I put up a Christmas tree every year from age 23 to age 74, after my partner died, I boxed up everything and donated it. I had enough decorations to do two nine-foot trees, and I have to say it's a relief not to own all that stuff. When and if I decide to put up a tree again, I will find a nice four-foot tabletop tree and be happy I don't have to go up and down a ladder to decorate it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. 😞 I completely understand though, I haven't loved holidays or decorating as much since my dad passed. Keeping it small and enjoyable has made a huge difference. I plan on getting a small tree this year. ♥️
Stuff pulls you down. It adds layers to your depression and make thinking of a way out of it too coma d confusing. I am going through the clean it, throw it, donate it or organize it😂. As it goes, I feel lighter and the layers in my mind feel lighter. No one can force you to do it. It has to be your decision. I have found people making remarks sets me back so far, sometimes to the very beginning. I have never known a nagger to make a difference in anything 🤗
LIBBY... As someone who grew up without remembering my biological father (he left when I was 6 months old), my advice would be to keep the pictures and tell Kelly stories about his father, but donate all the clothing. The clothes take up a ton of room and will not really hold any memories for your son. If there is a specific special item, keep it, but you don't need EVERYTHING. HOPE THIS HELPS.
Over 30 years ago I was in that predicament. A wise lady told me to buy $50 worth of groceries and write the check for $75. Start saving cash. I did not heed that information but was able to get out after a severe beating. The Lord took care of us. I was working but made very little. I know people don’t write checks anymore, but try to think of ways to set aside a little here and there. Hide it.
My stuff is going on 4years now… I just can’t let go.. I know I can’t throw any pictures away. I moved in my condo almost 4 years now. Not even have my condo is unpacked. Only few things hang on wall thanks to my daughter…mental illness isn’t helping either. I say I am not ponder woman well I use to stay that..people say we m a procrastinator and maybe I am.. I have lots of health things that keep me from doing lots of things.
The tires were like the last straw, weren't they? Murphy's law, I guess. You could almost build a hut out of all the times you thought it was the last straw. Hopefully, it really is the last one, maybe 2. And you'll be done. You deserve a rest. And not to have any more deadlines for a while. You've done really good, Libby. Glad you had the support and help from your fine young son, your mom, and your sister. You're almost there. The finish line is just ahead.
Hang in there Libby...you are doing great. Very sad to hear when someone has to move and give up their cats. After my first husband died I had 6 cats and one dog. I had to move in with a friend so the dog came to live with us along with one cat. The other cats went to stay at a friend's barn on a farm. Gradually over several years we lost the dog to heart failure, one cat had kidney failure, others from old age. Now I have married again and we only have a long haired Teddy Bear Hamster named Teddy Boy who is easier to take care. We still love our dog and cats and miss them everyday. ❤
I will be separating from my husband soon. Toxic relationship and it's time for me to move on. So I have been donating alot of my belongings, shredding my papers and packing up the belongings that I'm keeping. While I'm doing all this, I'm also working. Simply Libby, I'm like you, no family and no friends to help me. I'm on my own to do everything. It's exhausting but I have no choice.
My kids' dad & I moved 64 times in 16 years. His idea every time. When I rebelled after my 3rd child was born, he left. He emotionally left then, & before she was 3, he physically abandoned us. Then I met the real abuser. Take all the time you need to heal. It is only after you are on your own that you come to grips with how you were gaslighted. That's what narcs do: make it all about them, & everything is always your fault. God, it feels good to be on my own. At 72 I am finally ready to move on.😂 But my "dating pool" is now the "dead pool"🤣🤣🤣 so I am happily "dying alone" in peace and serenity.
I always understood that you weren’t keeping Kelly’s father’s things for yourself but for future Kelly. However,for the items that he had no connection or memory to,the hats for example,you could take a photo of the group,and then just keep the one that you think was his favorite or represented him. (Because many times,the others were just freebies and didn’t mean anything to him.)I didn’t lose my own father when I was young like you were or your son was,but after he passed,I kept his old camera,because he was always taking photos,something awesome that he made in wood shop,and some of his tools because he built the house that I grew up in. In total,it wouldn’t fill a tote,but it is enough,because it all holds memories for ME.(I have even less of my mom’s stuff because she was a minimalist,thank goodness,but it is also enough for the same reason.) I once watched a CZcams video (Erica Lucas) where she was trying to decide what sentimental items from her own grandmother that she should save for her daughter. Her AHA moment was that grandma’s set of China was special to her because she remembered it being used at family gatherings,but wouldn’t be to her daughter because she had never even laid eyes on it. She decided to keep it on the condition that her family would use the dishes regularly (they had been stored in boxes and moved and stored for YEARS AND YEARS) so that her own children could make memories of their own and then decide to keep it or not in the future. I have heard of MANY accounts over the years that the ONLY item of clothing that a widow kept of her husband’s was his bathrobe or flannel shirt because she could wrap herself up in it and a child keeping one similar item of their parent’s clothing for the same reason. Of course everyone is different but someone else once said that if you keep a TON of stuff for memory’s sake, then NONE of it is special.🫤
Guys do like hats and wear a lot of them. If they aren't stinky and are in decent shape, I would keep them because they also don't take up much space. He exes other son is Kelly's half brother. Does he realize he has a brother?
