Why women ghost instead of being honest

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  • @ErnThaGAWD
    @ErnThaGAWD Před 2 lety +226

    Usually when I'm ghosted, I immediately go to the gym or I read something. It's not healthy to just sit with that feeling, gotta put it towards improvement.

    • @lintianjun4115
      @lintianjun4115 Před 2 lety +7

      fr. Gym helps me throughout those sh1t journeys...

    • @AAC9991
      @AAC9991 Před 2 lety +4

      GYM GANG

    • @mmmerable
      @mmmerable Před 2 lety +4

      I Already lost 30 pounds because of that method

    • @jedisentinel1499
      @jedisentinel1499 Před rokem +6

      Grown up response my friend! I do the same. Don’t waste anytime. move on. Life is too short.

    • @rickquesada925
      @rickquesada925 Před rokem +2

      Good idea 💪

  • @sean97712
    @sean97712 Před 2 lety +165

    I think after you get ghosted enough times you’re so numb to it that you don’t even care when it happens.

    • @alexchuprin8786
      @alexchuprin8786 Před 2 lety +7

      yes, I care a lot less now. Also helps having other options then if one ghosts it's no big deal

    • @mmendoza1190
      @mmendoza1190 Před 2 lety +6

      y'all have a problem than

    • @lainthor5808
      @lainthor5808 Před 2 lety +10

      yup, the worst part is the girl who just ghosted me was so much into me and she was hot ! this is the what stings the most lol!

    • @80skid83
      @80skid83 Před 2 lety

      💯

    • @thecowboy9698
      @thecowboy9698 Před 2 lety +8

      I think that's why alcohol was created, my friend.
      But all jokes aside, if a girl ghosts you, it isn't the end of the world, far from it. Actually, the girl who ghosted you did you a favor, as now you don't have to worry about dealing with a girl who's not really interested in you. Sometimes, things work out for the best, even if at the time they seem bleak.

  • @AdamTopCommenter
    @AdamTopCommenter Před 2 lety +60

    It only hurts when you care too much, I no longer wait for text responses, if they don’t text back in a few hours I delete the message and move on with my day, out of sight out of mind

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem +5

      Yep, never your fault if a girl ghosts you for no reason.

  • @chamcham123
    @chamcham123 Před 2 lety +48

    It is so sad to be ghosted a women that really thinks she can leave the door open for you in the future after she’s smashed dozens of guys since she last met you. After all that, she expects to be able to pick up your relationship with her right where she left it. I feel sorry for any dude that takes her back in that situation.

    • @thebigree6155
      @thebigree6155 Před měsícem

      Bro you're the first person I've ever seen share the same thought as me on this. The amount of girls I've talked to in my life who just keep getting smashed by their exes, ONS, random tinder hookups etc. after I've already started talking to them blows my mind.
      Like how do women expect a man to simply smile and be gracious that she has come back from riding the c*ck carasel as if she's done him a great service by giving him a turn in her smelly fish hole

  • @gigachad6162
    @gigachad6162 Před 2 lety +64

    If she actually likes you she wouldn’t ghost you. it’s that simple.

    • @persona8991
      @persona8991 Před 2 lety

      You’re clueless aren’t you?

    • @80skid83
      @80skid83 Před 2 lety +11

      No chance will she ghost if she likes you , yes

  • @LakeCrystal
    @LakeCrystal Před 2 lety +60

    let them ghost, work on your self and become a better person.

    • @LakeCrystal
      @LakeCrystal Před rokem +4

      @The GigaChad Don't make fun of me I'm a chad

    • @dragonblades46
      @dragonblades46 Před rokem

      That means I start working on one thing and I forget the other

    • @TwistedTransistor88
      @TwistedTransistor88 Před 4 měsíci

      How ist that a cope ? How are you dealing with the situation ?

  •  Před rokem +15

    Most men don't ghost women

  • @marksherrit5874
    @marksherrit5874 Před 2 lety +74

    She ghosts you because she's also chatting to about 100 other guys on tinder so doesn't have the time.

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem +3

      Could be...but why even give me your information and lead me on then? That's just dumb TBH...

    • @Emerica771
      @Emerica771 Před rokem +3

      @@Barber747 trying to narrow down the options, when you get ghosted it’s because she’s focusing on someone else

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem

      @@Emerica771 and how do you know that? 🤨

    • @Emerica771
      @Emerica771 Před rokem +1

      @@Barber747 experience unfortunately lmao

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem

      @@Emerica771 hey dude, that's you 🤷🏽‍♂️

  • @Enavor
    @Enavor Před 5 měsíci +4

    People who do this will always attract trouble and will never find an authentic relationship. They want the real thing when they themselves are cheap plastic. They play a sick magic trick on themselves.

