Spokane woman's Ancestry test leads to shocking family secret
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- čas přidán 30. 04. 2018
- When a Spokane Valley women sent off her DNA sample to Ancestry.com, she was only looking for information about her ethnic background. She never expected to find the father she knew nothing about; and finding him was the beginning of the shock of her life. KXLY4's Melissa Luck reports.
I took one of those DNA tests and found that my parents are actually my parents.😪
Now that's funny
Tragic 😏
😂 you have made my day
Hahahaha, I am sure that broke you heart. 🤣 You are so silly!
Lol , love it !
I'm one of eight siblings. I'm number five. We lost our mother when I was eleven. Separately, my narcissistic stepmother told me and each of my siblings that our dad didn't think I was his child. She said he thought I was the mail man's child. Ten years after she died, most of us did the ancestry test. I am full sibling to all my brothers and sisters.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. What a horrible woman.
The mailman being the father was a joke amongst the adults as I was growing up in the 50s. Usually when someone's kid did something stupid. Plausible deniability, lol.
I felt this comment! My dad, who died just over 3 years ago from ALS, claimed for years that his three kids with my mom-- and most specifically and frequently ME-- weren't his kids. Apparently I had TWO dads. One was "a black man" and the other was the elderly man who ran the produce section at our local Save-a-Lot.
I vividly remember a day when I was maybe 8-9 years old, so around 94-95, my dad dragging the entire family to our nearest hospital to get a DNA test done to prove we weren't his kids. He ended up having security called on him after he was told that they couldn't do what he was asking and he lost his mind and started threatening the receptionists.
I'll never understand what his deal was with me in particular, why he claimed I wasn't his daughter. All of his kids look just like him but I got his nose. Absolutely identical noses to the point you could've swapped them between us and no one would've known LMAO. Regardless, after his ALS diagnosis and his rapid decline, all his kids were there to stay with him 24/7 until the end so he could remain in his own home and maintain some dignity.
@@JW-vi2nh Wow, he was lucky that you guys didn't turn your back on him since he said he wasn't the father.
@@Carmen-us1ew Honestly, the whole "not your father" thing was so overshadowed by the rest of his behavior when I was a kid that it didn't even bother me. He was a hardcore alcoholic for most of my childhood and on the rare occasions when he would leave his girlfriend's house and actually come home, he was always extremely drunk and dangerously violent. He used to beat my mom within an inch of her life, accusing her of cheating on him, all while HE was the one living almost 100 miles away with another woman, leaving my mom alone with three young kids.
I vividly remember one night in particular, my brother, sister and I were all asleep in bed when dad shows up in the middle of the night and starts banging on the door wanting in. It was past midnight and everyone had been in bed, so naturally the doors were locked, but my dad took that as proof that my mom was up to something, so he started trying to break the door down.
I remember hearing my mom trying to use the phone that hung on the wall beside the door he was breaking down to call 911, but she kept dropping it because she was so scared, begging my dad to stop and just leave. My dad finally did manage to break the door down and came in with a gun in his pocket, telling my mom he'd kill her. Thankfully, he was so drunk that, when he went to pull out the gun, he pulled out his pack of cigarettes instead and that confused his drunken brain so much that he just beat her half to death instead.
My parents divorced shortly after that night and he ended up marrying the woman he had been living with. She divorced him after only a few months because he started becoming physically abusive toward her. Sadly, it took the death my my dad's oldest son with his first wife, who died at the age of TWENTY SIX of cirrhosis of the liver brought on by drinking too much, for dad to stop drinking. After the day my half-brother died, dad never drank another drop of alcohol again and mellowed out quite a lot. He still had a hot temper, but was never violent again. I didn't step into his house again for about 15 years and spent one single night there, right before he died, because he begged me to not leave him.
Tragic all around, really, for everyone involved, but he was still my dad and I was going to be there for him.
The hero of this story: The man who raised her as his own. God bless you, Sir. I am glad she had you as a father, and you are awesome to welcome her biological dad. Much respect.
It is kind unfair to the father who raised her, I mean the way the video was made.
@@hanaluong2672 yes but what a man . What a great human that he would welcome her biological dad witn love . I’m sure she loves him deeply and his acceptance if proof of the kind of love he possesses in his heart . He loves her enough to be comfortable with sharing her with the man that gave her life .
I was put off a bit when the bio Dad saying he appreciated him doing his job til he came to take over. That suggests he expects the man who raised her is now replaced and superfluous.
@@Grouchbox I don't think he meant it that way. More that he hadn't been their to take appropriate responsibility for his daughter, but he was willing to now that he knew she existed.
She’s loved by 2 dads now, that’s so incredibly sweet
I gave my hubby a DNA test as a Christmas gift one year and after just a week a lady reached out to us saying her mom, who never knew her father, was closely related to my husband. Turns out this sweet older lady was my husband’s aunt. My husbands great uncle had a fling with this ladies mom in the 1930’s while riding the trains as a hobo and without the DNA test she would have never known her father’s family. My mother in law freaked out but thank goodness other family members were accepting and so happy she found them. The lady was in her 80’s but finally found the family connection she had been looking for all her life. It was a wonderful thing to be a part of.
That's an awesome story. Wow!
People should always accept them with open arms. If they start to be a problem. Then deal with them accordingly. If it is the already known family causing a problem. Same thing. It is never the child's fault how thay got here. Old people tend to be inflexable as to these situations. I am talking about people in their 80's and upwards. It is hard to change cultural thinking. My Dad came from a family line of divorces. So that side was use to all the extras. Inlaws outlaws affair babies. The other side w as not. But there were several pervs in the men. Lots of who is the real Father questions. My mom was so set on parents staying together she never got over my dad cheating. Decades later after the divorce she was still mad about it. I know who most of the stray babies belong to. Through family gossip. But it can be hard to keep track of. None have the real father on their records.
@@donnahowse6208 I agree. I love my mother in law but she is in her 80’s and was very very upset that my husband and I were airing family laundry as she saw it. I’m from a family that has always aired our laundry so I didn’t see anything other then a fabulous story about an elderly woman who finally found some family. Thank goodness the other children were more loving towards the new found family member.
@@wonderfulone8387 it really was the best thing about our DNA test ❤️
Who has sex with a random hobo on the train 😳
I was told at 12 by the man that raised me that he wasn't my dad, 23 & me proved him wrong. He was my biological father and we found out only 6 months before he passed. Im glad i never treated him like he wasn't my dad though, i always loved him
Thats terrible to be told that as a kid. Sorry it happened for you.
Why have he told something horrible like this?
Not to be nosy but I can’t imagine why you’d tell the child you’re raising they weren’t your parent if they in fact really were. Did your mom cheat on him or something?
Omg!
@@HaileyDelaine I think the mum did cheat on him, and in an argument told him that the child wasn't his. I came across a similar story when I was at uni. The dad wanted to see his kids, and the mum (his ex wife) let it slip that he shouldn't fight so hard to see them as they probably weren't his anyway. He was paying child support at the time, and because of her comment, he asked the court for a paternity test on all his kids. Out of 4 children, only one was his. Sadly, this kind of thing is more common than we think.
I was adopted through cps at age 5 biological mom was murdered when I was 4 left birth certificate blank. Told I’d never know my fathers identity. It was redacted in the files . Did an ancestry dna and found my father and his family last summer . Greatest money I ever spent
Not to try and ruin your happy ending or anything but if your father’s identity was redacted in your files then that had to be for a good reason so you should be extremely careful. They only do that for the safety of the child and if they thought you were safer not being connected to him then something real fucked up happened.
@@tracim3080 - you really trust the authorities to do the right thing, huh.
@@Rampart.X it’s not about trust in authorities, it’s the simple truth of if they had her father’s name then they would have given him custody after her mom was murdered but they chose to put her in child protective care instead which is a lot more work then putting her with a parent, they only do that extra work if they have good reason too.
@@tracim3080 you don't know SHT.
@@tracim3080 good reason for who? Not the child. It is important to know who you are.
My grandmother found out the man she thought was her father wasn’t. Her mother had hooked up with a random guy at the nearby military base in 1940.
Her biological father had already passed, by the time it was discovered, but she’s met her 4 new half-sisters.
It was weird seeing 4 strangers who look almost identical to my grandmother.
