The Narcissist Triggers Your Greatest Fears...

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  • čas přidán 3. 08. 2024
  • Did you know that there’s a direct link between the narcissist triggering your worst fears and you being trauma bonded to them?
    They sense your vulnerabilities, and they know what makes you tick - they’ve been working you out since day 1!
    Narcissists offer you what you don't believe you have the power or capacity to create for yourself … and once they identify that weak spot, they’ve hooked you in and they proceed to smash you with it.
    In this video I reveal what is going on at a deeper level. I also share with you the honest truth that I discovered so that your greatest fears are never again used against you. Watch now to get the inside scoop!
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Komentáře • 39

  • @MelanieToniaEvans
    @MelanieToniaEvans  Před 2 lety +9

    Release the addiction to the narcissist, so that you are free to do your life on your own terms! The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program: courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/narp 🦋

  • @saidasimerofhok5597
    @saidasimerofhok5597 Před 2 lety +10

    There's so much to be said but really in the end I would give advice to anyone to stop focusing on what other people are doing and turn inwards and heal yourself and take care of yourself. If everyone tends to their own garden and stop worrying about what others are doing you'll see those issues dissolve away the more you love yourself and invest in yourself.

  • @sandyhill7514
    @sandyhill7514 Před 2 lety +12

    Yup, this is exactly what happened to me. I was sucked dry and went into a deep hole. It was rather a blessing in disguise as now I know how deep that programming was and now I’m reprogramming all those old lies. Thanks for your channel and for bringing light to this subject. May you and your work be blessed! 🙏

  • @catherinewholey3630
    @catherinewholey3630 Před 2 lety +5

    My ex said to me, at the beginning of our "relationship,"
    "In 20 years of being with my ex I never shouted at her except once and because she cried I never did it again" Yeah... right!!

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 Před 2 lety +11

    THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS
    MY FEARS WHERE BEING ALONE AND ANXIETY.
    THE WORSE THING THAT I EVER DID WAS SHARE MY FEARS
    WITH THE NARCISSISTS HE USED THIS TO HIS ADVANTAGE AND HE WOULD GIVE ME MONTHS AND YEARS OF THE SILENT TREATMENT.
    HE KNEW I WAS AFRAID OF BEING ALONE.NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS BRUTAL

    • @peterknyk1942
      @peterknyk1942 Před 2 lety +1

      Exactly! I went through the same thing and I’m still going through it! Anytime I shared something essential from my heart it was used against me! 🐍

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 Před 2 lety +2

      @@peterknyk1942 ACTUALLY UR ABSOLUTELY RIGHT THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS

  • @peterknyk1942
    @peterknyk1942 Před 2 lety +7

    Hi Melanie! Thank you so much for this topic! Before I started with NARP I was afraid or fearful of just about anything the narcissist might or might not do. I literally went to sleep with fear and woke up with fear. That is not as much now the case as I move forward with the help of NARP. Her horrible behavior constantly pulled me into a dark world that was not mine. It was terrifying at times!I am so thankful that I have found NARP to help me with horrific situation...❤️🦋❤️

  • @Boogie76600
    @Boogie76600 Před 2 lety +4

    I'm in Me! Can't wait to do this. I've had so many narcissistic encounters, that it's going to take a while. I am so looking forward to getting MY soul back. Signed up, tonight for your main courses.

  • @winniewinkles
    @winniewinkles Před 2 lety +1

    Brilliant Melanie!

  • @johnbehneman1546
    @johnbehneman1546 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you so much. and I learned a lot.

  • @renemattison6630
    @renemattison6630 Před 2 lety +3

    Hi Melanie. I have been following you for 7 years. I have been narc free for 6 years. I so appreciate everything you do.

  • @dapage5
    @dapage5 Před 2 lety +2

    I’m taking care of a narcissist husband of many years. He got back at me for putting him in a nursing home, by telling social services that I abused him. They said they had no proof. VA won’t pay for long term care, so now he’s back home again. But now I don’t want to take care of him, because he might say I abused him. He’s hateful and very manipulative. It’s a vicious cycle with him. I hate this. I’m afraid it will to take a miracle for me to get out of this mess. I’m not young anymore.

    • @fruitypopwhickle6806
      @fruitypopwhickle6806 Před 2 lety +2

      Paige, walk. Go. Nothing but destruction and evil is certain if you stay. You don't need to be hit by a wave of courage or a feeling of decisiveness. Pack your bags and go. Everything will make sense afterwards. You'll seriously ask yourself WHY you didn't do it sooner! Peace, light & love to you.

  • @toddhallman8044
    @toddhallman8044 Před 2 lety +2

    Oh yea! This is what exactly happened to me! I was in a very deep deep deep dark place after I was discard by them" it's broke me into a millions pieces" I wouldn't wanna imagine what would happen if they kept me around longer, I'm actually they discard & move on the next target for they're supply! as time went by I had to slowly rebuild myself up by yrs until now' I'm still learning to love myself more..... after being destroyed I promised myself I will never goes through something like that again an Im sticking to it....I will put my own happiness first... 🙏🏿✨♥️ Thank you for sharing this great & valuable message plus I needed it as a good reminder to me during my days an what I'm truly fighting & protected ♥️🙏🏿 #MyTrueSelf

  • @closingthedivide1187
    @closingthedivide1187 Před 2 lety +2

    The profundity of the information shared in this video cannot be overstated! Melanie, I'm so very grateful for you and your work. BIess you! 🤍🦋🤗

