Psychology Tip: To test if your friend is a narcissist, tell them you have a live squirrel inside your chest. Now *pay close attention* because their next reaction will tell you everything. If they have a hopeful look in their eye, it means they are a squirrel, and they think the squirrel in your chest might be their long lost sister. But if they have a hungry look in their eye, *they are a cannibal squirrel* and you need to flee as fast as you can
I told my friend this, and they chased me down and assaulted me, and now I’m on life support… guess she really was a narcissist/cannibal and actually a squirrel! Thanks for this helpful tip!
As a psychologist, it’s always really validating and humbling when people disagree with my professional opinion because it doesn’t coincide with the PSYCHOLOGY FACTS they saw on TikTok once
its so annoyingly cause u have to go through so much work just to form a correlation NOT CAUSATION in psychology but these tiktok psychologists only have to type something on their phones for people to see it as “real facts”
I've known schizophrenic people that, when exposed to this concept of 'dark psychology', experienced serious exacerbations of their paranoia after contemplating the possibility that people were doing this to them. It compromised their interpersonal relationships to a massive degree. This stuff hurts people.
To clarify, I'm specifically referring to the term 'dark psychology' as propagated through these clout-chasing 'influencers' as opposed to actual techniques of psychological manipulation, which are referred to by actual professionals as 'psychological manipulation', not 'dark psychology' because they aren't sorcerers and neither is your toxic ex.
@Plutonium.2 yeah im realistically paranoid, every action i did was justified in the eyes of others eventually Because im up to date on all the dangers
@@guythat779 Again, that kinda definitively means you don't experience the same imbalances as a paranoid schizophrenic person, so I'm curious what relevance this comment had to you.
You just have to compliment the human females. Say nice things like "I really admire the shape of your skull" or "My favorite part of you is the part that's covered in skin". Works every time.
As a skeleton, I find this to be very manipulative as I'm a female without skin. It makes me question if i accidentally got skin on me from my last meal, but I do like being complemented on my skull shape as i spent a lot of time shining it every morning.
As a psychology major, it drives me crazy how much pop-psych has poisoned most people's concept of how the human mind works. It seems anyone can make up a new difference between men and women, or how to tell if your crush likes you, and people will spread it around like influenza. Actual psychology is so fascinating that I struggle to see why people need to make up things to talk about.
Thanks for highlighting these two terms "PSYCHOLOGY" and "POP PSYCHOLOGY" as people' tend to conflate the two Especially Gen Z thinks that Pop psych is actually psychology and totally remain oblivious to the fact that Pop psych is just another branch or field of study in Psychology .
Actual psychology is sometime absolutely unscientific and rubbish since a. we don't really understand what happens in people's head and b. a lot of psychologists sells pop psychology. So it's extremely easy to understand why people are so interested by pop psychology since it always has been a thing, even in the actual discipline.
I wish we could get dark versions of other scientific fields, like Dark Geology (cursing rocks to have the opposite effects alt health gurus say they do) or Dark Entomology (Breeding killer bees in your estranged parents backyard)
Dark geology: throw a uranium mineral at your ex's window Dark chemistry: open the gas stove at your ex's house during the winter Dark biology: poison your neighbour Dark physics: car go vroom over mother in law
@@ashikjaman1940 I feel like dark physics actually has to do with dark matter and dark energy. I would say the Manhattan Project was actually very bright physics.
The last tiktok in the dark psychology part about the hot and cold technique is an actual manipulation tactic called lovebombing, which is used by abusers in relationships or sometimes even friendships. The abuser is abusive towards the victim, however when they try leaving the relationship or start getting cold they'll start showering them with love and affection in order to keep them which creates an unhealthy definition of love in the victims mind.
real psych fact: if you have a friend that consistently makes you feel worse, they're not worth it. full stop. a responsible person prioritizes their mental health over the temporary amusement of others. i can't even count all the perfectly good friends i've had to cut off since they wouldn't quit lovingly babying toxic people even when they themselves were turning toxic... because they were adamant that wouldn't be very nice. ugh.
As a ‘female’, I can confirm that we will indeed fall in love with anyone who constantly speaks in sarcasm, because if overused, it never loses its humour and in no way appears like they think we are stupid 👍🏼
Yeah! Once, I had a male creature sarcastically say my dog was hanging out indoors when I saw that he got ran over by a car! I had never felt so attracted before!
If a man talks to me sarcastically I have no choice but to just break up with my girlfriend and become straight Like its just so attractive when a man talks to me like I have the mentality of a bag of rocks
@@Rosemary46840try googling “hyperbole” and using it as a device to perform rhetorical analysis on the previous comment. or don’t, idrgaf bc youtube comments aren’t that deep which you clearly don’t understand XD
I am a person with npd and I’ve been feeling pretty awful lately because of this “narcissistic abuse” rhetoric online and seeing creators I look up to repeating it, and I was pretty scared to watch this video because of how awful people are to anyone with a personality disorder but omg thank you for being so normal it actually made my day to see someone even just sympathise with a hypothetical “narcissist”. The bar is low but that’s still incredibly rare so thank you so much, genuinely.
Omg this!! I'm not diagnosed with npd but I share some characteristics, what pisses me off is that it just feeds into the stigmatizing ideology of "good mentally ill" vs "bad mentally ill", like you wouldn't say depression abuse or OCD abuse, so why is "narcissistic abuse" a thing,, there are different kinds of abuse like emotional, physical, mental, etc but narcissistic abuse is not one of them and it only serves to villainise people with npd, whilst also ignoring the fact that a lot of people with personality disorders suffered abuse and trauma. Y'all just say abuse istg
@@Entityyy303 especially considering the fact that “narcissistic abuse” is literally a term made up by reddit it is not a real phenomenon or term recognised within psychology
@@Entityyy303 So real ! I'm sick of these "mental health advocates" who will slap the word narcissist as an insult to whatever they dislike. They seem to completely ignore that npd also stems from trauma and narcissists are victims and suffering in some way too.
To be fair, a lot of people with NPD are abusive and form toxic relationships with people. Their symptoms are basically characterized by lacking empathy, having difficulties controlling emotions, having anger issues, having an inflated sense of self, lashing out at people and being manipulative. Of course, I think people with NPD can heal, but they rarely seek treatment because they don't see problems in their behaviors. I do believe that personality disorders are heavily stigmatized, and people with personality disorders should be met with compassion and understanding. Coming from someone with BPD, which is similar to NPD in a sense that were both stigmatized for being abusive, manipulative, and impulsive, I do understand how upsetting it is to be defined by our disorders, and to be automatically labeled as horrible people who only hurt others.
@@Enter.403 i should correct you on a couple of points- 1, people with npd don’t actually have an inflated self esteem. The name is misleading but we actually have exactly the opposite. Npd develops from trauma and delusional episodes of grandiosity we experience are our brains way of coping with extreme self hatred. 2. “A lot of people with npd are abusive” isn’t actually true. A lot of people will armchair diagnose their abusers with npd sure, but out of people professionally diagnosed we are far more likely to be victims of abuse. There are people with npd who are assholes just like there are people with autism or ocd who are assholes. My abuser had BPD and I’m not going around saying I’m a victim of BPD abuse. 3, we aren’t unlikely to seek treatment because we see nothing wrong with us. Most people with npd are well aware of our illness, and we have the highest suicide rate of any cluster b disorder. We are unlikely to seek treatment because our diagnosis is so heavily stigmatised that some therapists will outright decline to help us, which you can probably imagine doesn’t feel great.
I like how they treat manipulation tactics like they're some kind of "dark magic". Really adds a lot of whimsy to the act of lying and manipulating people
When you add “dark” in front of any other field, it sounds silly. Like “dark engineering” or “dark agriculture.” Imagine being like “hey! What are you studying?” and they respond with “oh! I’m majoring in dark environmental science with a minor in dark geology.”
@@amazingzie378dark calculus Which is just regular calculus honestly No matter your skills in any given field, even advanced mathematics, We shouldn't be dealing with numbers too much. There's something scary about the imaginary number and I had to crash through at least two weeks on using the damn thing Don't remember a single equation but I'm okay with that. We built the tower of babel with the power of numbers now look at us there's literally greek in my formulas :(
I love how the "dark psychology" bros are just an update to the thinking of "insert gifts, receive sex;" that we're just robots that just need to be hacked correctly to reliable dispense The Sex.
I love it when a homo rapeiens makes a youtube video saying something like "and what are women gonna do when realistic robot dolls come out, huh?". Not be harassed. That's what we're gonna do.
Those "Dark Psychology" TikToks have the same energy as that prohibition-era grape juice with a label essentially saying: "Warning: Do not follow this series of detailed steps or this grape juice would turn into wine."
Hey absolutely don't mix potassium chlorate with some iron powder and zinc and coal powder then put it in a pipe To avoid that absolutely do not boil nleach till you're left with half its volume That'll make a pipe bomb and you absolutely dont want that
The fact that calling it ""dark psychology" is basically just a method to make extremely toxic or manipulative shit sound like something "cool". Gotta love it/s
That's a lie, why would anyone need to work harder to make Manupilation sound cool when it already does If we look at the other names for similar things throught history we fund machiavelian traits and the dark triad Those sound even cooler Nah dark psychology is just a cute digestible name they got off of a book that is easy for simple bozos to understand immediately It's not cool, it's special ed
@@guythat779 Jeez?? I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and assume this is either a joke or you mean something completely different than that sounds like and that you *don't* think manipulation is actually cool or sounds cool. Because that's honestly disturbing.
@Rubyskies i did say it for funny purposes But it's completely factual that Manupilation sounds cool by default Thr word gaslight spread like fire from obscurity so easily for that reason
@@katherinebattle3780 fr. I dont get the hate for people calling women females in this comment section. It's just another word for woman! What's the big problem????
@@occultsupport I think it’s because a majority of the examples used in this video are for men trying to get women, and in a lot of those videos, they refer to women as ‘females’ way more than theyre calling dudes ‘males’. This is the same for a lot of those dumb dating advice videos too. But referring to women as ‘females’ is seen as rude because that word gives a connotation that you think lesser of them, like they’re animals. They do mean the same thing, but again, different words for things can have negative or positive connotation that put a spin on things. Calling men ‘males’ can also have that same negative connotation, but it isn’t being pointed out as much because it simply isn’t being used to describe men by people like the examples in this video more than they are calling women ‘females’, so people are less inclined to point it out in the first place. Sorry for the essay, I just like explaining things and I hope you understood.
@@ghost_horses. bebe can you open your fuckin eyes? Women are calling men "males" to degrade them more then any of the men you've met in your life. So you can stop lying now
@@katherinebattle3780 Female is not another word for woman. The terms male and female can be applied to any animal while man is define as “human male” and woman is defined as “human female.” This makes using the terms male and female come across as dehumanizing.
