7 Signs You Shouldn't End A Friendship
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- Friendships are hard to come by is an absolutely essential part of the human experience. But sometimes, some friendships don’t always last forever. Do you have doubts about whether your friend is a true friend or a fake friend? Are you planning to end a friendship, yet you are still unsure if that's the best decision? How do you identify a toxic friendship or a true friendship that needs to be fixed? If you aren’t certain, here are seven situations where you shouldn’t end a friendship.
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Losing your bestfriend hurts more than a break up
Too often it's the same thing
It does
It hurts more when its both 💀
@@nelliebellie2222 ya truee
You've experienced both?
The worst thing is when you miss your ex-friend but contacting this person is impossible because they changed and the person you miss doesn't exist anymore.
It sucks but maturity and experience happens. Rhetorically speaking, what did you miss about that person? Really? And why did those feelings change?
That might imply its time to move on. It is a shame when it happens...
Right
I feel you. But at the same time two people don't have to be friends forever. It happens. Specially because we are adults. That's what I tell myself.
I wish friends were permanent.
1. There is a miscommunication.
2. They are too busy, but still make time to be with you.
3. Both of you want to work things out, but are too embarrassed to start.
4. Outside influences don't approve of the friendship.
5. Your friend can still bring you joy and make you laugh.
6. One of you is moving ahead in life but you still connect with one another.
7. Their success makes you jealous but also motivates you.
yeah.. I get jealous of my friend.. likely. because i am a competitive person.. that's why our friendship broke because of we were both toxic people, and lack of communication and jealousy.
I'm literally experiencing all this with one person
Emma Davis Im experiencing every point with someone else
I struggle mostly with when your friends are too busy for you but still make a effort to spend time with you. It certainly hurts when your friends can’t be there for you when you’re busy but oh well it’s apart of life I guess and adulthood everyone is busy.
Can someone help me decide?? My friend replies to my texts late and now that school is done with theres nothing they are busy with :/ They excuse themselves and say they haven’t been on their phone but for +12 hours? I’m not sure.. Our personalities are somewhat the same though at the same time it’s also not? Not to be cringe but i guess you could say im “goofier” and they don’t match that energy whatsoever.. I know they are going through things sometimes but I’ve started to love myself and such, I feel as though I cannot be with someone that does not love themself themselves because it drains my energy when they complain and view everything in a bad way
You can still be a really good person, and your 'friends' will still leave you. Trust me I know.
nboutb yes u're right:( sadly..
I completely know what you mean. But guess what? Those aren't friends.
I spent so much time wondering where i went wrong
Been there...
@@DKZala-qz6cf ikr
It's hard when y'all get along well , but you have nothing in common and you run out of things to talk about as the years go on :/
Oof I relate Q^Q
I too relate... It's been that way since school ended... And there's nothing to talk about
YES this is always the reason my friendships end :(
This always happens to me and honestly I hate it, because I feel bad thinking that our friendship would only be good when we go to the same school and end as soon as school ends, or at least that’s what I thought some years ago, now I’m in touch with one of my old friends and we’re hanging out again even if we’ve grown up and now go to different schools
Yeah... I think that is unfortunately one of the prime reasons to leave a friendship (aside from the toxic ones many in the comments are experiencing). Y'all are both cool good people but not everything can stay past its welcome. :s
when you instantly start thinking about a certain friend you went through much trouble with o-o
Fr, I recently ended a friendship I wish this vid was out then 😭 lol
Time for both of you to rebuild the friendship then! Make the first move :)
Did u just read my mind? O.o
Yes. I still cant decide wither I want to be friends with her again bc when we split I had just lost my grandpa literally the day before (which I know she had no idea about but she was told that same day and at the time seemed more concerned about herself). She scared me bc I couldnt recognize the person she had become and she doesnt show much signs of changing
Simone De Sabata I actually don’t regret ending the friendship. I’m just saying I wish the video was out then because it’ll make the process much more easier. Me ending the friendship was long overdue. She did some things that I’ll never forget and things never felt the same after that 😪
Sometimes you don't want to end a relationship, and it just sort of falls apart. It used to be good but it ends anyways. Those are the most devastating.
Happened to me at the beginning of the year. 3 years and so much trust down the drain. I feel sometimes like I messed up, but I realized that it just fell apart. We didn't work well, and that's okay. It still hurts, but at least I'm moving on from it
This happens with all my best friends. It’s not even like we ever have any issues, all my best friends just seem to move across the country. It’s so weird!! And I mean a l l of them, I’m super sad rn bc my best friend who I would d i e for is now moving across the country :( idk how this always happens- I swear I’m cursed 😔😔✌️
Happened to me recently. Usually when my friendships end it’s because circumstances change for one or both of us to the point that it’s not practical to keep in touch. When it’s not that, it’s a conflict. Then in very rare cases, the friendship stays strong forever.
The woman I’m thinking of was kind to me at a time when I was a bit of a lost soul and won my gratitude and loyalty, both of which she appreciated. We went through a lot together, each gave the other a shoulder to cry on. I found it so easy to share with her, and there are only a few people I’ve ever been able to say that about. And people and things that came into my life as an indirect result of our friendship collectively amounted to nothing less than a desperately needed second chance.
