The Psychology of a Hater || Ryan David
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- čas přidán 13. 09. 2024
- Why do haters hate? The answer lies in human needs psychology.
When we understand why people do what they do, we are less likely to have overwhelming emotional reactions or have our emotions consumed by negative energy.
We all strive to be more, and we all strive to achieve significance. However, when some people don't feel significant enough on their own, they may look to tear you down if they perceive you to be more relevant or significant than them. This may result in you unconsciously avoiding success or limiting yourself just to avoid being a target! Don't let this happen to you.
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About Ryan David
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Ryan David is a Certified Life Coach and Speaker with a background in psychology, as well as 15 years of experience in education, with degrees in both fields. Ryan is also a professor of psychology and a former K-12 School Counselor for over a decade.
Ryan's videos are intended to offer guidance and direction and to inform others how to live with purpose, find their passion, and pursue their goals in life in an attempt to live a more fulfilling and satisfying life as a whole.
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The biggest problem with haters is that they tend to influence others against you.
People cant hate you if you never wronged them so its themselves they really hate
Wendy Mann Exactly
It's called mirroring
Real shit...
People can hate you , even if they see you , they think you as a threat 😢
@@sushmasinha7058 Yea they think that because u threaten their insecurities
They pull others down to make themselves feel greater. It's narcissistic behavior. I hate haters! I don't even talk shit about them, I just cut their asses out of my life.
You're right, they do try to pull others down to feel better about themselves aka feel more significant, but that's not narcissistic, that's insecurity and insignificance! Keep doing what you're doing ✊🏽 #StayFocused
Nosy one's are worst
Tru dis. . .anything tangible can be cut away in ten minutes. . . Never that deep
Same
It's no suprise that such a weak minded person such as a hater who has a looser mentality, and low self esteem, would choose to try and tear someone else down instead of building themselves up.
I ONLY Compete With The Woman I Was Yesterday and now you’re trying to tear down the hater hating so what does that make you
@@Mr.Voysey I Must've hit a raw nerve huh?
@@Mr.Voysey it makes them good at observations ?
@@Mr.Voysey so stupid
Yup that’s what it is
All my life I’ve had haters. They motivate me and allow me to know I’m doing something right.
*Oh, so if people are suffering because you’re experiencing a better life than they are, you’re motivated?*
This sounds like you're confusing suffering for hating. Based on your previous comments, it also sounds like your hating is coming from suffering. I hope you get some help with all that pain and suffering so that you have the chance to see how amazing and beautiful life is and can be even among all the pain and suffering. Sending love your way 🙏🏽
Ms Tee- I used to be that hater. In Japan, we are very jealous of one specific country in Asia. We always lie about them because we can't compete and they are so beautiful. We are jealous of White people and Hispanic women. My jealousy was raging towards other people who I saw as more attractive, more athletic, better culture, more popular and more advanced than me and my nationality. It was ruining my life. I was obsessed, consumed by bitterness, envy. I hit rock bottom when all I ever did was obsess over them. I would lie about other race groups on the internet and I felt good thinking I defamed a country, ruined someone else's life, but I hit rock bottom and got depressed when I saw that my words really did nothing in the larger scheme of things, because the very same people and country I was slandering, was ignoring me, not affected by me and they were still successful and those people still looked so beautiful no matter what I or other Japanese people did. I wanted to bring these people down to my level. It just made me more and more depressed that there were other people in this world with so many things better than me. I secretly wished to be reborn to look like the people I was envious of and be their ethnicity and be with their men. Most jealous people don't get help. The envy gets out if control and consume your thoughts but I finally got psychotherapy and I've been in therapy for 5 years. It's the only thing that has helped me.
@@yokosato6617 It’s very hurtful to be on the receiving end of that because they haven’t done anything to you personally. But it is admirable that you have come forward to admit it. That tells me that soon this hatred will no longer consume you and you will become a happier person. If I may ask out of curiosity which country is the one in Asia you were jealous of?
