How to know if a girl is playing you or actually likes you
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- čas přidán 21. 03. 2019
- Although we are taught to respect women they can be very manipulative and if you are not mindful of this you WILL fall victim to it. In this video I talk about why women use men, how to spot a woman who is doing this, why most men fall victim, and the high value mentality that will prevent this from happening to you for good.
0:51 Why women use men
2:00 Follow her actions not words
3:05 My example
5:30 List of behaviors to look for
10:08 Why men fall into this trap
11:11 It doesn't matter if she 'likes' you
12:15 Wait before you emotionally invest
List of behaviors to look for:
- She's hot then cold
- Expecting things from you and pressuring you
- Says whatever you want to hear
- Withholds sex from you
- Can't remember things you've said or details about you
- Always distracted when you hang out
- You pay for everything and she never offers or thanks you
- Does things when she wants to
- Always talks about her problems and never cares about yours
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Actions speak louder than words when dealing with anyone
Yup
Exactly!
True
Here are the behaviors I listed to look for. Tell me if you have any others:
- She's hot then cold
- Expecting things from you and pressuring you
- Says whatever you want to hear
- Withholds sex from you
- Can't remember things you've said or details about you
- Always distracted when you hang out
- You pay for everything and she never offers or thanks you
- Does things when she wants to
- Always talks about her problems and never cares about yours
Tell lies
@@pike815 they all tell
I don't need ! I look much better , physically mentally and financially much better than these girls so called boys , how and why should I care ! I don't give a damn
How I can lower my social status to their level !
Too glam to give a damn , bro !
I've been in this funny situation for a while now with a girl at work. She is a straight 10 and the most attention hungry animal i ever met. At first i liked her a lot and she gave me tons of choosing sigs but every time i moved closer she took a step back so after some of this playing i just completely stopped giving her the attention she was bagging for and bit by bit she turned around. Now it's so crazy that every single time she walks past me and i dont make eye contact she scratches her throat or makes some other noise to show me her presence. In the beginning there was not so much long eye contact and i would only catch her throwing quick checks but now she just stands in my vicinity and stares until i look back. She is still a 10 to me when it comes to her beauty but i came to the conclusion that i have no respect for her and that i'm glad with what i learned from her so far. Thats very valuable and i never spent a cent on her. I'm also lucky to have other girls in my life. None as pretty as her tho..
100%
At least smash
Chef Afwas fuck her, we don’t love dese hose
Jp DL same bro 😔 i dont know what im doing wrong
Had something similar happen to me just recently lol
Thanks a lot, this is helping me out of my depression,, o dumped my disrespectful gf of 4 years 11 days ago.. i did the right thing, im trying to heal..
How are you doing bro?
Same here.. 1473 days together since highschool. Had to dump her and been healing and getting smarter since then
Car house get well soon
You guys should check Corey Wayne on CZcams. He has some really good advise also.
@car house
How are you now bro
What I really like about you is the fact that you're cool with showing how vulnerable you are with women as well. A lot of these guys that make similar videos always make it seem like they never get rejected , they act like they get literally every girl! I like your style man, it really resonates with how I feel about these situations you talk about! Keep shining bro 🔥🔥
That last advice, about seeing if she provides value to my life, whether she likes me or not... Pure gold, man. Thanks.
Definitely where I am with my girl! She was crazy about me, but her new job takes up so much of her time that I am not a part of her thinking so much any more. Maybe a half dozen texts a day versus 70 before. As much as I hate to walk away from a two year relationship, I have got to be respected and wanted.
Update on this situation? What came of this decision my friend?
I know all of this, but it's great to hear it from someone who's lived this same bullshit and survived and became better at the other end.
Joke's on them, I have nothing they're looking for, they barely look at me.
I bet you got plenty to offer my man ;)
@@TheSingleGuy
Like my kidney.
😭😭😭
Hehehehe I’m learning 🤓❤️
plenty of time
I dumped my ex of 3 months a few weeks ago and I felt like shit for it. After watching this, I know for a fact I made the right decision and I feel so much better about it. Thank you for this. 🌟
I’m only 6 minutes in and he’s literally nailing all the points spot on. Sometimes the truth hurts but in the end the truth is the best friend you could ever ask for!!
