Sarcasm is ruining my life | Mike Collier | TEDxRiga
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- Irony can be intelligent, perceptive and witty. Sarcasm rarely is. If you have caught a malarial sarcasm, how can it be treated? There may be no cure, but in this talk there are a few suggestions on how we can tackle the symptoms. Mike Collier is a British‑born writer and a journalist who has lived in Latvia since 2007. He is the chief editor of the English‑language
edition of Latvia’s public broadcasting website. Mike writes about the Baltic states and has produced three books of fiction. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
So true.. I've been extremely sarcastic much of my life, and maybe it has ruined many relationships. But its a defense mechanism and a way to deal with inner pain : (
It is very painful in the end!
I would never have thought that this would have happened!
I personally use it as a persuasion mechanism and it always works on everyone......well everyone except the nearest people to me.
And look who is saying that?
A random 13 year old.
The fact that I'm realizing this and there's people who also feel this way.
You are lying to yourself.
I guarantee it's ruined relationships.
This comment is written in the sarcasm format.
Really sorry sarcasm is ruining your life; I've never felt better.
same, its good cope for a world upside down.
0 pushup is better than 1. 1 cigarette is better than 0. Kitten love it when they are boiled alive for vitamine b13
@@MassMultiplayer seek therapy
Sarcasm ALWAYS hurts someone. A joke is not funny unless both parties are laughing. I have never been sarcastic, but have been the victim of it many times. I have ended friendships over it because I deserve better from anyone who supposedly cares about me.
This is strange, if someone is sarcastic with me I consider that some form of friendship or caring.
lmao bad
Sometimes we should laugh about ourselves. I have no strict serious friends.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
I mean I measure how close I am to someone by how comfortable they are being a twit towards me and vice versa lol...ehh must be a British thing
Sarcasm has basically gotten people lost in translation so to speak, even within their first known language. Navigating through conversations of emotional misrepresentation can leave a conversation with the exact opposite intended direction of what you meant to communicate. For many sarcasm is just a subconscious reaction to a conversation.
I write and watch a lot of comedy. It's basically all sarcasm. It's made me very depressed.
coping for a pathetic world.
0 pushup is better than 1. 1 cigarette is better than 0. Kitten love it when they are boiled alive for vitamine b13.
Its important to prioritise lack of sleep and overworking at minimum wage to achieve ultimate happyness and win heaven.
Overconsuming cafein and missing essential nutriment help reach optimal health.
Destroying every forest and mass murduring and forceimpregnating in cages every sentient being, give me huge hope in humanity
At some point if I know someone uses sarcasm a lot, I just ignore them. I don't have the energy or the fucks to give to try and decipher it. Eventually I don't believe a word they say and completely ignore them. I don't use sarcasm unless it's obvious, and never at another's expense. When it's used on me in a monotone I literally don't get it, and others will laugh on the inside and make themselves feel good at my expense, and at some point I just choose not to talk to them, because anything they say cannot be trusted. It's really just a great way of making enemies, or just leaving yourself lonely because you are openly morphing reality at the expense of another person because you're hurt.
I don't trust sarcastic people, as well. Just as a baseline.
I want to Thank you for putting this into words, it largely represents my view on the matter in a way i have recently had a tough time expressing
Thank you for your lecture, Sir. I learned a lot from your speech. To be sincere and genuine in every words I say. And sarcasm actually isn't a true sign of high intelligence person.
People who use sarcasm contribute to my mental health issues more than I have ever imagined
Sarcasm is bad yet people believe it's a smart thing.
This video has really changed the way I feel about sarcasm. I will not use sarcasm ever again. Ever!
me too
Me too! (BTW I am being sarcastic :p )
I love using sarcasm.
My friend once told me he couldn't tell if I was being sarcastic or not, that is when I realized I had a problem.
