The Connection Between Trauma and People Pleasing

Resource:
Leslie's People Pleasing Course
In this episode, Julie and Leslie explore the connection between trauma and people-pleasing habits. They discuss how past experiences can lead us to prioritize others' approval over our own well-being. Through real-life stories and practical tips, they empower listeners to break free from these patterns, find their voice, and foster more authentic connections.
Why Understanding the Connection is Important
Childhood patterns: Survival mechanisms that may not serve us well in adulthood
Impact of unresolved trauma on adult relationships and well-being
Signs of People-Pleasing Behavior
Difficulty saying no, anxiety when refusing requests
Constantly seeking approval, compromising personal values
Roots of Negative People-Pleasing Behavior
Relationship trauma: Abuse, neglect, abandonment
Response mechanisms: Fight, flight, freeze, fawn
Personal Experiences with People-Pleasing
Leslie Vernick's journey: Balancing pleasing others with self-care and values
Setting Boundaries
Importance of identity and responsibility in setting boundaries
Practical examples: Saying no without guilt, prioritizing self-care
Strategies for Healing from Past Trauma
Recognizing trauma's impact on decision-making and relationships
Taking responsibility for personal healing and growth
Conclusion
Importance of internal healing for breaking the cycle of people-pleasing
Steps towards self-awareness, setting boundaries, and healing from trauma

[@natashamoniquedesouza]

This was really good! I really enjoyed it!

[@magesalmanac6424]

I’m so grateful for your videos. You are compassionate but also direct. I have shed so much bad energy in my life with your advice. One quote that resonated was from a different video, something like “don’t hold onto bitterness, that’s not freedom, that’s a prison.” It is so hard to let go of the sorrow because you feel like it’s protecting you somehow.

[@denisel780]

This was so good...thank you!!

[@suechristy363]

Soooooo good

[@asamusicdude]

Thank you. I have a problem with people pleasing. God is more than able.

[@leslievernick]

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[@Iamdeejoker]

Interesting sometimes it doesn’t matter what you do for someone it’s not appreciated and I find that am bending over back because I am afraid they won’t like me

[@leslievernick]

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