After watching this and downloading TikTok I've become a licensed psychologist. Now I can keep the money I saved up for a psychology degree and buy a private jet. Thank you Chad Chad. 👍🏻
Can we just appreciate Chad Chad for calling out the weird ableist "How to tell if someone is a narcissist" tiktok? People with NPD get demonized so much in media and made out as villains when they're just people with trauma-based personality disorders, and calling out the colloquialism of disabilities is so important
You're absolutely right I Don't agree with the exact reasons but the result yes Just the term narcossist is overused and means nothing anyway, it's like how politicians say "terrorist" It just means "that guy, well i dont like him and quite frankly that makes him the bad guy" Second reason is id rather ppl dont point out my behaviour to others thsnk you very much, like mind your own business
absolutely. i have HPD and my good friend has NPD, it pisses me off how it's so normalized to stereotype and demonize cluster B disorders. especially NPD and ASPD. edit: my "HPD" turned out to be a misdiagnosis but my point still stands
I don't know if I'm just really fragile in terms of friendships but whenever someone tries to do "psychology test" bullshit on me I just feel betrayed and I don't remember staying friends with people who have tried it
nah, that's not fragility, that's basic self-esteem and healthy expectations of how people treat each other. don't let this garbage 'content' convince you otherwise. these people are a classic loud minority in their beliefs; don't settle for people who try and dishonestly test and manipulate you and you'll find others who will treat you as well as you deserve (who you can then treat well in return!).
One of my closest friends did something along these lines with me many years back. I think she was feeling insecure or having a mental health episode, and wanted to test to see if I cared about her. I didn't respond how she thought I should, so she got really sad and despondent. When I found out that she'd done it, I felt kind of betrayed. I told her in no uncertain terms never to do anything like that again. It genuinely hurt me. Thankfully, it never happened again, and our relationship is great. I think feeling betrayed or otherwise upset is a fair response, since it's basically an admission that they don't trust you.
There's something that *really* freaks me out about those "dark psychology" videos: Half of them look like an abuser's handbook and I've had a friend that definitely did that cycle of validation before pulling away to me. And it pains me to admit that it worked until he went after my partner.
I’m sorry that happened to you, and you’re right. They’re just adults teaching minors (mostly teenagers) that it’s okay to manipulate and abuse someone, and giving step-by-steps on how to do so.
Yeah, those videos are literally just “how to abuse the person you’re romantically attracted to”. Great thing to show teenagers, who as an age group already lack empathy because their brains aren’t fully developed yet.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I completely agree though, that's basically exactly what it is if not just manipulation. So gross how that blonde person is presenting it like some cute informative video
What did you do then? I recommend kicking people out of one's life that do that. If someone makes you feel bad, let them go and look for better friends. I wouldn't stay in a work evironment either, where they use this shit - find a better place if you can.
@@ginny3599 Oh yeah, I kicked him out of my life. Three times before it (hopefully) stuck, one of which he infiltrated our online friend group under a false identity. Absolutely agree that you should remove people from your life that are manipulative/abusive like that.
As an incoming psych major who wants to be a psychologist for a living, the concept of “dark psychology” is probably the funniest thing I’ve ever heard. It reminds me of the dark academia aesthetic and dark magic, which must be what they’re connecting it to. Also, the dark psychology hot and cold girl was also in Drew Gooden’s video about getting taller. I think she spreads a lot of false information.
as an occultist it was the dark magic connection i linked to first. especially surrounding the concepts of like forcing people to fall in love with you. baby witches grow out of that stuff as they learn how magic actually works. is it similar with psychology and intellectualism?
istg people throw around the words narcissist and antisocial in the same way they used to throw around depression when someone was sad because they lost a game in 2013
It really does just feel like everyone just moved on from using the word "psychopath" to describe shitty people to using the word "narcissist." Some people will run through every disorder in the DSM before they think to reflect on their behavior
here’s a light psychology trick to seem like a good person: 1. Come to terms with yourself and figure yourself out and how you plan on building yourself to become better. 2. Patience is a virtue. Having a lot of patience is key in becoming a kindhearted individual. 3. Be genuinely nice to people, even if they respond with hostility. 4. Know your limits. Understand that you cannot help everyone. You do what you can, not things you can’t.
Wait a minute you're tricking me into fixing myself Nsh i want ways to control ppl Like "take stands even if you dont care so ppl respect that you have a spine" or "give some criticism even if you have none it makes ppl think you're honest and also softens them for when you actually need to be honest"
You plannin on using the hot-cold-sarcasm-humor-darkpsych methods to make them love you to get the grade? Nice, true alpha-sigma lone wolf gigachad behavior.
These dark psychology facts really just validating my distrust and confusion with guys I was with in the past. One in particular was so damaging. I feel dumb but I really fell for the one where they are super sweet and loving and then completely pull away and pretend like ur not there and do it again and again. At a very vulnerable state I fell for this and it was confusing and painful. I grew to hate the guy and eventually cut things off and he still randomly tries to message me claiming he really cares about me. It’s sick. I found myself disgusted with him and feeling like he was so fake but never feeling like I could be sure. Just this overwhelming feeling I could not ignore. Because he didn’t do or say anything directly to make me feel that way it was all in the behavior. He chose it words very carefully so I couldn’t really call him out. When I tried to ask about things it was always. That wasn’t my intention and stuff but I felt like it was. He let it slip once saying he loved “teasing” me by playing with my emotions and easily manipulating me. I always wondered why he smiled so much when I was crying, upset or sad or saying sorry. I wondered why he always wanted me to tell him all the painful things and confide in him but seemed to be taking notes more then trying to help. Why he would laugh and smile the only time I saw a genuine emotion in him. And he smiled again when he said that but it was like almost a scary smile. It made me feel….unsettled and disturbed he said he was just joking after but he wasn’t. It stuck with me and he was good at making me think it was in my head and my own insecurities. I won’t lie he had me in a desperate place for a while. When I started to heal from the trauma I was dealing with I realized something slowly every time I saw him I felt more and more unhappy. I always felt unhappy around him but it was like I became more aware of it because I wasn’t consumed in my own insecurities anymore. I wasn’t blaming myself anymore. Every time I saw him I couldn’t wait to be away from him his energy was so toxic, I found him annoying overbearing and unattractive, I was extremely bored and I wondered what the fuck did I ever see in him? The last time I saw him he couldn’t handle me at all. He started to get nervous just being around me because I wasn’t letting him manipulate me and I wasn’t scared to speak my truth anymore regardless if he liked it, I left like 30 mins into seeing him out of shear boredom and at the time I actually puttied him. I realized how insecure he actually was. And I felt bad for him for a long time after and tried to be friends but he wouldn’t stop trying to play those old games. Always asking me about my life right away to gauge my emotional state and waiting for an opening. It was so gross and really pathetic. I couldn’t believe I once thought I loved him. Dark psychology is real and honestly people use it alot more then u think. People need to make U insecure and keep u down because they are to insecure to be what you deserve. Or to just treat u right. If they can convince you I deserve less u will never realize U deserve better. Never stay where u are unhappy. Never let a person mess with your mental health. Be weary of people who just come around when ur down. We can’t think clearly when we’re in a bad place. We don’t see people for who they really are. Our senses can become dulled by pain, fear, or desperation. And There’s a lot of vultures out there.
So I’m a real life therapist (licensed and everything) and also a very online younger millennial. The landscape of mental health and psychology discourse online is so interesting. Like, yes, anxiety is a lot more normalized now. Fantastic. People are more aware of neurodivergence. Great. But also not everyone you meet has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder and not everything is directly explainable by a psychology “fact”. Like the only thing that’s true about people is that nothing is universally true.
It's people who have no idea what the DSM is explaining to other people who also have no idea what the DSM is how to diagnose a complete stranger based off one manufactured interaction.
I started studying psychology two tears ago and the most frustrating part about it was having to learn about all these older renowned psychologists coming up with their theories and acting like they were universally true
@@natkatmac I often wish to print out the entirety of the DSM-5 and whack anyone who says: Oh but the DSM says being trans is a mental illness Just. Start with a solid hip swing.
As someone with diagnosed BPD but doing a lot better these days, it's gross to see how crucified people with it are. It's one of the most emotionally torturous disorders and although there's plenty of people who don't get help and let it ruin their and others lives, there's lots of us doing work to get help and be better people and control emotions better.
I'm so glad content like this is trending. Chad Chad is a great example of being extremely funny while still shutting down harmful behavior, its extremely fun to watch and good to know this content is reaching so many people.
As an asexual who laughs way too much and way too easily, can confirm: the only times I've felt sexual attraction is when I've accidently looked at someone while laughing
That "dark psychology tip" about saying "Oh I have something to tell you, actually nevermind!" is exactly why I broke up with two different people lmao. I get extremely bored of mind games. Like aight, have fun with your lack of communication skills, I'm gonna go make out with someone else.
Word, I'm a hot bitch, I'm not wasting all this on someone who can't even manage to communicate. I dropped three people in the same week (I'm non-monogamous) because they wouldn't communicate directly.
Real psychology trick: tell a girl you like honey and you have a jar of honey with you. If she has a hopefull look in her eyes, she is actually a swarm of bees in disguise hoping to steal your honey. In any other case she is still a swarm of bees in disguise looking to steal your honey but simply hiding her facial expression.
My psych professor told us that “everyone is a psychologist, because we all see behavior being performed daily and can make inferences based on our experience. What separates the psychologist from the researcher is the mitigation of biases and putting aside that personal experience to evaluate and test a phenomenon.”
I don't remember if my professor said anything similar, but he DID say that if you suck your thumb as a baby you'll grow up to become anal retentive, so... I dropped my psych major and became a poet because what the fuck.
I really hate the laugh one because it happened to me. A few years ago I was chatting with a friend of a friend, he made some funny jokes so I laughed. About 10 min later I mentioned my boyfriend and the dude got mad "If you have a boyfriend why do you laugh at my jokeS?!". I had to explain to him that I laughed because it was funny, not a pleasant conversation to have! We were in our mid 20s, still blows my mind how aggressive he became
Didn't you know? Having a boyfriend means your sense of humour turns to ashes and gets absorbed by your pancreas. It's the sacrifice you make in order to feel love. #TrueBiologyFacts
@@error-try-again-lateryour body's hormonal makeup will change so that you're only able to laugh at your boyfriend's jokes anymore. Only one dude at a time, ladies!
I have many friends with great senses of humor and it's pretty easy to make me laugh... oh no... looks like I'm about to date everyone in my inner-to-sorta-distant circle
The funniest thing about that one woman who was like "here's how you spot a narcissist" is that if she actually bothered to research NPD even a little bit she'd find out it's a traumagenic mental disorder. That people get via repetitive childhood trauma due to a certain dysfunctional/abusive parenting style and it's often comorbid with CPTSD, just like BPD. And not something you can just "tell" somebody has or use in place of ways to describe somebody who's egotistical, arrogant or an asshole. That and it's also hilarious that she's implying all people with NPD are abusive or going to manipulate you. Way to stigmatize an already very demonized mental disorder lol.
