How do Narcissists react when they see with someone else? | The Narcissists' Code Ep 645
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- How do Narcissists react when they see with someone else? What would they do if they see you happy and moved on.
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Thank you so much
I really don't care how they react😭 Lmao. When you STOP caring, you win.
Thank you for that. Gifted seer? You have the gift of discernment as well? Or prophecy? Just thought that was neat. ( just meaning that I see things in dreams God gives me and I feel spirits)
Amen 🙏
Amen 🙏
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#TheTRUTH👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I dated a narcissist and it seemed like he never really loved me, until I didn't love him anymore. He just cared about winning.
Oooffff
i know the feeling way too well
Omg that's what I feel like now
Like he just got me here
It took me physically separating from him to notice that... I turned down his date offers, quit answering his calls n texts, turning down "business propositions" that would make HIM win, etc.. he was just selfish. Im glad I dipped. He tried to make me think I was being "unfair" for not giving him a chance to "correct his behaviour..." 🤨 This is not poker... once I'm done, I'm done. No mulligans here.
Brother you do realize that you’re like seeing a unicorn. I don’t know one single narcissist that has ever been self aware enough to get therapy and free themself. Props to you.
Is he free? He has insight but he's not free of his NPD.
@@rabbit3212010 IMO. Yes. Self awareness and focus on what you know to be trigger points and toxic behavior is freeing.
@Rawkstar1960 something being freeing is not the same as being free.
@@rabbit3212010 it kinda is cause he can control it. Control= Freedom
It’s a few others on here Leon Walker is good too
I think the worse for them is to see you thriving without any new partner and keep rejecting their hoover
My ex is in shambles bc of this. He can’t possibly begin to process how im so happy on my own
Who cares
Yup, happened with my narcissistic ex husband when he saw me with my then boyfriend (husband now ❤️). He tried to hoover me back in and he like, "Oh it really hurt when I saw you doing things with him that you used to do with me" (We were grocery shopping, which is something my ex did with me maybe six times in the ten years we were together, lmao)
Yeah cause it reminds them you’re not like them.
I know you trying to help adults, but young girls really need to hear this😢
Even children need to learn about how psychology works. Not in some heady, brainiac way, but in an everyday way. It's very obvious from reading comments in a wide array of CZcams videos [thanks to a broken back] that there are a lot of undeveloped souls out there. Who here fell into relationship with a narcissist because of lack of understanding of red flags, wishful thinking, projection, or inadequate boundaries? Or who DIDN'T??
So glad you are able to have the courage to stand up and put it all out there, Lee! We can all learn from you, narcs and lovers of narcs alike.
Keep your therapy comin'! And share!
A narcissist thinks they own you for life. They can do whatever to you, but you better be there when they want you.
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And they were never there when you needed them the most.
@@jaedenscott5635Exactly! Thank you!
Hahaha 😂😂🙄😜🙏🤔😡
@@MentalHealness not happening I own me working on God and my relationship because really he needs full ownership of me!!!
When I broke up with my narcissist ex, he actually told me that he was the best thing out there and that I wouldn't find better. I told him, if he was the best, I would stay single.
My ex narc said to me "I've had better than you." My reply? "So have I." Left then speechless, and this was right before me discarding them, never looking back again.....✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
The crazy part is that they meant the opposite. He was just jealous, lying out his ass. And it could also be him projecting anger because shit went wrong with his side piece supply.
Once an ex saw me in a grocery store, and he was with his new supply. I saw him and he saw me and he acted like he didn't know me. I was with a male cousin who was visiting my city. My cousin kept walking off during this shopping trip and so it appeared to my ex that I was there alone. He put on a show of loving on this lady and I said nothing. Then out of nowhere my cousin walked up behind me and said boo and I jumped. We both laughed because my cousin is always a prankster. He started adding more groceries into our cart and telling me how he was going to fix dinner for us tonight. My ex upon hearing this, instantly (all of a sudden like) called my name like he was just noticing that it was me. He was all hey girl how you been?
He quickly walked over and introduced himself to my cousin, saying I haven't seen her in ages (lies, he saw me at a gas station earlier that week). I said nothing to him but I pushed the basket on past him and my cousin walked off too. After we were away from my ex, my cousin was like what was that about? I told my cousin who the ex was and he was like ok, but now he's giving me stares every time we go by him. We finished shopping and left. After that encounter, my ex tried everything to get into contact with me because I had him blocked on everything. That was 5 years ago and now every blue moon, I hear that he tells people that I was the love of his life and I had done HIM wrong.