  • @ryandeffley7652
    @ryandeffley7652 Před 2 lety +47

    Being ghosted is the truth of disinterest. I mean yeah you don't have specifics. But on a basic level you know she isn't into it. Plus even if you talked to her again it's not like she'd tell the truth about why.
    The best mindset is this. You can't ctrl what someone thinks, feels, or does. So the why ultimately doesn't matter. Being able to accept truth and not take it personally let's you succeed overall.

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem +15

      Ghosting is still immature as hell though...

    • @mykester796
      @mykester796 Před 8 měsíci +5

      @@Barber747 ikr it’s like those type of women haven’t matured since middle school

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@mykester796 FACTS 💯

  • @TheBroSplit
    @TheBroSplit Před rokem +11

    All cowardly and selfish reasons. Whether guy or gal

  • @tylerharding1492
    @tylerharding1492 Před 2 lety +45

    It’s kind of sad… but I don’t care if I get ghosted anymore because I’ve done it to other women I’m not into either. I think it’s my fear of potential conflict.

    • @Tgogators
      @Tgogators Před 2 lety +3

      It's human nature to avoid things we don't want to face. It takes an emotionally mature person to say what needs to be said. This is beyond true with younger people (like those 28 and under)

    • @Emerica771
      @Emerica771 Před rokem +1

      @@Tgogators bro 100%

    • @TopSecretInformations
      @TopSecretInformations Před rokem +2

      ah hypocritical comeuppance.
      you're correct, it is "sad".

    • @clownworld4655
      @clownworld4655 Před rokem +5

      That’s pathetic behavior bro. Grow a pair and reject chicks

    • @rasheemthebestfirstone3274
      @rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Weak

  • @anonocroc1923
    @anonocroc1923 Před 2 lety +11

    I'm pretty used to it at this point, it's tough but it's really out of your control. Just keep doing good stuff for yourself and keep trying!

  • @dumb525
    @dumb525 Před 2 lety +5

    Helped a good deal, going through this awkward stage in talking to my ex again. Its on & off, & this makes me more empathetic of her side & not bein so quick to jump the gun and playing my cards too aggressively & miscontruing things

  • @fizzy4966
    @fizzy4966 Před 2 lety +8

    What to do when you realize that you are just an option?
    Wait for a miracle to happen out of nowhere…?

  • @aryiascolbert8487
    @aryiascolbert8487 Před rokem +5

    It happens it’s part of life. Don’t take it personal. Know your worth. Just like you are going to meet women and way your options so is she.

  • @chedabu
    @chedabu Před 2 lety +14

    They do it for the same reason they don't do well in leadership positions and negotiations. Avoidance is their main defense mechanism.

    • @EnliveningJustice
      @EnliveningJustice Před rokem +1

      Careful with those feeble ASSumption makings, che che.

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem

      At the end of the day they're full of bullshit (i.e., inconsistent).

  • @phillipmennor2585
    @phillipmennor2585 Před 3 měsíci +2

    The women who say they don't want a guy who plays games are the ones who play games. Ghosting is just another one of their games.

  • @thelonehiker4698
    @thelonehiker4698 Před 8 měsíci +4

    I am willing to bet women ghost way more than guys do

  • @xMrJanuaryx
    @xMrJanuaryx Před 7 měsíci +1

    I have never been ghosted before but if I ever am there is zero chance of that women seeing me again.

  • @nicksunstrider258
    @nicksunstrider258 Před 7 měsíci

    My algorithm is healing (your video finally found its way back to my algorithm)

  • @GuardianMilsim
    @GuardianMilsim Před rokem

    Just found this channel,= after being rejected. So underrated

  • @trips505
    @trips505 Před 2 lety +9

    technology has just become the convenient answer to ghosting. i don't think it was as common before technology but I'm open to hearing if this has always been the case or is something more recent

    • @K9amilo90
      @K9amilo90 Před rokem

      It has always been the case, bot as prevalent as it is nowadays though. Think of writing a rejection letter. That's a lot of work compared to shooting a single message

  • @kaskben11
    @kaskben11 Před měsícem

    I’ve never thought about that last reason. Thanks man!

  • @sneakykamon
    @sneakykamon Před 2 lety +16

    I literally just got ghosted by a girl over the NBA playoffs just because our teams are facing each other right now. She started talking shit first even though I expected it, and when I started defending my team suddenly “I was being aggressive.” So she stopped talking to me a few days ago and the funny thing is we only talked because she slid in MY DMs first and was flirting hard😂

    • @naturesown1807
      @naturesown1807 Před rokem +2

      That's some petty shit 🤣

    • @Rico401Prov
      @Rico401Prov Před rokem

      Sounds like you dodged a bullet! 🤣

    • @davidgi3
      @davidgi3 Před měsícem

      She was just using that as an excuse to end it… bottom line.