I’m so glad you got the tires. Your outlook was spot on-no one got hurt, the car didn’t flip, you didn’t have an accident…. having it shred safely was the best possible outcome. Glass half full, I always say. I’m looking forward to that day where you never have to go back to the apartment or see your ex again. I think your future is amazingly bright! 🎉❤
Libby been watching your videos for a few months. I wish I could be there and help you through this! Hoping you’re doing better, don’t ever forget how strong you are!!!
Libby, I hope that when you are in your new place you and your son take a moment and just breath ❤ no matter how much chaos is still around you, you have done a milestone! Just breath and sit in your feelings for a bit
I don't think I've ever commented on any of your videos. I have been in a similar situation as you and I just want to tell you how much I admire you. I'm so proud of you for talking about difficult things that most people actually (and thankfully) know nothing about, but not only that - even at times when you don't feel the slightest bit strong, you are. You are so much stronger than you think. Life doesn't give us much choice but to keep moving forward and you do it so damn well. I am so immensely proud of you Libby. Greetings from Hellyh, on the other side of the world - in little little Sweden. 🫶🫂🌼♥️😘
You've gotten a lot off your shoulders - I think you're doing beautifully. Cleaning a place you're moving out of is just brutal work I've always found.
I'm going to be moving. Had to put 6 cats in foster care. One was mine.😢 Couldn't leave them behind. Don't trust the ex. My daughter actually went in to check out the cats with a friend awhile ago. Supposed to be a humane society. But their a kill shelter. They had this elderly cat on death row. So the girls ended up giving them money to house her longer. Plus they ended up paying her adoption fee. For someone else to adopt. She was meant for a one animal home. Love cats.❤
Thank goodness you're all safe. For my bad things come in a 7. No joke. Washing machine, fridge, cooker, kettle, and toaster got broke then my mum got cancer (was terminal). Then I was running over to my mum to help her and stood on a rock couldnt walk for 2 weeks due to the pain. Now if 1 thing happens I wait for the other 6 to know OK thats this hurdle done with 😂😂 we got to keep looking for the end of the bad runs. I'm just now getting back on my feet 6yrs later. 😢😢I vernear lived in my bed unless my kids needed anything for 2yrs after she was laid to rest. Your not alone. I've cried I've been frustrated hurt felt so disassociate from everything 🙃 😪 💔 at points that I'm now realising a lit about myself. I go for my first therapy on Tuesday for CPTSD. I'm terrified 😨 😭 Only way forward is THROUGH. 1 snail 🐌 ♥️ move at a time ❤❤❤. If I can get their anyone can You got this Girl xx🎉🎉🎉
I’d just load up the car take it to storage and just be done. After everything is settled, I’d go to storage grab a couple boxes to go through at a time.
If you can afford a storage unit for a few months then you could just do a few boxes at a time. ❤ you are doing fine. Don't look back. Moving forward to a brighter future. Love and prayers ❤
You have done so much work. I think the smaller apartment will be good for you. You won’t be able to accumulate so many things, and tons easier to keep clean. You can make it a cozy space. I hope after you get your new apartment organized, you declutter some more, and also I hope you go through the things in your moms storage, and that you don’t leave it there for years. This way future Libby will have it so much easier. I hope you are enjoying the new apartment. I really enjoy your videos. They are so real.
I love how you found a simple favorite part of the house, to look out the window & look at the Pine trees/& what it reminds you of, those simple moments are crucial, I wish you & your children the best in life!
You are doing a super job, you are stronger then you think and doing better then a lot of people. You are super woman when you need to be. I have a condo and I lived here going on 4 years and I still have not unpacked most of my house. My health has gotten worse and that’s main think. I am a procrastinator to I guess I don’t want to deal with it. My depression keeps me stuck in bed most days. My full time job now is going to doctor and test..your videos are helping me to see I’m not alone.❤🙏🏻☮️
Congratulations on 10k libby libz 🎉 so happy to see you grow stronger every day. Way to go on continuing to donate so much stuff. You have got rid of SO MUCH this year! Onwards my noble stead 💪
Oh honey, I feel your pain. Moving is the worst and it just...never...ends, no matter how exhausted you get. *sigh*. I'm sorry about the tires. Yes, it will be o.k. This too shall pass. Things will get better. 💐
Did you do a follow up on the 2 cats that you put in the shelter are they alive and enjoying their new family? About being stressed we bring this upon our selves I too before moving procrastinated but I did learn to clean more in my new place if I ever leave it. Why does your mom have the storage place it must be expensive?
You crying at the end, I felt that. The tires were just the last straw, one more thing to pile on. I'm sorry. You are so brave and handle the unexpected so well. Much respect and hoping things get better soon, and the worst is left behind you and your son.
Libby, I stumbled upon your channel by chance, watching declutterring videos. I am a married mom of 2 and I can’t believe how strong and real you are. I could only hope for some of your strength and courage to do what you continue to do. I constantly look for new videos because I am a big supporter of how well you are doing and the love you have for your son. God has a special place for you in the world. Keep your chin up and bless you. Love from Ontario.
