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The Impact of Trauma on Love: A Conversation with Frank Anderson, MD
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- čas přidán 17. 08. 2024
- In this riveting interview, I am honored to welcome Dr. Frank Anderson, a Harvard-trained psychiatrist, psychotherapist, and a leading figure in trauma treatment, as he shares profound insights from his latest book, "To Be Loved." Delving into the depths of how trauma shapes our capacity for love and intimacy, Dr. Anderson offers a unique blend of personal narrative and professional expertise, illuminating the path to healing and connection.
📚 About "To Be Loved":
Dr. Anderson's book is not just a testament to his journey of overcoming trauma but also a beacon of hope for others. Through his vulnerability and the application of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, he explores the transformative power of understanding our inner parts and their impact on our romantic relationships.
"To Be Loved" serves as a guide for those seeking to deepen their connections and find healing.
🔍 Key Takeaways from the Interview:
- Trauma's impact on our self-worth, especially as a child.
- An introduction to the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model and its relevance to romantic relationships.
- The importance of transforming our perspective on trauma responses, viewing them as opportunities for understanding our protective parts and healing rather than symptoms to be eradicated.
- Insights into the relational healing process and the role of forgiveness and mutual understanding in strengthening partnerships.
- A message of hope: Despite the challenges posed by past trauma, a path toward more meaningful connections and love is possible.
🌟 Why Watch?
Whether you're navigating the impact of trauma in your own romantic relationship, seeking to support a partner, or simply interested in the intersection of trauma and love, this interview offers valuable insights. Dr. Anderson's expertise and personal journey provide a unique perspective on the challenges and opportunities that trauma presents in the context of love and intimacy.
✨ Join us as we explore the intricate ways in which trauma influences our ability to give and receive love, and discover how healing can open the door to deeper, more fulfilling relationships. This conversation is a must-watch for therapists, individuals on their own healing journeys, and anyone looking to understand the profound effects of trauma on love and connection.
🔗 Related Links:
Learn more about Dr. Frank Anderson and his work at Frankandersonmd.com or on instagram @FrankAndersonMD
Purchase "To Be Loved": amzn.to/4ae8tXX
💖 Subscribe for more insightful interviews and discussions on healing, love, and the human experience.
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I love this man Dr. Frank Anderson. I just discovered him on Terri Cole’s CZcams. Then I found this channel. Thank you Kyle for your content as well. ❤🎉😊
'Thank Your Trauma Responses' - So Good !
This is so good. I’m glad this is available!
Amazing and justvat the right time for me. And anyone I interact with.
Due to trauma, I think the narrative and or story we tell ourselves,
'about ourselves' and our identity is often, very distorted and untrue.
It may even cause us to worsen our trauma, by going over it in our minds, again and again.
Abuse and Trauma can be the enemy of a healthy identity because it has essentially created a False Narrative about Who We Are.
As Frank mentioned we often internalize the harmful messages we've heard.
Perhaps we need to do the opposite and clearly define those messages as 'external' not about us at all, but about the disfunctional or uninformed person who handled situations badly.
Their 'voice' essentially belongs to them.
To see their harmful 'voice' and 'actions' as completely separate from us.
Externalizing what we've previously internalized.
- So we no longer get sucked into the damaging and low vibrational vortex of shame and guilt.
😇✨💖
Perhaps it's partly about unlearning,the harmful messages we have internalized and essentially replacing them with new healthy, supportive beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and our identity.
And creating a new healthy identity that We define, not the harmful voices, actions and narratives from others (who were often abusive, or at least misguided or uninformed ).
In creating an identity we choose for ourselves, this can be empowering and free us to create the life we want to live.
We get to choose who we are, who we want to be and can decide to be our true authentic selves, without the weight of of others negative and harmful input.
Thank you for sharing your insightful reflections. They are spot on. In Internal Family Systems (IFS), we explore the different parts of ourselves that hold these internalized messages and understand their origins (the trauma).
It's crucial to acknowledge that these harmful voices often stem from parts of us that were trying to protect us from pain or rejection. By gently working with these parts, we can help them release their burdens and adopt new, supportive roles. This process allows us to redefine our identity in a way that aligns with our true, authentic selves.
Creating a new identity involves recognizing and nurturing the core Self-our essence that is inherently whole and capable of healing. When we connect with this core Self, we empower ourselves to choose who we want to be, free from the negative and harmful input of others. This journey of self-discovery and healing is incredibly empowering, as it allows us to live a life that truly reflects our values, desires, and authentic nature.
It's a transformative process to move from being defined by external narratives to defining ourselves from within. This shift not only frees us but also brings a profound sense of empowerment and fulfillment.
@@kylebensonLMFT Thank You! This is enlightening and very helpful.😇
My reflections were partly instinctive, but also from what I've learned myself.
I'm Ginny,✨😇
a Highly Sensitive Person, (A 57 year old woman) who's been through a narcissistic relationship (only realizing it somewhat after). And have been dealing with ongoing Family Scapegoating Abuse ( from parents and four siblings ) for years.
I only discovered this term,more recently and I'm thankful, as it helps clarify things.
I'm still trying to escape the whole cycle, as due to housing issues and shortages, I've had to live with family members again, which has been a pretty terrible experience for me.
I also have anxiety issues and depression with complex PTSD trauma responses.
All these situations and much more, have made it difficult to function and be able to work for several years, but try explaining that to your local doctor/general practitioner and they generally just don't have any understanding and are not familiar with the terminology either.
I've just recently dealt with this with a new doctor,- very stressful.
I've had counselling and a few psychology sessions, but due to cost, and lack of specialised trauma informed counsellors being available, I've pretty much had to become my own psychologist!( I live in New Zealand )
I try to keep educating myself and often watch relevant CZcams videos, such as this Great one with You and Frank.
I've subscribed to your channel and I'll be watching more of your videos.
Thanks for shedding light on these important topics, it really does make a huge difference.
Thank You - Ginny 💞✨
@@kylebensonLMFT P.S. I think my next step will be learning more about Internal Family Systems, too.
I have 20 diagnoses Cumberland univ tn.