Its sad mad sick rotten no cooperation. Don't come my wat. Peace out. Seeya
My ex saw a picture of me and my male cousin at his sister's wedding, accused me of cheating 😅
Such a poor ex narc. You were brave enough to handle it so nicely.
..😂 yea, they're crazy!
How funny the last line is.
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I discarded a narc (maybe he's more psychopath) about 12 months ago (he's not over it) and occasionally he still phones me for a few rings and hangs up before my phone goes to vm. I've changed my ring tone just for his number to clown music 🤡 It's always a laugh when he checks in.
It is better if you block him, you can make him obsessive. After relationship they start to stalk, I know girls who met with stalker it was a knife attack ... The same person went to meet vith her second ex and he brocke her legs. She stayed three months in hospital .It is deffenetly obsession in my case the narcissist called the previous ex and tried to make a deal offered him money in exchange...
@@csibiedit8046 I ended up blocking him to cut off his passive aggressive phone behavior.
Many many cases similar, a guy in my city set his ex’s house on fire. Even though he was always the abuser, discarded this girl and found I knew supply he was still hoovering her. Eventually when this girl finally moved on with somebody else he lost it and threatened to kill her. Now he’s in jail for setting the house on fire. 3 years is his sentence and word out is that he’s still swearing he’s going to kill her when he gets out. These people are dangerous and evil, it’s unbelievable.
😂😂 @ clown music
wow so true. they don't understand that anyone who can't act right is replacable af. and they take your grace, patience, loyalty all the good things they take it as weakness.
Them mfs really do
My narc ex told me that his ex was so obsessed with him that she got married just to try to get his attention. I didn’t even know what a narcissist was at that point and actually believed him. That was 14 years ago. His ex is still married to that man with 3 children. She clearly didn’t marry that man to get his attention. I hate that I didn’t see all the red flags.
That’s just his bitterness. He mad it wasn’t him.
That's his favorite word, "fake". Its how he describes me because I've moved on and married someone else. He advertises that publicly. It's so sad.
And crazy 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🙌🙏🏽🙌🙏🏽
I haven’t met a “new” person, but my ex-fiancé told me several times that he was the best I would ever have, that no one would love me like he did! 🙄 I told him if that was true I was done with the dating scene, and was happy with my dog and cat! 🐶❤🐱
Mine did that as well...I never understood that til I figured out and was educated about narcarcisst
And he's right you won't find anyone like him, cause your next man is gonna be better and treat you better. Just stick to your boundaries and all will be good..
@@chandra-starrdickinson Thank you! You are correct! 🥰
Funny 🤣🤣🤣 but not funny. I truly feel you on this!
@@nicholedabney7571 Yep! It IS funny now 😂🐶❤️🐱Especially since he wasn’t real fond of my pets. Put up with them, that’s about it. I must believe 🐶🐱are happier, too! 😂
My covert Narc ex saw a woman he wanted to be with about seven years ago on the street with someone else and got so angry, he blocked her on Facebook. While we were in a relationship , btw. I found it strange he could never ever let go of women.
Yeeees child I know this my ex narc kept women in his back pocket 🙄
What if they see or hear that you are happy alone and moved on? Like I'm happy working on myself and not running around with other men, like he is with other women. And I'm happy and I have moved on..
then you win
Yes I did, but sometimes it gets overwhelming, I had to reach out to him and told him we can still be friends you know, gave him a hug and walked away. Closure for me and for him to stop bugging me. I had to so I can move on, I'm a virgo so.
Yes I did, but sometimes it gets overwhelming, I had to reach out to him and told him we can still be friends you know, gave him a hug and walked away. Closure for me and for him to stop bugging me. I had to do that so I can move on, I'm a virgo so just wanted to part amicably.
@@chandra-starrdickinson what was his response when you reached out? Were yall already in no contact?
That’s the reverse Hoover. They wait you out during no contact.
