I have no idea, why women don't believe their children when they tell them they have been sexually abused by anyone. Why would your child lie?? That's a horrible accusation to make, why would a child think of that
+Anna Heart Not true... some people just don't want to believe that could happen and so refuse to believe their child when they get the courage to say something. It's extremely sad, and in the case of abuse like this ALWAYS BELIEVE YOUR CHILD.
+Anna Heart Oh absolutely, they can (it's a weird thing for a child to make up though, honestly). All I was saying is never tell them you don't believe them... don't dismiss it. Believe them because when it is true... your dismissal could very well have been a death sentence down the road. (I use "you", generally, not you directly).
Some do. Very few, but there are a small percentage of women who know what power these allegations can hold against a man and they use that. They shouldn't but some do, and it can destroy a mans life
There are a lot of things we can't understand because we were not there and each situation is different as the people in them. First of all, a child that has been abused, often times acts out. They become the problem child. Others become the model compliant child. Either way, the parent the child turned to, could have been abused and never dealt with it properly. Denial is a survival technique. It's a known fact, abused (in all its forms, sexual, physical, alcoholism, drugs etc) people attract abusers. This is how it perpetuates itself.....until one person breaks free, gets help and stops the cycle.
I just saw ur video. My daughter was molested from 3-4 years old. We found out when she was 5. It was a family member. We IMMEDIATELY took her to her pediatrician who verified she was molested and we then got her in to therapy. After a year of therapy and her being so young, her therapist said there wasn’t much she could do at this age. But, when she turned 14 the affects of it started to come out, she started smoking pot, we later found out “it’s the only time I don’t feel the pain and think about killing myself!” Well it was that minute that I realized my baby died when she was 3years d and I was just looking at the shell of my daughter and her sole was killed. She had been in therapy now for two years and started doing much better. However when she turned 17 and started dating, the flashbacks of what was done to her came out and she’s back in therapy and doing so much better, she’s fighting her way back to being happy & healthy! The person who molested her was sentenced to two years and then probation. Part of their release from probation was to apologize to my daughter, which happened! However, shortly after that, the person now DENISE EVERYTHING and is telling everyone that it was all a lie and they didn’t do anything to my baby girl! I wanted to KILL them! We ended up moving from NY to FL to get away from all of it and she’s doing so much better! I’m so VERY sorry for what happened to u, it breaks my heart for u 💔 if u ever want to talk, being the mom of a victim, I will always be here to listen to anyone molested and help in any way I can.... ❤️ a survivors mom THE WORST PART IS THE PERSON WHO MOLESTED MY BABY GIRL WAS A GUEST ON THE ELLEN SHOW, FAKING CANCER & GIVEN A HUGE CHECK!!!! It triggered a severe emotional breakdown for my daughter and it’s been a BATTLE for her to get back to herself!!!
You care otherwise you didn't mentioned it. It is like the "But" follow by the contradiction people say not to judge, "but" then the judging contra argument follows after that "BUT- beauty".
Yes I agree. I already loved Ellen as it was no one can beat Ellen in my eyes, but this interview makes me adore her that much more.God Bless you Ellen and Portia as well.
The abused & downtrodden are the most grateful of all for any days of grace as they know the difference between the state of grace they live in & the alternative. You can still be caught in different types of abusive/controlling relationships that you can't rid yourself from & you will still be more grateful than others as you are grateful that it is mental or emotional manipulation from outside your home rather than physical abuse inside your home. The difference is known where as those who have never been a long term victim do not feel gratitude on that level.
And you, Taylor Anstrom, shall receive the much-coveted "Best Comment Ever" award, and you so rightly deserve it! I had just complained to myself about the irritating HUGE pixels, and then I read your comment. Thanks for making me smile!
***** I never saw your comment so I don't suppose I stole it and if you are whining about how many likes you get from random strangers on a random CZcams video you really are leading a sad and boring life. I had no idea I had that many likes nor did I care.. I just post and either people like what I say or they don't. Either way it doesn't matter to me.
I was over it the second I hit send. Buh-bye! And for those of you popping pocorn thinking you are settling in to watch a CZcams argument between two people who do not know each other you need to get a live as well. I'm not postong anything else on this stupid topic.
That was awful. Sexual abuse alone is awful, but to use breast cancer as a way to it is just absolutely awful, what a sick man. And how could you not believe your own child when they tell you? Ellen has come a long way, bless her.
Hope she forget her Dad and get started healing cause saying here on this video she love men and interviewing Nikki Minaj more recently video that this one; said to her, Nikki ; "you do not a man(k)ind in your life" that is not improving a bit but holding a generalized cover girl's grouchy lifestyle by generalazing and an open attack to men's dignity. Forgiving will bring her inner peace right on and less tendency to criminalize mankind for what happened to her.
The worse is when the mother refuse to believe. I simply cannot understand and awe that she went through bad experience and yet she had only gratitude to god.a very good lesson.
@Lucia Kuchiki Hi, Lucia, here's what do I think...next ; Would it be a valid ilibi to turn my sexuallity away if a woman or man did rape me, Lucia ? Or like many others victims of rape we do try to regain our sexuality balance and keep resentment at bay so such person can't keep hurting us for the rest of a lifetime. Hope for the best this comment of me makes sense to you what really can take place after being sexually rape. That's light at the end of the tunnel knowing others were already there and they did fight back to regain self-confidence in their own sexuality with much of success. Would you allow other person made primary wrong choices of a great important 'internal descisions' that deprive you to follow your "born-nature" course ? Let's not throw the towel and internally let's put a real fight against a decision we didn't have to do with, in first place because we didn't consented o agreed with it as many times it may happened. It won't make a bad person IF a internal spiritual fight took place to makes us stronger like using the stumbling rock to step further and ever looked back into such direction or the lesser as possible. Can you picture a good Samaritan Christian in you not helping others from your past experiences that made you stronger ? Hope not ! regardless of any little set back.
onteng h Ellen had gratitude to God for blessings she's had come into her life in spite of what her mother and stepfather did. You misread something somewhere, I think. If I missed something, and you can let me know in a nice way, do so.
no, that's not what insane people do. what i meant from that was she is not that kind of person who keeps saying what she went through and keep telling her sob story. but she make people laughs and bring joy instead of telling people the pain she gone through.
She looks amazing for her age. I know people might say she has plastic surgery or Botox, but that's not what I'm saying. I mean shes hilarious in every way, shape and form. Looks don't matter, its the inside. Ellen, dear god have you been blessed by the angels.
My stepfather told me He Loves Me Like a wife and not a daughter when I was 11 years old. And when I was 9 years old I was molested by my neighbor for 3 years it ended with him raping me with broken pop bottles. I protected my daughter all these years and I will protect my grandkids when I have them. I've been married for 22 years and he has taught me and helped me so much. I am no longer a victim I am a survivor!
Barbara: Will you dance? :o Ellen: No dancing :| Barbara: No dancing? D: Ellen: No dancing :| Barbara: People gonna expect you to dance... :/ Ellen: No... :| Barbara: No dancing... :\ Ellen: No dancing... :| Barbara: Mmmm.... :/ *Awkward pause*
It upsets me so much how people were treated so differently for being gay... These days I didn't know it still existed.. Until My ex boyfriends parents told me I was not aloud to watch Ellen in their house because she is a lesbian.. Mind you I'm 22 and was engaged at the time.. Might explain why I left..
***** That plus other reasons.. But I just could not see myself in the family.. What if I had kids with him and then they tried to teach hate... Not having that! haha Have you had an experience like that?
+People's Karmasquad Honestly, I think if you've got a heart in your body, and blood pumping, through it, it's rough mpossible to dislike her. She is just so beautiful and genuine, and wears her heart on her sleeve, and I think we know that's no easy task. People like her are one in a million. I love Ellen...she brings so much good into the world.
