How the comfort zone is ruining your life
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Just a video about the comfort zone and how it ruins your life. It's also about self improvement, productivity, and stuff like that. I am only writing this in order for the video to rank better.
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I never wrote a comment because it was out of my comfort zone. Gotta start somewhere
I never reply to comments because it's outside of my comfort zone. Today that changes.
@@Gorandomalt I never reply to comments that are comments replied to other people's comments. It's a start
AudioArc I never replied to a replied itâs a start
Youâre crazy! Who said you write a comment? Get back in your comfort zone.
i need a new comforter
I like this guy. It's not like what he's saying is revolutionary, but he does remind us of facts we already knew and tend to ignore
*FACTS*
Mad Fax
stop acting humble, you didn't know shit, if you did you woudn't be here
Well said
@@shiftless215 you are very misinformed and ignorant of depression. Read a book
I'm 23 and only suddenly realising that isolating myself all these years has only contributed to my crippling anxiety and depression. I thought I was 'protecting' myself from the world and all these social situations. All high school and the last five years I've been like this.
it's great that you are realizing it. maybe it is time for you to get out of your comfort zone and find people that you can relate to and create meaningful connection. That's what i am trying to do after isolating myself after i became a mother. good luck to both of us đ
Same omg
@@conversationsfromtheheart3696 thank you and good luck to you too!!
Yes God bless you, I realized it too...
Sometimes we need extra help I have the same problem as you I started therapy and got on medication goodluck hope things get better soon.
Iâm either depressed in my comfort zone or anxious while outside of it
SAME but i think we're probably doing it wrong
Agreed. But eitherway I'm also bored and generally miserable. Everything is stressful, boring, and depressing. It's just choosing which one is least miserable on any given day.
@@faisaladnan1520 I've spent most my life outside my comfort zone. Life sucks whether in or out that zone. It doesn't matter.
@@faisaladnan1520 say that to people that depression or most mental illness in general is like telling a guy with a broken leg to walk
@@someonesomeone25 when outside the comfort zone are you doing uncomfortable things that should be beneficial ur life. Or are you putting yourself in dilemmas?
Note to self:
The comfort zone is a beautiful lie, while the discomfort zone is a painful truth. And accepting truth will eventually do good at the end no matter how painful it is.
yes, truth!!!
*yes, (discomfort zone - painful)
Truer words were never spoken
No, it's just a misery machine.
Beautiful lie - love it perfectly said
I stabbed a pencil in my leg for four weeks. It's inside my comfort zone now.
Same happened to me, but for some reason walking is now outside my comfort zone.
@@DaDoctorJ hahahah
LMFAO!
Lol geez I pray for your legs XD
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someone said that writing a comment was something out of their comfort zone and I could really relate to that, I don't really like having much of a presence on social media. So I'm writing this to thank you for your videos! They have been of great help to me!
Me too
Same here. I started few days ago to frequently comment on CZcams videos. I used to feel anxious that people will judge me or react negative but then who knows us on CZcams.
@@priyasharmax it is a weird thing, Iâm glad you have made me aware of this. I remember watching videos as a younger boy on CZcams almost every day. I always felt a resistance to posting my own intellectual thoughts onto a public platform for everyone else to see, but now I make three or four comments a day and realize how comfortable it is for me now. It was a slow progression, but not something I could naturally acclimate myself to overnight. I am naturally very unsocial and restrictive when opening up to people, but the real problem may be that I am alienating myself from the fact that there are no repercussions and I can easily distance myself from scrutiny or judgement from these âonline usersâ who cannot identify me. Itâs being synthetically social almost to the point where it validates your absence from the real world making it seem unnecessary to have the necessary and fundamental human interaction and accept automated robots with predictable behavior/action that create no mental resistance. Perhaps this is why younger generations or more accepting of this movement. I do not know, but I thank you for making the progression of my social presence aware to me.
@@Jr-lt2oy writing this comment in English (it's my second language) and I can say this is something outside of my comfort zone. I rarely comment anything on CZcams for the fear of being judged,
made fun of or just being called 'stupid'. I don't speak like a native speaker and I have seen lots of people (native speakers) make fun of people's English, when in fact those people have made an effort to get outside of their comfort zone and give it a shot. This really discourages me and demotivates me from trying to communicate with ppl online. Just to be clear not all (native speakers) are this way most of them are quite kind and positive. I just felt the need to comment and here I'm almost ranting. Have a nice day to anyone who's reading my comment.
I never realized this until you said it. Thank you so much
I started laughing uncontrollably after what hung this video because I literally got back into playing Siege and disregarding my workout schedule and music production. The fact that the longer you spend in the comfort zone the hard it is to break out is all too real
What type of music you make bro?
Bro this comment just described my situation to a fucking T đđđ
A year late pero bro I feel you that was me yesterdayđđ
I'm a music producer and a lol player so i can relate this, now i'm going to make some discomfortable music hhahahaa
Damn, R6 ruined my life for a while lmao
I would never understand, why they don't teach this kind of things at school...
Because they donât care I guess
Keeping you in your comfort zone and afraid will make you believe all the lies the government tells you so you buy their products that make make you "happy and fulfilled" so you are their slave without even knowing it. So you carry on your life of fear and just become another cog in their machine of human manipulation so they can bask in their wealth and control of you.
@@jaredbrewer8325 I mean you're not wrong, but hella depressing when put like that.
@@justinmontoya3550 It is depressing, but if you sugar coat it people won't see what this world is all about.
Because going to school is stepping o your comfort zone for a lot of people
I get depressed when im in my comfort zone for too long, so the lockdown is pretty hard for me.
