Want to be happy? Be grateful | David Steindl-Rast
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- The one thing all humans have in common is that each of us wants to be happy, says Brother David Steindl-Rast, a monk and interfaith scholar. And happiness, he suggests, is born from gratitude. An inspiring lesson in slowing down, looking where you're going, and above all, being grateful.
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This just hit so hard... I work at a coffee shop and today one of my regular could see that I was not my usual self. He tells me his entire life story which is exactly what I am dealing with right now. Page by page I am literally going through the same things he has dealt with. He tell me that he’ll give me a word a day and that my homework is to read or watch something related to that word. Today’s word was GRATITUDE. So here I am in tears. I can’t believe how crazy it is that sometimes a complete stranger takes the time to STOP, LOOK and GO. This man literally took the time to say this person needs help.
Thanks for sharing
Hello Javier, hope you doing well and I wish you many many blesssing!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are a Amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That's the moment my friend we be grateful for the Lord for the universe for guiding u protecting u❤
Thank you for sharing that i hope all is well my friend
damn... the exact same thing in terms of the moral not the events happened to me, my teacher was teaching us to be grateful to try and recognize and be grateful of the litle stuff in life and here i am watching this video and seeing this comment
"If you are grateful, you act out of a sense of enough (abundance) and not out of a sense of scarcity." - This is a profound truth.
Great thought.. Thank u
Amen
No more greed, no more jealousy, no more competition, no more rat race... less fear, more hope and courage.
Disturbing... Very seditious...😉
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This part caught my attention in current circumstances where fear is whats being encouraged
It's not happiness that makes us grateful. It's gratefulness that makes us happy.
Well said❤
The key to misery is to look at your hardship and ask "why me?" The key to joy is to look at your blessings and ask the same question.
this HITS
It gives me guilt. To see I have blessing other don't.
I disagree. The points for the argument is very WEAK at best! I find existence a burden regardless of my circumstances of life and I am very angry at the creator for forcing me to existence without my consent! To me it’s no different than living as a slave and telling slaves they should be grateful to have masters who shelter and feed them scraps! I hate God if he even exist or whoever is responsible for my existence because I would chose non-existence. I really don’t care if I won the lottery one day I would still be ungrateful for this forced existence! The antinatalist were right that life is truly not worth living since a majority of the time is some form of suffering with some fleeting moments of joy! I hate God or the creator and I see him, her or it as a dirty little rapist who forces people to exist only to suffer a majority of the time. The next time someone tells me to be grateful I’ll tell them to go suck a D*ck and be grateful for my advice!
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You shouldn’t ask why me when looking at your blessings. You shouldn’t even question it. You should just enjoy
The problem is that we are always looking at other people's life and we want what they have. We have to understand that we all have our own reasons to be happy, we have to look at our own life and realize about the reasons that we have in order to be grateful and happy.
Leonardo Farnataro That's right.
Leonardo Farnataro Everyone's life path is constructed specifically for them.
Leonardo Farnataro Stop looking at the lives of others, and do you always. Hands are for helping and not hurting.
Yes I agree with you, Leonardo Farnataro. Sometime maybe if you want to become happier make the question “How can I become happier” the central question in your life.
That is the illusion, the illusion that one can be happy. Happiness is different for everyone and changes through the years. A person who is isolated from SOCIETY would not have a clue on what happiness is or isn't it is a word that people give meaning and feeling to. Rather than looking to be "happy" just accept life for what is is...... Want to be grateful? What does that even mean or look like? I know what society says it means. People are made from culture and environment it is simple as that nothing more. There is no good or bad, wrong or right, there is only behaviors which again are formed by culture.
my mom told me I am behind from others. I then realized that I am not behind, I am within my pace. I am grateful at where I am. I am thankful for the blessings. I dont want to rush things out and miss the opportunity to see the learnibgs I will carry for this lifetime.
From my experience, the ones who are really grateful are unstoppable.