The irony of how my narc was actually the lowest quality person I ever was with in every possible way, but thinking I’d never do better. They have literally nothing going for them once you get past the charismatic facade, sex was lame, no money except for alcohol & drugs, no life, never did anything fun, just work, get high, sleeping with mad different women, & always fighting with someone & in some drama. I manifested my dream life since moving on & now they seem to have spiraled into complete narcissistic collapse & I’m here for it 😂😂
Facts especially the lame fake charisma n really LAME sex
My ex narc mailed a wedding planning magazine to my house on our anniversary (6 months after we broke up). The following two days she mailed me women’s leggings in her size. All packages had no return address, no packing slip, and no receipt. I told my new gf and her response was laughter and she said to me “omg, your ex is fucking crazy.” I think her goal was for me to tell my new gf and for us to argue about it. We laugh at her frequently.
The level of immaturity to do something on that level is unbelievable, and actually very twisted.
She has more problems than just narcissism. My ex used to follow me and his new wife would send me books about evil women.😂 Of course he left her for his secretary.🙄Of course not until they had a handicap child he abandoned for the gold digging secretary.
Couldn't care I'm staying out of relationships I'm happy on my own don't need the hassle,having my best time on my own no need to help or validate anybody it's a blessing
I would love to see someone approach the narcissist viewpoint from a spiritual standpoint.
there are videos on here bc everyone can tell it’s demonic for sure
You should do one on how narcs ruin Valentine’s Day
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How about every holiday.....
Not only every holiday, but every special occasion like weddings, graduations, birthdays and any other day that doesn't rsvolve around the narcissist.
They are destroying any holiday - except there are too many people they have to make a good show for
@@Coayanisqatsi tried to get them away from all those people at least four maybe three days impossible
When I've had enough of someone, narc or not, who mistreats me I've just had enough. I take until I'm done. But going forward I've learned I'm not gonna take too much anymore.
Tired of the mind games. People expect you to stick around.
@@XCVi_MAC they want you to stick around to keep putting you through the same old stuff. Ill hurt and be mad then I won't care anymore.
@@princessmandy1757 mine left me and wanted me to remain friends while treating me like dirt lol. I blocked her and moved on… painted me like the bad guy.
SAME!! NARC OR NOT!!!
Let him live with his illusions and I’m going to live my reality.
🙌🏾🙏🏽
I noticed that when I saw the women in my ex’s family all had really terrible experiences. 3 deaths, baby mothers with several kids and living in really undesired conditions. 😂 I saw that I made it out. I’m good! I thank my ancestors everyday!
🙌🏾🙏🏽
They need more chlorine in the gene pool.
I can’t believe it happened to me I’m still shocked even though it was 2 years ago I still can’t believe I have been a victim of a narcissist imbecile
you know now
I’m still in shock,because being a victim of a nasty ass narc. I call it rumination. It’s not a normal behavior. Btw, I’m so over him. He used me for sex and money. When I stopped helping him financially that was the end. I was no good to him. His supply was no longer in existence.This was during Covid. He prevented me from going to see him. Now he’s just a conceited old man bass player. That’s probably why he plays in a band so he could easily get his pick of the chicks, lol.
EnTRAPMENT!😮
My exes genuine and utter shock when he found out I was dating again after he did me so dirty in the discard was so mind-blowing and sobering at the same time. It is a sickness. Lee I'm proud of you for taking this journey and bringing us along
If you’re not being a vindictive jerk by flaunting your new relationship to intentionally hurt the narcissist… then it doesn’t matter what they think. You’re allowed to live your life. 💖
Who cares if they are nobody cares about narcissist feelings
@@aphavoc4479Anyone who goes out their way to mess with or hurt another’s feelings is a narcissist
Intentionally flaunting the new relationship is not being a vindictive jerk… it’s about living your life and showing the narcissist that you have moved on and the door is finally closed to them.
Even if one is flaunting their new relationship to intentionally hurt the narc,it does not make them a vindictive jerk.
@@winnieamar9368 exactly!
I finally couldn’t deal after 25+ yrs looking over my shoulders after I let him come back after an affair.
I walked away and have been single for 5yrs now. Healing and living my life to the fullest.
He had moved in with her days after our divorce. I hear thru my kids he is not happy… KARMA 😅
Never have I been happier that I walked away and started my life over even if I am alone! Better days ahead.
Thank you for what you do!