Have you tried learning a skill ? I'mâ learning a language and it really push you out of your comfort zone . Basically everyday push you a little bit further .
@@MrFrezeer I'm learning German right now. Just getting my brain to understand how to use my tongue and vocal chords is a hell of a challenge being so used to English and trying to learn a bit of Spanish (way easier to speak). Great brain fuel.
@@Bendanna93 hey wie gehts ich will dein deutsch mal testen
@@Bendanna93 I wish you very much luck on your journey. My mother language is German and I learn English, French and Spanish, but to be honest French and Spanish - skills is not the yellow from the egg. As we say here zu Lande Höhö
Idk why but the lockdown helped me to find peace. It's just the disease is not really detrimental at my place becuz it's just a countryside, and i didn't have much time to enjoy myself becuz of school
Summary: Donât let the discomfort have a say on your decisions, just know the kind of person you wanna be and work towards it without worrying about being comfortable or not.
a comment with no replies? lemme change that
I wished I heard this when I was 20. Every time I get into a relationship, I get too engrossed in it that I just forget about myself. When I'm out of it I was left empty. No motivation to live even. It hits me recently like why am I like this? Why am i so down and depressed when I'm alone but so "happy" when I'm with someone. I started to reflect on myself that maybe its the way I run away from thinking about life. My way of doing it is finding someone to focus on. and give my all to them. When I don't have that person I felt empty and I don't do anything about my life. I'm 25 right now and I'm starting to reset/ restart my brain to focus on myself and invest on myself more. I'm writing this here for whoever felt it might relate to them and for myself. It's never too late to start but will always be too late if you didn't. Good luck dear self. I wish you all the best and don't look back and keep moving forward.
It sounds like shes your life.. there's nothing wrong with being in love but if you had something you love to do and look forward to yourself someone leaving you wouldn't have such a harsh effect.. but honestly if you can't find something your passionate about, don't even care about it man and just be you.. there's always another girl around the corner waiting for someone like you. Maybe you were born to be a pimp man just start dating multiple woman instead. Doesn't have to be one.. there's nothing wrong with you. Your being you bro.. personally for me when I was a kid video games were my passion.. I woke up excited to play video games and excited to see that girl.. when I was 17 mynew passion was boxing. I'm 29 now and boxing is still my passion.. I can't be a fighter anymore but I still keep myself involved. I wish the best man your doing good. Alot people can't even get a girl...
I'm 20 and i feel like I'm already giving up
I'm 30 and never been in relationship, can't get a girl because I am shy and I am even quite good looking guy. Life sometimes can be so unfair sometimes, anyway I will try to improve my life and work harder đȘ
@@ramasetyawans Im 18 and I feel like that hopefully we get through it
Iâm 16 yrs old and I still have hope in myself that I will improve to become a better person
Itâs weird that I found this video after already figuring this out for myself lol. I have social anxiety and recently figured that I wasnât going to improve by staying in my house all day. So I began making my self really uncomfortable. I went to a youth group with people I didnât know, went for a walk with a friend I wasnât close to (this was a big step for me as I was scared how to keep the conversation going, but in the end it went great), and started looking up from the floor when in a public space. Iâm getting bette slowly and more natural at conversations.
EDIT: so itâs 7 months later, and I want to tell you guys leaving your comfort zone is the BEST thing you can do. I went from avoiding going to the store until night time when it was less busy, not hanging out with anyone, not being able to order my own food or go to the cashier by myself, always looking down in public, to having multiple friends who I hang out with without fear, going into stores whenever and easily going to the cashier by myself, ordering my own food, being able to keep conversations going well, and overall my social anxiety has gone down so much! That friend I didnât know well that I talked about in my original paragraph, Weâre now super close and hang out all the time! And it all happened because I took that step out of my comfort zone, made myself uncomfortable. If I had stayed in my comfort zone and said no to that friends request to hang out, we never wouldâve had the friendship we have now.
That's awesome to hear!! How have you been since? Have you continued to improve?
@@star_master actually, yes! Just yesterday I went to a friends house who I wasnât at all close to and I wasnât awkward at all! Also, usually I avoid going to the store because Iâm afraid of seeing someone I know and having to interact with them. But knowing someone I knew worked at a store I shopped at, I went in, and when I saw them had a normal conversation with them with minimal awkwardness. Iâm slowly learning how to have a conversation with people and being less scared to hang out with others. I still have anxiety and Iâm still so awkward but itâs getting better, and Iâm no longer avoiding going to the store and being super afraid of seeing and interacting with peo0e.
@@brooke4608 That's amazing!! Your story of growth and improvement has honestly been inspiring to me. I also have a youth group that I haven't really been going to, so I'm going to put myself out there and go to it more often. Thanks for your inspiration!!
Your experience motivated me to get out of my comfort zone and make myself uncomfortable too
Keep up with this and u will surely improve and be successful â€ïž
@@lenalee5516 hey Iâm so happy I was able to be of some inspiration! Just want to give a little update! Well do to corona I obviously havenât been able to do much, but you know that friend I didnât know will that I went for a walk with? Weâre so close now and I have a new best friend! And since both me and that friend both have social anxiety we have been able to push eachother out of the comfort zone. We decided to both walk to the corner store and get food ourselves (this doesnât seem huge but it was huge and scary for both of us) we stood outside the store for 10 minutes deciding if we should do it or not lol. But we did and now Iâm able to order my own food and go to the cashier alone! Iâm still super nervous doing it and have anxiety about it, but Iâm able to do it now!
2020: "How the comfort zone is saving your life"
Michelangelo00001 lol literally
Lol
Good point!
