Marriage; A Poverty Alleviation Scheme ? FT Don Jazzy | S3 EPS1
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Everyone saying they love jazz's honesty because he's famous and rich, if one unknown person share same opinion they will say the person is useless
Exactly bro
No mind hypocritical Nigerians
DonJ..God bless you. I love u so much
💯
Correct person
Nedu should learn how not to interrupt someone when they speak.
My thoughts too 😢
Plz Nedu be advised.
Facts
He talks too damn fucking much.
Exactly!
LOVE first before any other thing
What happens if that money isn’t there anymore?
What will hold both parties together?
Cos tomorrow even with all the money(status or whatever)you may look at that person with so much disgust and not find any other reason to be in the relationship or marriage,that’s why so many relationships are going south and once hate enters,GAME OVER… Love may not be everything but Love brings understanding,tolerance,patience,compassion,consideration,selflessness,forgiveness,willingness to stay
You just genuinely love this person for who that person is and not what he/she can do for you.
When both party genuinely love each other
It would definitely last
However as a man have money ooo
Even if na the least
exactly
U no lie
The fact is that nobody will "love" you just for who you are for a long time and in a CLOSE relationship or under the same roof if you cannot do 'anything' for them.
Maybe we are getting this LOVE title all wrong
Love vanishes too
Anyone who believes that LOVE is unconditional is grossly delusional.
I don't double date and it's not me deceiving myself. It's just what I want and the energy I also want from my partner. I feel unclean having multiple partners
You sabi book guy
Very rare of an African man.
@@swiitdoll Well I don't think it's African problem though. I feel its all about contentment. We need to develop the spirit of being contented and grateful for what we have ✌️
I’m single 😢
@@amourelove475 It's not about being single. It's staying committed to the relationship when you find one. Am single and not searching or mingling. Relationship is not something you should rush, being single is not a crime too. You take your time and get someone who share same energy and ideology with you. Believe me good guys dey
Interesting discussion. The guy on the far left with the green cap, pls let others speak. Plus off record discussions are off records.Bringing to the public what u discussed backstage is unprofessional and libellous. I think Don Jazzy handled the discussion excellently. The ladies had a lot they couldn’t say , due to Mr Green cap 😳
“DJ Cuppy brother wey no well” is derogatory coming out from someone like Nedu.
I cringed hearing that statement
Watching from Kenya. I just want to say if we look at the history of marriage and the reasons why pple marry ,love has never been a number one motivation. Security, survival and many other social-economic factors are the main things.
True words
You also didn't cite that That's why people keep up with rubbish and abuse and the rest because the reason they married is still secured.....and really how is that life... that's just selfish in my books, once what you want is affected the person diminishes in your eyes.
Real reasons for marriage God's purpose and will on earth be established and companionship.
Marriage was never for love, love is an abstraction, it's lust and desire to procreate, Marriage is for money/security and has always been.
If you start getting attracted to every fine girl you see, it will never end. I just think we should be more truthful.
I totally agree with you.
Truthful is not the word Brother, it is faithful.. I can be a truthful cheat
Nedu and lie na 5&6 this guy dey compose die 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣fear short men
Love is not a spirit that possess you
It is a conscious decision to have affection and dedicate yourself to another human
I love this
Not really .. it’s simply well manners , excellent knowledge to be , selfless seeing another as greater than u, kind compassionate to the needs of others , respectful with boundaries understanding & being of great assistance to others in their need. Avoiding all quarrels n living in peace atall times .That’s love ! It’s not romantic .. it agape . Once u got that for the common man , family n friends trust me ur relationship or marriage wud b superb cos the foundation of wat makes a great person is already solidly set in stone. A selfish arrogant person is never capable of any good qualities of ppl interaction .. they quarrelsome as hell don’t ever see they maltreat of others cos they always in their own head all about themselves . Dint deceive urself such ppl can’t ever have others best interest st heart not even u so run
So apt
@@oyato1 what you just described is not love
Omo that girl on pink, deh hustle jazzy 😂🤣😂😂
It`s only in Africa that love doesn`t exist due to poverty!!!
You mean the scam your gender called love?
Hahahah nedu dey always know the right story for any gist abeg avoid friends way dey work for radio 😂😂😂😂
I think Jazzy is just being honest, if millions of couple were to be sat down and interviewed, you will find out that “commitment" was an option they chose just so to be married and fulfil societal norms. 5 years or less into a lot of marriages, these same commitment tend to wear out 99% of the time thereby we find more “cohabitants" instead of “couples”.