Wow I loved it
This talk touched my heart and helped me out of a 4 month lasting depression and suicidal thoughts. Thanks man, continue that way, I found to gratefulness, happiness and God.
:-)
May those suicidal thoughts cease in Jesus name!
Prayers all the way my friend.
Hallelujah. I'm so glad to hear this Inden! Jesus truly loves you. Keep your eyes fixed on him. He wants to lead you, through the Holy Spirit, along the path our Father has given you in his great love and grace.
Reach out brother, theres good souls out there. X
"Gratitude is riches.....complaint is poverty!"
I agree
Complaints may be well justified and a motivation for change,
This is one of the best talks I've ever seen
Rev Mel CAMPBELL i agree
Rev Mel CAMPBELL why are you looking at it you should be listening
I 100% agree
Aritosthenes ngl we had a school assignment on this vid and I did put that comment that was my friend srry
Same thing you said in the different ted talks but
Whenever I feel low, I just watch this video and it helps me to return back on track.
That's why I'm here too.
I've been to prison
I'm grateful for my freedom
We all make mistakes ❤️
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it's difficult to have this aspect of thinking, you will certainly be happy for your whole life.
Stay out
We have freedom, we who never had been in jail, and we are not even thankful.
Life is a gift. If you're not able to accept this truth, you're destined to live an unfulfilled life. To accept the gift of life, one must be intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually present, to unwrap the "present". Gratitude does exactly that....
+NCB This is a great talk....
Greatly put!
I love this!
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Sometimes I get really cynical, everything is wrong and I get pissy and annoyed. But then I try to focus only on myself and how fortunate I am. I focus on being gratefull and reflect. And I am always surprized on how quickly it gets me in a good mood and more optimistic. I almost instantly become more empathetic to those with real struggles. When I express gratitude towards others I can see how it effects them, and almost infects them with happiness, and that makes me happy.
Also try some singing and dancing!
Tolstoy, Count Nikolai R. gambles away his family's fortune within a few hours, feels dishonoured and basically assumes his life has ended, considers suicide at least for some moments, world-weary goes back to war, where his regiment suffers from a serious lack of supply lasting for weeks, as on officier he has the privildege to reside in a dugout, he visits a field hospital in the throes of a typhus outbreak, where all the patients unmitigated envy him for his health - and that happens over just 70 pages, i.e. in said author's terms, from one moment to the next. ...
Try not focussing on yourself. It can help when things are going great, but when things are bad, it can be dangerous.
Wow you took the words right out of my mouth! I do exactly the same thing! That is what let to me to search out the topic of gratitude here on CZcams today! And how I discovered this very inspirational talk here today! I love this incredibly humble man and his message he’s freely sharing with the world! For that I am so grateful. 🙏🏼
Being grateful dissolves our ego's. Are we ready to let our ego's go. Is it more important to win or to be happy? I think the joyful world is in the post. I wish you all peace, love and harmony. Thanks for reading xxx I love you
***** so you would rather win than be happy? Personally, I choose happiness :)
ctaya Chan You can try and teach gratitude, and real gratitude can only come from the heart. Setting a good example is the best way to teach anything. Do you think slave owners ever gave much heartfelt thanks to the slaves in their care?
Julius Fawcett
That is exactly why the slaves could not be grateful.
ctaya Chan Anybody can be grateful who chooses to be so. Are you grateful for the air that you breathe? Are you grateful for the food that you eat? Are you grateful for the clothes on your back? Are you grateful for the health that you have?
Julius Fawcett Wish you the best
This talk made me tear up🥺 I am Typhoon Rai/Odette survivor, and I’ve never been this grateful my entire life. So far, I can say that every moment after that devastating disaster is a gift and life is the biggest thing that we should be grateful for.
I am grateful for this talk therefore I am happy..
@rene521 Hi there you're still alive then....yes I'm still modeling part time
Open School that's what I am about to say :-)
HoaiMyregards
So, spiritual/hippy/cultish nonsense makes you happy then?