No cap
Michelangelo00001 corona đ
I think the genius of this guy is that he can formulate these simple back-to-basics health principles that we all have heard before in a way that makes them somehow pass the brains spam filter and make an impact. I'm not sure how he does it but it has helped me so damn much.
I think the genius of this guy is he says shit that only applies to some people and applies it to a broad spectrum of a ton of idiots who have no life guidance on CZcams and seems like some sort of motivational god. Moral of the story live your life how you want use your own critical thinking to determine whether or not your lifestyle is healthy and do things on your own terms and don't let anyone else determine what you need to be doing
@@ilikecinema1234 shutup
@@Kanal7Indonesia Lmaoo it's the truth. Don't let some random ass dude tell you how to live, live at your own degree
He doesn't sugar coat it
@@ilikecinema1234 Sometimes, an external view of ourselves is much needed to progress. There are things about yourself you wont realise because you think they are normal but other people will just see them as they are. We are social animals, we thrive around people and its necesary to mantain some external contact with people for our mental health
Best explanation of âwhy should we step out of our comfort zoneâ.
We donât do it to make ourselves uncomfortable but extend our comfort zone till one day we would notice that âNow this is how I want my life to be likeâ.
Thank you for sharing đ
"Driving is in the comfort zone."
Me, with an extreme fear of driving and traffic: đ«
heh then for you that is outside of your comfort zone and that means.
you better start driving :)
I can relate. I quit my driving lesson after I put in too much money and effort into something that makes me miserable. I hate driving and traffic and Iâm glad I donât have to deal with it anymore.
Me to
@@richardgomez1151 thatâs what every new driver feels like. Just practice in a parking lot lol
Then got off the road
It is so comfortable to be watching these videos and dream about becoming a better person. It has become part of my comfort zone, unfortunately.
Uh oh
I was going to say that đ
Touché
Taking action is out of comfort zone
That's why practicality is necessary
"You have to venture out of your comfort zone or it will get smaller"
Sums up covid lockdowns. I feel like I haven't been the same since and some things feel more difficult.
Unless maybe your an introvert like me. The quarantine stared when I was 20. A year after I graduated high school. My research says that introverts often become more introverted upon reaching adulthood. My mom is forcing me to go to Disney this January, And I really don't want to go.Because I don't feel safe or comfortable. Besides I super busy wrong my dent book. I do feel a bit bad but I learned to never be afraid to say "no." My aunt understands how and why I feel the way I do so she said I could stay in the resort hotel. But even that feels stupid. Im at Disney and I just stay in the hotel? It kinda defeats the purpose. Besides I think I suffer from FOMO--Fear Of Missing Out.
You can change that by going out of your comfort zone and challenging yourself to grow as a person. Be the chnage you want to see cause no one else gives a fuck
â@@theintrovertedaspie9095even inttoberts have a comfort zone dude. Stop making excuses for govt induced torture that has killed over 80,000 people with no virus.
@@PolishBehemoth I know they have comfort zones too. I'm just saying they're in their ekemeny during covid that's all. But yes it does have its problems. And yes intoverts do need to step out sometime. Which I do regularly.
One way to get out of the comfort zone is to know when you are about to overthink and not do what you are thinking about, and instead use this feeling as a guide to do it.
Thanks thats good
I'm gonna be healthy and go to the gym regularly instead of sitting at the computer all-day
Coronavirus: Allow me to introduce myself
Ironically...the 24 hour gym I walked to was closed...probably due to that....walked 8 miles to see a closed door...
@@mista_fur3346 dammmm that sucks
Again it all depends on how you look at the world.
Check out Chris Heria and his workouts
@@mista_fur3346 damn...at least you got a workout lol đ
I just realized that the moment I got out of my comfort zone, that's when I started to grow as a person and learned a lot of things. I think it's the best decision I had in my life. I push myself to be better every single day. Where I am uncomfortable with doing productive things but after the long run, it made me like it more and willing to go another extra mile.
Can I screenshot your comment and pin it in my notes? It's inspiring!
Being Bhumika no
@@BeingBhumika Yes, why not? It is totally legal.
@@dannyjuarez1969 đ
You mean grow as an ego.
You do not grow with your experiences your ego does.
And that's the thing you believe you are.
You are in fact everything that you should be and want to be from birth but that is educated over and then you start thinking and you adopt beliefs and presuppositions as to what you are and the world is.
You are already what you need to be we all.
Thank you so much for this content. I've been through a very traumatic experience in my life right now, which kind of snapped me out of my comfort zone abruptly, like I missed the starting gun. And this content gives me strength to strive myself into being a better person, for me and for the ones I love.
Im stuck in my comfort zone because for me the outside world is dangerous, people judge me, make me feel anxious and uncomfortable, i feel like they are out to get me. I know isolating is just gonna make my anxiety worse but its got to the point that its just the only option for me.
hey, how have you been?
For everyone misunderstanding this, it doesn't mean go outside, it just means push yourself to do some productive things that you normally wouldn't do.
I like that.
@@yeng1855 i had to clarify because as an introverted person staying too much outside is not my comfort but is also exhausting and for people trying to figure out who they are it can be hard af to embrace solitude when everyone else tells you to do the "right" thing and go outside/socialize etc.
Yaa
@@yarmy9846 It sucks being an introvert because how you feel is seen as not normal or wrong
Thanks I will start doing drugs
"If you choose what is easy, then your life will be hard. But if you choose what is hard, then your life will be easy"
Daniel water is wet. Your mom is dry
@@willy3toes586 Woke
cheesy af
What you love doing is always going to be easy and your life will be easy. Whatever you don't like doing is going to be hard, and your life will be hard.
Do you hear how much sense you aren't making?