@@entrapta.exe_ Ty, I try lol I love learning about various mental disorders and actual psychology/how the mind works. I'm getting sick and tired of people using narcissistic as a synonym for abusive, toxic or power hungry or whatever other negative trait somebody could have since it's stupid and doesn't make sense to me hahah. Most people don't label somebody with BPD as an awful person right off the bat (most of the time, I happen to have it) but in comparison to that and in my experience as well as through a lot of observation, people are often very prone to labelling somebody with NPD as abusive and self-centered just because they have the disorder or have traits of it without any other reason. It infuriates me to no goddamn end lmfao.
The funny thing is, if *you* looked up narcissism, you'd realise it's a seperate thing from NPD. You're making a mistake in assuming "narcissist" *means* NPD, and it doesn't. You're not wrong about what NPD is, but its existence as a personality disorder comes from the much simpler and less serious "narcissism", a preoccupation with one self. The name itself came from Narcissus, a mythical man from a roman poem who would reject women's advances before being cursed by the gods to be in love with his own reflection, hence "narcissist" means someone who is overly obsessed with one self and one's needs, often at the expense of others, just like how you can be "obsessive" and not have OCD, how you can be "depressed" but not have "major depressive disorder". The real irony is, your problem is based on over-applying psychology and DSM-V to assume people are talking about a personality disorder when they're talking about a personality trait, to complain about someone not looking up NPD despite the fact they weren't even talking about it. "You can't use it in place of ways to describe somebody who's egotistical, arrogant or an asshole" yeah, agreed, some people overuse narcissist to describe people they don't like, but "egotistical" is actually a synonym for narcissistic. You CAN in fact, use narcissist to describe somebody who has an obsession or admiration of themselves, like self-absorbed, conceited, etc because that is the literal definition. Not every word that is used in psychology is exclusive to psychology, and assuming some tiktoker who thinks you should trap people with games to see if they're narcissists or have NPD (cause doing either is nonsense and useless) is also someone who would ever do enough research to use narcissist vs NPD properly is a you problem. Clearly they have 0 idea of what they're talking about, you want them to at the very least be more accurate in using terms they don't understand so they have, 0.5 idea of what they're talking about? And I only say this, because this overly educational view also trivialises and changes words, like how "anorexia", a symptom of low/no appetite, became short hand for "anorexia nervosa" a mental disorder where people avoid eating, so that now, anorexia is useless because you have to specify lack of appetite anyway, because people assume it means AN. "here's some advice if you ever feel anxious-" "UMMM I highly doubt you have the necessary qualifications to be giving people advice on how to manage symptoms of Generalised Anxiety Disorder, sweaty 💅"
@@cthulhu8164 Holy shit I feel stupid hahah, thanks for correcting me. This actually clears up a lot and oh man I really wish I looked at that more. Nobody's ever really told me this nor have I seen anything about it so this is very relieving to hear. That is some funny as hell irony on my part and I'll fully admit that you were right in stating that my problem was that I thought NPD means narcissist when upon looking up narcissism and actually researching the things you said you're totally right in that NPD wasn't being talked about, it's not used in the same way and I was wrong for thinking that. You bring up a *lot* of good points I failed to see or think about and it's very nice to have it pointed out, and to reflect on my views about this as well as potentially other things I could be wrong about as a result of learning a bit more. I kind of assumed that since narcissism is a trait of NPD that people weren't using the word correctly and that is so stupid of me to have though for (now) obvious reasons. I'm face-palming at myself hard hah. Once again thank you, and I'm very sorry for not making sense beforehand. I'm very glad to have learned from this. ^^
@@128treehugger I was trying to express my frustrations with people using the word narcissistic/narcissist as a way to negatively describe somebody, and how using it in the way people do when they say something along the lines of "here's how to spot a narcissist" or "here's how to piss a narcissist off" is harmful because it stigmatizes people with NPD which is already a very heavily demonized disorder and in my point of view implied that people are just assuming somebody with NPD was automatically abuisve or going to manipulate people when obviously that's a stupid take, as in you can't just assume that bc somebody has the disorder that they're a bad person. CLEARLY I was wrong, that's not at all what was being talked about and it turns out I was mixing up what the meaning of narcisissm is vs what NPD actually is. Simply put my understanding was flawed and I was swiftly schooled. ":)
Theres a story of a woman whose bf told her she smells..lots of times to the point she get self conscious. She did shower, wear perfumes etc etc but he still said she smells. So finally she confronted him and was like, my friends and family said i smell fine, i shower daily, etc etc and if she smells to him lets just break up. The guy finally confessed his dad told him to do that because if the girl think shes smelly she wont break up with him cuz she wont have confidence to find someone else Guys...DONT do this. This is mental. This isnt dark psychology, its borderline abusive
idk about "borderline" to be honest. i think it pretty soundly qualifies as manipulative at the very best, and as emotional abuse at worst. either way i feel like calling it abusive is appropriate.
IT IS ABUSIVE, let's stop sugar coating mfs treating people like shit, they're not just mean, they're not just pathetic, they are abusers, he was emotionally abusing her to gain the confirmation that she wasn't going to leave him, that's abuse.
I love how they always say "this tactic is guaranteed to work!" no its not. most people you're going to chase away with your creepy manipulative behavior. I heard a story recently where the person said their ex would do the "we need to talk" thing just like the creepy guy in the video and then refuse to give them any details and give them stress and anxiety all day until they could talk to them in person, and then it would even be anything important, not even a serious discussion. They said they told their ex they didn't like this and asked them to stop and they agreed to. Then they continued to do it so they broke up with them. It's manipulative behavior meant to stress someone out so that when you talk you're way more likely to agree with whatever they ask because you're so relieved its not some relationship defining discussion.
Oh, they did the same at the last job I was. Truly hateful disgusting people there! I left that fucking shithole of a place and worte them a super bad kununu review (because of course they do more shitty things there then that and even go against the law).
I love the private jet one. I like imagining that woman has done that "trick" a lot and thinks everyone around her are narcissists, when actually they're giving her a confused, incredulous smile that anyone would just make up a private jet story like a first grader making up really obvious shit to impress people.
Fr. Imagine a grown woman approaches you and is like, "Hey my name is Janet and by the way my dad owns a private jet. Just kidding! I don't, but since you're laughing at me, that's probably a red flag that you were planning on using me and you're a narcissist. Okay bye!"
i love that so many of these are "dark psychology" facts, like its an entirely separate branch of psychology they teach in universities. just imagine the possibilities of a work of dark academic fields... dark sociology... dark linguistics... dark law.. dark environmental science and sustainable technologies... business management and economics...
The "I wanna tell you something... Oh nevermind" has occurred to me many times. It was so funny cuz I always respond with "Okay not a problem" or lately, just absolutely ignoreeee the existence of that text. Drives the other person crazy.
as someone with npd im so happy that chad called out the woman in the end misusing "narcissist". im sick of the constant demonization of all of cluster b so seeing content creators being aware of actual narcissism really makes me happy
"In order to make females love you, you have to use sarcasm because it shows intelligence, a trait females love" that actually made me gag LMAO - these pick up bros talk about us like we're chimpanzees at the zoo and it's so fucking disgusting. Also no, plenty of women actually DON'T like sarcasm cuz a.) it makes you sound like an asshole when you don't know if the person actually likes it, and b.) as a neurodivergent person who struggles to pick up when someone is being serious and have had sarcasm used against me before, all it'll do is confuse me as to why you're not being straightforward. Ofc there are neurodivergent people who probably do like sarcasm, but as it goes with any human being (which these dudebros don't seem to view women as), it depends on the person - there's not catch all tricks like they always imply.
Gosh, maybe you're just not their target female. They have a radar that detects women who love sarcasm and their alpha behaviour (for legal reasons, that's a joke)
As a psychology teacher, these "dark" psychology facts on social media drive me up a wall. I try to debunk this stuff to my impressionable teenage students all of the time. Ugh!
As a grad school counseling student the class I had about Dark Psychology was one of the hardest but best class Ive taken. So glad I had a course about that and not the ethical standards Ill have to know and abide to
Y'know, in middle school (long before tiktok existed) I not only developed my lifelong hyperfixation with human psychology, but I also unconsciously started using a "tactic" to hopefully make my crushes like me more. I realized, much later, that what I was doing was not only CREEPY AS HELL but, in some cases, might be considered emotional manipulation and STALKING. Now, did it work? I mean, my fiance of six years hasn't left me despite the fact that I admitted to learning his schedule, where his classes were, and what path he took to walk to class, so id call it a massive success.
And just in case anyone is curious, the "tactic" was 1. Inserting myself into their friend group, becoming friends with their friends in an attempt to make a greater excuse to spend more time with them. 2. Go out of my way to interact with them regularly, and make my presence known, but also make it as natural as possible. (aka adjusting my own walk to class to line up with theirs, learning where they sit for lunch, etc.) and 3. Actually just becoming friends with them, because I thought this was all completely normal and not obsessive behavior whatsoever. The goal was essentially to lead them right to the point of us being close friends, and then just.... waiting. Hoping they'd ask me out or something.
@@ethansiltala8486 i mean, all things considered that doesn't sound so bad, becoming friends with them and talking to them often and all that, really it mostly just gets creepy around the "learning what paths they take" part lmao
For the whole “make somebody fall in love with you, super toxic” the whole “well, it’s good for people to be aware about it”… why not just present it as, “signs that someone is manipulating you into a romantic relationship” and not literally tell people that this is supposed to be a manipulative tool to get others attracted to you? Because uh… maybe that’s terrible advice you should be giving never??
@@Alissa.Fine24 I feel like I’ve seen too much of the whole: “this advice is SUPER toxic and you shouldn’t actually do it, but let me still tell you how to do it anyway!”💀
The way people treat narcissists, ppl with BPD, and similar disorders like bombs about to explode is seriously upsetting. Yes, disorders influence people's behavior, which means that it might lead to harmful behavior, but literally everyone has the capacity to harm and manipulate others, just like everyone has the ability to recognize their mistakes and change! There is no Bad Scary Person Forever disorder. Humans are complicated. And sometimes, it's hard for people to do the right thing. That doesn't mean it's impossible.
Thank you. I've been such a horribly toxic person in the past and I'm sure I could get a really stigmatized personality disorder diagnosis if I went to the right psychiatrist. But you know what? I worked my ass off on bettering myself, keep cutting out toxic friendships and am in a relationship with a men that won't take any bullshit. Especially the latter has helped me tremendeously. Unpopular opinion: every abuser needs an abuse victim that is also traumatized or mentally ill to begin with, otherwise they would leave asap and not get stuck in there. Which shows that every single person can better themselves in ways and should have that as one of their personal goals.
@@Shirumoon "Unpopular opinion: every abuser needs an abuse victim that is also traumatized or mentally ill to begin with, otherwise they would leave asap and not get stuck in there." I don't know what you mean by this but it sounds bad.