A few months ago I realized that connection just wasn’t there anymore.Tried to convince myself I was mistaken, but I wasn’t. Tried to revive it, just wound up angry and frustrated. It’s not that she did anything wrong, it’s just that our friendship ran its course.
But that’s uncharted territory for me, and I never thought that she of all people would be the one to lead me there. Once it became impossible to deny that our old connection was dead, my big worry was finding a way to avoid feelings of bitterness tainting my memories of the many good times we had and my gratitude for all she did for me.
Against all odds, I managed that, and now I always think of her with a smile.
I watched this video wondering if maybe I had been too hasty after all, but it seems we’re 0 for 7. So I’m even more at peace now.
My best friend has new better friends and im not sure if we are best friends anymore :,( its a bit awkward between us now because i moved away and we dont see each other often, and when we do see each other we do laugh and talk but its not like before.
Thts me right now
We're all thinking about that friend who is now a stranger with some memories :
everyone has memories duh unless you have dimencia
Ever had a "5-Minute Friendship"? I have. It's the guy you randomly meet and connect to much more deeply than everyone else around. You might've even wanted to get their contact info...
However, you never see that person again.
I don't want her to be a stranger, but last I spoke to her, I was doing everything I could to be the best friend I could (which included many mistakes and sometimes not doing enough, but I was still trying) and she was flat out ignoring me, refusing to communicate, etc. It hurts, but I can't hold myself back for a friend who doesn't care about me anymore.
@Total Trash Mammal I feel you
yeahhhh :(
I had a really nice friendship, idk what happened and my friend turned as a strange person with my secrets...
Wtf
Same
Sometimes people change as they mature and they change for the worse.
I had that happen to a few of my friends recently. One had two abusive partners in a row and became abusive herself both because it had become her new normal and as a defense mechanism to effectively push people away when she was afraid of being walked over again.
Another locked herself up in her bedroom 23 hours a day, 7 days a week, spending all her time with really shitty and toxic people on the internet.
I want nothing to do with either of them now unless they fix themselves because they won't let me help them either.
I’m sorry you went through that Majo.
@Total Trash Mammal Oh I’m sorry that happened to two of your friends. Hopefully they’ll get better. I know it must be very difficult or was very difficult. I know I probably can’t do much to help but have this cookie 🍪
Ever had a "5-Minute Friendship"? I have. It's with that random person whom you connect to much more deeply than everyone else around. You might've even wanted their number...
However, you never see that person again.
I've totally done that so many times. It could qualify and an extrovert problem tbh.
There was one time I was at an amusement park and we made friends with some people we were riding a ride with. They particularly stick out in my mind because I went to hug them all and there was one of the opposite gender in the group. I didn't know if they'd be comfortable with me hugging them so I offered them a high-five and they said "What? Are you kidding me? I want a hug too!" That moment is a fond memory for me, along with the time we spent bonding on the ride. If I ever could find them again and get to know them better, I'd totally love that.
I remember I was such an extrovert at playgrounds before growing out of it. I even asked for their facebook becahse I wanted to stay in touch, but the only one that worked(Managed to remember) was someone who probably thinks I'm a stranger asking her weird questions out of no where
@Mégane Jean élève Aww, that's really nice.
You know when I was in middle school, I clicked with an 8th grade scene girl that seemed like a great friend.
A few years ago, I clicked with two brothers in a family of about 6.
And just recently, I was the first stranger to pronounce the mailwoman's name right!
Those moments are awesome; be proud of them. Let them inspire you.
I rememeber I met one person who was the same age as me (maybe) when we are waiting for our parents to get the airplane ticket when we are still kids. (This happened in SM mall)
I was the first one to talk since I saw him playing candy crush and we had fun together.
I kinda felt sad when our parents decided that its time to go since they are done.
I only seen him 1 day and I barely remembered his face.
If we meet again or remember each other, I would love that.
@@kokomithedivinepriestess5341 Wow, that's beautiful.
I get jealous when my friend likes another friend over me..
me too arghhh it makes me want to scream
@Julya Flyer but she doesnt ignore me always.just sometimes and that hurts a lot
That happened in my ex friendship with someone. Whenever they saw their other friend they left me without saying goodbye to talk to them, and ignored me.
I tried talking to her about it, but she defended her actions by saying she knew the other person longer than me. Some people just don't understand why what they're doing is so bad 🤷♀️
I think you should try and talk to your friend and tell them how much it hurts. If they react as if you're the bad person in that situation, then you should probably just end the friendship; you shouldn't be friends with someone who leaves as soon as someone 'better' comes along
Sorry for the long paragraph ^
@@Jadeigital thankyou...
I had a friendship that fell apart a couple months ago, we started to talk less and I felt like she was becoming a stranger. It was difficult bc we were sharing a dorm together at the time so I would see her everyday but we didn’t talk as much as we did back in high school. Every time we would talk, we could only talk about the past and old memories. I felt like towards the end, we both completely stopped putting in the effort and eventually over time, I didn’t see her as someone I was close to anymore. It still makes me sad that our friendship ended but I think deep down there were some underlying issues that were not resolved in time or people just change in general.