I remember I started a college and just as I was about to walk into this new class I thought to myself, let's make this a good chapter in my life, and thru the whole year I felt amazing and just had no worries, I was confident and just full of energy.
I love that you're addressing this. Growth and progress do not happen in our comfort zones, since by nature they require us to push ourselves, take risks (no matter how small), and feel a bit unsure of ourselves. It's so easy to forget this.
*The greatest pleasures in life are just outside your comfort zone.*
@Timesplitting Shapeshifter That's something someone in their comfort zone would say haha
But Only if those things are good for you. Like his example stabbing yourselves with a pencil is uncomfortable and out of your comfort zone and itâs bad for you. Another example is if I need to socialise more to get myself out of my comfort Zone but I decide to socialise with abusive people- this is getting me out of my comfort zone but itâs also bad. We need to find the good comfort zone that helps us grow.
We all are here just to find someone to sleep with. It's mankind's main objective.
Weler Martins are you serious
@@missjaninelove Kind of.
"some people will dream of success, others will work hard at it"
"NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE"
And another ones get it.
@@kabir7158 Except.. many things.
This hits me really hard & needed to hear it!
I'm still dreaming.
Few years ago I had bad life conditions and they helped me to change myself and grew up. When I stepped into a comfort zone, I was feeling miserable and deprived - I was stagnating all the time and couldn't find any power to make an effort in order to leave the comfort zone again. After your video I got necessary motivation to make a step towards new goals and new rewards! Thank you, bravo!
This is all so true! For me, after not having a job for a while, other tasks that required any sort of mental exertion started to feel more tedious, because I was getting used to the stagnation of not being challenged or motivated. However, Iâve been working out for so long, that working out is within my comfort zone, so I started using working out as a stall tactic to push out other responsibilities. I am glad I took a repose from having a job to focus on my mental health, and to find a job that better suited me and aligned with my values - but not being employed for too long of a time span becomes counter productive, makes you feel lazy, and âshrinksâ your comfort zone.
"A river cuts through a Rock not because of its flow but because of its persistence"
Oh boy...
This is so true. I was studying abroad in France last semester and my comfort zone expanded there so much. I was very scared in the beggining, but I pushed through and it was so worth it. But now Im back home and with the corona I literally just sit behind my computer at home all day, every day. My comfort zone has shrunk to a point where Im nervous to even go for a walk with a friend :D.
I hope your experience in France was great
Same here! Studied in Wales. Now back home in Norway. Not doing a lot these days. Stopped working out etc
^ This is my life too
Maybe you have to destroy the confort wall , and dont care about what think other people about you . it worked for me , now im not doing the things because i want to be accepted , wow that comment was a little intense , xD , just chill , and play videogames bro .
Some people just won't and never understand. You're a great person back in France, is just this Rona thingy that we can do anything much about it. What are you supposed to expect to do? People just won't understand and start telling you things. While you already know you had already seen better days in your prime in France.
I would challenge your 2-zone theory as a psychology student and suggest 3 zones- 1: inside the comfort zone 2: the challenge zone which is outside the comfort zone and the area where people can learn and grow the most 3: the panic zone which is essentially where you get so uncomfortable that it turns into panic and you shut down. This is because pushing yourself too much, too hard, too fast can result in mental issues and stunt your ability to learn or grow. There is a balance that must be reached. Challenge yourself outside your comfort zone but before your panic zone. If a goal of yours is currently in the panic zone, start with smaller related things in your challenge zone. Eventually, you will become comfortable with those, allowing the final goal to be less intimidating and shift from the panic zone to the challenge zone over time.
This is something I've always pondered on, and I used to think it was related to some obsession with "self-perfection", but thanks to this video I can connect the dots and rationalise why it is that I feel so much resistance to become my "best self". I think the bottom line is life is hard, and being the person you want to be, with the values you want to have takes time and perseverance but this is the essence of living. We can't beat ourselves up for every small decision we make and gauge it on whether or not its bringing us closer or further from our "best self", but rather to reframe this mindset into whether it aligns with who we want to be, and instead of punishing looking for opportunities to break the cycle next time. Often we associate "being outside the comfort zone" with intense feelings of stress (for those who suffer from anxiety) but the longer we give in and stay inside our comforts, the harder it becomes to branch out and try new things. I really noticed this being unemployed for a few months and it felt like the longer I was unemployed the more anxiety built up around returning to work, but when I eventually did, it was fine! The harder we push ourselves outside our boundaries the greater potential we have to be whatever we want.
This video really got me. For the last 2 years Iâve been working on being completely out my comfort zone. And it work but for the last 6 months Iâve just stopped and turned back into a shut in. Itâs crazy how fast you can lose it all.
@J. Lee relatable. I have been steadily increasing the amount of time i stay outside the comfort zone as i get older though which is really nice
This is exactly how I feel. It is demotivating to feel like I lost all progress. I'm trying to get back on my feets, but man it's so hard. Even though I was out of my comfort zone for a really long time it is still hard to do. If you stop, the comfort zone shrinks again and it does so really fast. I guess I have to keep the ball up and not overdo it this time, so I can keep that pace. Have a nice day! :)
Syss blubb if you created good habits in the time out of the comfort zone you dont loose them all since it is much easier picking them up again instead of developing them from scratch. Your brain already developed the structures which are basically on âpauseâ :)
You didn't lose it all. More you wait, the more you lose. Just get back into the ring. Something you once learned, you re-learn faster again
have you watched Yes Theory :)?
Comment sections are a graveyard for thoughts. People come in, share their thoughts of the moment, and then leave forever, but their thoughts remain even after they're long gone. In the far future, these thoughts will still be here. Maybe someone will even read mine. If you can dream it you can create it. So what are you waiting for .