The more I learn about her, the more I love her. Thank you America for Ellen and thank you for making her talkshow work for so many years now. She's an example for a lot of people, she fought, even when she thought it was over for her, for her career, for her happiness. What a strong and beautiful person !
I can relate to the not being believed when someone molests you. My foster father was a minister. They were a wonderful family from all outward appearances, however in order to keep her husband away from their biological children they adopted me. He molested me from the age of 9-15 and eventually raped me. When I finally told some people in our church they called me a liar and demanded that I leave their home. This has caused scars that will never heal but it also taught me the importance of always speaking up. I feel for everyone in these situations. Later on I found out that my foster mother knew all along but hoped that as I got older I would be able to fend him off by myself. It never happened. I am who I am today largely because I had no advocate in my corner. I was seen as the dirty and wrong girl who had a big mouth. Stings.
wow, you and I had the same things happen. I can't believe how much I can relate to your statement. GOD bless you for being able to talk about it! I still have a hard time being so open about it.
My Dear child Lugo There is one that is going to repair everything wrong done to you, please turn to him, Mark 9:42 “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea.
A friend just bought a knew home on the Cumberland River in Nashville, and had invested almost all the money her father left her. Suddenly the Nashville flood hit and washed all she had away. Ellen Degeneres some how heard about it and bought her a brand new home and car and all the trimmings. Isn't that love?
The fact that her mother had had a Mastectomy, now accounts for why she cried in an interview with Emily Bear, when Emily told Ellen that the money from the copyright from one of her songs, was going to Cancer Research as Emily's Grandmother was a breast cancer survivor. Also in another interview with Emily, when they show a photo of the new pet " a mini Golden doogle"(?), and the similarity of the dog which Ellen had adopted off the street. Ellen was so enthusiastic and laughed at the similarity. I find it irrelevant whether she is gay (whatever you want to call it), it does not come over in her presentations and until this event has never mentioned it, nor since. It takes courage to disclose the information she does particularly about the fact that she was abused as a child; to a certain degree it may account for why she has an "affection" for women since it would appear she cannot trust men (and not unreasonably) . I am a straight male, but would never hold the fact she has attraction to the same sex, as an issue. The only time I get cross with gay people, is when they try to assert their sexuality on other people. Ellen has never done that in any of her shows, and the way she deals with children is a model to all adults on how a child should be treated. Perhaps it because her father interfered with her as a child, is why she feels so at ease and empathetic to people who have been in distress. You have done nothing wrong Ellen, you are very brave to "come out", even though I didn't thing that you needed to do so- people should take you for what you are: a caring person, as demonstrated with the way you interview your guests and in paticular children. You always treat them with respect, and I have noticed that when you greet children you always get down to their height by kneeling down and giving them a hug. You are certainly not a risk, and will keep reviewing this board to see your shows. My very best wishes and commendation for your bravery in disclosing what you did and the fact that you cared for your lost dog endorses you humanity. Chris R. London.
i seriously love ellen. whenever i'm depressed, whenever i feel low, i watch her and watch her show and it always helps. she is such a strong person and has been through so much in her life. my life goal, my bucket list, is to meet ellen and go on her show. she is truly one amazing woman.
I love Ellen!:) Sadly I was abused by a teacher at 13:( I have known my sexuality my whole life now age 23. Abuse doesn't define your sexual preferences. Anyone who says otherwise is using that as an excuse to not be accepting.
There's actually statistics that show a correlation between abuse and homosexuality (not in every case of course)- and people don't use that to avoid being accepting but to try to help people who are hurting! I'm sorry you were abused.
I agree with you, I remember telling my abuser I was gay to try to get him to stop, he didnt. J also told him I was taken, 15, and just not interested, nothing worked.
I'm sorry for You, been in a same place. Just remember that the fact Your parents are divorcing doesn't mean that the true love doesn't exist. And that You're a beautiful human being and it's not Your fault at all. Good luck!
+JamesClark ISR Yeah indeed, i really dont believe in the possibility of something or someone to change your sexual orientation. I do believe that it can change (from only gay to bi for example) in time. yes she is very grateful, i love her, she's such an amazing human being!
+Anna Heart You can't understand because you've never been in that situation. It's normal for a girl to date guys at first because that's what everyone expect you to do. But sometimes it just feels wrong. It's not the same ''wrong'' that you are talking about. It's something else. It's a completely different feeling. You can't judge since you never felt it and can't understand what it is.
+Anna Heart most gay people date people of the other sex at first as they're desperate to be straight because of prejudiced idiots who think it's wrong, or that being gay is a choice.
+Anna Heart a lot of straight people get sexualy abused too, that should get reasearch too dont you think, and dating people of a gender you dont like is called experimentation, you can think you are straight because thats what is expected so you date boys 'cause thats what you are supposed to do, until you explore you'll find out if you really like boys, or girls, or both, or all, or neither, most people start assuming they are straight, until they decide to experiment or aknoleage any other parts of them they really know
Why are humans so obsessed with sexuality and relationships? Do I really care who anyone sleeps with in private, or if you decide not to sleep with anyone at all?
I used to be like that. I thought gay people were weird and gross, but then a girl I dated in high school I found out was bi sexual and she convinced to come with her to a meeting with the schools gsa club, it changed my whole world when it came to people not just gay people but people in general. arguably the biggest lesson I learned in high school is, the way we treat others should not be determined by the people we fall in love with.
lionel wraithwood Yep. Life is too short to go about judging other people's business. Besides, That phenomenon could happen to one's family member or child, then one would stop judging. However, here in Africa it is worse. Where I am, if you are grown up not married, nobody respects you and you'll be pushed around and insulted. If you are gay they kill you.
Always-Stay-Positive I agree .do you. have to tell the world about it?...seriously.....you are agrown adult ...something very personal... wow now the whole world is a mess..camon ellen. Grow up have some decency...
Personally I think Ellen is more beautiful now than she has ever been. She is literally like fine wine from which her personality is what makes up more than half of her beauty. Prime example that personality trumps physical beauty in all aspects.
I agree that Ellen is more beautiful now. I mean, she always was gorgeous, but she never looked really happy or at piece with herself.. Now, she's still gorgeous, aging beautifully, and her smile is genuine. And that type of smile is perfection.
Talking Movies that's totally different . we're talking about a queer person kissing an opposite sex person as 'love interest' on a show . difficult . just as it is difficult for a straight person to play a queer person on tv ... if that role includes intimacy
I'm glad I'm gay, it's forced me to overcome many obstacles in life that straight people will never deal with. I've matured more quickly, become more understanding, and become more open to other people's lifestyles. It takes a lot to come to terms with who you really are - and some people never are forced to deal with that. I feel sorry to straight people in that sense, they never have that exact opportunity to grow up in that emotional way.
iLikeTurtles But, then again I didn't exact make the point I was making upon review. I'm not saying it's the most difficult obstacle to overcome, but I'm saying it's an obstacle that forces a person to reflect and be introspective and be strong enough to admit who they are - in any environment. Once again I AM NOT saying this is the worst possible obstacle for an individual to overcome.
Wow! She said that she liked men a lot, but prefer women. My ex husband’s aunt was like that too. His aunt was absolutely lesbian in every way, but still found men sexually attractive. That’s something else. I just learned something new.
We can count how many mothers do believe when their daughters talk about sexual abuse....or maybe they just pretend/ prefer not to believe it because they don't want to be alone or depend on that man to survive. It's sad.
TELL SOMEONE WHO GIVES A SHIT,WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT,ATTENTION, DONT YOU HAVE ENOUGH,YOU GOT IDIOTS WHO SAY THEY ADORE YOU,INSTEAD OF EVEN LIKING THEIR MAKER,FUNNY WORLD FUNNY WEIRDOS....
