I once asked a friend what I should do about my constant distraction, and she said "schedule your distractions." These neurotypicals be operating on a whole nother plane of existence.
It's the kind of thing that caring Aspies I know have said to me, as well. Along with 'Why don't you create a thought attic?' , which I've tried explaining to Aspies why this would fall flat so quickly for me, so many times now that I've run out of energy. I'm thinking of printing out standard answers for some friends because the same 'advice', that my brain isn't geared for, keeps coming up.
if I could schedule them, they wouldn't be distractions. Funny how neurotypicals blame us for "not understanding simple things" when they don't even bother to listen and try and understand our difficulties.
I have anxiety and ADHD and my anxiety is like “DO THE THING! DO THE THING!” But my ADHD is like “....do we REALLY need to do that right now? That honestly seems like a future Anna problem.” And I normally agree with the ADHD....until I have three hours until the giant project is due then the anxiety takes over.
Go look up some studies about how 'future me' is actually perceived as a different person. So you're actually saying 'i'm not doing this, let someone else do it for me.'
Best thing about being friends with other adhders: you don't have to apologise Worst thing: they interrupt you and you get sidetracked and your conversation about dog breeds has accidentally turned into a discussion on critical race theory 😅😅
Of course they had to interrupt. If they didn't they would forget what they were going to tell you! And now, what you were saying about dog breeds is forever lost for the rest of the conversation. 🤓
For me its so hard to talk to multiple people at a time because i dont realise when i should start talking and sometimes they dont even leave any space for me to actually talk and when i can talk im like "i forgor"
I talked for 5 hours last night with a friend about everything and anything when it was SUPPOSED to be about our project but we would always end up gettting sidetracked. We discussed we needed to by the end but it took so much effort to even speak about THAT thing instead of something random!
Same with the long boring articles or videos with adhd tips without any fun or pictures. Always so easy to see if it's made by someone who understands an adhd brain
I don't have ADHD and I identied with the overwhelming majority of these memes. I can image non ADHD people would thus be able to create most of these memes.
"Oh my gosh this sucks!!!!!... Makes for a good meme though, it will only take a minute." 1 hour later "Oh my gosh this sucks!!!!!... Makes for a..." etc.
my mom always said that I couldn't have ADHD because I could sit still in a tree in the garden, reading an entire Harry Potter book in one day. The fact that I was soar from the uncomfortable tree, thirsty and hungry from not taking a break, forgetting to do my homework.. might have been some symptoms of hyperfocus mom :D
The most frustrating thing about “special place” is that when you finally *do* find the thing in the special place (sometimes years later after you’ve bought a new the thing), sometimes the special place actually makes some weird ADHD sort of sense, and you can even figure out (or even remember!) what you were thinking when you put it there, it’s just that your cunning plan lacked the one crucial detail of remembering the special place. 🤷🏽♂️
What's really "fun" is when you do this with emails that you need to save to reference later. I should just make a folder for "Reference this" but no, I file it somewhere else and then later I try to remember which folder it was.
I lost a pair of glasses as a kid while playing in a creek. I had apparently had the bright idea to set them on the ledge of the underside of the bridge to keep them from getting broken, then forgotten I'd put them there. I eventually found them...a decade later.
@@TheSingleTrucker really though- i'm also the same. recently i've been going on an 'attention diet' when i limit scrolling through social media and watch longer videos to help my attention span!
I’m so glad that when you talked about ADHD causing you to focus on some things and not others you talked about them being “engaging” because I often see people use the word “fun” and it annoys me because often the thing I get distracted by is less fun than the thing I want to be doing it just happens to be more immediate/shiny/forcefully grabbing my attention.
Oh my gosh yes, yesterday I got stuck in a 3-hour rabbit hole on types of closet doors because I hate the bifold doors on our laundry closet and started designing a type of door hinge that I wasn't finding for sale online. Was it fun? Not really. Stimulating? My brain though so, I guess. I could have been doing anything else in the world that I found fun but noooo my brain was like CLOSET DOORS.
Yeah most of the things I randomly find myself highly engaged in aren't necessarily fun but it was just the thing my brain decided we are doing for hours.
So we occasionally had squirrels in the back garden of my last place I lived, and we had recently had a conversation about how they seem to have left since the cats started patrolling. In the middle of talking about adhd related things, I see the squirrel and went "Squirrel!", it was hilarious. But yes the squirrel memes be jokes are kind of old.
That’s why I love the r/adhdmeme subreddit. It’s almost entirely people who actually have ADHD making memes about our actual struggles and not just dumb stereotypes.
Although I did get to live out the stereotype recently. I'm an Australian and we don't have squirrels, so when I visited America I was literally getting excited every time I saw a squirrel and cutting off whatever other thought was going through my head.
@starfish lol it’s been an hour so you probably already made up your mind but my advice would be to finish the vid then go to the sub. The sub will wait.
My literature teacher thought I hated reading because I could not focus on any of he books we had to read (I mean I lucked my way into passing the final exam). She actually didn't believe me when I said that I could forget to sleep if I had a book I liked in my hands. She just assumed i didn't sleep at night because I was playing videogames...
I am usually not interested in people. Work on a place for 3 years and still don't know the names of most of the employs. May be I should consider Brain stimulant medication.. But then I need a psychiatric.. I consider him a people person so I don't see why I should see him. Sure he is boring and don't know anything about doing stuff..
Sooo anyone else’s mind go on a little adventure on “can you nail jello to a wall?” I came up with some ideas. Then realized I missed most of the 2nd half the video and had to rewind it. 🤷🏻♂️
5:11 So on that note of it's almost impossible to do things you don't wanna do. My parents KNOW I have ADHD (they don't care). So when I needed to do chores (my chore was to wash the dishes untill every dish was clean) I started to feel sick like i was going to throw up. My parents called it my "work sickness" and called me lazy or my dad would just say "if you throw up you'll clean it up too".
Yeah, when I was going to college, I had to take a lot of low-level IT certification tests, and I used to get physically nauseous before each one. I was undiagnosed at the time.
Also, I laughed out loud at the Have you seen us keys and glasses meme, then noticed my glasses were dirty and needed a wash, then stopped at the door trying to remember why I'd got up, then looked back at the screen and saw Jessica's face and said, why did I stop watching memes, she is soooo great and relatable, then realized. Because glasses.
Yes! Karren walks into room for thing, forgets why she walks into room for thing, walks out of room and then remembers why she walks into room for thing. repeat immediately 1-10 times.
YES! As a child, I’m always told “Oh well thats not good. Only I do that. You should only start doing that in your fifties,” Something tells me figuring out how to tell them I think something’s wrong. And would they even care? I dunno!
About the “everyone has a little adhd”thing, I’ve found a really good analogy: everyone has a headache sometimes, doesn’t mean they have migraines. Or, everyone has the diarrhoea sometimes, doesn’t mean everyone has IBS
Everyone struggles to sleep sometimes, doesn't mean they have insomnia. Everyone gets sad sometimes, doesn't mean they're depressed. The whole "everyone is a little ADHD" rhetoric is not only moronic but it undermines the struggle that so many people live with every day.
Man, I've had a book I really want to read about the philosophy of stoicism that I impulse bought like a month and a half ago. I just keep finding reasons to not read it even though my brain is constantly reminding me that I want to.
Every single meme, but especially your reactions to them, really help. It makes me feel less alone in feeling this way and more understood by at least some people on the internet.
I'm like that, but my son used to be worse. I was one of the few people who could follow his stories. Untill the day I learned him to see his story as a ball of yarn. Start at the beginning and roll it slowly out. Take your time. You can rewind the yarn. Go back a little. It did help him a lot. Maybe it can help others.
Just with your therapist? It's just about every conversation I've ever had and I see the other person judging me during it so I usually let them interrupt/add with something and the when they're done I walk away.
Oh boy, my current therapist is trying to help me work on specific issues and is getting rather good at redirecting the rambling. But I still feel guilty and apologize.
It’s every fake conversation I’ve had in my head preparing to talk to people I like. Like, if I can cut down the ✨ADHD✨ extras before the actual conversion- The actual conversation anyway: *long and randomly twisting and ending with an apology
"It's so hard to have a condition that makes you forget to do things, because then you forget to do the things to manage your condition" You just made your own meme! 😂
I'm new to knowing that i've had ADHD/ADD (Just diagnosed this year), and I never knew that people did the same thing as me with the steps. Getting overwhelmed by steps of steps. When she said "Sometimes it is just opening up my laptop" I felt that so much.
I tried to explain my doc that I might have ADHD, I felt pretty confident after watching some of your videos about symptoms the previous day, and I was like "just gotta tell those symptoms to my doc" ...well my bad memory liked to interfere with that.