@@psychicbyinternet I’m gonna give them the benefit of the doubt and say that maybe they meant abusers find mentally ill people to be easier victims but if that is what they meant it’s very poorly worded
One of the nicest people I know has BPD and it make me so sad that they have to be so secretive about that. They’re a genuinely good person and I wanna support them. Yeah BPD can lead to some bad behaviors but that doesn’t mean people that have it are monsters with no free will. They’re brains are just wired a bit differently that’s all.
If you think about it, every interaction you have with someone os msnupilation You kissed your partner??!? What are you trying to do, imbed your image and pavlovianly attach it to a good feeling? Manupilative whore
As someone who has NPD, all of these TikToks about "how to spot a narcissist" are certainly.... interesting and horribly demeaning to those of us who have the disorder since its usually caused by abuse and manipulation 😭
Honestly tiktok treats any disorder in the most offensive stereotypical way possible and make people with those disorders sound like theyre insane or just awful people its so damn weird
5:29 i genuinely think someone did this to me bcs this is what just happened this week … and it lowkey worked 💀. it made me feel like shit but i like his validation
@@meowbahhyt My dude, this might be besides the point, but you didn't even pick a good account to piggyback off of, no one cares about Meowbahh anymore
makes me think about irl magic systems and i think they see it similarly. i wouldnt be shocked to see them talking about "mind control" or "deadly curses" by other names sooner or later. it's very stupid.
My cousin is in grad school for psychology, so I sent her this video. She said it helped her ace all of her past and future exams. Thank you, Chad Chad.
The “dark psychology” reminds me of how I was treated in my pre-teen/teen relationships. It’s been 15 years and I’m still working on the trauma and trust issues. Please be good to each other!
Last time someone said "I need to tell yoy something. Nevermind!" I had a fucking panic attack and though they committed SH. Don't do that! They might get a panic attack!
It's honestly wild to me that despite the fact that mental health awareness among younger generations is way better than it once was but people with Cluster B personality disorders like NPD are still treated like some creepy monsters lurking in the shadows just waiting for the opportunity to manipulate you like bruh...they're just people with a specific disorder.
Yeah, but it's a disorder that can really fuck up the people around them too. It may not be their fault, but it's no surprise people are cautious about them and might want to keep their distance.
7:15 thats like when kids are watching you eat something and want some but wont just ask so they say shit like "hmm... i never had that before..." or " I like ______ too..." 😂🤣🙄
I love the guy at 7:40 talking about dark psychology, it feels like how magic works in Final Fantasy, like I could say "yeah, I'm studying to become a Red Psychologist"
I'm not gonna debunk all of them (bc i probably won't know all the actual answers) but the one about looking at someone when they laugh is really more in relation to who you're close to than anything. For instance, you're going to look at your siblings first when you laugh bc you wanna see their reaction. If you're closer to friends than family, you'll look at the former first. It's not entirely wrong that maybe someone looks at you first bc they're attracted to you, but more than likely they just feel close enough to you to glance at you. Or something along those lines, it's been a while since I've seen this stated so take it with a grain of salt
I was hoping someone would say this. Maybe it’s purely anecdotal, but I can totally catch myself looking at the person whose approval I value most in a group when a joke is told. But whether it’s true or not, it sure isn’t something to take as seriously as some people think
Just to add to this point, humans use social referencing to evaluate situations and regulate our own emotions so it makes sense we would look at the person we feel closest to/trust the most to get an accurate reading! It is a very real phenomena :)
Im aroace and find what most people do from titkok not attractive at all. + You can't tell you wouldn't be uncomfortable if someone tried to make you fall in love with them bc they dont know how to pull
oh I love I found this page today! My seventh video and I haven’t stopped laughing. Also, I quit social media a decade ago, so you’re officially my social media news anchor.
Psychology Tip: To test if your friend is a narcissist, tell them you have a live squirrel inside your chest. Now *pay close attention* because their next reaction will tell you everything. If they have a hopeful look in their eye, it means they are a squirrel, and they think the squirrel in your chest might be their long lost sister. But if they have a hungry look in their eye, *they are a cannibal squirrel* and you need to flee as fast as you can
This version is how acurately F'd up it is when SHE says hers: both at the same BS to me.
Aslo, Shiba Inu from SH2, profile pic.
I told my friend this, and they chased me down and assaulted me, and now I’m on life support… guess she really was a narcissist/cannibal and actually a squirrel! Thanks for this helpful tip!
Instructions unclear, now I have a bunch of squirrels living in my kitchen and my friend stole my dad's jet
@@isagf4804what the hell happened?
What 😀
As a psychologist, it’s always really validating and humbling when people disagree with my professional opinion because it doesn’t coincide with the PSYCHOLOGY FACTS they saw on TikTok once
I can't believe that's a thing
help imagine you tell them smth and they go "well tiktokboy32554 told me otherwise so stfu"
@@minghao-o lmao
its so annoyingly cause u have to go through so much work just to form a correlation NOT CAUSATION in psychology but these tiktok psychologists only have to type something on their phones for people to see it as “real facts”
Honestly the tik toks are probably as educationally rigorous as your schooling was
I've known schizophrenic people that, when exposed to this concept of 'dark psychology', experienced serious exacerbations of their paranoia after contemplating the possibility that people were doing this to them. It compromised their interpersonal relationships to a massive degree. This stuff hurts people.
To clarify, I'm specifically referring to the term 'dark psychology' as propagated through these clout-chasing 'influencers' as opposed to actual techniques of psychological manipulation, which are referred to by actual professionals as 'psychological manipulation', not 'dark psychology' because they aren't sorcerers and neither is your toxic ex.
How could helping someone watch out better hurting them, I feel mpre at peace knowing all the ways ppl could attack me
@@guythat779well you’re not a paranoid schizophrenic apparently
@Plutonium.2 yeah im realistically paranoid, every action i did was justified in the eyes of others eventually
Because im up to date on all the dangers
@@guythat779 Again, that kinda definitively means you don't experience the same imbalances as a paranoid schizophrenic person, so I'm curious what relevance this comment had to you.
I love how they call it “dark psychology” like it’s some forbidden school of magic and not just emotional manipulation
You just have to compliment the human females. Say nice things like "I really admire the shape of your skull" or "My favorite part of you is the part that's covered in skin". Works every time.
that's true, find somebody who loves all of you! the parts with skin AND the parts without 😌
As a skeleton, I find this to be very manipulative as I'm a female without skin. It makes me question if i accidentally got skin on me from my last meal, but I do like being complemented on my skull shape as i spent a lot of time shining it every morning.
not everyone has a body you know
I tried this on a ghost and it failed :(
@@abbycantrell1369youre the funniest person on earth
As a psychology major, it drives me crazy how much pop-psych has poisoned most people's concept of how the human mind works. It seems anyone can make up a new difference between men and women, or how to tell if your crush likes you, and people will spread it around like influenza. Actual psychology is so fascinating that I struggle to see why people need to make up things to talk about.
The human mind works like a charm too bad you're using its power on Chad Chad. Life is composed of food,sleep, entertainment, and goals.
@@meowbahhyt that was near entirely incoherent
Thanks for highlighting these two terms "PSYCHOLOGY" and "POP PSYCHOLOGY" as people' tend to conflate the two
Especially Gen Z thinks that Pop psych is actually psychology and totally remain oblivious to the fact that Pop psych is just another branch or field of study in Psychology .
Actual psychology is sometime absolutely unscientific and rubbish since a. we don't really understand what happens in people's head and b. a lot of psychologists sells pop psychology. So it's extremely easy to understand why people are so interested by pop psychology since it always has been a thing, even in the actual discipline.
@@Cleanyourdamnmirror 🤡
I wish we could get dark versions of other scientific fields, like Dark Geology (cursing rocks to have the opposite effects alt health gurus say they do) or Dark Entomology (Breeding killer bees in your estranged parents backyard)
Dark geology: throw a uranium mineral at your ex's window
Dark chemistry: open the gas stove at your ex's house during the winter
Dark biology: poison your neighbour
Dark physics: car go vroom over mother in law
Health effects of rocks? That ain't geology, that's quackery.
Dark geology is when you make volcanoes erupt or reunite the continents into Neopangaea
Dark Physics: The Manhattan Project
@@ashikjaman1940 I feel like dark physics actually has to do with dark matter and dark energy. I would say the Manhattan Project was actually very bright physics.
The last tiktok in the dark psychology part about the hot and cold technique is an actual manipulation tactic called lovebombing, which is used by abusers in relationships or sometimes even friendships. The abuser is abusive towards the victim, however when they try leaving the relationship or start getting cold they'll start showering them with love and affection in order to keep them which creates an unhealthy definition of love in the victims mind.
Isn't this also used in cults?
@blockytheblock1 often times it is a tactic used in cults, yes
onlyjayus is an actual psychology student iirc
it's so fucked up that people even want to use that
-from a victim of lovebombing
we always talk about "psychology facts" but never "psychology opinions" 😔
we always say ‘why are psychology facts?’ and never ‘how are psychology facts?’
Call that psychoanalysis
I just want to know how you psychology feel
Chad Chad had a yikes take like below the tiktokers meow 😺
Huh true
Funny, apparently we’re rebranding emotional abuse as “dark psychology.” Really has a cool ring to it
Fr
me when dark psychology (gaslighting) (psychological abuse) (manipulation)
The dark side of psychology is a way to many abilities that could be considered...toxic.
@@voidboi2831Oh chill bud, it's just a joke! I was testing you!!!!!
I mean that's what they essentially did to modern "dark YA". It's all just some form of misogyny or abuse
"eat up,sluts" I LOST IT😭💀6:59
real psych fact: if you have a friend that consistently makes you feel worse, they're not worth it. full stop. a responsible person prioritizes their mental health over the temporary amusement of others. i can't even count all the perfectly good friends i've had to cut off since they wouldn't quit lovingly babying toxic people even when they themselves were turning toxic... because they were adamant that wouldn't be very nice. ugh.
Ims need a citation on that paper
Just the concept of defining "worth it" has got to be exciting
As a ‘female’, I can confirm that we will indeed fall in love with anyone who constantly speaks in sarcasm, because if overused, it never loses its humour and in no way appears like they think we are stupid 👍🏼
I actually hate sarcasm. it’s so annoying just be sincere
Oh wow, you're SOOO smart for noting this.
*prepares to no longer be single*
Yeah! Once, I had a male creature sarcastically say my dog was hanging out indoors when I saw that he got ran over by a car! I had never felt so attracted before!
If a man talks to me sarcastically I have no choice but to just break up with my girlfriend and become straight
Like its just so attractive when a man talks to me like I have the mentality of a bag of rocks
Oh really, that's super interesting
Repackaging emotional abuse tactics as "dark psychology" is really fun and cool
Every time they said "dark psychology" it made my eye twitch and then scream... THATS NOT A THING! IT'S NOT A THIIIING!!!!
