Reunification Camps: Exposing the Alienation Industry
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- čas přidán 1. 11. 2022
- In the Family Court System, reunification camps are very much the "troubled child or troubled teen industry" however, these are not troubled children or troubled teens. These are children who want to be heard, who deserve to be heard and who become a threat when they try to use their voice to advocate for themselves.
We need to stop infantilizing children and teenagers -- and we need to place their safety at the forefront of family court decision making. We need to place children's rights above parental rights. Children's rights are human rights.
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History of the alienation movement: www.nationalsafeparents.org/a...
If your child is being turned against you, and you are not an abuser: "In reality, what these women are describing from their ex-partners is better termed Domestic Violence by Proxy (DV by Proxy), a term first used by Alina Patterson, author of Health and Healing. DV by Proxy refers to a pattern of behavior which is a parent with a history of using domestic violence or intimidation, uses a child as a substitute when he no longer has access to his former partner. Calling this behavior “parental alienation” is not strong enough to convey the criminal pattern of terroristic behaviors employed by batterers." Link: www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pa...
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I’m a woman and have an abuser narcissist who HAS alienated my 12 yr old son for his running buddy with women. It has been heart wrenching, not every alienated is the offender. It’s a pawn, it’s been him controlling me since the day I have been married to him. My child had a massive bond until I had a massive brain injury and right side partially paralyzed I recovered from, and his Dad kidnapped him from me while I was recovering. I should have never trusted it. I had sole custody, he never paid child support, bought clothing, needs ect, gambling and women is what he did with his money. The fact I have court dates put back for 7 months now without a hearing is insanity. My voice is not heard, as my calls are blocked ect. Mothers worst nightmare. The court system is disgusting to even allow this as he has the attorney who is best buds with the judge, sickens me the system is rigged.
That is true the answer is not to kidnap your own child then sociologically torture them into being compliant.
I am so sorry to hear this. I will be praying for you.
Don't get me wrong, that sounds like a terrible situation. Your son *will* come around if indeed the ex hubby was manipulating him. But I would say, reading your comment, you talk a lot about the system respecting your rights as a parent, and wanting to have your voice heard. But you don't mention anything about respecting your son's rights, or about having his voice heard. Which might indicate something else is going on which you are either not aware of, or worst case, are refusing to acknowledge because maybe you don't want to believe it.
@@mikerope5785 If you study PAS, then you will know that the children have been brainwashed and "splitting" has taken place. It's a form of abuse. There is strong evidence that the alienator is pathologically impaired, an abusive individual. That's what the studies show. I don't know much about the content creator, and having been educated about narcissistic abuse, I understand her concerns. However, many times the alienating parent is the narcissist. This is a tough situation, but based on the evidence, the alienating parent is 100% engaging in abuse.
@@mikerope5785 Actually, by the time the child becomes an adult, the chances are around 10-15% that he will "wake up" , realized what happened and reunite with the alienated parent. The same is true for cases of estrangement.
From what I have read of these reunification camps I believe they are traumatising for the children. When I was a child my parents separated for a short while and then got together again. The reason for the separation was my father discovered infidelity.
They kept the marriage alive for a few more years, however my father was very stressed and started drinking more.
When he discovered that there was further infidelity he ended the relationship and asked my mother to leave the family home.
Myself and two siblings did not have very much contact with our mother after she left the family home. I myself did not rebuild that relationship until years later.
All three children stayed in the family home with our father. He did not cope very well with the emotional trauma and became alcohol dependant.
There was no parental alienation, just a case in which the children as teenagers had decided not to keep in touch with our mother.
I'm a kid in this system. They're forcing me into a plethora of traumatic meetings and events, they have called me to my face, a brat, a liar, and even told me what I have to say doesn't matter. And come hell or high water when I'm an adult I will do everything in my power to rid these monsters of their authority in this system.
I am so incredibly sorry. We just launched a new program and we would love to hear your story. You can submit the information at www.thechildrenarecoming.com
Invite me, I’ll show you what real Parental Alienation looks like and what the sick parents do to their children
@@brandonwhisnant4325 Trust me, I've seen what "parental alienation" can look like from my abuser using such tactics to try turning me against my safe parent.
Such a term is damaging to what safe parent organizations are trying to do, but that doesn't mean that such tactics cannot be attempted, and almost always fail.
I'm sorry if that is what you are going though. And I'm sorry if this comes off as rude. Honestly your comment sounded rather sassy, but I'm not positive if that is what you are intending to do, im not sure if you're trying to fight a minor or if you are simply venting under my comment. Either is acceptable, as I'm more than willing to argue my side or it is a free country and you may vent where ever you feel the need to, unless the owner of the space says no.