I notice to sarcatic the example has to be so untrue so the person knows it cant be true....but even that sometimes doesnt help
So if people believe I’m being sarcastic do I say I don’t like it or disagree to show i do like it or agree or am I still being rude. It’s not always typically sarcasm as oppose to the way others interpret it, as they usually base their opinion on past experiences.
To be honest I’ve lost myself in sarcasm.
I do sincerely appreciate your talk, Collier.
Myself I got a comment once of me being sarcastic, which shocked me really, as I never tried to be that way, or even considered a good thing, yet somehow it had snuck up on me. Now ready to be more sincere again. Thank you!
I'll disagree with most people here, outside of sarcasm as a lifestyle. Sarcasm is situationally, a great way to deal with aggressive people who lack intelligence because there are far too many of those type of people in the world.
Yes, some ask for it. 😁
Sarcasm in that context is just passive aggressive.
@@hdubbs9174 Not if the target of the sarcasm is not the person who are speaking to or that person is the aggressor.
@@charmerci Sarcasm doesn't achieve anything in that case. In the former case, the target of the sarcasm can still be in the room, which is still hurtful. In the former scenario, one has responded to aggression with passive aggression, which only escalates the situation.
Sarcasm isn't clever. There is absolutely no intellect involved. It's just a way for people to avoid earnestly engaging with someone or to express contempt.
Edit: I say this as a recovering sarcastic person and as someone who has been on the receiving end of a lot of sarcastic 'jokes'.
Most of Sacrist talking people are jelous egoistic in there life.
They have inner pain which they push bad words on others..
They show others down or use scariest words against others to show how they are great than others .
I really feel sacristic talking people are poorest people on planet..
Sarcasm is like a hidden anger. Tell me what that dictionary is.
Never looked at it like that...always thought hidden anger=0 so I refuse to believe THIS is the real reason
Life without sarcasm is life not live in!
and you probably have no friends
Awe junior you don’t have any life experience in the real world how’s your little fantasy going for ya?
@@randerins Yep, you are right.
This is the most interesting TED talk ever.
No matter how it seems to these sarcastic fools. The truth is : Sarcastic people are toxic and bad for mental health. Sarcasm mixed with arrogance is very potent. Just stay away from these fools.
Thankyou for voicing exactly what we feel about ourselves!
powerful.
Whoever is trying to be more of sarcastic here, Yall are really good at it!
We took sarcasm to the next level in the band. Upon hearing ANY adjective we react quickly by saying "your mother was [adjective]. We are dying in laughter.
-this was very cheap
-your mom was cheap
-[something] was flexible
-your mom was flexible.
The opportunities are endless. Mentioned it to my barber he and other barber barely could finish our hair that day.
Given that the majority of dictionary defintions for sarcasm seem to include an element of genuine emotional attack, that would seemingly qualify for the term "playful banter", rather than sarcasm.
This discussion made me re-think my own use of the term 'sarcasm' and (with regard to my own conversational style) replace it with the term 'irony', which lacks the crapping-on-someone component. Tedious re-labeling begins... lol
Your mom barely could finish our hair
Heisenberg in parallel world
Sarcasm ruining his life really? I would have guessed it was the lack of reputable haberdasheries he found in Latvia
LOL!
Wow, interesting. Like watching paint dry.
good one xD
😂
Well done
Every single video when for example a character kills a character, someone in the comments says sarcastic things like “awe how sWeEt” 🤬🤬🤬🤬💀💀
Wow very interesting. Really
He’s being sarcastic
Me ? Sarcastic ? NEVER !
Sarcasm is an excuse and a defense for bad behavior.
'it denies it's own content'
❤
Say YES! to sarcasm. Love it
No.
