Why you can't stop checking your phone
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- čas přidán 14. 08. 2019
- Social media is really cool and stuff but sometimes it's not so cool
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My issue is CZcams, I am addicted to CZcams. I don't use Facebook or any other social media. Just damn CZcams.
Same here. Sometimes though I think to myself "Is there any real value to this particular video?" and on most occasions the answer is "No". Just the avoidance of facing the reality that if I wasn't watching it then I'd be left with my life and my own thoughts.
I guess I just need to do that and then fill my life with actual content and constructive activities.
What I did is to create 2 YT accounts, one for how to's or videos with real value (like this one, for example) and another account for entertainment. This helps me to control what I am consuming, and be consciuous if I am really learning, or I am just having fun
I have downloaded a software where it blocks the content from the first pages of youtube. You have to manually type a video to view them :) It's life changing!!
@@Neptunianist Actual content and constructive activities are all very good! But you hit the point when you said "I'd be left with my own thoughts". That's exactly what we really need to do. Observe our thoughts. The journey starts from there
@@bnsgokugreat wait what's the software
The point is reinforced by the fact that i started scrolling the comments.
Lol me too
Literally me seconds after the video started.
236 likes! Keep chasing that dragon! You can get 2360! Just one... more... like!
Yup
Damn. . .
"Your attention is their currency" - well said
That sentence stuck out to me so much too. It was powerful.
What he doesnt tell you is that he is doing exactly the same. Not just the “big companys”. Not a single shit better then them.
Thisssss
Well your attention to this video is his currency
He does have a point though...you have to give him credit for that!
I’m so addicted to CZcams that I stopped watching T.V like 3 years ago literally
fr
3 years? Rookie numbers my friend
what abt CZcams TV tho
Cancelled my satellite subscription going on two years ago ..why have it and pay those expensive prices? Everything is pretty much on your phone to access whatever you want...
Yup, YT is tv
So my CZcams algorithm has finally caught on to me
And it's back lmao
@@holo6883 hahaha cool🤭
Your youtube algorithm is doing fancy things .. 😁😁😁
Facts
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That one dislike is Mark Zuckerberg
No Offence but He made Facebook, he didn't forced anyone to use it......we use his services for our pleasure if we think it's affecting our life or any part of it we should just stop using it instead of complaining about it & also Mark is amazing human being he's just using his knowledge to run a business without forcing or harming anyone again only using basics of human psychology.
@@smitmachhi1111 bro chill, it was a joke
@@smitmachhi1111 Alsooo...he's smoking this meat! 🎶
Smit Machhi ha! Marks real history is quite dirty.
@@smitmachhi1111 "mark is an amazing human being" uh....
“I don’t wanna be on my phone but I can’t be alone”
-Y&F
Haha I know the the feeling
It is great company, especially when you are alone.
i find it super cool when someone tells me they don't have accounts or don't use any social media apps.
Strange world we live in. Most people will find that odd.
Agree, they are lying too!
I only use CZcams and Discord. Sadly that's distraction enough.
@@sneezebiscuits7239 same, but CZcams and Twitter. Hoping to ditch twitter this year
“ Social Media can be a useful slave, or a dangerous master”
Isn't that a alcohol quote? It works on everything that is addictive I think
Dandapani?
@@timgeurts Not with HIV spreaders
@@Mosqueetos bruh what??
699 likes lmao
Since I deleted my accounts I got a job and started a second career.
I am not kidding.
It was your main problem? I feel like i spend too much time on social media, like 7 o 8 hours a day
Good on you! CZcams is now my only "social media"... And it's more like my cable TV anyway.
@@bnsgokugreat what is it called?
@@mesaprime1299 Do you use Mac or PC? Safari or chrome? Answer depends on that question :)
@@bnsgokugreat pc
I legit missed half of the video because I spaced out and looked through my phone
Same
69 likes lmao
fr
I'm the only person I know who isnt addicted to their phone. nor do I check any site frequently on my computer. BUT, I do spend a lot of time on video games. A habit I picked up on Christmas 1986 and never lost.
