Reacting to even more ADHD Memes!
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00:25 Gimme a Meme 1
01:40 My Trip to Italy
03:16 Gimme a Meme 2
03:44 Gimme a Meme 3
04:14 Gimme a Meme 4
05:40 Gimme a Meme 5
06:31 Gimme a Meme 6
07:02 Gimme a Meme 7
07:18 What is working memory?
07:32 Gimme a Meme 8
08:34 Gimme a Meme 9
09:38 Gimme a Meme 10
10:18 Gimme a Meme 11
10:56 Gimme a Meme 12
11:38 Gimme a Meme 13
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congrats on the kid to come!
What is the link to the meme website?
@@jelmerprins I too wish to procrastinate with this tool!
Jessica googling in the middle of shooting a video was far more relatable to me than any of the memes. It normally takes me at least twice the running time to watch anything because I'm continually pausing to google whatever random nonsense happens to pop into my head. lol
This video may have taken me over 2 hours to watch because I got distracted partway through.
Ditto. Even, watching a 1 hour and a half movie would often take the entire day for me to finish lmao. I can hardly keep track the number of times I'd be pausing the movie and going off to tangents.
Excuse me, are you me? I say while the video is paused 😂
That's how I end up in the situation where I'm trying to figure out how my phone's web browser went from having 3 tabs open to remind me of stuff to having 17 tabs open in the span of twelve hours. When I see something intriguing, I either ask an ai or I pop open a tab to look at later (which is usually never). So many exciting little rabbit trails, so little time!
Google and whatch multi-task?
Liver and kidneys both filter out waste. And that's a liver in the meme.
I agree, that was a liver.
beat me to it :p
I thought the liver tasks were similar to the pancreas's 🤔
Yeah, kidneys are usually depicted together
Came here to say this... after googling it to be sure I knew what I'm talking about 😂
I don't even worry about the name thing anymore. When I encounter someone whose name I forgot, i just say "My name is Tory, in case you forgot" and they follow up with their own name - most of the time they HAD forgotten my name as well and are appreciative that I pushed us both past the awkwardness 🙂
That's a great way to handle it!
im taking notes, thanks! 😆
Rhetorical life hack I'm absolutely using later!
I don't ask people what their name is, and I don't share mine until we've spoken a good bit, so that hopefully I'll have something to associate their name with. I still forget anyway, but it makes it bit easier :')
I always just tell people I'm terrible with names and then when I see them again I say "sorry, what was ur name again? I'm so Forgetful!" Often I find them saying they've forgotten mine too and we laugh
Similar to the giraffe thing, I once laid awake for a long while thinking about how a female Bigfoot would be called a Bigfette.
I was looking up werewolves, and it turns out 'were' is the old English for 'man', as opposed to 'wif' for a woman, so a female werewolf would be a wifwolf.
I once laid awake wondering what their child would be called after learning a county somewhere in Washington or Oregon passed a law banning Big Foot hunting because people were getting hurt. I settled on TinyFoot.
@@6022This is now absolutely going to live in my cache of random fun facts thank you
❤
@@6022Now the question, what are enby werewolves called?
Whenever I put something in a brilliant new place and can’t find it as a result, I call it squirreling. I’m a frantic little squirrel in a big, busy forest and I can never remember where I buried my nuts even though they’re super important for surviving the winter.
I just figure I needed to put it somewhere really really safe....even from me.
Recently I read somewhere that squirrels also forget where they bury their nuts xD
"If I don't take care of something the second it pops in, ehhhhhh?" is so so relatable. I've even flagged emails at work and I still don't remember to reply or do what the email says. A co-worker suggested something they do: forward the email to yourself and schedule it to send for a specific time later. That's actually helped me.
That's a great idea! My task list has items on it that I flagged a year ago and while I did get some of them done, eventually, I forgot to go back and mark them as complete!
you can snooze emails and have them pop up (only for you) at the time of your choice!
