How To Break The Trauma Bond To A Narcissist And Go Free
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- čas přidán 11. 05. 2021
- We all want to be free and feel free to be ourselves and happily go about our lives.
But those of us who are in a narcissistic relationship are stuck - literally trauma bonded to this person.
And on the receiving end of endless mistreatment.
This makes you feel aggrieved and unresolved, devastated, damaged, powerless, helpless, and of course even defective after narcissistic abuse.
All because the bond has not been severed.
In this latest Thriver TV episode I'll tell you the truth about the trauma bond that's been keeping you hooked up in the abuse.
I will also explain how the old way of healing is not serving you and how you can turn this around (quicker than you imagined) just like so many people, myself included, have. 💜
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This hit me in the face. Hard. I go to great lengths to save others....I so want to save myself.
The end of the illusion is the beginning of grief. Sometimes it's easier to satiate ourselves with the comfort of the illusion rather than the deep pain of fully understanding who this person really is.
Even though you know the way they treat you is more about the relationship with themselves than it is with you, it still hurts that you wanted love so badly you made yourself blind to it.
I feel it all. Did you watch other videos on this channel or read Melanies book?
So painful to realize the amazing friendship with my sister (by phone) completely dissolved when we visited in person, where I felt spent, anxious, confused and exhausted after a few days. Really good at mirroring, making me feel understood and loved. Then making rude negative comments in my hearing about things she'd pretended to be supportive of. I still feel guilty for not saving her, because she was so horrendously abused (more than me, I was the pretty protected one, so I feel even worse). Thank goodness for Melanie - when you are in touch with source, the answers come, and the confusion leaves.
Yes, what you said is so true. I wanted love and i was blind on how he treated me. Sigh...
I really do recommend her videos, she knows her material.
Healing is possible, prayer is a big part everyone. God bless all survivors.
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It is good but still such a shame so many are dealing with this
Not only praying but trusting and having faith within yourself and pushing away all that doesn’t serve
Yes! God wants us to be healed. Trust in him to guide the way.
Wow Melanie i really feel like you've given me hope, I've been married to a narc for 15 yrs and have 3 kids with him, i have serious health problems.
My father is a real narc aswell, im going to listen to everything you say because i believe it, i need to free myself from my narc husband even if im sick and dont have a job, he is my source of pain and so i need to start by eliminating the problem, may God help me.
Hi Annie, I just wanted to tell you I'm saying a prayer for you. I left my marriage of 5 1/2 years...he is a narcissist and in the last year of our marriage I was sick nearly every single month. I encourage people to go No-Contact and leave if they can. May God help you heal and rescue you.
Hey there Annie B.... any updates? I'm sorry your going through this.
In a similar boat.. Lost my job because the abuse from narc gf was so bad I couldnt deal with the stress of work too and was so sick all the time , thought leaving job would make it easier to deal with my health issues. Thinking of going to a shelter but dont want to leave my child with narc.. :\
Prayers are huge but I'm so angry, so I continue the healing process 💜
I'm absolutely aggressive 😂
In about 5 more hrs and I am moving into my own place !!!!! Yes.. counting down ! FREEDOM!!!!
"When you be it then it comes." Some things are so obvious you miss it. Thanks Melanie!!
Its about reparenting yourself its a very long process decades
I literally was the child hit by the car, in reality an had narsistic mother who ignored traumatized me or should I say trama bonded me thru my life
I've no words to express how
This info you've shared is healing TY
beautiful message
You are so awesome Ms. Melanie ☺😁😘
Thank you Mel! The change immediately occur when i take your free session 🙂
I am now interchanging modules 1-5 and now back to module 2 of NARP. I learned that telling myself that I love her in front of the mirror helps a lot! It makes a difference
You're so good! I use the technique in Chapter 7 of your book w my coaching clients and on myself. I was using a technique where people go inside the trauma. Your technique is much faster. Although going inside works well when people aren't willing to let it go.
I love your book and these videos and am so grateful I found you.
I have never been narcissist abused but went for emotionally unavailable men. Your techniques work for any wound including unavailable men.
Which technique?
You have such a gift for explaining things to make them more understandable and applicable. Thank you❤
Melanie Tonia Evans you are indeed an earth angel sweetheart thank you 🙏🏼
You are a Miracle Worker! Your work is Life Saving! This cannot be expressed enough. My prayer is that all people who suffer come to know you and your program. You saved my life or perhaps helped me to save my life. I am eternally grateful! Thank you for all you do in the world.
I agree, Melanie is sent from God to help us heal be our true self. She knows her stuff and is genuine. I just joined NARP a d am committed to healing fully from Narcissistic abuse.
You’re so wonderful I wish I was in the position to get help from you, for now you’re videos are my therapy. Thank you for paying it forward.🙏
Thank you for your video.once I bee it, it comes! I feel it.
Wow you nailed it!!! A bit intimidating to say the least but I’m going to check out your free class. Thank you so much for turning on the light. ❤
Melanie you have explained everything Cleary and consciously
It all comes back to self worth with me after you explaining its accepting change without fear and trusting within myself
Did you read Melanie’s book?
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Not her book no but have done the narp course yes
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Very Important message i need to hear" Thank you sooooooooo much Melanie! ❤❤
Now i using grey rock with my narcisssistic mom and healed so much but my biggest loss is my childhood and school years are destroyed by her.i cant freely enjoyed my school life with my friedns at that time and manipulated by her tactics😭😭😭
Oh God!! This is so life saving!!! Thank u! It is so deep and right now it is what I needed to hear to really get it!!!
Ah Melanie thank you so much for this 💗 xxx
Love your work 💖
Wow ... totally stellar presentation of concise, powerful, clear, and useful information. I was in tears listening to you for the first 15-minutes and am ever so grateful.