  • @lorderectus1849
    @lorderectus1849 Před 9 měsíci +2

    We live in a world that loves a lie , the truth is nothing more than hated!
    I prefer truth, women don’t!

  • @MrMakingwavesmedia
    @MrMakingwavesmedia Před rokem +8

    only Narcissistic women ghost if they do that you are lucky you dodged a bullet.....FACT!

  • @gho5875
    @gho5875 Před rokem +2

    I agree it’s hard and not enough time to know if there is something there from just a first date, but why ghost instead of continuing to hang out and find out?

  • @jeffreymiller9808
    @jeffreymiller9808 Před 6 měsíci +1

    It really has made me rethink certain women I have known since I was younger, Not even sexually interested and they just kind of zone out as they get older. Really not cool to reach out to someone when You need something but Ignore people the rest of the time. Made me kinda start liking a Joan Jett song called “fake friends” which I always thought was a stupid song until I got older…

  • @Mr.chanell
    @Mr.chanell Před 2 lety

    Hey Lloyd, i am watching your videos very frequently and i can see that you are doing a great job helping others with their dating problem.I wanted to share also my problem hoping that you are going to help me or may giving me an advice.I just replied to a girl i found a crush on her and after a small talk we let a meeting date, after the date that happened in Tuesday she starts to respond to messages alot longer like twice 15 hours after i respond to her messages.I responded to her last message in Thursday and now she hasnt reply till now . So i wanted to ask you what should i do ? Waiting for you message as soon as possible and wishing you having a good day !

  • @SunnyHomeVideos
    @SunnyHomeVideos Před rokem +3

    They ghost you when they don't need you, and all over you when they need something ;)

  • @fgv3357
    @fgv3357 Před 2 lety +2

    lol. i just had an argument with a girl i've been seeing for 3 months. she was giving me shit excuses as to why we are not a couple yet.
    she got mad and ghosted. but i know she wanted me as an option.

  • @Key_Di19
    @Key_Di19 Před rokem +1

    I’m actually getting ghosted by my young female teacher. We were a great and efficient team and I never had any intention to cross the line. And wanted to translate several books together. But she spontaneously disappeared. Without any feedback and explanation. Zero accountability.

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem +2

      More than likely she full of shit. It's not your fault she's inconsistent. I could see if you was sweating her or pressuring her to do whatever she doesn't like but to ghost somebody for no reason (despite great vibes) is unacceptable. Whatever anyone says otherwise is bullshit.

    • @Key_Di19
      @Key_Di19 Před rokem +2

      @@Barber747 thank you for your support. She’s very far away from being ugly but she has a boyfriend. That’s why I left in advance all my attempts to get closer. The main reason of my persistence to involve her in the common tasks was that she is a daughter of a local VIP who is wealthy and working in the local government. For a foreigner such a good contact could be crucial. It’s to be honest. Right now I’m slowly beginning to fade away in a very kind and polite manner without burning that very important bridge behind my back.

  • @NunyaBiznez2010
    @NunyaBiznez2010 Před 8 měsíci +7

    Here are 3 more reasons.
    1. She's been verbally attacked by men she's said no to before, including verbal threats.
    2. Doesn't want to be talked out of her decision.
    3. You're scary and she's scared of you.

    • @TheCancerian1987
      @TheCancerian1987 Před 5 měsíci +3

      Yep sounds like she mentally screwed up.... and thats sad.. it really is

  • @lorderectus1849
    @lorderectus1849 Před 9 měsíci +1

    You forgot one important factor there’s another sausage in the shadows when she ghosts you!

  • @ryannoble4789
    @ryannoble4789 Před rokem

    I asked a.women I work with straight up and said, you can be honest if you're not interested and she, oh I am, she yes meeting up at the weekend, she even asked me what time i.was back at the office, I thought it was so we could talk, yet she saw me drive into the depot and passed off, defiantly moving on.

  • @adamd9166
    @adamd9166 Před rokem

    Good reasons. So I'm sure women will totally understand when a man ghosts her.

  • @andrewmontgomery8428
    @andrewmontgomery8428 Před 4 měsíci

    Any girl that does this has no tact or class and isn’t someone you’d want in your corner anyway.

  • @dylanjackson29
    @dylanjackson29 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Because they are cowards thats why

  • @ferasa3974
    @ferasa3974 Před rokem +1

    Why can't they implement a "not interested" button with texting like they have on linkedin lol
    I get the keeping your options open reason though, but would never want to be someone that greedy

  • @tamastoth7068
    @tamastoth7068 Před 2 lety +14

    I am really interested in your opinion on pursuing low interest women. Can attraction be built slowly or should one just concentrate on girls who immediately show interest. 🤔
    Thanks my guy!