@@SimplyLibbyt would love to see a video on how you set everything up, and how you stored stuff in the apartment. I’m in a townhouse and space is very limited. I’m an organized hoarder of everything from my children, including rocks and homemade gifts, lol, I have trouble letting those precious items go….
Hey hon, if it helps at all, I’m going through a lot of the same things. Not moving out of a house, but every bit of my appliances broke down over the last year or two and now I have to replace three of my tires ! Just remember, you’ve got an amazing husband beautiful children and you’re moving into a great house. It will get done one way or the other. You can do this! The last couple days getting out of a house is always the worst. Hang in there.❤
@@kathywalker997 She only has one child and I’m pretty sure she separated from her boyfriend. Also,she moved into a tiny,one bedroom apartment with a cat pee problem.Have you been watching her videos or are you thinking of someone else?
I hope you were able to get your full security deposit back. Do they do the walk thru with you when you move out ? Sorry about those tires!! Always seems like it’s something. As soon as we think we are getting ahead. Bam! Glad nobody was hurt though! Keep watching for that 10k!! ❤🎉
@@SimplyLibbyt🌝I'm very interested to know how the walk-through went, after all the diligent cleaning you did!!🪣🧽👍Please DO make a video about the walk-through; Looking forward to it!
I have developed a few lenses through which I filter or prioritise items to keep or not. For example, does it give me joy? Nope, out it goes. Was it a gift, does it give me joy? Nope, out it goes. Gifts have always served their purpose in the giving and receiving process. There is no obligation to keep gifts. I always consider things i am keeping as costing me rent for the space they take. So if keeping costing me more money their purchase value and they dont give me joy...out they go. Haven't used the item in the last aporopriate season, out it goes. Haven't used an item in 18 months out it goes. Also consider the cost of purchasing items, the amount of time you've the item and divide the purchase cost by number of weeks owed. Most things considered in this manner have already paid their way and no longer have $ value...consequently are easy to get rid of. You can replace with updated new items if for example if bed or other items of furniture. Also consider an items shelf life. Things like fast fashion clothing, wrapping paper, shoes etc sort of need replacing seasonally.
Hi Libby, I believe it's best for you to speak to a child psychologist about those items you have kept of his biological father. Sometimes it's best not to know and if he is ever curious it's best to tell him rather than to give him personal items. You have no idea the effect it can create. I know from experience, no matter how mature children may be, it could be a front since he may feel the man of the house. Children are unpredictable sometimes. If you put him in charge of something like younger siblings or anything at all, they tend to resent whoever gave him or her that task. I know it's not your situation, yet some things we do as parents that seem to be ok with us, is not necessarily ok with them. Get a professional opinion because you don't want him to hold that against you or resent you for it.
You are doing it momma! It may have been the hardest few weeks of your life, but you are here and you are doing it! Be so proud of what you have overcome and achieved throughout this process. You are going to be ok girl! We love you 🥰
I just want to let you know you do not need to work out for the next few months your journey is inspiring and you are doing much better I am proud of you😊
I'm so sorry. All I can say is that I've had these moments many times in my life when I thought it couldn't possibly get worse. Similar story to yours. This too shall pass lovely lady. Your son is a honey and that's the most important thing. Stay strong. ❤
When my sister passed I helped her kids clean her apartment. We cleaned over each other many times. But when the owner came threw they literally took the stove apart. I mean they took the sides off to look between the walls and the oven walls.
Cheer up gorgeous their are days when we can hardly imagine that what more can be worse. BUT, we forget the learnings that makes us to come out a winner... YOU ARE WINNER DONT EVER FORGET IT❤❤❤❤ ...
Sorry about you having to get two new tires. I know that’s not an expense you planned on having. Everything will be alright. I know you are looking forward to being done with the house, then you can concentrate on setting up your new apartment 😊
The reason you have to pay $25 for $5 blinds is because the property management company has to pay someone to purchase the blinds and pay someone to hang the blinds. Definitely cheaper for you to replace them yourself. Think about how much you would charge someone if they asked you to purchase blinds for them and hang them. Probably at least $25 per blind. I know I would not do it for less than that.
Sorry I missed where you said why you were getting rid of your cats? Why are they going to a shelter? Can you not have them at new place? Hope they find loving forever homes.