Same with my situation. Together for 17 years, married for 11. Cheated on me every chance he got. physically, mentally, financially, reproductively, and emotionally abused me for fun! Last July i had enough and left. Cut off contact with him and he moved in his gf the same night i left. Sick. Karma is TRULY kicking his butt right now
You are si brave
Brilliant video. I'm single and happy. Loneliness is a powerful tool. I'm fucking all kinds of women. Apologies if it offends. But I'm just having fun. Been single now for 11 months and I love it. ❤
Mine only wanted me when I had someone else.
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I've had an ex narcissistic come out of no where downtown after I broke up with him. Choked me! I was able to get an emergency straining order. He was violent.
Oh hell no
The ex Narc found out after years 3 I came out and went to the local bar. Where our old mutual friends hang out, he’s been driving past my house for over a month now. It was once a day. Then twice a day. Then parking past my house. Then he found out I went out again this last weekend and he turned my street into his and his friends car route. Mopar’s. I’ve never seen are driving down my street during the day and parking at my park after hours. Now other cars are doing the same behavior circling the neighborhood over and over. It’s fucking insane. He’s losing his mind, he’s obsessed.
He has a fiancé and a girlfriend and still 🙃
I am three weeks into my journey of healing from a three year off and on relationship with a toxic person. I have spent the majority of the time that I’ve known this person worrying about how he will react to what I say and do.
So I really appreciate Lee encouraging us to not let how they react cause us stress or keep us from living the life WE want to live. These are OUR lives, not theirs! We have given them numerous chances to be a part of it so it’s up to them to give us reasons to allow them to stay.
Stalking going on two years…yeah. No contact the entire time. Fake numbers, profiles, emails… it’s crazy. Actually showed up more than once. Has to get a TRO until I moved. Changed number, job, state… still stalking.
WOW!!!
Mine left me when I was in deep grief over my sons suicide. I wasn't talking to him enough; not giving him enough attention. No longer striving to stroke his precious, delicate ego. When he later saw me happy working at a new job, with a new car.....of course he wanted me back! And he was married to someone else for 4 years! And yes. He did stalk me at my job!! 😅😅
I see a illustration doing research and the cartoon said: I don’t care if the divorce was 7 years ago, how could you go on a date with another guy?!… Said that to say, yeah, they can think you’re faking, but they can also stalk you n have the nerve to get offended when you’ve moved on bc they cheated n treated you unfairly. 🤦🏽♀️… Love your videos. Blessings ♥️🙏🏾
The man just told me just last night he was the best thing that ever happened to me and I would never get that again
I would sat no your not the best thing I've ever had cause I'm happier now, than I was with you, lol. And nobody wants a narc..
Well, maybe he WAS the best thing you ever had. If you hadn't been pushed to the brink of frustration and despair, you might have kept your blinders on, and been set up for an even bigger fall, right?
Honestly, I think they think they will be the best you'll ever get because that actually resignates more to them, as they are the ones who become obsessed over you in your absence. In reality, your the one moving on with your life, but as we know they always say it's over, but it never over, they just put you on the shelf until they're ready to use you for they're so called purpose. They don't have real self confidence, so that's the lie they tell themselves, because they don't wanna bare the truth, and let's be honest, "the truth hurts", especially for narcissistic people.
if he's "the best i'll ever get" then...WOW!!! because i lowered my standards, for the first time, not a little, but waaaay tooo much and look what walked through the door!
My ex had been dating her new supply for months when she reached out to a woman that posted a flirty comment on my FB page and messaged her “You are literally SO pathetic it’s laughable”. I called her and asked her why she would do that and she said “I don’t want to see you with anyone else”. 😮
Straight crazy!
When you know, you go! No contact! . As long as she has access to you ( Facebook, phone, knows where you live ) you will never get rid of her. Be careful they can become a stalker and become violent
I choose to keep distance from any game playing drama..
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I am Free, his backseat wanted the front seat and exposed their love affair, lol 😂 he didn't want to leave however she now has him full-time.
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Same. She can have him now.
Big facts... my ex friends seen a post on Facebook and they blew their mind... you don't have to explain anything to them, just keep it moving 💪
Like Queen Latifah said "You say I'm nothin' without ya but I'm nothing' with ya"
Thanks for putting out this content to help raise awareness for NPD. My sister was married to a malignant narc for nearly a decade. It was literally the worst time of my life considering her and I were quite close but her marriage damaged our relationship as I didn't like him and knew something was off with him and stayed away. Eventually she wisened up and got rid of him, praise god. Seeing all the damage he did and stress he put in her life I completely despise narcissists. I'm happy to say she is doing much better and happily married to someone who actually loves her. Good on you for seeking mental therapy, I wish you luck and happiness in the future my good sir.