@@GOD.WINS.777 Hello. The country and people I was jealous of the most was Korea. I was extremely jealous of White and Hispanic women too, but especially Koreans the most. Japanese, are very jealous of Koreans and we hate their success in every category they've achieved. So much so, we always obsess and talk about Koreans especially whenever Koreans are successful, have their dominating technology, have great dramas, music, skincare products, their culture, if they win in sports, academy awards or are popular around the world. Instead of trying to be great ourselves, we try to pull Koreans down to our level. Other Asians like the Chinese and Southeast Asians are jealous and do the same as well, but Japanese do it the most constantly. We deflect ourselves and the problems we have in Japan onto Koreans by lying, slandering Koreans and lying about the way they look, how they are as a people, and downplay their achievements and culture. Japanese in Japan do this on social media and on the internet, even the Japanese Americans who live in America or in other White countries do this. I think we were born with behavioral issues. It's part of our genetic makeup. I feel ashamed at saying this but, nothing we do ever ruins Korea and Koreans. I hated that and it made me sick. Koreans, would ignore us or just say one thing and keep going to do great things and it drives us crazy. We took things from the Korean culture into our own and copy, emulate, them and still nothing. I'm ashamed that what we're known for the most in our culture, comes from the Korean culture. Yet, we still hate them and their success and popularity. We want to be like White people and worship and love the ground Whites walk on for their success and good looks, but envy Koreans for the same thing. I was jealous of Whites, Hispanics and Koreans, because I wanted to have what they had and to be like them. I'm in a better place now, but sometimes. I want to make it clear that I no longer hate anyone. I'm still in therapy and it's brought me peace. Thank you for your kind words. 🙏
Envy is dangerous and sometimes lethal
This is why the gangstalking program is in effect.
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I try my best to use envy in a good way
Jealousy is rooted by inner brokenness and low Self esteem. The things you’ve accomplished, these people feel Entitled to your success cause they don’t have it by their own ignorance and arrogance.
Jealousy is deadly
I have -100% respect for haters. There's nothing more pathetic than committing your life's purpose to being a hater. Definitely saving this to my best playlist, will probably have to share this with a lot of people throughout my life since it's a problem I've always had and it only seems to be getting worse and worse.
This brought me peace. Thank you
You're welcome! 🙏🏽
Explained a lot.
Thank you, Ryan.
My pleasure! Glad it helped 🙏🏽
Same
I have to agree with your analogy and psychology of hate Ryan. I have come to a conclusion some time ago as well that people (weak) are constantly fighting losing battles inside. So then this causes tremendous misery and pressure and an uncomfortable feeling to themselves. So they become unsettled and they want not to be the only ones feeling like that. So these people are at work and are employed by the misery office and they want to employ as many people to feel like them. So and anybody who is not falling for this trap and is not willing to sign their miserable contract gets endorsed with hatred and that is where most of the time the labelling and badmouthing comes from. I have learned that hate is never about you but about themselves.
I had to let this digest because I’m watching because I’m a hater. I don’t hate on people around me but def on the internet I just get annoyed by certain people and hate on them (usually just in my mind). When you said it’s because we perceive they have more significance at first I was like huh… but I see that I hate on people who either have shit I don’t or who do stuff I like to do and I feel like they’re taking away from my individuality and me being cool and standing out … big aha moment. Next time I find myself hating I’ll remind myself that I’m worthy just as I am no one can take away from me
i came from a family of people who were like this...
Sorry to hear my friend. At least you know how to recognize them.
I hope you have moved away from that and grown smarter
This is just what I needed. I really wish you all the CZcams success and blessings in the world because you're videos are super helpful.
Thank you so much for your feedback, I'm just getting started so please stay tuned and help me spread the word by sharing! 🙏
I had an older brother who had bought three different homes in his lifetime. I went to see his homes and bragged and was happy for him. Later in life I was able to purchase the home that I had always wanted he came over all he could say was I like your windows. But I can see what his problem was. And I felt sorry for him. I was told that I had diabetes number two and started losing weight because it scared me to death. I had seen the way other people had lost their feet their legs I knew I did not want to go that way. So I really cut out a lot of foods in my life and I lost about 60 lb within 6 months or so. One of my male coworker told me some of the ladies here are jealous of you. I ask why? He said all the weight you've lost. That's some really sad women. Thank you for this video I will be watching more of yours.
Congrats on being healthy and focusing on your priorities. Thanks for sharing, you live and learn, now you know what to keep an on. Take care
Haters are a bunch of losers in real life who don’t have the guts to say half the nasty stuff they spew online to anyone’s face because they know nobody will hold them accountable when they are an anonymous person hiding behind a phone or computer screen. They can’t stand to see someone being successful, it drives them crazy.