I think she said they were meant to go to a new home, then that fell through so she had to take them to a (no kill unless they're super old and unwell) shelter. She is handling everything else like a superhero, and something had to give. These are the kinda situations that shelters and fosters exist for. Don't be hard on her being forced into this situation ☮💗
You’re doing amazing!! I started vlogging my move although don’t have enough room in my phone to get actual footage, or more than 2 min sped up 😭😭😢😢I was talking on the Vlog and mentioned you @simplylibby for giving me motivation and inspiration to Vlog despite some harsh comments sometimes when you decide to put your stuff out there to the world. And to show that it’s okay to not have the perfect life shown on social media. Nobody truly lives perfectly. It’s shown in that light. You are so real and raw, I love it. I’ve no idea how to DM you so wanted to ask- is it okay to mention you??? Once I figure out how to upload a video. I did video my feelings going through and updates…I plan on combine it w my experience in psychiatry as a doctor and tech, w my medical knowledge as a doctor, with infertility journey. Bc I want people to know they’re not alone. Thank you for this!!❤❤ Also I just wanted to caution you FFR- I volunteered w a shelter “that only put down aggressive animals.” They put down another perfectly fine animal or more every day just bc it’s been so long since they don’t have the room. But the animals who are shy or cry in the corner like your kitties sound- it seems like people choose those bc they feel bad for them, If that gives you any comfort. Apparently if you pay adoption fee for new owner, it is much easier and more likely for them to be recommended. But I know money is tight. Believe me, $44k in IVF fees nothing covered, and $600k in school loans. You did the best you could. That’s so sweet for you to leave his stuff jsit for Kelly. He seems like a sweet, helpful boy. He is always helping. Just shows what a good job you are doing with him, even alone. Bc of my eggs being destroyed by cancer tx despite being promised otherwise- w menopause predicted at 38/39. I am 37. It would be a miracle baby and I’d be a single mom by choice. I had miscarriages w prior partners which led (w other stuff) to 3 SAs. I left letters and all. Despite 15 years of therapy and 5 years of infertility therapy despite being mandatory with IVF for a therapist to attest to my stability, insight, reasoning, ability to accept outcomes…I believe I will be a mom and hope for that strength. I think when you need to do something, you just do it. Bc raising my third dog alone…I had COVID, I could barely get up after surgery, I’ve had major episodes of panic and depression- but when you have another life to care for, you find a way. If you don’t want me to mention you in my vlogs, no worries at all! You’re younger than me (I think), but I look up to you and you’ve saved me with declittering and motivation w this move. Less decluttering than I would’ve liked happen here…you’ll know as a PTA- I have a herniated disc in my back- and so it’s been really really hard to do anything. And it goes slowly. 13:59 I absolutely hear you at this!!! Omggggg 😭😭😭😣😣😣inspection Wed and I am scared. Thanks to your advice I gave myself 2 days after having movers take things to new place. I’ve been cleaning as I go but I left time for that. Going to have to kennel my baby pup for 1 night and it’s breaking my heart. Your hair is gorgeous here 11:18 !!!! What did you do??!!!
I agree with some of the others. Keep may one or two items that you think might be special to Kelly, take pics of the rest and get rid of it. I think subconsciously you have an emotional attachment to his dad's stuff. Keep pictures but there was no relationship between his dad and Kelly so there is a possibility that when Kelly finds out the full story, it may do more harm than good having all that sruff. Keep a few of Kelly's baby outfits, take photos of the rest and get rid of it. I have a box for each of my children with a few special items and lots of pictures that I will give to them at some point. Believe me, I am like you in that I have the tendency to form an emotional attachment to things, especially those that involve my kids. One day I realized that it is not so much the thing but the memory attached to the things. Even pictures can be scanned onto a computer hard dirve or flash drive. Digital picture frames are amaxing. You can have one pictureframe and a slide show of pictures. That's why I cleaned out and norrowed everything down to one tub each. Just praying God brings some strong, male father figure into Kelly's life that will love him and teach him what being a dad is all about.
Now for your son sake pack up the bad in a suitcase you get from goodwill and take it too a transfer station and pay too dump it. Leave it there and don't look back . Come home take a shower fix yourself up and take your son too a movie . No looking back make plans for tomorrow and do them. Make long term plans and set them inmotion. You can do it !
Ex-boyfriend. She wanted to end the relationship. He was helping pack up the house, but now that is over. Most of the household stuff is hers. He took his stuff and left. It's best to keep interactions with exes to a bare minimum.
I put up a Christmas tree every year from age 23 to age 74, after my partner died, I boxed up everything and donated it. I had enough decorations to do two nine-foot trees, and I have to say it's a relief not to own all that stuff. When and if I decide to put up a tree again, I will find a nice four-foot tabletop tree and be happy I don't have to go up and down a ladder to decorate it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. 😞 I completely understand though, I haven't loved holidays or decorating as much since my dad passed. Keeping it small and enjoyable has made a huge difference. I plan on getting a small tree this year. ♥️
I totally agree with your outlook. Gave most Christmas stuff to grandkids.
Stuff pulls you down. It adds layers to your depression and make thinking of a way out of it too coma d confusing.
I am going through the clean it, throw it, donate it or organize it😂. As it goes, I feel lighter and the layers in my mind feel lighter.
No one can force you to do it. It has to be your decision. I have found people making remarks sets me back so far, sometimes to the very beginning. I have never known a nagger to make a difference in anything 🤗
Amen 🙏
LIBBY... As someone who grew up without remembering my biological father (he left when I was 6 months old), my advice would be to keep the pictures and tell Kelly stories about his father, but donate all the clothing. The clothes take up a ton of room and will not really hold any memories for your son. If there is a specific special item, keep it, but you don't need EVERYTHING. HOPE THIS HELPS.
If stuff has been stored for 2 years and no touch. Dont go througg. Dont pay for storage
Over 30 years ago I was in that predicament. A wise lady told me to buy $50 worth of groceries and write the check for $75. Start saving cash. I did not heed that information but was able to get out after a severe beating. The Lord took care of us. I was working but made very little. I know people don’t write checks anymore, but try to think of ways to set aside a little here and there. Hide it.