Thanks for that Nintendo, dad.
😂😂
You seem like a very intelligent man.
He really does
ye, he SEEMS like a very intelligent man.
He is. Don't sell him short
I'd rather say wise, but probably both.
poopscoop you just displayed a great example of “Stupid”
When you're this early cuz you always check your phone 😬
When I came back from pooping there was a notification message
David Alexanderson Oof
@@failgod9079 You didn't have to tell us that
No shit, I didn’t want to watch it when I first got the notification cuz it didn’t have a single view count (but strangely enough one like, but that was probably from our buddy here)
@@failgod9079 you didn't bring your phone with youtube to the toilet?
What I did is, I disabled ALL push-notifications except textmessages. That worked out so good for me I check my phone way less.
TheSocks221 absolutely I did the same thing! You can even schedule notifications to certain times of the day so you have a dedicated time to check those things.
Adagio Borntrager oh wow that sounds cool, I certainly need to check that out!
TheSocks221 I would check it more bc then I wouldn’t know if people were texting me and I don’t want to let them wait
Me too. He is actually speaking about push notifications problem. If you are not interested in LinkedIn notifications, just turn them off. Otherwise you can delete everything and go living in the woods, to say so. you can silent all apps
I done that and ended up checking my phone more
It’s a great summary of problems mentioned in Netflix’s “The social dilemma”
'The Itch' describes it perfectly! (editing and cinematography is top notch as always)
The itch to check the fridge 50times a day
@@TerrorOfTeacup the itch to check if the door is locked 1000000 times a day- i stg
I'm glad that you talked about digital minimalism instead of suggesting to delete all social media accounts. As a digital artist, social media is quite important to me for inspo and possible job opportunities. But I get sidetracked a lot, so this video is a great reminder to manage my time wisely. :)
Video started making sense when i realised i was scrolling facebook while listening to him.
Unlike you. I can't understand if not read that hardsub
"Your attention is their currency." Whoa
Whoa I read this right as he said it
Great topic.
I leave my phone out of my bedroom and when I block out work I put it in a other room. When I'm catching up with friends I leave it in the car. So important to phone ban yourself
My paranoia has kept me safe from this "notification addiction" that seems to be so rampant, right now.
See, every time I want to access my phone, I have to take the bag off of it that is for muffling the microphone and blocking the cameras.
So, I never got hooked. Too many steps in between. So, it's a GPS, phone and mail notifier, mostly.
I can't keep friendships on there and that's good. They're not fucking real! You can't shake their hand. They are not real.
Get real friends.
Restlessness stemming from illusion of missing out.
When you don't have any substance within, you seek to fulfil it without.
*Happiness is an inside job.*
Dude, you're everywhere, bots liking your comments is an inside job
@@7stf888 Yeah, but there is no god... Same, as there is no Santa Clause, or Zeus... They have been invented by people... Knowing this should be the first step of self-development...
What are you supposed to do? Meditate all day like a monk? I'm not knocking that life but it's worth noting people get fulfillment out of their careers and relationships just the same. Fulfillment is just that, an illusion. It's only looked at positively when you're working hard to be successful in a career because society says so, but it's from the same space
Yep kinda of😆
Can you make a video expanding more on this comment.
This video really massively mind blew me, sadly-checking my phone constantly has made me a very socially anxious guy in my adult life and I never used to be that way, I used to be social and be able to talk to anyone but now I get too nervous to even approach because I don’t know how to say something anymore.
Also sometimes I use text terms in person which is always a face palm but I truly want more people to talk since that has become minimal of its own with this going on.
same
Another way to curb the addiction (not my own idea): set your phone to grayscale to eliminate the mega-manipulative effect of color that social media employs
You mean staring at 11/10 models and dog memes all day isn't bringing value to my life?