My grandma did not believe ancestry saying her father was a different man than who raised her, until she saw photos of his sister. She was the splitting image of my mom. That convinced her! He had 11 kids with 7 different women!
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It is worth more than millions of dollars 💸
My best friend found both her father and her mother with a DNA test. She was adopted as an infant, and simply wanted to find her parents to know about health issues she might face when she got older. Instead, she got new relationships, and she's loving getting to know her biological families.
I love her dad's reaction. Those tears of happiness say there will always be deep love between them.
That was my reaction, too. Look how happy he is that a daughter he never knew existed is in his life. What a kind and wonderful man.
@@rachelann8661 I'd love to have a Dad like him. He's over joyed. It's lovely to see this father and daughter talk so happily about eachother. The stepdad is also a good guy. Our Dad was a disgrace. A selfish man.
He enjoyed the sex and left his offspringing suffered. What if the situation changed, the girl came back to him and asked him for help, would he be still happy to accept her?
@@MaggieTD lm
@@TheTaiwanTrip He didn't even know about her, dude. Why not enjoy some of the few happy stories we hear nowadays?
I got my brother a DNA kit for his birthday. He is adopted and in his records was verbiage about being Native American . Instead he found 2 half sisters and his biological father! It was the best gift I could have ever given him.
kathy awesome 👏🏻
What a beautiful gift that turned out to be! I love your "share". I think of it as "the gift of life, plus three" (three living, breathing relatives that one did not know about)! I hope this gift is enjoyed for many years to come! Best regards and warmest wishes to all!
He found a father? Wow! That’s a sweet gift.
Being adopted myself I can tell you with certainty that this was the best gift anyone has ever gotten him! You’re an amazing sister!
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As an adult adoptee, I found both my original parents separately when I was 61 years old. My father had passed, but I have connected with these siblings. My mother is still living and I have an active, ongoing relationship with her and a few of these siblings. Being with my mother is so natural. I feel like I fit right in the family.
My story is simillar. Bio father is dead. Bio mother is alive and well. We connected instantly. He other son (my brother) and I get along just great even though we are so different. Mom & I both love Coka Cola and we toast each other on video chats. My brother, the more we talk, the more I hear myself. Not in the voice but the things he says.
Nowon my father's side, three of many siblings stay in touch. At least two want no arts of me, and many others, we don't know about each other. But what gets me is this: in my sixties, when many people for health reasons, divorces are saying good bye, I have had this wonderful opportunity to say hello. Priceless.
Me too, except both my bio parents have passed. But I have wonderful family on both sides ❤
What about the parents who did the work,? My Mom was adopted and when we, as a family,discussed it.. we decided we had one Nana and one Papa! End of story!
My husband found a half brother and family. We loved him, he looked just like their father. He died shortly after meeting him, but we are glad we met him.
3 cheers to the guy who was her dad for all those years.
Hear! Hear!
He still is her dad
She doesn't care about the dad that raised her really.
@@1967davidfitness ... Stupid thing to say, & based on WHAT!? You think she can't love them both??? If she didn't love her "step dad" she wouldn't have had them meet!!!
Daniel Ginther did her mom
lie to her husband that it was his child?
She's lucky to find a father who is WORTH finding.
Well it doesn’t sound like your "worth" finding. Really take your dad issues elsewhere.
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Dad’s aren’t there just to give you karma points, they could be a janitor, or have a big dept and still be of worth! They are not throw away trash like many feminist seem to think.
@@crazybirdybird4312 sounds like you are one of them CrazyBirdy! Did it hit home?!
Heart Breaker nope
Um, I think what Daisy is trying to say is AT LEAST THIS LADY'S FATHER WANTED HER.
I have tried to appeal to by bio father all my life, he isn't man enough to claim paternity, even though we look EXACTLY ALIKE.
It is no secret that some people aren't fit to be parents.
That is all she is trying to say. Stop being hateful.
Ms Daisy. I agree with u 100 percent. So many biographical fathers want NOTHING 2 do with their children. This story turned out beautifully.
The grace, understanding and openhearted fathers shows not everything has to be a competition, kudos gentlemen. So happy for you all!
So blessed to have two father's that love her, some of us have none.
Yeah, I’m one of them…But, I have my Heavenly Father.
That’s what I was about to type Angeli ! Our Heavenly Father who knew us before we were born!
I thought that too, I'm one of those that have none. I'm very happy for her, she seems to realise how lucky she is which is wonderful
I did the dna and a man emailed me saying he thought we were related. He turned out to be my oldest brothers son .. this was last year. What a wonder connection we have now.
So the mom lied about paternity and denied this dude the chance to know his daughter. This isn’t heart warming. This is sad.
Exactly what I said
Totally agree. Notice how the story deliberately excluded Ray and Tracey’s mom relationship
And this happens to millions of men across the entire globe. It's not right.
So True.. You can't do that to a child. If the person who fathered your child is a good loving person then there is no reason to deprive him and that child of their love and relationship regardless on what the womans feelings are. Child must come first. So Selfish!
You don’t know what happened at all!
Maybe the guy didn’t want to marry the mother. Maybe she felt he wasn’t the right one for her. Maybe it was a one night stand and she couldn’t or didn’t want to find him. Maybe she had already or soon after met the right man for her. So many possibilities but you make a negative assumption and then claim it to be true.
I've always known WHO my Dad was, but we just connected in the past few years. And 10 days ago, he moved from Texas to LA to come live with me. I'm 53, he's 81. It's really cool getting to know him. I've always carried the 1 picture I have of him. I was about 9 months old, he was holding me. Now I get to hug him every day and kiss him good night.
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That is so cool. Congratulations.
Beauitiul beautiful
As a father of two boys and was raised by loving parents, I can't imagine a Mom or Dad who would want nothing to do with their biological children. Glad this woman found her Dad and that he was worth finding.
But what was with her mother ??
Too many comments to reveal her reply regarding her mother’s denying this worthy info .
@@elizabethhallowell5115 things happen in the heat of the moment. Dad may have been a one night stand and they had no further contact. No may not have given her information because she had none to give.
I understand this story. I am so greatful to finally find my dad as an adult. Well worth the time. He just passed in December. We finished each others sentences. RIP Dad
"Finish each other's sentences" Wow!! That shows that we don't inherit just the eye and hair color, but also many things we CAN'T see - like the brain makeup.
The first word he speaks you can hear the tears in his voice. Poor guy. I'm glad she found him.
GV🙄🙄
He went hiking with his wife & created a baby with ? another hiker ?
@@nancydavieau278 you’d be surprised you can’t trust almost anyone
@@nancydavieau278 colourblind glasses
@@nancydavieau278 watch it again
“The miracle of DNA tests!!!”…OR… her mom could have told her who her father was…
Might’ve been because her mother actually didn’t know who her father was.
She suggested he was dead? Guess she didn't have a very good relationship with him at the time.
wonder how she feels about the long lost lover suddenly being in the picture again.
Yep because there isn't a girl in the world who would sleep with a stranger and not ever see them again, i mean that would be just barbaric. Obviously if mom doesn't know dad it was because they were really close but things didn't turn out well.
Sorry forgot to put that at the end.
My mother was adopted as an infant in the 1930s. Later in life she met her siblings and especially with one sister, they enjoyed finding all the little habits and likes they had in common. She also discovered she had an aunt that had worked in a humane society several hundred miles from where she was born, a lady she had met. Thing was, my dad also remembered mom saying she felt the strangest connection with that lady and didn't understand it. It was almost fifty years later she discovered that lady was her aunt.
my grandmother was also adopted in the 30s and we’re going through the process now! we found all these siblings… closer in age to her son (my father). not sure what to expect :)
@@ehbendisdonc44 good luck to you. I hope all the connections are joyful.
I'm finding people I've met over the last 55 yrs and have been close friends are in fact cousins. The bond was always there despite not knowing we were related back then.
I found out I had a half-sister that I didn't know about. I submitted my DNA sample on Ancestry and a couple of years later my half sister submitted her DNA sample. Ancestry connected us right away.
I just found my real father too. And my full sister and lots of nieces and nephews. I am thrilled.
I joined to find a half brother that I knew about. Still haven’t found him but found a half sister that I didn’t know About. She still hasn’t responded so I must be a shock
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Nice story! Congratulation!
