EPISODE 2: DEALING WITH GRIEF AT A YOUNG AGE WITH JOHNNY LOPEZ (Overcomfort with Jenicka Lopez)
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- čas přidán 24. 05. 2024
- I sit down with my younger brother Johnny Lopez and get his perspective on his grief process, how we’ve healed and how we handled traumatic experiences at such a young age.
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4:23. “I know that they love and appreciate mom as the artist, but for me: it’s like because she was the artist that’s why she died” hearing that- gave me chills. I never thought about it from that perspective and it truly broke my heart to view it that way.
You both are super self aware. Johnny you blow me away with how wise you are and compassionate. You said if we were all held accountable of what we did in our 20’s! That’s great that at your age, you understand this. I can definitely empathize with Jenicka, you both are amazing humans
Thank you so much love
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So proud of all of you but especially proud of Johnny!! Everyone thought he would be this fragile boy but he was the one who started asking questions regarding his mom’s empire!!! Now they are in charge ofJenni’s brand !!! He’s very smart and down to earth, he shut so many up!! He’s an amazing young man❤ Jenicka, love how she acknowledges Johnny’s hurt and apologizes she’s a very good sister❤
Grief never leaves, we learn how to live with it, but it always hurts😢
Johnny touched a good point, that I just realized I also did. I pushed people away that were close to me because I just couldn’t deal with their need to “Help”
I did the same when losing my grandfather that was like my father.
grief is tough because it then makes you build a "tough" wall around you where you do not want anyones help or pity because you do not want them to see or know that deep down inside you really are in so much pain. That was me at first. Now Im ok with saying yes after 18 years without her i still hurt
Same😔
Same when I lost my father the constant ambush of people trying to help or so it was just a lot in that moment. You know they mean well but in the moment I just wanted to take it all in alone.
When jenica said "because she was the artist she died" that was deep 😔
Powerful when she spoke that.
I freaking love her... She sounds so mature and soft spoken.... His words are super nice and kind when talking about his sister.
Just this podcast itself proves how strong and how beautiful you guys grew up to be. Your mom was always so proud and strong on defending her kids, and now i see why because all of you 5 are amazing kids
I loved how Johnny pointed out his father’s great heart❤ in raising his princess as if she was his own.
My kids lost their dad 3 years ago. Both my kids now deal with anxiety. I recently found out my daughter doesn’t believe in God. That really broke my heart but hearing Johnny say he himself at one point stop believing but is once again a believer brings me some hope that maybe my daughter will believe again too. Thanks guys for sharing.
It's harder to grieve when you are so young especially if you don't have parents to help out through the pain 💔. I love you Jenicka and Jonny. You guys have been through so much yet you keep pushing forward 🙏 respects for that because I'm 34 and when I lost my favorite person I felt like I went down the drain 🥺
I had just gotten into your mom’s music and found your reality show right before she passed away. I remember crying hard for days as if I too had lost my mom. I cried because I wanted to hug all of you. I wanted to be there for you guys. I was hurt at the fact that you guys didn’t deserve to lose your mom and your mom didn’t deserve to lose her life. My mom lost both of her parents at a very young age and she raised us in a way where we appreciated having both parents alive and present.
I’ve worried so much about you guys over the last 10 years. Fuck the money and fame.. I have deeply wished healing and happiness for all of you as the normal people that you are. No money in the world can fix a broken heart. Only love can.. and as a person that loves to love and care for others before myself, I want you to know you are LOVED by me.
Thank you all for being so strong cause lord knows I could not get through what you guys have experienced at such young ages. I see so much growth in you guys just from what I see on social media. You’re all doing great things on this earth 🤍 RIP to your momma and everyone else that was in that plane.
I did get the opportunity to meet and give love to some of you in Woodland (my hometown) when you guys came to do the car wash. I couldn’t believe you guys chose such a small town to do it in, but I was grateful to have been able to hug you all so tight. I’ll never forget that day.