@@mayario Does that depend on what email you're using?
your coworker is a genius!
Ooh, I do that too! And I get overwhelmed by my work inbox being full so I have some subfolders under my inbox as well. So, for anything that's more of a general office notice I have "rules" set up that those will automatically be filed into a subfolder if they have certain subject lines/senders/etc. (because let's be honest, I'm not gonna read those general emails anyway). That way I don't have many emails in my inbox! Way easier to find things. 😅
as someone on the autistic spectrum, the "what I think" circles are definitely relatable
Yes, I was thinking the same. Fits my daughter perfectly.
So very yes
I was also thinking this was more relevant for AuDHD folks like me!
Yes, me too.
I hugely relate to this meme because of my Innatentive adhd which is the type of adhd that seems to most closely mirror/overlap with Autism than the other types (imho).
Googling the kidney thing mid-video is the most relatable ADHD thing ever.
I heard somewhere that being friends or partners with someone with adhd is like micro dosing on Wikipedia and honestly I can see it 😅
My husband and I both have ADHD, but it presents in different ways which is helpful to us. I never remember to put dinner away and he has a hard time following a conversation. He puts dinner away and I never know when his mind wanders lol
Infoduuuuump!
My favorite "deliberately putting something somewhere and forgetting" moment for me was in college. Friend and I rented a locker at the gym, but the locks have to come off for summer break. Come Fall, I'm searching everywhere for the lock. To the point I just go buy a new one. I get to the gym, get ready, and go to put on my gym shoes, when out falls the lock from the year before. I had put it in my gym shoe because those were guaranteed to come to the gym with me 🤦♀️
I don't wear my wedding ring often. We moved, and I knew I packed it but had no idea where. It was lost for at least six months. I put it in a medicine bottle?
I put a floppy (with my resume on it) away for safe keeping, that was in 1990. I still haven't found it.
Very relatable. I so often put things in very logical places, but then I totally forget and have to tear apart the whole universe before eventually finding them in a very thoughtfully-chosen spot. Sigh.
I put a card for my mother somewhere. And then it just kinda. . Disappeared? Never found it.
Another piece of the “where is the thing?” should be “deliberately put in a different special place than the special place I used in the past because I thought the original special place didn’t make sense, and now I remember I made a new special place but can’t remember where the new special place is… only where the old special place was…”
It’s happened to me too many times…
Constantly. Especially in my electronic notes.
Or, like me, puts bread in toaster, changes breakfast plans, forgets I put bread there only to find it sitting there several days later! Lol 😂😅.
I have flat out immediately telling people when I meet them that I will likely forget their name and it's not personal. That usually helps it stick. If they can give me a way to remember it, it will etch itself in my brain. Most people take it well and say they get it!
What's weird for me is at work I have a much easier time remembering people than outside of work. Probably because I see the more often than people outside of work.
I have made peace with my difficulty remembering names. Now, at the end of a conversation I take a second to check in with myself asking if I remember their name, and if not, do I need to. Only if I really need to do I ask again, at which time I will repeat it back to them and try to come up with some way of making me remember it, like, say if a childhood friend had the same name or whatever. Even then, I might forget their name before I get a chance to record it so I don't put that pressure on myself unless I really need to.
oh yeah, if i have something to link the name too (like other people with that name or a character from a movie etc) then it's way easier to rememer, either that or i have to hear that name a lot
I usually need to write it down. Sometimes in the air, or in my mind, or with their phone number, or I add their family details to their phone number to remember their children's or parent's/s' names, etc.
Me: hm I don't feel like doing the dishes. Ooh a new HowtoADHD video! That sounds so much more fun!
AND THEN THE VERY FIRST MEME WAS AN INSTANT ATTACK LMAO
7:36 ADHD is worse than that: *sometimes the response time is negative.*
I often anticipate things minutes or days in advance, and some of my tasks have been pending for… years (not a joke).
