Dr. K Talks with Reckful about Loneliness and Abandonment [Pt. 4]
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- čas přidán 29. 07. 2024
- Reckful is doing better, but still feels lonely, where does this come from?
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when he said “ill be here two years with you” i straight up cried
same T.T
Imagine if we all had someone like that in our lives. One person can make such a difference.
Same
omg im crying as well omg
R.I.P Reckful
"It's that feeling where you wanna get a hug."
That instantly brought me to tears.
same.. been rewatching this couple times, I am absolutely at my lowest right now. Hope you are doing okay
why?
@@claire6223 They probably want a hug.
47:25 “I’m not counting on them to spend 2 years with you...I’m counting on myself.” That breaks my heart. Dr K. is such a fucking gem of a human being and so is Rekful. I wasn’t familiar with Rekful until his passing (I don’t play WoW or the other games he plays) but I’ve come to respect and empathize with him through these interviews. The world is a dark place right now. Hopefully it gets brighter. Thank you for helpling and reaching out to so many. Or maybe not helping, just being human, like you said. It makes perfect sense.
I haven't watched reckful streams before. Every time I would see him on youtube of some clips or something, I always thought he was kind of a bummer. But I am watching this series with Dr K and can relate to reckful so much, I had no idea what he was going trough. I want to see where did he go wrong in his journey and change myself for the better.
I had only heard the legend Reckful in passings with other streamers. Positive influence in their lives now gone in a snap.
same
@fiona gavan He died in July of the same year this interview was recorded.
Unfortunately he had to walk that statement back in their next stream
As a psychology student I find this educational, and as a human being, therapeutic.
Better than any lecture I've ever sat in, Dr.K is a gift.
same here
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very interessting youtube name i wanna subcribe but i wont
the feels though
"I'm gonna try to love you for two years", okay so I just up & cried after this line
I'll miss you, Byron. I was really, really rooting for you.
Jesus that man just repeated my thoughts back to me "I look for family in my freinds"
He always seemed to be more of a brother to many streamers than a friend.
"Family isn’t always blood. It’s the people in your life who want you in theirs, the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and who love you no matter what. So be thankful for what you have.”
I have few friends but those friendships are for life no matter the distance or time I'd help to my last drop of blood and if they came with a body I would help dispose the body, no questions asked. A promise I wouldn't make to my blood brother.
Found family is not only a trope, it happens in real life too.
That said, deep friendships need work like any other type of relationships 🌿
(This is such a sad video, retrospectively ✨)
French song "Famille" Jean-Jacques Goldman (it's old, but still highly recommend, if you can find lyrics 's translation)
The saddest thing in this video is at the 30 minute mark when dr k says that he sees aching loneliness in reckful and he just bursts out crying. Its like he doesnt have Real friend Who are there for him, likd he feels like People have givem up on him and at tthat point its not Hard to not give up on yourself. So sad man, RIP you will be missed.
heres the thing with mental illness, he could have had a real friend and this would still be his mindset
@@gossim well taking strong anti-depressant like pcilocybin certainly wont help brain chemistry to get good, they only help to get through the day/rough. If you dont do anything "new" then u are on the same path... and we know where this path ended.
No one has real friends. “Friends” mean nothing in this life they are only there for enjoyment or to use each other. Having no belief in friends and believing in yourself only is the only way to live.
@@Manwhocares4u Close friends can be like family though, you wouldn't say the same thing about family...
I could see it from the start of the video tbh I knew he wasn’t doing good
"This is me being human and you being human " - I really liked that phrase. Sometimes we just need someone to talk to about what we're going through, not for the sake of "help" only - but to let go of social weight and understanding, it doesn't always have to be an act of "charity" as he put it.
yes i felt that too
Hi Dr. K, thanks to your videos I have started to seek help from a therapist to finally deal with my father's death, 13 years ago. I have much to thank you for being so helpful and insightful and reckful for giving you the needed exposure. Without knowing, he is fullfilling his desire to help others and prevent harm by giving you a broader audience. I hope I do get better as time passes and I become mentally healthy. Much love from Portugal
FeelsStrongMan
@@geo5440 Glad to say, ever since those 5 months that I have seen a psychologist and I've progressed a lot. Anxiety and death were dealt with. Seeing Reckfuls passing made me crash mentally, and I quickly came back to my old ways... an inspiration and model were shattered
@@rippedshoe9998 thats sucks man. keep going and doing what you are happy with, do not think about it too much, eventhough it does suck to see such an inspiration to so many pass...