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I am much like you. I do not hate on people. I have inner strength like you to, that is actually attached to my soul. I had a hater today in kickboxing class. The girl only butted in conversation to try to one up, and pull the attention on her, when ever the coach I was with complimented me when it was my time to practice. The girl barely put in any effort in her kicks or punches, but yet go mad when I got compliments on my kicks today. People need to stop seeking significance from people who is not your family, but instead reach for mastery in activity in other areas of life and that's all.
The balance of significance among people is the key!!! wise man!
This video made me feel better. I knew haters usually feel less than the target but I didn't knew how to feel comfortable with this side of life and started to feel bad for my own success. I unfortunately can easily feel whenever someone is jealous about me. But you have a way to expose this, like it is something normal (which is) and that all people have needs. Now I can't feel like upset whenever i get those energies from people, but only feel kinda sorry because they have the posibility for stand up for themselves and do better instead of hating. Thank you for exposing that this way!
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We have all encountered haters and hate behaviour which has manifested as pure hate and mick take however those people tell us an important message that we are indeed significant to them. Because we don't go round hating on others for no apparent reason. We don't need to tear others down or put them down on pick on them to make us feel significant. they fail to realise we work better as one than apart. So let the haters hate.
So, basically in short you understand the content...cool 👍🏼
You're very intelligent and went in-depth. Good job bro. You earned a sub.
Thank you my brother I appreciate the love, welcome to the team 🙏🏽
Allahuma barik
May god protect all his believing servants from haters and increase all the things that they are hating on
The psychology is deep man. I’d like to see a video on how you deal with these people.
Thanks, and yeah that's an interesting idea, and every situation is a little different, but basically I apply the info in this video and try to respond or react with something positive, if I respond at all. Killem with kindness is a good rule to live by
DONT
May god protect everyone who gs haters and may he tremendously increase all the things they are hating about or envy
That's just how some people are. You just got to deal with it. Ain't no changing them.
Haters SHOULD MAKE U "GREATER"
Audi on the way
Don’t worry about the haters
Worry about the hater inside you 😂
Great video !!!!! Folks will hate you off of the first time they see you. You only have to appear iñ their presence....keep striving to achieve.never bost,bragg or belittle any person. And The Universe will take care of the haters with her brother Karma
What’s not fair is how the haters do the character assassinations/ smear campaigns…. and telling vile blatent untruths.
Fair is not part of the hand we are dealt in life...focus on reality, not equity and you will be much happier! 🙏🏽
As I grow wiser I get it. You don’t even have to have more it could be whatever they hate you for.
Thank you for this. I realized I've been subtly sabotaging myself because of comments from an unsupportive ex. Your encouragement made me realize I don't have to apologize for getting my life together.
You remind me of a young Jordan Peterson. I hope you keep making content; I can see you have a lot to offer. 🙏
I'm glad you've been able to make some positive changes. Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate the feedback. 🙏🏽❤️
Ryan David Incidentally, the train of thought that started with that video led to a breakthrough just yesterday. 😊 Hope you're doing well in these times. 🙏
Ur right. My haters want to do what I do lol
Attention and jealousy wow but how do you spot them cause usually they do things behind your back and they smile in your face always trying to take your place those backstabbers that's how the song goes!!!! To me it seems like they always try to sabotage you all your accomplishments.....the goals u want to achieve or go into the career u are in and try to compete with you to try to outdo" you" that's why I'm so glad I have personal coach and u tube videos I'm grateful of close family and friends..That I trust .
Yes yes! And when they smile there's an awkwardness you don't understand about it that makes you go hmmmmmm and eventually you understand why. Ugh!
Bravo! Well said! I especially enjoyed your conclusions. Conscious or unconscious, Sometimes self sabotage is less about self discipline and more about not triggering the haters. One can have compassion and self discipline for haters and choose self sacrifice over self gratification. That said, one also knows that self sacrifice is a choice that can change at any moment. Young Superman could have kicked the entire highschool football team's ass in seconds. He made a conscious choice to play nice and self sacrifice for the haters benefit. Regardless, that choice cannot let one stop one's own progression. Feeling guilty about one's own abilities doesn't benefit anyone including the haters.
Hate is pure jealousy.
Thank you so much man for the help, haters look at winners but winners look at the winning :)
My pleasure 🙏🏼
Wow this video popped out of nowhere. I believe I needed to hear this today, thank you 🙏
My pleasure 🙏🏽
Great video! Very educational and absolutely true! Especially in regard to the motivation of a Hater. 0:42 They feel less significant because of you or something you may possess. I want to know more about those 6 needs: Certainty, Uncertainty, Significance, Love & Connection, Growth, Contribution. Very interesting!