Dammn youre 100% right!
Respect!
I watched bunch of videos on this topic and accidentaly find you.
Too less likes and followers.
No extra words just straight to the problem. Experience is obvious.
Thank you ❤❤
A high-value guy doesn't care whether a girl likes him or not!
Cause he's got plenty of girls that like him!
That part right there sealed it for me.
A high-value man asks.. "What do you bring to the table? What value are you adding to my life?"
Awesome stuff I’ve been waiting for a video like this for a looong time!!
This is so true it’s hilarious. You can’t believe it when it happens.
But it does!
That was super helpful man I'm actually struggling on which girl to pick there's three but now theres two thanks to u
All good Content in one Video I really Appreciate Bruh.
Great advice I really needed it!
I am exactly in this current situations that all you've stated except that getting that laid. I'm currently emotionally involved with a girl who's I've confessed more than months but now acting wild and unpredictable since then and acting like who doesn't know exactly what she wants, she began acting always hot and cold ever since I told her I have feeling for her and I think she's only on talking when she's on her peak of mood to communicate with me then constantly ghosting me and won't even reply (not chasing back), yet she just keeps laughing my messages every time we communicate again and she's just like she wants to play roller coaster feelings where I'm not enjoying or trying to ride with her. I haven't noticed that these are huge red flags on my subconscious mind that I'm not even paying attention that these horrible. She even not showing caring about my feelings even I got sick sometime. Thanks for this vid as reminder!
Great examples man, backed up by common sense. Super great mind-set share at the end! Thank you man.
Awesome video thankyou! I learned alot
Guy's a genius Well said Nice speech mate
I got my answer which i was Searching from past 2 months..thanks alot..man you really helped me today to get out of it😇🙏
Love your videos my friend, you've helped me the bigger picture that much more, and you've always helped me to learn how to stick to my guns better. Love the work you do man, thank you.
Great video! Here's the mindset that I have: Everybody has their phone on them or at least close by. People check their phones constantly -especially women. If a girl doesn't answer the phone or text back. Cut her loose then. Always remember the person who cares the least is the one in control. View women like a bus...there's a new one coming around every 10 minutes.
You are, without a doubt, my favorite dating coach.
I think that girl was playing me, know way she liked me I can't believe she did that to me
Mark Vargas that's how I feel right now
Thanks man this helped me a lot
Pretty good video. Sometime ago, I had a relationship with a girl for five years. At first, her behavior was completely different. When we started dating she said what I wanted to hear and tried to flatter me to achieve things. After a while, she started to act exactly as you said in many ways. Our relationship was terrible, but I didn't break up because the sex was good ... I admit it. Some time later, I found out that she was cheating on me. I had neither experience or maturity, when I realized what I had gotten myself into, I had already wasted a lot of time and money on her.
brilliant you just saved my life
I like watching your vids man! You're spot on in my situation. I had a gf, we were going nicely for 9 months but something happened which i dont know what and she wouldn't give an answer what happened actually. She ghosted me for a month, forgot my birthday and did not make up for it. After 2 weeks i had to break it up with her. She did not said anything at all. Like nothing happened. Like she is not guilty of shit. I was digging for answers but she doesnt give an answer. I was told not to ask anymore. I deleted her from fb and her texts and chats. She is on my request for messaging in messenger. She is pure shit but she was great for 9 months. I wonder what happened
This guy is an total under-suscribed genius!
I wish I saw this video before my last relationship lol. Thanks now I know, Loyd!
You are the best!! Great advices
Bro thank you SO much. I needed to hear this video right now. Subscribing to your channel now. Thanks bro.
Awesome man great to have you!
Sound advice Bro. Wish I found your channel earlier so I could of not made some of these mistakes myself!
Love your channel
Awesome video bro I subbed
Thank u so much for this
Your videos make me feel better
Great info bro...ty
thanks
Great video
Wow, man you know you’re stuff 👍😄
Very-good , very-good and very-good ! Thank-you very much !
Thanks man that helped me
This guy speaks facts 👌🏼
11:20 great! i never thought so
Good vid👍
Nice, Respect for you 👍
It's clear, women love attention, I was a "back up" for 2 girls, got used for attention and compliments well the 3rd time I knew when she was playing me so I was aware of it lol
Used to be nice and would give compliments but now I just don't and surprisingly I get more 🐱 now than before
Wonderful!!