Ryan Douglas yes
No you should be watching cat memes
@Thot Patrol Mmm hentai
I only stare at Nastyanass twerking, its motion literally builds my brain, its a meditative activity
relate but I only go for 2d
I could dump every social media in an instant but I can't just let go of memes.
i suggest you to do it but shortening the time every day; like today 2 hours ,next day 1 hour 45 minutes and them there is a day that you just dont need it . it works as a drug you have to minimize the consumption.
Haha people kinda joke about injecting the memes, but the thing is they’re pretty much like drugs when u think about it
Try Reddit
Same :,-)
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I am binge-watching your videos. Your content is exactly what I was looking for at this point in time in my life. I'm going through a tough break up and looking for ways to move on and become better than I was. Thank you for sharing!
If I was sitting across from you wearing that tank top, I wouldn’t think of my phone.
You made me smile, thank you
I start checking my phone when I'm outside because of social anxiety, i try to distract myself from the fact that I'm surrounded by people
Same 😬
Maybe if you force yourself to not use your phone when you are surrounded by people or with people that will help you with overcome you social anxiety
@@charbelnakhoul2968 Tried that. Instead fixing my anxiety it induced anxiety panic attack and i felt like I'm about to die. The only way to calm anxiety is having someone close to you that knows you have anxiety issues.
I do this too. I’ve often wondered if it’s a temporary fix for a serious problem because if I didn’t have my phone or it was dead, I might have a panic attack.
@@techzoid6999 Doing wrong! You make your anxiety worse.
My retweet made a debut 2:37
My like made a debut 2:38
My nothing made a debut 2019
My response to you comment made a debut here 😎
Umm I'm kinda here now I guess
Thx, for sharing the idea of Digital Minimalism and optimalization questions!
Thank you. Honestly, thank you. This was very useful and insightful.
uninstalling the facebook app is something I had done a long time ago.
HUuuge time saver
wish i could do the same with the youtube app though
You can disable the app in the settings, I do that sometimes when I have a lot of work to do
Uninstalling yt is like uninstalling google 😕
CZcams is great if you are suscribed to great channels and you don't spend too much time on it
Michael Jones this is true. I often find that my recommended section determines my mood and my productivity. When it is filled with games channels after watching a few, I get even more addicted to watching them and then have to try extra hard to change my recommended to something else. It is the same reversed, when it’s filled with videos like this one here (which it is now). I feel somewhat inspired and motivated, with an aspiring sense of self worth and belief. From a psychological point of view, it is very very interesting. (I might also add, like someone already has in this thread, I haven’t had social media in almost 3 years and I have got so much time back and can only recommend it to everyone!)
@@itsabaddayforwhitepeopledu3415 I feel exactly the same, it depends on what you watch and how much time you spend watching it.
Quit social media nearly 2 years ago, never been happier!
... But you're on CZcams 👀
Damon Jnr is that still considered social media?
Dont you get bored
How could you ?!
I tried for just one day but i was nerves
@@blackbat121 The brain requires retraining. You will feel the effects of not using social media for a while because it's something you've done for a very long time and it's become your source of pleasure. We are hardwired to seek pleasure and when we use social media, our brain makes this connection between pleasure and social media, so it will make you feel uncomfortable and send you urges to get another hit of dopamine to scratch that itch so to speak. Hence why when we feel nervous or irritable, our instinctive reaction is to pick up our phones and pointlessly scroll through SM.
We need to show our brain that we don't need social media as a source of pleasure. This can be done by allowing the intense energy of the urge to be there whilst we resist/refrain from acting on that urge and finding something else more productive to do with our time. I call it the acceptance and replacement strategy. This may not work for every single person but it certainly has been working for me... so far :)
I've been wavering my screentime over the last year and notice that it's more difficult to keep in touch with some people who "socialize" more online than they do in person. It's led to less people in my life, which I'm happy with! Social media lets us think we have all of this camaraderie with people that mutually interact with us when we may not even be able to hold a significant conversation with them in person.