Why was he never told about the child? Why did the story not cover this? Why was this man cheated out of being a father?
Paul Benoit why is it your business?
@Paul Benoit As a woman that had the same thing happen, I can tell you that my Father was shipped away from where he was working before my Birth Mother knew she was pregnant with me. I found my Father who didn't know a thing about me either. My Poppa is just like this woman... loving, kind and we have a deep connection !!
Probably a love child
@RESPECT MY AUTHORITY I agree!
Who knows... my mom did the same damn thing to me and my bio father.
I love that both dad's are so happy with the outcome as well as their daughter.
That's what I thought too😊❤
My family was picture perfect until 2017, when a 28 year old girl came to Odessa to find her mother and father. The father was dead, and her mother was my niece. What makes this story incredible was that my niece wrapped up her daughter in a blanket and put it in a Chevy truck parked outside a 7-11. The daughter was 1 hour old! When the store clerk discovered her, she immediately called the police, and the baby was taken to Odessa Medical Center where she was cared for. Everyone in town wanted to know who the culprit was. It was a crime back then, but when she went to Odessa, the crime had passed the statute of limitations.
My grandniece was adopted at an early age (< 1yr) by a couple who went to Odessa for jobs. At the time, Odessa was experiencing an oil boom, and jobs were plentiful. At age 5, the family moved to Springfield, MO, where she stood out in school, because her parents and sisters were white, and she was Mexican-American. The adoptive father made a huge mistake. He told her at age 6 what had happened, and according to people who know psychology, it was a childhood trauma that gave her a mental disorder called Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
This has affected this poor girl big time, as she does things that sever relationships. In particular, she has severed all family relationships that I know of, and I was the last. She did finally get to talk to her biological mom, and she spurned her, telling her to go away and never come back. A much bigger slap was when my sister and brother-in-law spurned her also. I never ever thought grandparents would do that a grandchild. I have taken a DNA test, and if anyone comes to me telling me I'm their father or a family relationship, I will welcome him or her with open arms. I feel so sorry for this poor girl. I don't think she will ever recover.
Yeah. In my family. Once you are in. You are in. It does not matter how you got here. We have one married into the family person who is just awful though. I understand that this person has deep serious wounds. Over the years some family members have mistreated her. But she has also been horrible through most of it too. Except on herendous occasions. In which she rise up and did tremendous things to help. She went to my brothers home while he was at the hospital growing his sons suicide and cleaned up the well it is hard to say. But the tissue and body fluids from what happened. My brother has been one of the people who has treated her badly. So that is sacrificial love. There are some other big deal things too that she did that were great acts if kindness. When bad things happened. Yet on a daily basis she insults us and is extremely judgemental and harsh. She is r years older than I. Yet she told me one time. Don't you talk back and sass me! When I was explaining something to her. We were treated very badly once my Dad could no longer talk at late stages if Alzheimer's. Making up arguments out of nothing. This way she could ban us from coming to see him. She only allowed it once a month anyway. These examples are only a few. Keep in mind that she wanted us to relate to her as if she were our mother. She is only four years older than I. The funeral for my father was the worst. She tried to order us to sit in the back. Because she did not like the way it looked with all of us up in the front. She did not place our brothers as pall bearers nor escorts of our fathers coffin. She chose some bikers that he barely knew. Except for her son. Whom my Dad basically raised. So that was okay. But shunning my brothers was just evil
So yes sometimes you have to stay away from certain people. They are just too hard on your emotions. Toxic that is the term. I have one brother who looks out for her. Due to a promise to my Father. She still insults and complains about how he does repairs and how he does not do enough. Such a wounded person she is. Her judgementalness is not based on religion. She is not really a Christian so do not think it is that. You do not have to be a believer to be judgemental
She wasn't messed up by that one instance at age 6. It would be only one of many abuses throughout her life. Very sad.
@@donnahowse6208 It's a mistake to make the blanket statement "Christians are judgmental." There is a Bible verse that says, "Judge not, lest ye be judged." True Christians try to keep that verse in mind.
Borderline personality disorder is a terrible thing. My mom has it and so do I. It's said to be precipitated by either real or perceived abandonment in the first years of life. Her actions are sadly normal for the disorder. Watch Dr. Daniel Fox for really helpful videos that are thoughtful and caring. There are survival guides. Dialectical therapy can help but it's a lifelong practice. All my best to her and the rest of your family.
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I’m delighted for her. I hated my father he was a rotten man, yet I’ve always been happy to hear of others happiness with they’re fathers. Wishing them every happiness making up for lost time xx
Same here!
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Same. Before she died mother told me I have a younger half brother from my father's infidelities. I've put myself on ancestry DNA in case he wants to find me
Me too.
Same
How evil to tell your child her father is dead.
Ram Nyl blame her mother
About as evil as my mother who fed me stories that my father was a monster. I proved her wrong. He was my everything.
@advocate for free speech wow and here we have one very immature and angry person. you have to be very insecure in your beliefs to feel the need to attack someone else's opinion in such a hateful immature way. very telling of the kind of person you are. secondly you reveal yourself to be very unintelligent by going off point about the father being to blame when the poster was talking about the mother and that does NOT automatically mean they were defending the father. how dumb to assume that. ps kinda ironic hey, judging the father in the same breath as attacking someone for judging the mother lol) . amazing how your short comment reveals so many wrongs all at once.
@advocate for free speech no idea i do not care about that father and i did not make the title comment of this thread, all i was pointing out is that the commentator called the mom out for being evil, she or he did not blame or defend the father. no one knows his story because they do not cover it.
@advocate for free speech He never knew.
Only one person to blame.
Three brothers I didn't know I had (I'm adopted) found me in 2017. We've been close ever since, and I am so grateful for AncestryDNA!
I took my DNA test … I have found a half- brother I never knew existed! (Bio-Father side). A first cousin that has the exact same mouth as mine, eyebrows & chin! It is the first time in my life I can look at someone (other than my children & grandchildren) and wonder who I look like! It is surreal! ❤️
This is how I found both of my biological parents. As an adoptee you wonder your whole life who you are. I had great parents (both are deceased) and childhood. I took the test at 50. Well I found both of my biological parents. I never met my mother and she wanted nothing to do with me, I think mainly because she lived her whole life based on lies. Her siblings (my aunts and uncles) accepted me, and I have relationships with them. Now onto my biological father; I had already been rejected by my mother, so when contacting my father, I was expecting rejection from him as well; instead he blew me away! I have three younger siblings by him, and he told me about the one night stand he and my mother had. When I first met him ( I was 51 1/2); the first thing I noticed were the back of his hands, and I said to him, "We have the same hands!" We went and had coffee and chatted for two or three hours. The next day I met my younger half siblings and my six nieces. I now know where I come from, and know my medical history, and all this family including lots of cousins!
Aww... that's great!
Happy you found your family. 💞
@@Chereese0808 Thank you!
That’s awesome!
You must forgive your mother. She probably STILL feels a lot of guilt for that one night stand; still feels ashamed for not being "a good girl".
She is the victim the culture of that era, when having a baby out of wedlock was worse than a mortal sin!
I'm glad mores have changed since.
@@swell_gal Nope because she spent her life telling lies to everyone about everything. I am grateful that she gave me up and that I wasn't raised by her, and she will always have a spot in my heart, but she wasn't a nice person; even her siblings never liked her.
It's a miracle, not only to find a missing parent but also a parent who is happy to have been found.
A miracle? I don't think that word means what you think it means. Science isn't a miracle, it's the result of years of hard work on the part of many educated & intelligent people. It took about a century of research to reach this point in our understanding of DNA.
Fractal Kaleidoscope yet how miraculous that we even have figured this out! Regardless of how long it took it’s still amazing that this is even possible annnd that the parent is happy to be found. Sometimes these are painful stories but this one seems very happy.
Indeed. Not all bio-parents want to be found .. I know.