I know how you feel mahn... I feel like it's an underlying issue... I think that's the reason in my own case
This is the exact situation I’m going through right now :(
There’s so many different ways friendships can end, but each give us experience and help us grow. I’ve personally dealt with toxic friendships, and they have been difficult to let go, because you are made feel significant. These type of “friendships” have changed my outlook on myself and others. Its made me wiser, but it’s also made it hard to trust others. All in all, I’ve grown from it, but it’s still painful to look back on the memories, And realising how easily manipulated you are/were. It leaves a lasting impact that takes time to heal.
Same here. It's so rough because I had friends for YEARS that I loved dearly. Friends who actually helped me with my mental health and even helped me run away from my abusive household when I turned 18.
But as I grew in life, I realized many of these friends were either regressing and no longer good for me or, even worse, they were never good friends, just less horrible than my parents and I couldn't tell until I got older.
They played such significant roles in my growth in life and it hurts so much to cut them out, but I need to focus my time on people who will encourage me to grow even more, not people who will hold me back because they don't want to be better.
I believe that people come into our lives for various reasons, mostly I'd say for us to learn important lessons to make ourselves grow and become better... once that is acomplished, some stay with us in life for a long time or leave because they are led to also meet other people for them to grown and impact others to grow too... it is somehow intertwined. Those who stay, I realize it is so because we challenge and nurture one another to grow as a person individually and at times ALSO grow something fresh together, which i think is simply beautiful.
Bottom line, we individually need to grow as a person and for that to happen in a healthy way, we need to be open to learn from one another and share as we make the changes to become better and contribute to the betterment of others too! 😊 Life is a beautiful journey where in we are all students and teachers... In the midst of all I send gratitude, love and kindness from my heart to yours 💞 Have a beautiful day full of all that makes your heart sing!!
@@LilChuunosuke I completely agree! It’s tough, but once you realise how much they’re holding you back, you have to let go. When you first meet someone and get along, you can tend to ignore their flaws, which is can be a good thing, but it can also lead to the end of a friendship. Whether it’s compulsive lying or aggressive behaviour, in the end, we realise these traits aren’t what we want in a friend. Friends should support and be honest with you, not hold you down. I hope you’re doing well now and staying safe! :)
@@evasccl7846 I agree, we all need to grow and learn in life. It can be painful, or beautiful, but we learn non the less. Friends teach us so many valuable lessons that make up so much of who we are as people. I hope you’re doing great, and thank you for the lovely comment xx :)
friends are just enemies that havent fought you yet so if they all go against you whats the point of making them
‘I once thought I had a friend’
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i ended it because he’s ungrateful. he replaced me. this person used to call him weird and make fun of him and now they’re literally best friends. i was falling into a deep hole and he didn’t care. i’m doing better now but i don’t think i’m ever gonna give my all to someone anymore.
I feel this. My best friend of nearly a decade chose someone over me that was verbally abusive and just a terrible person. She started dating them after I said it was a bad idea and they started cheating on her and made it out to be her fault. I tried to defend her and support her and he would attack me and verbally degrade me until I was in tears.
She finally broke up with him, but would still rather be with a cheating douche than someone like me, who tried my best to be the best friend I could and help her grow.
I can't right now with covid, but I plan to sit down with her and tell her that there are ways I can and could have been better, but I can't be with a friend who just ignores all my love and advice and never makes any attempt to keep the friendship together and communication open.
Me too. I am glad that were okay now😊 as they say.. "quality over quantity"
Sounds like a narcissist
One of my friends did something similar to me. I’m sorry you had to go through that. :(
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable is indeed a gamble. Either you’ll gain someone who’ll stay for a lifetime or worse, lose yourself :(
Since everyone is thinking about someone, here's who I thought about:
- cried various times expressing how jealous she felt about me having other friends
- told me she hated seeing and my boyfriend together
- after I broke up with my BF, she told me she thought he was atractive
- copied many things I did, including buying the exact same thing as my childhood best friend and I bought as "a friend's thing"
- kept saying "it's all in people's head" about mental illnesses and issues, and she does want to be a brain doctor
- would hang out with people I had reasons not to hang out with and left me I'm the corner (this happened like 4/5 times, not as much as the rest on this list)
- found a new friend and started to be rude at me, and when noticed I had nothing to lose there, she insulted me in front of some other students that took it as a joke that time
Also
Turns out she was very self conscious about being overweight, wanted to try new styles of clothing and try new things but was too jealous of me to tell me. Besides that, I later found out she is most likely bisexual but her parents are extremely homophobic and there's no way she would ever come out. I was then told that she might have had an obsession (not crush, really an obsession) over me and since I never noticed she wanted to be more than best friends, she got pissed off and tried to make me jealous, but turned out to be just really mean and I left. BESIDES THAT, later I found out she also wanted to make out with her new friend, and I hope she isn't obsessing over someone again, because that was really unhealthy for both of us. It stunted our growth. I can't express how much I've grown after leaving this relationship, and I've been told that girl has been changing as well, I hope for the better!