I'm auDHD so my response time is literally -10 seconds to well over a decade. (And I do mean literal negative time, I have been caught responding to things that haven't technically happened yet, i'm skeptical)
I keep so many lists of future ideas for this exact reason! My personal OneNote is full of tabs for things like "future garden" or "future Halloween costumes" so I can actually write down The Idea right when I have it and know that it'll be there when it finally becomes relevant.
3:17 I hate this aspect of ADHD. The entirety of my working memory is consumed with making absolutely sure I DON'T FORGET THE THING, and so nothing gets done because I can't spare the brain energy. This was particularly bad when my work schedule was 5-6 days a week, because it essentially meant that a) I couldn't do anything before work because I couldn't risk missing my work shift, and b) I'd spend so much mental energy at work masking and making up for my neurodivergence that I had none left do do anything useful after work. So essentially, only the "emergencies" (no clean clothes! no clean dishes! bills are due TODAY!) got done, and literally nothing else. I was living in a state of constant burnout, simply because I had to go to work every day. I recently was able to change my schedule to 3-4 longer shifts a week, so I get several days off now, which has helped somewhat. But it's still a significant challenge on the days I go to work.
7:02 This drives me crazy, too. The fact that I can forget what I'm doing WHILE I'm doing it just boggles my brain. It boggles the brains of other people, too. We can be having a conversation, and sometimes I'll get interrupted, and someone will notice and ask what I was about to say. I just have to tell them, "Sorry, I've had like 20 thoughts since then, and I have literally no idea."
Oh! Recently my phone alarm stopped being reliable and i’ve been late to work twice, so now I set my google home alarm on top of my fancy sleep alarm so that unless I lose power in the morning, my alarm will always go off. Doesn’t mean I get up or leave for work on time though 😂
Very relatable. It’s the curse of having too many tabs open and running in my brain at once... um, what was I saying?
The laundry one is so accurate! And I also fall into the “wash-wash-wash” category sometimes. 😅
If I’m doing the laundry at a Laundromat then I am ok. If I’m not it is wash-wash-wash lol.
Same, I got a smart plug for my washer so I can have my devices yell at me when it finishes. Announcement through a speaker and turns the lights colors. Cause it's pretty hard to miss the world turning blue.
@@waffles3629 That’s such a great idea!
@@StudioLindsay yeah, my partner came across the idea and it's been amazing. We added the lights though. Cause you can easily miss the announcement by simply not being near a speaker when it goes off, but you'll notice the lights.
Laundry is a good candidate for gamifying. Make a timer on your phone for how long it takes to do a laundry cycle and challenge yourself to get as much done in one afternoon as you can, fitting naps, small responsibilities, and fun activities between them. I think I managed 5 loads in one day. Did it get folded? Absolutely not. But was everything clean and dry by the end? Yep!
10:59 I've seen this meme before, and it's SO TRUE. I hired a professional organizer who specializes in ADHD a couple of years ago, and the first five minutes of the appointment sum up my ability to keep track of things perfectly. She suggested we start by organizing my school stuff, and I spent a solid two minutes looking around my 300 square foot studio apartment for my bright blue school backpack. 😂 The biggest piece of advice she gave me during that session was to assign something a place in the location where you use it. Even implementing that one bit of advice has made my life so much easier.
I have to put things like car keys away before I step off the door mat, if I get further into the house the thought of having to do it is gone and they are lost. So where storage for certain things is located is critical. Must be at point of use/need in many cases. Every time I break this rule I get in a mess.
@@dees3179I hear this "searching for the keys" thing from so many Americans (regardless of their neurotype) and I can't help wondering why. Don't you have a little shelf / table / sideboard thingy right by your door? Where I live, that's the culture in every house - some sort of landing area directly by the door where you immediately drop the keys and your wallet and probably your gloves in winter. And where you put stuff you don't want to forget when you go out, like, idk, grocery coupons or your water bottle. So you see them when you take your keys.