@@oh_look_a_nerd384 my apologies I was attempting to reply to tina not you directly. For her to take the stance that parental alienation is not real is horrific and absurd.
I would be glad however, to show you what a parent will do to a child with a vendetta to hurt the relationship with their other parent
@@brandonwhisnant4325 No worries, sometimes CZcams doesn't register username clicks sometimes, and thus doesn't notify the right person!
While I agree such tactics are real, the supposed effects are quite unlikely, as very few children are successfully alienated and almost none stay alienated after the age of 18, it's been proven that forced reunification with an "alienated" child will also decrease the chance of the child returning to the "alienated parent" I use quotations as what these words mean change greatly based on where you stand on the issue.
I would be quite intrested in just what you believe you can show me, a victim of the system and supposed "alienaton" but I do urge you not to contact me privately, anything you can prove, please provide it in these comments.
I'm intrested what you think you can show me that I haven't seen from my abuser who is claiming "alienation" on my safe parents side, as everything I've heard an "alienated parent" claim is just what they are trying to do against the person they shove their allegations at.
This is horrific. I’m physiologically sick
This lady is a compulsive, liar and misrepresents truth and horrific Waze.
Tina is a compulsive, liar and huge problem trying to spread this trash
my uncle, who i lived with for a while as an adult, beat his wife terribly and wasn't great to his kids. he was an abuser, loved to hurt anything weaker than he was, never became decent, ever in his life... couple years before he died i caught him looking for CSAM the one time he ever used the internet. but the "alienation" thing as a natural extension of DARVO and just what abusive parents say, like you're saying here, makes it make a lot of sense. when he'd get drunk and rant about my cousins, he'd say their mom poisoned them against him, etc. and, maybe she did? i mean, i cant imagine she had anything good to say about him, he was terrible, he abused and humiliated her for amusement and god knows what else. but i do remember my cousin once telling me when we were still kids, that he witnessed him abusing her, i know that THAT made a deep impact on him, and i think that witnessing that abuse was what made them have extreme feelings about their abusive father... not anything they heard their mother say. these would be memories from when he was very little, formative stuff. and i know seeing any kind of violence as a kid makes a deep impression.
well wasnt expecting to learn something new today but, i guess this is a subject worth knowing just this something about.
I’m a 23 year old but was 8 when I told my mom I was tired of my bio dad’s drinking and him ignoring me every visitation and to think if he didn’t stop seeing me himself and wanted to use my mom and adopted dad as a pawn he could have easily ordered me to this reunification therapy. Its sick!!
That’s super interesting and I’m definitely interested in learning more. I am the age now that my mother was when she separated and divorced my drug addict father. My brother was 10, I was 8 and my sister was 5. We were tied up in the family court system with mandated counseling and had to tell the court our preferred parent. The visitation schedule was exhausting and I eventually stopped visiting all together after a traumatic holiday visit. My decision to avoid serious romantic relationships or even the thought of having kids has a lot to do with those experiences. I can’t imagine if my siblings and I were ever abducted, gaslit and forced away from our mother. That would have been insane as my dad’s drug abuse really only worsened over the years. So having gone through the family court system with a better understanding as an adult, I’m definitely interested in this issue and how it affects children of abusive narcissistic parents.
And to see that the children are being punished for the actions and relations of the parents is also absolutely outrageous😮
I firmly believe that all courts should enforce a law that if a child refuses contact with its non-custodial parent, the court should immediately change custody. In a marriage, we don't ask children if they want to live with their dad or mom, that rule should apply after the divorce unless you can prove to the court that the relationship is harmful to the children.
Mine did this immediately when being confronted whats so ever you could tell itbwas so thought out. Like he knew he was abusive enjoyed it and knew he needed an alibi from the start type of processing. It's so gross. I'm so glad this is coming to light bc it is so scary as some one who has endured abuse and children's safty. It's not easy to ask for help.
The services will go out of there way to make the abuser out to be something tremendous abuser. If the child is abused they will do everything to tell the child it want real gaslight the child directly and even justify the behavior of the abuser like its the child's fault.
No parent that was abused or know the child was abused can e courage a relsrionshionship with the abuser and be a good parent and everyone of them know this to there core.
So what do you call it Tina when the preferred parent actually IS coaching and IS alienating from the other parent In conjunction with the most important fact that the other parent was not and is not abusive?
"In reality, what these women are describing from their ex-partners is better termed Domestic Violence by Proxy (DV by Proxy), a term first used by Alina Patterson, author of Health and Healing. DV by Proxy refers to a pattern of behavior which is a parent with a history of using domestic violence or intimidation, uses a child as a substitute when he no longer has access to his former partner. Calling this behavior “parental alienation” is not strong enough to convey the criminal pattern of terroristic behaviors employed by batterers."