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Omg... I am dealing with a horrible narcissist rn... I love them, but I am very close to losing my mind...
My Nar told me no one else would ever have me. So far…
But, I haven’t gotten out there yet either. So, I do still have hope. ❤❤me! 😊
be safe and protect your peace
@@MentalHealness THANK YOU Lee! That was only 13 days ago. Since then, I have met the nicest man. He LOVES my sense of humor. I love that, someone I can laugh with. We have a lot in common. Haven’t been out together yet, but I want to take it slow. I’m happy just talking to him right now. He’s been through a lot with his ex. So I’m sure he’s being cautious too. Thank You so much Lee for what You do for all of us. You’re the BEST!! ❤ Wish me luck! LOL
You are so right about the "they don't like to see you happy". I discarded a narcissistic partner last December when I found out he had been cheatng on me. We had been together for 8 years. Recently I went to a local Bullride event and I just happened to be sitting next to an ex-bullrider and doing the usual having fun with him explaining the ins and outs of the compettition to 2 novice females. I only met him that night, never seen him before or since but my girlfriend took a photo and tagged me in on Facebook. All of a sudden my ex's rig/ truck has been seen (considering he is supposed to have moved interstate) and a couple of weeks ago I saw his ute (sorry Australia here) when I was coming home from the shops. I knew it was him because when he saw my car he anchored on the brakes and pulled over, I kept driving. So now he is drivng interstate to stalk me. I live in a very small country town, one road in and out of town so there is no reason for him to be driving through town unless he is not happy that I can enjoy life without him.
Lee, I just have to say this. YOU SIR, ARE ONE OF A KIND! THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU! We do need You! Thanks! ❤
Thank you. i really appreciate it
Being happy by myself and with myself is actually the best feeling in the world. It wasn't until I was married to a suspected narc that I realized you could be lonely in a relationship! 🥰
Great video and great story, Lee. Truly love your videos.
Saw exnarc with his new supply out in public last weekend and both gave me death stares. I don't think he saw the person I was with but the look of hatred in his eyes alone tells me everything. I don't care if he hates me. I'm moving on. Stay strong everyone!
@Retired Arthropod Smiling and looking happy is revenge against them. They want us miserable. The journey to heal is bad enough.
My ex wanted to meet up with my new bf (just the 2 of them). I guess he was counting on my codependency to kick in and for me to feel guilty and set it up. I’ve grown since then so I shut that shit down real quick. My ex narc will be in my life forever cuz we have a kid together. But I still put those boundaries up. I let him know he could meet my bf at drop off/exchanges if he would like to since my bf will be hanging out with us (my daughter) & I. He got upset and stated “I see how you are. You want it your way all the time.” And then refused to even meet my bf. …..can you scream projection. I don’t give in to his bait anymore and it drives him nuts. I just stay in my lane and practice self care and boundary setting.
Swear. My husband really thinks I can't get anyone better than him.
Awwwww..... I truly applaud you for sticking by the sister who was disrespected at the club. I'm so proud of you!!🙂
I just wanna say thank you for coming forward and admitting it because it goes undiagnosed for better lack of a word and the two sides of a narcissist that they portray so well does make us think like we’re crazy so thank you for coming out and talking about it as one. It helps a lot of people that are going through this alone, which is pretty much 90% of us if not more. Thank you.
My ex started sending flowers to my house with love notes pretending to be someone I was having an affair with when he found out I was dating my husband years after our divorce. He would text me from fake numbers pretending he was someone i was cheating with. So much i can say on this topic including how he all of a sudden wanted to see our kid and would use exchanges to try to hoover me.
omg that is straight, outright BONKERS. cuckoo. crazier than a coconut.
Wooow! The one I know does the Google number thing and acts like he's a lady with the wrong number. 🥴🥴🥴🥴. So f*ckin childish.
@@hurtsoul7398 yup...the one I know does the same thing...denies the fake numbers
Pity us when we "can't be with them" 😂 Exactly what my ex narc said to me "I'm the best man you ever had" 😂😂😂 🙈 I said to him: I don't wish you anything bad, nor good but I wish for you exactly what you deserve. And you will never hear from me nor see me." I kept that and it has gone 6y. Blocked him and his 20 something profiles and his flying monkies everywhere.