🖤Dark psychology fact🖤: abuse💥 the shit 💩out of your loved 😘ones 😏💕
@@hyiso811not that deep man
@@Rosemary46840try googling “hyperbole” and using it as a device to perform rhetorical analysis on the previous comment. or don’t, idrgaf bc youtube comments aren’t that deep which you clearly don’t understand XD
@@Rosemary46840it is
I am a person with npd and I’ve been feeling pretty awful lately because of this “narcissistic abuse” rhetoric online and seeing creators I look up to repeating it, and I was pretty scared to watch this video because of how awful people are to anyone with a personality disorder but omg thank you for being so normal it actually made my day to see someone even just sympathise with a hypothetical “narcissist”. The bar is low but that’s still incredibly rare so thank you so much, genuinely.
Omg this!! I'm not diagnosed with npd but I share some characteristics, what pisses me off is that it just feeds into the stigmatizing ideology of "good mentally ill" vs "bad mentally ill", like you wouldn't say depression abuse or OCD abuse, so why is "narcissistic abuse" a thing,, there are different kinds of abuse like emotional, physical, mental, etc but narcissistic abuse is not one of them and it only serves to villainise people with npd, whilst also ignoring the fact that a lot of people with personality disorders suffered abuse and trauma. Y'all just say abuse istg
@@Entityyy303 especially considering the fact that “narcissistic abuse” is literally a term made up by reddit it is not a real phenomenon or term recognised within psychology
@@Entityyy303 So real ! I'm sick of these "mental health advocates" who will slap the word narcissist as an insult to whatever they dislike. They seem to completely ignore that npd also stems from trauma and narcissists are victims and suffering in some way too.
To be fair, a lot of people with NPD are abusive and form toxic relationships with people. Their symptoms are basically characterized by lacking empathy, having difficulties controlling emotions, having anger issues, having an inflated sense of self, lashing out at people and being manipulative. Of course, I think people with NPD can heal, but they rarely seek treatment because they don't see problems in their behaviors. I do believe that personality disorders are heavily stigmatized, and people with personality disorders should be met with compassion and understanding. Coming from someone with BPD, which is similar to NPD in a sense that were both stigmatized for being abusive, manipulative, and impulsive, I do understand how upsetting it is to be defined by our disorders, and to be automatically labeled as horrible people who only hurt others.
@@Enter.403 i should correct you on a couple of points- 1, people with npd don’t actually have an inflated self esteem. The name is misleading but we actually have exactly the opposite. Npd develops from trauma and delusional episodes of grandiosity we experience are our brains way of coping with extreme self hatred. 2. “A lot of people with npd are abusive” isn’t actually true. A lot of people will armchair diagnose their abusers with npd sure, but out of people professionally diagnosed we are far more likely to be victims of abuse. There are people with npd who are assholes just like there are people with autism or ocd who are assholes. My abuser had BPD and I’m not going around saying I’m a victim of BPD abuse. 3, we aren’t unlikely to seek treatment because we see nothing wrong with us. Most people with npd are well aware of our illness, and we have the highest suicide rate of any cluster b disorder. We are unlikely to seek treatment because our diagnosis is so heavily stigmatised that some therapists will outright decline to help us, which you can probably imagine doesn’t feel great.
"They call him 'Headless' for more than one reason" is genius 😂
I like how they treat manipulation tactics like they're some kind of "dark magic". Really adds a lot of whimsy to the act of lying and manipulating people
psych tiktoks out here using their dark psychology powers to manipulate people using mysticality and whimsy
The way you used whimsy makes being a dirtbag seem so magical.😅
@@thebacteriawasbeatentodeath this comment is hilarious from a kokichi pfp (I love kokichi)
When you add “dark” in front of any other field, it sounds silly. Like “dark engineering” or “dark agriculture.” Imagine being like “hey! What are you studying?” and they respond with “oh! I’m majoring in dark environmental science with a minor in dark geology.”
@@amazingzie378dark calculus
Which is just regular calculus honestly
No matter your skills in any given field, even advanced mathematics,
We shouldn't be dealing with numbers too much. There's something scary about the imaginary number and I had to crash through at least two weeks on using the damn thing
Don't remember a single equation but I'm okay with that. We built the tower of babel with the power of numbers now look at us there's literally greek in my formulas :(
I love how the "dark psychology" bros are just an update to the thinking of "insert gifts, receive sex;" that we're just robots that just need to be hacked correctly to reliable dispense The Sex.
It probably makes sense from his perspective since he seems like he might be an actual robot
lmaoo
I dont know why but reading "dispense The Sex" just made me cringe but also kind of laugh?
"Dispense The Sex"
*I n t e r e s t i n g . . .*
I love it when a homo rapeiens makes a youtube video saying something like "and what are women gonna do when realistic robot dolls come out, huh?". Not be harassed. That's what we're gonna do.
Those "Dark Psychology" TikToks have the same energy as that prohibition-era grape juice with a label essentially saying: "Warning: Do not follow this series of detailed steps or this grape juice would turn into wine."
Hey absolutely don't mix potassium chlorate with some iron powder and zinc and coal powder then put it in a pipe
To avoid that absolutely do not boil nleach till you're left with half its volume
That'll make a pipe bomb and you absolutely dont want that
The fact that calling it ""dark psychology" is basically just a method to make extremely toxic or manipulative shit sound like something "cool". Gotta love it/s
fr! also using different names for it is just bs
That's a lie, why would anyone need to work harder to make Manupilation sound cool when it already does
If we look at the other names for similar things throught history we fund machiavelian traits and the dark triad
Those sound even cooler
Nah dark psychology is just a cute digestible name they got off of a book that is easy for simple bozos to understand immediately
It's not cool, it's special ed
@@guythat779 Jeez?? I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and assume this is either a joke or you mean something completely different than that sounds like and that you *don't* think manipulation is actually cool or sounds cool. Because that's honestly disturbing.
@Rubyskies i did say it for funny purposes
But it's completely factual that Manupilation sounds cool by default
Thr word gaslight spread like fire from obscurity so easily for that reason
When they refer to women as "females",you know their advice is going to be toxic.
But you definitely don't think it's toxic for women to call men "males." Also female is another word for woman.
@@katherinebattle3780 fr. I dont get the hate for people calling women females in this comment section. It's just another word for woman! What's the big problem????
@@occultsupport I think it’s because a majority of the examples used in this video are for men trying to get women, and in a lot of those videos, they refer to women as ‘females’ way more than theyre calling dudes ‘males’. This is the same for a lot of those dumb dating advice videos too.
But referring to women as ‘females’ is seen as rude because that word gives a connotation that you think lesser of them, like they’re animals. They do mean the same thing, but again, different words for things can have negative or positive connotation that put a spin on things.
Calling men ‘males’ can also have that same negative connotation, but it isn’t being pointed out as much because it simply isn’t being used to describe men by people like the examples in this video more than they are calling women ‘females’, so people are less inclined to point it out in the first place.
Sorry for the essay, I just like explaining things and I hope you understood.
@@ghost_horses. bebe can you open your fuckin eyes? Women are calling men "males" to degrade them more then any of the men you've met in your life. So you can stop lying now
@@katherinebattle3780 Female is not another word for woman. The terms male and female can be applied to any animal while man is define as “human male” and woman is defined as “human female.” This makes using the terms male and female come across as dehumanizing.
After watching this and downloading TikTok I've become a licensed psychologist. Now I can keep the money I saved up for a psychology degree and buy a private jet.
Thank you Chad Chad. 👍🏻
Replied to this the minute it was commented
But why when you can manipulate your friend for their dad’s private jet? Speaking of which there was something I wanted to tell you
Chad Chad has no skills she can only talk meow 😺
@@meowbahhyt the fuck lmao? What’s that supposed to even mean
@@meowbahhyt loser much?
Can we just appreciate Chad Chad for calling out the weird ableist "How to tell if someone is a narcissist" tiktok? People with NPD get demonized so much in media and made out as villains when they're just people with trauma-based personality disorders, and calling out the colloquialism of disabilities is so important
You're absolutely right
I Don't agree with the exact reasons but the result yes
Just the term narcossist is overused and means nothing anyway, it's like how politicians say "terrorist"
It just means "that guy, well i dont like him and quite frankly that makes him the bad guy"
Second reason is id rather ppl dont point out my behaviour to others thsnk you very much, like mind your own business
Yeah, she is truly the woman we all want but don’t deserve. She lives up to her name, right? 🤩
People like that have made it a fucking headache for me to get an assessment for anything.
Ableism can go get fucked.
absolutely. i have HPD and my good friend has NPD, it pisses me off how it's so normalized to stereotype and demonize cluster B disorders. especially NPD and ASPD.
edit: my "HPD" turned out to be a misdiagnosis but my point still stands
@@_.aria_blaze._ the stereotypes make it really fucking hard to diagnose.
I don't know if I'm just really fragile in terms of friendships but whenever someone tries to do "psychology test" bullshit on me I just feel betrayed and I don't remember staying friends with people who have tried it
It's not 'being fragile' if someone feels the need to test you as a human being, they're betraying trust in a relationship
nah, that's not fragility, that's basic self-esteem and healthy expectations of how people treat each other. don't let this garbage 'content' convince you otherwise. these people are a classic loud minority in their beliefs; don't settle for people who try and dishonestly test and manipulate you and you'll find others who will treat you as well as you deserve (who you can then treat well in return!).
One of my closest friends did something along these lines with me many years back. I think she was feeling insecure or having a mental health episode, and wanted to test to see if I cared about her. I didn't respond how she thought I should, so she got really sad and despondent. When I found out that she'd done it, I felt kind of betrayed. I told her in no uncertain terms never to do anything like that again. It genuinely hurt me.
Thankfully, it never happened again, and our relationship is great. I think feeling betrayed or otherwise upset is a fair response, since it's basically an admission that they don't trust you.
There's something that *really* freaks me out about those "dark psychology" videos: Half of them look like an abuser's handbook and I've had a friend that definitely did that cycle of validation before pulling away to me. And it pains me to admit that it worked until he went after my partner.
I’m sorry that happened to you, and you’re right. They’re just adults teaching minors (mostly teenagers) that it’s okay to manipulate and abuse someone, and giving step-by-steps on how to do so.
Yeah, those videos are literally just “how to abuse the person you’re romantically attracted to”. Great thing to show teenagers, who as an age group already lack empathy because their brains aren’t fully developed yet.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I completely agree though, that's basically exactly what it is if not just manipulation. So gross how that blonde person is presenting it like some cute informative video
What did you do then? I recommend kicking people out of one's life that do that. If someone makes you feel bad, let them go and look for better friends. I wouldn't stay in a work evironment either, where they use this shit - find a better place if you can.
@@ginny3599 Oh yeah, I kicked him out of my life. Three times before it (hopefully) stuck, one of which he infiltrated our online friend group under a false identity.
Absolutely agree that you should remove people from your life that are manipulative/abusive like that.
I love the thought of Narcissist's testing each other for NPD by just endlessly manipulating each other in a glitched out loop of lies.
New Democratic Party?
@@speedweed6747narcissistic personality disorder
@@speedweed6747 narcissistic personality disorder
three people took the bait, and it wasn't even good bait. Sad.