@@rippedshoe9998 good to hear that bro 😁
@@rippedshoe9998 That's sad to hear how Reckful's passing was so hard on you, but I think he can still be a role model and inspiration in many ways. It takes courage to make your mental state public like he did. It's not about the destination but the journey and Reckful did try his best to have a good journey and share it with the world despite it coming to an end prematurely.
This hit me hard. Ive seen everything to date and the particular thing on abandonment is something I resonate with so deeply.
As a doctoral student in clinical psychology, I wanted to mention that I am so inspired by your boldness to do what you do. In a strange way reminding me of Mr. Rogers and how you two have decided to approach taking care of people. I feel motivated to do this kind of work that challenges traditional approaches when I am more developed in my career.
read baldness I'm destroyed...
how is that field, i'm 16 and that's what i want to do post- hs
@@BingBongRockety I think it depends. I would take a couple of classes in psychology to see if you like it first and maybe get some work experience prior to making that commitment. For me, I would say the work is incredibly meaningful and I personally enjoy it.
@@TheGrizzlyP okay cool,
how do i willpower plz
I genuinely appreciate the vulnerability everyone who comes on your twitch stream shows. its has been amazing too see and really feel others struggles.
Would be amazing to see the transformation Reckful makes in 2 years. Hoping for the best!
Some Guy On The Internet god this hurts man... we were all so positive
@@vlazurah789 Yes, this hurts so much. I'm still having trouble accepting the fact that he's gone. This hurts so damn much. I sincerely hope he is in a better place now. See you in heaven, Reckful!
):
Rest in peace reckful, he brought me so much joy and was an advocate for openness about mental health. May his memory be a beacon and guidance for us all
This breaks my heart. I just found this for the first time, and I was ready to go to his channel and subscribe. I wish more people were as sincere and caring as him. Now I'm gonna cry even more from this video.
What you are doing is fantastic. While I don't suffer the way reckful does and I'm happy, I felt for him and it hit hard. It's great seeing someone as compassionate and empathic as you are, Dr. K
I can relate to this so hard its almost scary. it's crazy when you realize you're not alone and other people are a lot like you.
Epic gamer moment 47:25
Wholesome
In its utmost definition
@@GONGBONKERS literally
My man Dr.K, chat must've been spamming pogs
Didn't really age well
I am listening to this and just now hearing on social media that he committed suicide.. Damn, i thought he was seeing the light at the end of the dark tunnel with dr.k..
RIP Reckful
I think he did. But that was back in January. Then major lockdowns happened and isolation became a fact. Seeing his twitter posts now, I wonder if he relapsed into old habits. :(
@@Flaxeron yup i think if it wasnt for corona virus and quarantine Reckful would have continued his path forward and he still might be alive today...
@@admiralaokiji7889 he might have, but you cannot say that for sure
@@admiralaokiji7889 what a bullshit he was like this long before corona..a friend wrote that he tried to kill himself 2 months ago.
Its hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when your eyes adjust to the darkness. RIP
Scary how much I can relate to Reckful. AOE healing it really is.
how are you doing bro?
@@Vaithen lol
@@Vaithen I'm okay, thanks for asking :)
@@fuzzypones9558 thats good, take care of yourself bro :)
@@Vaithen will do :3 You too!
People need more hugs, more hearts in the chat. Nobody deserves to feel alone like that
Thoughts and prayers
sending you a virtual hug one yr later
I still look back at these videos. They help me a lot and its the only time I cry. I stopped crying from tragedies or anything else, but this is the only thing that makes me want to cry.