2:17 I have this problem that it really helps me to make a timetable for the tasks of the day, but if I miscalculated just one task and finish it later than I thought I would, I'll completely abandon the whole plan for that day. But I think I kinda understand why I do it... I had this uni course about eating/nutrition psychology and the professor mentioned the boundary model (I think). It works like this: When it comes to eating, you have 2 boundaries: hungry and full and you want to avoid crossing either of those boundaries. Some people have third boundary in between, a cognitive diet boundary that they kinda set for themselves. Problem is, if they cross that cognitive boundary, it's "too late" and instead of stopping right after that boundary, they just abandon it completely because "it's already crossed, so it doesn't matter anymore" and they just eat until they're full. For me my timetable basically sets a bunch of cognitive boundaries and if I cross one of them, I just abandon the whole thing. (Not sure if you really can use that model for other things than eating, but it works for me) Now that I understand that, I make sure to give myself a lot of buffers and breaks. Probably not the most effective thing compared to people who can "just do it", but it means that I get at least _some_ things done instead of procrastinating _everything_
My favorite part about adhd storytelling is when i have an "adhd" conversation with my brother and no one else in the room has any idea what is going on.
Yes and you “say the thing, and stuff and things” and people are like what?!!!! But the person you are close to is like “yep the thing next to the red thing next to the pile of stuff on the thing!”
For whoever edited this, next time don't put the memes in this tiny corner up there. Do it normal so it covers the whole vertical portion of one side of the screen. I can barely see the memes she is reviewing. But also, *please let there be a next time! this was great*
I recently discovered that I have ADHD, at the age of 28, and at the same time I found your channel. So I just wanted to say thank you for all the videos, they have really helped me understand my condition, how to explain it, and how to live with it. You make the world at better place.
I actually totally read that “just focus” meme as a commentary on how ridiculous that whole “everyone’s a little ADHD” thing is. Like, the “just focus” is scissors cutting water from a faucet...which is very much like trying to glue jello to a wall 😁
Me too. I believe the mix of upper and lower case letters ("iTs EaSy") is supposed to indicate sarcasm? (I'm not sure if she got angry to the meme or the kind of thinking the meme reminded of.)
"Maybe someone who doesn't know they have adhd will relate..." My brother showed me your ted talk last year. I got diagnosed with ADHD last Feb. This coming Feb, I'm getting tested (audited? Investigated? Researched?) for Autism as well. THANK YOU FOR THIS CHANNEL!!!
Omg same. This morning I was on my way out of the door to go to school and so I needed a mask and I didn’t have to put it on yet since I was in the car so I put it on my wrist so I would loose it and I was looking for it for about 30 minutes and I was late to school when it was on my arm the whole time and my mom was mad lol
Oh my gosh, so I have this speaker. I love my music!!! I put the charger in a safe spot so I don't loose it. My speaker needed charging. So I go get the charger.... then I couldn't remember we're I put it!!!!! Looked everywhere tore my room apart, no charger. So I had to go buy another one $300. I was so mad at myself. Til this day!
I still haven't found my earing that's given by my mom. It's made with real gold my mom was upset, I was upset and almost had a mental breakdown. I also lost my SD card. I was so sure where I put it last. My phone broke so I have my SD card kept so when I get a new one I know where to look for it. I finally got a phone to use but when I looked for it, I can't find it no more. I sould've left it on my broken phone.
6:23, it's a good graphic, but it's missing: get interrupted by someone because you had to use a crutch word for half a nanosecond to reset your brain, get distracted by interruption, try to hold your thought, only half listening and engaging cuz you're trying to get back to your story, ultimately lose the thought, have the other person take you on a tangent, forget to get back to the topic, bring it back up 30 minutes later, make the person feel awkward because they've long since stopped caring, get mad that they think you're weird for finishing your story when they're the one who completely detailed it in the first place.
some dude told me to “slow down, calm down” when he put his stuff on my empty register and no one was there and he could tell i was so stressed which made my anger 📈
When you said “it’s like trying to nail jello to a wall” I actively zoned out while the video was still going, imagined various methods of attaching jello to a wall, decided that hot glue was best, and then had to rewind to see what I’d missed😅
I did too - I decided it would be far easier to make a horizontal spaced set of nails, and then use them as a shelf, but that would only work if it was in one nice solid form, not a bunch of pieces
Really loved your point at 5:00 where you discussed engagement from things we find interesting and lack for what we do not. This is absolutely true, im a 26 y/o female with ADHD and I work in optometry. I absolutely love my job and in a lot of ways it works great with my ADHD…. But gosh for bid I try to learn the difference in contact lens brands, specifically Acuvue. Any time I try to learn it’s like my brain is in a vice and I’ve gone deaf unable to even hear the person teaching me. So overwhelming and absolutely the worst.
4:44 I felt this in my soul. I asked a therapist a few years ago about wondering if I had ADHD, and she just asked me if I could focus in my lessons, and I said “yes, except maths, because I like all my lessons except maths”, then I got told I couldn’t possibly have it because I was able to focus sometimes (on the lessons that I liked).
I also did well in school and am 99.9% sure I have ADHD. I think it effects everyone more severely in different ways. I can hyperfocus like a pro until my brain explodes and I can't touch it again. With school you just have to cram everything in for a test and you're good. Just saying "you have good grades so you can't be ADHD" is silly and frustrating. I thought the same way until I started realizing what other symptoms are and how it is deeply impacting my adult life.
This is a good video to introduce ADHD to the uninitiated. It hits some of the major misconceptions and sketches out the condition in a really fun way. Now to finish watching it because... of course I got distracted and wrote a comment before I even finished.
This (and other videos by Jessica) was one of the videos that made me seek a doctor about ADHD - and I just got diagnosed in June this year, I'm now on Ritalin LA and can actually (somewhat) focus on my tasks. Thank you, Jessica!
Yeah, it's like my migraine meds. My ability to judge my brain fog scales proportionately to my brain fog. So I can never tell how foggy my brain was until later and I can go "Wow was my brain not working". It's so annoying. Like not only does this damn thing cause me pain that can be excruciating, it also makes me forget I have meds that can lessen the pain.
I loved the part where you said when you have friends with adhd you don’t have to apologize during your story telling! So true! I connect so well with other adhd ppl as we can jump between so many topics and the conversations flow so easily. My bf said he got a headache listening to my mom and I talk. I didn’t realize until you mentioned that it’s hereditary that she probably has it too.
I can never finish stories around my friends... We'll start talking about a tangent off of a tangent and I'll forget what story I was telling about in the first place.
Hearing someone say, "ADD/ADHD? Oh, I think I have a little of that, too" makes me writhe and seethe in frustration. In addition to trivializing something that is a gigantic struggle for me (and others who actually have it), it also clearly shows the person understands almost nothing about it. And serves as a reminder /most/ people really don't understand it. Which is also frustrating. UGH!
I was one of those people saying that before I was diagnosed at age 25. I always joked about having ADHD and I think some part of me knew it to be true. I was perhaps subconsciously calling out for help, sussing out if anyone would agree with me. No one ever did until I started to see a psychologist after a mental breakdown. I told my joke "it's just my ADHD haha" to her and she was the first one to ever say "you might actually have ADHD". Now at age 28 I have my diagnosis of ADHD and have such a better understanding of why I am the way I am. I'm hoping that maybe next time you hear someone joke about having AHDH too, ask them why they think that. Who knows, maybe they have it too. Edit: I feel like if someone had said something earlier then maybe I would have seen a psychiatrist earlier and would have avoided a horrible year when I started to struggle with anxiety and panic disorder because of my undiagnosed ADHD. I'm of course not placing any blame of anyone, I might not have listened and things could have gone the same way anyway.
Miia Ranta Moi Miia, I like your idea of asking the person to consider why they might have ADHD! I don't think anyone ever told me that, though. I was always the one thinking (and knowing) I had ADHD until my diagnosis 2 years ago. Btw, I'm currently studying Finnish and that's the thing I can "hyperfocus" on, haha :) Näkemiin!
@@mmiias If it was someone who really did exhibit symptoms, I do suggest they might actually have it and to find a doctor if they struggle. I was diagnosed as a kid and am now in my 30s and I'm STILL learning that parts of my personality are actually the ADD. At least life's never dull for long? Lol
@@RoastedMarshmelon Moikka! It's amazing that you find Finnish so exciting that you can hyperfocus on it, mahtavaa!! It's definitely not an easy language and I'm sure you know that haha. Us Finns really appreciate it when someone shows interest in our language :)
I have a twelve yr old daughter And a 39 yr old wife who were both diagnosed in 2019. shortly after that, my wife left, and it has been just my daughter and me; within the last 3 months, I started looking for YT channels that talked about ADHD as a way of helping my daughter; I thought maybe if she knew other people were going through this, then she/we could learn what they do and not feel so isolated and lost. Finding. This channel helped me realize that I have ADHD as well. I'm grateful for the knowledge that I've gained in the last 3 months; receiving my diagnosis has been a shock I'm 50 yrs old last Nov., and when I look back at all the struggles in my and my wife's twenty years together I'm wrecked so much pain and hurt that could maybe have been avoided I love my family, and I want us to get better I just......
the email notification one is sooo accurate. I hate seeing notifications on my phone, but also didn't want to deal with my emails so I put my email app on a different page on my phone so I didn't have to see the notifications anymore.
"Everybody has alitte bit of adhd." That one gets to me too. My uncle said that line to me once. I told him, that's not true! People don't just come down with adhd out of nowhere. And it's not about simply loosing your keys. Either you're born with adhd or you're not. And there's a marked impairment to it.
i once read somewhere that in childhood, a trauma can alter the brain to some extent, in turn causing ADHD. don't remember details so might be wrong...