@@mic7able Lol this is why you will never be truely happy with your mediocre life, ignorant idiot.
I was in the prison of want, but this simple man set me free.❤
Thanks to Brother David Steindel Rast
I’m so grateful for this TED talk I’m grateful for everything I have and I’m grateful for everyone for every single human being and for everyone reading this I love you so much unconditionally you are infinite potential you are beauty and perfection you are divine never forget that
In these hard times we are living now, gratefulness is the very medicine to face the challenges and keep our sanity. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
Somewhere in Steinbeck’s preface to East of Eden, he says these following words that I founded appropriate for this message as well… "The reader will take from my book what he brings to it. The dull witted will get dullness and the brilliant may find things in my book I didn't know were there." I loved the message and I will teach this to my children with love.
Wow, I love it! Steinbeck was brilliant!
This being how our contempt erodes and destroys the quality of our experience. Lose it strategically and life improves.
I recently applied his lesson of being grateful at my work place. What he says about gratefulness and happiness is true.
this talk deeply affected me, i'm so grateful to see the video, you know i was in a harsh time last three months and just few hours ago i was thinking that how can i be out of the situation and i almost begged the god to help me, then i saw this video and all of a sudden i'm changed now, i'm so grateful.
sayad yaghoobi Truly listen to your heart and you will be guided to happiness and remember to be grateful. 🙏🏻
That's nice
Continued love and wellness to you, Sayad yahhoobi. 🙏🏾💯❤️
Im grateful even in this hard moment I get divorced this year . Try to live one day at the time Im 49 and starting to learn how to continue my path in this life. Blessings from Argentina to all
That dude has given me the gift of joy by being so joyful himself I actually feel grateful. Thank you!
What a beautiful man and message. I'm deeply touched by these words. I was even teary eyed half way through. Thanks for posting it.
I also felt the same🙂
Hang in there
Damn Good Life your soft
Youre not soft... you just felt the truth deeply in your heart. In german exist a Rhyme about gratefulnes... translated means that the deeply feeling of gratefulnes bring all you wishes to you. In any way I believe in that... many thanks for posting it
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I don’t know why I want to fall at his feet and seek his blessings. I’m grateful for this moment. 🙂
Peace to all.🙏
I can tell you this...
Some time ago I nearly died. I needed 3 years of serious surgery. In the end I had my large bowl removed. I survived.
Through all of this I won't lie, it was a very serious time for me. It was my greatest ever test. I'm totally not religious. Just someone who thinks.
Afterward I was the happiest i have ever been in my life. I was broke, no job, no wife... Nothing. But I was alive. It was the best I have ever felt. It was amazing.
I felt truly grateful. I felt so happy.
This man talks a lot of sense.
"If you are grateful you act out of a sense of enough and not of a sense of scarcity" .... beautifully said
Gratitude is the key to enjoying life, happy 90th birthday today beautiful David Steindle-Rast with love
I totally agree with you.
How are you @ Janette?
Be grateful every moment that you are breathing, you are living..! That is the priceless gift. Thanks.
If you breathe, you can feel terrible pain. If you dont breathe you wont feel pain at all or 5 minutes untill yoh soffucate.
My intention to embrace a life of appreciation in every moment of my life with pure positive attitude of gratitude for small to big things thank you universe.
"Every moment is a new gift..." yesss!
I am so grateful for this video. I haven’t stop to realize that I was given so many opportunities in my life. From now on, I will stop and appreciate these opportunities. I need to act out of abundance instead of scarcity. ❤️❤️
Im so grateful for the Earth that has taken me 47 times around the Magnificent Sun and making Life flow through me through every breath I took thus far...Love you my Creator what ever YOU are
I know this is a late reply but you should read up on Islam my brother
Love and blessings to you beautiful Soul!!!! And to all the wonderful souls that are watching this video right now....