    • @Brsrafal
      @Brsrafal Před 2 lety +1

      it can but usually doesnt if chick gives u one word answers try little bit but drop her quick move on

    • @hakankarakoc2023
      @hakankarakoc2023 Před 2 lety +9

      Generally it’s not worth the time.

    • @Ash_Wen-li
      @Ash_Wen-li Před 2 lety

      It can but you shouldn't be putting most of your effort into them

    • @mmendoza1190
      @mmendoza1190 Před 2 lety

      Nah

    • @kidfromcropu2812
      @kidfromcropu2812 Před 2 lety +4

      thats low value behaviour,only go for interested girls,value yourself

  • @cavalr1002
    @cavalr1002 Před 3 měsíci

    I lost my significant other I have been together with for 5 years. So I decided to get back into the dating game and on my first date the girl decided not to show up. she followed up with apologising like crazy and asking me for another date and then she ghosted me. I honestly forgot how brutal dating can be

    • @thorpe1178
      @thorpe1178 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Good luck out there buddy, its a cruel dating world out here, women will play all kinds of BS, just don't emotionally invest too early, don't let their BS affect you personally, just keep spinning those plates

  • @joshsaundh4851
    @joshsaundh4851 Před 2 lety +2

    Say what we are make mistakes all the time

  • @mmendoza1190
    @mmendoza1190 Před 2 lety +2

    now, maybe a video on How to Avoid Ghosting

    • @celica9098
      @celica9098 Před 4 měsíci

      I'm not an expert but have dated quite a bit. Basically, you have to keep them excited. Women are very feelings/emotional-based (vs logic-based), the thought of you needs to excite them to make them want to message you again.

    • @mmendoza1190
      @mmendoza1190 Před 4 měsíci

      @@celica9098 nah, we're not clowns over here

    • @celica9098
      @celica9098 Před 4 měsíci

      @@mmendoza1190 Then why ask for a video on advice?

    • @mmendoza1190
      @mmendoza1190 Před 4 měsíci

      @@celica9098 this was a year ago. I know the answer now

  • @EmilyGloeggler7984
    @EmilyGloeggler7984 Před 2 lety +5

    When I dumped an ex, I straight up told him the truth. He was not good enough to become my husband and that he should expect that I never will come back. When he got upset, I said nothing more and quickly left. I kept my word. I did deal with someone stalking and who sexually assaulted me twice and that was terrifying. Luckily, I’m all for self defense and legal armed defense and ye olde restraining order. Finally the ex gave up and left me alone in peace. Which I’m grateful. I’m especially glad to have my husband now to protect me. Beware of guys who won’t take no for an answer.

  • @marvelmaniac5747
    @marvelmaniac5747 Před 2 lety +1

    What if you met a woman she would with another guy you're all having a nice conversation you wind up getting both numbers but you're not sure if the woman is just friend with the guy how do you handle

  • @t.r.everstone7
    @t.r.everstone7 Před 2 lety

    Definitely helpful because I don't get the logic of it really. Makes some sense now. But I have never ghosted anyone except for a few stalkers. Anyone else, the closest thing was not responding when a girl replied with "Yeah lol" or "Maybe" or some other stuoid response. To me, if she won't say anything else to keeo the conversation going, why talk to her? Besides, she would say more if she were really interested in me.

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem +1

      Or more consistent and cooperative to the point where she's loyal only to you.

  • @robbello1000
    @robbello1000 Před 7 měsíci

    Great Job................................🦴🦴🦴🦴🦴

  • @hyp3rs3fu39
    @hyp3rs3fu39 Před rokem

    I just had a date with a girl and during the date,i was kind of soft because i felt i was dating someone who was above me from all points of view(i felt she was out of my league).Talked with her the next day anf she told me not to worry,she had a good time and that we'll meet again like we said.But i fell she is a little distant,never texts first and stuff like that.Am i correct when i assume she's just keeping me hanging?

    • @naturesown1807
      @naturesown1807 Před rokem +2

      It depends on what her daily schedule consist of but if she really cared about you, she'd make time for you.

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem

      It's possible she could be keeping you hanging. If she at least provided you some type of closure then it's much easier to move on without her if the two of you are not physically seeing each other anymore.

  • @geoeconomics5629
    @geoeconomics5629 Před 2 měsíci

    When women break up with their boyfriend women will find a victim to ghost humiliate a man

  • @kyokushinkuma
    @kyokushinkuma Před 2 lety +5

    The girl I’m interested in gave me the kiss of death and said “Bye friend”, when she was driving away…..