I know this is such old news but I've only just found out about this Ellen story. I just wish i had heard about it sooner to be honest! It might have given me confidence. Let me just say i know how it feels to not be believed, and i admire Ellen so much more now after hearing this, and that she was able to become such a strong and empowering female role model through doing what she loves. Inspiring! I'm 22 and neither of my parents or family (except my sister) know about the abuse i suffered from age 8 to age 19. At age 14 i started self harming and the school brought my parents in to a meeting about it. Later on at 15 years old, i came to my parents and said "i think i am depressed". My dad turned around and said "don't be so fucking stupid, you're only 15, how can you be depressed? I have a friend at work who is depressed so i know what it is like. If you were depressed, you wouldn't be able to even get out of your bed each morning". My mum simply shrugged and walked away. I also had a previous experience of someone trying to abduct me at age 13/14 and my parents said that what i was telling them didn't add up and they told me straight to my face that i was lying. From that moment on i knew they would never believe anything that i ever told them. I would love to be able to tell them and make them realise that they could've been much better parents and still can be to my 17 year old sister, but when they wont even believe the simplest thing, why bother? They still don't know to this day what i have been through in my life and i don't know if i will ever tell them for this exact same reason. I wish that parents wouldn't do things like this to their children. Why would a child lie? Especially at such a young age. Simple answer is, they wouldn't. What is wrong with people? +TheEllenShow
I relate to you so much!!! I'm 21, I have depression and also self harm. I have made suicide attempts, my first one being I was 13, I wrote a suicide note and my parents found it, my father just mocked me and my mother threw the idea, like nothing happened. Same thing happened when I was sexually assaulted, I ended up in the hospital for a suicide attempt and was disavowed with major depression. I still self harm, really bad, I recently told my grandma that I'm suicidal and she said that its a sin, she told my mother and my mother said, what could she be depressed for like ....ugh, no one will understand until I'm dead, dying is the only answer.
I myself i am Gay and was a victim of sexual assult when i was young 6 or 7 yrs old . I haven't spoken about it to my mother and family because i just don't want my family not to believe me, i am scared.
im really sorry to hear that. i just wanted to let you know that im here for you and so are many others. tell your family when your ready and you feel safe and comfortable. if they don't believe you they're assholes. everything's going to be okay and your family loves you no matter what. you're not alone and there's so many people that love and support you and help is available whenever you need it. hope you're doing okay. x
Ellen is such a beautiful human being. she is so strong yet so humble at the same time. Shes honestly an inspiration. What she went through is terrible and i wish she didnt live those things but thats life... Even people who seem so happy all the time have gone through some tough times. But everything you experience in life builds you. I am so glad through all of this she stayed strong and didnt let all of this turn her cold. She deserves the best in life. LOVE YOU ELLEN!!
I think she needs to get to know god more. The joy and tears she shows at the end is nothing compared to the joy he brings when you have a relationship with him. God is awesome and his mercy and grace surpass any human intellect.
ragazziita he's not imaginary. He's real. Pursue him. Try reading the bible sometime and see for yourself. I'm not going to debate with you on whether God is real or not. If you want to believe we are germs or some gas created this beautiful world and our beautiful species you go ahead. That's between you and God.
GodHatesAmericas MurderingSoldiers God hates the sin not the man or woman. Watching pornography and homosexuality is not different. It's lust and sexual immorality. Repent and confess your sins to God and pray for strength and he will give you his grace and mercy. In the name of Jesus I pray to you my father, have mercy on all of us. Amen.
Joseph Martinez I believe in God. God created our sexuality and had a purpose for it. I understand all that. I need to understand more as to why God did it this way sometimes. I mean I wonder if this is the only option he had. I mean on the one hand you have this situation that if a person is not hurting or affecting anyone else what is the problem? There has to be a deeper reason as to why it's sin and God is against it. I tried to imagine the world in the way people see it today. Like porn and homosexuality as being innocent and nothing wrong with it. What would that mean? There is something connected to the fact that there is something driving people to it. And something driving people away from it. What does it all mean?
rick valentino excuse me but i am bisexual and i have a relationship with God.... NO ONE IS IN ANY POSITION TO JUDGE EXCEPT FOR GOD!!! So you being judgmental you're not being a person of God. You're being ignorant. God loves all his children equally no matter what sexuality they are.
Ellen is an amazing human being! She is so kind and so humble. Her heart is in all the right places. You can tell she genuinely cares for fellow human beings and for animals. Everything she is and does truly speaks to her character ❤️
strong? she was "sexually abused" so now she's abusing other women who are just as mental as she is and you call that strong? the only thing she inspires me to do is to find an uglier female than her and for years i had no success.
+Lisa DiConti what difference does what make? ?? gay or straight? well I have people in my group that thinks Ellen is straight and is only gay on tv, but Ellen came out of the closet some time ago I believe. ... so I say gay or not!!!! do you have an issue with my comment? ?? last I remember, I lived in the USA... freedom of speech. ....
Myong Chev I was agreeing with you that it doesn't matter what somebody's sexual preference is. I'm sorry that I sounded like I was disagreeing with you.
+Lisa DiConti I do love Ellen, her comedy is priceless and she just seems to be a great person on tv.... I'm very glad you agree, thank you!!! my new "Ellen" friend!
+Myong Chev I come from a place where people condemn others while transgressing. I say, this is someone's business if they are gays, it does not make them infamous.
Who would've thought that such a wonderful, most precious, loving, caring, beautiful and hilarious woman like Ellen could have a dark past...I cried my heart inside out for you Ellen. Anyone is soooo lucky to be around you, especially Portia. I'm not gay and my religion is against homosexuality, but, Ellen is just too damn good at making my day a lot better. I never missed her show, even afterwards, I kept repeating her show on youtube over and over because her smile and her humor makes me feel comfortable. She always has the best jokes and lines in her humor that I will never forget. Anyway, Happy New Year guys! can't believe it's 2017 already!
that's the whole point of life: to life truth. if she seeks truth in all it's ways and manners - worry not for her. be concerned for those who think they are superior to her b/c they carry a different cross. peace.
My family tossed me out of the family boat when I confronted my brother about abuse . Parents don’t want to believe , it doesn’t serve their egos as a perfect family
Ummmm Portia was famous before herself and Ellen became a couple you Idiot, have you ever heard of a little series called Ally Mcbeal ? duh! Also Kathrine Moening is gay and simply sexy beyond belief besides that Ellen is attractive herself !
Hi,so. Sorry to go through abuse,always remember every cloud has a silver lining.Take care,you are doing extremely well.Keep going forward.God Bless you in everything you do!Margaret from uk.Wishing you a very merry Christmas and a Happy and prosperous New Year!xx
Mohamed Algouhary no you are lying. those who dying are not the normality of people. those who dying are the poeple who passed the line only. they get killed because they want to disagree with the system. not because they are just "human beings walking"
"She didn't believe me." I completely get that. When your parents won't believe you when you are assaulted, it's pretty soul crushing. Being a parent and an adult, there were a lot of inner obstacles to overcome and still deal with. It's never okay to call your six year old daughter a liar, let alone any age, when it pertains to abuse.
How brave was Ellen during that interview, I know so many people that couldn't have spoken about the things she spoke about there and showed the bravery and resilience that she did.
I read all these comments on people saying that homosexuality is wrong... and it almost makes me afraid to say that I am straight. I am ASHAMED to be straight because a lot of straight people say absolute horrors about homosexuals, and it just makes me so embarrassed...
what a brave young woman she must have been. i know what she went through ( and i am heterosexual) you can regain your power over it, but it never leaves you completely. but that's good because of it you have an excellent radar to protect other children. i really like her, generous, kind, humble, grateful.
I was feeling so bad when I heard that her show was canceled because she declared her sexuality,I mean I realized how much do judging hurts ,the people were perceiving her totally different.Anyway her whole story is really inspirational,she is happy and grateful after all the unhappy events she got through , doing something big with her life.
damn. Ellen has been through some terrible shit. It's the worst feeling to be hurt by someone who is supposed to be your guardian. Props to her for succeeding through the roof.