Essentially, some people forget to take the trash out sometimes, others absolutely have to put the trash bag directly on the door handle or they will step over it and walk away, thus not taking out the trash
All these memes are so relatable, especially the key and the story one. Every morning I battle against my keys, they show up at places I don't remember putting them, how's that possible? That's why finding my keys and putting them on the table next to the door is one of my first tasks, this way I don't get late, but boy isn't it tiring, having to look for the keys every day, I run around the house like a lunatic. Also the story one, I can picture myself spending 30 minutes telling a story of a book to my dad that I could've done in much more less than time. I just can't summary things, it's impossible, how does non-ADHD people do it? Lol Anyway, I love you videos, it's good to relate so much to someone.
The fact that you got distracted with a google search while looking at memes about adhd just makes my adhd happy. Also I went on a 3 hour search about the classification of fossilized insects before remembering to click comment.
Ho-oh Kaos, if it were possible I would totally have given it a Ka-pow so hard that it would be flying out right past Pluto! How dare anyone insult our awesomeness?!
Yeah, I was so baffled because the image was cutting a stream of water with scissors. I feel like she missed the entire point of the meme. That said, I've been there so I'm not shaming anyone or whatever.
Just a heads up: the "ItS EaSy" uppercase-lowercase mess is the sarcastic/mockery font in memes, so that "everyone is adhd" is making fun of people who say that.
@@louise9833 water will keep running, even if you try to cut it, it will just search for a new route to get to where it wants to go ^^ the same is with ADHD, you can try to suppres it (cut it) by saying "just focus" but our brains will find a way to loose our train of thought and get distracted xD
My note on side quests, is I don't call them sidequests because those are optional. I set myself exactly one task for the day. That task might be take a bath, do the laundry, load the dishwasher, something that is in the maintenance of myself or my living space. That is the one thing I absolutely Need to do today. Everything beyond that is bonus points. At the end of the day I get to see or talk to my partner, and he praises me for getting my task done that day or comforts me if I had a really bad day and I wasn't able to. And he celebrates all the bonus points with me, and if I get lots of bonus points sometimes he brings me coffee the next morning when he comes home and tells me he's proud of me. I realize that's not accessible to everyone who doesn't have a partner, this is just me sharing a really specific thing. But God it's made life so much better, just creating a piece of language that it was easy to share the magnitude of my victories no matter how small, and let someone I care about very deeply celebrate those victories with me.
NGL "Googing Distraction" break had me laughing hard. Both the break and somehow my brain noticing the typo and having to rewind to be sure before continuing on. Great video!
This is soo great thank you for putting content out. I recently found out I had ADHD and seeing you help explain it and showing stuff like this really help me so thank you.
Dani's storytelling meme is so accurate, it pains me how many creative writing pieces I've not been able to complete, or that make no sense to other people once they're done. xD
I also get paid very well for my writing. So please don't give up, if you want to be a storyteller. The world needs [is that proper English?] lively writers.
@@feliciaschoenfeld5177 It's great to hear that I'm not alone in this. Thank you, I'm going to keep determined and tackle things bit by bit. Hopefully, that way, I'll finish my current piece of work. :)
I will half-sarcastically say to people “you’re not allowed to apologize” then turn it into an inside joke whenever it happens like “excuse me dear person did I just hear the word soRRY-“ Immediately just vaporizes any awkwardness lol I started doing that when I knew I was apologizing every sentence, and desperately needed to stop. Except I couldn’t. Then one day my friend teased, “okay you’re not allowed to apologize.” I just stared at them for a second like- So then I stole it from them, and so many good things that came out of it. It made me stop using words like that uncontrollably which really helped with my confidence, it’s a great icebreaker when someone’s feeling insecure, it completely obliterates that awkward vibe when you or someone else unnecessarily apologizes, because now it’s a GOLDEN opportunity for an inside joke moment. It just isn’t an uncomfortable situation anymore.
1:27 ahhHhh this is me I always ponder "did I take my meds?" When I forget them, and when I don’t take them I later realize it and it’s too late to take them
"It's so hard having a condition that makes you forget things. Because then, you forget to do the things you need to do to manage your condition." RIGHT?! 😫😭
I have found that repeating where I have put something over and over helps me remember where it is if it's really important like "My keys are on my desk. I am putting my keys on my desk. I have put my keys on my desk." and just keep repeating out loud over and over until I think I'm good
Seeing all the arguments in this video that my parents make about my ADHD and won't let me get medicated is very frustrating. Especially the "you can focus on things you like, so focus on work!"
I'm sorry it would be hard to not have parents that also have ADHD. A couple things I've noticed that my mom did before I was diagnosed (I didn't think I had it, so I didn't want to get diagnosed until I was an adult). 1. She kind of made the spare room my workspace, so I was away from my siblings and also where I slept and stuff. 2. I wasn't allowed to do fun things until I had finished my work (I still found ways to procrastinate, like talking to my mom...) 3. She tried to make me keep track of things and set reminders, but I was stubborn and didn't do it. You are going to have to implement things that work for you yourself. It is possible, but depending on the severity of your ADHD it can be hard. It is possible though, try to make things fun for yourself, that's how I got 1 2nd grader to learn how to read. I got him to enjoy the practice of sounding out words by literally turning it into a game. If you struggle with learning math find internet games that teach the things you need to learn. The most important part of school is that you learn the skills, grades are secondary, just do the best you can. You are not alone, you can do this.
@@ThatOneLadyOverHere I used to be able to manage like that but as I got older, the responsibilities got bigger and my school content got harder. It is almost impossible to manage now and I can feel the symptoms worsening. I appreciate the comment and the sentiments and I agree they do help but I am way past that now :(
@@jed2519 I'm sorry, that really sucks. Maybe talk to a teacher and see if they can get you support or maybe help convince your parents what's really going on?
I sometimes doubt I have ADHD because I ALMOST never struggle finding my keys, cellphone or glasses. I think its because I always put them on the same 3places. (Don't always know exactly which of those 3 places tho)
Some of these cracked me up so much - too relatable. The focus one really got to me as well. I have to do so much documentation on stats for my job at the moment as part of signing off a project and it’s pure pain. I cannot do this during a working day with the way it’s broken up by meetings and random calls from people who need help. I end up logging onto my work computer at about 10pm. Watching Netflix on my phone till midnight/ 1am - panicking because it’s late and then staying up till 3am to finish it. It’s like Chinese water torture.
The forgetting what someone just said thing hits hard for me. I have to write down anything that could be important otherwise I start overthinking and other things everyone has ever said to me starts filling my head and I can't keep track of what the person standing right in front of me just said.
when Jessica googled "how to serotonin" I got curious so I went and googled the same thing and now I know pineapple is good for depression and I also learned some exercises for the lungs don't ask how
I thought I was just a special case when i realized that I often pick something up, pick up another thing, subconciously drop the first thing, and realized that idk where I left the first thing
When you have ADHD and depression so you only focus on things you're interested in but you are gradually having less interest in everything so you can focus 0% of the time.
When someone says to me "this is easy, it can be done really quick", I wanna cry because I cannot do even the easiest thing really quick. My brain deliberates even when saving a new powerpoint slides or word document.
I remember one time when my math teacher gave us an activity to do. It was due by the end of class. Most people were done before the class ended, but I took the whole period to finish it because it took me so long just to figure out HOW to do it.
At about 7:40 I was like: "yeahhhh, I feel that in my bones." Because I had this super important toy when I was younger and I put it in a special place to keep it safe because I was confident that I would remember were it was, by the end of that evening I had forgotten where I had put it. I was lost for like 6 years, and I only found it because I was clearing out my room of old stuff that I never used anymore and stumbled upon it.
Oof telling me to focus harder is like setting off a time bomb that you are wanting to explode in your face even though the time bomb warned you it wouldn’t be pretty 😂
@no just no Yeah, or you're focusing on getting the thing done and forget to pay attention to what is being done or what you're reading and so having done it is pointless because you got nothing out of it because you were telling yourself to focus the whole time. That's why fidget toys ir notes are good because they give us something to focus on so we can pay attention without going overboard and missing everything.
Nothing like going to a workshop with your job and they're having a roundtable at the end of the course where we are supposed to discuss the topics the teacher has shown on a PPT. Panic!
@@ThatOneLadyOverHere Taking notes makes so much sense actually! When I was in HS before I was diagnosed I had this history teacher that did nothing but lecture like no powerpoint or textbook just talking, and I'm either a visual or hands on kind of learner lectures were my worst enemy. But we were required to take notes and be graded on them so I would write down basically everything that he said as I heard it and I actually did well in his class! Why did that just click for me now after 9 years 🤦🏼
Thank you so much for adding in the ADHD disclaimer in your ad! I always forget about canceling subscriptions until like a year later when I am like oh I should sign up for a free trial.... wait I already have an active account?!?
You know what is worse than that? Remembering those subscriptions but putting of canceling them for months ("this month is already payed anyway, Maybe I will use the service since I payed anyway...")