Yolanda Young thanks for your kind words
And also for you, dear! Lots of love xoxo
Thanks.
Thank you mam
Souls trapped in torture cells called bodies were they never see sun, hear loud scary sounds and feel pain
I really needed this today. Thank you holy lord for the blessing you’ve created and given us through this man. god bless anyone that reads this.
As simple as it may seem to be, this concept of stop, look, and go is not an easy concept to put in practice, I'm sure it'll require some time and effort to embrace it. Thank you sir, it was a privilege to be showered with words of wisdom.
this dude is dressed as a jedi master for a reason
To manipulate. The Ted way.
@@nonneb1336 How do you feel manipulated by this talk?
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Jedis copy franciscane 'dressed.
LOL!
THIS moment and every moment is filled with opportunity for gratitude. Even in times of difficulty or when we must take a stand alone for something that is unquestionably right. I must try very hard to remember this. Always. And never overthink and be afraid to act when it's scary, but necessary. Thank you for the talk!
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Our dear Brother is right in every word he says!
Thank you David, you are a gift to us.❤
Always be grateful with what you have and whatever situation you are in because there are a lot of people in the world that would like to be in your situation than what they are in right now. Be grateful your life is short be happy with what you have and what situation you are in.
But what if I am not happy with my situation, because I am forced to be here? Why should I be thanksfull for being alive? I must do opposite for life and low chance to die.
This is part of my character development focus. I'm grateful for people like him that spread love and wisdom so the word can become a better place.
This is soo true. Daily Gratitude has made me so happy. I record myself every morning saying things i am happy about and i am happier then EVER! Who ever reads this, have an Awesome Day!!
That’s great my man I could start using that method and watching them through out the day
I remember this chap David Steindl Rast being on a channel 4 programme ‘The listening heart’ back in early 1990. I taped it, watched it many many times and my life has been heavily influenced by this advice ever since. Thanks David!
From the feelings in my heart and in my mind, I thank the Universe:
for revealing to me that my purpose is to serve the Universe,
for the power within me to be more observant, without judgment, of the events and the people around me,
for the power within me to assert myself, and to project my positive energy vibrations in my devotion to serving the Will of the Universe,
for guiding me and providing for me in all my past years, and for guiding and protecting me from all present and future perils,
for speaking to me through the words and actions of the Spiritual Beings of others, and from the revelations I receive through my Higher Mind,
for the power within me to show my gratitude to others for playing their parts in my spiritual progress, and to call down blessings upon them,
for my wisdom to know that all events in my life, and the events in the lives of others, are expressions of the Laws of the Universe.
I am always focused on my devotion and gratitude to the Universe:
for the Power of the Prime Creator WITHIN me,
for the Light & Radiance of the Prime Creator shining through me,
for my Higher Mind that guides me through my daily activities,
for my heart radiation field that expresses my patience and unconditional love toward others.
I am blessed by, and I am grateful to the Universe that:
I AM a channel through which the Universe sends its wisdom.
I AM guided by my Higher Mind.
I AM a co-creator with the Universe.
I AM part of The Infinite that expresses itself through me.
I AM in perfect health, and at One with the Universe, the ALL.
MrGruffy 44
WOW!
I'm happy to have read your positive post 🙏
*When you are grateful you are happy*
I watch this video a half dozen times a year. It has helped me transform my mind set and it's aided me in relaxing more through the days.
this has really helped me today..I've played it about 7 times through out today....I'm grateful for life, I'm grateful for everything...
A beautiful way to live life, coming from a very deep and insightful man. The virtue needed in today's society is the virtue of gratitude. Kind of funny how a lot of people dislike this video and complain about it in the comments. Goes to show something about our society today.
Please have respect for those who are willing to share and especially have respect for your elders.
This gentleman is the Voice from the short film Gratitude, a must watch! He’s a beautiful man.
You become greatful when you evaluated little things & see them as huge things giving to you without any cost from someone else with love !!! You become more humble & a happy person😃
Gratitude needs to be expressed, especially in prayer. This reinforces our trust.