Problem is that, no one is ready for this sort of honesty for the fear of what people/hypocrites (battling the same issue) would say.
Don should know women will excuse his cheating because na him get the knife, yam and goat, because don will not date any woman that will cheat while they are in a relationship.
The only thing i have learnt dz today is in dz life have money man or woman have money oh.....
Great discussion as usual. Edu, limit your interruptions when someone else is speaking.
2:46 i love listening to Husband material. He is so so intelligent and speaks so intelligently
I won't sit to allow any woman I paid bride price for to come and say she can see other men, before you make those rules, tell your parent to scrap off your bride price, let's share everything 50/50 and then you can tell me this story.
In this show I'll just like to accept that Naomi is just playing the devil's advocate if not 🤣🤣🤣otilo ozuo
I tell u
Totally agree
I can't lie,I married for love,my husband didn't have money to the point that we owed fee,rents... etc.i on the other hand was never a golddigger but lost my jobs in the course of delivering my 3 children.i suffered pain,in silence my children n I stayed hungry but never have I thought of sleeping with another man.Infact, I married while I was a virgin and till date I kneel n pray.I don't know about my husband's level of faithfulness but I don't care.I respect your opinions but let's b open minded and not have too much thoughts on cheating .God bless .My Papa say hunger no d kill man
Love from Cameroon 👏👏👏wish I had a podcast like this and still look after my children.Life is tough being a house wife
It's the way @donjazzy keeps looking at Naomi vomit her feminism for me😁😁😁 The girl no just one face reality.
She sounded dumb and I think it’s as a result of where she’s coming from
Don Jazzy, there's nothing like butterflies. In reality, marriage is a COMMITMENT. It's okay to say you are enjoying being single, but waiting for butterflies to happen is CAP. It would never happen.
I calmly disagree sir,
Butterflies is just another word for attraction. How do you marry without attraction? It is actually the first thing you'd experience most times. Commitment is what you engage in after the wedding and in the marriage.
@@teecy5469 Donjazzy already said that he has being with ladies whom he was attracted to, but then, there was always another finer person. so the butterflies he is talking about here is not attraction. Jazzy is referring to someone that would solely sweep him off his feet such that he would no longer be attracted to any other person for life. that is impossible cos there would always be a finer or more appealing person. so going by his logic, Jazzy may never get married and that's fine. But if he wants to be married and stay married, that's where commitment comes in (pick one person, and CHOOSE to stay committed to that person).
@@akinseyi7886 yeah, I feel you now and you're definitely correct. He has to make that decision, it doesn't come as a feeling to stop cheating. Because it is flesh instigated. He has to decide to stick with one woman.
I think he is just being honest, if millions of couple were to be sat down and interviewed, you will find out that “commitment" was an option they chose just so to be married and fulfil societal norms. 5 years or less into a lot of marriages, these same commitment tend to wear out 99% of the time thereby we find more “cohabitants" instead of “couples”.
Problem is that, no one is ready for this sort of honesty for the fear of what people/hypocrites (battling the same issue) would say.
@@akinseyi7886 lol the beautiful ones are yet to be born sef
I enjoyed this episode alot but i was saddened even as i watched. It made me realise the opinion we have of marriage is based on what we have seen, experienced or witnessed. All the more reason we need to see more good , godly marriages out there (because indeed they are there but bad news travels faster and wider). I can watch this and feel i truly can not experience marriage in the sense of what it was designed to be my the designer. Its a no brainer to say you cant have reasons or incentives to want to marry a person, those things are important yeah but i think rather the question to ask is why one wants to get married? If you do not not knw the purpose of something as defined by the inventor, abuse of that thing is inevitable.
Dont be fooled o, there are good, loving, faithful, Godly and very happy marriages out there without any polutions of the age we live in. They are there because It is possible.
I dont mean to sound religious but God created marriage;
Marriage shld then be run by the inventor's manual on marriage (scripture) not by Culture.
Thanks for this comment. Follow the manual's guide
Very true 👍
Naomi reflects the ideals of a good number of women in 49:00.
Paraphrased, "Cheating is a deal breaker. However, rich men are permitted to cheat, their status earns it."
Broooo that's low self-esteem. You shouldn't accept irresponsibility because of money.