We will still be here aswell since they will have invented anti aging in the future then, look it up its true lol.
@@Supremepikachu I hope I don't die before anti aging becomes available đ
@@okramra Stay safe lol especially now xD
was waiting for your commment
Ya
Good reminder and motivation. The pandemic have actually snap me out of my comfort zone and Iâm grateful for all that has been happening so far with new opportunities that came with taking risks more often again
Iâve ventured outside my comfort zone hundreds of times over the years and it mostly results in regret and negative memories that haunt me. The real trick is not forcing yourself to leave your comfort zone, but learning how to thrive there.
Iâm 40 and I havenât yet.
Interesting point
I just simply want to THANK YOU for all your videos.
Let's make a thank you reply chain:
thank you
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âWhen you no longer let discomfort have a say in how you make your decisions, the potential for what you can do in your life expands dramatically.â
Very powerful statement and very interesting take on comfort zones. An old mentor of mine always said that all growth takes place OUTSIDE of your comfort zone. However, this video makes a great point in saying that what is outside of your comfort initially, becomes comfortable one you do it enough.
Your channel is a great motivation to my personal growth/personal finance channel!
Reggie Bryant đđŸ
felt that comment
I come back to this video a lot whenever I find myself no longer motivated to break the comfort zone on the things that I should. Thanks for this
I can personally say me joining the military changed me for the better for this very reason.. forcing me out of my comfort zone, experiencing new things, living on my own in another country and discovering myself I think it is important for personal development. Gives a more positive outlook on life. Makes you appreciate things you have especially depending on where youâre at in the world. Best decision Iâve ever made. I recommend everyone in their youth to find a way to move out of your home town somewhere else and start fresh.
"How the comfort zone is ruining your life"
Coronavirus: Okay
Yeah, same here bud. about 2 weeks ago i really got into the groove. I managed to get 9 hard workouts in with awesome cardio. I even lost around 5 kg of fat and ate very very clean. Then Corona isolation has destroyed the mindset.
Didn't went to gym since weeks.
Only go outside once a week, sometimes twice for supplies.
Things get shittier day by day in Europe.
iSm1lez Holy shit man prayers. The way you describe it makes it sounds like an apocalypse or somethingđ
ItsFreeRealEstate bro stop whining. i dont like the situation either but that doesnt stop me from having killer bodyweight workouts in my room
@@ManWellYT I'm dead đđ
Hard to swallow pills:
My comfort zone has gotten so small that just clicking this video required immense dedication and willpower.
Learning about negative impacts of staying inside the comfort zone is literally outside my comfort zone. Oof.
you should do nofap
I understand you man, I understand you.
Ooooof
I do absolutely understand you man..
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Beautiful quotes about life.
This is by far the best channel I have ever found. Thank you, for the steady stream of illuminating content.
Getting out of your comfort zone will be the hardest thing to do but the most necessary thing in order to move on in your life
Everything should be done in moderation. Yes, getting out of your comfort zone is mostly good for, you learn new things and become stronger mentally and physically. But if you spend too much time out of your comfort zone like I did, you can become miserable, tired and depressed. After taking a step back these last few years and finding a middle ground, I've become much happier.
how have you found this middle ground? im currently WAYYY into the comfort zone
That's really interesting, what part of getting out of your comfort zone made you tired, miserable and depressed ? Were the things you decided to do to get out of your comfort zone based on the focus of trying to grow into an ideal version of yourself?
ACR_master Just find things to do which are outside. Like if you stay inside a lot. Go out, my comfort zone is inside. But I like to go to gym and go skating with friends. I agree with this too, being outside your comfort zone 24/7 is not something I want to do and can lead to things which I frown upon. (Getting drunk and partying). Start running/jogging every over day, walk outside in a forest or even chat to random people (I find it awfully hard to do this). Even if itâs a cashier or bar tender.
On the flip side, if youâre extroverted. Isolate yourself for a little bit, pick up a book to read or learn a language. I read before bed as it makes me drift into sleep faster. Iâm also learning espanto as a first language then to move to Latin.
Edit: Iâll give you an example, I was going to university back in September and enjoyed the first week or so. But after that it became a chore. I was hating it to a point where I was getting down and my family noticed. I was outside of my comfort zone every day it made me hate my life. It came down to Iâd get a degree, but would hate every moment of it, whilst getting into massive debt. As I said I dislike partying and getting drunk, that is what half of uni is. I chose to leave and I feel so good. I study at the open uni. Studying is outside of my comfort zone, but I have time for a job and hobbies.
At the end of the day, as he said. Do it in moderation. Get into healthy habits, clean you room, get a hobby and make sure to enjoy your life.
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Web Daddy you talking to me?
I was just telling my wife yesterday that it seems the older I get the softer I get. I just donât have âthe nerveâ I used to have. Iâve felt this way for years. Iâve gained a lot of weight, Iâve been dealing anxiety and depression. Iâve lost touch with all of my friends. And Iâve struggled with myself to figure out why this is all happened to me. Thanks to you I may have figured it out. Iâve let my comfort zone get so, so small. My man, youâre a Godsend! Thank you so much!
I never had the nerve ):
at least your wife does not hate you bro
Be careful when you open up with women, even if she's your wife, weakness is not a option. Get out of the comfort zone and start to exercise. We're all in this together
Almost 30 and feel the exact same! When I was 20 I was always grabbing life by the horns
Sounds like u gave up on yourself.
this has been in my watch later for a year now and I'm finally watching it.
Speaking to crowds and leading groups is something i wanna learn and every time i do something related to that if feel extremely nervous, but this video inspired me to not give up (or at least not so easily) and keep going with it, i wish this go well. Thanks for the video.