+Jackson Scully i suffer from depression and recently my only support my mom deid 7 months now and its been very hard to deal with .it makes me getting into relationships so difficult am just 60%of the time
What Ellen said at the end of the video truly blessed my soul and empowered my spirit. Thank you for posting this it was completely inspiring...touched my soul.
That's horrible, it's disgusting how parents won't even believe their own children. I'm so sorry that happened to you, hope everything's going well for you!
I love Ellen, my grandma other loved Ellen, WWII wife, my grandma was so old school Christian values, but loved Ellen, cause she was true, a true soul, caring, funny, and real! Didn't matter if she was gay or not, she still loved Ellen and so do I!
wen she sad that she whants to spek to god i got mad but wen she sad i will say thank u i got soooo happy because she respacts other relgins and its so nice of her and my love 2 ellen gets biger and biger evry day
Thank you Ellen so much for all you have done for everybody,you are one of my heroes. I watch you, I learned from you, I love you! You are amazing. I recently moved to Florida from Oregon where I was feeding the homeless underneath the bridge every Saturday and Sunday night even when I didn't have it to give I still gave, because I had a house, a family, people who loved me and I knew that I would be okay. the feeling you get when you help somebody is phenomenal thank you for all you do for people you are truly a godsend
This just breaks my heart. I have absolutely adored her for as long as i can remember and i don't think there was ever a time i didn't know that she was gay. I've just always admired her.. my little girl and my sister do as well.. she's so genuine and warm hearted. I hate knowing that something so horrid happened to someone so wonderful. She brightens up the lives of millions of people, despite what she went through. I wish i could tell her how much i admire her.
I really find a lot of inspiration from this video. Ellen in general is an inspiring person, but this video specifically really gets me. I am also a gay woman who has a history of sexual abuse. I've had people ask me if that's why I'm gay, I've had people tell me flat out that's why I'm gay like they know what they're talking about, and I've had people tell me I don't have to be afraid of men because one or two took advantage of me. And it's really great to know I'm not the only one who gets those questions and those remarks from people just because I happen to have a past like that and be a lesbian. Thanks so much to Ellen for sharing this story with the world.
Ellen I too was abused by my step father. He will get his reward on judgment day. You have so much courage and love for people. I love watching your show. I have 4 grown daughters and 7 beautiful grandchildren God blessed me with. I battle severe depression from a lifetime of abuse from men in my life someday I hope to be free and live my own life.If you can do it so can I much love
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I have no idea, why women don't believe their children when they tell them they have been sexually abused by anyone. Why would your child lie?? That's a horrible accusation to make, why would a child think of that
+Anna Heart Not true... some people just don't want to believe that could happen and so refuse to believe their child when they get the courage to say something. It's extremely sad, and in the case of abuse like this ALWAYS BELIEVE YOUR CHILD.
+Anna Heart Oh absolutely, they can (it's a weird thing for a child to make up though, honestly). All I was saying is never tell them you don't believe them... don't dismiss it. Believe them because when it is true... your dismissal could very well have been a death sentence down the road. (I use "you", generally, not you directly).
***** yes I agree
Some do. Very few, but there are a small percentage of women who know what power these allegations can hold against a man and they use that. They shouldn't but some do, and it can destroy a mans life
There are a lot of things we can't understand because we were not there and each situation is different as the people in them. First of all, a child that has been abused, often times acts out. They become the problem child. Others become the model compliant child.
Either way, the parent the child turned to, could have been abused and never dealt with it properly. Denial is a survival technique.
It's a known fact, abused (in all its forms, sexual, physical, alcoholism, drugs etc) people attract abusers. This is how it perpetuates itself.....until one person breaks free, gets help and stops the cycle.
"Anytime you can find laughter in a difficult situation...you win." I love you, Ellen...such an inspiration!
I agree. She is very much an inspiration. :)
She is amazing, such a strong, brave woman. Love, love, LOVE her.
And I am going to be FIRST IN LINE the day Finding Dory premiers!!
She's got a beautiful soul insight of her
I just saw ur video. My daughter was molested from 3-4 years old. We found out when she was 5. It was a family member. We IMMEDIATELY took her to her pediatrician who verified she was molested and we then got her in to therapy. After a year of therapy and her being so young, her therapist said there wasn’t much she could do at this age. But, when she turned 14 the affects of it started to come out, she started smoking pot, we later found out “it’s the only time I don’t feel the pain and think about killing myself!”
Well it was that minute that I realized my baby died when she was 3years d and I was just looking at the shell of my daughter and her sole was killed. She had been in therapy now for two years and started doing much better. However when she turned 17 and started dating, the flashbacks of what was done to her came out and she’s back in therapy and doing so much better, she’s fighting her way back to being happy & healthy!
The person who molested her was sentenced to two years and then probation. Part of their release from probation was to apologize to my daughter, which happened! However, shortly after that, the person now DENISE EVERYTHING and is telling everyone that it was all a lie and they didn’t do anything to my baby girl! I wanted to KILL them! We ended up moving from NY to FL to get away from all of it and she’s doing so much better!
I’m so VERY sorry for what happened to u, it breaks my heart for u 💔 if u ever want to talk, being the mom of a victim, I will always be here to listen to anyone molested and help in any way I can....
❤️ a survivors mom
THE WORST PART IS THE PERSON WHO MOLESTED MY BABY GIRL WAS A GUEST ON THE ELLEN SHOW, FAKING CANCER & GIVEN A HUGE CHECK!!!! It triggered a severe emotional breakdown for my daughter and it’s been a BATTLE for her to get back to herself!!!
i dont care if Ellen IS Gay or straight, I love her sense of humor and how honest she is
yeah, me too
Yeah
Exactly. I cannot understand why people who liked her humor would turn her down just cuz she came out. She is my role model for eternity.
You care otherwise you didn't mentioned it.
It is like the "But" follow by the contradiction people say not to judge, "but" then the judging contra argument follows after that "BUT- beauty".
@@elzevierjaviergarcia890 No, she probably said it so we wouldn't think she likes her just because she's gay.
"If you could say just one thing to God, what would it be?"
"Thank you"
"Oh Ellen..."
DAMN, that got to me. This woman deserves everything she has.
I know... I choked up when she said that after knowing everything she's been through. She's so grateful.:)
Go Ellen!
Yes I agree. I already loved Ellen as it was no one can beat Ellen in my eyes, but this interview makes me adore her that much more.God Bless you Ellen and Portia as well.
The abused & downtrodden are the most grateful of all for any days of grace as they know the difference between the state of grace they live in & the alternative. You can still be caught in different types of abusive/controlling relationships that you can't rid yourself from & you will still be more grateful than others as you are grateful that it is mental or emotional manipulation from outside your home rather than physical abuse inside your home. The difference is known where as those who have never been a long term victim do not feel gratitude on that level.
Ex0dus111 u
Ex0dus111 i agree !! Since she was raised in the south I’m sure she grew up religious and i am so glad she held onto her faith no matter what. 🙏🏼❤️
Now, which exact pixel is Ellen?
Taylor Anstrom LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And you, Taylor Anstrom, shall receive the much-coveted "Best Comment Ever" award, and you so rightly deserve it!
I had just complained to myself about the irritating HUGE pixels, and then I read your comment. Thanks for making me smile!
***** I never saw your comment so I don't suppose I stole it and if you are whining about how many likes you get from random strangers on a random CZcams video you really are leading a sad and boring life. I had no idea I had that many likes nor did I care.. I just post and either people like what I say or they don't. Either way it doesn't matter to me.
Dude, get over it
I was over it the second I hit send. Buh-bye! And for those of you popping pocorn thinking you are settling in to watch a CZcams argument between two people who do not know each other you need to get a live as well. I'm not postong anything else on this stupid topic.
I was abused by my dad, a cop. No one believed me either. it destroyed my childhood
kelli Peterson so sorry that's happend to you
Oana Op thank you.
kelli Peterson may you heal and feel completely restored.
im so sorry
kelli Peterson wow! I'm so sorry to hear that!