I really needed this video and Im so thankful to reckful for opening up about this topic because i myself cant so its really helpful to some extent tyvm really
holy i wish i would of seen this talk so much sooner, this is so insightful
I know it's odd for me to comment so late after original posting, but I only found Dr K recently and followed an organic path to his vids w/Reckful. I've now watched several hours to make it to pt 4 w/Reckful ,even though I know the end of the story that is coming. Internally, I felt a calling to watch this at first, but now I'm struck by how honest and moving Reckful is with his sharing. I hate that he felt the only choice was the one he made, but it really is changing my personal experience with these same topics. Reckful-- if you can see this from wherever you are or in your next life -you made a difference in the the life of another human being - mine. Rest in Peace and thanks so much for helping to guide some of us who know how you felt. Reck's Dad and family- I'm imagining it can't make any difference for you, but the experience of your sons reached alot of folks, even after. My sincerest hopes for your peace.
he can't
Man, this is powerful stuff
most wholesome session confirmed
This was so helpful, thank you.
I struggle with suicidal feelings and possible BPD as well and this was a great conversation. Sad to learn of this mans passing in the comments but I’m sure you made a difference in his life even if he eventually lost his battle. I know that this definitely helped me!
Reckful coming in sober made this much better than last session. He comes across as more authentic and I think this session was more productive (and wholesome).
Also I hope Reckful joining weekly (or bi-weekly) will be a thing for a while, he almost gives of co-host vibes and his personal story is interesting and it has so much stuff in it that people can relate to. And he deserves to heal and feel better about himself.
I didn't know who Reckful was before these videos. He's such a genuine, lovely person and I hope he knows a whole lot of people really care about him. Thank you Dr. K for your amazing work.
He has his good days and bad days. Check out on youtube his argument with becca. It's like a 12 min video.
Not judging or anything btw. We all have a bit of darkness within us.
Well I definitely cried at that pivotal moment, on the freeway no less. Amazing.
I feel the only thing keeping me feeling alright is these videos.
1:12:44 You gave him the validation he had been looking for back then (5-6 months ago) I felt it for him and his face told us all. such a shame he couldnt hold on, RIP Reckful 😢
I relate to connecting with other people who have been through trauma. I'm finding out more and more that I simply can't be close to people who haven't lived through trauma because they simply can't understand what I've been through, understand the difficulties and being low and then surviving and thriving. If someone's life has been rather "easy and blessed", there is just a slight disconnect because no matter how well intentioned they are and try to empathize, they just can't.
Its always weird when I'm scrolling through Dr Ks comments and hit the end. This guy deserves way more reach!
this video is fresh
Looks like he got his reach, unfortunate how it had to come into light.
Im so glad i found this channel
Love the Reckful interviews the most :)!
Although these interviews are amazing, Rest In Peace Reckful, I cannot bring myself to watch this before it brings tears to my eyes and I have to stop.
I myself suffer from Bipolar, I can relate to some things he says I cannot bring myself to watch such a tragedy.
What happened, his battle, was the worst case scenario. He was trying his best to appear normal but it’s just too much to watch and I’m sorry.
I wish I could get the kind of help reckful is, Hope he gets to be happy 💚
Great as always.
It really breaks my heart watching these knowing how his story ends. I really wish things had gone differently and he was still with us and happy. RIP man😔💔💔
I've been watching these videos all day. I relate so much to who Reckful was in terms of crippling lonliness. I personally also deal with extreme anxiety. These two emotions make me depressed most of the time which often makes me wonder if all the pain is worth it. It scares me because I don't see a future in which I'm still here in a couple years. The only thing that pushes me day to day is the the pain it would bring my family. I crave for something else to live for. It sucks but all I can do is continue fighting each day.
RIP Reckful. I loved watching him play WoW back in the day and still wish he was here.
There will be a better day for you.
Hi man how are you doing. You only get what you get yourself so dont think about the future maybe have some achievable goals rather
@@xxm0abxx5 I'm still getting by. Been trying to be healthier this year and I recently reached out to my friend about what I've been dealing with. He's been a big help.