He is not really bald, he wanted to get out of the comfort zone
Thats so true
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I feel like i've already seen this comment
@@johnsmith_1942 respect my brother
Things that have helped me.
1. Foreign solo travel. No one you know is there to judge you. You can be whoever you want to be.
2. Competitive athletics. Weightlifting, powerlifting, climbing, crossfit, marathon, etc. You will learn to embrace discomfort and discipline.
3. Fasting. Turns out that you really are eating too much too often. Break your addiction to food and improve your health.
4. Get on a sleep schedule. This may not seem like it belongs in this list, but it does. Social jetlag on the weekend and bad sleep habits destroy your productivity and drive.
5. Public speaking. Don't speak on autopilot. Be vigilant and conscious of your bad speaking habits and actively self correct them. Be knowledgeable and practice often, and you will improve like any other skill.
@-COLOMBIANCHANNEL-TM You don't need to fast everyday. Obviously, you wouldn't make much progress in powerlifting if you were in a caloric deficit too often. It's more of a tool to realize what actual hunger is, and for losing fat.
Yooo don't listen to this fool man that's actually all around great advice imo
All around great points :)
Love these points. Of course you're not trying to say that you should do all this at once, they all have their own challenges. Fasting is a really great way to realize that we're obese from consuming anything from social media, to food, to anything else that seek our attention. Fasting doesn't apply to everyone, such as those with an eating disorder, but I do believe that it's a good way for us to be more grateful for the life that we have and the discipline we need to put on ourselves.
Basically, don't be yourself, be what society wants you to be; be what others see as "correct".
I can't agree more with the feeling you had in your first year in uni. I'm in year 1 and I'm doing the same thing. I am introverted and I avoided all social interactions all my life. Now, I joined a social club lasting 1 year for career training recently and I'm excited and nervous about it!
Dam really appreciated this video. He makes discomfort seem something to embrace and not dread
04:29 - Eating Doritos on white sheets?! Now _that's_ getting out of your comfort zone!
Extreme gaming right there lol
"What have we learned?"
I'm pathetic.
You shouldn't say like that, bro. Don't aim yourself on fails. Self-discipline and willpower will help you, buddy. Sorry, if I made mistakes in this message. I'm not English speaker :)
Instead of thinking âIâm patheticâ, you shouldnât be bothered about your current state, you should instead aim for the goals you have in life. You have to see life as a road to success. Trust me, a good mentality is pure gold and will bring you a lot further!
Kristian, try not to judge yourself. Don't underestimate yourself. I have no clue what's happening in your life, but I highly recommend you to kick words like "I'm nobody, looser, pathetic etc" out of your head because they make you feel bad. It's hard. I know. Idk, maybe you didn't achieve some goals you wanted to. Or you bother: "Why do I move to my goals so slow?" It's ok. Just try to make conclusions, to think why you failed, to see your mistakes. Be patient. It's ok not to achieve goals immediately. Also, I agree with Reaven.
Labeling yourself as pathetic is inside your comfort zone. Take a step out.
Little Diamond Man Thanks Dude there is barley people like you
Needed this today, thanks đ
I love this guy so much. I started watching his videos when I needed them the most. THANKYOU
Want a comfort zone killer? Start taking regular cold showers
I do this daily, was bitch at first but I get high off them now. Don't even wait either, just jump straight in
@@chvIry tried it. cant do it. How much degrees tho? 30 , 20? 10 ??
@@daystrict I don't know exact degrees but I was prepared by my dad, punished me a few years back by turning off the hot water heater while I was doubling school and a job. I live in WA, this was in the winter. So there "cold" showers and there's no trace of hot water or even lukewarm water cold, in the middle of winter in the PNW rainforest, while the pipes are still frozen cold shower. Don't get me wrong then I HATED, DESPISED, and DISLIKED with a passion getting into the showers, and I still dread the thought of doing them, but I just don't think, yeah it fucking sucks but idk, I have an addictive personality and the feeling after taking an ice cold shower is comparable to that of a pre-feeling a person gets when taking an eighth of mushrooms (psychedelic). Its very euphoric.
@@daystrict ice cold
@@daystrict colder than in the winter stepping on a frozen puddle, then having it break and the water goes up to your ankle cold. And then you walk around all day and since it's already cold, it stays wet and gets colder cold.
better Ideas: "Driving is easy"
Me a 19 year old : say what?
LoL i have the same shit
Same here lol
Are you trying to say that you don't find driving easy?
That shit is some scary shit
Lol same
I find your story of freshman year of college extremely interesting. Iâm starting high school and i similarly, what to make myself better. I want that friend group that I hang out with 24/7. I want to be funny and interesting to talk to. I think Iâm learning that true friends are made effortlessly and that people will naturally gravitate towards me when I act who I truly am. I love your videos and keep up the good work.
@đŽđđđĄđ đ another lesson I learned is that it will take time until I can become the ideal person I wanna be. But until then, Iâve become more adventurous and spend wayyy more time outside now. Last week, I biked 10 miles and dropped in at my friendsâ houses that I havenât seen in a year. Iâve also made friends in the school year that I now hang out with on a weekly basis, maybe even more. The school year itself has had itâs ups and downs, but I canât wait for the next one, now that I will be able to drive with 16th bday being literally tomorrow.