Creepy. I guess my phone reads my texts and suggests videos because this just happened to me last week
Your words are truer than the truest
they are the truthiest of truths!
The most truthfulest of the truthful thruth.
Wow I been in this situation good video wow very well put
Good job
Thanks bro
good advice. i will leave her for sure, its exactly match like you said.. thx
Thanks bro,I saw
Thank you
I'm newly single and I'm glad to have found this channel.
Thank u
My boy!!
i like your style bro....
thanks man glad to have you
Awesome
I 've just broken up with a girl with the same signs in this video and i cried a lot.
I just don't think that i can find a better girl than my ex, i know this is not the right mentality but i just can't help it.
I don't know what to do. I am lost. :(
I wish I could have seen or listened to this video in my younger years
I work away from my hometown, there was this girl i used to date.
When I left my city, she said she miss me, used to make plans about places we'll go when i come back.
And now I'm back in my hometown she flakes..
Lesson: never listen to their words, their actions speaks louder
Dude , basically most of the girls are like that ..like 95%
What would you classify as things that would signify that a girl is proving herself?
Yep me and my ex in a long distance relationship we've been together for 2 years but it's not working out between us ever again it sucks
Ok, that was a very useful video
The more I see the same actions, the less interest I have.
I have had that "relationship" phone call and just disassociate from the situation and just shut down in them.
It gets sooo much worse….
This girl I was dealing with shows a little less than half the behaviors listed but still bad...plus no sex is the biggest one
Truth
Lloyd, can I get your opinion on something? In the past, I've had girls stare at me like they wanted to f*ck the shit out of me, solid strong eye contact for 10+ seconds, on multiple occasions. But then when I eventually approach them I get nowhere. For example: One girl would do this off and on all the time, and then I found out she had a serious boyfriend and no intention of anything. Another girl would just gawk at me constantly, and when I confronted her she told me she was married. I have eventually come to this conclusion: the girl either is deliberately doing this for attention to boost her ego, or she just thinks I'm attractive and is doing this almost subconsciously and literally doesn't realize it. Have you ever had a scenario like this, and what is your opinion on how to handle it? Nowadays, if this happens I immediately confront the girl and that way I know if she is just messing with me.
Every guy should hear this.
I've told her that I like her on WhatsApp.She uploaded a few videos on tiktok indicating how she feels when I look at her or how she feels about my love. But never replies to my texts on Instagram or WhatsApp eventually blocking me all over social media. I consider she's playing it really hard. I called her after quitting my job at the same place we used to work. She answered the third time and I felt she was angry as I did hurt her emotionally about 18 months ago.
Do I call her again ? Or confront directly? Or text to Make her feel jealous saying I will look out for other girls if you're not going to value my feelings ? I did realize she likes me or attracted to me but I am getting a feeling like I am playing this emotional game.any thoughts?
Those head games can be really annoying. But at least you can move on to trying with another female.
Me watching this to to try to find ways to help my guy friend realize he's being played
I was talking to this girl for month which I was a fool to keep talking to her ., first date she got emotional and started crying when we were talking as she was talking about hey past , also her phone went off numerous amount of times of texts and she went to the bathroom like 3 times over dinner obviously writing whoever it was back. Throughout she was always hot and cold daily and weekly telling me one day by text that she was all into me and all and the next she would go quiet for days at a time , not answer her phone not call me back or return a text for hours at a time or a day then tell me by text after a nice time together that we keep going back and fourth not communicating well and that maybe it’s not meant to be etc etc just totally hot and cold hot and cold always but I kept giving her the benefit of the doubt ugghhhhhh. Then the other day we were texting and she was saying I’m her man and all and that she sees a bright future with us etc etc . Then I text her the next day and get no reply . Three days go by and I hear nothing from her . Then yesterday I wrote her and pretty much told her im done trying as I’ve been the only one trying from the start and that she has pretty much played me for a fool and I even said that I’m sure u juggle so many men that it’s the reason why I’m not a priority and why she goes hot and cold etc . So then she texts me back after two minutes from that text but yet didn’t even reply to my text that morning asking her if she would like to go to dinner ... so she writes back and says yea I guess I do have low interest and the Back and fourth and all .. it’s just not meant to be .. now take in account a few days ago she had just text me saying she missed me and sees a bright future with me and can’t wait to see me again lol!!! What the hell ??? So tell me guys... this girl definitely has issues or just sees so many guy
s that she don’t know what she wants or who she wants snd I just been an option right ?