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How cool I also went to the carwash in Woodland I was able to hug and take a pic with everyone❤️
I hope you interview all your siblings before anyone else 🥰 I love when you guys open up because you guys are so sincere and just human, y’all don’t try to act like your life’s are perfect. May God Always bless your family
Johnny has touched sooo many points. Just to hear you both talk about such a vulnerable topic makes you guys that much more amazing and strong! The part when Johnny said that he was not born in poverty and then he lost both his parents..it's like it life was giving him a balance cause if not it would have been too good to be true...wow!! That touched my heart..keep these vulnerable topics going. They are therapeutic for me and you guys remind me that life is precious and that I need to stop worrying and stressing about the Littles things..I'm such a stresser. Love you guys!!
Jonny has an old soul to come to that realization about his life balancing out. He's stronger and wiser for his his age. God bless all the Rivera's
Jens point hit so deep “because she was the artist she died”😢
Johnny is so well spoken like he is just so observant and it so understanding and very open minded it’s crazy like all he went through ❤️
My mom passed away on Dec 9th 2005. I was only 6.. can’t wait to watch this 🥺🤍
I lost my both my parents, my mom 7 years ago & my dad 5 years ago and it’s sooo fucken hard. I was in my early 20’s and I just felt the world falling on me. Thankfully I had my boys to help me push through but omg if it’s incredibly hard on me as an adult I can’t even imagine for you guys😢 stay strong y’all 🫶🏼
My favorite part was when Johnny asked: you felt like Bella swan? 🥹😅 I think dark humor is the way me and my siblings cope as well. Thank you for sharing! ☺️
Completely agree with Jenicka , “I’m sorry” and “it will get easier” we’re the worst…..it NEVER gets easier, I just learned to cope differently. The birth of my grandson was pivotal…..he brings joy to my life. Anytime I think back to the day my mom passed , the pain is as real as that day….
You can see the pain in there eyes and see them holding back tears.. and im over here crying my heart out
This episode hit so hard, I just lost my mom 4 months ago and it’s been the hardest you both give me so much hope and faith everything will be okay
Stay strong girl, I lost My Mom this February worst heartache in this world 💔
I love how open y’all are.. and letting us in into your grief… mental health is still a taboo in our Hispanic community..
Love this ❤️❤️❤️
"Finding the Balance" the feeling of having everything but feeling empty.. at the same time,being blessed and also feeling like life cheated you, because you ran out of time -Love you Dad 🎸🎶🤍
18 years since i lost my grandma who raised me and even though life DOES go by fast and we are busy i still have her picture in my head daily her last words her last smile it brings a tear to me i take a deep breath smile and thank god for the time i had her. Then find something to do. You guys are strong and have so much love and support from jenny fans like me!
I was the same, I don’t like people to say sorry because what do you reply to that ‘it’s okay’ no you can’t, but I then realized “Sorry” doesn’t necessarily mean it’s their fault, sorry in those times mean ‘ they are sorry you have to go through the that loss, that pain, that experience. But I agree the best thing to do is just say ‘I am here for you’ or a simple hug makes a big difference.
I agree with you 100%, God has been the the one to hold me together like glue .
BTW, a few years ago I saw you at a Hillsong concert and I had the opportunity to talk to you but didn’t , and I regret not telling you “God bless you, you are loved , and I’m praying for you “ . So here it is . God bless you, you are loved and I’m still praying for you ❤️
guys you have me here crying.. as a mom I just wanted to give u a big hug, you guys are so strong, so mature, the way you see things in such selfless way wow.. anyone would be so proud to have kids like you, I was a fan of your mom.. but you guys have earned my respect!! I love this podcast keep it coming Jenicka, and Johnny you also have a great heart!! may God continue to bless you and your siblings, and even though you are young you are the definition of strength..
Video hasn’t started, me: “You better not cry you better not cry..” video starts… “I swear I’m not crying…” 😢
I love the strength you guys have and as a family, you 5 were a puzzle your mom created to complete each other❤
Seeing these two together and how big they’ve gotten makes me so happy sad cause their mom should be here to see them grow 😢
As a only child I’m scared of being alone I already lost my father 2 years ago so the thought of losing my mom and being alone scares me so much!