Thank you Lee , for all your help . I'm struggling right now getting over my ex narc .
Stay strong 💪🏼
Lee is the reason behind all this BS
@@webelongtogether5809 - hmm He is literally working on himself .. not many will bother getting help .. and sure wouldn’t tell someone the things they have done !
@@deehyatt5173 truly had to hear that.... I am and always will be a work in progress and have a spot in my heart for him. He should know that and know he is welcome to reach out anytime
11:50 @@webelongtogether5809
Too Little, Too Late
What about when they see you just moving on without a relationship but just happy without them?
Thank you for say “hurt people” describing how we may respond when in difficult situations.
He definitely is not a narcissist, but...
There were signs, such as:
- Talked negatively about all his exes
- My instinct (gut feeling). Something was off.
- Played victim
- Moved fairly/relatively fast, and we put each other on pedestals
- Could/would never take responsibility for his wrongs
- Silent treatment and gaslighting
Short list of things someone could be a narcissist and toxic.
Leave sooner than later. Say yes to you and no to toxic people. 😀
I am submerged in darkness.
Drowned and suffocated.
I'm in hell.
I'm all alone.
So so so so so very alone.
I weep.
I die.
I die inside.
I'm desperate to die.
The pain is unbearable.
44 years of suffering
with intermittent fleeting windows of relief.
I'm in hell.
Hell with no escape.
Desperate to die.
Desperate to escape.
I am debilitated from the trauma.
Paralyzed frozen. Living in constant terror and panic.
I DIE INSIDE.
THE PAIN IS UNCEASING AND UNBEARABLE.
I LIVE IN A STATE OF PERPETUAL TRAUMA AND PANIC.
He betrayed and abandoned me,
discarded me like garbage!!!
(HOW THE FUCK COULD HE?)
Replaced me for another.
How could he do this to me?
REMINDER TO SELF, SWEET SOUL:
This was a karmic friendship,
meant to be there for a limited time (17-months-ish)
to teach you, about yourself!
About boundaries, about self-love,
about self-respect, about self-worth, etc...
About a whole plethora of magical, juicy, alchemical things!
The universe, God, your guides, your ancestors, are pushing you, lovingly,
in the right direction: into your own magnificent powerful magical freedom!
When you let go. The universe will catch you. It’s talking to you.
Let go of everything and trust the universe. It’s within you. ✨💫
Jesus said to her... “Mary.”
She turned toward him
and cried out, in Aramaic, “Rabboni!”
(which means Teacher) - John 20:16💖
NOTE TO MY TWIN FLAME:
Dearest twin flame, I’m working on myself,
I am being 100% healed, on every level, in every way.
This is my purification process. I am doing this for me, for you, for us.
I’m proud of myself, and I’m getting ready for you.
I love you.
REMINDER TO SELF, HEALTHY TRUE LOVE
FROM A MAN THAT REALLY LOVES A WOMAN LOOKS LIKE THIS:
1. He is quick to eliminate danger and fight any threat when it comes to her.
She is everything to him, they are one. He’ll sacrifice himself for her.
2. Sets up a meeting for her to meet his mom or grandma or guardian.
A serious man won’t keep bringing different women to meet his guardian,
it’s serious if he brings her to his guardian.
3. He’s going to talk about her with his closest, most respected group of friends, repeatedly. He wants them to know all about her, who she is, her soul and her personality.
4. He will start to make her a priority in his life, hang out during his busiest times,
buying you things, making plans. More investment.
5. He begins to be more involved with her family even without her necessarily knowing.
Gets something for her mom or helps her dad cut the grass, etc.
Investing in people who are important to her.
It’s not forced, she doesn’t ask, he just does it.
6. What he does for her. If she has dreams or goals, he’s going to help her acquire it.
No jealousy or ill feelings. He wants to help and be a part of what she’s a part of.
Putting total effort in showing her she’s not alone.
7. Being more free in sharing his struggles, inner demons, he’s trusting her,
doesn’t want to hold back. Will share what he’s working on, the dark,
the not good looking things, so she can see him wholly. He trusts her and her feedback.
8. He stops using I and me, and starts saying us and we.
“You know what we should do” “I think we would like this,”
include her in his thinking, sees her in the long haul...