5:12 My entire experience with ADD (I think that's right, it's the non-hyperactive version) has just been I can do one specific thing in a given moment, and can't do anything else no matter how much I want to, peppered with family asking "It's very straightforward, you just have to do this other thing, just force yourself to do it." The infuriation on both sides is unbelievable, although more than a year of crippling depression and inability to make myself do anything certainly hasn't helped. Great video, every other sentence just made me think "Oof, I feel that one."
I just saw your Ted Talk and was sobbing by the end of it. I had to show my husband! He watched me as I shared it with him. He could see how everything was starting to make sense to me. He was finally seeing me and my daily struggle. I am 36 and was overlooked for ADHD, as a child, because I wasn't hyperactive. Due to you sharing your story and starting this channel, I have the information I need to seek out a diagnosis. Thank you for what you do!
these memes validated me so much, they're so relatable, and its just nice to have a reminder that other people experience something similar, it makes me feel like Im not alone in this
I recently started watching these videos, and it's absolutely AMAZINGLY relatable!! ... but it doesn't matter. My voice is buried amongst several thousands of commenters... so I'm right back to square one: alone and invisible.
I'm so glad you said it was painful to do something not engaging to our brain because I LITERALLY DESCRIBE IT AS PAINFUL. Like it's so weird but I literally feel pain and as the very best scenerio I feel extremely uncomfortable.
I dont know if you have "The Great Courses Plus" but am I realy able to learn how to play the guitar WITHOUT meeting a guitar teacher in real life? (I`m asking because I didn`t understand it to 100% because of my "bad" english)
@@user-zr3eu7ng5h I don't use great courses plus, but I thought I'd let you know you can absolutely learn guitar on your own! I did (kind of. I did have a couple of lessons but I did the majority of learning on my own.) If you have the opportunity to work with a guitar teacher, I'd recommend it especially to learn how to correctly place your fingers on the neck, but with youtube you can easily learn the basics and work your way up from there. Just be patient with yourself, it'll take a while for the strings to stop buzzing and your fingertips will need to build calluses but you can do it!!
I don't usually worry about where I lose things because I am near constantly listening to music. Because I am actively listening to the music, I remember that I listened to it, and because I remembered that I listened to it, I can remember bits and pieces of what I was doing when I was listening to a particular song. That's how I find my car in parking lots or other objects I've set down around the house. But it only works because I need control of my auditory input near constantly.
Once I was trying to do homework and could not figure out why I couldn't get through my easy Spanish homework. I live Spanish, it shouldn't have been hard, but I'd forgotten to take my meds...
Same. But a little later I took them. Then I wasn't sure anymore if I really forgot or if I just overdosed... Wasted a few hours waiting to see if I would show any symptoms instead of studying for an exam today.
I once asked a friend what I should do about my constant distraction, and she said "schedule your distractions." These neurotypicals be operating on a whole nother plane of existence.
It's the kind of thing that caring Aspies I know have said to me, as well.
Along with 'Why don't you create a thought attic?' , which I've tried explaining to Aspies why this would fall flat so quickly for me, so many times now that I've run out of energy. I'm thinking of printing out standard answers for some friends because the same 'advice', that my brain isn't geared for, keeps coming up.
@@benedictjephcote6815 what is a thought attic?
if I could schedule them, they wouldn't be distractions. Funny how neurotypicals blame us for "not understanding simple things" when they don't even bother to listen and try and understand our difficulties.
Is it possible to learn this power?
@@benedictjephcote6815 yeah, what max said. Whats a thought attic? I really wanna know now bro, please.
To quote a super popular ADHD meme on tumblr; "Either everyone with ADHD needs to stop being so relatable or I need to go see my doctor right now."
exactly, im worried …. 🤔
@@Zoyiekka hey there! How are you feeling now? Still worried?
Exactly, gonna go get tested.
@@Katy-sh3ru I am lol but i can’t tell if I just lazy or wat
when do you get tested in school? (ps, austrian here)
I have anxiety and ADHD and my anxiety is like “DO THE THING! DO THE THING!” But my ADHD is like “....do we REALLY need to do that right now? That honestly seems like a future Anna problem.” And I normally agree with the ADHD....until I have three hours until the giant project is due then the anxiety takes over.
everything makes sense now
You have summed up my life!
This is soooooo accurate 😭
In my case, when the anxiety takes over with the project being due in a few hours, I happen to daydream a lot, while walking on circles.
Go look up some studies about how 'future me' is actually perceived as a different person.
So you're actually saying 'i'm not doing this, let someone else do it for me.'
Best thing about being friends with other adhders: you don't have to apologise
Worst thing: they interrupt you and you get sidetracked and your conversation about dog breeds has accidentally turned into a discussion on critical race theory 😅😅
This does not sound like a bad thing lmfao
Of course they had to interrupt. If they didn't they would forget what they were going to tell you!
And now, what you were saying about dog breeds is forever lost for the rest of the conversation. 🤓
For me its so hard to talk to multiple people at a time because i dont realise when i should start talking and sometimes they dont even leave any space for me to actually talk and when i can talk im like "i forgor"
They are the conversations I feel most relaxed in
I talked for 5 hours last night with a friend about everything and anything when it was SUPPOSED to be about our project but we would always end up gettting sidetracked. We discussed we needed to by the end but it took so much effort to even speak about THAT thing instead of something random!
ADHD memes made by people who dont have ADHD: ❌
ADHD memes made by people with ADHD: ✅
Same with the long boring articles or videos with adhd tips without any fun or pictures. Always so easy to see if it's made by someone who understands an adhd brain
@@JKlomp-rp5ev exactly. i've seen too many of those
Unless they're memes made by the Hearts for ADHD....
@@JKlomp-rp5ev Yeah, add fun and pictures and we will actually watch it.
I don't have ADHD and I identied with the overwhelming majority of these memes. I can image non ADHD people would thus be able to create most of these memes.
ADHD memes are 100% done when we should be doing something else by we are trying to avoid it
Currently avoiding school😭
I'm trying to file paperwork. 😵
Not me avoiding my online classes by watching this instead 🏃♀️💨
"Oh my gosh this sucks!!!!!... Makes for a good meme though, it will only take a minute."
1 hour later
"Oh my gosh this sucks!!!!!... Makes for a..."
etc.
@@bearatdusk8013 EXACTLY!!! I have two assignments that I should finish, but here I am:)
my mom always said that I couldn't have ADHD because I could sit still in a tree in the garden, reading an entire Harry Potter book in one day. The fact that I was soar from the uncomfortable tree, thirsty and hungry from not taking a break, forgetting to do my homework.. might have been some symptoms of hyperfocus mom :D
The most frustrating thing about “special place” is that when you finally *do* find the thing in the special place (sometimes years later after you’ve bought a new the thing), sometimes the special place actually makes some weird ADHD sort of sense, and you can even figure out (or even remember!) what you were thinking when you put it there, it’s just that your cunning plan lacked the one crucial detail of remembering the special place. 🤷🏽♂️
Exactly!!!OMG!
What's really "fun" is when you do this with emails that you need to save to reference later. I should just make a folder for "Reference this" but no, I file it somewhere else and then later I try to remember which folder it was.
This. This is why my phone has been forgotten in the freezer multiple times.
YES. THIS.
I lost a pair of glasses as a kid while playing in a creek. I had apparently had the bright idea to set them on the ledge of the underside of the bridge to keep them from getting broken, then forgotten I'd put them there. I eventually found them...a decade later.
the way she got distracted and started looking for how to get serotonin
I, too, want some of that sweet, sweet serotonin
Story of my life
She listed bright light and I literally paused the video to go get my light.
She isn't alone, there.
@@TheSingleTrucker really though- i'm also the same. recently i've been going on an 'attention diet' when i limit scrolling through social media and watch longer videos to help my attention span!
"Dr. Hawking, everyone has trouble moving sometimes. Just get up and walk."
😂
😳😡🤣🤣😂
I would be VERY frightened if Stephen Hawking started walking at this point, given that he has passed.
@@jpakaferrari He's still not trying hard enough.
@@jpakaferrari or talking, for that matter, lol
"What's the first step of that first step?"
"Somedays its opening my laptop."
I FELT THAT
I’m so glad that when you talked about ADHD causing you to focus on some things and not others you talked about them being “engaging” because I often see people use the word “fun” and it annoys me because often the thing I get distracted by is less fun than the thing I want to be doing it just happens to be more immediate/shiny/forcefully grabbing my attention.
Oh my gosh yes, yesterday I got stuck in a 3-hour rabbit hole on types of closet doors because I hate the bifold doors on our laundry closet and started designing a type of door hinge that I wasn't finding for sale online. Was it fun? Not really. Stimulating? My brain though so, I guess. I could have been doing anything else in the world that I found fun but noooo my brain was like CLOSET DOORS.
Yeah most of the things I randomly find myself highly engaged in aren't necessarily fun but it was just the thing my brain decided we are doing for hours.
Just glad for not a single "Squirrel!" meme. That one has gotten old.
So we occasionally had squirrels in the back garden of my last place I lived, and we had recently had a conversation about how they seem to have left since the cats started patrolling.
In the middle of talking about adhd related things, I see the squirrel and went "Squirrel!", it was hilarious.