As always, thank you for sharing your findings and insights with us!
Beautifully put! Thanks for your service. Love your style.
Nice Blade Runner 2049 wallpaper
True, my productivity drop because I always check my phone or social media. It took me time to cut it away and focus on my things to produce more results. It's okay to check your phone, but too much exposure on it is not good.
Man your videos are amazing. So triggering and insightful. Thanks 🙏
I love this video!! Congrats, keep going! Thanks for helping opening our eyes😊
Does anyone else get "the twitch" whenever you reach for your phone but you forgot it, or you suddenly become aware that you mindlessly reached for it?
Yep
That 'F --> Enter' combo is too real
I'm currently binging all of your videos and gleaning every tidbit of wisdom you're sharing with us! THANK YOU!
It's true I check my phone compulsively, but only to see if I have a text.
Hm, I suppose I lied. As I commented saying I don't check my phone compulsively, but I do check my phone for texts.
Something you might find helpful: Changing default ringtone on your phone. So that when other's phone ring you won't get the urge to check yours. Takes a few days to get used to it.
People get really annoyed with me because of this, but I actually turned off both the ringer and the vibration on my phone. I was perfectly fine not knowing the exact moment I got a notification, and if somebody called me, they would leave a message if it was important. I recently got a Fitbit, though, and one feature I wasn’t aware of was that it tells me when I get a call or a message. Still, I don’t mind it, because it’s easy to ignore, I can read the message on the Fitbit, and my friends are a lot happier that I actually know when they message me now.
Better yet, make your own lol
I have a gift where I dont use social media at all but I'm disconnected with people
Go out more. You’ll talk to people eventually even if you don’t intend to
Thank you for making self help videos that are actually engaging and even funny at some points. Keep up the awesome work!!!
havent found the channel like this useful, interesting and helpful in a while, im in love with this content
Some important information on a growing problem, great content, thanks Joey.
Man you really deserve millions of subscribers. Your ideas are really unique.
Keep it up!
One might even say he has better ideas
He just found "adulting" earlier for his age , and is explaining it to kids/young adults that need "adulting" in their life
I love that we can see you reading your script when you look off to the side while speaking! I know I sound a lot more presentable when I use a script too. It's really helpful :) Thanks for the awesome videos!
Thanks for this!
Dude this was really very informative and helpful . Thanks 👍
I learned so much from this! Thank you!
Great recommendations! thanks for sharing.
"and countries are still being run decently..."
Czechia: **Am I joke to you?**
First video I have seen from you, seems like the CZcams algorithm did a good job by recommending your channel to me!
Great style of video and a very chill interaction with the audience. Keep it up man
8:40 "And that's just dumb" « perfectly describes LinkedIn
Excellent video. Love the concept of Digital Minimalism
Thanks for this useful information 💗
man your discipline is hugeee I really admire you. I have kind of a necessity to scroll through instagram and its almost impossible for me delete it. Keep up all this great videos
I like listening to you. I recently became a certified life coach and am pulling together my niche to focus on. Your steady and humorous antidotes are really helpful. Thanks!
How do people find a life coach?
This was extremely helpful and life changing for me. Thank you so much!
This is excellent information. Thanks, Joey! I can't believe I'm just now discovering your channel.
Best video on this topic hands down.
Too many have a problem with "phone addiction" (including me, but i've been working on it for the last couple of months)
The real turning point for me was when it was starting to affect the time spent with ones i love.
Some great realistic tactics in this video.
Loved this video
so glad I came across your channel yesterday
Great video man thank you
Super important topic. Well done. Like your approach to FB, did the same ;).