Absolutely! On point! Being harassed by my Partner’s ex narc wife. The ex stalks me and shoves and pushes me at my kids school. Uses abusive and foul language about me while texting my Partner while he’s trying to parallel parent! She is insanely jealous and acting out because my Partner is finally happy. It’s crazy! But thx 🙏 for your insight
People be like: dealt with too many narcs I’m done with relationships 100%
This isn’t a self love choice it’s giving up on love bc you let a narc win. Feel like that needs to be said.
Personally I see this as a sign that one or both parents need one hell of a slap for their contribution. And this is my conservative opinion.
Can you do more videos that are aimed at showing people with NPD the challenges and also the benefits you have seen from being in therapy? I feel like 99.9 percent of the content about narcissism online is about how terrible they are. Since avoiding shame is a narcissist’s number one goal, even admitting that they might have NPD is usually off the table, and it’s even less likely when all people talk about is how horrible they are. :(
Scroll through my stuff. There’s plenty of vids they just don’t do well
@@MentalHealness Makes sense, I guess. Still, frustrating.
Sadly a lot of them are in denial....
@@lydiapetra1211 Sad indeed. :/
@@lydiapetra1211 I’d say MOST ARE
They’ll reach out to the new person you are with and smear you. I’ve gone thru this.
There are so many self empowerment memes that push Narcissism. I just realized this watching this video.
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I really appreciate your videos they are the hard truth. To be honest I don’t give a darn about how he could feel. If a person still cares what the narcissistic person feels , they still need to heal.
This man is spilling the truth.
In one breathe he’d say he was the best thing I could ever get then in the next he’d say over his dead body will he see me happy with another man when I don’t show happiness with him. It’s so frustrating and annoying dealing with this.
My ex tried to stop us from going on holiday because my new husband was the one to take us all on holiday for the first time. Literally it was my first time leaving the country ever and my children of course it was their first holiday. That made him vex and he wanted to stop that. Didn't care about his kids missing out but in order to stop me having fun and enioying myself would have happily taken away my first experience too. My ex and I were together for 5 years and not once did we travel anywhere. But my now husband took us to his home country within less than a year with living with us due to visa and immigration etc. They are really pathetic.
How is stalking, fighting people & being generally spiteful avoiding shame? How is throwing drinks in someone's face shame avoidance? I just can't understand this one aspect at all & no one wants to explain. 💥
narcissists aren't logical at all. They go against reality so when their behavior causes shame and makes them look bad, they go haywire bc they can't self regulate their emotions so when that happens it all turns to anger & rage. Then they look at the other involved in the situation as the person responsible for how they're feeling regardless if the person hasn't done anything to deserve it. When they see or think of that person it triggers shame in them bc they have qualities the narcissist doesn't have so the hate comes from jealousy and inferiority of that person. This drives the narcissist to be destructive towards them wanting to destroy what causes them shame. If they can damage your life they feel like a winner again. When the narcissist focuses on a target that why you have to FORCE them to leave you alone. Document everything voice-mails & msgs too go to court get protection order against him.
They are straight evil and have no souls all they want to do is destroy you. It’s so evil there is no explanation except they are evil and seek to kill all of your good. Pray to God to get them away from you and Get away if you can do not ever look back!
@@empressb444 Let's all remember that a legal order of protection has power only to the extent that its recipient accepts it.
People can be shot or maimed despite the order of protection. Keep your eyes open, watch your back, be aware.
@Grover Martin I totally agree! This is why I always advise victims to get a 🔫 after the order is in place bc once the narcissist receives that order this can send them over the edge and the victim must be prepared to protect themselves at all cost.
@Empress B Here in the UK, if we did that, we'd ebd up in oriskn just for owning a gun illegally. You Americans wonder why you have so much gun crime...
So true. Even tho my ex blocks me, says he wants nothing to do with me. A few times he seen me at the bar. He's thrown beer on me for nothing. Just because I was there. And about 2 weeks ago he started an argument and kicked me out his house just so he can go out by himself. He ends up at the same bar as me. N sees me talking to someone comes from across the bar and tells that person not to talk to me.
He could be dangerous. Please watch your back.
I'm just confused to why he keeps saying he don't want me. N ignores me and acts like he doesn't care. But gets mad when he sees me out.