I couldn't live without something like that, we actually have quite a big side table for this. Yeah sure, it makes our entrance hall look a bit cluttered but that's a small price to pay for always knowing where stuff is when you're in a hurry to get going. Can recommended 100%.
@@TheFeldhamster there's not room by everyone's front door for a table. I'd have to block the door, the closet, or the kitchen. I have hooks on the wall for some things, though my wallet and keys just stay in my pants and I'll change into PJ pants or shorts.
Yep, like keep things where you use them. Not where it's considered "socially acceptable". Like some of my meds are in the kitchen because they have to be mixed with water.
@@TheFeldhamsterThe Launching Pad. I have a complete closet now: ready to grab Grocery shopping, ready to grab Road Trip, ready to grab Sleepover, complete sets of stuff to grab in full flight before leaving.
When I was diagnosed with ADHD and ASD back in 2020, your channel was recommended to me by the psychologist to help me understand ADHD as I had no idea about it.
You have been a massive source of information, thank you.
At the end: "I'm going to put my phone down"
And then not actually put it down and continue to scroll... Can relate 😅
You can’t just say “I have a button that gives me memes!” without posting a link to the button that gives you memes.
The note about telling people "thank you for your patience" had me dying cause I've been doing that for a while now with potential freelance clients cause I miss the first time they reach out and then they follow up a while afterwards and I try not to be so apologetic cause I've been told that's too timid and so I try to be more assertive but I say it so much that hearing it from someone else was a mix of getting called out and vindication that I'm not the only one to do it
... also learning about the period key on my keyboard after typing this comment... that was great :P
OMG I cannot follow that without periods. I'm so sorry...thank you for understanding.
@@paulstejskal Honestly same lol
@@MetalRobotReviewsahahahaa, I didn't even notice the lack of periods until I read the other person's reply to you! 🤦🏼♀️😅
@lilannegirl(followed by a number), it was your comment that made me question the period comments above and finally get it. 🤦🏼
The trick is using "thank you for following up." This is more likely to boost conflict resolution. Being patient is a passive skill while following up is an active participation. Giving positive reinforcement and recognition for their actions is way more likely to reduce tension than pointing out passive engagement.
Here's one I heard recently that works really well. If you have a job that will only take you 2 minutes, or less, to do. Don't schedule it for later. Do it right now. It's bizarrely effective.
The problem is when you think of 5 jobs in 5 seconds. And they each take 2 minutes. By the time you pick the 1st one to do you have forgotten 2 of them. By the time you get that 1 done you have forgotten the remaining 2.
@@christinaclark9754 Sucks to be us. 😂
I love the inclusion of these research rabbit holes. Saved me a search lol.
"i like memes...i love memes" lmao my exact reaction😭
Memes are the best!!
Memes!
@HowtoADHD the meme for the Planeteers is a little bit backwards. Maximum kindness is Mahtee. Impulsiveness would be the orange haired guy. The blonde lady is accurate. And the last two - the girl and the other guy - should be flipped.
On the note of interrupting video to Google and working memory:
something that's really frustrating for me is when I pull up a browser to look something up but as soon as I see the currently pulled up tab a blank on what I had planned to do. Then I have to backtrack through my though process or what I was looking at to figure out what I wanted to know or needed to do.
Same.
Yup to most of the memes. Totally relatable...
On the other hand, here's a joke.
How many kids with ADHD does it take to change a light bulb???
Answer: wanna go for a bike ride? 😂
Sounds like you need to look into getting a 2 in 1 washer and Dryer! Throw in a Load and it will get Washed and dried with out you having to do anything!! If you have the budget you should also splurge for the "ventless" ones. They use a Heat pump and provide huge energy Savings!
She's pregnant, so one of those 2 in 1 washers can be a bit of an issue in terms of not being able to do 2 loads at once.
In addition to what SmallSpoonBrigade said, I also had a huge issue with my 2-in-1. Basically, it did both, but it didn't do either well.