But yes the squirrel memes be jokes are kind of old.
That’s why I love the r/adhdmeme subreddit. It’s almost entirely people who actually have ADHD making memes about our actual struggles and not just dumb stereotypes.
Although I did get to live out the stereotype recently. I'm an Australian and we don't have squirrels, so when I visited America I was literally getting excited every time I saw a squirrel and cutting off whatever other thought was going through my head.
Yeah, that's true. But seriously, where's the squirrel?
@starfish lol it’s been an hour so you probably already made up your mind but my advice would be to finish the vid then go to the sub. The sub will wait.
“Like trying to nail jello to the wall” This PERFECTLY explains how I feel when trying to read something for school that I don’t care about.
My literature teacher thought I hated reading because I could not focus on any of he books we had to read (I mean I lucked my way into passing the final exam). She actually didn't believe me when I said that I could forget to sleep if I had a book I liked in my hands. She just assumed i didn't sleep at night because I was playing videogames...
Yes, that's perfect
I am usually not interested in people. Work on a place for 3 years and still don't know the names of most of the employs. May be I should consider Brain stimulant medication.. But then I need a psychiatric.. I consider him a people person so I don't see why I should see him. Sure he is boring and don't know anything about doing stuff..
Same
Sooo anyone else’s mind go on a little adventure on “can you nail jello to a wall?” I came up with some ideas. Then realized I missed most of the 2nd half the video and had to rewind it. 🤷🏻♂️
5:11 So on that note of it's almost impossible to do things you don't wanna do. My parents KNOW I have ADHD (they don't care). So when I needed to do chores (my chore was to wash the dishes untill every dish was clean) I started to feel sick like i was going to throw up. My parents called it my "work sickness" and called me lazy or my dad would just say "if you throw up you'll clean it up too".
Yeah, when I was going to college, I had to take a lot of low-level IT certification tests, and I used to get physically nauseous before each one. I was undiagnosed at the time.
Omg same!! My family just calls me lazy and dramatic whenever I tell them I start to feel ill and unmotivated.
Damn. I hope your parents realize they need to actually help instead of ignoring your everything :/
Also, I laughed out loud at the Have you seen us keys and glasses meme, then noticed my glasses were dirty and needed a wash, then stopped at the door trying to remember why I'd got up, then looked back at the screen and saw Jessica's face and said, why did I stop watching memes, she is soooo great and relatable, then realized. Because glasses.
Yes! Karren walks into room for thing, forgets why she walks into room for thing, walks out of room and then remembers why she walks into room for thing. repeat immediately 1-10 times.
YES! As a child, I’m always told “Oh well thats not good. Only I do that. You should only start doing that in your fifties,” Something tells me figuring out how to tell them I think something’s wrong. And would they even care? I dunno!
Just realized I lost focus on he original comment, sorry
About the “everyone has a little adhd”thing, I’ve found a really good analogy: everyone has a headache sometimes, doesn’t mean they have migraines. Or, everyone has the diarrhoea sometimes, doesn’t mean everyone has IBS
I’d agree except migraines and IBS are misunderstood by people who don’t have them (or know someone who has them) similar to ADHD.
@@mariezguitar5029 seconded. I know people who say they're having migraines when they really just have a really bad headache
Everyone struggles to sleep sometimes, doesn't mean they have insomnia.
Everyone gets sad sometimes, doesn't mean they're depressed.
The whole "everyone is a little ADHD" rhetoric is not only moronic but it undermines the struggle that so many people live with every day.
Everyone has skincells- it doesnt mean they have cancer
SORRY I HAD TO I HAD TO
Infinite snaps for this analogy!
I keep forgetting that others feels exactly how I feel with adhd. It makes me so happy
Ya , seriously comforting we're not alone.
Honestly same 💙
Me too I felt so great to realize that a ton of people think the same way I do. I felt odd and I realized I have my ADHD community
Ikr!
Gobbly McFarts! Your username reminds me of Grimace from McDonald's.
Man, I've had a book I really want to read about the philosophy of stoicism that I impulse bought like a month and a half ago. I just keep finding reasons to not read it even though my brain is constantly reminding me that I want to.
Oh, stoicism is really cool! But also if you don't have the energy for the book there are tons of neat yt videos and articles about it!!!
Every single meme, but especially your reactions to them, really help. It makes me feel less alone in feeling this way and more understood by at least some people on the internet.
The ADHD Storytelling cartoon is every conversation with my therapist.
I'm like that, but my son used to be worse. I was one of the few people who could follow his stories. Untill the day I learned him to see his story as a ball of yarn. Start at the beginning and roll it slowly out. Take your time. You can rewind the yarn. Go back a little.
It did help him a lot. Maybe it can help others.
Just with your therapist? It's just about every conversation I've ever had and I see the other person judging me during it so I usually let them interrupt/add with something and the when they're done I walk away.
Oh boy, my current therapist is trying to help me work on specific issues and is getting rather good at redirecting the rambling. But I still feel guilty and apologize.
Yup
It’s every fake conversation I’ve had in my head preparing to talk to people I like. Like, if I can cut down the ✨ADHD✨ extras before the actual conversion-
The actual conversation anyway: *long and randomly twisting and ending with an apology
"It's so hard to have a condition that makes you forget to do things, because then you forget to do the things to manage your condition" You just made your own meme! 😂
Reminds me of when I was taking the non-extended release Adderall. The biggest problem was forgetting to take the 2nd pill.
@@TheChemist418 oh yeah, I never remembered to take my second pill back when i was on short- acting.
I've had the same thought every time I forget to bring an errand or grocery list I made to try and be focused and organized.
Good call! 👏👏
I'm new to knowing that i've had ADHD/ADD (Just diagnosed this year), and I never knew that people did the same thing as me with the steps. Getting overwhelmed by steps of steps. When she said "Sometimes it is just opening up my laptop" I felt that so much.
I tried to explain my doc that I might have ADHD, I felt pretty confident after watching some of your videos about symptoms the previous day, and I was like "just gotta tell those symptoms to my doc"
...well my bad memory liked to interfere with that.
I forgot I’ve watched this video before/commented on it. Thank you, bad memory, for your disservices.
Jessica literally Googled “how to get serotonin” 🤣
It’s absolutely relatable but also absolutely telling of our ADHD-caused depression.
👍
👍😂😂😅😭
"and if that step's too big, break it down"
Me: starts beatboxing
As an auditory stimmer who compulsively beatboxes, I feel this in my soul.
As a person with ADHD who is a connoisseur of puns, this comment is vastly underrated
HA! That's amazing XD
🎶Wicka-wicka🎶
OOOHH YEEAAAH!
I love this thanks for the smile 😊
oonce oonce oonce oonce!
Honestly, the memes are what made me realize that I really actually do have ADHD. They’re relatable in a way that made sense for me.
Watching this has confirmed it for me... and who else scrolls down to read the comments during the commercials? 😐
2:17 I have this problem that it really helps me to make a timetable for the tasks of the day, but if I miscalculated just one task and finish it later than I thought I would, I'll completely abandon the whole plan for that day. But I think I kinda understand why I do it... I had this uni course about eating/nutrition psychology and the professor mentioned the boundary model (I think). It works like this:
When it comes to eating, you have 2 boundaries: hungry and full and you want to avoid crossing either of those boundaries. Some people have third boundary in between, a cognitive diet boundary that they kinda set for themselves. Problem is, if they cross that cognitive boundary, it's "too late" and instead of stopping right after that boundary, they just abandon it completely because "it's already crossed, so it doesn't matter anymore" and they just eat until they're full.
For me my timetable basically sets a bunch of cognitive boundaries and if I cross one of them, I just abandon the whole thing. (Not sure if you really can use that model for other things than eating, but it works for me) Now that I understand that, I make sure to give myself a lot of buffers and breaks. Probably not the most effective thing compared to people who can "just do it", but it means that I get at least _some_ things done instead of procrastinating _everything_
My favorite part about adhd storytelling is when i have an "adhd" conversation with my brother and no one else in the room has any idea what is going on.
😂😂😂 I do this with my best friend!
Yes and you “say the thing, and stuff and things” and people are like what?!!!! But the person you are close to is like “yep the thing next to the red thing next to the pile of stuff on the thing!”
My entire household is like that, there's a reason I don't have many friends over lol
For whoever edited this, next time don't put the memes in this tiny corner up there. Do it normal so it covers the whole vertical portion of one side of the screen. I can barely see the memes she is reviewing. But also, *please let there be a next time! this was great*
Yes, it would be better if the memes were big and her camera was small! And then cut to her while she is talking and not looking at the meme anymore
For reference to what he's talking about, watch a Gun Meme Review by Brandon Herrera.
agreed - Herrera's format works well on mobile screens in addition to a monitor
Or like put her in the corner like every other meme review. As long as we can hear her voice its good.
Agreed, thank you for bringing it up. Loved the vid but would have made it better.
I recently discovered that I have ADHD, at the age of 28, and at the same time I found your channel. So I just wanted to say thank you for all the videos, they have really helped me understand my condition, how to explain it, and how to live with it. You make the world at better place.