@@Jane-oz7pp ah yes, the bait of clarifying for a question that really has no impact on any of our lives. Oh the humanity
The “getting inside their mind” thing isn’t going to make them obsessed with you, it’s going to make them worried they did something wrong.
im actually aware of everyone's presence all of the time
As an incoming psych major who wants to be a psychologist for a living, the concept of “dark psychology” is probably the funniest thing I’ve ever heard. It reminds me of the dark academia aesthetic and dark magic, which must be what they’re connecting it to.
Also, the dark psychology hot and cold girl was also in Drew Gooden’s video about getting taller. I think she spreads a lot of false information.
She just loves pulling into out of her ass i guess
as an occultist it was the dark magic connection i linked to first. especially surrounding the concepts of like forcing people to fall in love with you.
baby witches grow out of that stuff as they learn how magic actually works.
is it similar with psychology and intellectualism?
@@HadalStreetlights I thought about dark magic too. I don't do anything occult-y but it definitely gave me the same vibes as those black magic tiktoks
People dont Iike her she got into a huge online mess and is one of the most hated tiktokers
@@Z5Z5Z5 what happened with her?
The "narcissist" one is infuriating and common. Pseudo-scientific psychology combined with the demonization of NPD just. melts people's brains
istg people throw around the words narcissist and antisocial in the same way they used to throw around depression when someone was sad because they lost a game in 2013
It really does just feel like everyone just moved on from using the word "psychopath" to describe shitty people to using the word "narcissist." Some people will run through every disorder in the DSM before they think to reflect on their behavior
@@SeymourDisapproves Thats why I just call them "C*nts"
neurodivergent femmes are the most popular people to call narcissists i've noticed
@@urheehoo moms and ex-boyfriends are literally the only ppl accused of being narcissists. apparently no one else can be one
here’s a light psychology trick to seem like a good person:
1. Come to terms with yourself and figure yourself out and how you plan on building yourself to become better.
2. Patience is a virtue. Having a lot of patience is key in becoming a kindhearted individual.
3. Be genuinely nice to people, even if they respond with hostility.
4. Know your limits. Understand that you cannot help everyone. You do what you can, not things you can’t.
Wait a minute you're tricking me into fixing myself
Nsh i want ways to control ppl
Like "take stands even if you dont care so ppl respect that you have a spine" or "give some criticism even if you have none it makes ppl think you're honest and also softens them for when you actually need to be honest"
"THEY CALL HIM HEADLESS FOR MORE THAN ONE REASON" TOOK ME OUT 💀💀
I have my final paper for my Psychology degree today and this really helped to get in some last-minute revision. Thank you Chad Chad! 🙏🏽
Good luck man!
You plannin on using the hot-cold-sarcasm-humor-darkpsych methods to make them love you to get the grade? Nice, true alpha-sigma lone wolf gigachad behavior.
Good luck!!
You already are got the power 👁️💋👁️
Chad Chad will bring you down a letter grade you should be listening to me meow 😺
we stan certified and licensed professional psychologist chad chad
yes
absolutely
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obviously
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As an overthinker the "get in her head one" is gonna put me in a coma
"Always use sarcasm"
This would be my HELL because I can't understand sarcasm 😭😭
Calling people “females” or “males” is incredibly embarrassing behavior
And a bright red flag for real 🚩🚩🚩
@@msmknz it's not even red atp it's vermilion
Or it's not a native speaker
if you aint a scientist or a doctor you arent allowed to say it
@@outlawthesecond7597 could you explain why please
As someone who studied psychology in BitLife, I can report that all the psychology facts in this video were completely truthful.
If u take someone to the movies enuf times they'll marry you
@@lucystonerif someone says excuse me to you and then thank you that means they're attracted to you
if someone says 'sorry' they want to marry you (100% PSYCHOLOGY FACT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1)
@@-pansy.flower-pfff just buy them a bitlife citizenship. They'll fall immediately 100% guaranteed
Same!
its so weird seeing them say "this is dark psychology so be careful" like its some type of forbidden spell
These dark psychology facts really just validating my distrust and confusion with guys I was with in the past. One in particular was so damaging. I feel dumb but I really fell for the one where they are super sweet and loving and then completely pull away and pretend like ur not there and do it again and again. At a very vulnerable state I fell for this and it was confusing and painful. I grew to hate the guy and eventually cut things off and he still randomly tries to message me claiming he really cares about me. It’s sick. I found myself disgusted with him and feeling like he was so fake but never feeling like I could be sure. Just this overwhelming feeling I could not ignore. Because he didn’t do or say anything directly to make me feel that way it was all in the behavior. He chose it words very carefully so I couldn’t really call him out. When I tried to ask about things it was always. That wasn’t my intention and stuff but I felt like it was. He let it slip once saying he loved “teasing” me by playing with my emotions and easily manipulating me. I always wondered why he smiled so much when I was crying, upset or sad or saying sorry. I wondered why he always wanted me to tell him all the painful things and confide in him but seemed to be taking notes more then trying to help. Why he would laugh and smile the only time I saw a genuine emotion in him. And he smiled again when he said that but it was like almost a scary smile. It made me feel….unsettled and disturbed he said he was just joking after but he wasn’t. It stuck with me and he was good at making me think it was in my head and my own insecurities. I won’t lie he had me in a desperate place for a while. When I started to heal from the trauma I was dealing with I realized something slowly every time I saw him I felt more and more unhappy. I always felt unhappy around him but it was like I became more aware of it because I wasn’t consumed in my own insecurities anymore. I wasn’t blaming myself anymore. Every time I saw him I couldn’t wait to be away from him his energy was so toxic, I found him annoying overbearing and unattractive, I was extremely bored and I wondered what the fuck did I ever see in him? The last time I saw him he couldn’t handle me at all. He started to get nervous just being around me because I wasn’t letting him manipulate me and I wasn’t scared to speak my truth anymore regardless if he liked it, I left like 30 mins into seeing him out of shear boredom and at the time I actually puttied him. I realized how insecure he actually was. And I felt bad for him for a long time after and tried to be friends but he wouldn’t stop trying to play those old games. Always asking me about my life right away to gauge my emotional state and waiting for an opening. It was so gross and really pathetic. I couldn’t believe I once thought I loved him. Dark psychology is real and honestly people use it alot more then u think. People need to make U insecure and keep u down because they are to insecure to be what you deserve. Or to just treat u right. If they can convince you I deserve less u will never realize U deserve better. Never stay where u are unhappy. Never let a person mess with your mental health. Be weary of people who just come around when ur down. We can’t think clearly when we’re in a bad place. We don’t see people for who they really are. Our senses can become dulled by pain, fear, or desperation. And There’s a lot of vultures out there.
Okay?
So I’m a real life therapist (licensed and everything) and also a very online younger millennial. The landscape of mental health and psychology discourse online is so interesting. Like, yes, anxiety is a lot more normalized now. Fantastic. People are more aware of neurodivergence. Great. But also not everyone you meet has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder and not everything is directly explainable by a psychology “fact”. Like the only thing that’s true about people is that nothing is universally true.
It's people who have no idea what the DSM is explaining to other people who also have no idea what the DSM is how to diagnose a complete stranger based off one manufactured interaction.
I started studying psychology two tears ago and the most frustrating part about it was having to learn about all these older renowned psychologists coming up with their theories and acting like they were universally true
“Like the only thing that’s true about people is that nothing is universally true.”
Preach!
@@natkatmac I often wish to print out the entirety of the DSM-5 and whack anyone who says: Oh but the DSM says being trans is a mental illness
Just. Start with a solid hip swing.
As someone with diagnosed BPD but doing a lot better these days, it's gross to see how crucified people with it are. It's one of the most emotionally torturous disorders and although there's plenty of people who don't get help and let it ruin their and others lives, there's lots of us doing work to get help and be better people and control emotions better.
I'm so glad content like this is trending. Chad Chad is a great example of being extremely funny while still shutting down harmful behavior, its extremely fun to watch and good to know this content is reaching so many people.
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"Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes"
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fr !!!!! these videos help So much to pinpoint warning signs and red flags u probably missed before!!!
@@philosophy_bot4171 bad bot
@@Void-qz1zd still better than "This clip is-" and "This is why he quit!!"
"This is why your father left you
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I think I fell in love with her all over again after she used the Sherlock theme. I shit you not I GASPED so loudly and started smiling like an idiot😭
As a psychology student about to write a psych exam, I can confirm this is exactly what is in my text book. 😊
I just noticed, the background music around 11:55, its the same ambient music used for the Earth realm in the roblox game Royale High.
That’s why it felt so familiar
yess I thought I was the only one who realized
As an asexual who laughs way too much and way too easily, can confirm: the only times I've felt sexual attraction is when I've accidently looked at someone while laughing
Pokemon PFP and watches Chad Chad Chad oof 🤧
Fr?
That's kinda wild to me, I won't lie
@@meowbahhyt what’s wrong with that 🤨
@@ckw4244 They're a loser that's been lurking on chad chad videos for months instead of doing anything meaningful. Pay them no attention.
That "dark psychology tip" about saying "Oh I have something to tell you, actually nevermind!" is exactly why I broke up with two different people lmao. I get extremely bored of mind games. Like aight, have fun with your lack of communication skills, I'm gonna go make out with someone else.
real like I don’t have time for solving some weird puzzle you decided to throw at me
Word, I'm a hot bitch, I'm not wasting all this on someone who can't even manage to communicate. I dropped three people in the same week (I'm non-monogamous) because they wouldn't communicate directly.
yo big facts, i don't have time for that childish bs. like you can use your words, or i'm just gonna dump you lol. 💀
Watching Chad Chad is the first problem 😲
@@meowbahhyt ☠️
Real psychology trick: tell a girl you like honey and you have a jar of honey with you. If she has a hopefull look in her eyes, she is actually a swarm of bees in disguise hoping to steal your honey. In any other case she is still a swarm of bees in disguise looking to steal your honey but simply hiding her facial expression.
why is this not a top comment
Fun fact, tinnitus joke spiked my tinnitus.
My psych professor told us that “everyone is a psychologist, because we all see behavior being performed daily and can make inferences based on our experience. What separates the psychologist from the researcher is the mitigation of biases and putting aside that personal experience to evaluate and test a phenomenon.”
"The difference between science and fucking around is writing it down" to quote one of the myth busters
The difference is they are getting paid meow 😺 I skipped the whole Chad Chad video
I don't remember if my professor said anything similar, but he DID say that if you suck your thumb as a baby you'll grow up to become anal retentive, so... I dropped my psych major and became a poet because what the fuck.
They really said that?? HUGE red flag.
I would also argue that education is important, more important really.
Chad Chad: "YOU are a psychologist"
Me, an actual psychologist: "how the fuck does she know? 👁👄👁"
Me as a student in psychology. Ahaha yes, actually no, uh ...
same 😂😂😂
1:23 people usually tend to look at someone who they feel safe with when they laugh. So the fact is almost right
So in order to defend the lie that this was a fact, you made up another lie and called it a fact too?