Yes I need to get on those other videos. Thanks for the feedback Brad!
Stay tuned 🙏🏽
I used to think i was a hater but after some introspection i realise i don't really hate anyone and often appreciate good qualities in others and everyone's well being , but i have lots of haters trying to emphasize flaws when my focus and attention is usually elsewhere.
Awesome explanation, probably the best I've heard. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful! 🙏🏼
accurate . worth going viral .
+Blazineyesasian ❤️🙏🏼😊
The mob mentality always envi and hate the independent thinker the human being who is trying to improve and upgrade himself rather then putting himself in self pity because there is no point in being sad and angry at something when time is ticking.
It is a lot easier to begin with to go the hater's route; but in the long run it isn't much fun. It is why this route is the more appealing. For some.
Thank you brother, I needed to hear this. I believe all that you said is true especially the self sabotage part.
My pleasure, thanks for the feedback my brother 🙏🏽
I used to believe that insecurity is the core of jealousy, and i still can't think of other reasons. The way i used to deal with these people is to work harder and harder to always push myself forward. And it worked perfectly, when they see me rising, they became silenced. But then a weird thought came to my mind, what if there are people who believe that they can achieve everything and still hate on me? What if they can only see success happening to them but not to me and they can still be successful and laugh at me from a higher position?
I can't find out reasons for that and it has never happened. But i started to worry about that! The reason that they got jealous should be that they don't believe in themselves so they don't believe you can achieve something. But when i picture these people who bring me down one day becoming super successful makes me so unhappy! How should i deal with it? Should I firmly believe that these people have no chance to be successful or what?? What if when i achieve something, these people achieve much more and still attack me?? Can it really happen??
Thanks, Ryan. You just helped me with the theme of my novel.
This is the most clearly explain video on the subject that I have seen! Thanks you so much for the knowledge really appreciate
Thank you for the feedback Yann! 🙏🏽
So if almost everyone in your life or environment hates you and you yourself feel worthless because of that, why should they be hating on you? Truly I need the answer.
its the devil to put it mildly
@@mmommo-hx4dx definitely demonic energy
Learning to use others success as a motivation all 2021
thus explains 2steps forward and 1step back progress! good post!
Thank you! 🙏🏼
What kills me is I get this from a parent. Im at a place in my life where my goal is to buy a house in less than a year. All they can do is say how I'll be "really pulling my hair out" and other negative digs. Im getting all the resentment they feel when Im trying to excel in life and do better. Im trying not to let it get to me but sometimes It does. 😞
You never fail to help! Thank you and keep at it, mate! 👍
My pleasure, thank you!
Hate never comes from above
On point...aticulation flawless.
+reg munch 🙏🏽 thank you.
Very insightful information! I loved the part about self sabotaging for the sake of fitting in. Thank you.
Thanks for the feedback 💪🏽
Thanks for really breaking it down, makes perfect sense!
People can't hate on you if you are not in their presence.
There is something called the internet. It can and does make hating from a distance a thing that happens regularly.
I really love the way you unboxed this! Thank you so much bro!
My pleasure, thank you for the feedback 🙏🏽
jeal·ous
ˈjeləs/
adjective
feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages.
"he grew jealous of her success"
synonyms: envious, covetous, desirous; resentful, grudging, begrudging, green (with envy)
"he was jealous of his sister's popularity"
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this explains why i feel a certain way about certain people.
Most likely!
I seen a guy at work buy his dream car the day he drove it to work so much comments of i wouldnt buy that car oh the cost. But he shut them up with there stupid looks when he turned on his favourite tunes and reved that powerful track halk engine. A big two fingers to them when he was driving away. Oh and the fact he just got a permanent work position from home job. The biggest F.U to the lot of them. I felt good for him he looked very happy driving away.
Good Video, definitely agree with this info.
Thanks for the feedback my friend 🙏🏽
I think people need to teach their kids the bible and let them know not to be jealous and envious .
it comes the word playa hater...haters took that word playa off
I instantly subscribed just what I needed thank you 🙏
Welcome! 🙏🏽
if they hate me..i will love them and thanks to them.☺
Great video! Very well explained👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you so much Michelle 🙏🏼
Yes thankyou that is a sin and very evil, does not give them the right to tare another person down what comes around goes around
Thank you Ryan very well articulated, definitely agree.