    • @123pb
      @123pb Před 2 lety

      You were ito her and not vice versa, stop chasing and learn to attract women

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem +1

      Ouch 😳

  • @supersaiyansnack201
    @supersaiyansnack201 Před 11 měsíci

    I didn’t even wanna comment lol but this happened to me for the first time and it’s weird the woman asked for the date not me she spent a lot of time with me in the span of 2 days but then she became very sexual and asked when she would see me again and I said I don’t know then she told me when I’m on break for lunch to text her when I went to text her notifications where off does this mean she has a boyfriend or doesn’t want me

  • @rockwithyou2006
    @rockwithyou2006 Před 29 dny

    they ghost to avoid the drama. Do you blame them for that ?

  • @andersonbnufalify
    @andersonbnufalify Před 2 lety +1

    First comment here, woohoo!

  • @nickk7425
    @nickk7425 Před 2 lety

    I had a weird situation, I approached a girl in the gym that I had seen there a few times, and she was SUPER receptive to the point that at the end of our convo she handed me her phone and asked me for my number. She began texting me hot and heavy right away (everything seemed to be going the right direction she was showing high interest i thought) we were texting back and forth for a few days and then the girl just ghosted me. I looked back over our short conversation and was trying to figure out where the loss of interest came from? I didn't even say much, really. I guess I'll never know🤔

    • @mmendoza1190
      @mmendoza1190 Před 2 lety

      sexual attention.
      don't over think it. who gives a fuck. women are crazy

    • @lainthor5808
      @lainthor5808 Před 2 lety +1

      she probably was into you at first, but then i think someone else came into the picture, a likely scenario probably an ex or some shit like that, ghosting is usually gradual, or she met a better dude than you, move on dude, icame across a girl like that before she was so into me, and ask for my num too, cuz im good looking i think she had a crush on me, but i wasnt really into her so i kinda ignored her, even though i liked the attention lol! but eventually she saw i wasnt that interested, i never rejected her or anything like that, i was just cold so eventually she moved on, then i found out shedid have some dudes before me where she used to talk to but she wasnt interested in them like boyfirends and shit, she saw me as a potential boyfriend but i didnt like her, lol so maybe in ur case ur girl had some dudes too, before she met you, and she wasnt really into them but she was into u at first cuz maybe u were better looking than most of the other dudes or u had something more compared to those other guys, but then a higher value men came into the pic or she gave one of those beta dudes who was tryna so hard to get her a shot, if she approached u and ask ur num very likely she will approach a better dude than u, cuz shes not scared to approach men, maybe quality men, so suck it up and move ur ass on!!!

    • @Demour77
      @Demour77 Před 2 lety +10

      They are after dopamine hits - like a sugar rush. As soon as the emotions fluctuate (as they always do) she's off to the next thing which catches her eye.
      I wouldn't take it personally, some of them have a 5 second attention span imo

    • @Rico401Prov
      @Rico401Prov Před rokem +1

      Women are just a waste of time and energy. Don’t even acknowledge them in public

    • @K9amilo90
      @K9amilo90 Před rokem

      @@lainthor5808 "better dude than u" - you could have phrased it better

  • @redhotbillypeppers
    @redhotbillypeppers Před 2 lety +5

    Man, drop the girlfriend and start saying the kinds of things you said as a single dude. Much different channel now that your hands are tied by having a girlfriend and having to state disclaimers all the time.

  • @MrApplewine
    @MrApplewine Před rokem

    But, I wasn't interested either. I just wanted to remain friendly.

  • @matebaucic4096
    @matebaucic4096 Před 11 měsíci +1

    The last one is right reason why. Women does not close the door for enyone espetialy guys. Not because sex and relatiobship, because other stuff if she needs one. She allways needs guy for something. And also she just don't want to have anything with you at this time and even remember that she did have something in mind with you. You need to let it go (don't ask why) and wait when she comes back for sometning. If it is not seks, just avoid (don't tell no, but do not do enithing for her except seks). Allways be around but act only if there is seks. Don't give atention eather. Chance you will get seks from that women is minimum, but if you do anything else then seks, then the chance don't even exists

  • @mykester796
    @mykester796 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Women who ghost are just overgrown children imo
    If they don’t have the decency to at least tell you they need some space or they’re not that into you then you’re better off without them
    Date adults guys, not middle schoolers 🙂

  • @LuisArias-ui5dw
    @LuisArias-ui5dw Před 2 lety +22

    I rather be ghosted by a chick then to be in the friendzone

    • @oFlaiir
      @oFlaiir Před 2 lety

    • @80skid83
      @80skid83 Před 2 lety +1

      True

    • @naturesown1807
      @naturesown1807 Před rokem +3

      You tripping, at least you can stay in contact with her and possibly maneuver your way out the friendzone , not the case with ghosting

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem

      REALLY?