Link: www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/DVP.html
That’s the hard part here. While men may be using the law to hide abuse, some parents really do alienate the kids from the other parent.
@@OneMomsBattle In any case, I don’t think that these camps are the answer
Dv by proxy does not go far enough. The abuse these kids suffer is unbelievable. OMB holds that that kids if they are turned against a parent will come back. That is untrue and disinformation, not t mention dismissive of the SEVERE psychological abuse to both child and parent. You are doing a major disservice women who are victims of dv.
Moreover, it is untrue that if you are accused of alienation that the kids are removed. In fact, they are left with the person, the abuser.
is that not exactly what these parents are doing by tryna manipulate their kids into hating the safe parent ???
It truly is completely complex on all levels 😢💜🙏💜
This goes against everything we know in terms of attachment needs and how important it is for the children to have a main attachment figure / caregiver. This kind of approach is coercive in and of itself and reminds of the residential schools where native were sent after being plucked away from their families. Any professional with proper knowledge of attachment needs and abuse pattern would see through this. There is a critical needs for educating the system about abuse, its mechanisms and how trauma manifests, especially in children. Also, as yoou mention, abusers operate in a very systematic way. How similar the attack patterns are should alone help courts and professionals to see the abuser from the victim.
It is rarely in the best interest of the child, to completely sever ties with a parent.
If the other parent was domestically abused, and the child is a witness, then you are correct that the child is thereby also a victim of abuse.
Where there is/was abuse, children should have a right to continue a supervised relationship with the parent, as long as the benefits of doing so, outway concerns for the child's mental welbeing.
My abusive mother, abusive enough that my Dad got full custody of my sister and I, abusive enough that she would be in jail for over a decade if she were a man, got into this parental alienation crap. While she abused me I had that all too common Stockholm syndrome of fear combined with a twisted kind of love. After she threatened to kill my Dad with a knife, only a culminating incident that was one of many my Dad secretly had to film to get evidence, and she was arrested, the love finally died. They made us go to reunification therapy. It was there that fear turned to hate.
I agree. This process seems harsh and unproductive. I will bet that there are some success stories, which are omitted from these videos. I know first hand that parental alienation is real and does need to be addressed.
Thank you for sharing so we can make change!
Thank you, Tina!
Thank you for your channel. ❤
:( I was labeled as “ negative gatekeeper “
If i was a child who didnt want to live with. lets say, mom. What would happen if i said "I will kill her if i live with her" and your adamant of killing them. Would they still make you live with mom?
You need deep therapy, not reunification
This is completely ill.
I’m a man who has 3 daughters and their mother has narcissistic personality and sociopath behaviours. Its sad to see all this work done without sex discrimination. The empowerment and low self esteem can also be bad for a mother’s behaviour to her children. No comments on equality, justice, respect and professionalism from me here 😅
I was raised by my father, who was the healthier of my two parents. With that said, there is a reality to the work I do: statistics and research shows that men are far more likely to have these personality disorders, and, I speak from my own personal experience.
Richard Gardner was ill. Stop this ill abuse please. The court said is a good group. We got the theory prohibited here now in Germany Italy and GB. Please work on this as well.
Soooo.... all fathers are guilty of abuse, essentially? Is that what it means to put children's rights first?
Irrational much? Clearly you’re very triggered by this. Have a feeling you tried to force your kids into a reunification camp…
Well let's review:
The MAN who invented the term "parental alienation" wrote a whole book defending pedophilia. The vast majority of convicted abusers are MEN. And this whole forced reunification business gained footing from the 70s, when courts used to always place children with mothers over fathers. Strange that it's at the same time as when women were still without legal protections in the workplace. Almost like society saw women as the default place for children. It continues nowadays with virtually all the program directors having a chip on their shoulder towards mothers because they never knew daddy. 😢🎻
@lucy0541 truly insane. Never even heard of such a camp until seeing this fringe conspiracy video. In fact... where I live, there's no reunification for fathers at all unless they have a LOT of money. I don't know where you folks are getting this Alex Jones level stuff from.
This comment is ridiculous. Male vs female is kindergarten stuff. Where is anyone saying that ALL fathers are guilty of abuse? Honestly, anyone who makes it about male vs female is not emotionally mature enough to protect and raise children to begin with, as that comes from a defensive and self centered place. There are abusive parents out there, and children should be listened to. If a child is afraid of a parent, there is likely a very good reason for it. Children don't generally want to report abuse by a parent, so when they do, the courts should pay attention.
@@origincolorssketch*convicted
My mother was never in jail for more than one night.