@@TheSidelineSpectator that’s just her worth
I was weak when she made that statement mehn… Itz so unfortunate.
@@tefmedia My submission here is, I wasn't surprised, because these are opinions we see online and on the streets every now and them.
I used to be pissed by some of Naomi's take, but not anymore; she reflects the ideals of a good number of her gender in this parts and we need her for balance.
I might disagree with some of her takes, but I've come to realize that she's a pivotal part of the show, and she makes the discussion interesting.
@@TheSidelineSpectator😂😂😂😂
I think it's more of survival and hypergamy, than it is about low self esteem. More like, "I'm hurt by his actions, however; he gives me the good things of life; how would I survive if I leave, what's the assurance of something similar or better out there"
7 out of 10 with this ideals would walk without flinching if they had the financial security themselves.
Naomi is speaking from personal experience. She is dating or have dated a broke guy before. The pain and emotions in her voice says it all.
From my little experience in life about relationship, I can confidently say its a 100% gamble no matter how careful u are at it.. but there are things u must do to help u scale through when everything go south.
1. Try to find happiness outside a relationship.
2. Try to avoid damaged people, no matter how much pity u feel for them.
3.try to make more money 💷
LOVE is not the same fo4 everybody, as u grow older ur love language or understanding keeps changing.
Its much deeper than that! You attract what you are. Saying that be careful of damaged people… you are damaged as well. Your upbringing has a huge factor as well when jt comes to choosing a partner. This relationship thing is deep, and sorry to say this video was informative but surface level. If you as a person dont know what u want out of a relationship or ur needs its a problem in relationship. You will never be satisfied. There are so many other aspects but this is just a few.
Its much deeper than that! You attract what you are. Saying that be careful of damaged people… you are damaged as well. Your upbringing has a huge factor as well when jt comes to choosing a partner. This relationship thing is deep, and sorry to say this video was informative but surface level. If you as a person dont know what u want out of a relationship or ur needs its a problem in relationship. You will never be satisfied. There are so many other aspects but this is just a few.
Am I really here to learn, bcuz I definitely believe in Love and be a one woman man. I admonish u guys not to dirt pple who does it and are fighting to do it. Nobody is perfect but we should try to be a better version
We don't marry who we love, but learn to love who we marry.
U are right but no body want to agree
This here
Hmmmmmm….
Faithfulness has nothing to do with money. Know this and Know peace. Standing by a man with no money does not earn you his faithfulness. If you are worth his faithfulness, no matter how promiscuous he is, rich or poor, he will give it.
That girl in pink is one of those kind of girls you need to avoid to remain sane.
I usually cringe when she is introduced as a "women leader"
If Nedu say him know devil in person, i have no doubt
They keep saying men with money
Men with money
Men with money
Men with money are 1%
What happens to the rest of the men
I think in this show a lot of times they don't work with facts and statistics
They just just speak based on their own opinion or the Lagos experience... 🚮
Those that pray together stay together. A good woman is for a good man. A good man is for a good woman. May God guide us all
The major reason why there is high rate of divorce is because people marry for selfish reasons and not love.
Love for me is "RESPONSIBILITY" to an individual, not the chemical reactions of hormones in the body.
It makes sense
Love is not responsibility. Responsibility is responsibility, nothing more
Abeg tell Nedu to stop interrupting others when they're talking.... It's so irritating....And he doesn't like being interrupted... NaeNae was talking, next thing Nedu interrupted her with his boring talk mtscheeeeeww
This one seems like an improvement. I stopped listening to these people because they talk over each other and end up not making sense. I hope they keep this up
Nedu no dey allow people talk at all
He always cut people out and that's not fair
Dey calm down no be only you get something to talk
Don jazzy don use style stand for us when get small prick God bless you daddy jazzy
😂😂😂
Neduuuu !!!! 😂 he always has gist !😩 please be keeping small secret!
These reasons people marry for now is why marriages don't last. When you really love someone you don't know the reason, you just love them.
Why invite a guest to the show if Nedu will have majority of the say, stories and arguments?
Don jazzy is a high value man that's why he can confidently tell a woman this, if he is as broke as I am oh devil in hell knows that won't be possible
Love is never enough, the earlier people emancipate themselves the better
Love is definitely enough sir/ma
What we need to understand is what love means.
how about accompanying the love you have for someone with contentment!this goes both way!