That was awful. Sexual abuse alone is awful, but to use breast cancer as a way to it is just absolutely awful, what a sick man. And how could you not believe your own child when they tell you? Ellen has come a long way, bless her.
Hope she forget her Dad and get started healing cause saying here on this video she love men and interviewing Nikki Minaj more recently video that this one; said to her, Nikki ; "you do not a man(k)ind in your life" that is not improving a bit but holding a generalized cover girl's grouchy lifestyle by generalazing and an open attack to men's dignity.
Forgiving will bring her inner peace right on and less tendency to criminalize mankind for what happened to her.
The worse is when the mother refuse to believe. I simply cannot understand and awe that she went through bad experience and yet she had only gratitude to god.a very good lesson.
@Lucia Kuchiki
Hi, Lucia, here's what do I think...next ;
Would it be a valid ilibi to turn my sexuallity away if a woman or man did rape me, Lucia ?
Or like many others victims of rape we do try to regain our sexuality balance and keep resentment at bay so such person can't keep hurting us for the rest of a lifetime.
Hope for the best this comment of me makes sense to you what really can take place after being sexually rape.
That's light at the end of the tunnel knowing others were already there and they did fight back to regain self-confidence in their own sexuality with much of success.
Would you allow other person made primary wrong choices of a great important 'internal descisions' that deprive you to follow your "born-nature" course ?
Let's not throw the towel and internally let's put a real fight against a decision we didn't have to do with, in first place because we didn't consented o agreed with it as many times it may happened.
It won't make a bad person IF a internal spiritual fight took place to makes us stronger like using the stumbling rock to step further and ever looked back into such direction or the lesser as possible.
Can you picture a good Samaritan Christian in you not helping others from your past experiences that made you stronger ? Hope not ! regardless of any little set back.
onteng h Ellen had gratitude to God for blessings she's had come into her life in spite of what her mother and stepfather did. You misread something somewhere, I think. If I missed something, and you can let me know in a nice way, do so.
Rosa Lynn, spelling, subject/verb agreement, and paragraph writing. Get started to school ASAP.
She is the strongest woman i've ever known. She smiles and laugh to hide the pain. But in this interview, you can really see the pain in her eyes.
I love her since the 90s.
"She smiles and laugh to hide the pain." that's what insane people do.
no, that's not what insane people do. what i meant from that was she is not that kind of person who keeps saying what she went through and keep telling her sob story. but she make people laughs and bring joy instead of telling people the pain she gone through.
I can barely see through those pixelated eyes..
akid iskandar Yes! It's always in our eyes! Thank you for seeing it and having compassion ❤
i must say that the older she gets the prettier she gets
She looks amazing for her age. I know people might say she has plastic surgery or Botox, but that's not what I'm saying. I mean shes hilarious in every way, shape and form. Looks don't matter, its the inside. Ellen, dear god have you been blessed by the angels.
That is so true, she is so pretty!
so true
It's 2021 and she looks like one of Peter Jackson's orcs. She went from looking like Owen Wilson to Stan Laurel to something commanded by Sauron.
My stepfather told me He Loves Me Like a wife and not a daughter when I was 11 years old. And when I was 9 years old I was molested by my neighbor for 3 years it ended with him raping me with broken pop bottles. I protected my daughter all these years and I will protect my grandkids when I have them. I've been married for 22 years and he has taught me and helped me so much. I am no longer a victim I am a survivor!
💛💛💛
Barbara: Will you dance? :o
Ellen: No dancing :|
Barbara: No dancing? D:
Ellen: No dancing :|
Barbara: People gonna expect you to dance... :/
Ellen: No... :|
Barbara: No dancing... :\
Ellen: No dancing... :|
Barbara: Mmmm.... :/
*Awkward pause*
Dude I was laughing that whole time !!!
240p. . .We meet again.
240p hitman. . . We meet again.
Jaime Garcia and
Jaime Garcia; i love you
It upsets me so much how people were treated so differently for being gay... These days I didn't know it still existed.. Until My ex boyfriends parents told me I was not aloud to watch Ellen in their house because she is a lesbian.. Mind you I'm 22 and was engaged at the time.. Might explain why I left..
Geez ,not nice
Laura Nanyuli
Your telling me.. I started packing that day.. Nobody fucks with Ellen lol lol
+Prettyflyforawhitegirl lol I bet no one does
+Prettyflyforawhitegirl That ruined your relationship too? Damn.
*****
That plus other reasons.. But I just could not see myself in the family.. What if I had kids with him and then they tried to teach hate... Not having that! haha
Have you had an experience like that?
It would be hard to dislike Ellen.
true
+People's Karmasquad Honestly, I think if you've got a heart in your body, and blood pumping, through it, it's rough
mpossible to dislike her. She is just so beautiful and genuine, and wears her heart on her sleeve, and I think we know that's no easy task. People like her are one in a million. I love Ellen...she brings so much good into the world.
+Peoples KarmaSquad I dislike her, no, I STRONGLY dislike her.
+dragonsky799 I agree.
+Peoples KarmaSquad i think all the dislikes were cuz of the quality of the video not disliking her as a person
The more I learn about her, the more I love her.
Thank you America for Ellen and thank you for making her talkshow work for so many years now.
She's an example for a lot of people, she fought, even when she thought it was over for her, for her career, for her happiness. What a strong and beautiful person !
I can relate to the not being believed when someone molests you. My foster father was a minister. They were a wonderful family from all outward appearances, however in order to keep her husband away from their biological children they adopted me. He molested me from the age of 9-15 and eventually raped me. When I finally told some people in our church they called me a liar and demanded that I leave their home. This has caused scars that will never heal but it also taught me the importance of always speaking up. I feel for everyone in these situations. Later on I found out that my foster mother knew all along but hoped that as I got older I would be able to fend him off by myself.
It never happened. I am who I am today largely because I had no advocate in my corner. I was seen as the dirty and wrong girl who had a big mouth.
Stings.
wow, you and I had the same things happen. I can't believe how much I can relate to your statement. GOD bless you for being able to talk about it! I still have a hard time being so open about it.
jessjay423 bless you jessjay! hugs across the nation.
I'm glad you told !!! So as a child you did your part if the grown folks don't do nothing Thas on them
My Dear child Lugo
There is one that is going to repair everything wrong done to you, please turn to him,
Mark 9:42
“Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea.
D Lugo i am so sorry for you i wish you a stronger impiwering life .be stronger in each and every thought ,move,word and claim your life
A friend just bought a knew home on the Cumberland River in Nashville, and had invested almost all the money her father left her. Suddenly the Nashville flood hit and washed all she had away. Ellen Degeneres some how heard about it and bought her a brand new home and car and all the trimmings. Isn't that love?
That's really nice of Ellen
britney serrano Ellen didn't tell anyone about it. My friend told me and Ellen didn't know her. Lol
**new*
Ronnie Bishop that's nice
Wow magic ❤️
from a sexual abuse victim to the most amazing person in this world
Too be abused by her stephdad and your mother keep living with him because she did not trust you? That myust be hurting ust as well as the abuse!"
Mm
The fact that her mother had had a Mastectomy, now accounts for why she cried in an interview with Emily Bear, when Emily told Ellen that the money from the copyright from one of her songs, was going to Cancer Research as Emily's Grandmother was a breast cancer survivor. Also in another interview with Emily, when they show a photo of the new pet " a mini Golden doogle"(?), and the similarity of the dog which Ellen had adopted off the street. Ellen was so enthusiastic and laughed at the similarity.
I find it irrelevant whether she is gay (whatever you want to call it), it does not come over in her presentations and until this event has never mentioned it, nor since. It takes courage to disclose the information she does particularly about the fact that she was abused as a child; to a certain degree it may account for why she has an "affection" for women since it would appear she cannot trust men (and not unreasonably) .