My stuff is going on 4years now… I just can’t let go.. I know I can’t throw any pictures away. I moved in my condo almost 4 years now. Not even have my condo is unpacked. Only few things hang on wall thanks to my daughter…mental illness isn’t helping either. I say I am not ponder woman well I use to stay that..people say we m a procrastinator and maybe I am.. I have lots of health things that keep me from doing lots of things.
The tires were like the last straw, weren't they?
Murphy's law, I guess.
You could almost build a hut out of all the times you thought it was the last straw.
Hopefully, it really is the last one, maybe 2.
And you'll be done.
You deserve a rest.
And not to have any more deadlines for a while.
You've done really good, Libby.
Glad you had the support and help from your fine young son, your mom, and your sister.
You're almost there.
The finish line is just ahead.
Hang in there Libby...you are doing great. Very sad to hear when someone has to move and give up their cats. After my first husband died I had 6 cats and one dog. I had to move in with a friend so the dog came to live with us along with one cat. The other cats went to stay at a friend's barn on a farm. Gradually over several years we lost the dog to heart failure, one cat had kidney failure, others from old age. Now I have married again and we only have a long haired Teddy Bear Hamster named Teddy Boy who is easier to take care. We still love our dog and cats and miss them everyday. ❤
I will be separating from my husband soon. Toxic relationship and it's time for me to move on. So I have been donating alot of my belongings, shredding my papers and packing up the belongings that I'm keeping. While I'm doing all this, I'm also working.
Simply Libby, I'm like you, no family and no friends to help me. I'm on my own to do everything. It's exhausting but I have no choice.
Best of luck in this new chapter
My kids' dad & I moved 64 times in 16 years. His idea every time. When I rebelled after my 3rd child was born, he left. He emotionally left then, & before she was 3, he physically abandoned us. Then I met the real abuser. Take all the time you need to heal. It is only after you are on your own that you come to grips with how you were gaslighted. That's what narcs do: make it all about them, & everything is always your fault. God, it feels good to be on my own. At 72 I am finally ready to move on.😂 But my "dating pool" is now the "dead pool"🤣🤣🤣 so I am happily "dying alone" in peace and serenity.
I always understood that you weren’t keeping Kelly’s father’s things for yourself but for future Kelly. However,for the items that he had no connection or memory to,the hats for example,you could take a photo of the group,and then just keep the one that you think was his favorite or represented him. (Because many times,the others were just freebies and didn’t mean anything to him.)I didn’t lose my own father when I was young like you were or your son was,but after he passed,I kept his old camera,because he was always taking photos,something awesome that he made in wood shop,and some of his tools because he built the house that I grew up in. In total,it wouldn’t fill a tote,but it is enough,because it all holds memories for ME.(I have even less of my mom’s stuff because she was
a minimalist,thank goodness,but it is also enough for the same reason.) I once watched a CZcams video (Erica Lucas) where she was trying to decide what sentimental items from her own grandmother that she should save for her daughter. Her AHA moment was that grandma’s set of China was special to her because she remembered it being used at family gatherings,but wouldn’t be to her daughter because she had never even laid eyes on it. She decided to keep it on the condition that her family would use the dishes regularly (they had been stored in boxes and moved and stored for YEARS AND YEARS) so that her own children could make memories of their own and then decide to keep it or not in the future. I have heard of MANY accounts over the years that the ONLY item of clothing that a widow kept of her husband’s was his bathrobe or flannel shirt because she could wrap herself up in it and a child keeping one similar item of their parent’s clothing for the same reason. Of course everyone is different but someone else once said that if you keep a TON of stuff for memory’s sake, then NONE of it is special.🫤
Guys do like hats and wear a lot of them. If they aren't stinky and are in decent shape, I would keep them because they also don't take up much space. He exes other son is Kelly's half brother. Does he realize he has a brother?
I’m so glad you got the tires. Your outlook was spot on-no one got hurt, the car didn’t flip, you didn’t have an accident…. having it shred safely was the best possible outcome. Glass half full, I always say. I’m looking forward to that day where you never have to go back to the apartment or see your ex again. I think your future is amazingly bright! 🎉❤
Libby been watching your videos for a few months. I wish I could be there and help you through this! Hoping you’re doing better, don’t ever forget how strong you are!!!
When It rains It pours…sorry you had all that to deal with…..stay positive…..you’re getting there
It's a good thing I love the rain 😂
Libby, I hope that when you are in your new place you and your son take a moment and just breath ❤ no matter how much chaos is still around you, you have done a milestone! Just breath and sit in your feelings for a bit
I don't think I've ever commented on any of your videos. I have been in a similar situation as you and I just want to tell you how much I admire you. I'm so proud of you for talking about difficult things that most people actually (and thankfully) know nothing about, but not only that - even at times when you don't feel the slightest bit strong, you are. You are so much stronger than you think. Life doesn't give us much choice but to keep moving forward and you do it so damn well. I am so immensely proud of you Libby. Greetings from Hellyh, on the other side of the world - in little little Sweden. 🫶🫂🌼♥️😘
You've gotten a lot off your shoulders - I think you're doing beautifully. Cleaning a place you're moving out of is just brutal work I've always found.