Thank you may you get bless sevenfold!
Great video really open and insight in this subject
Being a Hater really sucks sometimes, well, yes, anyway!!
I ride my own wave.. never a hater
Thank you.
Your video was expressed to me as: focused-passion on a bold topic.
Brilliantly done; You gave the comfort of logic with a coating of soft-nudge, and you were present in conveying such.
I feel more hope, curiosity, joy, love, and happiness due to your efforts.
Thank-You, again, for this moment in my life; Well-done.
+Syniros Diamphi My pleasure. I am grateful and humbled by your words and I am glad you found the content useful! 🙏🏼
THANK YOU MR. RYAN FOR PRESENTING ANOTHER GREAT INSIGHTFUL AND PRICELESS EDUCATIONAL VIDEO. IT'S EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED TO SEE AND LISTEN TO AT THIS TIME IN MY LIFE. I LOOK FORWARD TO BEING EDUCATED MORE VIA YOUR CZcams CHANNEL. AGAIN PRICELESS AND EDUCATIONAL INFORMATION. Lol/PLUR :)
I am fully content with my life and will continue with my self-realization until the day I die. I wonder if there is a similar "path" that people endure through while transitioning from a "hater" to a "congratulator". Maybe even a path for self-realization. Something like Kuble-Ross' DABDA. 🤔
Interesting...I'll think about that.
But I would imagine it involves more of the process or transition of becoming more mature and wise than it is some sort of progressive process with stages. Good luck on your journey, thanks for watching.
I was never a hater and still aint
This was a great video I like to come back to it and rewatch it!
Glad you enjoyed it! 🙏🏼
Envy is the deadliest of the 7 sins
Very informative and educational! This video just earned you a subscriber.
Awesome! Welcome to the team 🙏🏽
i am thinking bro that the main problem is not on us , because when we raise our vibration they become intimated because they feel that our energy is clean and all of a suden everyone is looking or paying attention to us , thats the main ...!
Thank you for the break down bro !!
that is the right answer..thank you....for saving mi life , bro.
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I don't beleive that someone is more significant than the other . We all significant in a way or another . We all have something unique within us . What matters is how we connect with others and join our skills to achieve something big together . Something We celebrate and share together . (Collaberate )
What annoys me most is that those haters are so old aaah but they act like kids ( sorry for being too open )
I have some broke ass haters on my case....how can I grt rid of them?
Makes sense . Thanks
If they hate let them hate if people hate just no your doing something write
Great video!! Being humble is key!👌
Thanks man really helped me 🙏🏼
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What if you have a hater or haters who are intentionally sabotaging your progress? 🤔
Awesome video Mr AB, I have an idea that could be interesting. You could make videos like this explaining the root of the problem, and then maybe make another video going more in depth about how to fix the problem". I am saying this because as I'm watching the video I am thinking it would nice to have more of an expert opinion like yours in how to go about not only understanding but also dealing with this issues with more of a psychological approach.
Thanks Marc! Absolutely, I'm actually currently coming up with different topics to speak on and post informative videos about. I also want to do Q&A videos where I answer or respond to some of the great questions I get asked as a coach and an instructor. If you have any specific topics or or content you would like to know more about, post them here or email me and let me know, I'd be glad to look into it!
I don’t think a hater feels like the person it’s directed to is better it’s just they have a pain-point or grudge that won’t remedy in a civil way so resorting to extremes seems like a good choice
Possible as well
This was a great video Ryan! Gave a wider perspective on how to view those situations when they come up💪🏽 Also you talk very well in front of the camera and and are very easy to listen to👊🏽
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This is why I'm glad I have my girl in GA cause she is my bestie we encourage each other play laugh and its no hate true friends and u may have others as friends but at lease u know one is in your Corner not secretly hating on you or vice versa ......😥
Earned a new sub bro. Great videos
Thank you my brother, I appreciate the feedback, welcome to the team! ✊🏽🙏🏽
Best video out there on this topic 🎉 thankyou
📣 Excellent info, ❤ this. Brought about an awakening. THANKS, be blessed
Glad it was helpful!🙏🏽
Please do a video on why most of haters ( at least in my experience ) are always behind fake profiles it might someone I know ? Why do they hide like that ?
Thank you !
Great advice....
well said 👍 I love it.
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Excellent Video
Thank you 🙏🏽