She used me cause she was mostly lonely, she wanted me to run away with her lol, she told me her biggest fear was to be alone. Maybe she did liked me but not enough and yeah we argued a lot honestly but I messed up a lot and so did she I guess we weren't meant to be
Damn i think the exact same thing is happening to me with her like i feel she is using me cuz she just feel alone but we have a connection and she told things that only her and her best friends knows and sometimes sjowing me how other dudes trying to text her and tell how dumb they are but i still think that she using me for some reason and i really don't know what to do man 😔😔😔
@@slimshady4875 move on buddy not worth it anymore, yeah she may be using you but she probably still cared for you. And I don't mean it such a bad way we all use each other at some point but yes move on its okay. You'll be alright man don't worry let go plus girl I was with was a teen still and was immature she was about to turn 18 and I never fall for young girls or date young girls it just happened, maybe she just got over it people get over that doesn't mean she didn't like you or doesn't. I messed up to by leing and not being honest she lost trust in me and respect but it is what it is move on buddy :)
@@markvargas449 damn thanks man that was really helpful i appreciate it 👍👍
I've been dating a coworker(single mom, helped her when she was 1st hired, a year ago, been supportive of her etc) for a few months now and I found out she's being taken home (in the evenings) by another male coworker. We work in retail and the company has offered free transportation to all employees but she and I live in different towns, she & said coworker being from the same town, close neighbourhoods too. I noticed the guy has barely talks to me or surprised him giving me odd stares. On her - despite being flirty and physically close to me in all other situations, even talks hinting of marriage - I observed that while in his presence she distances herself from me and acts like we're just some colleagues. Some thing that may be of importance is his niece and her daughter go to the same school.
I did some background check on her and there's nothing that doesn't fit her story and I was confirmed she's a quality woman in general. In terms or looks(he's the shortest guy in our work place & more of a manlet), how he's seen by our other coworkers and his long-term prospects he does not even equal me.
I want to know your thoughts on this even though my first impression is that she's just using me.
You just described someone with ADHD. I'm distracted, have difficulty remembering things about someone, half the time sex is really exhausting but when I have it I always put everything into it and make it special, and I tend to want to know what is going on within the relationship because I'm disabled and I need to be aware of things I can improve on. Videos like this exclude disabled people and I feel like I'm incapable of dating 😕 Especially when I don't have these problems with other disabled people only people like yourselves
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I've had an issue with a girl that I use to hookup with from my past and we recently got together and she def lead me on at first and always use to sweat me back in the day and now for a month we were talking every day had sex 3 times and thought everything was goin great until I found out she was stuck on her loser ex boyfriend which was a blow to my ego, but your right they manipulate good and it sucks man really gotta stop listening to wat they say and watch there actions
Yup actions are always best, never get detached bro. Be mentally prepared to drop her at any given time.
Hey bro I have a gf and I feel like she is playing me bc she always take a really long time to respond back, she always says on her story on social media someone chat and stuff like that and now she sends me one worded messages that I cant say anything to. Can you help out a brother?
This is what you do
Leave her on seen
Focus on yourself
Prepare for a break up to avoid heart break
She will get mad and emotional but you will ignore it
Just be a dick and let the relationship crumble either she’ll get her shit together once you walk away or she won’t
Don’t expect anything you’re hurting yourself by staying
Trust me it’s far from the point where you could jump start her feelings again most likely she’s talking to another guy and she’s with you due to the amount of time you talked women do this a lot to avoid looking like hoes and feeling guilty she’s using you for ego “I didn’t leave you I stayed loyal when I could’ve cheated” is the line she’ll use when you two end up arguing during the break up I promise you
How does she behave to you in person. Does she make excuses not to see you?