Stay safe and take care everyone!!
Seems like narscisistic.
I'm sorry to know🥺 you don't deserve her! Hope y'all find your soulmate quickly ❤️
im really sorry this happened to you, i hope she can realize and get help. I am sure you will find a really good friend in the future, take care and be safe 💙
And my friendship was broke bcz I was being over possessive with my friend which I did earlier with my other friend (and that too ended our friendship) and sometimes I think it's me whose friendship gets broken fast 😢
@@shanubag6785 it's fine, I'm sure you just need time, let yourself grow... It's good that you have noticed it, it took me long before I notice my mistakes... Stay strong, you'll grow and that'll change!!
Lost all my friends over a miscommunication, worst part is they won't talk things out and wanna end the friendship completely. And now I'm lonely
I am sorry! I do understand what you are going through. I am debating if the guy friend that I used to like should still be my friend. Anyways if you feel lonely just know that Jesus is here with you! I am also here if you need me
That happened to me today hopefully we will get a chance to talk
same with my friend :,)
I'm here. If you wanna talk to someone and make a new friend, I am here☺
Same here..
when you're so early there are no jokes about depression and no one has unnecessarily disliked
yea im very early
this is so necessary. I will not end my friendship with myself.
That hit hard
My "bestfriend" never has time for me, but keeps posting pictures, of her hanging out with her other friends. It hurts so much...
I don't think I would ever be able to make friends ever again.. Everyone I see in person just brings down my dreams..
Same
Mavie, It's hard work, but it's worth it. First, are you a friend to yourself? Do you like you? This can make a difference in how you are experiencing friendships. I know since this pandemic has started, I've been really challenged by friendships. I got to a point where I felt insecure. I realized (like I once heard someone say) I was too much in my "me circle". Once I realized people were busy doing life and very few things they did or didn't do for me had very little to do with me, it helped me process things differently. I realized that in this life, day-to-day challenges can be so much, that we tend to drop the ball on extending ourselves properly to others. It's very seldom intentional. As you grow in your self-love, you will draw into your circle more like-minded, caring people As you reach out to see how you can be a great friend, the friendship will find you. In between those two things, you'll have peace! Wish you the best!
@@astonishingangels3100, It's hard work, but it's worth it. First, are you a friend to yourself? Do you like you? This can make a difference in how you are experiencing friendships. I know since this pandemic has started, I've been really challenged by friendships. I got to a point where I felt insecure. I realized (like I once heard someone say) I was too much in my "me circle". Once I realized people were busy doing life and very few things they did or didn't do for me had very little to do with me, it helped me process things differently. I realized that in this life, day-to-day challenges can be so much, that we tend to drop the ball on extending ourselves properly to others. It's very seldom intentional. As you grow in your self-love, you will draw into your circle more like-minded, caring people As you reach out to see how you can be a great friend, the friendship will find you. In between those two things, you'll have peace! Wish you the best!
You are such a good human being .I am sure you will find some who will know your worth and value you never change God gives difficulty only to good and strong humans who can deal with them and you definitely one of them
Same, who even needs them?
I'm ending a friendship because I feel in my soul that that person is harassing me, it feels like they're hurting me inside even though we talk normally, I always feel like she's here for the cash and fame not for me and it's time to do what's good for me...
Here’s my advice, don’t end the friendship just yet. When I got in my feelings and thought that my two friends were fake or not good enough to be my friend I ended the friendship very quickly which I regret (one of those friends I had a crush on for a long time which is probably were my feelings were coming from). Before you tell them that you are cutting them off have a conversation with them and discuss both of your thoughts and opinions.
Yeah LEAVE. Do NOT stay with a person like that. You can sense your intuition.
If you think she's only there "for the cash and fame", then see what happens if you give generously of yourself, but not the cash or the fame.
You are such a good human being .I am sure you will find some who will know your worth and value you never change God gives difficulty only to good and strong humans who can deal with them and you definitely one of them
My family was crushed when they learned that I remained friends with my brother's first wife. What they never understood about it was that she always supported me and our relationship had nothing to do with their marriage. I was hesitant at first, but knew in my heart, she was worth it. She stood up for me when I got married. She support me being gay when no one in the family did not. I shared things with her and she always kept the confidence. That is a real friend. I will never end this friendship, for I value it more than gold.
I ended my friendship with someone because we fought a lot, whenever I try to fix it and make things right, things just keeps on going south, and the thing is we were both poisoning each other, we were both hurt, thats why i ended it. There were also times where my friend criticize me, calling me a liar, attention seeker and so, i was hurt, but i still tried to fix things, no matter how much he push me away no matter how hurt I was because I dont wanna let him down, we came to the point where we ignored each other, he was kinda over sensitive, and i guess i could say im quite sensitive aswell, so i thought it would be better to end things.
You are such a good human being .I am sure you will find some who will know your worth and value you never change God gives difficulty only to good and strong humans who can deal with them and you definitely one of them
This gave me some hopes, thanks
Bruh literally all of my “friends” are so toxic like... why?
Trinity Barth u are not alone.....
Because you are toxic or you have poor taste orrr you have no self respect.