I am a straight male, but would never hold the fact she has attraction to the same sex, as an issue. The only time I get cross with gay people, is when they try to assert their sexuality on other people. Ellen has never done that in any of her shows, and the way she deals with children is a model to all adults on how a child should be treated. Perhaps it because her father interfered with her as a child, is why she feels so at ease and empathetic to people who have been in distress.
You have done nothing wrong Ellen, you are very brave to "come out", even though I didn't thing that you needed to do so- people should take you for what you are: a caring person, as demonstrated with the way you interview your guests and in paticular children.
You always treat them with respect, and I have noticed that when you greet children you always get down to their height by kneeling down and giving them a hug. You are certainly not a risk, and will keep reviewing this board to see your shows.
My very best wishes and commendation for your bravery in disclosing what you did and the fact that you cared for your lost dog endorses you humanity.
Chris R.
London.
I've so much respect for Ellen. Her saying thank you to God is so heartwarming. Love you Ellen 😘
god made her gay so what's up with god?
+L J Ward I am agree with you
She's an amazing individual. Her last name should be spelled DeGENEROUS because that's what she is. Generous, unselfish and REAL!
Its really Degenerate.
True! Always kind, real on, or off stage or at home! I used to deliver things to her house and she always welcomed me in so warmly.
This didn't age well , lol
The only thing I can think of is "HOW CAN SHE STILL LOOK SO YOUNG NOW"
Esmée Jackson The only explanation is she's a vampire...
+nicktesla45 hehehee .u made my day
nicktesla45 😂😂
she is vegan
She eats at the "Y"
I don't know if I were able to forgive my mother for not believing me...
I wouldn't
I couldn't
i seriously love ellen. whenever i'm depressed, whenever i feel low, i watch her and watch her show and it always helps. she is such a strong person and has been through so much in her life. my life goal, my bucket list, is to meet ellen and go on her show. she is truly one amazing woman.
I love Ellen!:) Sadly I was abused by a teacher at 13:( I have known my sexuality my whole life now age 23. Abuse doesn't define your sexual preferences. Anyone who says otherwise is using that as an excuse to not be accepting.
There's actually statistics that show a correlation between abuse and homosexuality (not in every case of course)- and people don't use that to avoid being accepting but to try to help people who are hurting! I'm sorry you were abused.
I agree with you, I remember telling my abuser I was gay to try to get him to stop, he didnt. J also told him I was taken, 15, and just not interested, nothing worked.
Ellen is one of the greatest human beings alive
agree
agree
Why what has she done that's so great?
Why what has she done that's so great?
She is so sweet. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Gay or not gay. Who cares! She is an awesome human being.
If I were to ever meet Ellen, my life would be complete. She is such an inspiration to me.
Same
My parents are divorcing and I'm 13. I make my mom laugh when she cries. ELLEN UNDERSTANDS ME!!!!
Good luck. Ellen is a example we can be happy whatever happens
Maris I Ture. :3
I'm sorry for You, been in a same place. Just remember that the fact Your parents are divorcing doesn't mean that the true love doesn't exist. And that You're a beautiful human being and it's not Your fault at all. Good luck!
Omg... I didnt know the sexual abuse story. omg... Its just too much she had to experience.
+JamesClark ISR Yeah indeed, i really dont believe in the possibility of something or someone to change your sexual orientation. I do believe that it can change (from only gay to bi for example) in time. yes she is very grateful, i love her, she's such an amazing human being!
+Anna Heart You can't understand because you've never been in that situation. It's normal for a girl to date guys at first because that's what everyone expect you to do.
But sometimes it just feels wrong. It's not the same ''wrong'' that you are talking about. It's something else. It's a completely different feeling. You can't judge since you never felt it and can't understand what it is.
+Anna Heart most gay people date people of the other sex at first as they're desperate to be straight because of prejudiced idiots who think it's wrong, or that being gay is a choice.
Anna Heart trying to provoke me with the handicapped comment haha. Ok troll have fun
+Anna Heart a lot of straight people get sexualy abused too, that should get reasearch too dont you think, and dating people of a gender you dont like is called experimentation, you can think you are straight because thats what is expected so you date boys 'cause thats what you are supposed to do, until you explore you'll find out if you really like boys, or girls, or both, or all, or neither, most people start assuming they are straight, until they decide to experiment or aknoleage any other parts of them they really know
Ellen makes the world a better place❤️
Just like Oprah , Right ?
" I got nothing but gratitude , my whole life " made my tears fall down right away 💛
Save your tears. She just said that for the cameras.
She is a total ingrate and a mean, miserably horrible person.
I just admire Ellen so much.
+Carol Campbell Why?
+Carol Campbell Me too. She is so honest wiyh her feelings and the people. She has a good hurt.
ikr,I think she is amazing &so funny ,quick witted ,I didn't know about the abuse she us so strong an as u say an inspiration
Me toooo. She is a really strong woman!!!
Which pixel is Ellen?
Yuki Loner fucking crying
Yuki Loner Lmao
Incidentally, this is a very Ellen joke
Yuki Loner q
RileyBlackery the one wearing a pantsuit
Why are humans so obsessed with sexuality and relationships? Do I really care who anyone sleeps with in private, or if you decide not to sleep with anyone at all?
I used to be like that. I thought gay people were weird and gross, but then a girl I dated in high school I found out was bi sexual and she convinced to come with her to a meeting with the schools gsa club, it changed my whole world when it came to people not just gay people but people in general. arguably the biggest lesson I learned in high school is, the way we treat others should not be determined by the people we fall in love with.
lionel wraithwood Yep. Life is too short to go about judging other people's business. Besides, That phenomenon could happen to one's family member or child, then one would stop judging. However, here in Africa it is worse. Where I am, if you are grown up not married, nobody respects you and you'll be pushed around and insulted. If you are gay they kill you.
Always-Stay-Positive because people don't think in this way all the time.
Always-Stay-Positive I agree .do you. have to tell the world about it?...seriously.....you are agrown adult ...something very personal... wow now the whole world is a mess..camon ellen. Grow up have some decency...
Riiiiggghhht!!! Exactly. I speak the same way. Who cares is exactly the word to use.
Am I the only one watching how beautiful she was when she was younger?
Personally I think Ellen is more beautiful now than she has ever been. She is literally like fine wine from which her personality is what makes up more than half of her beauty. Prime example that personality trumps physical beauty in all aspects.
I agree that Ellen is more beautiful now. I mean, she always was gorgeous, but she never looked really happy or at piece with herself.. Now, she's still gorgeous, aging beautifully, and her smile is genuine. And that type of smile is perfection.
She's still beautiful
Yeah, back before she made herself look like a guy!
She's beautiful then, yes but omg she's so stunning now!
I like how she's funny without being crude.This is old footage, but all the same. I'm truly sorry for what she had to go through.
Ellen is a BEAUTIFUL person.
I cringed when she kissed the men. I'm a gay woman so I know how that must have felt
Girl it's just a kiss .Nothing hard about that lol.
Steven pie Theories
+Steven pie Theories nope that's hard if you are gay.
She kisses guys anyway. If you watch her show when some of the guy guests come out they kiss on the lips.
Talking Movies that's totally different . we're talking about a queer person kissing an opposite sex person as 'love interest' on a show . difficult . just as it is difficult for a straight person to play a queer person on tv ... if that role includes intimacy
Dammmnn, Barbara. Back at it again with the hard questions.
Waaaab
I'm glad I'm gay, it's forced me to overcome many obstacles in life that straight people will never deal with. I've matured more quickly, become more understanding, and become more open to other people's lifestyles.
It takes a lot to come to terms with who you really are - and some people never are forced to deal with that. I feel sorry to straight people in that sense, they never have that exact opportunity to grow up in that emotional way.
others have to overcome much worse things than being gay
iLikeTurtles You missed my point entirely.
iLikeTurtles But, then again I didn't exact make the point I was making upon review.