@@divergentdreamer maybe the 2-in-1 has ADHD like us
I had to learn in grad school that responding immediately is better than responding "well".
The fact that she's consuming memes after finishing the book says lot about book
Like what? Haha
That it's finished?
I don't get it🤨😏
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It may say a lot, but it's whispering and I don't think anyone got it.
1:15 I don't know how the rest is gonna be but your laughter sounds so genuine on this first one it's really fun to hear :)
One of my most common struggles is matching a name to a face. Often I'll go to the church I've been attending for 6 years and have a conversation with someone, and I just can't remember their name (even though i have known them for 6 years). Also happens with actors, someone will mention an actor and I usually have to google them so I can see their face (doesn't matter how many times I've looked them up before)
You might have "face blindness". Can't remember the medical term.
Read about it in one of Dr.Oliver Sacks books. HIGHLY RECOMMEND! He was a neurologist that specialized in brain/mind stuff...(lol, sorry, I am not very eloquent at the moment ! )
I remember the difference between Kidneys and the Liver by remembering that Kidneys are shaped like the beans.
I just did my level 1 first aid and refreshed my CPR skills, so I'm going to say CPR on a giraffe would work best if you had a team of two people, one to do compressions and one to do rescue breaths.
I do so much better with the random setting things down than with deliberate placements. At least when I randomly set things down, I tend to set them down in a handful of places I spend most of my time. When I set it somewhere special, I forget, precisely because the specialness of the place means it's not a regular spot for me.
I completely relate to the "What I think > What I can put into words > What I say > What people understand" one. My brain goes so fast that my mouth can't keep up and what comes out is often confusing or incomplete.
I love the in depth meme critiques! Especially for the Captain ADHD meme.
I’m so bad at names that, as an author, I’ve managed to forget my protagonists’ names.
*My brain:* "You know, dishes have a variety of shapes, colors, and textures to practice..."
*Me:* "...heck"
That first meme gets me. I learned how to use AI voice generators because I was sick of having to manually read and wanted a tts to do it for me. Went down the rabbit hole, no ai tts, but now I can have a program convert my voice in real time to make me sound like Joshua Graham.
I’m glad to know that someone out there does also ”Roomba cleaning”
And today we have two live examples of distraction rabbit holes.... = D
...Best advice I've learned for not losing things is "Don't pick a home for it, but to ask yourself where you'd look for it" the first requires you to remember something for that one thing, the latter lets you rely on the search strategy you already have and forget the thing. (With many thanks to fellow ADHDer Adam Savage)
I had some parking passes for an event come in the mail. I put them in a side drawer and then on my miscellaneous reminders list I wrote down that I put them there.
I totally relate to the nested venn diagrams - I have soooooo many thoughts that don’t translate well into words, and I would get so overwhelmed as a kid trying to say what I wanted to say
Yep, my mind never stops, but so many of the thoughts make no sense to anyone else.
@@waffles3629 Exactly! I babble on and on and on, until I can't bear the bewildered looks people are giving me
@@d.d.d.a.a.a.n.n.n that's a whole mood, I feel that. Thankfully my partner doesn't mind. She's not always paying attention, but that's ok, sometimes I just wanna ramble.
the clue that it's a liver is that it's not kidney-shaped :P
Livers also filter things, and that was a liver on the picture 😅
Where is the thing? Adam Savage talks a bit about his shop layout philosophy that he calls "First Order of Retrievability". One of the parts of that I have been using myself, whether in the office, shop, or around the house is when looking for "The Thing" keep note of the first place you look for it. When you eventually find (or replace) "The Thing", put it where you first looked for it. There was a reason you looked in that first place, and very likely it will be the first place you go to when you need it again.
I had this realization while looking for something yesterday.
I love how, at the giraffe meme, she said out loud exactly what I was thinking immediately too: Yeah how do you do that?😂😂
You form a Circle and jump on its chest. I called this from a podcast that had a ranger call in.