All of the above?
This is not a hateful comment.
This is to allow you to ask yourself.
And see what you come away with
It's apart of life. :( We have to face it at some point.
Maybe u overthink just like me
Or maybe ur right about ur friends
Me too and I know if I end it than they will make my life a living hell
Losing friendships is physically painful. In the year of overthinking after the last two ditched me, I learned I'm almost certainly on the autism spectrum and that's why they misunderstood. And why the more I tried to explain the worse it got. I was so so confused.
friendships hurt...
I still send her happy birthday every year...although we don’t talk for three years
I’m just not sure if the good times are worth all the heartache and frustration she brings me.
I had a friend whom I trusted and allowed myself to be vulnerable. I literally laid out my “cards”, that I’ve considered him “worth-to-keep” in the long run. However, my intuition constantly bothered me for many months of being with him that something is “off”, something isn’t right. He’s kind of “reserved” type of person but after several months of hanging out, I thought the feeling of being “indifferent” would fade away, he’ll reciprocate, and become a little more “open” - the opposite happened. He would only initiate a conversation if it’s about our assignments at school and did things that I deemed inconsiderate. I’m an extremely distrustful person. I was quite disappointed and ultimately I pulled away. It’s just sad that things didn’t end well. I guess it’s my fault for not being patient enough to gradually see things changing or maybe I’ve been overly-analytical about little things. I’m not quite sure.
You are such a good human being .I am sure you will find some who will know your worth and value you never change God gives difficulty only to good and strong humans who can deal with them and you definitely one of them
It’s sad when friends you have know your whole life decide they have “outgrown” you and even if you try to stay connected they don’t care.
My best friend ghosted me a year ago and I still wonder did I do the wrong thing? But deep down I know I did what was right....everyone around me is blaming me for leaving her but they don't even know what happened..it still hurts so much..im still confused....I can't believe that she acts like nothing happened and she is okay with losing me. Sometimes I wonder did she ever even like me......💔
Hi There, same story here. My case, I was blocked but I did not know it. After I know it, I started blaming my self. Up until now, I think she was doing the right thing for blocking me. The fact I ended the relationship is for good as well. I was toxic for her but she was as well to me. I am trying my best now to live a happy life. Still miss her but she is happy without me and I should do the same thing. Now, everytime I miss her I always say to myself” I ‘ll love you from a far. Be happy and have a good life”. I do want her to be happy.
I hope you are OK there.
You are such a good human being .I am sure you will find someone who will know your worth and value you never change God gives difficulty only to good and strong humans who can deal with them and you definitely one of them
@@manaviyadav9105 omg thank you so much, I really needed to hear that 🥺 you're so kind 💗 thank you for being a decent human 💕💫
@@malakelkady3263 there's nothing to thank me about you are such a good person in this negative world you deserve appreciation.I am so happy that I could make you feel special and I think there's nothing better in this world to do then to make a person smile.I am dealing with same problem as yours but Idk if there's somone for me or not to help me through all my problems but atleast I could be there for others so they do not feel the way I felt
@@manaviyadav9105 you're such an amazing person you don't even know, and of course I have to thank you there aren't a lot of people like you out there + you're appreciated at least by me and of course there is someone out there for you there's still a whole life to live (no matter how old you are)don't give up on friendship, like me but I was young, now I know that God only does what's good for you, you deserve better and you will find people who make you feel special because you are 💕💕 thank you for being who you are 🖤
naphia's art style is incredible, i was genuinely so excited to see their name in the description :0
Omg thank youuu!!!💕💕💕❤️❤️
Making friends irl is so hard, you can easily lose them, i have 1 online friend, we were friends for 2 years and were still friends
My friendship with my best friend in high school has definitely drifted, but I think her and I have come to realize that we're both on different pages: with our interests, our lives, and what we want to do in the future. She's working really hard on her relationship with her bf, and I'm working really hard on building my career as an artist. Our values were always different, but they didn't stop us from caring for one another... until now. It's weird because her and I only ever had one argument with each other, and everything else we've talked out. She tries to talk to me sometimes, but what she talks about is very predictable: her bf, her internship, and maybe another friend/show in her life. Arguably, mine is predictable too: what type of art I'm making, new anime I'm watching, different mini hobbies I work on.
I thought she and I would eventually let go. The conversations feel forced and awkward now, but what keeps us together is our same hype and affectionate energy. This video helped me realize that I don't need to let her go. Hopefully, in the future, she and I can be on both pages again in a new way.
I had the best friend in the whole world before, or so I thought.. we met at college and would hangout literally every week or have sleep overs during the weekends. We had an endless amount of inside jokes. Just the look on our faces it was like we could tell what one of us was thinking. We never had rough days until. They got their very first girlfriend and up and dropped me like I was nothing. I wanted to talk so bad to see if I had done anything to make them not want to be friends anymore. But nothing. No closure. Nothing. Just got blocked on every social media. It’s been a year now since we’ve even talked to each other. They’re still with the girl. Losing my friend hurt worse than any break up I’ve had. If it was my choice to stay friends I would, but they don’t feel the same. So I just wish them the best, and I don’t know if I’ll ever find another friend like them
Video: Signs you shouldn't end a friendship
Me: It's bold of you to assume that I even have a friend.