@@teecy5469 I totally agree with you. Many people don’t even know what love truly is.
@@teecy5469 gbam
I wonder when people will start to accept the fact love is never enough. That's why many people will keep getting hurt because they think love is the ultimate.
The biggest highlight of this season is that intro of De Don,HM sabi this hype thing walahi 🥂
Cheating is wrong PERIODT wether rich or poor.
I'm with you on that 100%.
I'm Ghanaian 🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭 and I love this show I swear everything. The best show 💯💯💯💯💯💯
All am hearing is love is transactional
We all want something in return.
I'd like to say that i'm less than impressed by the Don himself, and Nedu(most especially) for making everything revolve around money. You know one thing, people that have made so much money, always feel everything must be centered around money. Im not taking their credits of years of hard work but men!! they didnt even stick to the topic. Nedu kept interupting Naomi, Nedu kept on directing questions to Don for whatever reason, i do not know. The Toun lady always simping to Jazzy, The 'HIGH FIVE'didnt even matter to Don Jazzy, she was just laughing kikikikiki with whatever Jazzy says. Husband material was just there, forgot he was the host and allowed Nedu steal it all. Good show all round, but trust me, Naomi is the only person here, that remembered how well was raised and tried not to fall for the pressure of the 'script'
Finally, the comment I've been looking for... They left the topic and was interviewing jazzy
Why didn't anyone ask Don Jazzy about his past marriage?
I believe this conversation went this way as none of these people knew the definition of the term love but have rather substituted it with a different preconceived notion!
It is true that people want different things and are free to choose what they want. But at the same time we should not disguise our desire for a better life for “love”
The moment you say you can never marry someone below your class, that’s the moment the deciding factor for you becomes class. It forms the foundation for whatever feeling you eventually develop and term it “love”.
Marriages now are built on wrong foundations in the guise of “love”.
Attraction is quite different! You can be attracted to people who are rich, or handsome or for different reasons. You may believe yourself to not be attracted to people for similar/opposite reasons. Do you want to marry someone you are not attracted to? Mostly a NO for most people. Is it possible to eventually fall in love with someone you were not initially attracted to? Possibly Yes! Why because love seeps in beyond understanding.
Love may mean different things to different people but there’s a common denominator - it does not discriminate!
And until we are able to define and accept what that means, this podcast has been a waste of time.
This statement 'Marriages now are built on wrong foundations in the guise of “love”' is a matter of perspective, and different people may have different opinions on whether marriages are built on the wrong foundations. Some people may argue that many modern marriages are built on a superficial understanding of love and are not based on deeper emotional connections or shared values.
Others may argue that love is still a vital foundation for marriages, but that other factors such as communication, trust, and mutual respect are also important.
The truth is that each marriage is unique and the foundation of it is based on the understanding and agreement of the couple, and what works for one couple may not work for another.
Well said
💯
Don Jazzy’s opinion on relationships gat me thinking 🤔.
It’s the way Don jazzy was looking at Naomi for me like “Wetin this one dey talk”😂😂
I thougt I was the only one that saw it
Lol..exactly..'who sabi this one..abeg shift, because I humble come una show'. Even me I fit leave the show with wetin dat babe dey always yarn. Nonsense, thinking she was being honest..no rich person would her attractive if she keep showing she in it for the money. It is a turn off..money wey no easy to get.
“Can I iron your face-mask?” @husbandmaterial be too much 😂😂😂😂
This Naomi thought process can be very funny, she say na MANAGE, you get money as the lady too.
No mind the girl. Na dem dey do pass
Nedu doesn’t allow other talk.
Conclusion from the whole thing is people marry for personal reasons or personal interest...
Even in the bible, God gave Adam a job which entails taking care of the garden, before he created Eve from his ribs. As a man if you don't have a job, you don't have the right to be in a relationship.
This is Super Amazing
Don jazzy humbleness is admirable!
“Humility”
What do you expect, his he a super human or God ?
@@worldwave1085 you know it’s possible for you to walk by and not reply than you to just write anything that comes to your mind.
@@thetruthsayer8347 I’m sure you’ve received an alert or recommendation based on this gesture already. 🌚
@@gbengaajetomobi5509 not yet. Do you want to start?