I actually totally read that “just focus” meme as a commentary on how ridiculous that whole “everyone’s a little ADHD” thing is. Like, the “just focus” is scissors cutting water from a faucet...which is very much like trying to glue jello to a wall 😁
Me too. I believe the mix of upper and lower case letters ("iTs EaSy") is supposed to indicate sarcasm?
(I'm not sure if she got angry to the meme or the kind of thinking the meme reminded of.)
Lol the only thing that stuck from that in my head is that I want to try and stick jello to a wall
The expression is "nailing" jello to a wall, but i am sure glue is just as ineffective 😂
Came looking for that comment - i guess it was meant to be sarcasm
@@Margar02 Yeah, I don't know why I thought "glue" first, but I was feeling it so I didn't fix it. XDD
ADHD memes being relatable is why I went into get diagnosed in the first place
Same! I related to too many memes to let it go
this is what I'm doing, it seems like my mom also has adhd lol
well... kinda thinking about that too...
So I made a research about ADHD and I feel like I relate for too many things so... I'mma try.
Say it with me everybody, *we need a part two*
"Maybe someone who doesn't know they have adhd will relate..."
My brother showed me your ted talk last year. I got diagnosed with ADHD last Feb. This coming Feb, I'm getting tested (audited? Investigated? Researched?) for Autism as well. THANK YOU FOR THIS CHANNEL!!!
This is funny, but also surprisingly comforting.
Agreed. It's always nice to know other people deal with the same things.
well said
"I'm just gonna set this here, so I don't lose it." *takes a full month to find it again*
Omg same. This morning I was on my way out of the door to go to school and so I needed a mask and I didn’t have to put it on yet since I was in the car so I put it on my wrist so I would loose it and I was looking for it for about 30 minutes and I was late to school when it was on my arm the whole time and my mom was mad lol
Yep, found the Easter eggs by midsummer and the Christmas candy by Easter 🙄🤷♀️
Because I put them in a good spot and didn’t remember where
Oh my gosh, so I have this speaker. I love my music!!! I put the charger in a safe spot so I don't loose it. My speaker needed charging. So I go get the charger.... then I couldn't remember we're I put it!!!!! Looked everywhere tore my room apart, no charger. So I had to go buy another one $300. I was so mad at myself. Til this day!
yep this is us REALLY TRYING HARD. And it STILL screws us!
I still haven't found my earing that's given by my mom. It's made with real gold my mom was upset, I was upset and almost had a mental breakdown.
I also lost my SD card. I was so sure where I put it last. My phone broke so I have my SD card kept so when I get a new one I know where to look for it. I finally got a phone to use but when I looked for it, I can't find it no more. I sould've left it on my broken phone.
"Can I punch a meme?" - A worthy response.
6:23, it's a good graphic, but it's missing: get interrupted by someone because you had to use a crutch word for half a nanosecond to reset your brain, get distracted by interruption, try to hold your thought, only half listening and engaging cuz you're trying to get back to your story, ultimately lose the thought, have the other person take you on a tangent, forget to get back to the topic, bring it back up 30 minutes later, make the person feel awkward because they've long since stopped caring, get mad that they think you're weird for finishing your story when they're the one who completely detailed it in the first place.
"everyone is just a little ADHD just focus its easy" is the new "just relax" for GAD
True
or “just cheer up” for depression
YAAAAAASSS! I hate it when people say “just relax!” If I could do that, would I be freaking out like I am?! NOOOOOO!
some dude told me to “slow down, calm down” when he put his stuff on my empty register and no one was there and he could tell i was so stressed which made my anger 📈
Or "just do some excercise" for chronic fatigue/M.E.!!!!
When you said “it’s like trying to nail jello to a wall” I actively zoned out while the video was still going, imagined various methods of attaching jello to a wall, decided that hot glue was best, and then had to rewind to see what I’d missed😅
My idea was to cheat and put the jello on a shelf that's sticking out of the wall and THEN put a nail through it going into the actual wall.
Well looks like I need to rewatch cause I didnt hear anything about nailing jello lol
I feel like the best way would be to nail multiple nails into the wall and then set the jello on top. Perfect balance
I did too - I decided it would be far easier to make a horizontal spaced set of nails, and then use them as a shelf, but that would only work if it was in one nice solid form, not a bunch of pieces
@@bchaotic905 same! *high five*
Add a slice to the PIE chart at 7:30
"In my hand, I just forgot I was holding it."
Really loved your point at 5:00 where you discussed engagement from things we find interesting and lack for what we do not. This is absolutely true, im a 26 y/o female with ADHD and I work in optometry. I absolutely love my job and in a lot of ways it works great with my ADHD…. But gosh for bid I try to learn the difference in contact lens brands, specifically Acuvue.
Any time I try to learn it’s like my brain is in a vice and I’ve gone deaf unable to even hear the person teaching me.
So overwhelming and absolutely the worst.
4:44 I felt this in my soul. I asked a therapist a few years ago about wondering if I had ADHD, and she just asked me if I could focus in my lessons, and I said “yes, except maths, because I like all my lessons except maths”, then I got told I couldn’t possibly have it because I was able to focus sometimes (on the lessons that I liked).
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Isn't this everyone tho? The trick is to find a way to make a boring subject interesting.
@ that’s not the point. I had many other symptoms, but this therapist didn’t even listen to me and just stopped at this one.
I also did well in school and am 99.9% sure I have ADHD. I think it effects everyone more severely in different ways. I can hyperfocus like a pro until my brain explodes and I can't touch it again. With school you just have to cram everything in for a test and you're good. Just saying "you have good grades so you can't be ADHD" is silly and frustrating. I thought the same way until I started realizing what other symptoms are and how it is deeply impacting my adult life.
@@Valqrose oh my god why is it SOOOOO RELATABLE! I'M CRYING 😭😭😭
This is a good video to introduce ADHD to the uninitiated. It hits some of the major misconceptions and sketches out the condition in a really fun way. Now to finish watching it because... of course I got distracted and wrote a comment before I even finished.
This (and other videos by Jessica) was one of the videos that made me seek a doctor about ADHD - and I just got diagnosed in June this year, I'm now on Ritalin LA and can actually (somewhat) focus on my tasks. Thank you, Jessica!
Yeah, it's like my migraine meds. My ability to judge my brain fog scales proportionately to my brain fog. So I can never tell how foggy my brain was until later and I can go "Wow was my brain not working". It's so annoying. Like not only does this damn thing cause me pain that can be excruciating, it also makes me forget I have meds that can lessen the pain.
Ok, but can we PLEASE talk about how fluffy and pretty her hair looks? LIKE GIRL HOW??
She does have very pretty floofy hair
OMG, i know!! Looks so good. And her eye make up is so shiny. It distracts me enough from the memes
She's a very pretty girl 😊 and I agree, her hair and make up looks amazing!!
I was just about to comment, she looks sooooo preeettyyyy in this video!!!
Makes me feel nice I’ve always been insecure about my poofy hair LOL
My *main* personal email account has 28,649 ‘unread’ emails.
*28,650
I just let my domain expire so I went from several thousand to zero. Problem solved! lol 🤪
I used to be over 30,000+....
250k, apparently I’m popular with girls in my area /s
Yeah, I've given up on trying to keep up with my unread emails. Who knows how many are in there?
I loved the "Not actually Jessica playing." 🤣
dang I missed that part
I loved the part where you said when you have friends with adhd you don’t have to apologize during your story telling! So true! I connect so well with other adhd ppl as we can jump between so many topics and the conversations flow so easily. My bf said he got a headache listening to my mom and I talk. I didn’t realize until you mentioned that it’s hereditary that she probably has it too.
I can never finish stories around my friends... We'll start talking about a tangent off of a tangent and I'll forget what story I was telling about in the first place.
Hearing someone say, "ADD/ADHD? Oh, I think I have a little of that, too" makes me writhe and seethe in frustration. In addition to trivializing something that is a gigantic struggle for me (and others who actually have it), it also clearly shows the person understands almost nothing about it. And serves as a reminder /most/ people really don't understand it. Which is also frustrating. UGH!
I was one of those people saying that before I was diagnosed at age 25.
I always joked about having ADHD and I think some part of me knew it to be true. I was perhaps subconsciously calling out for help, sussing out if anyone would agree with me. No one ever did until I started to see a psychologist after a mental breakdown. I told my joke "it's just my ADHD haha" to her and she was the first one to ever say "you might actually have ADHD". Now at age 28 I have my diagnosis of ADHD and have such a better understanding of why I am the way I am.
I'm hoping that maybe next time you hear someone joke about having AHDH too, ask them why they think that. Who knows, maybe they have it too.
Edit: I feel like if someone had said something earlier then maybe I would have seen a psychiatrist earlier and would have avoided a horrible year when I started to struggle with anxiety and panic disorder because of my undiagnosed ADHD. I'm of course not placing any blame of anyone, I might not have listened and things could have gone the same way anyway.
Miia Ranta
Moi Miia, I like your idea of asking the person to consider why they might have ADHD! I don't think anyone ever told me that, though. I was always the one thinking (and knowing) I had ADHD until my diagnosis 2 years ago.