@@GoodxLad nice man nothing like great friends. I also recommend reading good books. I recommend Burning Souls by Leon Degrelle and CS Lewis books
You are doing a great service, I knew this something people needed back in 2012 when I was working in midwest. I remember working in Jeffersonville Indiana and I they didnt have internet or phones yet, I was able to get off the internet and all those distractions and made a lot of friends. I also went to Louisville university which they had a gamer day in maid cafeteria, which helped them set up their network and assign ips. Everyone showed off their computer system and made friends. Everyone buys their parts from newegg in el montes which my friends visit. I take them down there, but I am not a gamer anymore, but I have friends who just need others. Downey California
I'm watching whole series with Reckful and i found so much me in it, that's bizarre. Dr.k was so dedicated to this friendship, wanted to spent with him 2 years. Im so sorry that was too much for Recful, poor guy.
This is so human, I can understand some of Reckful's pain but obvious not all. Reckful if you read this this random viewer since you first started streaming is proud. Thank you Dr K for all you do.
29:50 Holy damn gave words to such a prevalent feeling
Watching this while in the emergency room for a schizophrenic breakdown I thank you for being able to distract me from what I’m going through right now.
I hope you're doing better
Charli I’m still fighting my battles
@@PLASMODAGAMER keep fighting dude. Could you give me a breakdown of your breakdown?
@@xxm0abxx5 yea I got really attached this one girl fell in love kinda quick we lasted a little over a year but this day was the first time she ever blocked me or ghosted me I went into a full state of panic and got my mom out of bed to bring me to the ER so I could wait it out and calm down
@@xxm0abxx5 constant voices imitating her or old conversations we had in addition to voices that put me down and make me believe I’m not good enough which inevitably was projected onto her and drove her out of my life pretty sure it got to be too much for her so she started saying things like “your problems are your problems, my problems are my problems” and I’d just try my best to be not too much on her, but now she’s gone and it’s hard to think of what she could be doing rn
I never knew who Reckful was but I was enamored by Dr. K and how much I related to his streams. Now that Reckful is gone, I'm now watching each of his sessions and damn...I relate to Reckful a lot. He seems like such an authentic guy who needs love and someone to carry him. I think each video I watch will make this sadder. :(
Absolutely love both of these dudes
I just.... can't stand social media
I miss the days when I talked to people face to face.... I sound like an old man longing for the "old days" but if I've learned anything, its that your feelings *are* real: they affect how you act.
i agree that people need to talk more face to face but i dont blame social media for that its just a tool being used wrong by many.
The first time I watched this, I cried so many times not understanding why. I just thought it was because it was emotional. 10 months later, I watched this again and cried just the same, but now understanding how fear of abandonment has been the biggest source all my pain. I feel like I can finally get better. I hope HG does more on the topic of abandonment.
reckful was so adorable and so sweet i would have dreamed to have of been his friend, i'm so heartbroken and pained to hear about what happened to him.
This guy is such a loving man, I have deep respect for him
Just discovered Reckful and Dr. K recently. Watching this series is like getting into a great anime only knowing that the main character dies. RIP Reckful. Wish I knew about you earlier... But at least now I learned about the amazing Dr. K! I'm looking forward to his story arch :)
I didn't know him but I've seen 1 Video of him and he was instantly personable and I wish I knew him...
wow this episode got pretty emotional and intense
Here I am, a 38 year old beardie dude, with a hard shell, breaking out in tears from watching these reckful videos. My heart goes out to his family after what happen. Cant even begin to imagine how it is to lose two children to suicide.
I'm soo happy someone like Dr.K take his time to do his AoE heals, as you can see how many people in need of it. Dr.K deserves everything good coming his way.
Man it’s insane how different he is when he’s off that drug. He sounds so much clearer, coherent, intelligent. RIP man. I wish you had been able to find happiness and elevate this state of mind for yourself.
I dont know why but this is really fulfilling
Thank you
I go to this video everytime i feel lonely
Breaks my soul he couldn’t find happiness. Kind of kills my dwindling hope for humanity, especially because I experienced a similar family disconnect at a young age.
this is so difficult to watch.... i relate so much to him
Holy shit when he said the feeling of needing a hug, that broke me
I get a sense of hopelessness, opposed to the other talks
It's the depression, it ships with it.