Also me: *aggressively cries on the corner of my room
I was looking for this comment, same lol
Why is this so relatable?
My girlfriend had to end friendship with someone because they treated me badly emotionally. They even humilated publically behind our backs. Its messsd up.
Wow I think this is the earliest I’ve ever been. This video was very interesting and helpful! Thanks for the advice pyschtogo love your videos!
It sucks when they leave you, because of another person :/
This comes at the right time for me and I’m glad that it did. At one point, it’s our expectation of someone on how we feel that they should react that hurts and it has nothing to do with them. You just have to learn to be independent, know your self worth and at the same time, keep in touch if you feels like doing so. If they don’t respond, it’s fine~ There are others who will, and maybe - they are really busy or isn’t in the right head space to get back to you. There is always another time to reconnect or contact them again.. Easy to say, hard to do. Keep them in your prayer always, isn’t that the true love and essence of friendship? :))
i was about to end a friendship but i wasn’t so sure if i needed too. Thank you. ♡
I have a case of number 5. You see, we still talk and have fun but often, I feel left out. However, they always make me laugh and bring a smile to my face. Being in a group of 3 is hard though, especially when the other two share something you dont...
but what if your parents say that your friend is a bad influence and makes you break the friendship?
Okay real talk: you don't need your parents to approve of your relationships. My best friend had abusive parents who told her she wasn't allowed to be my friend because I told people about it. They blocked my number on her phone with parental controls and everything. We still saw each other in school though, and used other methods of communicating to stay in touch when school ended. We weren't able to hang out anymore, but we both care about each other a lot and don't mind putting in the extra effort to stay friends
I don't know about your parents, but here's my bit from my own experience: DON'T rely on their opinion regarding your friendships! If you see nothing wrong with it (as in, they're objectively not a bad influence to you) and your friends make you feel good, appreciated etc... ignore anyone else's opinion and go on with it!
I've grown up boring, without any close friend, and whenever I could find someone I could relate with, full of energy and wishing to hang out/do new stuff, my parents would immediately disapprove ("they're crazy people", "they're making you different", ""don't spend time with them, stay with us"...), and I was weak, easily manipulated by their words. Last year I finally had the strength to ignore my parents regarding my new friendships, and boy has it improved my life! I'm better at socializing, I'm improving myself day by day, I'm finally ACCOMPLISHING things and feel "myself", not an empty shell just struggling one day after the other, all because I'm finally feeling honestly appreciated, respected and supported by someone who I also appreciate, respect and support!
My friends mother thinks I'm a bad influence to her and doesent let her invite me over, she lets her invite out other friend... I don't think it's fair. When something happens or her daughter does something bad she blames me bc I'm bigger and I'm a negative influence. I'm so sick of this. I have this situation
Parents always makes assumptions based on their appearances. You’re the one hanging out with your friend. Not them. Their opion shouldnt even matter
I felt betrayed by my best friend based on something that they did and I can’t seem to let it go. But I want to forgive him and move on but I don’t know why I just can’t and I was thinking of ending our friendship. But this video reminded me of the bond we built and how much I want him in my life and him wanting me in his. I also realized keeping this grudge is just hurting me at the end of the day. I know I don’t have to stay but I want to. I want to work through this with him because our friendship is worth more than my ego. So thanks Psych2go. Here’s to forgiveness and another chance.
Feeling the same... here's to forgiving and another chance
@@INTP564 oh two years later, i’ve actually decided to end it. there’s only so many chances you can give. you can forgive them without them having access to you again. when someone shows you who they are, believe them
I have a friend that I've been talking to since quarentine started. At first she was clingy and 'couldn't live without me,' but after some texting and some messages that we should separate for a while, our friendship is still in tact even after the countless arguments we've had. She makes me laugh, we share victories together, we are competitive, and the jealousy and constant support keeps our friendship going. Find yourself a friend who supports your good decisions and helps protect you from the bad ones.
I really needed to hear this
Question: what of your friend your trying to apologize to after a misunderstanding blocks you on everything and refuses to talk to you?
You just gotta let it be maybe you’ll be able to apologize to them maybe not. Same thing happened to me like a year ago. I realize there’s nothing I could do if they won’t let me, if they cut you you out it’s probably better for you to let them. You could’ve done something wrong if you did you probably know that just try to work on yourself if that what it is. If they cut you off for no reason or something you couldn’t predict or didn’t try to make happen, then you just gotta move and accept the fact that it’s over.
Soggy Mac This couldn’t be more true. I also recommend this advice.
This. I haven't been blocked yet but I apologized like 3 times but she has not forgiven me. And I know she doesn't owe me forgiveness but it sucks because I did everything to make up for it. I decided to move on because it has been 4 months since the incidet. I have let the universe decide our fate. Maybe she comes back , maybe she doesn't. Life is long.
Happened to me a few months ago. I'm sorry, but you're just going to have to move on, because obviously the friendship didn't mean as much to them as it did to you.