I'm going to be moving. Had to put 6 cats in foster care. One was mine.😢 Couldn't leave them behind. Don't trust the ex. My daughter actually went in to check out the cats with a friend awhile ago. Supposed to be a humane society. But their a kill shelter. They had this elderly cat on death row. So the girls ended up giving them money to house her longer. Plus they ended up paying her adoption fee. For someone else to adopt. She was meant for a one animal home. Love cats.❤
Thank goodness you're all safe. For my bad things come in a 7. No joke. Washing machine, fridge, cooker, kettle, and toaster got broke then my mum got cancer (was terminal). Then I was running over to my mum to help her and stood on a rock couldnt walk for 2 weeks due to the pain. Now if 1 thing happens I wait for the other 6 to know OK thats this hurdle done with 😂😂 we got to keep looking for the end of the bad runs.
I'm just now getting back on my feet 6yrs later. 😢😢I vernear lived in my bed unless my kids needed anything for 2yrs after she was laid to rest. Your not alone. I've cried I've been frustrated hurt felt so disassociate from everything 🙃 😪 💔 at points that I'm now realising a lit about myself. I go for my first therapy on Tuesday for CPTSD. I'm terrified 😨 😭 Only way forward is THROUGH. 1 snail 🐌 ♥️ move at a time ❤❤❤. If I can get their anyone can You got this Girl xx🎉🎉🎉
I’d just load up the car take it to storage and just be done. After everything is settled, I’d go to storage grab a couple boxes to go through at a time.
Why isn’t that dude helping clean?
I wish my mom had enough room for me to do that but just putting those boxes in was pushing it lol
Also I wish I knew the answer to that second question 🤷♀️
If you can afford a storage unit for a few months then you could just do a few boxes at a time. ❤ you are doing fine. Don't look back. Moving forward to a brighter future. Love and prayers ❤
With each battle, you are getting stronger and stronger. You have been doing amazing things. Looking forward to the next parts of your journey. Hugs
Needed this today! About to get a bunch of stuff from my house with the ex.... Thank you Libby!
You got this!!! Keep your head up and stay strong. (then have a good cry♥️)
Your channel just happened to show up in my feed a few weeks ago and I have to tell you girl you are so strong!! You are doing great .
Hey! When I started this video you had 9.9k and now it's 10k!! Congrats girl
You have done so much work. I think the smaller apartment will be good for you. You won’t be able to accumulate so many things, and tons easier to keep clean. You can make it a cozy space. I hope after you get your new apartment organized, you declutter some more, and also I hope you go through the things in your moms storage, and that you don’t leave it there for years. This way future Libby will have it so much easier. I hope you are enjoying the new apartment. I really enjoy your videos. They are so real.
I love how you found a simple favorite part of the house, to look out the window & look at the Pine trees/& what it reminds you of, those simple moments are crucial, I wish you & your children the best in life!
You are doing a super job, you are stronger then you think and doing better then a lot of people. You are super woman when you need to be. I have a condo and I lived here going on 4 years and I still have not unpacked most of my house. My health has gotten worse and that’s main think. I am a procrastinator to I guess I don’t want to deal with it. My depression keeps me stuck in bed most days. My full time job now is going to doctor and test..your videos are helping me to see I’m not alone.❤🙏🏻☮️
Congratulations on 10k libby libz 🎉 so happy to see you grow stronger every day. Way to go on continuing to donate so much stuff. You have got rid of SO MUCH this year! Onwards my noble stead 💪
Oh honey, I feel your pain. Moving is the worst and it just...never...ends, no matter how exhausted you get. *sigh*. I'm sorry about the tires. Yes, it will be o.k. This too shall pass. Things will get better. 💐
Libby, you're doing really well. Good job! You guys are going to be okay. You've made it this far and will go farther!!! Stay encouraged girl!
Did you do a follow up on the 2 cats that you put in the shelter are they alive and enjoying their new family? About being stressed we bring this upon our selves I too before moving procrastinated but I did learn to clean more in my new place if I ever leave it. Why does your mom have the storage place it must be expensive?
You crying at the end, I felt that. The tires were just the last straw, one more thing to pile on. I'm sorry.
You are so brave and handle the unexpected so well. Much respect and hoping things get better soon, and the worst is left behind you and your son.
Libby, I stumbled upon your channel by chance, watching declutterring videos. I am a married mom of 2 and I can’t believe how strong and real you are. I could only hope for some of your strength and courage to do what you continue to do. I constantly look for new videos because I am a big supporter of how well you are doing and the love you have for your son. God has a special place for you in the world. Keep your chin up and bless you. Love from Ontario.
I'm so glad you stumbled here ♥️ thank you for such kind words it helps me more than you know!
@@SimplyLibbyt would love to see a video on how you set everything up, and how you stored stuff in the apartment. I’m in a townhouse and space is very limited. I’m an organized hoarder of everything from my children, including rocks and homemade gifts, lol, I have trouble letting those precious items go….
I just want to give you a hug and tell you everything is going to be okay in this video. You did such a great job!!!
Everything has to get better soon 🙏 😊❤. Have faith 🙏 😊
You’re doing a great job. You have lots of support ❤️
WOOT WOOT🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤ My Libby Libby is hereeeee
WOOHOO!! 💃🎉😅
Ok Superwoman! You are doing it!👍
Lol you're so nice! Thank you!