Nedu try not to interrupt your fellow host and secondly you don’t have to speak for us men, nedu speak for your self do not generalize it.. their are good men out there, when I mean good men real good men.. as for jazzy I no just know watin to tell you.. to self discipline.. you said all your friends cheat that does not mean all men cheat.. keep deceiving yourself.. no self control.. because it’s jazzy now people will be saying it’s honesty for me! Make una continue to dey advocate for rubbish.
Like I calmed down to listen to this conversation Everyone has their right to do what they want but you people should stop generalizing Cheating it’s not normal to cheat. Marriage is a beautiful thing Love to is amazing. Not all men cheat and it’s abnormal to even cheat . Some marriages are really working out with 2 faithful Partners. Do what works for you. The mind is a magnet you attract what you think. As a man thinketh in his heart so he is !
I really love this show, it so educative
i love this again and again
Its Don Jazzy's honesty for me. Respect boss🙌
Make una try dey allow, una guest talk.
No carry all the talk, talk.
This Naomi no like poor man at all 😂😂😂
God bless you guys for bringing in this legend
Yessssss they are back
It's so sad that we have lost the reason and rationale behind marriage and society building. The ignorance of these people here who are celebrities by the way shows you how low we have fallen as a people and a society. Unfortunately, millions if not billions look up to them simply because of their financial or career accomplishments which is separate for the most part from moral principles and the idea of society building
You've said it all brother
I just love you for this comment
So so true
You don talk am finish no give room for us to add🙌🏽
How I wish others would realize this. 💯
Laugh wan kee me when Nedu shouted “Ahh noo, noo“ (44:45) and Jazzy tell am “you don remember some bad thing wey u do abi? Jazzy is the realest Don🔥😂😂😂😂😂😂
I enjoy watching this
The art work is very creative and I like it
Jazzy is making a very valid point....if you can go out and like another person and end up doing one on two with that person ..what makes you feel your partner cannot fall into same ditch
this is a Town Hall ...full of Balabulu bulubu bulaba ......this whole chat can not make a down payment for a roasted CORN
😂😂 Where did you crawl out from bro?
This episode is educating,the whole advice here be ur true sef, and the right person will definitely find you and everything you want will definitely start coming
Naomi girl was spitting facts
But they couldn't understand because they all have one mindset😢
True
This show just proves once again that women have different standards for a regular man and a high value man. It's about scarce resources. A man with abundance of resources can have multiple women and they're fine with it.
not every woman is fine with that. I personally I'm not
@@royaldiadem8660 absolutely. Not every woman
Omo I just found this channel it so engaging ahh❤
Make una no mind that girl on pink
Na small girl dey worry am😅
I missed you guys thank God you guys are back with full vibes ❤
I love this show. Looking forward to more episodes ❤️🎉
Don is amazing!!
Thank you guys for this wonderful episode, special thanks to Don Jazzy🙌🙌
A man that doesn't have money can never be a happy man
I love this ❤
this is hilarious and enlightening
😂😂😂I laughed so hard Jesus 😅especially the last part
This girl on pink is not deep.
She’s a child
Life is all about growth.. The money issues comes through consistent hard-work!!
A real child, her mentality is not for this amazing session
She is not a child,she is just forming
I want to snatch that girls vocal chords just talking rubbish
Exactly, Naomi speaks and think
Like a child.
You are right.
" so you envy him just because of that? So e nor reach to envy?!😂😂😂🤣
The truth is, the WHY is different from person to person. Some want to get married for just companionship, so if the partner loses concentration, the love expires.
It is not in a woman's capacity to love or talk above offering love. She is to receive love. Man has all the right to love unconditional. Hence women should continue securing the men that can love them unconditionally.
So educative
Don Jazzy's level of honest is out of this world, he's just frank and believes he owes nobody explaination for his kind of person, being truthful and opening up for who he's is just something very uncommon, I mean VERY VERY UNCOMMON, lot of us are just hypocrites
This episode is amazing with Don jazzy na super blessing.
If both genders can take what they dish out the relationship pool will run smoothly.
One ❤ guys
Is the ending part for me 😂😂😂
I missed you guys❗❗❗😁😁😁😁💃💃💃💃💃💃
I laughed so hard towards the end 😂 Kai I really miss you guys ❤
Nedu always get life stories 😂.. Baba dey lie die
Lol
Bruhh 🤣
No be lie 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😅😅😅😅😊
I’m so happy
Finally y'all are back 😩😩😫😫
I missed u guys please
Nedu literally told chris rock's joke from tambourine, word for word 😂