I can 100% relate to the laundry one. *Currently have a pile of dried but unfolded laundry on the other side of his bed... and it's been there for 3 days*
Ok in fairness I can relate to most of them.
I also remember song lyrics from songs I haven't heard in a decade. WHY
I just gave up folding anything that's gonna be used within the next two weeks unless I need it to not be wrinkly. I organize into a laundry basket in separate 'piles' for pillowcases, PJs, towels, underwear, etc. That way it's not just a growing pile on the floor and I can find stuff relatively easily.
@@waffles3629I don't even have enough clothes for 2 weeks haha. I should get another basket though! That way it isn't just sitting on my bed.
@@AnimatronicBadgerlord oh, I pretty much have to wash every week or I'd also run out, the two week rule is just to force me to put away things I wear/use infrequently. Otherwise it just accumulates till I have a breakdown because I can't find anything.
Just want to say a massive congratulations - I'm so happy for you xx
There are combined washer/dryers these days - one machine and one extra-long cycle that does everything.
I thought about getting one since it just seems easier
Ok, I actually relate to the second last one, a lot
Like, last week. I wanted to return some books I borrowed for the library. And
Ok, first. I keep my library books, in two bags. One for "haven't read/finished", and one for "have read"
And I usually keep both, near my bed. But for some reason, I put my "have read" bag, near my door
Ok. So! I was going to the library, planning to return some books, and spend the afternoon there. For some reason, I forgot to put my binder on. So I went back to grab it, then went back to walking to the bus stop... Only to realize. I forgot my library books
Why? Because I moved then from their spot. And even though I was constantly looking at them in their new spot, before I left. I forgot them
The laundry one, for me, would be: Wash…then wash again, because I put more dirty clothes into the washing machine BEFORE putting the clothes I just washed into the dryer (because I’ve forgotten about those).
I'm fairly certain it's been at least a year since I put away my laundry. The clean pile is a couple feet high and the cats sit atop it often.
You are so relatable. My husband says we are so much alike that it's almost scary. 😅
Meme 4 had a picture of a liver, not the kidneys😭😂
Sitting here laughing at your laundry bit, as I myself have a washer filled with clothes that did not make it to the drier over the weekend. Struggling with others makes it a whole lot easier, doesn't it?
When I used to live at home (61 now, moved out at 17), I would do laundry while watching t.v.
Back then, most programs were about half an hour, which is also how long a wash takes, SO, I would start a load, watch a show, run down, transfer into dryer, and start another load. Due to commercials I seldom missed shows ! Lol !
When clothes were dry I would bring them up to the living room and fold them as I was watching t.v.
Missing space in my apartment for a washing machine helpes me with the drying and folding. If I have to go to the salon anyway, I can stay there a little longer. Also, I don't want to drag the wet clothes home. And while I'm at it, I can fold them afterwars. Which might be, because I don't want to be shamed for not folding them by the other strangers there. So... Thanks, social anxiety?
Her just googling stuff in the in the middle of recording is too relatable xD
5:37 is literally me 😂 having a whole convo with myself to have another ‘oops’… *”I’m doing great”* omg ily
I never remember people's names because I'm too busy thinking about how I should be paying attention to their name that I don't have brainpower to actually pay attention
Laundry: wash, fold, dry, leave in basket not put away for weeks on end! 😅
Escape room challenge: Leave the kitchen with the only and exact thing you went there to get just a moment ago.
The laundry thing is clearly wash > wash > wash > dry > empty dryer two days later > put laundry basket in hallway until someone else carries it upstairs > live out of laundry basket until it’s half empty > put away \o/
The memory thing.. I can’t remember what I ate for breakfast on a given morning, but I can smell a smell and remember exactly what I was doing the last x number of times I smelled that smell. 😂
Edit: the names vs lyrics thing.. I know the lyrics of nearly every 90s boy band song that I never listen to anymore.. I forget some family member’s names.