Found out my cousin is in fact my half brother, so basically my biological dad is a pedophile cause my aunt would of only been 14 .finding this all out at 50 has been extremely emotional 😢, thankfully myself and siblings had no relationship with our dad growing up due to his physical abuse
We have two in our family that we know of that are half brother and half cousins too. The Farher of both was a step father to my older cousin. He was r ping her from a very young age. Then my Aunt whom was only 14 when her mother died. Was forced to go live with her much older sister. With her second husband. He was strong for a short man. He forced my Aunt too. She as impregnated. Got that cousin. Later when my cousin was about 16. She got pregnant. It was a large family. The two oldest girls were much older than that one. My mother was even 9 years older then this Aunt who had been raped. The eldest two were many years older than her. That group has so many children with a false father on their birth records because of all the messed up people from the pedo incestuous men.
@@donnahowse6208 so awful I literally found it so hard to get my head around all this ,my other 2 sisters seem fine with it like refer to him now as our brother but I'm just like so upset and what makes it worse is my actual brother committed suicide 10yrs ago age 36 he was my little brother, but now my cousin is my little brother, ive so much hate for my biological dad I'm 50 and his actions are still having effect on us
Honey I understand. My Dad was harsh and strict. He was handsome. Owned his own very successful vehicle repair shop. Built and raced his own super modified race cars. He was a star in the Michigan circuit. Women flocked to him. At the track and at his business. I doubt he could have remembered all the woman he had been with. Married women and sister in laws were not off limits. Thankful my blood related Aunt's had better morals than he did. I grew up hating him for the heartache that he gave my mother. I saw it in me. But said nothing. He too was from divorced parents. For the same reasons. But did not learn from his Father's mistakes in the right way. I became a Christian at age 16. Moved to another city. One day I was talking to God. He actually said to me. "Do you know that you hate your Father?"! I was stunned. Well yes now that you mention it. So I asked God to forgive me. Also cause me to live my Dad with The Lord's love. It really changed me. I had mire peace. Hatred destroys us. It even effects our health. It is negative energy that has a bad destructive influence on our bodies. It can destroy good relationships. It can even affect our childrens well being and happiness. Now. I learned to appreciate my Dad for his good qualities. Maybe you's had none? S there is that. When I realized how bad my Grandfather on my my mon's side was. I began to see that my Dad was not as terrible as some peoples parents are. That does not help you. The only good thing might be that perhaps he never went for his own children? Or maybe he was gone before he thought they were old enough. Some pesos are only interested after they get to a certain age. I guess it is either the age it happened to them. Or, the age the relative who ate this terrible example started in in his or her children? My Grandfather did not care how young they were. Neither did his sons. Most of them were like that too. My youngest Aunt who was raped by that old brother in law thankfully never married pedos.Vut they all got mean at times. Two of them were prolific cheaters too. Thankfully they were not pedoist at least. My cousin had several marriages all jerks. Only one was not a pedo. So. I have known a lot of them. My daughter was molested too. She is mentally impaired. Rarely talks. Took me 6 months to figure out who did it. But when I took her to the police. She bolted out of her chair when he told her he was going to ask her questions about it. She shouted NO! She understands every day things. I has examined to her what he was going to ask. I had explained to the police before we arrived she needed a female officer. They did not give her one. This guy was too inexperienced too. He spoke with my son. Who thought it did not happen. Because the molester lived with them and did not do that to their daughter. Thing is. My grand daughter could speak clearly. The man himself was a bit impaired. But he would talk to you about major events. He could drive a car too. And we found out later on that he had served 15 years for doing this to a 3 year old. Who was part if a family that took him in. I did not automatically suspect him though. I realized it after I witnessed self control issues that he had. But I very carefully questioned my daughter. Avoiding leading questions that would likely give me preset answers. It was all yes or no questions. Using good touches and bad touches. I gathered photos of everyone she had been in contact with during that time frame. I saved his photo for last. So if he did do it. She would not shut down before I finished. I knew he did at that point. Because there were clues that I missed when it happened that suddenly made sense. I started with good touches from the top of the head going down with all body parts. Through all of the questions good and bad touches. I asked about each person one army a time. Only switching after finishing asking her if that person had given goid touches. Then asking about bad touches. She just stared at me linke I was crazy. U till I got to the molesters photo. As soon as she saw it she screamed out NO! Then turned her head and body away. Inspire of that. I started with good touches then moved to bad touches. I only got a yes when I asked her if he gave her private part bad touches. I confirmed it with say yes or no. Also I hold out each fist one is a yes fist the other is a no fist. She touched the yes fist. I also asked her to nod yes or no. She nodded yes. She also blinks her eyes a certain way for yes. She never blinks for no. I got they yes eye blink. I proceeded from there to ask her to point to the place where he gave her bad touches. Also if he hurt her? Point where he hurt her. Then I moved to touch where he hurt her. Put your finger on it. She had no parties on. This was so if she touched herself in the VG. I was certain exactly where she was touching. She did exactly that. Then I looked at her little stressed face. Which had been like that for 6 months. She was previously very happy and out going. I told her. It is not your fault. You are a good girl. The man is a bad guy. You are not a bad guy. You are a good girl. Her reaction was exactly like a regular persons. Even though her mentally abilities are 2 and q/2 to 3 years old. Her face completely relaxed. She looked so relieved. This fault guilt from being sexually abused is real. So real. My daughter was carrying it. Perhaps her reaction was less normal when it came to being told it was not her fault. Sh very easily let the guilt go. We normies do not. Here is the kicker. The officer told me to cancel her appointment with counselors that had experience who would question her. He said it would be used against them in court being called influencing the witness. That was totally wrong.
My 1st husband was a pedophile/rapist. Has 8 kids, not counting the baby sitter's child. My youngest is the only one who will speak to him after what he did to her. My other daughter and I have nothing to do with him. I'm pretty sure he molested his oldest sisters two oldest kids. They hated him too. It can destroy a child's life to have a father like they did. I had to be mother and father to them for many years.
Found my birth mother through ancestry after 51 years (I was adopted). Fun hearing her story, same thing, as soon as I saw my birth mom and hugged her, I knew I was connected to her.
That is so cool. And you and she had known each other if however briefly for some time after yourbirth. And the 9 months of her pregnancy you were literally near her heart
Your brain had to know: I've seen this woman, I know her. She picked me up and held me once.
The title of this video makes it sound like somebody’s gonna find out their brother is their dad or something crazy.
I swear CC Carter, that's exactly what it sounded like from the title.
Yeah, or find out they're related to a serial killer or some shit????
@ARC3 the heck it isn't. title says: shocking, and exactly 0 shocking things there. even not mildly socking... she did test, finds her biological dad - that's pretty much what is supposed to happen.
That's what I thought, too. Before the DNA test, her mother had already confirmed that she didn't have the same biological father as her sisters. Finding her biological father through the DNA test didn't lead to any "shocking family secret." It merely confirmed what she already knew. Finding out she was 27% Indian might have been the "shocking family secret," but that was glossed over in the video.
@@herrickinman9303 yes, i thought, seeing the percentage, the shock was smth that she was some First Nation princess or smth :)
my mom was adopted she passed away at 36 of brain cancer I was able to use DNA to find
her lost lost family.
My mom was adopted, and now deceased. I'd like to find her family.
That's awesome! 🤗
If you are related to your mom, then it is YOUR lost family too. Adoption split families apart. You lost out too.
You can still find her family. Not for her anymore, but for yourself. Her genes are in you and if you take the test and she has relatives that did, you can find them.
Dr Smac
Thank you for your comment. I did just that I was able from testing my dna to find her brother, sister and trace my family tree back as far my mom’s 3 times great grandparents. I also found her birth parents.
Amazingly I learned my mother and some of her lost family are buried in the same cemetery.
Im so happy and have tears for these loving people! I was adopted as a baby. When I found my biological mother I was 40. She denied everything I found out. My birth father I found through a half sister, from same mother. My birth father had passed away. I never met my mother in person. Right after I called her and she denied knowing me she had a heart attack that killed her. I'm happy others have loving stories.
I am so sorry about that.
Why is no one talking about WHY the mother never told him he had a daughter?!? Why keep it a secret and LIE to ur child and say he’s dead when u know that’s not true?!? If I was the daughter in this situation I’d be pissed tf off at my mom, and honestly would hold a grudge forever over this. Totally unacceptable!!! Glad she ended up finding him tho 🙂
Same, I think they were so glad to find each other but her biological mother hid this secret. I am sorry but I think the father and daughter are entitled to damages!!! Women that do this should be given massive punishment.