God only gives you what you can handle. He knew that you guys were strong enough to handle losing both your parents when you did. Now, you are here as God’s soldiers teaching his people just like your Mama taught us. She handed down the torch to her “Children of the Corn” Thank you, for them Jenni! God bless you! Great podcast, Mija! Your Mama is so proud of you!
I'm blessed enough to have both my parents with me, but thank you guys for talking about many things we've been conditioned to sweep under the rug as Latinos. We need to have these conversations and communicate no matter how hard it is to do so. I know your mom is so proud of all of her kids, you're all very smart and intuitive. Wishing you a happy new year with so much healing ❤️
I LOVEEEEEEE how u guys got each others back! You can see ur GROWTH Jeni. For u guys to talk about something not in ur comfort zone and especially in front of the camera Is really amazing . Jenni’s kids are bad ass❤
Johnny is so mature. Y’all both articulate the feelings so well and are so gentle with each other. I love seeing a healthy sibling relationship.
Jenicka and Johnny i am so proud of how mature you are and the relationship you have, Jenni will aways be your Guardian Angel and protect you all and i thank you for sharing you story of grief, you are great human beings, and i feel like your mom prepared you for something like this your whole lives, maybe she had a feeling, no matter what you all turned out to be amazing kids.
I can’t imagine how hard it was losing both your parents so young especially since your moms was so public . I remember watching her service all of you were in so much pain. I lost my husband almost 15 years ago I had been with him since I was 18 and it has been a hard journey for me . I too hate when people say I’m sorry
I understand what Johnny was saying. I lost my Dad at 15 and my Mom I was 42 and it was much harder for me loosing my Mom as an adult. My heart and prayers goes out to you all. ❤️
Love seeing this adult side of you both. In your mom’s reality you both were kids. Love how mature and so humble you both are. Best wishes ❤
I related to you all because I was 7 when my dad passed away and the only memory I have of him is when I was told of his passing. Thank you all for sharing this
Thank you both for being so vulnerable!
Love how real and vulnerable you and your siblings are with the world!! Keep being amazing 👏🏼👏🏼 you’re definitely helping a lot of ppl!
I lost my mom a year ago it has been a hard time since she’s gone. 😔😔 I love you guys I love this podcast. No one really understands until they’ve gone through until they’re in your same shoes.
I can’t wait to watch this either🙌🏼. Grieving & Coping through difficulties in the family in general, at a young age is hard. 😢 The world needs videos like these to help people feel connected and that’s it’s okay to not be ok sometimes. Big hugs and blessings 🥲🙏🏼🕊✨
Great video jenicka! You had me choking up and even self reflecting on some of the things you guys talked about! I love how open you are with this podcast and I’m looking forward to hearing more ! Thank you Linda and thanks Johnny for opening up and showing us that side🤍🤍
I hope this episode will truly help anyone dealing with grief. This year is 19 years I lost my dad and four years I lost my mom. I truly believe this will help someone dealing with loss.
Thank you for being honest and sharing this. It is very mature of you guys to open up about your loss. You are both very brave and your parents are very happy you guys are sharing this. It’s definitely going to help us and it makes grief for kids who lost their loved ones. God bless you all!
So beautiful to see you guys matured and grown. I was a fan of the show before I became a fan of Jenni and let me tell you. Without a doubt I believe that’s why I fell in love with the woman she was. To see this famous artist be a mom, and not just a regular mom but she really did live for all her kids. She inspired me to be not just a mom but to have a unique relationship with each of my children. She loved all of you and had a bond with all of you! I love that! And I can see all of you blooming and still caring a lot of the person she stand for! Her show definitely let us in. I love jenni
After watching Mariposa de Barrio i always cried for you both I would wonder how you all coped with losing your dad and then your mom I’m so glad you all are opening up about topics like this one ❤❤THANK YOU BOTH!!!! God bless you always!