  • @dieselkeizer3657
    @dieselkeizer3657 Před 2 lety

    Hi Melanie, thank you so much for sharing your experiences, wisdom, insights, and truths! Even making these CZcams videos is no small task. It is greatly needed and greatly appreciated! I love especially the number two truth about saving and being responsible to ourselves.
    It sparked this within me as well, it is one thing to extend empathy to the wrong people, better yet to extend it to those who (are deserving of it) and may themselves reciprocate, yet so many of us fail to extend that same empathy towards ourselves?! Myself included, and that started the investigation with in me (armed with the question of “why?”
    Investigating that “why” question within me, lead to some very critical deep core wounds from trauma from early childhood and carried with me well within my adult years.
    Part of that for me was, this belief, I accept the level of love (or in my case the lack of it, based on what I believed I deserved.) and coming from a background of severe abuse, I firmly believed that I did not deserve much at all if any. Along with other things that kept me for a long time in a very dangerous situation.
    We have long been deserving of it (The responsibility of genuinely loving ourselves and directing even our empathy towards ourselves, we are worth it) and I firmly believe it is so crucial to our own inner healing. Love to you all!

  • @c.a.morningstar6937
    @c.a.morningstar6937 Před 2 lety +1

    Love Mel :o) Thank you!

  • @naomimurray3290
    @naomimurray3290 Před 2 lety +1

    This really resonated with me, I have never healed from previous traumas, i was starting to think i was the narcissist after i left my husband who was emotionally and at time physically abusive. I was always close to my father as a child but i felt betrayed when he was abusive towards my mother as a pre-teen and never forgave him in my teens. Further my rebellion against my father showed i was mad so when i finally got better when i was about to turn 20 i met the narcissist who i thought was normal and routined, i have later realised i was just craving the discipline or attention of my father.

  • @shaniom913
    @shaniom913 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you, Melanie. You are a true, divine messenger of Truth. Asè & Namaste. 🙏🏾💫

  • @stevierae9953
    @stevierae9953 Před 2 lety

    I really appreciate that you help people recover from narcissistic abuse. There are tons of people out there educating us about narcissists, but you actually help us find a way to heal 🙏💜

  • @janegreen191
    @janegreen191 Před 2 lety +5

    This is the lowest I have ever felt in my life after dating a narcissist, despite all my childhood trauma etc. I'm not sure if I'm thinking it's worse than it is as a result of watching so many videos, if you see what I mean. If I didn't watch all these videos, I probably wouldn't see that they are so calculating. Not sure if I'm getting my point across. Sometimes, I don't know what the truth is. Despite narcissists, there are so many superficial people in the world . . . I despair because I am a deep feeling person and I cannot meet anyone that is to my standard. I don't know what to do.

    • @MsGlamourcat
      @MsGlamourcat Před 2 lety

      That is me too --- I'm a deep, authentic and genuine person and it is really hard to find deep, spiritual, intellectual people with similar ethics, mannerisms and goals in life... sh!t gets lonely, but I'd rather be lonely and alone than entertaining superficial and agenda driven vampires.

  • @paulzedx636ninja7
    @paulzedx636ninja7 Před 2 lety +2

    Narc's are good at pretending to be Dr. Phil, in reality their Dr. Doom. And they do exactly what Dr. Doom does and extracts energy from your fears. 😫

  • @carolineaitchison838
    @carolineaitchison838 Před 2 lety +1

    really need help Thankyou x

  • @heavenlygrandma9992
    @heavenlygrandma9992 Před 2 lety +1

    I wish mine would abandon me, but he won't. He wants me around to be his cat toy.
    I am absolutely not afraid of being alone.

    • @janegreen191
      @janegreen191 Před 2 lety +1

      So why don't you leave. Why are you waiting for him to abandon you.

    • @heavenlygrandma9992
      @heavenlygrandma9992 Před 2 lety

      @@janegreen191
      I'm not waiting for him to abandon me.
      And I would have left a long time ago if I was not disabled and had the finances to do so.
      I've been preparing and saving money for a little over 2 years now to leave.

  • @janegreen191
    @janegreen191 Před 2 lety +2

    I don't think narccisists are that conscious? Like they have it all worked out.. How do you know they are this conscious.

    • @heavenlygrandma9992
      @heavenlygrandma9992 Před 2 lety

      They have a devious mind. They are always plotting and watching for things they can do to play with your emotions.
      It's not that hard if you don't have a conscience, guilt or remorse.

  • @orbs69
    @orbs69 Před 2 lety +1

    But what about when thr narcissist is using your child as a weapon, what if they want to poison your child and are using the courts system to force this? How are you supposed to heal that in yourself? I just don't see how this applies.

  • @heavenlygrandma9992
    @heavenlygrandma9992 Před 2 lety +1

    What kind of plant is that in the hanging basket???

  • @patrickdaigle5239
    @patrickdaigle5239 Před 2 lety +2

    😍🔥😍

  • @mindsetcoaching_for_you.

    Thanks to 🔝🔝 It is heartbreaking that I had an intermittent relationship for 5 years with my ex-drug addict, to always forgive him and come back to him, so now I broke up after finding out he was a total cheater and flirting. i couldn't take it anymore, i had to uncover the truth thanks to 🔝🔝 who helped me gave me useful information which really proves he was a cheater and also a liar.

  • @SayedSalimSadatmawdodi
    @SayedSalimSadatmawdodi Před 2 lety +1

    Why? How come? Where you studied? What you published? Who give you license? It😮is not fair! Just because you said!!!? Respect yourself don’t disgrace narcissist

  • @judihart9658
    @judihart9658 Před 2 lety

    ☝️you yawned.& blocked this page.🥱=next video?✌️💖👍😎