I can’t remember birthdays, doctors appointments, etc. but I can remember every time I was insulted.
Clicking on the link, live while presenting: instructional edition - answering a students question in class by doing a Google search, and then clicking on a tangentially related link, because it looks interesting to yourself, slightly, forgetting that there’s an entire room full of 16 year-old staring at you.
I immediately added the book to my Amazon wishlist. Meanwhile, I'm watching this video instead of doing what I want to start on but can't get up to start on
Wash, dry, fold, leave on top of something, repeat 2 or 3x and then put away weeks later after you've worn and washed them a couple of times😂
Lol, I just gave up putting basic everyday things away and have clean and dirty laundry baskets. So stuff like towels, pillowcases, underwear and PJs just get sorted into piles in the clean one.
The name thing... I saw the perfect gif to represent how my brain handles names.
It showed a piece of paper coming out of a printer and falling perfectly into a shredder.
"Oh your name is _____? That's nice. *shred*"
THIS!!! Yes! 😂🤣
I managed to check out and get distracted by some other thought while you were in the middle of explaining how focus issues impact working memory 🤣 The irony is just painful, but thank god for the “back” button!
We need the book, Jess!
Yea, the captain planet one should've said "short term memory problems", or "working memory problems" but they were probably limited on space and had to straight up shorten it. Speaking of, I can remember the strangest, most random stuff from aeons ago. Like this one memory of my granpa pulling me along the beach in a red Ryder wagon. He died when I was six, so I couldn't have been any older than 4 at the time. Probably younger, tbh.
What trips me up about many chores is if it's a big chore, like cleaning an overflowing sink. I need to empty the sink in order to make use of the sink to clean the dishes, so the counters need cleaning and the trash bin needs emptying, and so many steps just to get TO the dishes. Nothing is particularly enjoyable, lots of repetitive movements that don't play nice with arthritis, why do The Big Chore when I could be doing anything else?
Exactly!
"Wait, now I have to look it up" is peak ADHD
Song lyrics run around in my head every day, earworms. And it’s constantly the same line for ages. It’s super annoying when I’m trying to concentrate on something.
The toast meme: definitely not me putting popcorn in the microwave, walking into the next room, then tearing back into the kitchen 30 seconds later when I hear something in the microwave EXPLODING. 😅
Memory clicks for me: I can't remember why I went to the store once I walk inside, but no matter how long I've been inside, I know where I parked
i stopped the video so i could read the meme by myself, read it but didnt actually read it( people with adhd know what i mean xd) after that i forced myself to actually read and comprehend what it says but after that point it only gets worse 😂
I love humor based on our shared pain and difficulties.
9:00 "What am i doing? Where's the chips? What's my name?" is me.
I think it’s great that Jessica is standing up against misconceptions about adhd as these can make you gaslight yourself sometimes that you should or are struggling with them even if you don’t . So thank you
I forget my coworkers, my friends, my cats and even my own name and it's horrifying.
(11:00) No joke... I added a file to my laptop labeled, "I hid it here", with a description of the item and where I actually put it. This has worked awesomely for gifts and tax information. 😁
I did that for some parking passes I had for an event! I have a big misc reminders list and I put it on there.
6:40 OMG I still have all my laundry in my basket because I'm procrastinating to put it away.
Love this video, several of these meme apply to me too, specially the memory ones, I have a very selective memory, my brain only work with certain things.
Also it took several months to finally fond my charging cable to my Bluetooth headphones, luckily my phone have the same connector.
The inaccurate adhd memes are definitely a pet peeve for me, too.
It's often just a bunch of vague, generically relatable attributes that then people wildly self diagnose with 😅
For me nothing, especially keys, has just one place to be. This allows my brain to have flexibility it craves and not the rigidness that it will destroy. You know the "This is the only way to do blah blah blah" that is so soul destroying when it doesn't work for you. That is me and "Everything has it's one place to be and you must put it back after you finish using it" rule which has never worked for more than 5 seconds with me before I have forgotten the solitary place something was meant to be because it no longer made sense for it to belong there.