    • @innavision1920
      @innavision1920 Před 9 měsíci

      @@naturesown1807bro why would you pursue her sloppy seconds? While you’re her “friend” chad is digging her out. I’d rather tell it to her straight you’ll never hear from me again

  • @lucasjohnson5871
    @lucasjohnson5871 Před 2 lety +2

    This sounds like a very stupid question. What does a healthy relationship look like? Is there truly no distrust and no insecurity? When should a guy quit dating and say, "wow, this is the one." Just curious, I purchased your program but couldn't find an answer. I know, love love love... but I'm just not sure.

    • @Amigosdamusica
      @Amigosdamusica Před 2 lety

      Dude, I think there are no standard "healthy relationship". People are different and people change. Either way, I think that an healthy relationship starts when you have a good (or reasonable) healthy relationship with yourself. You should have your goals and thrive towards them, has your partner should too. It's not about finding someone to complete you, but someone whom adds something to your life (because you are already complete and happy about yourself). Besides that, I would suggest you to develop your communication skills, and find a partner whith whom you can discuss things openly. Hope it helps, keep up!

  • @ExoticFu
    @ExoticFu Před 21 dnem

    I havent been this confused since birth. We are first good friends and hang out. Texting and usual banter, very low key and id even lack communication skills but still i would be seeing her every now and then. I know she is attracted to me iykyk right.. then i get ghosted and okay but why not say something thats mean as hell that aint cute at all tf.. so now its weird when i see her and she expects me to chase to prove myself. That's toxic!
    Anyone know early symptoms of person going brain dead? That is the only way id ever ghost a person lol

  • @TheCancerian1987
    @TheCancerian1987 Před 5 měsíci

    If she is afraid dude gonna physically hurt her.... then she is emotionally damaged and thats not a good thing... some dude or multiple dudes ruined it for the good guy.. 🤷... it happened to me 3x by the same girl.... yea... for real... and she the only one id ever let get away with it. Anyone else does it , ill never accept em again. Idgaf what excuse they come back with.. but the reason i even let her come back into my life is because the 1st time i deserved it , it was totally my fault. 2nd time i didn't and it hurt.. it happened because my ex lied to her and she has ptsd from past relationships dudes cheated on her n left n beat her ect.. my ex laughed about it ect until she realized it really bothered me. But even she couldn't fix it n explain to her she was lying to her cause she was upset n jealous.. well it happened jan 16th 2023.. i didnt hear from her for 3 months.... she came back april day of the pink moon... she tells me she was sorry that i prob hate her for abandoning me like that. Her ptsd kicked in she freaked ect.. she said she was inlove with me n wanted to fix it , wanted to get married ect.. now reason marriage would be brought up that fast... she is my ex n was my ex at the time.. n she was one of my best friends in the entire world... which made the ghosting n blocking so bad... i was truly hurt , disappointed and truly pissed off at her the entire time.. and we was gonna get married n the past... well when i seen she called like 6 times n video called 4 or 5 times in a row n sent a bunch of texts. I didnt know what to say... i was stunned because 3 months was the longest she ever has went without saying anything to me.. even when we split up we stayed friends n close.. because tbh im inlove with her like full blown inlove with her.. n i cant change it.. no matter what i do , what i try to do ect... it doesnt change that.. she is on my mind constantly.. its crazy she is the only one like that... our connection is so damn strong its supernatural. Strange things was happening.. unexplainable things.. only way to explain it " twin flame n when i say that i mean true twin flame. The in and out , we cant even argue at all.. it goes from 0 to 100 and back to 0 almost instantly it drains us both , the more i say to her the worse i feel n vice versa and afterwards we are laughing ect like nothing happened. But the weird things... she knows when i was upset , happy she knew exactly what i was feeling at all times. I could be at work or somewhere n be upset mad ect n she would send a text asking if im ok whats the matter or call.. every single time.. she knew when i was smiling n feeling happy when we was apart..... i was in best buy she was at the house we was on the phone talking just normal call n i was picking up a new tv ect n i smiled , and she said i love it when you smile it makes me feel good.... n i was like what? How did ya kno that? She said she just felt it n sensed it knew it.. and this went on all the time. She knew when i thought about her. It started making me question reality. But i also felt the same with her n still do time to time.. its wild i dunno even kno what to say about it. Only thing i can really find to explain it is twin flames and Quantum entanglement through " Quantum physics in science". Its intense.. but yea she ghosted in jan 16th 2022 came back april 2022 , we was together for a few months.. i knew something was wrong she would break plans every week like clock work... this went on for 2 months.. i called her out on it a few times she would get mad n say this n that. She would tell me she got sick , her sis died , and this n that. And the last time , i got a long ass text morning off we was supposed to go on vacation. N it was her mom or her. N said she ended up in the hospital gallbladder.. and she should be out few hours but then day n day n day she remained in the hospital so she said.... n she lives a few hours away. But i knew it was a lie.. because i started digging and found out she had a bf , she was living with em , she was making sexual tiktoks ect... n i called her out on it.. she got mad yelled at me saying she is in the hospital ect.. and then next thing i know fb blocked , tiktok blocked insta blocked.. she even fixed it where i couldnt send her bf a message because i threatened to tell em for her lying to me like that... well come next morning she ghosted completely.. i havent heard from her since may 31st... and still i think about her daily , i miss her , i still love her , i cant change it. N yea it sucks bad. This hasnt ever happened with anyone else. Im not interested in anyone else ect... she really screwed me up bro... and here i am back on track having to push all that bs she caused n done in the back of my mind... n when she does come back... i dont think imma let her close again... i dunno if ill even respond to her... because that was so fcked up what she did.... after all she been through after what every dude did to her ect.. n the only one thats actually loved her cared about her would have married her ect. She ghosts n does that bs to...... i dunno man... it was pretty immature of her... but yea ghosting is wrong its fcked up... and weak minded ppl do it