Grateful to welcome the opportunity to appreciate favors shared and received with humbleness and kindness ♡
Wow! this is so true, it hit me because I am the type of person to not appreciate things I have and obsess over things I don't have. I don't know why. But this changed my mindset a lot, I should be grateful.. Go with the flow!
I really love the simplicity.
Brother David teach us a lot within less than 15 minutes, probably much more than the majority of so called "masters" you heard during all your life.
To be happy you must be grateful. Gratefulness you get when "stop, listen and go".
Watch! Watch a lot of times
These opportunities and moments are given to us by God through Jesus Christ! Praise the Lord!!!!
One of the best Ted talks I've ever had the privilege to watch
I'll thumbs up anything positive, we need it in our world today.
I keep coming back to this video. I even wanted to show my own school about this. I'm very grateful for everything.
Seriously one of the most inspiring Ted Talks. It just got me to stop and really look deeply into what I have. Rushing thru life seems to be so common for years now, but what we should never ever forget is to have gratitude towards what's life has been giving you. Someday I just sat still and simply be grateful for just being alive, those ego is torn down. Thanks for putting gratefulness into easily digesting perspective. Keep inspiring people David. 👍🏻
Very well said! I agree we have to take time to be grateful for life and the things we have in our life. It truly is a piece of the puzzle to finding happiness.
Every one of us should thank him for this thoughtful speech. Thank you very much sir
i am even more happy than i was before: with a much clearer understanding of how the appreciation i have for life's eternal now moments (ie: opportunities) are, in fact, the very evidence of my present state of joy engendered by gratefulness.
If we are grateful we are not fearful. Thank you❤️
This is a beautiful talk. Being grateful liberates us from scarcity and changes us within.
every moment is a gift to realize this is a big gift
It is so good to see you Br. David. I never got the chance to thank you for your help. Peace, Dominic
*If you become grateful your life will change for the better*
“How we can live gratefully? By becoming aware that every moment is a given moment. It’s a gift.”
Thank you Sir for the inspiring speech 🙏🏻❤️
Lots of terible moments. How much crap will I need to go though?
I wish I could love this video. The most beautiful thing I have ever read. From Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl. Frankl was interned in a concentration camp. " We stumbled on in the darkness, over big stones and through large puddles, along the one road leading from the camp. The accompanying guards kept shouting at us and driving us with the butts of their rifles. Anyone with very sore feet supported himself on his neighbor's arm. Hardly a word was spoken; the icy wind did not encourage talk. Hiding his mouth behind his upturned collar, the man marching next to me whispered suddenly: "If our wives could see us now! I do hope they are better off in their camps and don't know what is happening to us."
That brought thoughts of my own wife to mind. And as we stumbled on for miles, slipping on icy spots, supporting each other time and again, dragging one another up and onward, nothing was said, but we both knew: each of us was thinking of his wife. Occasionally I looked at the sky, where the stars were fading and the pink light of the morning was beginning to spread behind a dark bank of clouds. But my mind clung to my wife's image, imagining it with an uncanny acuteness. I heard her answering me, saw her smile, her frank and encouraging look. Real or not, her look was then more luminous than the sun which was beginning to rise.
A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth - that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which Man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of Man is through love and in love. I understood how a man who has nothing left in this world still may know bliss, be it only for a brief moment, in the contemplation of his beloved. In a position of utter desolation, when Man cannot express himself in positive action, when his only achievement may consist in enduring his sufferings in the right way - an honorable way - in such a position Man can, through loving contemplation of the image he carries of his beloved, achieve fulfillment. For the first time in my life I was able to understand the meaning of the words, "The angels are lost in perpetual contemplation of an infinite glory."
Thank you for reminding me of Victor Frankl.
Juanita Thomas oh, thank you!
He is a humble man. No ego . I am grateful for this Ted Talk. Thanks
I can't express the brilliance in this person
Thank you wise sensei.