3:44 as someone with (mild) tinnitus i can confirm that this is Why i have it
tinnitus by txt 😨
@@danii.pocketzYEAH WANT IT ‼️‼️‼️💥💥💥
@@danii.pocketz😰
@@danii.pocketzI thought the same thing 😭
@@Eggaroundtheworld lmaoo
I really hate the laugh one because it happened to me. A few years ago I was chatting with a friend of a friend, he made some funny jokes so I laughed. About 10 min later I mentioned my boyfriend and the dude got mad "If you have a boyfriend why do you laugh at my jokeS?!". I had to explain to him that I laughed because it was funny, not a pleasant conversation to have! We were in our mid 20s, still blows my mind how aggressive he became
It's weird that some people interpret "laughing at a joke" as "this person is hot for me" rather than "this person thought my joke was funny."
Didn't you know? Having a boyfriend means your sense of humour turns to ashes and gets absorbed by your pancreas. It's the sacrifice you make in order to feel love. #TrueBiologyFacts
@@error-try-again-lateryour body's hormonal makeup will change so that you're only able to laugh at your boyfriend's jokes anymore. Only one dude at a time, ladies!
He’s a narcissist, jk jk. Probably a red flag for real tho 😂
I have many friends with great senses of humor and it's pretty easy to make me laugh... oh no... looks like I'm about to date everyone in my inner-to-sorta-distant circle
The funniest thing about that one woman who was like "here's how you spot a narcissist" is that if she actually bothered to research NPD even a little bit she'd find out it's a traumagenic mental disorder. That people get via repetitive childhood trauma due to a certain dysfunctional/abusive parenting style and it's often comorbid with CPTSD, just like BPD. And not something you can just "tell" somebody has or use in place of ways to describe somebody who's egotistical, arrogant or an asshole.
That and it's also hilarious that she's implying all people with NPD are abusive or going to manipulate you. Way to stigmatize an already very demonized mental disorder lol.
finally someone with common sense
@@entrapta.exe_ Ty, I try lol
I love learning about various mental disorders and actual psychology/how the mind works.
I'm getting sick and tired of people using narcissistic as a synonym for abusive, toxic or power hungry or whatever other negative trait somebody could have since it's stupid and doesn't make sense to me hahah. Most people don't label somebody with BPD as an awful person right off the bat (most of the time, I happen to have it) but in comparison to that and in my experience as well as through a lot of observation, people are often very prone to labelling somebody with NPD as abusive and self-centered just because they have the disorder or have traits of it without any other reason.
It infuriates me to no goddamn end lmfao.
The funny thing is, if *you* looked up narcissism, you'd realise it's a seperate thing from NPD.
You're making a mistake in assuming "narcissist" *means* NPD, and it doesn't. You're not wrong about what NPD is, but its existence as a personality disorder comes from the much simpler and less serious "narcissism", a preoccupation with one self. The name itself came from Narcissus, a mythical man from a roman poem who would reject women's advances before being cursed by the gods to be in love with his own reflection, hence "narcissist" means someone who is overly obsessed with one self and one's needs, often at the expense of others, just like how you can be "obsessive" and not have OCD, how you can be "depressed" but not have "major depressive disorder". The real irony is, your problem is based on over-applying psychology and DSM-V to assume people are talking about a personality disorder when they're talking about a personality trait, to complain about someone not looking up NPD despite the fact they weren't even talking about it.
"You can't use it in place of ways to describe somebody who's egotistical, arrogant or an asshole" yeah, agreed, some people overuse narcissist to describe people they don't like, but "egotistical" is actually a synonym for narcissistic. You CAN in fact, use narcissist to describe somebody who has an obsession or admiration of themselves, like self-absorbed, conceited, etc because that is the literal definition. Not every word that is used in psychology is exclusive to psychology, and assuming some tiktoker who thinks you should trap people with games to see if they're narcissists or have NPD (cause doing either is nonsense and useless) is also someone who would ever do enough research to use narcissist vs NPD properly is a you problem. Clearly they have 0 idea of what they're talking about, you want them to at the very least be more accurate in using terms they don't understand so they have, 0.5 idea of what they're talking about?
And I only say this, because this overly educational view also trivialises and changes words, like how "anorexia", a symptom of low/no appetite, became short hand for "anorexia nervosa" a mental disorder where people avoid eating, so that now, anorexia is useless because you have to specify lack of appetite anyway, because people assume it means AN.
"here's some advice if you ever feel anxious-"
"UMMM I highly doubt you have the necessary qualifications to be giving people advice on how to manage symptoms of Generalised Anxiety Disorder, sweaty 💅"
@@cthulhu8164 Holy shit I feel stupid hahah, thanks for correcting me. This actually clears up a lot and oh man I really wish I looked at that more.
Nobody's ever really told me this nor have I seen anything about it so this is very relieving to hear. That is some funny as hell irony on my part and I'll fully admit that you were right in stating that my problem was that I thought NPD means narcissist when upon looking up narcissism and actually researching the things you said you're totally right in that NPD wasn't being talked about, it's not used in the same way and I was wrong for thinking that. You bring up a *lot* of good points I failed to see or think about and it's very nice to have it pointed out, and to reflect on my views about this as well as potentially other things I could be wrong about as a result of learning a bit more. I kind of assumed that since narcissism is a trait of NPD that people weren't using the word correctly and that is so stupid of me to have though for (now) obvious reasons. I'm face-palming at myself hard hah.
Once again thank you, and I'm very sorry for not making sense beforehand. I'm very glad to have learned from this. ^^
@@128treehugger I was trying to express my frustrations with people using the word narcissistic/narcissist as a way to negatively describe somebody, and how using it in the way people do when they say something along the lines of "here's how to spot a narcissist" or "here's how to piss a narcissist off" is harmful because it stigmatizes people with NPD which is already a very heavily demonized disorder and in my point of view implied that people are just assuming somebody with NPD was automatically abuisve or going to manipulate people when obviously that's a stupid take, as in you can't just assume that bc somebody has the disorder that they're a bad person.
CLEARLY I was wrong, that's not at all what was being talked about and it turns out I was mixing up what the meaning of narcisissm is vs what NPD actually is. Simply put my understanding was flawed and I was swiftly schooled. ":)
"well i ain't callin'you a roofer" excellent
‘’Dark psychology’’ sounds like the modern version of making a Faustian bargain for forbidden power.
Theres a story of a woman whose bf told her she smells..lots of times to the point she get self conscious. She did shower, wear perfumes etc etc but he still said she smells. So finally she confronted him and was like, my friends and family said i smell fine, i shower daily, etc etc and if she smells to him lets just break up. The guy finally confessed his dad told him to do that because if the girl think shes smelly she wont break up with him cuz she wont have confidence to find someone else
Guys...DONT do this. This is mental. This isnt dark psychology, its borderline abusive
idk about "borderline" to be honest. i think it pretty soundly qualifies as manipulative at the very best, and as emotional abuse at worst.
either way i feel like calling it abusive is appropriate.
IT IS ABUSIVE, let's stop sugar coating mfs treating people like shit, they're not just mean, they're not just pathetic, they are abusers, he was emotionally abusing her to gain the confirmation that she wasn't going to leave him, that's abuse.
No need for the borderline.
More fantasy stories from Chad Chad watchers 🥱
@@meowbahhyt Get a life
I love how they always say "this tactic is guaranteed to work!" no its not. most people you're going to chase away with your creepy manipulative behavior. I heard a story recently where the person said their ex would do the "we need to talk" thing just like the creepy guy in the video and then refuse to give them any details and give them stress and anxiety all day until they could talk to them in person, and then it would even be anything important, not even a serious discussion. They said they told their ex they didn't like this and asked them to stop and they agreed to. Then they continued to do it so they broke up with them. It's manipulative behavior meant to stress someone out so that when you talk you're way more likely to agree with whatever they ask because you're so relieved its not some relationship defining discussion.
Oh, they did the same at the last job I was. Truly hateful disgusting people there! I left that fucking shithole of a place and worte them a super bad kununu review (because of course they do more shitty things there then that and even go against the law).
Yep, it's a way to constantly exert your power over them and make them more likely to submit to you if they already have low self confidence.
Yeah any sane person would see through the bullshit in like 3 days
Yeah! Like I'm pretty sure a good portion of girls are gonna be like "oh cool" when you do the "Nevermind" trick on them 😭😭
Are we gonna talk about the kissing skit that chad chad did😂
That’s a prodigious derrière right there
I love the private jet one. I like imagining that woman has done that "trick" a lot and thinks everyone around her are narcissists, when actually they're giving her a confused, incredulous smile that anyone would just make up a private jet story like a first grader making up really obvious shit to impress people.
If any of my friends said they had a private jet I'd literally laugh out loud 🤣
Fr. Imagine a grown woman approaches you and is like, "Hey my name is Janet and by the way my dad owns a private jet. Just kidding! I don't, but since you're laughing at me, that's probably a red flag that you were planning on using me and you're a narcissist. Okay bye!"
me and my friends make minimum wage we're not even getting a car past 2004 💀
And those who frown at her do so because they think she's definitely full of shit
i love that so many of these are "dark psychology" facts, like its an entirely separate branch of psychology they teach in universities. just imagine the possibilities of a work of dark academic fields... dark sociology... dark linguistics... dark law.. dark environmental science and sustainable technologies... business management and economics...
how are there no comments on this the joke at the end was hilarious
All business management is dark business management
It's like some Harry Potter fiction
LOL
dark ceramics... dark painting.... dark art history..... dark accounting
The "I wanna tell you something... Oh nevermind" has occurred to me many times. It was so funny cuz I always respond with "Okay not a problem" or lately, just absolutely ignoreeee the existence of that text. Drives the other person crazy.
as someone with npd im so happy that chad called out the woman in the end misusing "narcissist". im sick of the constant demonization of all of cluster b so seeing content creators being aware of actual narcissism really makes me happy
"In order to make females love you, you have to use sarcasm because it shows intelligence, a trait females love" that actually made me gag LMAO - these pick up bros talk about us like we're chimpanzees at the zoo and it's so fucking disgusting.
Also no, plenty of women actually DON'T like sarcasm cuz a.) it makes you sound like an asshole when you don't know if the person actually likes it, and b.) as a neurodivergent person who struggles to pick up when someone is being serious and have had sarcasm used against me before, all it'll do is confuse me as to why you're not being straightforward.
Ofc there are neurodivergent people who probably do like sarcasm, but as it goes with any human being (which these dudebros don't seem to view women as), it depends on the person - there's not catch all tricks like they always imply.
Gosh, maybe you're just not their target female. They have a radar that detects women who love sarcasm and their alpha behaviour (for legal reasons, that's a joke)
Imagine being this pressed Chad Chad watchers man 😔
I don't like when people sarcasm me, but I like sarcasiming others 😈😈
@@meowbahhyt "imagine being this pressed" dude you've got over 80 comments on a channel you very obviously dislike
Get a life
@@meowbahhyt87 comments on this channel, you must really like it here 😊
As a psychology teacher, these "dark" psychology facts on social media drive me up a wall. I try to debunk this stuff to my impressionable teenage students all of the time. Ugh!