I re watched this at least 3 times
Watching this so far ive realised i relate alot to what Reckful says.
and the sage continues. Thank you for the acro heal
Mother definitely!! This mad emergency actually feel all im experiencing..one day at a time.
This was heartbreaking at the 48 mark. This man was going to continue having issues as at 30+ most of his friends or people in general have a family, kids, partners etc… it’s just how it goes. We can only ever count on ourselves to be there for us. His idea of having friends around all day everyday is just not realistic. Very sad.
Not just Reckfuls face changed but also his voice from the beginning to the end of the vod - i love it
I came looking up Dr. K videos as I'm currently in Therapy for Loneliness and Abandonment. I didn't expect to see Byron talking to Dr. K about this. RIP Byron
Rest in peace, sweet prince.........
it's dangerous for reckful if these two meet up and become friends. they have a "therapy relationship" already, there is a imbalance of power. Dr. K is like a father figure to Reckful, therefore Dr. K's actions impact Reckful's sub conscious. just please be careful. you can't be friends with your therapist. it always ends in bad news. always . the therapist relationship is special and unique.
True. There has to be boundaries but Dr. K is well aware of that and will keep things in check.
@@wowandrss yeah, but they are talking about meeting up at twich con in the Netherlands.. idk what to think about that. recktful wont know what is best for him, and will want to be friends but always ends in bad, bad news
@@multitablez yeah but that was reckful planning to get dr K to try out silicibin or whatever its called.
So 5 months later....
It’s just so damn heartbreaking seeing him MAKE SO MUCH DAMN PROGRESS, then hearing he committed suicide... I was really hoping he could finally be happy but 😢😢😢 RIP Byron “Reckful”
He never made progress.
@@omensoffate how do you know? It seemed to me he was going uphill, but kind of in a manic state.
@@omensoffate please... the only one that doesnt make process seems to be you man. why are you being so mean?
@@omensoffate Lets be honest here. HE DID MAKE PROGRESS. HE UNDERSTOOD AND KNEW MORE ABOUT HIS SITUATION. IT DOESNT MEAN HE GOT BETTER. He tried more than most people with depression have tried but he still gave up.Giving up was the only thing he did wrong.Being like this was never his faullt. Still it was his life and his decision. If you cant respect that then shut the fuck up. The fun and hope he offered to so many people will never be gone no matter what he did or would have done. People should stop talking about his death and instead try to think about his life. He chose his ending and that was his to make. Lets start thinking only about WHAT HE GAVE TO US since we dont really know how he fellt. EVEN IF YOU HAVE DEPRESSION YOU CAN STILL BEAT EAT. NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS DONT GIVE UP YOU ARE LOT STRONGER THAN THIS AND WHEN YOU BEAT IT YOU WILL BE STRONGER THAN EVER
EXW TO SKUNK KAI BGAZEI LADIA what i said wasn’t a knock to him. He was going out his way one way or another. He never made progress to a “cure” it just delayed the inevitable. Sadly Covid shortened his time due to having to social distance. You need to get a grip my dude.
Reckful seems much more mellow when sober
yeah thats the depression lol
The few times I've micro-dosed gave me a lot of energy, it enhances how talkative someone can be by ten-fold in some cases.
Youssef yeah but having followed reckful for over a decade now he was always like that even sober when he was happy or excited
@@solopunished Could just me manic/depressive symptoms then. :(
i want shrooms too
The light got brighter as the session went on :D
i wish it stayed bright :(
I got into Car Yung's theory a few years ago. Recently I've been studying buddhism philosophy, and I found the similarities between quite a lot. Happy that it actually make sense.
Car Yung sounds like a rappers name
I’m really hopeful for reckful. I’ve been watching him since like 2010 or something lol I want to see him happy so bad. Thank you so much for being a friend Dr. K. I wonder what happened with Jenna, she seemed to deeply love him with everything that she was, and he kinda didn’t seem to appreciate it, maybe. Seems opposite of what he’d want considering his current mindstate
I find Reckful to be much more coherent when he's off psilocybin. I hope he can go forwards with this without needing that.