Thanks for this! I lost my brother and my other siblings and I all grieve differently. It’s def been hard to understand each other. But this is so important to me to be able to understand my nieces grief from losing my brother (her dad). God bless you all! ❤
I just love how down to earth and normal they are. They are so humble, always have been unlike others in the public eye.. Seeing Jenicka with her blanket and stripped socks made me feel like I was right there with them in the sala lol …Absolutely love your podcast. Thank you Johnny and Jenicka for being so vulnerable with us. God bless and protect you all always. ❤
I lost my mom a year and a half ago and my step dad a month ago which he was like my dad and I don’t see the end of a túnel … I appreciate what you guys talked about because it give me hope that one day this horrible feeling will be lighter . Thank you for opening this podcast
It’s really great that you’ve opened up and let people see and hear you and where you come from.
Y’all talking about this is part of His plan, thank you so much for doing it. It has helped me 💜
I love this. I lost my dad in 2010 and to this day it still hurts. As i get older and achieve dreams theres always someone missing, but i love the little reminders and scents thst come my way to show they are still with us just not physically. ❤ thanks for opening your hearts and sharing.
When jenika said. “We lost her because she was an artist.” That hurt because I think that about Selena too. If they were normal people there is a possibility they’d still be alive. But us the real fans; would have never known about them. A💔Uffff 😢
This episode hit close to home, I lost my mom a yr after y’all lost your mom. I think the hardest part for me is my children not knowing grandma. I just had a good cry. It’s been 9yrs but the holidays are definitely a hard time for us.
This is beautiful ❤️ johnny I am so proud of you dude. It's crazy what you went through at such a young age and yes just like anyone else, you've had your moments and dark times but look at how much you have overcome and are overcoming. You definitely are your momma's son. I can only imagine how proud she is of you. Jenicka same for you girl! Such a strong young lady with all you've been dealt. ❤️ You are your momma's twin and heart. I wish I could meet y'all one day! Seriously. I would give y'all the biggest hug! Whoever thinks you ALL are ungrateful then they definitely don't know Jenni! Jenni don't raise no fool. Your momma would've kicked y'all's 🍑 if you were ungrateful. True fans know that!
you guys are so strong ! we love you guys!! you guys maybe don’t realize how much support you guys have from the public. jenni did good raising her kids ! you guys are good hearted
Love your new show... we get to hear from you and the authenticity of who you really are. I lost my mom 21 yrs ago and Miss her always. Lots of milestones she's missed but I know she's watching from above. Always lean on God and although it gets tough know your mom is always there and your siblings. I'd be lost without mine!💞🙏😊
Thank you for sharing your experience and being so open about this difficult topic! God bless you both and your familia!
I’m so proud of the woman you are today. You did that. Love you ❤ I admire your strength
Thank you Jenicka and Johnny for sharing! I really appreciate your vulnerability and this conversations. Grief is such a enormity of emotions and you both had to cope at such at young age. I am so sorry you had to go though that. I am definitely a fan of your podcast, Jenicka (as well as Chiquis’s podcast!). I am excited to follow along on this channel and see upcoming guests. The one feedback I personally have for this one episode in particular is that I would have appreciated hearing Jenicka’s full response to the questions. I felt like Johnny would interrupt while Jenicka was answering a few of the questions. Just something I noticed and thought it would be helpful for upcoming episodes. Again, I appreciate you both for your vulnerability. I know that isn’t easy, so thank you!
I literally got emotional watching this knots in my throat but I felt so relaxed watching you! I love you for this💖🫶🏼 I really love how open you guys are and I love it more it’s coming from the source it’s self can’t wait for Thursday! #BigestFan 🤞🏼
Grieving is a hard thing to even go through. So cheers to both ! for sticking together as a family and not letting others get between you guys!!