Same, I look forward to you
Thank you so much! ♥️
Just found your channel. I wish I could help! I would in a heartbeat. Stay strong.
Hey hon, if it helps at all, I’m going through a lot of the same things. Not moving out of a house, but every bit of my appliances broke down over the last year or two and now I have to replace three of my tires ! Just remember, you’ve got an amazing husband beautiful children and you’re moving into a great house. It will get done one way or the other. You can do this! The last couple days getting out of a house is always the worst. Hang in there.❤
Does she though!? I thought was about her moving to an apartment because a separation!?
@@kathywalker997 She only has one child and I’m pretty sure she separated from her boyfriend. Also,she moved into a tiny,one bedroom apartment with a cat pee problem.Have you been watching her videos or are you thinking of someone else?
Sending support and much love to you both!
I’m in that situation now and I NEED TO GET OUT BUT MONEY SEEMS TO BE THE ISSUE OR I WOULD NOT BE HERE 🙏
I hope you were able to get your full security deposit back. Do they do the walk thru with you when you move out ?
Sorry about those tires!! Always seems like it’s something. As soon as we think we are getting ahead. Bam! Glad nobody was hurt though! Keep watching for that 10k!! ❤🎉
I'm gonna have to do a video on how that walk through went 🤪
It definitely is always something, but we keep on pushing! ♥️
@@SimplyLibbyt🌝I'm very interested to know how the walk-through went, after all the diligent cleaning you did!!🪣🧽👍Please DO make a video about the walk-through; Looking forward to it!
I have developed a few lenses through which I filter or prioritise items to keep or not. For example, does it give me joy? Nope, out it goes. Was it a gift, does it give me joy? Nope, out it goes. Gifts have always served their purpose in the giving and receiving process. There is no obligation to keep gifts. I always consider things i am keeping as costing me rent for the space they take. So if keeping costing me more money their purchase value and they dont give me joy...out they go. Haven't used the item in the last aporopriate season, out it goes. Haven't used an item in 18 months out it goes. Also consider the cost of purchasing items, the amount of time you've the item and divide the purchase cost by number of weeks owed. Most things considered in this manner have already paid their way and no longer have $ value...consequently are easy to get rid of. You can replace with updated new items if for example if bed or other items of furniture. Also consider an items shelf life. Things like fast fashion clothing, wrapping paper, shoes etc sort of need replacing seasonally.
Keep smiling, things will get better 😊
They definitley will!
Hi Libby, I believe it's best for you to speak to a child psychologist about those items you have kept of his biological father. Sometimes it's best not to know and if he is ever curious it's best to tell him rather than to give him personal items. You have no idea the effect it can create. I know from experience, no matter how mature children may be, it could be a front since he may feel the man of the house. Children are unpredictable sometimes. If you put him in charge of something like younger siblings or anything at all, they tend to resent whoever gave him or her that task. I know it's not your situation, yet some things we do as parents that seem to be ok with us, is not necessarily ok with them. Get a professional opinion because you don't want him to hold that against you or resent you for it.
Lots of emotions.
You are doing it momma! It may have been the hardest few weeks of your life, but you are here and you are doing it! Be so proud of what you have overcome and achieved throughout this process. You are going to be ok girl! We love you 🥰
I just want to let you know you do not need to work out for the next few months your journey is inspiring and you are doing much better I am proud of you😊
I'm so sorry. All I can say is that I've had these moments many times in my life when I thought it couldn't possibly get worse. Similar story to yours. This too shall pass lovely lady. Your son is a honey and that's the most important thing. Stay strong. ❤
Nearly there! Bet you're settled into your new place by now. Your son is adorable.
You are doing so well. I know your feeling low right now but peace and smiles are coming. X Big hugs sent.
When my sister passed I helped her kids clean her apartment. We cleaned over each other many times. But when the owner came threw they literally took the stove apart. I mean they took the sides off to look between the walls and the oven walls.
Cheer up gorgeous their are days when we can hardly imagine that what more can be worse. BUT, we forget the learnings that makes us to come out a winner...
YOU ARE WINNER DONT EVER FORGET IT❤❤❤❤ ...
Black Hills is also my favorite place. You’ve got this!
Sorry about you having to get two new tires. I know that’s not an expense you planned on having. Everything will be alright. I know you are looking forward to being done with the house, then you can concentrate on setting up your new apartment 😊
The reason you have to pay $25 for $5 blinds is because the property management company has to pay someone to purchase the blinds and pay someone to hang the blinds. Definitely cheaper for you to replace them yourself. Think about how much you would charge someone if they asked you to purchase blinds for them and hang them. Probably at least $25 per blind. I know I would not do it for less than that.
Nice to see how helpful your Son is
Keep well
I think that shower wall was just porous and held the stains!
Sorry I missed where you said why you were getting rid of your cats? Why are they going to a shelter? Can you not have them at new place? Hope they find loving forever homes.
Those poor babies are doomed if they go to a shelter.
I think she said they were meant to go to a new home, then that fell through so she had to take them to a (no kill unless they're super old and unwell) shelter. She is handling everything else like a superhero, and something had to give. These are the kinda situations that shelters and fosters exist for. Don't be hard on her being forced into this situation ☮💗
This part really hurts...I could never give my cats to a shelter.