And thank you for commenting and reminding what I have and what I want. Before I felt like I had little to show for my first year and I gained basically nothing. But now that I have thought about it, I realize how far I came since 9 months ago. I gotta say, now Iâm feeling a lot better and more optimistic for the future. Thank you.
love the way its not the inspiration but a big hit right in my awareness
"I never forgot how I felt"
--> Inside the comfortzone: things are easy to do, you feel comfortable, no mental resistance, you also feel like yeah I've done this a thousand times, you dont think about doing it(subconsciously)
--> to strech your comfortzone you have to do things that are mentally resisting and that over a period of time like for example, running each day + pushing yourself out of your CZ
--> when becoming habituated with only doing things that are easy/ comfortable you start to become soft/pathetic/floppy
--> QUESTIONS:
What kind of person you want to become?
What traits you want to adopt?
What skills you want to learn?
--> The longer you live outside the comfortzone the more comfortable you will feel
--> Don't let discomfort have a say in what you should do in life
Thankssss
So by your logic,and this video, it implies that having a comfort zone is a bad idea even though it prevents things such as stress?
@@Lucid5630 to much cz causes stress.
@@user-sh8cm2rw4q that logically makes no sense
@@user-sh8cm2rw4q it's like saying doing to much easy things makes you stress
4:19 - That's because of dopamine. If you do things that give a lot of dopamine, (instant gratification) your will to actually go do things that are more difficult or even similarly provide dopamine decrease exponentially. I forget what the book or video was called, but it gave the example of masturbation; if you're constantly masturbating for your own pleasure, your want or need to go talk to a girl or ask her out decreases, because you can get dopamine easier, when you want, by yourself. Same goes for Social Media, Video Games, Browsing Online, Eating, etc. But you can detox your dopamine levels and balance them back out by doing things that may not provide a lot or any dopamine, like Meditation, Reading, Exercise, studying or learning, doing a productive hobby, etc. Gradually they will provide more and more dopamine to the point where you can stop those self destructive dopamine highs (or at least be conscious that its not a good idea to game for 12 hours straight every day) Its literally a drug your brain makes, and instant gratification destroys our will to do anything productive.
Its why the entertainment industry makes so much money.
Good point mate, đ
I mean I get it, but if the motivation for not doing things that make me feel great, is that I owe it to some random chick out there to not "over-dopamine" myself into not wanting to talk to her, that's not very inspirational. I need a better reason than "oh this poor girl doesn't get guys talking to her cause they're all masturbating losers who think they don't have to talk to her" as if they owed her something from the start.
@@zzkradi8770 His point went right over your head
@@Sk-tp5xp I guess I did misread it the first time, going back again. Not sure what happened the first time around but I had gotten the vibe that the whole comment was more or less saying "you should stop jerking off cause it causes you to not go out and that makes girls have less options" as if the girls having less options part is why I should care so much, and not what it could do for me, which would have the actual possibility of making me reconsider.
Probably a rushed interpretation, pretty sure I made that comment like 10 minutes after waking up.
Thank you for sharing this. I feel more encouraged now.
such a way of explaining things, the metaphors, i love it!
âIf you always do what youâve always done,
youâll always get what youâve always gotâ!
Yes Theory's motto:
*_SEEK DISCOMFORT_*
Wow.
sneako!
YES
yeah!
Yes theory fam rise UUUP
I just want to thank you, the videos are so helpful, they really helped me
Oh God, I'm so lucky that I find this guy , I just don't know what to say except thank you for explaining the things we feel and don't know how to talk about it, or even pull our selfs out of it .thanks â„ïž
Itâs true that the comfort zone shrinks when you donât stretch it .
soo if i don't use it, i lose it.
Pain ironically, brings you more happiness.
Bob Smithy you end up feeling better and appreciating life more once youâre donât stabbing your self.
To all my sadistic homies:
Maybe not all pain
@@MasonOfLife yeah more like struggle and reward in some probably not constant golden ratio
Hit me Harder SENPAI !
Love this!! Thanks mate!
I like this, it's quite true! I remember joining a volunteering organisation, at first it was quite difficult to stick around. However, by the end I was able to speak publicly in front of 100+ people which previously was hard. Later, I learned that I am the one who defines who I want to really be, our potential is limitless, which is a good thing to know but also makes you feel more lost as to what you want to really do.
2 days ago I had my first date since my 7-year relationship ended. I basically called in sick to it because I was a nervous wreck. This video actually helped a lot. My date is rescheduled for 2 days from now! Wish me luck.
Good luck man! Im sure it will go well!
Be yourself
Jake Surname howâd it go
i too want to hear an update!!! i hope it went well
Letâs go bro
"We have to be honest about what we want and take risks rather than lie to ourselves and make excuses to stay in our comfort zone"
I needed this. Thank you.
I really needed this. Thank you.
Depression is next to Comfort zone
depression/anxiety is when your comfort zone is a point instead of a 2D zone
@@arsenalfanatic0971 It is a singularity, a black hole in the middle of the comfort zone. The longer you stay in the comfort zone and the smaller it gets, the more it pulls you in
@@24karatHAMSTER damn that's a good way of putting it
Damn this related
@@24karatHAMSTER Ignorant fool, for some people, with chronic depression like me, there is no comfort zone. No matter what I do I don't feel anything anymore, no emotion, just a void. Believe me when I say I've tried everything; I've travelled to many countries that I always wanted to see, I've taken up new sports, made new friends and relations , I changed my job, I've done various therapies and counciling, and antidepressants, which barely help. Yet I feel absolutely nothing. The only reason I'm still here is because of my family and friends. Real depression has nothing to do with venturing out your comfort zone, but with the chemistry of the brain.
I've always had this subtle discomfort with being comfortable, complacent in the comfort zone. As if I myself knew, deep down, that wasting away like a lethargic slug was completely destroying everything the fiber of my being wants to work for. "I understand there's a guy in me who wants to lay in bed, smoke weed all day, and watch [anime and play video games]. My whole life is a series of strategems to avoid and outwit that guy."