Why in God's name would you hold a grudge? Grudges ruin lives.
@@TC-eagleseye Omg that’s awful!! Plus, why would someone WANT to raise a child on their own anyways?!? That’s something I’ll never understand...
@@theironcraftergaming7401 Parents (can) also ruin their kids lives too! Like keeping a child from having a father their whole life! If u want to argue that that’s an acceptable thing to do and that the child should just “forget about it”, please go troll elsewhere, lol.
One night stand - last names not exchanged - or maybe rape.
You can see that she’s her daddy’s girl. How precious! Their story made me cry.
I feel sorry for her dad that raised her. He must feel very much left out at this point :-(
Dammit, I hate to admit
Me to
@@VM-123 He probably lives in another state, and she probably feels like she has 2 dads. He sounded happy for her. That's love too.
Anyone notice how mom wasn't interviewed?
Mom was stepping out on Dad, and never told Dad that she wasn't his.
I thought the same..
I was about to say the same thing!!
The story clearly indicates the daughter knew from a young age that that didn't share the same father with her siblings. Whatever may have happened, don't really know since nothing else was said, except that she was told her father was dead, which is a bit messed up, but again we also don't know why.
@@frankpaya690 Yeah, pretty easy to deduce.
I was adopted way back in 1967. Became a bus driver in London 20 years later. Found my Pops few years after that. Low and behold, he had been a passenger of a route I once drove. Best mates too this day.
Im 40 years old, last year found my dad, 5 half siblings / 16 niece & nephew through ancestry & they never knew I existed. I couldn’t be more delighted . For once, I felt like I belonged somewhere 💖
Dad who raised her: "He's a stranger who loves her". That's so beautiful.
I wish they had shown more of him.
We need Tracey’s mom to come to the front of the congregation and explain to us what happened sis
Shakesha Williams girl the same exact thing happened to me! My father n law was adopted & the were doing it & so I said I’d do the 23 & me😞 They didn’t find anything closer than a 3rd cousin. I one the other hand found my bio dad that I never knew about😥 it’s been a whole year & I’m still devastated!! I wish I would’ve never done it. I’m angry with my mother but I can’t stay mad because we’re not promised tomorrow. I’d be way more devastated if I lost her❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ My bio dad never knew about me at all!! He is an amazing man but at 38 it’s truly hard to bond with someone😩
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Testify.
You need nothing. That's just gossip.
@Ivy Mossgarden you are all definitely owed the truth...
I did an Ancestry test years ago at my daughter's urging. Turns out I'm her Dad..... dammit, I would have gotten away with it, if it wasn't for those meddling kids ! My daughter looks like the girl version of me, but brown from her Mom's Mexican heritage. The percentages are estimated, but it's nice to tease her Mom that our daughter has 53% of her genes from me.... ha ha hahaha..... mine, all mine.
So, I'm adopted and know zero about my background. So I did Ancestry to get a sense of who I am. Turns out going to tons of Scottish festivals and doing highland games over the years was a correct thing for someone who's over half Scottish to do.
I was shocked that I had 15% Scandinavian genetics, but that might have been because of my English ( not British) heritage which was a very high percentage according to the report. I could trace it back fairly well to the collapse of the Roman Empire in England.
I also found out who my mother and father were. My father passed away in 1985 and my Mother in 1980. I believe that they both were heavy drinkers and I was probably not from a long term relationship. Nudge nudge wink wink.
I also found a half brother and a half sister. My brother never responded to my messages and my sister and I talked a few times via messages and then she just stopped. No explanation, just stopped.
Talked to a second cousin quite a bit and then she stopped. I swear to you I was wearing deodorant when I messaged them, so no, that wasn't the reason.
I looked at a lot of different family trees and researched a lot and most of the family trees were with the names, places and times as one another, so I learned my ancestors and heritage. And it matched pretty closely to what was forwarded to me as updates from Ancestry.
I stayed with Ancestry for another year and a half hoping to find more close family who would be willing to talk to me about my background and more personal family history. It turned out to be futile, so I canceled my membership and moved on knowing quite a bit more about me than when I had started. It was good while it lasted. Good luck to all of you with your search.
WOW, what a great writer you are! I can't imagine why any of them would have quit corresponding with you! You have quiet the sense of humor! I'm sure all the family you have around you love you to death! Take care!
Yeah, the bagpipes in my blood drew me to my Scots heritage too. A little Scandinavian and some Irish with a spot of Mexican......yeah and English. My mother's maiden name is similar to a particular English queen #2. I researched and found the connection. My 2nd married name is connected to a guy who's grandfather was responsible for the Salem witch trials, where a 3rd cousin's x times grandmother was one of the women executed....and makes me related to that particular author AND my husband. Yikes!
We found my mother had a full sister and a half brother that she didn't know anything about. My mother just died recently, but she got to meet her brother and her sister and form a relationship. It made her happy because the two sisters had grown up with had both died previously, and she was enjoying getting to know her long-lost siblings.
I trip on how blood makes people so similar even when they never met. They have very similar mannerisms. Genes are a trip.
It is a well-known fact in the scientific community that your genes determine behavior more so than upbringing. However, it is politically incorrect and scary to acknowledge this reality, so the general public is still sold a bunch of nonsense.
I named my rabbit Rudiger from this one episode of the Simpsons. My brother named their cat Rudiger for the same reason. My rabbit's back left leg doesn't work properly so he has trouble with that. His cat is missing it's back left leg. He lives three states away and I found this out when I told my sister-in-law about my rabbit. :D
I also never met my paternal grandfather. However, I sign my last name with a star at the end. I found his signature once and he did the same thing. :)
@@phaedraremington6247 Wow! That's interesting 😄😄😄
@@goodgirlkay Very true 👍
Yes, I never knew my father because he disappeared when I was 4, but I know his family. I look a lot like him and have similar mannerisms 😄😄😄
I didn’t know my birth father until I was in my late 20’s. I was hospitalized with a minor illness and my mom told me his name. My father lost his wife and 3 children in a fire and I was a surprise. I was afraid to tell my dad, the man who raised me I found a biological father. They both were overwhelmed with appreciation and love for each other. My dad who couldn’t have his own children, my father who didn’t think he could be a father to me. Seeing my 2 dads together was the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen. 2 men who loved me more then anything. One who loved me enough he knew he had to give me up. Another who loved me enough to give up his freedom to give me everything. Parents are really something more then most people will ever be able to understand.
May the Lord Bless You forever 🙏
Joy Edwards ok but do you make people cry for business or pleasure? Lmao. 😩😭
That’s beautiful
butwhy would your dad have to give you up for the new-found dad? can't he remain your dad and the new dad can be your dadas well. As in the movie Mamma Mia! she had three dads😊
Amen
Some people don’t even get ONE dad. It’s so great that she has two fathers that love her this deeply. So awesome and lucky.
I see this was posted 5 year's ago but I needed a little JOY in my life today, so thank you for this sweet story.
When I see the endless hatred, belittling, sexual insults, physical fights among families,and abandonment, it is such a true miracle and enlightenment to see a genuine instinctive love from both sides.
That is really sad. Families are supposed to be loving and supportive, not hateful and abusive. What God created for good, satan has attacked to destroy ..to wound and destroy children....who grow up to be adults who wound and destroy children...an ugly generational cycle. Jesus makes a way to escape this evil cycle. Only He can change the human heart! Praying for you to know the Savior who suffered and died that you can be reunited to your Heavenly Father, Who is a good, good Father.
The really amazing part of this is that her father was restless down in LA and ended up moving more than a thousand miles to within a few miles of the daughter he didn't even know existed -- and you can see he is the kind of man who loves his children very, very much! When each of my parents died a few years apart I knew it instantly, and in the case of my father from more than a 1000 miles away, and it literally knocked me off my feet both times. Some kind of link we don't understand is possible for some people.
I was working as a flight attendant and was 800km away when my mother passed away. I was sitting in the airport due to a delay and almost fainted. Then got home that afternoon and found her. I know the feeling you mean exactly.
I knew when my dad passed too and we lived a few hundred miles apart. Even though we weren’t close, I felt like he was no longer with me.
The most amazing thing is she is his only child.