Btw, I'm currently studying Finnish and that's the thing I can "hyperfocus" on, haha :)
Näkemiin!
@@mmiias If it was someone who really did exhibit symptoms, I do suggest they might actually have it and to find a doctor if they struggle. I was diagnosed as a kid and am now in my 30s and I'm STILL learning that parts of my personality are actually the ADD. At least life's never dull for long? Lol
@@RoastedMarshmelon Moikka! It's amazing that you find Finnish so exciting that you can hyperfocus on it, mahtavaa!! It's definitely not an easy language and I'm sure you know that haha. Us Finns really appreciate it when someone shows interest in our language :)
@@bonessasan it sure isn't haha!
"It's hard to focus when your brain isn't engaged"
me watching youtube while also forcing to stop and work instead: oh yeah i totally agree
Me too buddy... meee to. (At work myself)
Me right now 😂
Me also pausing the video to comment and get lost scrolling through comments 😂
I have a twelve yr old daughter And a 39 yr old wife who were both diagnosed in 2019. shortly after that, my wife left, and it has been just my daughter and me; within the last 3 months, I started looking for YT channels that talked about ADHD as a way of helping my daughter; I thought maybe if she knew other people were going through this, then she/we could learn what they do and not feel so isolated and lost. Finding. This channel helped me realize that I have ADHD as well. I'm grateful for the knowledge that I've gained in the last 3 months; receiving my diagnosis has been a shock I'm 50 yrs old last Nov., and when I look back at all the struggles in my and my wife's twenty years together I'm wrecked so much pain and hurt that could maybe have been avoided I love my family, and I want us to get better I just......
the email notification one is sooo accurate. I hate seeing notifications on my phone, but also didn't want to deal with my emails so I put my email app on a different page on my phone so I didn't have to see the notifications anymore.
Me: scrolls on reddit hyperfocusing on ADHD memes
Me hours later: breaks hyperfocus and finally clicks on CZcams
CZcams:
No escape
Thank goodness I'm clueless about Reddit
"Everybody has alitte bit of adhd." That one gets to me too. My uncle said that line to me once. I told him, that's not true! People don't just come down with adhd out of nowhere. And it's not about simply loosing your keys. Either you're born with adhd or you're not. And there's a marked impairment to it.
i once read somewhere that in childhood, a trauma can alter the brain to some extent, in turn causing ADHD. don't remember details so might be wrong...
Essentially, some people forget to take the trash out sometimes, others absolutely have to put the trash bag directly on the door handle or they will step over it and walk away, thus not taking out the trash
@@setsuzuya1751 The symptoms and coping mechanism of ADHD and PTSD overlap in some areas. Early child hood trauma also alters brain chemistry.
All these memes are so relatable, especially the key and the story one.
Every morning I battle against my keys, they show up at places I don't remember putting them, how's that possible? That's why finding my keys and putting them on the table next to the door is one of my first tasks, this way I don't get late, but boy isn't it tiring, having to look for the keys every day, I run around the house like a lunatic.
Also the story one, I can picture myself spending 30 minutes telling a story of a book to my dad that I could've done in much more less than time. I just can't summary things, it's impossible, how does non-ADHD people do it? Lol
Anyway, I love you videos, it's good to relate so much to someone.
The fact that you got distracted with a google search while looking at memes about adhd just makes my adhd happy. Also I went on a 3 hour search about the classification of fossilized insects before remembering to click comment.
"Can I punch a meme?" I have never related more. Instant infuriation 100
Ho-oh Kaos, if it were possible I would totally have given it a Ka-pow so hard that it would be flying out right past Pluto! How dare anyone insult our awesomeness?!
Pretty sure that meme was saying that that was annoying and that just focus doesn’t work.
@@wolfhugger3344 yea I was confused she didnt get it or she did but wanted to make a valid point
Yeah, I was so baffled because the image was cutting a stream of water with scissors. I feel like she missed the entire point of the meme. That said, I've been there so I'm not shaming anyone or whatever.
Just a heads up: the "ItS EaSy" uppercase-lowercase mess is the sarcastic/mockery font in memes, so that "everyone is adhd" is making fun of people who say that.
Also the pair of scissors trying to cut a stream of water.
unrelated but I love your username, Laika was a hero
I don't understand? :)
@@louise9833 which bit are you confused about lovely?
@@louise9833 water will keep running, even if you try to cut it, it will just search for a new route to get to where it wants to go ^^ the same is with ADHD, you can try to suppres it (cut it) by saying "just focus" but our brains will find a way to loose our train of thought and get distracted xD
My note on side quests, is I don't call them sidequests because those are optional. I set myself exactly one task for the day. That task might be take a bath, do the laundry, load the dishwasher, something that is in the maintenance of myself or my living space. That is the one thing I absolutely Need to do today.
Everything beyond that is bonus points. At the end of the day I get to see or talk to my partner, and he praises me for getting my task done that day or comforts me if I had a really bad day and I wasn't able to. And he celebrates all the bonus points with me, and if I get lots of bonus points sometimes he brings me coffee the next morning when he comes home and tells me he's proud of me.
I realize that's not accessible to everyone who doesn't have a partner, this is just me sharing a really specific thing. But God it's made life so much better, just creating a piece of language that it was easy to share the magnitude of my victories no matter how small, and let someone I care about very deeply celebrate those victories with me.
0:53 The problem with this is my brain instantly registers that side quests are optional
for people with ADHD memes ARE REAL and so relatable.
As real as going into the comments immediately, no matter how good the video is...
@@kingphillieman Now that I think about none of my friends dont read comments.... And I go deep down the rabbit hole in almost every video I watch lol
@@kingphillieman and have to go back and try to watch again! lol
HuH?- I didn't understand that.-
For people with adhd memes are real
PSA: do not attempt to drink coffee while watching this. Signed, Coffee on My Shirt
My condolences to you and your shirt 😂
lol, i was drinking coffee when reading this, so funny 😆 you saved my shirt hehe
NGL "Googing Distraction" break had me laughing hard. Both the break and somehow my brain noticing the typo and having to rewind to be sure before continuing on. Great video!
This is soo great thank you for putting content out. I recently found out I had ADHD and seeing you help explain it and showing stuff like this really help me so thank you.
Totally wasn’t on a 5 hour break
Dani's storytelling meme is so accurate, it pains me how many creative writing pieces I've not been able to complete, or that make no sense to other people once they're done. xD
That is ok, just tell them that you are going for a Shakespearian style of storytelling.
I also get paid very well for my writing. So please don't give up, if you want to be a storyteller. The world needs [is that proper English?] lively writers.
@@justinriehl4183 Haha, that's brilliant. :') You made me smile there so thank you. It's been a long day.
@@feliciaschoenfeld5177 It's great to hear that I'm not alone in this. Thank you, I'm going to keep determined and tackle things bit by bit. Hopefully, that way, I'll finish my current piece of work. :)
Especially the pre story for context part XD I sometimes end up telling people my life story in order to talk about the thing my dog did yesterday XD
I will half-sarcastically say to people “you’re not allowed to apologize” then turn it into an inside joke whenever it happens like “excuse me dear person did I just hear the word soRRY-“
Immediately just vaporizes any awkwardness lol
I started doing that when I knew I was apologizing every sentence, and desperately needed to stop. Except I couldn’t. Then one day my friend teased, “okay you’re not allowed to apologize.”
I just stared at them for a second like-
So then I stole it from them, and so many good things that came out of it.
It made me stop using words like that uncontrollably which really helped with my confidence, it’s a great icebreaker when someone’s feeling insecure, it completely obliterates that awkward vibe when you or someone else unnecessarily apologizes, because now it’s a GOLDEN opportunity for an inside joke moment. It just isn’t an uncomfortable situation anymore.
As another person who apologises excessively, I really like this idea. You've got a good friend 😊
1:27 ahhHhh this is me
I always ponder "did I take my meds?" When I forget them, and when I don’t take them I later realize it and it’s too late to take them
"It's so hard having a condition that makes you forget things. Because then, you forget to do the things you need to do to manage your condition."
RIGHT?! 😫😭
I have found that repeating where I have put something over and over helps me remember where it is if it's really important like "My keys are on my desk. I am putting my keys on my desk. I have put my keys on my desk." and just keep repeating out loud over and over until I think I'm good
Seeing all the arguments in this video that my parents make about my ADHD and won't let me get medicated is very frustrating. Especially the "you can focus on things you like, so focus on work!"
I'm sorry it would be hard to not have parents that also have ADHD. A couple things I've noticed that my mom did before I was diagnosed (I didn't think I had it, so I didn't want to get diagnosed until I was an adult). 1. She kind of made the spare room my workspace, so I was away from my siblings and also where I slept and stuff. 2. I wasn't allowed to do fun things until I had finished my work (I still found ways to procrastinate, like talking to my mom...) 3. She tried to make me keep track of things and set reminders, but I was stubborn and didn't do it.
You are going to have to implement things that work for you yourself. It is possible, but depending on the severity of your ADHD it can be hard. It is possible though, try to make things fun for yourself, that's how I got 1 2nd grader to learn how to read. I got him to enjoy the practice of sounding out words by literally turning it into a game. If you struggle with learning math find internet games that teach the things you need to learn. The most important part of school is that you learn the skills, grades are secondary, just do the best you can. You are not alone, you can do this.