I'm not saying it's the most difficult obstacle to overcome, but I'm saying it's an obstacle that forces a person to reflect and be introspective and be strong enough to admit who they are - in any environment.
Once again I AM NOT saying this is the worst possible obstacle for an individual to overcome.
thanks for clearing that up...sorry I was being stupid lol :)
ponyongberdugo Did you even read my comment?
Wow! She said that she liked men a lot, but prefer women. My ex husband’s aunt was like that too. His aunt was absolutely lesbian in every way, but still found men sexually attractive. That’s something else. I just learned something new.
We can count how many mothers do believe when their daughters talk about sexual abuse....or maybe they just pretend/ prefer not to believe it because they don't want to be alone or depend on that man to survive. It's sad.
If you would use lipstick you would be hot!
mrkeepitreal5436 *silently whispers* that wasn't disrespectful
@@mrkeepitreal5436 red lipstick?
Have alot of respect for this women. She is brave and strong and it is just a pity we cannot photocopy her a million times. Best of luck to her.
I teared up when she said "thank you." What a truly beautiful soul she has!!!
She deserves all her success...after what she went through...the strength of a laugh!
I wish Ellen could be immortal, like she's amazing 😍 I adore her so much.
+emily way Her legacy will live on and make her immortal
TELL SOMEONE WHO GIVES A SHIT,WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT,ATTENTION,
DONT YOU HAVE ENOUGH,YOU GOT IDIOTS WHO SAY THEY ADORE YOU,INSTEAD
OF EVEN LIKING THEIR MAKER,FUNNY WORLD FUNNY WEIRDOS....
+Hasnah Abdull what
+Hasnah Abdull Wtf are you talking about. This girl wants no attention.
Hasnah Abdull
Thanks for commenting.. We needed the token crazy person
I know this is such old news but I've only just found out about this Ellen story. I just wish i had heard about it sooner to be honest! It might have given me confidence. Let me just say i know how it feels to not be believed, and i admire Ellen so much more now after hearing this, and that she was able to become such a strong and empowering female role model through doing what she loves. Inspiring!
I'm 22 and neither of my parents or family (except my sister) know about the abuse i suffered from age 8 to age 19. At age 14 i started self harming and the school brought my parents in to a meeting about it. Later on at 15 years old, i came to my parents and said "i think i am depressed". My dad turned around and said "don't be so fucking stupid, you're only 15, how can you be depressed? I have a friend at work who is depressed so i know what it is like. If you were depressed, you wouldn't be able to even get out of your bed each morning". My mum simply shrugged and walked away. I also had a previous experience of someone trying to abduct me at age 13/14 and my parents said that what i was telling them didn't add up and they told me straight to my face that i was lying. From that moment on i knew they would never believe anything that i ever told them. I would love to be able to tell them and make them realise that they could've been much better parents and still can be to my 17 year old sister, but when they wont even believe the simplest thing, why bother? They still don't know to this day what i have been through in my life and i don't know if i will ever tell them for this exact same reason.
I wish that parents wouldn't do things like this to their children. Why would a child lie? Especially at such a young age. Simple answer is, they wouldn't. What is wrong with people?
+TheEllenShow
I relate to you so much!!! I'm 21, I have depression and also self harm. I have made suicide attempts, my first one being I was 13, I wrote a suicide note and my parents found it, my father just mocked me and my mother threw the idea, like nothing happened. Same thing happened when I was sexually assaulted, I ended up in the hospital for a suicide attempt and was disavowed with major depression. I still self harm, really bad, I recently told my grandma that I'm suicidal and she said that its a sin, she told my mother and my mother said, what could she be depressed for like ....ugh, no one will understand until I'm dead, dying is the only answer.
Wow, I can't believe her own mother could have done this to her! I just hope I always believe my children when they are telling the truth.
ZosiaSamosiaOo me to I hope so too 🙈🙊❤️😘
ZosiaSamosiaOo my mother did the same to me. I don't love her. Sometimes I think I hate her. That's all very complicated.
I myself i am Gay and was a victim of sexual assult when i was young 6 or 7 yrs old . I haven't spoken about it to my mother and family because i just don't want my family not to believe me, i am scared.
Don't be scared of speaking the truth. If it's to hard to say out loud write it down in a letter.
+Ingrid G i have tried that before, but thinking about it gets me all emotional and i stop
im really sorry to hear that. i just wanted to let you know that im here for you and so are many others. tell your family when your ready and you feel safe and comfortable. if they don't believe you they're assholes. everything's going to be okay and your family loves you no matter what. you're not alone and there's so many people that love and support you and help is available whenever you need it. hope you're doing okay. x
Thank you so very much!
Were all here for you if you need support xcc
i love Ellen, she's funny as hell, she dances, she is very generous, hip and she loves black people!! So she's ok wit me...
Damn right lol
+Compton Queen im from Compton too! Cool....
Ellen is such a beautiful human being. she is so strong yet so humble at the same time. Shes honestly an inspiration. What she went through is terrible and i wish she didnt live those things but thats life... Even people who seem so happy all the time have gone through some tough times. But everything you experience in life builds you. I am so glad through all of this she stayed strong and didnt let all of this turn her cold. She deserves the best in life. LOVE YOU ELLEN!!
Thanks for the 240p. ;)
I think she needs to get to know god more. The joy and tears she shows at the end is nothing compared to the joy he brings when you have a relationship with him. God is awesome and his mercy and grace surpass any human intellect.
Not everybody wants a relationship with an imaginary friend in the sky.
ragazziita he's not imaginary. He's real. Pursue him. Try reading the bible sometime and see for yourself. I'm not going to debate with you on whether God is real or not. If you want to believe we are germs or some gas created this beautiful world and our beautiful species you go ahead. That's between you and God.
GodHatesAmericas MurderingSoldiers God hates the sin not the man or woman. Watching pornography and homosexuality is not different. It's lust and sexual immorality. Repent and confess your sins to God and pray for strength and he will give you his grace and mercy. In the name of Jesus I pray to you my father, have mercy on all of us. Amen.
Joseph Martinez I believe in God. God created our sexuality and had a purpose for it. I understand all that. I need to understand more as to why God did it this way sometimes. I mean I wonder if this is the only option he had. I mean on the one hand you have this situation that if a person is not hurting or affecting anyone else what is the problem? There has to be a deeper reason as to why it's sin and God is against it. I tried to imagine the world in the way people see it today. Like porn and homosexuality as being innocent and nothing wrong with it. What would that mean? There is something connected to the fact that there is something driving people to it. And something driving people away from it. What does it all mean?
rick valentino excuse me but i am bisexual and i have a relationship with God....
NO ONE IS IN ANY POSITION TO JUDGE EXCEPT FOR GOD!!! So you being judgmental you're not being a person of God. You're being ignorant. God loves all his children equally no matter what sexuality they are.
Ellen is an amazing human being! She is so kind and so humble. Her heart is in all the right places. You can tell she genuinely cares for fellow human beings and for animals. Everything she is and does truly speaks to her character ❤️
The most modest, honest, inspiring and beautiful woman in the industry!! She deserves the utmost respect
Such a strong woman. And also she is very attractive and charming. Look at her eyes and blonde hair. And her smile :) Such an inspiring woman!
strong? she was "sexually abused" so now she's abusing other women who are just as mental as she is and you call that strong? the only thing she inspires me to do is to find an uglier female than her and for years i had no success.
kmica2008 Okay troll
I love Ellen, gay or straight! I don't care... ty Lord for giving us Ellen!
+Myong Chev Exactly...what difference does it make? And that goes for everybody.
+Lisa DiConti what difference does what make? ?? gay or straight? well I have people in my group that thinks Ellen is straight and is only gay on tv, but Ellen came out of the closet some time ago I believe. ... so I say gay or not!!!! do you have an issue with my comment? ?? last I remember, I lived in the USA... freedom of speech. ....
Myong Chev I was agreeing with you that it doesn't matter what somebody's sexual preference is. I'm sorry that I sounded like I was disagreeing with you.