For right.
will people dont lke sarcasm you need to let them expect it not force them sorry thats the way i see it
Of course he's british
*sarcasm is life*
I appreciate sarcasm because it offsets negative emotions with a unique or unexpected perspective. Kinda like taking a bite out of the dog🐕🦖 that bit you... and in so doing gives us the power to laugh rather than cry. It requires a bit of creativity, courage and objectivity. I grew up in a large Irish Catholic family and my 8 uncles thought it their mission in life to toughen us (50 children)up so that the world and it's bullies wouldn't so easily chew us up and spit us out. It worked but we also then learned to be tough little bullies. We survived the withering wrath of the world to outgrow and shed our tough little shells enough to love and be loved. In an ideal world we could always be sincere, vulnerable and sensitive but in this world, it's better to laugh at our pain than to cry...
14:49 what is the right spelling, anyone?
pls let me know, if u got it XD
It s in a pile in my notes far from home 🫀I will..🙃
Is it 'Yuuwaku' (誘惑)?
You should learn the difference between sarcasm and sardonism.
Always talking sacristic people are worst.
Most toxicity inside them
Yes, let's remove all humor from language to pander to those who don't have any sense of it. What's next, let's ban nouns.
At first I thought the title was sarcastic...
Sacristic and sense of humor is big differences.
Sacristic people are most of time toxicity in there talks
They are GREDDY jelous and try to keep there importance by there sacristic talks.
Sacristic. Person are jelous / GREDDY not good signs of good person.
this is a version of very poorely explained and out of context versions of the greek words: ειρωνεία and σαρκασμός. sad :(
🇬🇧BREXIT🇬🇧
17:14 thank me later
8:09
sarcasm is lying. is it funny? I think you have to use a hilarious voice. if you are being grumbly but truthful it's flip. it's not tone. it is a lie. always lying.
God this talk is boring. Fortunately that suit is an over achieving over over compensator. .
Hi!
Sarcasm is a very important communicative tool. If it would have been solely counterproductive than evolution would have driven into extinction many thousands of years ago.
I use sarcasm many many times each day. In my experience it makes people trust me and feel comfortably in my personal space. It's true that my comments also have a tendency to make people feel uncomfortable. But in my experience it mostly makes either people lacking self confidence or close minded people people feel uncomfortable. I do not care about people like that to become uncomfortable because these types of people will often turn out to be bad (social) investments. So the harsh truth is also that sarcasm is a great social tool to prevent you from investing in people that are not worth investing in.
Besides...
It is my right as a human being to make people feel uncomfortable. Or otherwise... I am under no obligation to make people feel comfortable. If people would have the obligation to make people feel comfortable the police or military could not function for example. Bad idea!
This speech is not an idea worth spreading. So unfortunantely TED and TEDx are both going down hill. I'm still thankful for the platform because I learnt a lot. But TED is clearly dying in my opinion.
I used to accept my friend’s sarcasm because I was telling myself maybe I am too sensitive and have low self esteem. One day I couldn’t take it anymore and stopped talking to her. After that I started analyzing whether how I felt was my insecurities and my own bad. I have realized that sarcasm she used deeply wounded me as a person. She probably never meant to hurt me but even if I tried to tell myself her intentions were not bad, it still left my feelings hurt and feeling confused.
Just because others still seem to get along with your sarcastic personality doesn’t mean they like you and worth your time, it’s probably because they have a lot of patience with your personality and they are trying to understand you.
@Chivalry is dead Your perspective on sarcasm makes your identifier "Chivalry is dead" ironic.
Ask the people around you earnestly if they enjoy your sarcasm. More than likely they don't, because it's often belittling and mean spirited. It's not about you or what you think after all, it's about how your words effect others. You can think all you want that you are not being counter productive or mean, what matters is how those around you take it. After a while people will stop being your friend.
Could "Making others uncomfortable" actuall mean hurting others and placing yourself above them?
@@davidthomas9276 That has happened very very rarely. People that are clearly bullies themselves will be targeted like that by someone like me.
I don't put myself above others. Either I decide to care about what people think or I just don't care and mostly ignore them.
I also think it is a cultural thing. There are cultures where sarcasm is commonly accepted and cultures where it is more frowned upon.