Jim I think your statement is awesome I'm from Michigan and live in Florida when my mother died I actually collapsed I thought that something bad had happened and then recieved the call my mother had passed Its like a connection was severed I knew when my father passed too he came in a dream and told me goodbye and it was so peaceful I didnt mourn him till days later
I felt it with my father who was about 17 miles away and also a friend who lived in Turkey. I live in uk. I think it's called shared death experience.
I did my ancestry & found out my grandfather wasn’t my grandfather as I knew him. My grandmother’s next door neighbor was!😁 She had three kids by him before my “grandfather” divorced her. 🤣 I found sisters…nieces & nephews my brother didn’t know he had. It changed from a last name I carried my whole life to something else. It screwed up the whole ancestry we had done in our “name.” 😳
Did your grandpa and the neighbor know the truth? Was the neighbor also married? So the children never knew the neighbor was their dad? That's an interesting story.
My story is similar to yours. Found out my dad's father whom we called grandad wasn't his father. My grandmother connected with another man and had her only son of six kids with him. My dad was the fifth in order of birth. I didn't find this out till my dad passed at 94. No one seems to have ever suspected. It never dawned on me till photos popped up from his real biological cousins that he didn't even look like his "dad" but is a dead ringer for the men in the family of his biological father. Since Dad was the only boy (and his legal father's namesake) no one noticed. Not only that we had this lengthy scroll of a family tree that went back to the 1600's of our "granddad's" ancestry. Turns our our dad's sisters and their kids all can claim that tree but we cannot since we had a different authentic family line than then they. It was a shock. My mom is still alive but we haven't told her or my dad's remaining sister. My grandma was their MIL and mother respectively. I don't think they have any clue and they are in their 90s. It would be too much of a shock to tell them at this point. But I do wish I could tell mom. I think it would clarify alot things she never understood about the family dynamics.
Understandable. I was born with one name, but all school records are by the last name of my step father. Marking out the family tree, only 3 of my sisters are my step father's and 2 of us carried his last name on paper...never adopted. Oldest sister carried her birth father's name. So, there are 4 "fathers" to our 1 mother. Knowing our birth names my one sister and I can put those birth names on the tree. And yes, it messes with the genealogy if there are several last names on one person. People don't know us by our real last names because we used our daddy's name.
2021 was a very interesting year for me. One of my nephews did his DNA and found someone in the report that was 99 % related, so he told his grandmother my sister who told me I had a daughter. I was contacted a few weeks later I was contacted by a woman who claimed to be my daughter. I asked all the questions such as who her mom was and what all her mom had told her about the guy who was her father. She answered the questions with some misinformation. I told her that the wrong information was something else and she felt there was something missing until I filled in the blanks. I am still in contact with her even tho we are 6 states away. But she has 2 kids as well and that is so exciting to us both that we found each other especially when I had no idea she was ever born. She is and will ever be the most beautiful young lady / daughter I will ever have.
Huh?
@@reneedominguez3633 Yeah it really happens Renee
@@robertmontgomerybearwolf_s7715 I'm so dumb, I didn't pay attention to the fact that you were a male! Duh, I was thinking, "How did she not know that she had a child?"
Sheesh, I need to pay attention to details! Sorry!
@@reneedominguez3633 Nothing to be sorry about. Last I looked yep all male here. My name is Robert not Roberta lol
You had a daughter you didn't know about? How is that possible?
When I did Ancestry I learned my dad was born out-of-wedlock and adopted by his grandparents. The woman I called Aunt was really my granny!
Same happened to me, but not through ancestry !
After 40 years I found out Auntie Kay was actually Grandma Kay after she died !
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She’s lucky to have two good fathers. Mine was totally absent
Maybe being absent was better than having a horrible father who would've messed you up. I found my bio-mom & discovered she abused her own daughter. My half-sister went on to abuse her own kids; one is now brain-damaged after being assaulted during a drug-deal gone wrong, the other finally got her life together after finding a good man, but only after cutting ties with her mom. Half-sis also chases after married men (as did our mother) and has been divorced at least 4 times. (She hid at least one of her marriages, so I'm not sure there weren't others.) Two of my half-brothers married horrible women who resembled bio-mom, one half-bro is gay & HIV positive after being molested as a child (he says he's bi & attracted to women but so uncomfortable with them that he prefers men) and the youngest half-bro never married until age 50, because his mom's behavior left him so distrustful of women. Two half-bros & half-sis also have problems with addiction. When I look at my half-sibs, I'm so immensely grateful that I was not raised by the woman who gave birth to me!
Mine was a complete a-hole. I was the fifth child and my father was pissed off that Mom was pregnant for a fifth time. He went out of his way to make me feel unwanted and was never civil to me. My memories of him are of him telling me "Scram" "Go see if your mother needs you". Had quite a negative impact on my life. My best friend had a loving and supportive father who believed in women's equality... I used to tell her all the time how she was lucky! At least I was compensated with having an absolutely wonderful mother.
I wish mine had been. He was not a good influence.
Mine too, wen't absent; that's, what I was told.
So was mine
What a heartwarming story! So many times there is family drama drama and these revelations are not always happy endings. In this case, it appears both are simply happy to have discovered each other and fascinated by finding what they have in common after all these years. Simply wonderful!
For those of us who are adopted out, these tests and searches for relatives span generations. We found our family through this. I wanted to know my family and we found them. It took years of searching. I wish my sister was alive to see her work find my mom her family. I am me. Now I know more about me.
I have found thru dna, several of my friends and classmates I grew up with are cousins as well. 10 or more from my graduating class so far. A woman I used to sew with is a cousin and a woman (and her wonderful niece) I met at church and quilted with, is also a cousin. Small world. Distant relatives to my 2nd husband and the guy I dated before I married him. Kinda creepy!!
My mother would have hell to pay if she lied about my father being dead and never even told him about me, especially when he's such a nice man.
It's almost criminal what the family Courts let people get away with.
Let a man be late with a child support payment and all hell breaks loose.
Let mom deny court ordered visitation and she might get slapped on the wrist.
My ex told my son I was killed aboard ship while in the Navy. She would call my elderly mother just to give her a hard time. If I could get her into court, she would stand up and loudly tell the Judge that I was UA, (same as awol) from the Navy! By the time the Judge reviewed my leave papers, and made a phone call to my Command to confirm my leave status, my allotted time to hear the case that day and it had to be continued.
So there I stand, out leave time, airfare, hotel cost, rental costs, food costs, extra attorney fees for showing up for nothing..........and still didn't see my son!.
Years ago, child support used to be tied to visitation. It worked pretty well, deny visitation, you don't get child support! Then the support enforcement offices and mom's started boo hooing that "it wasn't fair". Now the Courts will tell you that it's 2 separate issues.........but when the man takes the woman takes the woman to court, they usually won't do much to her.
I took my ex to court over 25 times in various States for visitation denial and hiding my son. The worst she recieved was an ass chewing from a couple judges!!!!!!
@Jonn wray I am so sorry that you were treated the way you were. I hope you have been able to have a relationship with your son despite those years. If not, I hope you will keep trying. My father was career US Navy and died in service 55 years ago when I was 12. I would give just about anything to have the chance to get to know him as an adult. Please give your son the chance to know you. You obviously wanted him in your life. God bless.
@@jonnwray960 Unfortunately, in this day and age, publicly shaming her by name and pulling her family & friends into it via a Facebook or Twitter post is probably the only way to get through to her at this point.
@@deborahmerkerson1145
Thank you for your kind words.
At this point, I think any chance of a relationship with my son has passed.
I did locate him about 10 years ago at a Naval base in the Norfolk, VA area, (he had joined the Navy), and I was about 4 hours away. I drove up there and found him and took him to a long lunch. We talked for a couple hours, he was an angry young man. He had been told so many horrible stories about me, which none of which were true, ie, I was a drunk, druggies, a criminal, was tossed out of the Navy with a bad discharge, etc, etc. But there I sat across from him, summer whites, chest full of ribbons that show I wasn't some shit-can.
Long story short,I left him my home address, phone number, email address, but I've not heard a word from him. I guess too much water has passed under the bridge.
Funny thing........his mother, is such "a good Christian woman". BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, boy she has her family and church fooled.
@Jonn wray I am sorry that your son hasn’t made the effort to know you. As for his mother, it is people like her that give Christianity a bad name. She will have to face God one day. I wouldn’t want to be her! Many blessings John and Happy New Year!