I've done this before. I still regret it but I can tell you that all I wanted was time to be alone and an apology. I ended up apologizing to her and we're still bff's.
This video helped a lot. I never want to end the friendship but it’s just been really awkward with past events and rumors. I’ve thought about if we should keep the friendship and with what you said, we defiantly still make each other laugh and we support each other a lot lol
psych2Go seriously knows my thoughts. Thank you for your content! So relevant
...I miss my bff she haven’t talk to me since like 2 or 3 days...
i ended the best friendship i have ever had and i still dont know why, wish i could talk to her again and explain, it feels like its too late at this point
Y'all ever sat down and realized how bad you are, and no matter how much you try to change for the better... You always end up failing and hurting your friends again? It's so frustrating. I am so frustrating dang... That's why I'm thinking if I should just end it so I won't hurt them even more...
Lovely video. Thanks for the hard work!
I really like the artwork on the thumbnail. Looked really nice.
Thank you:)
My best friend’s husband was so jealous of me coz we were so closed. She was my childhood best friend. But her husband made some issue between me and my bff. The hurtful thing about it is that she did not get me to be her maid of honor. When she was pregnant, I surprised her on her birthday. After then, we invite one another every time there’s an occasion. But I feel like the closeness isn’t same.
Your channel is sent from heaven 😭 thank youuu
Thank you for this. I am working on #2 right now with a friend who is too busy. Hoping we can hold onto the friendship but knowing it's not all up to me.
Would a friend who all of a sudden stopped talking to you count as “miscommunication”? Even when I’ve tried to communicate and stay friends?
Have you ever asked them straightforwardly why they've stopped all of a sudden, even after all your attempts to communicate?
Simone De Sabata I’ve asked multiple times why he stopped talking to me. He just shrugs or doesn’t answer
Julya Flyer I’ve given up in trying to talk to him. It still hurts though
What if that person is egoistic and dont attempt to talk to you??
The more you ask, the more it pushes them away. Sometimes its better not to say anything to spare your emotions
Healthy friendships are truly special and necessary. Communication and honesty definitely helps you move forward with each other. If it’s meant to be, you will both make it work. 🧡
AHHH NAPHIA DREW THIS! Also I really needed this. I’m having a lot of friend issues and am deciding if I should drop my friends during high school. Even if we go to the same school I probably won’t say anything if I hang out with them. But after this, I think I’ll reconsider.
I was there for her during her depression and brain tumour without asking anything in return, just because she is my very good friend. She didn’t bother listening to the vocals (we don’t live in the same country) about the guy who assaulted me. Lately life has been hard for me, but I’m still trying to stay positive when I talk to her , I mean we still both talk about hard things. She straight up told me « if you have a depression, I won’t be here to support you ». Haha ok. I guess I clicked on this video to get one point to tell me it was not enough to end friendship, that it was okay. It’s not if it happens to you
Yesterday I met back up with some old friends since I left school and went to another. They stopped being friends because one of friend 1 had a boyfriend who basically manipulated friend 2 into thinking the other person was toxic and trying to get in the way of their friendship (Because she just wanted to be friends), so they argued and it got explosive. They’ve rekindled and are talking more now but it was pretty surprising to hear
Friendship is MAGIC!!!!!!
If friendship ends it means no MAGIC...so don't end friendship.
Anyways thx for the vids❤️
🎶my little pony 🎶
@@SeasonsofYou lol
Hahahaah you guys are the best hahaha
I love that show so I immediately got that reference 😂
@Bruh no
Thank you so much. I was about to lose one that doesn't deserve giving up on it. Thank you ❤😍
Thank you so much for the help! Also I love the animation on this one!
when the examples on when you SHOULD end the friendships all applied very well to me.. :(
I’ve never had a friend, if I actually *found* one, I’d never want to end a friendship 😔
Recently I’ve been considering ending a friendship between me and one of my best friends. I came here to see what was said, and sadly none of it makes sense, but the ones about when it might be time to end the friendship all resonates 🙃 I don’t think we’re fit for each other anymore, but ending the friendship will be difficult
It’s been three years since I’ve had to break up a friend ship with someone . Actually had a petty good groups it’s feel good for once awhile .!
I'm with a group of friends but sometimes I felt like I was an obstacle to them.If one day I disappear from them , I believe they will do just fine without me.
Are you okay?
me: seeing a video about ending a friendship
my social anxiety went 📈📈📈📈
Oof I really needed this rn. Going through some tough times with my closet friend
I'm literally crying. I just watched your video of how to tell if your best friend is toxic and I think it is but also think its a good relationship.
Man i just lose my best friend today..
Just finally got the strength to block an old friend. Idiotically, I fell for him because I have trauma regarding men, but I felt safe around since I'd known him so long and he'd told me he liked me too, for many years. But he really just kept stringing me along because he wanted to date around. When I first tried to end the friendship, he made me feel like a terrible person for wanting to end it over such "petty" reasons, even though I tried tell him it was causing me too much stress, so I tried to block out my feelings. Didn't work, he would alternate between flirty and cold, and I started to lose my temper which is out of character for me, and finally he suddenly told me he had no more feelings for me.