  • @brentcastro10987
    @brentcastro10987 Před 3 měsíci

    But communication might have improved that relationship if she saw potential. So not very logical to ghost

  • @bigtaco4362
    @bigtaco4362 Před rokem +1

    I start talking to this girl, she isa tiktoker has 1.5 m followers, man she is so beautiful.
    We start talking like for a 4 days only. But i messed it up by bringing an months old joke that she probably don't remember.
    Now i am trying again.
    OR maybe i think she is using me. I will try again. If not, i will just move on.

    • @naturesown1807
      @naturesown1807 Před rokem +3

      A corny joke isn't a good enough reason to ghost someone, nobody is funny all the time

    • @bigtaco4362
      @bigtaco4362 Před rokem +2

      @@naturesown1807 nah bro, its all good we are talking back again. She responding more submissively with respect.
      For now its good

    • @naturesown1807
      @naturesown1807 Před rokem +1

      @@bigtaco4362 That's good bro, just stay on the lookout for any signs that it might be time to move on

    • @bigtaco4362
      @bigtaco4362 Před rokem +1

      @@naturesown1807 100% agree, thats true. Thankyou

    • @naturesown1807
      @naturesown1807 Před rokem +2

      @@bigtaco4362 No problem, you can't allow yourself get hurt twice

  • @TheColtonStreeter
    @TheColtonStreeter Před rokem

    Lol and we can't do anything about it so there's no way to fix it

  • @lordeder9148
    @lordeder9148 Před rokem

    I swear girls are so random nowadays
    I actually met a girl in a college event, she approached me first and said a lot of random stuff, my female friends actually said she was kinda dumb.
    She started talking to me and treating me like a celebrity, she even asked me to take a pic with her and then asked me my insta to send the photo (all this time i didnt realize i was being rizzed lmao)
    I mean she was actually very pretty, so i sent her a dm and we started talking, went out on 2 dates, she said my friends she considered me super hot
    But after the 2nd date i sent her a text saying i had a good time and found her very funny, she said like something compeletely random and then ghosted me like 1 month ago, my dumb ass even sent her a dm asking her if she was mad with me still no answer, now i just have trust issues cuz idk if she found someone better or if i fucked up something and i didn’t know lol

    • @lordeder9148
      @lordeder9148 Před rokem

      oh and btw that kinda broke me because i understood she was like everything i ever wanted as a female, she was pretty, had good morals,big boobs(lol), tall and slim, all this and she wasnt even those popular girls, she has like 250 followers, and she did this to me, kinda random detail i left out

  • @Mklonewolf696
    @Mklonewolf696 Před rokem

    When the B came back.., just set up a date and dont show up!

  • @haileycassidy4877
    @haileycassidy4877 Před rokem

    Can anyone please help! More often than not he sends a good morning text... But I think I may have fudged up. I started pursuing a guy less than a month ago, my mind wants it to be moving along faster than it is and I get hasty...
    On Thursday I texted him: "Hey! I'm off the next two days, I'd like to spend some time with you, what day sounds good?"
    No reply.
    I sent him 2 pictures from fishing (he's a charter captain) with his hat on he'd left at my place the other week.
    No reply.
    So I did that girl-panic thing and said: "Hey, feels like when I reach-out it's not enough. If that's the case, I can totally digress. Mean that kindly 🙂. No awkwardness-es."
    No reply.
    I immediately unfriended him on Facebook.
    What's the better way I could have said it? Is there any way I can retract my text of desperation and impatient text?
    Thank you.