Because in his mind you’re his property. You are supposed to be “on the shelf” waiting for him. He is supposed to be the only person that you are involved with while he is out getting as many sources of supply (other women) as he wants.
He threw beer on you? Thats insane! Save all those msgs and report him to court immediately get a protection order him immediately. You need to protect yourself he's very toxic
@@empressb444 So Sad.. Some of these people are not ready to move on. Someone Aggressive but you still visit his home? Self Love and Self Worth will make you cut off from these Evil people completely.
I ended up getting a restraining order on the narcissist. He can’t come near me. It has been almost 2 months since the last conversation. Out of nowhere I’m on my social media and there he is liking stuff on my page. On my Snapchat the following day. He think we would have been talking by now but that order hit him like a gut punch. I’m not watching him so why are you here with your great life you claimed to have. Getting away was the Best thing for me and my peace. I think he loves me but hates me at the same time and you can’t be with someone like that. I believe he regrets all of his actions some times bc he has zero access. And I’m going to keep it that way
This podcast is great! So different from my world and yet you totally get the situation every time. Thank you!!!
Such a sweet person so proud of you!!
Thank you so much
We love this Dude ... Thanks so very much for your videos!!!
What an interesting perspective.... thanks so very much for the insight!!!!
my ex narcissist does this thing we’re they will look up my new partner to see if if there better materialistically like career, money, what car they drive etc.
It’s funny too, but Lee is telling the truth. I’m with someone i’m happy with and healthy. My ex idc what there doing or what they think. I don’t check on them or care who they with. I healed and moved on.
He downgraded … I’m a non narc but the narc downgraded
I like your honesty!!!
appreciate it
I keep my life private and in peace. The dreadful nightmare is over and he is irrelevant.
Even after almost seven years?! My ex is pissed that my new man after three years are finally creating a life together.
Thanks for the straight up vids!
Thankyou, Lee fo sharing this message today, I’m
Watching it late , here at home tonight,, and helped me understand the behavior of my marriage and what happened with US, Gracias 💝♥️🙏🏼
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Great story. My ex lives in another state so I don't have to worry.
Good to hear
My x narc lives in another state. I found out he was married and had two other women in his life. I wanted to ignore all my suspicions because he drove 11 hrs. every other month to be with me for two years. WTH! A long distance relationship is like having a license to cheat. I wish you well and be careful.
It’s 8:20 central time
Thank you for this video
Thanks for this good advice.
Thank you, watching your vidido's has really helped me free myself of the toxicity of the narcissist I was with, as well as answer other questions I had. I am very happy to be free, and making my way to happiness.
Thank you for what you do. God bless you and your family.
I can definitely be happy with someone else when and if I want to
You've washed your hands clean of this, by Alanis Morrissette summed it up perfectly! The victim must bring their own closure to the situation. Block and leave! You've dodged a bullet.
It’s crazy but this is what my ex is doing to me that I had to move so he won’t know where I live
If she sees me I’m going to treat her like I never ever knew her.
I caught her going in going into a hotel with a guy,, and she still went in with.
And it’s so crazy I been with her for 10 years. Her daughter I helped raised,.and calls me ddy,. I will definitely treat her like a stranger.
Omg. Mine said that he felt sorry for me for not forgiving and that i blew it with him and that i will die alone
What about happy alone? 😊
Hell yea 🎉❤
THANK YOU.
Everything you are saying is literally happening....different people have directed me to go somewhere...they are sooo obsessed, that they followed me to that new place. Some get close, others stay far away, they mostly send strangers to start conversations with me...they still violate. Its interesting how connected they are. They don't have to stop because they are being encouraged to keep poking. That insecurity is super deep. Thank you for educating those of us that were convinced by several helpers , supportive angels, that we are crazy and delusional.
oh my god... i'm... staring to realize my Great Aunt is a Narcissist..... this is scary because she's literally the only person I have.... Idontknowwhatdo...
Find friends, mentor, mates some1 you trust & can confide in...
I was told the moment i move on would be the end of my life....we have a 3 month old baby and he cheated alot with multiple women, moved on yet he monitors my movements
I was in a one side relationship with a narcissist for 4 years. We have a 3 year old son together. I'm currently in escape mode, because I want my like back. He's currently trying to destroy my character, career, and finances so I can't leave him.
Document everything. Record everything.
I paused the screen at just the right time and you looked like snoop dog. The universe does give gifts
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