+Lisa DiConti I do love Ellen, her comedy is priceless and she just seems to be a great person on tv.... I'm very glad you agree, thank you!!! my new "Ellen" friend!
+Myong Chev I come from a place where people condemn others while transgressing. I say, this is someone's business if they are gays, it does not make them infamous.
I've heard a good few times about stepfathers abusing stepdaughters. It's upsetting stuff.
Who would've thought that such a wonderful, most precious, loving, caring, beautiful and hilarious woman like Ellen could have a dark past...I cried my heart inside out for you Ellen. Anyone is soooo lucky to be around you, especially Portia. I'm not gay and my religion is against homosexuality, but, Ellen is just too damn good at making my day a lot better. I never missed her show, even afterwards, I kept repeating her show on youtube over and over because her smile and her humor makes me feel comfortable. She always has the best jokes and lines in her humor that I will never forget. Anyway, Happy New Year guys! can't believe it's 2017 already!
thats so stupid of her mother not believing her own daamn it daughter and trusts her second husband !
Dumb bitch!!! Am I rite !!!
that's the whole point of life: to life truth.
if she seeks truth in all it's ways and manners - worry not for her.
be concerned for those who think they are superior to her b/c they carry a different cross.
peace.
My family tossed me out of the family boat when I confronted my brother about abuse . Parents don’t want to believe , it doesn’t serve their egos as a perfect family
I think Ellen really paved the way for lesbians to be more comfortable with coming out and herself and her wife Portia are a stunning couple xxx
Ummmm Portia was famous before herself and Ellen became a couple you Idiot, have you ever heard of a little series called Ally Mcbeal ? duh! Also Kathrine Moening is gay and simply sexy beyond belief besides that Ellen is attractive herself !
I'm not used to seeing ellen being with men.
Same
Hi,so. Sorry to go through abuse,always remember every cloud has a silver lining.Take care,you are doing extremely well.Keep going forward.God Bless you in everything you do!Margaret from uk.Wishing you a very merry Christmas and a Happy and prosperous New Year!xx
I love Ellen! She's so kind. She doesn't do mean comedy. She doesn't put people down. She's terrific.
ISIS got higher quality videos and they're in the middle of god damn desert.
LMAOO this was made 9 years ago though
ISIS is in Iraq and Syria, there are more than four rivers there
UnderConstructionMan Marsy Hahahaha really, I have friends who fleed from Syria and they saw that happening themselves
It's called DAESH btw
Mohamed Algouhary
no you are lying. those who dying are not the normality of people. those who dying are the poeple who passed the line only. they get killed because they want to disagree with the system. not because they are just "human beings walking"
Aw damn I cried. Damn you, Walters.
"She didn't believe me." I completely get that. When your parents won't believe you when you are assaulted, it's pretty soul crushing. Being a parent and an adult, there were a lot of inner obstacles to overcome and still deal with. It's never okay to call your six year old daughter a liar, let alone any age, when it pertains to abuse.
How brave was Ellen during that interview, I know so many people that couldn't have spoken about the things she spoke about there and showed the bravery and resilience that she did.
I read all these comments on people saying that homosexuality is wrong... and it almost makes me afraid to say that I am straight. I am ASHAMED to be straight because a lot of straight people say absolute horrors about homosexuals, and it just makes me so embarrassed...
I wanted to marry Ben Heath........... "Hi Ben!"
Uhh...
what a brave young woman she must have been. i know what she went through ( and i am heterosexual) you can regain your power over it, but it never leaves you completely. but that's good because of it you have an excellent radar to protect other children. i really like her, generous, kind, humble, grateful.
I was feeling so bad when I heard that her show was canceled because she declared her sexuality,I mean I realized how much do judging hurts ,the people were perceiving her totally different.Anyway her whole story is really inspirational,she is happy and grateful after all the unhappy events she got through , doing something big with her life.
I choked up, and I hugged my computer. :(
What ?? Ellen is 58 ?? No way !!
damn. Ellen has been through some terrible shit. It's the worst feeling to be hurt by someone who is supposed to be your guardian. Props to her for succeeding through the roof.
so much compassion!! so much courage and so much to be thankful for. We all should feel this way.. this made me cry. :)
i was molested by my cousins an uncle an raped by a family friend my life was an is never the same its been 19 years
I am so sorry that happened to you. You may not be the same, but I hope you're okay.
Oh my god. That I awful. Keep your head up that makes me wanna cry... that's
so sick!
Find someone who does EFT, that will get you over the difficult emotions.
+Jackson Scully i suffer from depression and recently my only support my mom deid 7 months now and its been very hard to deal with .it makes me getting into relationships so difficult am just 60%of the time
+Erika t thank u
what an inspiration.
What I love about Ellen is her humor is not crude or hurtful towards anyone.
What Ellen said at the end of the video truly blessed my soul and empowered my spirit. Thank you for posting this it was completely inspiring...touched my soul.
I was sexually abused by my mom's husband too and my mom didn't believe me either. So I know that feeling
That's horrible, it's disgusting how parents won't even believe their own children. I'm so sorry that happened to you, hope everything's going well for you!
Omg I'm crying!!!! Your amazing Ellen 😢😊
You're amazing.
marishana meyer aaaw thanks
That really inspired me. I'm bisexual and I haven't really come out yet. Thank you. This Ellen is who I want to become. Continue making smile!!
thank you helen x your being so sincere and transparent.
I never knew she was sexually abused. That's so sad :(
I love Ellen, my grandma other loved Ellen, WWII wife, my grandma was so old school Christian values, but loved Ellen, cause she was true, a true soul, caring, funny, and real! Didn't matter if she was gay or not, she still loved Ellen and so do I!
Jenny Storti Necastro a
What's the name of the song (00:00 to 00:47)?
Thanks for reading
did you record this with a potato?
I'm glad she was able to go on and forgive her mother and have a great relationship with her mother.
I love that she thanks God, funny and spiritual :)
wen she sad that she whants to spek to god i got mad but wen she sad i will say thank u i got soooo happy because she respacts other relgins and its so nice of her and my love 2 ellen gets biger and biger evry day
+Haula Awadalla what the fuck?
+Haula Awadalla Is english your first language lmao
+Duatin G. her name seems to be arabic so probably not.
i love this interview :-) despite the awful quality...
Thank you Ellen so much for all you have done for everybody,you are one of my heroes. I watch you, I learned from you, I love you! You are amazing. I recently moved to Florida from Oregon where I was feeding the homeless underneath the bridge every Saturday and Sunday night even when I didn't have it to give I still gave, because I had a house, a family, people who loved me and I knew that I would be okay. the feeling you get when you help somebody is phenomenal thank you for all you do for people you are truly a godsend
This just breaks my heart. I have absolutely adored her for as long as i can remember and i don't think there was ever a time i didn't know that she was gay. I've just always admired her.. my little girl and my sister do as well.. she's so genuine and warm hearted. I hate knowing that something so horrid happened to someone so wonderful. She brightens up the lives of millions of people, despite what she went through. I wish i could tell her how much i admire her.
love her... she's always been 100% genuine
I really find a lot of inspiration from this video. Ellen in general is an inspiring person, but this video specifically really gets me.
I am also a gay woman who has a history of sexual abuse. I've had people ask me if that's why I'm gay, I've had people tell me flat out that's why I'm gay like they know what they're talking about, and I've had people tell me I don't have to be afraid of men because one or two took advantage of me. And it's really great to know I'm not the only one who gets those questions and those remarks from people just because I happen to have a past like that and be a lesbian.
Thanks so much to Ellen for sharing this story with the world.
Ellen I too was abused by my step father. He will get his reward on judgment day. You have so much courage and love for people. I love watching your show. I have 4 grown daughters and 7 beautiful grandchildren God blessed me with. I battle severe depression from a lifetime of abuse from men in my life someday I hope to be free and live my own life.If you can do it so can I much love