    • @EnliveningJustice
      @EnliveningJustice Před rokem +1

      Too forward. Too much. If you TRY to talk to him again, it will be beyond creepy. Trust me, this is how guys think. Also, he won't be back for his hat.
      _Believe me or don't but I'm telling you can you come back a year from now if you remember & when you read this you'll see I was right_ .

  •  Před 2 lety +1

    Thats why i dislike

  • @re20bt
    @re20bt Před 2 lety +5

    I think us blokes get to a point where we ask ourselves - Is it reaaaaaally worth it? (No!). Modern dating sucks! Women know the numbers work in their favour, so they just ghost left right & center. Just no respect. Not worth the (wasted) energy.

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem +1

      "The numbers work in their favor"
      YEAH RIGHT 🤣🤣🤣🙄

    • @EnliveningJustice
      @EnliveningJustice Před rokem +1

      Extremely INCORRECT, James.
      Maybe, just maybe a small handful of very young 'generally' hot ones do that. Perhaps that's only about 12%.

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem

      @@EnliveningJustice They know they full of shit and not serious 😒

  • @PrinceAsmodeus
    @PrinceAsmodeus Před 6 měsíci +1

    Straight cowardice

  • @bobross1829
    @bobross1829 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Honestly, no one should get too mad over this. If they tell you why they do not want to see you anymore, it will not be a better conversation and usually you will deny what they are saying, try to "bargain with them", fight with them or even say something nasty. You might say, no, you personally would not, but I bet yes, you would and most people would. This has happened all throughout time. There are jobs that will fire you or say it is not working out and not give you a reason.

    • @mykester796
      @mykester796 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Jobs are actually supposed to provide a reason for the termination even if it’s total bs. Otherwise the employee can either sue for wrongful termination or try to get unemployment benefits from the company.
      And as for someone ghosting you, I don’t agree with that at all unless the person being ghosted was super toxic or abusive. Everyone else at least deserves closure as to why they are being shut out of someone else’s life if they truly did nothing wrong imo

    • @bobross1829
      @bobross1829 Před 8 měsíci

      @@mykester796 Most states are at will employment and they actually should NOT give you a reason. The reason can come out if there is an unemployment fight. And do not think "closure" is necessary unless you have actually been a couple for some time. Seinfeld actually had an episode on it and they decided you need to be sexually involved and seeing the person at least a month to get a "reason". Sometimes comedy is very logical. Yeah, if you are living with someone for a year and they try to ghost you, that is wrong. But one date? Take the hint.

    • @mykester796
      @mykester796 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@bobross1829 Ghosting is cowardly and immature no matter what the reason (except the reasons I’ve already stated) in my book. If someone can’t express their disinterest in another LIKE AN ADULT SHOULD and at least give what they believe is a valid reason, then the ghostee is a hell of a lot better off without them for one, and also, karma will catch up with the ghoster so they will think twice about pulling that shit with anyone else again by the grace of God

  • @elsugga3736
    @elsugga3736 Před 3 měsíci

    Hello, im a ghoster and I do so because I’m selfish and inconsiderate. It has nothing I mean absolutely nothing to do with you as a person

  • @TG-dj2tx
    @TG-dj2tx Před 2 lety +9

    Going to keep it a buck, I ghost ever girl I have no interest in moving forward with. The action of ghosting speaks for itself. At the end of the day, neither party owes one another an explanation. Does it suck? Yes. I get ghosted too. But there is literally millions of other options so idgaf. - at the end of the day we gotta get rid of the narrative that people owe each other explanations. But if someone asks I will 100% explain.

    • @andyswanson421
      @andyswanson421 Před 2 lety +4

      ....How can they ask if you already ghosted them? LMAO

    • @naturesown1807
      @naturesown1807 Před rokem +12

      How do you figure that neither party owes an explanation? All that does it cause confusion

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 Před rokem +13

      It's not about whether or not somebody is owed an explanation, it's about maintaining consistency and having respect for a person without leading them on or wasting their time. That's the least you can do in situations like this. Unfortunately some people can't seem to grasp such a simple concept and it's really sad & pathetic.

    • @TG-dj2tx
      @TG-dj2tx Před rokem

      @@andyswanson421 if they reach out & ask why I haven’t responded or what’s going on I will keep it real and give feedback & also invite feedback on my part

    • @TG-dj2tx
      @TG-dj2tx Před rokem +1

      @@naturesown1807 no it doesn’t. When someone doesn’t respond to you, you know what’s good even if you don’t want to consciously admit it. I will say, my mindset has grown since I’ve written this & I only deal with women that I foresee myself having open communication with

  • @dre12ization
    @dre12ization Před 11 měsíci

    I just get more women