish I would have understood this 20 years ago
My crush's parents exposed him in front of my entire family 💀💀💀
The way my ex made it clear he wanted me and everything fell into place. I do miss him sometimes, but my future husband will be doing the same if not better 😊❤
He's done that to me and now he's my bf
Here's another fun fact: a guy who is sure he wants you today may change his mind tomorrow. Never count on a man for anything more than an oil change.
This is so so true 🙌
Very true!😂
This is *exactly* why I no longer believe in lifelong commitments. A person needs to *continue* to prove that they want to be/deserve to be in my life...just like they do in the workplace. People lie, but energy doesn't. And when one's energy tells me they've checked out, I need to retain the power and authority to do the same.
Then he doesn't like me, cuz he lost me 😍
I guess I’m good then. I even try to spot love bombing but haven’t picked that up yet.
It's almost like I know he's breadcrumbing me at this point but I still think that because I still have a chance I can fix everything 😬
Thats the exact point. Hes basically giving you enough to keep you hooked, not too much so he doesnt give you everything, but not too little so you wont leave. You should just go because if he wanted to be fixed hed be fixed. Hes just stringing you along.
Sincerely a former fuckboy.
just acknowledge what's wrong precisely and tell him straight What can we do about it.?
@@jakethesnake4040 if you give a girl everything she’ll get bored and lose respect. Prove me wrong.
@@billyb4790 no your right. But it's also because typically we as men are choosing the wrong women. And we also don't uphold any standards. I realized recently as I started to intently work on myself and self improve, that someone who truly recognizes the value of the qualities I'm developing and sees what I'm building they'll stick with me. Those that can't see it will keep moving and weren't worth investing time into. That's not to say I'm suddenly some amazing person. But at the very least I have to give up some temporary pleasures for long lasting happiness. Which is more than most. And anything that could take me away from my path I'm currently on simply isn't worth the consequences of losing my way. You choose women more carefully. Carry yourself with more confidence and control. And things will eventually fall into place. Not because yiur waiting and manifesting. But your actually sowing seeds of progress and you'll reap the benefits later.
@@billyb4790Just treat her like she is a human being.
What if he puts you in the friend zone telling you he just isn't ready for a relationship yet but maintains a very close emotionally close friendship till he is ready, but refuses any physical contact because he wants to not only protect himself but you as well. There are no "assets" but he reminds you he likes you but he wants to make sure he is ready before he puts you in that position in his life. He is terrified to loose you but knows you won't wait for him.
He's with someone else . If he's not meeting up physically with you then he has someone he is already committed to
It's an EXCUSE. He is proposing interested romantically in someone else & doesn't want to hurt your feelings so he is giving you false HOPE
Means he is STRINGING YOU ALONE
I was wondering the same question too…I don’t want to think he’s talking to someone else, but I get that feeling sometimes…i don’t know if he’s truly being honest or not
@@elizabethnava2002follow him, spy. Find out for sure. Don't be naive
Story time!
So basically this guy added me on snap and it was the usual wyll, and that. He said that I was cute and asked me if I was single and things like that. Then the next morning I said goodmorning and he said it back, but when I asked him later if he had a a good day he didn't respond and just sent another snap. I'm so confused and idk what to do
It's really so simple, yes you'll know. I think more women should raise their standars and know what they deserve. That's why I've been single for almost 5 years. You have to meet me where I'm at :)
Very true . Good explanation.❤️❤️❤️
Took me the whole year to accept this. Finally accepting this message as fact😢
Me and my boyfriend used to be so close but now he doesn’t talk to me much.
Period
I'm here after my bf talks to me all the time and such and verified what Elliot says! 🎉
Andrew to Lexi😂😂
Yeap pretty much Tru
Late to the party but watching some of your videos. LOVE your content. I"m in psychology. That doesn't mean I have all the answers. The harsh reality that I don't think most people want to acknowledge, at least from my perspective is that women need to "date down." Do you feel like this is right or not? All the women I know who are in loving, nurturing, successful relationships with men they love more than life itself, all of them, every single one have had to "date down." --- So on the other end, I've advised a few guy friends from a clinical psychology perspective to change their standards, and in respect to looks ... basically "date down." They're all happily married. like super happy. Thoughts? Do you have a video on this somewhere I can watch? Basically do women need to look for lesser hot men/ lesser cool men to find a partner and accept that reality? --- It's only anecdotal evidence, but I've never seen a couple - to date - where the woman was happy unless SHE dated down. I just want a reality check on this. :) Please and thank you. Give it to me straight.
Thanks you for saying this ,it was real
Facts, facts, facts!!
oof the horse stag jumped 💀
He will tell you everything.
Watch you like a Hawk through life & through death.
Men will play Bullshit- he will end their Game.
There is no “Universal Buddy Code”.
God bless ✌️
Crap I don’t want to be the woman in the gray area
The only video women will ever need 👏 👏 👏
Thank you
Some please!! Have my sis understand this. Eight years later the guy still doesnt commit
Sis, is that you?😂
Okay so now I would honestly really like to know if this guy who I used to know who teased me and was annoying to me and used to laugh pretty much EVERY single time he saw me and or pointed me out or gave that look towards me that said "She's here!" with or without my family friends who he was close to ...if this guy honestly couldn't stand me or if he liked me ? I had had a crush on one of the sons in my family friend's family and I guess he probably knew it (I am guessing this but,I don't know this for sure)... The strange thing was was that whenever I saw this friend of the family friends, he was usually alone or with coworkers and he would look right at me,or turn to stare at me, or he would laugh whenever I walked by him across a street from him...and I just thought he was acting so immature...(he was a bit older than I was)...Can you please tell me if he liked me or didn't like me?
Wow thank you
Watch out for lovebombing though
What if he’s the shy type
True very true
I guess he's not sure... it's been 3.5 months
My friend/crush just sent me a video saying that they loved me and then flipped me off…
FACTS!!!!!!
Messi is that you 😅😢
Facts
That's not really true. A better option is not who they set him up with because they listen to phone calls and set him up with A girl just to take his focus off the girl he really loves. But let's wait and see
Guys can someone tell me if a guy does this, does he like me cuz we don't really talk or text.
* Whn he is talking to someone else he fixes his position to look at you while talking to the other person
* He acts quieter around me and talks fast while trying not to make eye contact with me
*Sometimes he ignores me sometimes he doesn't
*His friends started to look at me more than usually
*One time he made a joke just randomly in front of me or only mocks my friends
PLZZZZ ANSWER ❤❤ I NEED TO KNOW❤
I m in the grey area😕
How much better do the options need to be? I don't think I'm picky. I thought men weren't picky. I pulled objective parties and even used AI: I'm a 7. So, I look for guys in this neighborhood who have roughly the same qualities as me. I don't go for the hottest guy in the room. I go for guys with health problems an gay face. I care about them matching my values. There's always something that they find.
What does “I like you a lot” mean???
It means he likes you a lot
@@ElliotScottDating but...
SOOOOOO true
💯
🎯🎯🎯
If you declare with your mouth, Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him
from the dead, you will be saved.
Romans 10:9 NIV☁️💖☁️
❤❤
I dont believe any man will ever love me, My OWN BILOGICAL FATHER, WAS IN MY LIFE FOR 3 SEC.
God loves me, im good with that!!
Dork
th you😓
Aha
Meow meow meow
Those who never get "like"d
👇
Ass.ets 😢
As a guy, this guy exposed me low key 🫤
*If a guy is going out of his way to entertain you, he likes you. What kind of nonsense is that?*
@elliotscottdating what if a guy wants you to pay for something