How to Tell if You Are in a Relationship With a Covert Narcissist
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- čas přidán 8. 09. 2024
- Were you involved in a relationship with someone who didn't have a strong sense of self?
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It was a living hell. I still can't believe how somebody can be like that to another human being. I don't wish that for my worst enemy. I left in March and now in July I am still struggling with suicidal thoughts after 14 years of being with such a monster. It is so devastating 😢. And really nobody understands but people tnat also went through this. You need to find those people for support or you will never get over it 😳
Yes, word for word, „What‘s wrong? You seem mad.“ Replied, „I‘m just tired“. Many times.
Yup.
Every time
Ex gf that. Seemed to have a child like mind. She got me real good. Gf was mom. Mom was gf. They did and said the same things. Both made me feel the same way. Worthless. Not deserving of love. Oscar winning performance. I’m very grateful ex exposed my truth.
I bought this book a month or so ago. It is so spot on! Passive Aggressive, Silent Treatment, and Quiet Rage - Yes, I've experienced it! My CN claims he's not mad at anyone. He sees nothing wrong with his behavior, or tries to blame me for his behaviors.
I grew up with mine. All the strange things I knew weren't normal, but I never had an explanation for just clicked when I learned about covert narcissism. The unprovoked silent treatments, the devaluing statements and rewriting of history, the obsessive need to triangulate me with any female in his life(we were just friends), the never-ending problems that were always my fault. I finally cut him out of my life because I couldn't see our friendship as anything more than a supply chain for him. The only thing he did was accuse me of never caring about him-hah! Trust your instincts-if you feel something is off, chances are good that you're right.
Lying cheating stealing beating 🤦♀️
Yes, I know of a man who changes how he acts based on who he is with, he doesn't lead the group he assimilates into the group rather than be himself in the group as an individual.
My poor partner 😢 he has been so busy trying to please his father that he masks 24/7. He is almost 40 and can not be his genuine self because his father is still alive. But this is not my problem, it's time for me to go.
Omg this is exactly what I dealt with for 5 years. I always suspected and knew something was so off and not right but could not pinpoint it
Hi Ben..I've been crying 😢so much..yet again. Recently got into a new connection after 4 yrs out of a malignant narcissist marriage of nearly 30 yrs..Ive got called needy..just for wanting simple respect..loads of times said he'd call on phone..hasn't..until he is ready..constantly busy 7 days and nights..told message him too much..then not early enough etc..insulted as miss piggy last time saw him..then said he's only joking 🙄..seems jealous I've more time on my hands than him..promises eg..a 3 course meal together..going cinema etc..not happened 😒intimate early on..silent treatment messages on read for hours..only known this guy 3 months and had gut feelings something isn't right from the start..seemed charming and really interested in me until recently..its all work..family..friends..etc caused me to feel Im not worthy again when just started to feel more love for myself after 52 yrs..state of confusion etc..any thoughts please 🙏appreciated 🤔❤
Leave - he's conditioning you by seeing how much you'll put up with. Good luck ❤
Yep, leave. You’ve got this. Don’t even waste your time. He’s letting you know from the start that he thinks your worth his games so gone ahead and say “thank you for showing me who you are early on” and bounce 🏀
Sounds like you are stuck in cycles. Would love to help you on your healing journey. If I can be of help feel free to grab a time here at www.rawmotivations.com
"who are they really" seems to be point on to the girl im breaking up with. They´ll "listen" and dupe you to think oh wow that person is a really good listener. Not the case, they don´t know how to actively listen. When I asked her to tell me more in depth stuff about herself there would always be hesitation first and then either few sentences i.e "you can´t say that I didn´t tell you anything" ...Sure it takes time to get to know someone narc or not, but am I off in thinking that when you still ask that question Who are they really after several months, they are narc!?...I even call her out when she does certain things in the moment to her as if it was a Lee and Ben breakdown Gaslighting - blame shifting - deflection ghosting....
Or they´ll use the same phrase or thing you said to them in the past and then use the same thing against you...
Great info thank you
Thank You !
By the way..only around 8 stone..very slim..so no idea where..miss piggy comment came from with this guy..I ring him and never answered or reply rarely..all I've been is decent to him and after far too many narcissists in my life..including my mother..friends so on..I feel I could die from the mental pain and pressure and my only option is pouring into my own cup for good..I can't stand the torment of it all any longer..😢😢
Sorry to hear you are going through this. From my standpoint, if he doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, move on. Don’t waste another minute or tear on someone who isn’t reciprocating what you are putting out. We’ve been through hell… we got out and survived a narc . don’t jump back down in the pit just for someone who treated you well / love bombed for a hot minute. You deserve better. Set your bar high!
Stop talking to this person. You are lucky you aren't living with them! Cut your ties and move on. Teal Swan has great content on scapegoats.
Rage the way you describe it is a killler.
💯So very true!
So how do you determine if you're the narc or the other person is? I'm frying my brain trying to figure out if I'm controlling or demeaning or just not getting my needs met. I do get angry, but it's because my spouse does and says stuff to trigger me. And I never get violent or physical or even verbally abusive, I just leave now. Or keep my mouth shut. And she won't address my needs or the fact she "never" does any dishes, cleaning or laundry or even put's stuff away that she get's out. I always have to do all that. But I also wasn't that great in the past, but have changed to be a much better person than I was. But she doesn't want to look at what SHE might change to make things better. I'm getting burnt out thinking about it.
I've felt a lot of the same things you have. My therapist says I'm not narcissistic, that I'm just reacting to the emotional abuse I've been exposed to. My CN triggers me with his word salads and things he says that don't make sense. It's exhausting.
I wish you would time stamp your videos.
How so?
Clich “more and go to transcript. It’s time stamped.
Time stamp by points made.
If someone is a Narcissist that is "hard wired" to be that way, how is it possible for them to "change" or "heal"?