You did good libby ,l,m still decluttering for l know l,ve got at least one more move .
Hi Libby: What a roller coaster video - emotion wise. Hope you are okay.❤
Hopefully all has gotten settled with moving and looking forward to hearing about your new adventure.
Sending you a big hug. Hope things are good at your new place. ❤❤❤
I’m so proud of you and how you are getting through this!
Great Video
I am proud of you young gal
You are ok
Look up your state renting time rules on blinds, carpet etc.
You're doing great, momma...❤
Congratulations 10K!
Congratulations on 10k!🎉
You’re doing amazing!! I started vlogging my move although don’t have enough room in my phone to get actual footage, or more than 2 min sped up 😭😭😢😢I was talking on the Vlog and mentioned you @simplylibby for giving me motivation and inspiration to Vlog despite some harsh comments sometimes when you decide to put your stuff out there to the world. And to show that it’s okay to not have the perfect life shown on social media. Nobody truly lives perfectly. It’s shown in that light. You are so real and raw, I love it. I’ve no idea how to DM you so wanted to ask- is it okay to mention you??? Once I figure out how to upload a video. I did video my feelings going through and updates…I plan on combine it w my experience in psychiatry as a doctor and tech, w my medical knowledge as a doctor, with infertility journey. Bc I want people to know they’re not alone. Thank you for this!!❤❤
Also I just wanted to caution you FFR- I volunteered w a shelter “that only put down aggressive animals.” They put down another perfectly fine animal or more every day just bc it’s been so long since they don’t have the room. But the animals who are shy or cry in the corner like your kitties sound- it seems like people choose those bc they feel bad for them, If that gives you any comfort. Apparently if you pay adoption fee for new owner, it is much easier and more likely for them to be recommended. But I know money is tight. Believe me, $44k in IVF fees nothing covered, and $600k in school loans. You did the best you could.
That’s so sweet for you to leave his stuff jsit for Kelly. He seems like a sweet, helpful boy. He is always helping. Just shows what a good job you are doing with him, even alone. Bc of my eggs being destroyed by cancer tx despite being promised otherwise- w menopause predicted at 38/39. I am 37. It would be a miracle baby and I’d be a single mom by choice. I had miscarriages w prior partners which led (w other stuff) to 3 SAs. I left letters and all. Despite 15 years of therapy and 5 years of infertility therapy despite being mandatory with IVF for a therapist to attest to my stability, insight, reasoning, ability to accept outcomes…I believe I will be a mom and hope for that strength. I think when you need to do something, you just do it. Bc raising my third dog alone…I had COVID, I could barely get up after surgery, I’ve had major episodes of panic and depression- but when you have another life to care for, you find a way.
If you don’t want me to mention you in my vlogs, no worries at all! You’re younger than me (I think), but I look up to you and you’ve saved me with declittering and motivation w this move. Less decluttering than I would’ve liked happen here…you’ll know as a PTA- I have a herniated disc in my back- and so it’s been really really hard to do anything. And it goes slowly.
13:59 I absolutely hear you at this!!! Omggggg 😭😭😭😣😣😣inspection Wed and I am scared. Thanks to your advice I gave myself 2 days after having movers take things to new place. I’ve been cleaning as I go but I left time for that. Going to have to kennel my baby pup for 1 night and it’s breaking my heart.
Your hair is gorgeous here 11:18 !!!! What did you do??!!!
I agree with some of the others. Keep may one or two items that you think might be special to Kelly, take pics of the rest and get rid of it. I think subconsciously you have an emotional attachment to his dad's stuff. Keep pictures but there was no relationship between his dad and Kelly so there is a possibility that when Kelly finds out the full story, it may do more harm than good having all that sruff. Keep a few of Kelly's baby outfits, take photos of the rest and get rid of it. I have a box for each of my children with a few special items and lots of pictures that I will give to them at some point. Believe me, I am like you in that I have the tendency to form an emotional attachment to things, especially those that involve my kids. One day I realized that it is not so much the thing but the memory attached to the things. Even pictures can be scanned onto a computer hard dirve or flash drive. Digital picture frames are amaxing. You can have one pictureframe and a slide show of pictures. That's why I cleaned out and norrowed everything down to one tub each. Just praying God brings some strong, male father figure into Kelly's life that will love him and teach him what being a dad is all about.
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Now for your son sake pack up the bad in a suitcase you get from goodwill and take it too a transfer station and pay too dump it. Leave it there and don't look back . Come home take a shower fix yourself up and take your son too a movie . No looking back make plans for tomorrow and do them. Make long term plans and set them inmotion. You can do it !
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You need to upgrade your matterss
What is your ex doing to help y’all get out? I think I missed that part.
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Take pictures
Please, Don’t put pictures in a storage unit❤
Where is your boyfriend at why ain't he helping you get the crap going
Ex-boyfriend. She wanted to end the relationship. He was helping pack up the house, but now that is over. Most of the household stuff is hers. He took his stuff and left. It's best to keep interactions with exes to a bare minimum.
YOU GOT THIS! Stay Strong, this too shall pass. I love all the fur babies. Thankful no one was hurt. SHARED TO THE BURGH! Pittsburgh PA. STTB
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