@@ThatOneLadyOverHere I used to be able to manage like that but as I got older, the responsibilities got bigger and my school content got harder. It is almost impossible to manage now and I can feel the symptoms worsening. I appreciate the comment and the sentiments and I agree they do help but I am way past that now :(
@@jed2519 I'm sorry, that really sucks. Maybe talk to a teacher and see if they can get you support or maybe help convince your parents what's really going on?
That stinks. I'm sorry.
For those that can’t find your glasses and don’t have an extra pair. Use your phone camera....if you can find your phone.
This is why I have google home. Number 1 command "Google find my phone" and also why I am so glad I got Lasik, haven't lost my eyeballs.... yet.
@@justinriehl4183 Often I am wearing my contacts and I forget that I am. Or am holding my phone and look for it.
I sometimes doubt I have ADHD because I ALMOST never struggle finding my keys, cellphone or glasses. I think its because I always put them on the same 3places. (Don't always know exactly which of those 3 places tho)
I always have my phone with me and I always make sure I have it, if not.. then it is gone with the wind
@@katherinewilson1853 I almost went back to a restaurant once to get my glasses but they were hanging on my shirt collar .
Some of these cracked me up so much - too relatable. The focus one really got to me as well. I have to do so much documentation on stats for my job at the moment as part of signing off a project and it’s pure pain. I cannot do this during a working day with the way it’s broken up by meetings and random calls from people who need help.
I end up logging onto my work computer at about 10pm. Watching Netflix on my phone till midnight/ 1am - panicking because it’s late and then staying up till 3am to finish it. It’s like Chinese water torture.
The forgetting what someone just said thing hits hard for me. I have to write down anything that could be important otherwise I start overthinking and other things everyone has ever said to me starts filling my head and I can't keep track of what the person standing right in front of me just said.
This actually makes it a lot easier to show friends how ADHD affects me.
I want to hit like on this comment so many times.
when Jessica googled "how to serotonin" I got curious so I went and googled the same thing and now I know pineapple is good for depression and I also learned some exercises for the lungs don't ask how
LOL, pineapple gives me hives so I'll skip that one 😛
me when i google literally anything
What are the exercises for the lungs and do they help with asthma please
so pineapple is good for both my coochie and my depression, noted.
@@coricognitions pineapple has flesh dissolving enzymes. I don’t think it’s good for such delicate and sensitive regions.
I thought I was just a special case when i realized that I often pick something up, pick up another thing, subconciously drop the first thing, and realized that idk where I left the first thing
When you have ADHD and depression so you only focus on things you're interested in but you are gradually having less interest in everything so you can focus 0% of the time.
The Dani Donovan ADHD storytelling one was one of the first ones I saw that was so spot on I was like, "ummm, maybe I should look into this more."
When someone says to me "this is easy, it can be done really quick", I wanna cry because I cannot do even the easiest thing really quick. My brain deliberates even when saving a new powerpoint slides or word document.
I remember one time when my math teacher gave us an activity to do. It was due by the end of class. Most people were done before the class ended, but I took the whole period to finish it because it took me so long just to figure out HOW to do it.
At about 7:40 I was like: "yeahhhh, I feel that in my bones."
Because I had this super important toy when I was younger and I put it in a special place to keep it safe because I was confident that I would remember were it was, by the end of that evening I had forgotten where I had put it. I was lost for like 6 years, and I only found it because I was clearing out my room of old stuff that I never used anymore and stumbled upon it.
Practical tip: When I put something in a "safe place" I take a photo of it in that place on my phone. Game changer.
Oof telling me to focus harder is like setting off a time bomb that you are wanting to explode in your face even though the time bomb warned you it wouldn’t be pretty 😂
Yes this! Or when someone says "Just do it" gets me everytime I just wanna go boom 🤯
@no just no Yeah, or you're focusing on getting the thing done and forget to pay attention to what is being done or what you're reading and so having done it is pointless because you got nothing out of it because you were telling yourself to focus the whole time. That's why fidget toys ir notes are good because they give us something to focus on so we can pay attention without going overboard and missing everything.
Nothing like going to a workshop with your job and they're having a roundtable at the end of the course where we are supposed to discuss the topics the teacher has shown on a PPT. Panic!
@@ThatOneLadyOverHere Taking notes makes so much sense actually! When I was in HS before I was diagnosed I had this history teacher that did nothing but lecture like no powerpoint or textbook just talking, and I'm either a visual or hands on kind of learner lectures were my worst enemy. But we were required to take notes and be graded on them so I would write down basically everything that he said as I heard it and I actually did well in his class! Why did that just click for me now after 9 years 🤦🏼
Thank you so much for adding in the ADHD disclaimer in your ad! I always forget about canceling subscriptions until like a year later when I am like oh I should sign up for a free trial.... wait I already have an active account?!?
Yeah, it's little things like that that help make you feel loved at this channel.
You know what is worse than that? Remembering those subscriptions but putting of canceling them for months ("this month is already payed anyway, Maybe I will use the service since I payed anyway...")
You are the reason I got diagnosed for adhd. Why my grandparents took me to the doctor why I was able to somewhat help my life situation. Thank you.
"Focusing on (whatever you said) is like trying to nail jello to the wall" OMG, that made me snort laugh, but also that hit so hard and felt so true.
Laughed at loud at the “looks like I gotta do it at 7:00” meme.
This is so me on a daily basis
Am I the only one who gets tired of hitting the snooze alarm after a while and resets the alarm to the next whole hour?
@@danhelphrey6260 you most certainly are not, I'm quilty of the same exact thing 🤣
@@danhelphrey6260 no
Any other person: Just do the thing!
Me: But how?
Other person: It's easy!
Me: (whispers) but how... .. . ?
5:12 My entire experience with ADD (I think that's right, it's the non-hyperactive version) has just been I can do one specific thing in a given moment, and can't do anything else no matter how much I want to, peppered with family asking "It's very straightforward, you just have to do this other thing, just force yourself to do it." The infuriation on both sides is unbelievable, although more than a year of crippling depression and inability to make myself do anything certainly hasn't helped.
Great video, every other sentence just made me think "Oof, I feel that one."
I just saw your Ted Talk and was sobbing by the end of it. I had to show my husband! He watched me as I shared it with him. He could see how everything was starting to make sense to me. He was finally seeing me and my daily struggle. I am 36 and was overlooked for ADHD, as a child, because I wasn't hyperactive. Due to you sharing your story and starting this channel, I have the information I need to seek out a diagnosis. Thank you for what you do!
The fact that she got distracted by looking to "How to serotonine" it was the purest representation of ADHD
these memes validated me so much, they're so relatable, and its just nice to have a reminder that other people experience something similar, it makes me feel like Im not alone in this
I recently started watching these videos, and it's absolutely AMAZINGLY relatable!!
... but it doesn't matter. My voice is buried amongst several thousands of commenters... so I'm right back to square one: alone and invisible.
I'm so glad you said it was painful to do something not engaging to our brain because I LITERALLY DESCRIBE IT AS PAINFUL. Like it's so weird but I literally feel pain and as the very best scenerio I feel extremely uncomfortable.
"I impulsively bought a piano." I laughed and then I cried because i have done that EXACT thing.
On the bright side, it is a really nice piano... and guitar... guitars... and harmonica.
I dont know if you have "The Great Courses Plus" but am I realy able to learn how to play the guitar WITHOUT meeting a guitar teacher in real life? (I`m asking because I didn`t understand it to 100% because of my "bad" english)
@@user-zr3eu7ng5h I don't use great courses plus, but I thought I'd let you know you can absolutely learn guitar on your own! I did (kind of. I did have a couple of lessons but I did the majority of learning on my own.) If you have the opportunity to work with a guitar teacher, I'd recommend it especially to learn how to correctly place your fingers on the neck, but with youtube you can easily learn the basics and work your way up from there. Just be patient with yourself, it'll take a while for the strings to stop buzzing and your fingertips will need to build calluses but you can do it!!
@@katie42496 Thank you Katie for your answer 😄
@@user-zr3eu7ng5h happy to help!
My ADHD has really been kicking me down recently so this came at just the right time to make me laugh
4:07 the irony in me having to pause and read the meme because i wasn't listening
I don't usually worry about where I lose things because I am near constantly listening to music. Because I am actively listening to the music, I remember that I listened to it, and because I remembered that I listened to it, I can remember bits and pieces of what I was doing when I was listening to a particular song. That's how I find my car in parking lots or other objects I've set down around the house. But it only works because I need control of my auditory input near constantly.
That meme about forgetting to take your ADHD meds was literally me yesterday.
Once I was trying to do homework and could not figure out why I couldn't get through my easy Spanish homework. I live Spanish, it shouldn't have been hard, but I'd forgotten to take my meds...
I can totally relate haha but the other side is taking my meds twice because I forgot I took it hahaha
Same. But a little later I took them. Then I wasn't sure anymore if I really forgot or if I just overdosed... Wasted a few hours waiting to see if I would show any symptoms instead of studying for an exam today.