Whoa….this is all I needed to hear thank you so much.
Love, love, love this video! So well rounded and concise, especially for those that have never experienced healing from their traumas yet.
Thank you so much this was really helpful and I've been repeatedly abused, been absolutely floored for 12 years and this video really connected with me
Thank YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING
I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING FOR OVER 7 YEARS TRY TO BREAK FREE FROM NARCISSISTIC ABUSE..IM STRUGGLING TRYING TO BLOCK THIS PERSON. I AM CURRENTLY BEING GIVEN THE SILENT TREATMENT...FOR OVER A MONTH..
MY QUESTION TO YOU IS WHY DO NARCISSTIS GIVE SILENT TREATMENTS.ITS VERY HURTFUL
Because it hurts you Demi and they feed off that pleasure. The only soution is to heal nd recover you - that's the soul message in this. I highly recommend NARP www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp to get out o fthis agony xoxox
Thank you for everything 🙏🏻❤❤❤
Thank You Melanie. Just Thank You !!!
Wow , this hit deep and for the first time it all makes sense thank you X
So true and my family have done this continually.
Thanks for your wisdom. Really helpful.
Thank You Melanie 🙏🙏🙏💞💕💞
Great video thank you ! 🙌🏽
Thanks Melanie! ❤️🦋❤️
Melanie is the most awesomest. 😎
This woman is godsent, ....thank you
You're amazing. 🙏🏼
Hey Melanie,hi again . Listening to you again and yes this video Really speaks to me.definatly Resonates.I will most likely listen again too
.You know I've been feeling the blues for a long time now more like living the blues ,I would have to say. Anyhows .I could go on and on,but just wanted to say thanks for all your helpful podcasts and info. It really does help
.And thanks to all the others out there too,for I listen to a lot of you,I am finally getting understanding as to what the hell has been going on for 38 years now.I can hardly even believe it.What a fckn ride.I am devistated and very disappointed and very let down. By
Hey Melanie I never got to properly end my last comment. It's Really hard to understand how ones wife can be living a double life.How your wife can and is your worst enemy.Wellthanks again to you take care .lots of love you and all.Till next time so long from northern minnesota.Beautifull day up here.Later
I’ve been through so much abuse that I can’t sit still. I can’t even watch a video.
Wow this is good!
I keep on saying I’ve been hit by a truck!
My 2nd husband who is really connected to my kids just walked out.
I feel such grief n loss but yet peace- he had a really different parenting style-anytime I tried to nurture - it wasn’t welcomed -so I’m a bit confused since I was gaslit the most in regards to my parenting. He played with the kids.
And they loved that- but I wasn’t welcome to parent according to my values.
Since he left- I’ve been really trying to go inward- sometimes it’s hard to find my inner child…I am a Narper. But I’m not as grieved -maybe a bit numb- now that he’s away… is this normal?
I'm from America and the way she says "yet" sounds like the curse word "sh*t"...I had to put subtitles on to see if that was what she was really saying lol 😆...Love the video it was very educational, thank you ♥️
Wow I needed this
Thank you ❤️
Thank you MTE
Thank you 💕
This needs more views
Positive thinking!
Iam still trying to healing up but sometimes deep inside its still raising, i hate this feeling, its really nuisance to me..i just hoped it will go away but narcistic abused its like a drug , i can say more powerful than a drug,
It was at my lowest point that I cried out to God "What is wrong with me? Why can't I get over this?" that he auto-played a YT video called "How sigma males shut down narcissistic women".
God showed me the way out \o/ I now have what feels like a PhD level of knowledge on Sigma Males (didn't even know they were "a thing" let alone that I have a lot of the traits) and Narcissistic Women! LOL!
so good
I’m currently working on my inner child healing , but I’m kinda stuck in deep trauma of abandonment. What is the advice on push trough it to total healing ?
Take her nodule or read her book. The healing techniques are in the book and I use them on myself and my friends.
If you aren’t familiar with Melanie Tonia Evans, I would suggest signing up for her free workshop. Workshop healing is what got me started. If you are in the NARP community, I would suggest module 2 and module 4 healings. Удачи вам!
Are you working with NARP Aylin www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp That would be my deepest suggestion xoxox
Schahrzad Morgan The Treasure Within Coaching what is nodule?
guys i got a feeling i’m not gonna make it..
Very nice
love your Aussie accent
Melanie! Please help me! My “partner” is finally gone! I’m torn!
Are there any videos here of you doing this technique? I've seen it on the webinar.
I called his phone number and then hung up .....why......when I told him I was not going to talk to him anymore
Is the webinar still available?
Does this woman have a personal testimony video?
So how do you release trauma bonding ?
Why do most therapists only refer to narcissistic abusers when discussing trauma bonds? Trauma bonding can take place in a wide range of relationships.
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I am terrrrrified to leave. Terrified. And she just told me on the phone i dont understand. Its simple. You say i bully you amd belittle you and put you down. Obviously you should walk away. Why are you still here?
Would module #9 and SHR be good modules to internally deal with the continued smearing of my name and sabotaging of my life? 3/5ths life is awful 😣
Yes JM! You may want to try Module 1 or SH and R. They would be my picks xoxo
@@MelanieToniaEvans Thanks. Imagine accomplishing all of those things and people and relationships achieving a good, solid reputation against the odds as a Black person from a single-parent household only to have it torn down by strangers because of what I look like. Sigh. It's unreal. Racism and the 3/5ths rules has no bounds unfortunately. :(
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I still don’t get it…
.sorry dont understand a thing being said
Your very beautiful 👌
So its genetic hmmmm okay
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