I tried to leave it at that, but I felt such a need for closure that months later I asked for some reasoning why he would do such a thing. He told me it was all my fault for taking him seriously because his feelings were never that strong. Then he said I had to move on and find someone else to be infatuated with and that he would never apologize because he'd already forgiven himself.
I felt extremely depressed and taken advantage of, but I'm trying to move forward despite the pain those words caused. That wasn't even the only or worst reason I distanced myself but it was the most hurtful somehow.
He sounds so manipulative like wtf. You deserve a good friend who supports you, not someone who take advantage of your weakness. I pray you find someone who understands you and have a sincere friendship with you.
I recently told a good friend of mine (who is also my co worker) who I’ve gotten to know in and outside of work over the past year and a half that I had feelings for him. I made a choice knowing that I could be risking everything, but I went for it. He said he only saw me as a friend and still wants to remain friends. Fast forward to working our next shift together and there is definitely a shift In both of us, It’s kinda awkward and somewhat tense at times but we still have moments where we can laugh together while we work wholeheartedly before it goes back to being awkward again. So that makes me hopeful that our friendship can be salvaged 😊
I love the art style in this one.
I've gotten to where I hit the like button as soon as I click on the video
I wish some of my exfriends could see this video:(
Yep :c
Yep..
It hurts how they talk about ur family or money and compare it to them
you guys are awsome i your work keep it up!
My friend is busy because she is texting with her boyfriend, and when I want to chat with her she's not reply even tho she's online.. and whenever I got the chance, she always makes excuses.. do you have any tips?
1. There's a miscommunication
2. They're busy but still take out time for you!
3. Both of you want to work things out, but are embarrassed to start
4. Outside influences don't approve of the friendship
5. Your friend can still bring you joy & make you laugh
6. One of you is moving ahead in life but you still connect with one another
7. Their success makes you jealous but also motivates you..
Number 4 is so true. Everyone keeps telling me to stop talking to her but its like they arent there and dont know everything between us.
She just grew distant, but kept saying she wasn't. But now, she definitely doesn't talk to me as much as before, and does more with others. I just cannot feel as close to her, and it really hurts.
One of the biggest considerations is not to lose out financially
BRUHH I just ended my friendship yesterday and I saw this wow I wish I would’ve of saw this earlier
This was so helpful I've been confused about one of my friendship thank you
I can tell my friend cares. His days are much busier than mine, but he always finds a way to reply to my messages. He may read it and reply two hours later, but he never leaves me hanging. Even if I send him something at 9:30 PM and he replied at 12:48 AM, knowing I won’t be awake, it shows he cares :)..
What's a friend?
@jcr huh, doesn't ring a bell.
I find it hard to connect with people. I know I’m capable of it, I just feel I am. But I haven’t ever before. I’ve never had close friends, just friends that I see or talk to sometimes. I sometimes had one or two “close friends”, well they thought we were, but I didn’t care as much, I didn’t see it that way. I cared about them, as in I valued their life, and valued their safety, but beyond that it was just someone to talk to. Whenever I’ve had a friendship, it’s had abrupt and mutual end. I’m used to being let down, and I’m used to being left by them. I just don’t see them again, and I sometimes think about them again but don’t care, I don’t get upset, I feel nothing.
Why do you think this is?
I’ve always wanted to have proper friends, who really care about me and I really care about them, and we have fun together.
thats so sad, i'm sorry. but you just haven't met the right people yet. its not your fault or anything okay! its just cuz life sucks and not everything works out. but trust me, there are people out there for you. you'll meet them when the time is right. i know its hard but just hang in there a bit longer, it'll all be worth it♥️✨
I think this is the video I needed, I miss my best friend everyday, however, I worry at the same time that the friend I think about is not the same one I will reach out to tomorrow. Time will tell.
Aww this art style is so... chill I love it.
the drawings are so cute love it
Thank you:)
I guess I do need to let go.. ): I’ve been watching so many of these videos today to figure it out, I guess I keep going and telling myself no matter what I shouldn’t end it, but the truth is I just don’t wanna.. but every single sign is right..
Keeping it will hurt more than simply parting, trust me I've had worst situation.
But since it's 6 months I would like to know the current situation.
I thought I had a good friendship with one person but that wasn't the case and now I'm trying to move forward so I can focus on my friends who make me happy
I befriended this woman at work 5 years ago. We bonded over video games, retro cartoons, & roller coasters. When she left for Michigan & I was still living in VA, I tried my best to maintain that friendship. Lot of ups and downs, but we repaired things between 2020 till May 2021.
We met up at a park & things got heated when she & her friend wouldn’t stop making fun of me, causing me to react & get angry. We didn’t speak for a while afterwards, & then my father got sick, so we spoke a few months later.
My dad passed away 8 months later & I was devastated. My friend & I were still at odds due to emotional baggage between us. We recently ended our friendship & it’s left a gaping hole in my life, can’t speak for her. I said hurtful things due to not letting go of the past.
She was an incredible person to have in my life, and it hurts to know I’ll never see her again. I don’t even know if time & distance will heal things anymore or allow us to rekindle later.