Definitely going to pick up that book 👍🏻
Bet you won't
@j. Looks like those videos are just for you, what an idiot. Go get some fresh air you bloody prat
Hi man! Love your videos
Stg
Thank you so much for this video. It made me delete Instagram which I used to watch people sharing their life/photo’s/stories I am not even interested in 😂. The people I am interested in I can call or text. It made me feel much better to not be on Instagram which is full of perfect life’s and makes me compare myself to that which is truly toxic. The two questions in your video made me realize all of this. So big thanks again and looking forward to watch all of your videos. You are doing such a great job! 🙏🏼
Thanks man! This showed my a new perspective. You explained everything perfectly.
Hi, I have quit social media for over a month. I am loving it. I don't regret at all. Thanks for your videos. I have been really productive and gave more time to myself and fam.
You're my favourite youtuber right now. Every day i have some freetime, i'm watching one of your videos and it adds so much value to my life. Small changes and i see big outcomes. Keep going ! :)
Thanks for stopping by :)
This is awesome. Thanks for uploading!
Love your content. good work
1:20 "when you're in the middle of an essay". Got me there pal...
One more helpful thing besides stripping down the number of social media accounts you have is, switching off notifications for all the remaining apps. Only see your notifications when you actually open the app, when you get free. Been doing this since last 2-3 years and it seems quite helpful to me!
This helped a lot! Thanks!
Man that news feed eradicator thing is godsent! Love the video also, some really good points that I am trying to apply to my daily life as well. thanks for sharing!
It would be great to have a video of your suggestions for apps to avoid. Explained like your thoughts on Instagram
Really hesitated on clicking on this video, you've described and explained this problem very well and in an an intelligent way, I thought it was gonna be one of these videos on how phones are bad and new generations are ruined, good work!
Wow the book that i need in this period! Thanks very much for your experience!
Great video, thanks! Very helpful.
CZcams should lead me to more videos like this more often
High quality content 👍🏻
When you're socially awkward so you look at your phone instead
I'm so glad I found this channel great content and advice you are an inspiration keep it up!
Hey man, nice insights, you are helping a lot. Thank you.
Dat view to like to dislike ratio 😮
Since I've deleted League Of Legends yesterday(account too), I've won soo much time that Iam considering buying a guitar to learn, instead of wandering the internet.
Omg league!!!! I only keep just in case they bring URF back lol but good for you!!
I keep league because I'm excited about new champions/reworks and lore. I don't care about the actual game anymore :/
League of legends is such a massive waste of time because of how long the games are... start with a ukelele! They’re 10 times easier and I’m telling you you’ll fall in love with the sounds, buy a medium sized one from a real instrument shop, not one that looks like it’s for a child lol.
oh wow, congrats! keep it up!
Just a heads up about learning guitar: I'd recommend getting a teacher in the beginning until you've figured out the basics because teaching yourself guitar can be very difficult. However, learning an instrument is one of the most rewarding things you can do. Which is why I've learned five lol.
Such an important conversation to be having. Thanks for sharing!
Quality content, thanks mate.
I already fixed it by getting the apple watch.
Now im looking at that all the time instead.
Easy
This is such a big struggle for me
:(... Its cripling my social anxiety
You’re amazing, your videos are what I need these days 👍🏻
Social media has become from education and keeping up to date to using it for comparison and judgement of one’s own life. Not realizing most social media is constructed, cultivated and fake.
That Blade Runner 2049 PC wallpaper tho! ♥
I see from your background you like blade runner, good man 👍🏻
Thank you, I love your videos:)
Thank you for uploading this video.it’s amazing
What if all your friends reply on these social media applications solely? I feel as if I am missing out and always redownload the app
I have those kind of friends. But I use a messenger (not like social media witget), and with time they had to get on that one too 'cause if it's important and they not going to call or text as people used to do a few years ago, it is the only way to reach me. The thing is,
99% of messages on social media are post sharing and all you get are cats videos and memes. *You won't miss out much if you ditch these apps.*
I don't know exactly how things going for you and your friends, but if the communication between you is important, all you will find a way to catch up outside the social media