She's been blessed with two good dads. Lots of luck in her story.
Yes, so many people don’t even have one good dad.
And one bad mom
Lots of blessings
Julie Morgana ...and cursed by one mother exponentially.
um i don't think so cause she might be confused at first when she herd about that
Sometimes these tests can cause alot of pain for a family.
I have 3 brothers. All 4 of us were raised in the same home with our Dad and Mom.
My oldest brother used to always joke that he didn't think our Dad was his bio Dad. We always laughed and told him he was crazy. He was tall unlike my other brothers but he looked like our Mom. We were always told he got his height from our Grandfather who was 6'1. My brother is 6'2. The two other boys are 5'9 like my Dad. We all have blue eyes, except him. He has brown.
Over the years my brother frequently said he looks much different than us, again we always laughed it off and told him he was crazy.
Fast forward to 2014. He and another brother did a DNA test. It came back that the chance of them having the same biological father was something like 2%. It was devastating for him. Not as devastating as when he found out who is real Dad is.
His Father is a convicted child rapist and is in prison for life.
He molested and raped many, many little boys over a span of many years. I'm not going to give any more details but I'll say that this man is a monster.
He confronted my Dad who still swears he had no idea. I believe him but sadly my brother doesn't. They haven't spoken for 4 yrs. He has never confronted our mother.
Our mom has mental issues and telling her he knows would probably send her over the edge. Especially if she knew that all of us know and never told her. So, we all decided it was best to keep it from her. It isn't fair to my Dad really, he's taking the blame for something she did . My brother doesn't have a relationship with our Mom either. He's very angry and treated her different after this but she really doesn't understand why. He just started distancing himself from her and now talks to her over the phone a few times a year is all.
It's very sad and my brother has had to go to therapy to try and work out his feelings.
It is a huge secret that our mother has carried for 56 years. I think it has something to do with her mental issues.
My Mom probably wasn't positive of who his dad was when she was pregnant, knowing that she had cheated. She was 19yrs old and my Dad was abusive to her. She was more than likely scared to tell him . That's a tough thing to tell your husband. So she kept it to herself and figured no one would ever know.
That's my theory anyway on the situation.
Family secrets can do alot of damage.
Wow, what a story! I'm so sad to hear that about your brother, I hope he that knows that each one of us are loved by our lord Jesus and that he is special just who he is!
@@dippychic57 Thank you. It's been tough on my brother for sure.
He's also a recovering addict and has been clean 28 yrs.
It was especially important that he work through this in every way.
Thank you for your comment ❤
Cheated? Perhaps she was a victim of that predator.
@@bdlimea7018
Far removed from your situation....
It's Kinda silly to "blame" your dad.
If your dad was still a "net positive" in your brother's life...
Then the GOOD outweighs the Bad.
Anyway, hope your brother gets through it❤❤
@HughJass-jv2lt
Well, my brother feels he was lied to by all the adults who were in his life as a child.
My Dad, Mom, Aunts, Uncles.
He strongly feels that my Dad knew and kept it a secret along with everyone else.
He blames all of them, not just my Dad. I
My Mom has passed away since I wrote my first comment. My brother didn't say goodbye. Didn't even come to the hospital. She was there a month before she passed away 😢
The whole thing is just sad.
Thank you for your comment
What a beautiful outcome. Just watched thus clip and I am here in tears! And I am not usually a teary person! So happy for Tracy and Ray. Much love to you and all the family.
I am SO happy for her 😄🤗😊 I'm 52 and have never known my father 😩 stories like these lift my spirits 🤗🤗🤗
Elena Arman-Tang so sorry you never got to know your dad. Any chance that could happen for you in the future? Bendiciones.
@@deedee2218 there's no chance. My parents separated when I was 2, in 1968, and my father moved to New York City. He became hooked on heroin, had a baby with his girlfriend in 1970, then disappeared 😢 my grandmother came up from Puerto Rico to look for him. His siblings who were living in NY tried to find him. They believe he was murdered, but his body was never found 😭 thank you for comment. God bless you too 😇
you're not ome Elena, I hope you get some closure on that if you are looking for it.
@@diouranke thank you. I searched for many years! I even had a friend who was an NYPD Detective help me. I still don't know what happened. My father has been missing since August, 1970 😢😢😢
She had a father who raised her.
Did a DNA test and found out several horrifying secrets. I wish everyone had a happy story.
I'm intrigued...
me too... you gonna leave us hanging?
Awwwww you gotta tell us!
I agree with you Nikki...wish my reunion had been like this one; but, it is what it is.
You're related to murders?
I'm really amazed by the way the father who raised her was handling the situation☺❤
I just got an Ancestry ad. Literally. CZcams is always watching.
I HATE FAMILY SECRETS, ALL
THEY DO IS HURT PEOPLE.
EVERY CHILD HAS THE RIGHT
AND DECISION TO FIND OUT WHERE THEY CAME FROM. BAD OR GOOD.
My family is so tangled with secrets it's very hurtful.
mama cathy so true im 65 my father died in 2003 and going through papers found my mom was his 2nd wife. And i have a half sister.my mom didnt know her.im still lookkng.maybe we will find each other in the next life.
I am working on my Family Tree & boy, did my Mother zip her lips shut......think it is so sad, seeing as how she has passed away now.....
YES! 100% agreed!
mama cathy I’ve learned over the years, you can’t spell families without lies.
I had a friend in high school who had been adopted as a baby. When she grew up she wanted to do for some other person what her adoptive mother had done for her, so she adopted a baby.
When that baby grew up these DNA tests had become available, so as a present for her mom she sent in her own and her adoptive mother's (my friend's) DNA.
She got the results and they were stunning. She was the biological niece of her adoptive mother.
Around late 1969 a teenager became pregnant. The baby was born and given up for adoption. This baby was my friend.
The teenager finished growing up, got married and had kids of her own. Then, in the early 90's one of her daughters became pregnant. That baby too was adopted, unknowingly by her mother's daughter, her own sister.
Wow
Wait, how'd she not know her sister adopted a baby, I'm so confused. What am I missing.
Wow. Just wow.
@@feliciarivera4297 The sister gave her baby up for adoption.
Have these two contacted their biological family and revealed this amazing story to them????
My dad said we were from German ancestry. My daughter took a DNA test and has no German in her so because we don't have a relationship she asked my family if by chance that my dad may have been adopted. So I decided to take a test and I'm 43% German. My daughter's mother is deceased which is too bad because I have some questions I'd really like answers to. Especially since we divorced when my daughter was 2, and I paid child support on her for 16 years.
That's your concern, child support?
Well, your child support helped raise her to be the daughter you have today - blood or no blood.
@@rajs7876 yeah, he should have gotten a paternity test...
This video brought me back to when I found out in 2018 that the man who raised me was not my biological father. Imagine finding out you are not who you thought you were. The identity crisis that ensues with every posible emotion spilling out of you including anger, sadness, anxiety and depression. That is one of the worst feelings to go through. Luckily, I and many in the same situation have overcome it with support groups, especially if we have good outcomes. I was able to meet my biological father and it has been a wonderful experience for me sharing the similarities like the fact the we both love rain and hate seafood. I am thankful and blessed that my biological father has been accepting and loving. I couldn't ask for a better outcome to my shocking discovery.
The man who raised you is your father. The other was nothing more than a sperm donor.
I'm glad you found peace after all the shock and turmoil. My sister is going thru that to this day. We had the same step father and he made up for the womanizers our birth fathers were. They both died before we knew them.
Sounds like the mom has some explaining to do.
the dad too... they said he moved there with his wife... seems to me he's the one who has some splaining to do.
@@rsmith8434 I really nave no dog in this fight. I dunno why i comment on things like this.
@@Merc_0158E7 ummmm how do you assume hes been married 35yrs?
@@mzbatonrougebeauty5267 I think he's referring to 35 years ago...
She can’t help it if the elastic on her skivvies was loose.
We gonna hear from Tracy’s mom? She’s got some explaining to do.
Tracy's mom has got it goin' on.
Actually she got pregnant because they were in the same swimming pool. 😬
Yepp!!damnit
Where you been? Women aren't expected to be accountable in the 21st century.