Loved this, so true so true, take a look at any miserable person you know, even yourself, and you will realize that you cannot be miserable when you are full of gratitude. Be grateful that you have eyes to open in the morning! That everything around us in nature is free to look at and enjoy.
So simple, yet so profound. We rush through life without realizing that we already have enough to be grateful for. Sometimes we just realize that when it's gone.
Yes!!! “It is not happiness that makes us grateful, it is gratefulness that makes us happy!” Thank u!!
Great presentation. Not many are able to hear it.
This was Enlightening , So grateful for scholars like David Steindl-Rast.
Awesome , I am in the same stage now. life is the gift, enjoy every moment
Most religious traditions teach us to be grateful, it means we really should practice this.
yep, cuz its a way of life
I was just in a car accident where I ran a red, a car T-boned me, and my car flipped. All I came out with was a scratch on my elbow. I’m been hating myself and disappointed in my actions and I’ve been trying really hard to be grateful for what I’ve been given: a second chance
Edit: I praise God for His mercy that he showed me that day and I’m thankful for His grace. It was a process to understand that people simply make mistakes and they don’t define us. Choosing joy every day is a challenge but can be done. Ora pro nobis
I wish you fast recovery mate
So thankful for these humans that continue to inspire me :)
One of the most impactful talks, with such a simple yet beautiful message.
Having been through some terrible traumas, too many, I know what it is to be grateful to be alive. Some lives are taken too soon.
... And *Coronavirus* makes it bold that we must be always grateful for everything which is surrounded us whether it's less or more. *Thank you ,Thank you ,Thank you Great Universe!*
I find it funny that people question him because he is religious. Is this video titled "Want to be a nuclear physicist?"? No, he is talking from his own perspective on how he lives a happy life and how you can too; and being happy I believe he is perfectly qualified to talk on this subject.
If you go out into the world thinking 'I do not like this person/group, there is absolutely nothing I can learn from them' then you're setting yourself up for an unenlightened closed off existence.
Remember, Rudyard Kipling in his poem 'If' made the point that we become men when we are able to connect with people from all walks of life.
Wisely spoken 🙏🏽
Be grateful. This moment. Opportunity. Enjoy it. Share. Never heard happiness shared in this way. Very profound and life changing for me. I stayed awake trying to get out of my persistent mood of dissatisfactions, criticisms and unhappiness in spite of having so much. Thank you for this life changing talk. Bless you!
What a beautiful speech. I am so grateful for being able to hear it and see this great man alive. Thank you.
I've been thankful for every little thing (and people) that come my way. Good talk.
I think I listened to this talk about 10 times already and not finished with it yet!!!!
Cannot rave enough about the depth of this talk. It says every time something other and meaningful when I watch. It’s absolutely amazing
I really love how he speaks 💠 , a lovely soul , like a caring grandpa , *so sweet* , beautiful thoughts , there's so much to learn from him 💝💠
yes gratitude makes life real happiness
This made me cry. Thank you.
Thanks,so much for David’s speech. He has touched our heart ,not so much for what he says,but what he says comes from his experiences and his life given,as a gift to others ones.Certeinly,we only live once,so it’s worth living as a gift given to us.Thanks,to CZcams,as well.
My husband aka Honee, shared this beautiful video with me via an email very early this morning.
The CZcams link was there, but also the entire text of Br David’s talk. I read it in its entirety.
I’m so glad (grateful) that it was the first thing I read today.
Stop, look, go. My new mantra.
A wonderful speech... Thanks David!
8:00 "and those who fail..................................................... get another opportunity" hahaha love the pause there, great talk btw
I read history every single day, and read the real struggles and hardships of everyone who has come before us. This simple idea of knowing I have it way better than them keeps me grateful.
You'd be surprised at how many people take indoor plumbing on an icy cold night for granted. The little things keep me forever content.
Relevant more now than ever