Anthony Bourdain?
Your name lmao
Really now?
No motivation to get any better is what it seems like for me. Like, no purpose or âwhats the point?â When you get so deep inside of your own head that if you even had an ounce of motivation, it all disappears in an instant.
sauce puppy Iâm struggling with this too ... throughout the day I will become conscious of the fact Iâm dying, everyone I love is dying, nothing really matters and I canât do anything about it. I think about it several times an hour and sometimes I forget âliving in the moment â but soon after my mind always goes to that train of thought . Itâs kinda depressing.... I just hope your ok bro and just try to distract yourself with âuncomfortable â things
Really great video! Thanks so much.
In addition, I think that one has to be careful not to step too far outside of the comfort zone either, especially with anxiety disorders. Then the experience can also be be traumatizing
Crisp to the point . Very nice and crispe explanation. Keep up the good work.
"Stress of doing something new - is fine and not a real obstacle, it's only in our head."
Spasiba
Ya toche ruskaya :)
This is why I took ballet classes as a freshman in college. It was the one thing I could find that was the farthest out of my comfort zone. I thought, if I can pass ballet class I can do anything. I got a B
Wow
Are you a man or a woman
@@eresoup7229 Not that it matters, but I'm a white boy lol. I had never taken dance before that and ballet is hard, man.
@@gronk4341 It matters a lot. That means so much more than if you were a woman. You broke society's gender norms, and I applaud you for doing it as I bet it was way way way out of your comfort zone. Would be so for me too. Too bad I don't have as much balls as you.
Ballet is in my comfort zone and still itâs tough. Well done!
So much of this was very similar to my experiences as well. When I was doing things that I usually wouldn't have done and I was pushing the boundaries of what I liked/tried, I look back on those times much more. The experiences of being outside of the comfort zone are what we remember primarily.
This is really good when you do things and make decisions not based on if you are comfortable or not but based on how you feel and if you are live the full potential.
honestly needed this just now as i was procrastinating on doing school work, which i consider outside the comfort zone. thanks!
Wow... This was needed â€ïžđ
Today on January 4th, after a solid week of dropping all my good habits, drinking, feasting, and actively avoiding anything mentally uncomfortable, I agree 100%
Let's live life!
By morons like you.
Let's be friends
You left your basement yet?
It's such an incredible video â€I used to be anxious when I am doing something out of my comfort zone but now it's easy to expand my comfort zone by adapt more activities and try new things â€
This is excellent, thanks!
In my experience as a social Psychologist doing research: people are less happy the more they try to cling to expectation which they've set up for themselves by themselves and the world around them. The people who are the happiest are the ones who embrace what ever comes next and have no expectations of anything in particular.
You can even apply this to the "dating game". If you have a person in mind which you'd like to date, you're never going to find them.
Exactly.
Very true
This!
eurosonly
So donât have any expectations on your life? Just go into things and see what happens?
so i should lower my standards then?
From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this message. The message was a realization I could not (or perhaps subconsciously didn't want to) reach for 3 years. I had a similar "renaissance period" where I moved to a different city, had to reinvent my character and personality, and in doing so, ignored my comfort zone altogether, developing more than I ever have before as a consequence; I was truly happy, but within a year I grew soft and complacent and could not ascertain why-- my life ever since has been full of inexplicable dead ends until this point because I simply could not summon the will power to do anything truly meaningful. This idea really gripped me like none have ever before and I had the first morning in years where I woke up excited to start my day to face the possibilities it held for me. Sincerely, thank you.
Just the video I needed đđ
Wow this was needed
But remember, kids: "Every frozen corpse on Mt. Everest was once a highly motivated person."
Edit: Some butthurt tryhards took it too personal. Oof.
Unholy shit thats dark. I like it.
With great reward comes great risk. Don't be the person that bottles their dreams because of the risk.
I dont know is it just me but this shit motivated me...
Better to die attempting a lifelong dream than to have never tried at all.
Wise
This is so true though and applies to everything, including mental health. When you start facing problems such as anxiety, the comfortable thing to do is to withdraw and fear. For me personally, I turned to drinking to numb it. However, the only way I was able to stop the panic attacks was to confront them head on and work proactively against them.
Thanks for sharing that Matt
How did you proactively work against them to over come your anxiety?
@@TheBigting Lots of things. Both meditating and running are the most effective for me. Also when it gets bad, such as having a panic attack or having a phobia of a certain thing, to just sit with it instead of fighting. For example, I always thought I couldn't breathe when I had panic attacks, but instead of acting on that and freaking out I would force myself to accept the feeling instead.
Although that coping style is effective for you it still relies on symptom relieve and is therefore not going to bring a solution to it's origin. If you keep on suffering from anxiety (or any mental health issue for that matter) you should see a psychologist and do accurate diagnostics to the factors that contribute towards your anxiety. E.g. for a lot of people childhood trauma is a contributing factor. Everytime you feel anxious you go running/meditating, but that does not relieve you from that trauma.
@@roycoin9219 That's not exactly what I'm saying. I don't go running everytime I feel anxious. I go running and, because of the positive mental benefits it has, my anxiety (the overall mental health disease, not a specific instance) and depression improve. However, you're totally right that things like running and meditation alone aren't enough for everything and that one should go to a psychiatrist, especially for deeper issues. Medicine may also be best for some.
This hits hard man. Thanks for making this video.
I am stuck in my comfort zone, because for me the outside world is dangerous. Often I also feel that people, and often family members, judge me, make me feel anxious and uncomfortable, I feel that they are out to get me. It is sometimes painful to think about that. Fortunately, I also take steps, so I often go to the gym and this helps my self-confidence