@@allme2547 hahaha! I was just singing that and about to type it when I read your comment
the same thing happened to my ex husband, found his biological father online, from a post, on a website, this was before the possibility of DNA testing. my ex grew up in Chicago, I'm from Washington state and we moved to Washington and found out his father lived here too, 50 miles away. he even found a half biological brother, my ex was raised as an only child by his amazing mother. To be part of a story just like this is truly a miracle. all from a post I made to help my son's father find his father. I'm so happy for this family. bless them to have this time together. 🙏♥️
I have green eyes and it's always been a family joke that no one in either of my parent's families had green eyes. Everyone teased my Mom & she would say the mailman or the milkman had green eyes. So I had my DNA done and my parents had theirs - I am definately my father's child but still no idea where I got green eyes.
Green eyes are extremely rare. They are recessive, so your family could have had the green eye recessive trait and just didnt pair up with anyone with the green eye trait until your parents got together.
Recessive genes come out when you least expect them. My girls have blue eyes like me, but their boys all have brown eyes except 1. His are "crystal clear" blue!
Wow I'm literally in tears. I'm still looking for my dad. I was adopted and only got to meet him one time at the age of 18. Never saw him anymore and I'm now 47.
Good luck. I hope you find him.
If i may give you some advice first if you havnt done dna do it id recommend ancestry or 23 and me as these two you can download your raw dna and upload it to 4 other dna sites to get more fanily matches. If your biological dad hasnt tested join a group like search squad or search angels along with add yourself to dna surprise groups or dna support groups these groups are really good at looking at your trees and helping people find there biological family! Im in these groups and see it happen all the time they are very good at what they do
She is blessed all around, a great birth dad, and a sensitive good man who raised her who understood! WOW...
yes
He must've got a heck of a shock! I , for 46 years have been waiting for my husband's child to knock on my door hahaha! Nothing yet! He says he was careful hahaha
It seems like the daughter and the man that raised her realize that the daughter finding her real dad didn't take away from the bond between them. The man that raised her may not have known that he wasn't the biological dad either. They have a few holes in this story.
Dorita Kesley Blessed by a woman who cursed her?
and a mother who lied to her and told her he dead ..all cause of a one night stand or brief encounter as they said in the programme
My Mother found out that the man who she though was her father for over 70 years found out that another man was her father. It really upset her.
This is very dear to my heart! That’s how I found my father after 50 years! He never knew about me. I was born in Thailand during the Vietnam war, was adopted and ended up living in the same state at one point. We now have a great relationship and speak frequently.
2 yrs ago me and my hubby did DNA test to see where we came from for Xmas! Well what a surprise I got... A HALF BROTHER!!! I was thrilled! My dad was embarrassed but doing well!
What a beautiful gift to have 2 dads who love her so much! Even if she had to wait for to connect with her biological dad, God gave her a precious gift in her step dad for those years. I lost my dad when I was 12 and I know there's just nothing like a great dad in your life. I'm so happy for this lovely women❤❤
This is so awesome! Makes me want to do an ancestry DNA test to see what shows up.
What a wonderful story. I hope more and more people find their parent's/families. Everyone deserves to Belong and Loved. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful ending.
My husband was adopted and just recently, at age 73, found who his birth mother was when her granddaughter submitted her DNA.
Susan Mize oh wonderful!
I know who my father is but he doesn’t want anything to do with me, never did. I’m glad it worked out for her.
It his lost. Love the people that love u and put him god hands
Same
Sometime it's better that way. My father won't leave me alone and has made mine and my family life hell every day
I used to wish my dad wasn’t my dad. Unfortunately, I look just like him.
Me too.
I lived with him for a childhood.
He was awful. I hated him. I was the middle child. I wasn't the perfect first nor the longed for son,. I was just another mouth to feed. I felt it every day.
I needed that today❤️😭
Hugs and GOD bless us everyone. Thank you for sharing this uplifting story with everyone 😊
I’m so happy for them, I am 58 years old and I have never met my biological father. I have always wondered what he was like. Glad that this worked out so well
Search for him. You can do it. It’s not
Too late.
What’s his name
The mother has some 'splaining to do
My words exactly, lol!
😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is so true! I wished they would've addressed this in the news story. I think there might've been some fooling around and neither party (real mom and dad) don't want to air out the dirty laundry. Doesn't matter, I suppose but there has to be a reason mom didn't tell her,
🤣🤣🤣🤣
calpolyca - I think they allude to a 'brief encounter' at the beginning of the piece, but other than mentioning that Tracy's life dad raised her as his own I get the impression that whatever is known is not going to be brought up in the news. She is older than her two blonde siblings so it is possible this occurred before her parents were married. Same for her birth father.
I'm glad this turned out so well for you. Mine didn't turn out as I had wished but I did gain a half brother and sister, and an awesome aunt who is 92. My birth mother wasn't truthful with me. I found out whom my father was through DNA testing. I have sweet cousins on that side of the family. I wish my birth mother was okay mentally to enjoy a relationship with her... But at least I now know who I am and where I came from.
My mother kept most of the truth from myself and one half sister. I wish she had been honest with her. I knew about my father at an early age. My daddy was a wonderful man and told my father I would be his child and they didn't want anything from him. That let my birth father off the hook for being found out by his wife and 3 other kids. My first husband was Chickasaw, so my 2 girls have their CDIB cards. Carrie Underwood is a known Chickasaw and is cousin to my girls.
@@Mina-cy4dq I'm so glad you've at least gotten this information for your girls. It would be so wonderful if people would be honest. Lying to an adoptee is cruel. How exciting about Carrie Underwood!
My nephew took a DNA test at the end of 2020...he got it for a Christmas gift...his results came back at the end of January 2021...a gentleman showed up on his results as a match as an Uncle...we found out we had a Brother we didn't know about and recently found a Sister too...they are now a part of our family....we are now up to 6 kids...lol
I know I have a half brother. My dad told me that he had an affair and that the woman emigrated to Australia. She came to see him before she left and the kid was about 5 and that its the only time he saw the kid. I was born a few years later and my dad said that when I reached the same age I looked identical to how he remembered the kid. She moved to Australia and he never heard from her again. My dad told me before he died and I guess I wish I'd asked the mothers name but I didn't want to freak my dad out thinking I'd try and find the person. I sometimes think it would be nice to meet them.
I hope you find a way to meet them. Connections like this are very important. imo.
I found a half sister that I never knew about. I was relieved to know my dad also didn't know and wasn't a asswipe who ignored her. She is so sweet and looks more like my older sister than me. She also looks like our grandmother and I love her more for that.
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This is proof that parent child bond is strong. No reason to go to Spokane he knew of but he felt that pull. Incredible story!
I found out my dad wasn't my dad and I had a half sister. I adore her! My dad father died in 96 but my sister is alive and beautiful. I'm happy with how things turned out.
Both dads seem like such good sweet men. Whata up with the mother though...that kept the biological father out of the loop her entire life🤨
This is simply the way of the human animal. The mothers do not always have to give the baby to the male who impregnates them. In fact sometimes the female human can have sex with multiple men during her ovulation period, so it is difficult to know who is the father. You can notice this behaviour in Baboons, a close relative to the humans. The females end up (marriage) with the males who are nice - for a lack of a better word - to them. Nice would mean the males who take care or groom the females. Grooming in Baboon is simply protecting and grooming (as in beautification). This is a little bit different in humans, as grooming is broader because of all the things we have created.
@@oama2009 , Except humans are more intellectual creatures with minds that can have morals. A woman that hides a biological father from them is morally not right, to take that relationship away from the father. ( They deserve to be given a chance to see if they want to be apart of the childs life anyway, afterall the child is half thier blood.) Give them a chance to take a dna test when the baby is born. Too common that they find out when the child is an adult.
@@oama2009 That explains the woman going after the basketball players. Well that & the money.
Maybe it was a one night stand and she didn't know his name.
This is simply the flip side of "my body, my choice." Some women think that because she carries the child in her uterus, the child is 100% her property & neither the child nor the father should have any say at all.
This exact thing happened to me, however, I had a father that raised me and put his name on my birth certificate! To say I was shocked was an understatement. Lucky he was still alive at 93 yo.
Me too!
❤ Thank you for sharing this beautiful story
Thank you for the best story today!