Sometimes but I spoke to her and hopefully everything is good again but yeah thanks for your help bro it has helped a lot
Lloyd, can you please post a vlog on how to confront a girl who is lead a guy on if you haven't already? or how to deal with a girl who comes back to a guy after she rejected him?
I could but it would be short. If a girl is leading you on, the only sensible thing to do is to walk away. Confronting them never ever leads to something good, you won't get much satisfaction from calling her out. Just say you've made other plans and don't text her again.
If a girl comes back to you after she rejected you, I would be very wary of her intentions. Don't get emotionally involved with this woman if you can.
@@TheSingleGuy i disagree with most of what you're suggesting.
@Ash halo first off there's no need for you to insult me. you don't know me or the struggles i've gone through in life as a late blooming autistic guy in this bullshit metoo era. i call myself a purple piller (a mix between blue and red pill) due to how i was raised. while i understand where you're coming from and agree you have good points, every guy is different. i would only take a girl back who rejected and/or broke up with me if they can earn my forgiveness, don't have any std's and/or have kids outta wedlock along with going to couples counseling.
Lol, this definitely isn't a problem for me, they make it very clear that they're DISinterested in me almost every time. Occasionally I'll find one who's just uninterested, that's a good day. God I wish I was joking...
I know this girl (1700 miles away) we knew each other for along time,since 1990.We been showing on pictures on email together, were getting close together.I tried to call her tonight, but she won't answer.Oh by the way she use to live in CT,The point is IF she cares about me she would call me. It's a long story.
Stop pining over a girl almost 2k miles from you, you're dick aint that long lol
Or if she's busy so most of the time, is not that reason
If she misses a message here and there its not too big of a deal but if a girl really likes a guy she'll make time no matter how busy she is
TheSingleGuy I’ve been saying this forever to my friends and recently met a girl at work things were going good she was texting me nonstop seconds after I responded and laughing at the dumbest stuff now all of a sudden I’m on delivered for a week and I try the “hey you alive” stuff she responds and it’s dry I had to make her acknowledge how bad shits got by saying “what happened where’d your spirit go it’s like I’m talking to someone’s grandma “ shit got better then it died again but at work she’s happy to see me I think I should just walk away
sad I saw this video too late
Hello id like to open up the first girl i had a relationship used me to get popular after her popular friends dumped her i helped her back up and then she humiliated me because i was saving someone else a guy that liked her she humiliated him because he was ugly he was my friend . Me and her went on a birthday date .and we held her hands in her birthday there were only the 3 of us her friend and me she then lied about me holding hands and told the entire class she was sitting on my ddddd ,and she said that I tried harassing her, and like yea thats alll questions are in the comments
Guy motto: Mgtow (men go their own way) We don’t need their drama.
Why would she be pushing pushing pushing to get in a relationship and then when u get into one, she acts like she doesnt want it.. like WTF??? That makes no sense
Damn
How to not get involved in a girl within first few weeks?
Yea..i like locking up the vehicle..only to see the woman i love practically walking thru the parking lot..while i just stand there going..um ok?..oh and shes anemic..should i consider this as a factor..or she just dont give a shit.
Yep my ex is very controlling and disrespectful all the time and jealous all the time and rude and mean and always wanted her way my ex is horrible my ex is terrible she was always horrible disrespectful to me just me my ex was horrible
What if she's happy to see you, smiling and stuff like that but she has a busy life and when you text her sometimes but half the time it takes a little bit if her to respond
I have this issue and trust me she only sees you as a friend she doesn’t like you romantically anymore UNLESS in your situation you two are having sex then that’s a normality I’m not sure maybe she’s just not thinking about you until she needs something from you which could be sex if that’s all you two are doing
@@unosheem6210I have asked her if she wants to date me and make sure if it and every time I ask she says she will just not right now because her mom has cancer and she is going through stuff aswell (like she can't come to school for about two months, not gonna say exactly that is tho)
Trey Lewis well maybe what you should do is just be supportive and avoid the relationship talk if she likes you eventually the relationship will come natural man I personally feel you kind of asked at a bad time in her life
@@unosheem6210 thank you never dated (we both are 17 and I never dated before and I was curious and a bit confused) but I'm hoping we'll be in a relationship but only time will tell
Judge her by how she behaves towards you in person and how much of an effort she makes to see you