I love yall so much Jenicka and all of your siblings and family.. Thank you 🙏🏼 for opening and being super transparent always.. I pray 🙏🏼 one day God blesses me with meeting you and your siblings! Pls give hugs to Pancho Marin he is ADORABLE!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼
Lost my mom 3 years ago. Struggling with grief so much as I’m entering adulthood it’s so much
Love the part about ppl you’ve hurt while grieving it’s really easy to hurt ppl when grieving
Hope you’re well and have a good New Year
I love you guys❤️thank you for opening up n being so vulnerable. I admire how strong u guys have been, n are this episode hits home for me🩷
How beautiful, your parents would be so proud of how much you both have grown up , momma prepared you ♥️. Thank you for sharing , your strength and grows shows ! Happy New Year to you all , you deserve some peace love n happiness after all you have gone thru ♥️
Love this podcast! I appreciate your honesty! You two are so bright and beautiful! ❤️
I've been your mothers' follower since the beginning so i watched you guys grow ..i love all you guys believe me but i feel Mike and johnny so much more i don't know why but just want to say i admire the strength you guys have i cross my fingers 1 day i get to meet with you guys all my love and support always.
This conversations really resonates with me regarding grief and trauma. Thank you for opening up to your followers.
Johnny brought up something important about a child in grief. As an adult, we want to rescue/shield children from pain and rush to therapy (if ppl can afford it/have access). It’s a lot more healing allowing the child to grieve without pushing therapy right away. There’s a lot that is happening around them that adding one more thing (therapy) can be overwhelming, and they may not be ready to open up to a stranger. Loving this podcast. And Jenicka is wise and mature beyond her years ❤
I’m glad you guys shared all of this I’m glad you guys have eachother.
As an older sister I see you wanting a Johnny to feel at peace and vice versa.
Sending you guys love.
We are about the same age so I can feel where you guys are coming from.
Great episodes!!
I love you Jenika you are an inspiration to many women. I admire the love you all have with each other as siblings.
i remember being 9yrs old when ur mom passed. i think about u guys all the time since then. I love u guys so much
Love this show and format.. stay strong and please keep going ❤️
Im loving it. And parts of it brings tears. Can't wait for the rest.
I loved this episode! You guys are really helping people that have had to grieve a parent or someone they love. Thank you! Jenicka I wish you the best with this new podcast project, you are amazing at this! xoxo 😘
wow you guys are so strong it’s so inspiring. you guys are such a great example for everyone going through any kind of loss❤️
I love this!! I love to see you guys together and sharing your story.
I love this! I always wondered how you were doing and I’m happy you started doing these podcasts that everyone can relate to
Thank you for sharing your stories of grief. You are helping a-lot of people, and you are loved by so many.
both podcast videos have been really good ! keep it going jenicka ❤️
you made me cry! thank you for your story. God Bless you and your siblings.
This episode made me cry. Thanks for sharing with us.
I’m loving these episodes !! It’s refreshing and healing as a 25 year old relatable
I totally see how Johnny has matured!! He talks about a lot of interesting things we would like to here more about!! 🙏🏽 god bless y’all 💕
Thank You both for talking about this topic!
Beauty of podcast ❤ I am so glad u are using this space to share about ur thoughts, feelings and life
Such beautiful kids who have been through so many unimaginable painful situations and seem to be coming out on the other end. God bless them and protect them
Just came across your podcast and I LOVE it!!! Thankyou for showing your wisdom, beauty and vulnerability
Amazing job Jenicka, this is def your calling. I’m a grown 40 yr old wife and mommy and have found so much peace and joy in listening to your podcasts. It’s became very therapeutic for me. Thank you for following this call and may God bless you abundantly ❤
Jenikca your a natural. This was a great podcast, love the question and especially sincere answers.
The complexity of being human is intense, but like y’all said…we have to find ways to keep pushing forward. Therapy, religion, talking things out, and meditation. Always remember, you guys are imperfect, live life as any human, and make mistakes. I admire yalls vulnerability. You guys are pushing me to continue to work on me for my happiness. Admire yalls mistakes, imperfection, and drive to continue to work on yourself!
I'M SO PROUD OF YOU GUYS GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY.
Jenika your aura makes me feel calm and makes me feel better pretty much relaxed
Thank you for what you do. May God bless you all.
You two are so amazing so proud of you both