Yep fucking same
As a grad school counseling student the class I had about Dark Psychology was one of the hardest but best class Ive taken. So glad I had a course about that and not the ethical standards Ill have to know and abide to
Y'know, in middle school (long before tiktok existed) I not only developed my lifelong hyperfixation with human psychology, but I also unconsciously started using a "tactic" to hopefully make my crushes like me more. I realized, much later, that what I was doing was not only CREEPY AS HELL but, in some cases, might be considered emotional manipulation and STALKING. Now, did it work? I mean, my fiance of six years hasn't left me despite the fact that I admitted to learning his schedule, where his classes were, and what path he took to walk to class, so id call it a massive success.
And just in case anyone is curious, the "tactic" was 1. Inserting myself into their friend group, becoming friends with their friends in an attempt to make a greater excuse to spend more time with them. 2. Go out of my way to interact with them regularly, and make my presence known, but also make it as natural as possible. (aka adjusting my own walk to class to line up with theirs, learning where they sit for lunch, etc.) and 3. Actually just becoming friends with them, because I thought this was all completely normal and not obsessive behavior whatsoever. The goal was essentially to lead them right to the point of us being close friends, and then just.... waiting. Hoping they'd ask me out or something.
@@ethansiltala8486 i mean, all things considered that doesn't sound so bad, becoming friends with them and talking to them often and all that, really it mostly just gets creepy around the "learning what paths they take" part lmao
For the whole “make somebody fall in love with you, super toxic” the whole “well, it’s good for people to be aware about it”… why not just present it as, “signs that someone is manipulating you into a romantic relationship” and not literally tell people that this is supposed to be a manipulative tool to get others attracted to you? Because uh… maybe that’s terrible advice you should be giving never??
Because it's Jayus..... Not the first time she does something toxic
@@Alissa.Fine24 I feel like I’ve seen too much of the whole: “this advice is SUPER toxic and you shouldn’t actually do it, but let me still tell you how to do it anyway!”💀
@@OneAndOnly.H it's their way of getting you to want to watch their shitty content
fr. As an aroace i wouldn't like it if someone purposely tried to woo me in the most toxic way ever.
@@mustavengemario No matter of sexuality, no one likes being manipulated.
The way people treat narcissists, ppl with BPD, and similar disorders like bombs about to explode is seriously upsetting. Yes, disorders influence people's behavior, which means that it might lead to harmful behavior, but literally everyone has the capacity to harm and manipulate others, just like everyone has the ability to recognize their mistakes and change! There is no Bad Scary Person Forever disorder. Humans are complicated. And sometimes, it's hard for people to do the right thing. That doesn't mean it's impossible.
Thank you. I've been such a horribly toxic person in the past and I'm sure I could get a really stigmatized personality disorder diagnosis if I went to the right psychiatrist. But you know what? I worked my ass off on bettering myself, keep cutting out toxic friendships and am in a relationship with a men that won't take any bullshit. Especially the latter has helped me tremendeously. Unpopular opinion: every abuser needs an abuse victim that is also traumatized or mentally ill to begin with, otherwise they would leave asap and not get stuck in there. Which shows that every single person can better themselves in ways and should have that as one of their personal goals.
@@Shirumoon "Unpopular opinion: every abuser needs an abuse victim that is also traumatized or mentally ill to begin with, otherwise they would leave asap and not get stuck in there." I don't know what you mean by this but it sounds bad.
@@psychicbyinternet I’m gonna give them the benefit of the doubt and say that maybe they meant abusers find mentally ill people to be easier victims but if that is what they meant it’s very poorly worded
One of the nicest people I know has BPD and it make me so sad that they have to be so secretive about that. They’re a genuinely good person and I wanna support them. Yeah BPD can lead to some bad behaviors but that doesn’t mean people that have it are monsters with no free will. They’re brains are just wired a bit differently that’s all.
@@michaelio6548 Yeah, that's what I think too
God, that Amanda lady has the most terrifying smile I've ever seem
8:45 my ex kept doing this to me so many times💀boys don’t try this it’s not funny it gets annoying :/
she's so right, it's like "here's how to check if someone is trying to manipulate you...by manipulating them"
If you think about it, every interaction you have with someone os msnupilation
You kissed your partner??!? What are you trying to do, imbed your image and pavlovianly attach it to a good feeling?
Manupilative whore
As someone who has NPD, all of these TikToks about "how to spot a narcissist" are certainly.... interesting and horribly demeaning to those of us who have the disorder since its usually caused by abuse and manipulation 😭
Honestly tiktok treats any disorder in the most offensive stereotypical way possible and make people with those disorders sound like theyre insane or just awful people its so damn weird
You should see how they treat autism.
@@csokissuti7343 omfg its crazy 💀💀
@@csokissuti7343and adhd
Anxiety and Tourettes, too.
Your a psychologist, Harry.
OH NO! NOT VOLDEMORT! HE USES DARK PSYCHOLOGY!
5:29
i genuinely think someone did this to me bcs this is what just happened this week … and it lowkey worked 💀. it made me feel like shit but i like his validation
That "I ain't callin' you a roofer" joke was genuinely hilarious perfect set up and delivery
S tier joke
@@jaxsolaris1177 If you did not understand why that joke was so funny you are just uncultured smh
@@melr5755 I did understand, otherwise why would I have called it S tier??
I love the idea that psychology has this light and dark motif. I wonder what they'd call reverse psychology
Oh, they're yet to discover it. And when they do, they'll probably mislabel it as something ✨ q u i r k y ✨
pop psych is a fucking scourge
Chad Chad's piercing motif made the video unwatchable 🥱
@@meowbahhyt My dude, this might be besides the point, but you didn't even pick a good account to piggyback off of, no one cares about Meowbahh anymore
makes me think about irl magic systems and i think they see it similarly.
i wouldnt be shocked to see them talking about "mind control" or "deadly curses" by other names sooner or later. it's very stupid.
“Well I ain’t calling you a roofer”😂
10:33 hanami from jjk
My cousin is in grad school for psychology, so I sent her this video. She said it helped her ace all of her past and future exams.
Thank you, Chad Chad.
Chad Chad didn't help anyone all she has is 🧢
@Mewobahh and all you have is lame copy paste insults, stop wasting your life in this comment section 🤦
@@meowbahhyt cringe
@@neff6185they unironically like Meowbah, what do you expect
As a dark psychology wizard, I’m guffawing and tittering the day away watching this video. Thanks Chad Chad. 👍
shadow wizard money gang. we love casting spells
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Know I'm thinking of how to build a psychologist wizard in dnd. Dissonant whispers definitely falls under dark.
Dark psychology, like how there’s magic and dark magic
As an autistic person, the behavior analysis psychology test lady is literally my worst nightmare
The “dark psychology” reminds me of how I was treated in my pre-teen/teen relationships. It’s been 15 years and I’m still working on the trauma and trust issues.
Please be good to each other!
Same fr😭 I don't think I suffer really bad trauma but it's still there
I just don't date. Feels like a waste of emotional resources.
@@dokagon75i don't disagree with you but this doesn't work for everyone
I really hope you’re doing better now
So the advice is solid? Would you say there was any room for improvement?
"Gimme your shoes bitch!" I lost it 🤣 9:59
Last time someone said "I need to tell yoy something. Nevermind!" I had a fucking panic attack and though they committed SH. Don't do that! They might get a panic attack!
I love the way that they talk about psychology like it's magic lmao
"There's a spell that can do that but it's dark magic and highly frowned upon"
I had an absolutely terrible day, but watching your video made me feel so much better and made me laugh so much. Thanks, Chad Chad 💜
Hope life feels lighter soon
@@bethanythatsme thank you
I feel you. Hopefully tomorrow is better for you ❤
the advice at the end was really helpful! sad about Chad Chad's jet tho.
i can relate, wish you the best^^
It's honestly wild to me that despite the fact that mental health awareness among younger generations is way better than it once was but people with Cluster B personality disorders like NPD are still treated like some creepy monsters lurking in the shadows just waiting for the opportunity to manipulate you like bruh...they're just people with a specific disorder.
Yeah, but it's a disorder that can really fuck up the people around them too. It may not be their fault, but it's no surprise people are cautious about them and might want to keep their distance.
@@lexa2310 cluster Bs are much more likely to hurt themselves then others. they are demonized just by existing
@@SharkUsingaComputer How so?
@@SharkUsingaComputer honestly I wish this were true but narcs are far more dangerous to others who get entangled
Tf is Cluster B lol
7:15 thats like when kids are watching you eat something and want some but wont just ask so they say shit like "hmm... i never had that before..." or
" I like ______ too..."
😂🤣🙄
I love the small eq changes you do for the mini sketches. Found your channel today and I'm having a blast ignoring that I have work to do
if i had a dollar for everytime chad chad changed her hair, i’d have 12 dollars.
great wigs
If you had said nickels you could’ve been richer than that
Chad Chad is a ❄️ so that comes with the territory 🥱
@@meowbahhyt you are such a no life to where you impersonate a person who should be in jail now stop your Srsly jealous of Chad Chad
@@meowbahhytget therapy
It is so hilarious that they refer to "dark psychology" like some kind of forbidden magic when it's just acting confusingly.
I love the guy at 7:40 talking about dark psychology, it feels like how magic works in Final Fantasy, like I could say "yeah, I'm studying to become a Red Psychologist"
DSM-5: NPD- They're hopeful at the prospect of you owning a private jet
"FARMHOUSE" is by far the best advice and psychology fact ive heard in a while, thank you chad chad!
I'm not gonna debunk all of them (bc i probably won't know all the actual answers) but the one about looking at someone when they laugh is really more in relation to who you're close to than anything. For instance, you're going to look at your siblings first when you laugh bc you wanna see their reaction. If you're closer to friends than family, you'll look at the former first. It's not entirely wrong that maybe someone looks at you first bc they're attracted to you, but more than likely they just feel close enough to you to glance at you. Or something along those lines, it's been a while since I've seen this stated so take it with a grain of salt
I was hoping someone would say this. Maybe it’s purely anecdotal, but I can totally catch myself looking at the person whose approval I value most in a group when a joke is told. But whether it’s true or not, it sure isn’t something to take as seriously as some people think
Just to add to this point, humans use social referencing to evaluate situations and regulate our own emotions so it makes sense we would look at the person we feel closest to/trust the most to get an accurate reading! It is a very real phenomena :)
Is it who you're close to or who you want approval from? Those are very different.
Im aroace and find what most people do from titkok not attractive at all. + You can't tell you wouldn't be uncomfortable if someone tried to make you fall in love with them bc they dont know how to pull
This explains why I always take out and look at my picture of Jesus when I'm laughing!
oh I love I found this page today! My seventh video and I haven’t stopped laughing. Also, I quit social media a decade ago, so you’re officially my social media news anchor.
as someone with tinnitus that part hurt my head 😭