For example I often have 4 places that keys can be - In my pocket, on the table in the hall way (by the door), beside my computer (I'm in IT) or on my bedside table. This means I only have a small number of places to check before going into full panic mode thinking my keys have been left on a train or bus and then finding them on a different table that is on the way from the front door to the bathroom. :)
Oh, I have a great memory for obscure tangential things that generates a 20 min story to make it relatable to the other person/ppl.
I realized I'm not a good receptionist when it dawned on me that I had to choose between remembering the caller's name or listen to why they were calling in. Led to a lot of situations where I had to tell my boss "They wanna talk to you about this" "Ok, who is it?" "*shrugs*".
3:55 To me it seams like a joke on the weird creativity ADHD people can have, and the masking that covers it up.
I find it relatable, though I haven't been diagnosed, but I have strong suspicions that I have ADHD.
I redecorated my office, including shopping for a desk, rugs, and bookcases, to avoid cleaning my kitchen. 😂 Thank you for reminding me that I’m not alone.
Interrupting the video just to google random things is the most ADHD thing ever
Your mention about how you do laundry made me laugh out because ughhhhh same >< Wash thrice, finally dry, sits in my clean clothes basket for a week or three, finally gets hung up at 1am on a Tuesday
I've made toast become hard rocks on accident because I made the toast, sat out on the back porch because my dog needed to go pee and the weather felt really nice, and then I head back inside and go "Hm I'm a little pecki- OH MY TOAST D:"
I lost my 15-year-old dog three weeks ago and have struggled to function ever since 🥺 I have people messaging me on Facebook and Instagram, but honestly, I haven't had the brain power to check them. 😣 I appreciate your alternative, "Thank you for your patience" rather than apologizing for taking weeks to respond. I will use that from now on ☺
Also, the dishes meme is by far my favorite because that is my least favorite chore 😅 I've pulled weeds for 2 hours instead of washing dishes 🤪
Speaking of putting stuff in random places…
Once I set my glasses down in a hanging organizer in the walk-in closet of an apartment. I so thoroughly lost them there that I went and got new glasses and then didn’t find the old ones until we moved from there.
I still will put my glasses and phone down randomly, but it’s now more of a “they’re in one of these 10 places” kind of thing.
I actually relate so hard to the “what i think…what people understand” one. It’s one of my biggest struggles especially in a committed relationship. A thought/feeling will make sense so well in my head and when i go ahead and try to express it, im completely lost with words and how to put it together so that someone can understand me. AND MOST OF THE TIME, ITS A VERY COMMON THOUGHT/FEELING.
With the laundry, I also had that problem. I have found that the best thing for me is to use a combination washer dryer so I can put the clothes in the machine, they get washed, then they get dried, and I don’t need to wash them 4 times because I forgot to move them into the dryer. At least now my clothes only get washed once and then….. I pull them out and leave them on the floor and don’t get around to folding them for a month… or two.
i find it hard to concentrate to read but I'll check this book out, you and your videos have been a help and i recently watched one on motivation because I've been wanting to draw more better myself but my brain tends to like to work against me sometimes, but your videos even if i haven't made significant progress yet they are entertaining and are making me a better person struggling with ADHD
The cleaning thing is accurate. Randomly I just got fed up with how dirty the fridge was so with a lot of energy at night time I decided I would clean and scrub the entire fridge at 12 at night. Ended up not finishing it al because I ran out of energy and it was late. But I got most done! Yay!
I'm literally watching this when I'm supposed to study for a history exam for tomorrow. It's 9pm 😁
I had to rewind every meme because I zoned out exactly just before and realized I stopped paying attention when I heard laughter lol 😂 So glad you can rewind videos