Yea maybe he should have stopped using drugs
@@trumerothetru7964 I don't think Mushrooms/psilocybin is why he killed himself especially when he was micro-dosing. I believe sitting in a room alone surrounded by 4 walls playing video games and looking at everyones best life on different social medias was the saddest and most depressing thing about his situation. In fact he said that psilocybin is what helped him get outside and enabled him to talk to real people. It had to severely hurt him knowing that he feels like he can't escape his detrimental and extremely sad thoughts sober and just being himself. It's so damn sad no matter what or why he couldn't be happy with himself.
Dr k Man of the year
Could anyone help me get onto the Discord? I did sign up but never got the Link.
I would have loved to be Byrons friend. I probably don't know exactly how it would have panned out... but I truly think we could have been good buddies, for life. We share so many interests and commonalities, and he was a good dude. HOWEVER, its easy to say that without knowing him first-hand, I also understand that.
14:40 that statement from reckfull is so true. It worked but I couldn't stick with it.
Could you also upload this as a podcast on spotify?
Thanks Dr K Your Videos Helps me out
I know exactly what this man is going through. I believe our culture sometimes builds a romantic fantasy around being alone and "being complete" by yourself. I understand how that can be a self-improvement mentality and maybe aims to find tools to solve issues that stem from our childhood. However, I do believe we all can benefit from bonding and healing together with a partner. Of course, it is important to be honest with them: confess what our challenges are and what we are doing to overcome them.
estaba..él se quitó la vida.
A lot of my samskara been popping out for this session lol I'm crying for no reason at all wtf.
Could be because when I was really young both of my parents went to a different country to work to give us a better life(which I really appreciate now).
The young me did not understand tho, I probably felt abandoned, no one to support me from this feelings and fucked me up when growing up. I hate what I have become.
When he started crying l did too.
Reckful is very relatable, sucks that my life never crossed paths with his.
RIP Byron :(
He has passed away ?
@@mmm5030 Took his own life not too long ago
I just want to give Reckful a hug
i fee lthe same thing reckful feels when it comes to loneliness and fear of abandonment..being overbearing and to attached PepeHands
me 2
We’re all proud of Reckful for being open honest about his life and sharing his experience. That can’t be easy.
I have become slightly addicted to this mini series. I even took one the 16personalities free online personality test and was given ISFP-T AKA Turbulent adventurer. I was honestly surprised with this result because there are aspects I dont agree with as well as ones that I do somewhat agree with and it does give you percentages in each area.
and your videos are so super helpful as well because my first and only psychiatrist didnt really try to talk about any of my issues and just gave me a script for something that didnt even work at its max dose so i stopped going and weaned myself off the meds. I am currently in the process of trying to convince myself to start seeing a new therapist and hopefully soon will be seeing a new one.
As Dr K said, the random free tests you find online are not quite as useful as the official one from the Briggs institute that costs money to take. Your type might be something completely different and the test you took didn't have enough parameters/improper weighing of individual questions.
I am currently feeling this constant abandonement and search for validation a lot now. Everybody has left me behind, including my family and girlfriend. It's like they don't want me to be here anymore
I never watched any of reckful's streams, I only come to find out about him from Healthy Gamer. I watched the 1st part and I could relate to him. Finding out that he was an ENFP, same as I. I too have struggled with the same things as reckful, and deeply sadden by his choice to take his life. Those times of emotional outburst are really hard to deal with. Anyone struggling with please reach out for help.
Keep fighting. Everyday you conquer, you get stronger.
47:25 i wish i can find someone who would give me attention, love and help like how i would like to give it to people, especially ones whom i realize later to be not deserving my time..
and rip reckful
Low key I'm learning a little too much about myself here, and it's great. It kinda hurted, but it's good
hope you're okay
@@derpysymbi0te216 Better! But with a sense that I know even less about myself the more I do.