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Addiction needs to be treated.. not punished.. I say it all the time. Society doesn’t want to deal with the real problem.. they just want to lock us up and throw away the key.. it’s so unfortunate.. I love your videos.. I watch every week.. you’re amazing.. keep on keepin on ❤
“As far as your day-to-day life is concerned, there is no ‘society’ . . . your life is made up of individual encounters with individual people that are in your immediate proximity” -say it louder for those in back! ✊👏
@@SmilesforMiles2024bffr. Kratom is Not As hard as heroin to get off. I still had RLS at day 30 off of h/fent. It took 1 week to be sleeping 8 hours after stopping kratom. Yes, it's not easy by any means , but come on now.
Feeling sorry for yourself about that isn’t that way buddy. Just keep at it and over time your family will begin to trust you again. Prove to yourself and then you are worth it ❤
So true. Been off heroin for almost 2 years and surround myself with positive people and have a great support system I am very very fortunate! I also have worked very hard to get where I'm at as most people recovering from addiction have to also. God bless you 🙏
Society might not accept us, but we can accept each other. This is one of the many reasons why meetings (12 step or other) are so important. We need to talk to each other, build each other up, and create a community of safe people around us.
I couldn't agree more! After my own experiences of overcoming multiple addictions, I finally decided to launch a community/program (starting tomorrow (4th July) for anyone struggling to attend. To have that sense of community and a safe place as it can get lonely sometimes and like you said, it is so important! So if you yourself are ever having a bad day or even if you'd like to share your own story, you're more than welcome to come along!
Still to this day I’m surprised & blessed for the support I’ve received. Ever since I told my truth my family, all my friends have been so supportive & 💯 nonjudgmental. Honesty, support of family & lifelong friends made it easier. Also anyone toxic in my life is no longer in my life. Everything else fell into place but you still have to put in the work everyday. ☺️🌹
Hi Brian, I was pleasantly surprised that you had your video posted earlier than normal this week. Go Brian. It is kind of scary to think that there are so many addictions that can effect our lives adversely and yet society doesn't frown on them like Alcohol or Drug addictions. One of those addictions is Smart phones where you can go into a restaurant and a group can be sitting around a table. They most likely would looking at their phones instead of speaking with each other. This is especially true of the younger generation. Another big one is Pornography which is an addiction for quite a few people. It is so true that addicts need the help and support to heal their addictions. Each addiction people suffer from will eventually ruin their lives if not addressed in some way or other. Take care Brian and wish you much success taking one day at a time.
Another great video, Brian ! I wish you had the time to post more than once a week. I really feel that you connect so well with the viewers. Keep on doing what you’re doing…I wish you the best!
Whenever I mention I am 15 years sober, I usually get respect which never fails to surprise me. But not with my family. My mother was suspicious of me till the day she died. I always would get, "you're not on drugs are you"???. She would complain how she wasted money on me and my education. Made me feel awful always. I had to learn to accept this. But did it ever hurt.
My family is so similar. My dad actually was the first addict on pain pills N started secretly drugging me as an early elementary school age kid. By the time I started high school I had full blown hardcore dependency and didn’t even realize it really. I thought I was doing what I was supposed to do, I trusted my dad and it was him n I against my very mentally ill mom. (Only child) anyway I ended up using stronger and stronger opiates till I was on heroin and Fentanyl and I was in my mid 30s. But I managed to remain very functional and stable and besides my dad literally no one had a clue, not family, not friends, not my own children no one. I don’t know how I did it looking back. But it made a HUGE people pleaser and I’d go above and beyond for people who didn’t deserve it, I had no healthy boundaries etc. so at 36 when I finally got into treatment and outted myself and really dove head first into therapy and groups etc I became the worlds worst human to my family and “friends”….they all loved me so much as the secret functioning heroin addict who never stood up for myself and kissed every ones ass to avoid conflict. But now as a sober healthy 40 year old they all hate on me so much. It’s shocking what my own family says to me and how they all judge me and call me a junkie now etc after 4 years sober and all my achievements in recovery etc. but no one even noticed I was dying and deeply depressed using, that’s when I was “doing my life right” bc I had to literally do mass amounts of drugs to accomplish the insane pressures I put on myself to be perfect for others. Now I only aim to do what’s best for myself. People don’t like that. Now they all gossip about what a looser I am now….sober and mentally healthy. It’s insane. They even press me to quit therapy, outpatient treatment, group etc. they offer me alcohol constantly….even tho I never drank even as a an addict but still I’m clean off everything regardless and they know it. Smh. 🤦🏻♀️
Yes, yes, yes. I had several addictions that no Western doctor would have discovered because my numbers were good. They couldn’t see my insane sugar addiction because of my TOFI body type (thin outside, fat inside) and thin genetics. I was eating sugar straight out of the bowl, several spoonfuls at a time, multiple times a night. I didn’t have honesty to offer doctors because I wasn’t honest with myself. Addictions in my life included: nicotine, alcohol, work, achievement, praise, sugar, and supplying the self absorbed with my attention and esteem. I chose to make my experience of addiction the first full episode of my podcast because addiction recovery is critical for my overall healing. Separately, I like the song of the week idea. Thank you for this video.
Agree!! I had to move on and have an understanding that people who just dont get it will never and it was no support to me! So as part of my rehab journey i just moved on!! Veey sad as lost alot of friends and family!!
I live in Fort Collins, CO. If you don’t drink regularly here, people look at you like you have lobsters crawling out of your ears. As an affluent white community, you’ll be drinking 9.5%abv imperial barrel aged beers as well. It’s so hard to cut back in this society
so insightful! the addictions that are profitable and fuel capitalism (nicotine, alcohol, junk food) are tolerated, while other addictions are criminalized in the name of "public safety" or "health" in order to disenfranchise already-vulnerable groups. regardless of whether "society" is a construct, the power structures that have determined whether a given addiction is "good" or "bad" are certainly real.
Been off suboxone for seven months now. Doing alright - other than the anhedonia, restlessness and pain of PAWS. Been looking for a "fix" for years - Ibogaine, meditation, AA, etc. Just now accepting that there is no path home - just move on. peace
Sounds like a couple folks missed the entire point of this response. This isn't about pushing the blame to society but rather an observation on how society can and will do its best to get you addicted, and become a mindless consumer. Alcohol, cigarettes, Kratom, over the counter drugs...they're all relatively inexpensive and addicting, and socially accepted. And those are just the ingestibles. What about gambling, shopping, social media threads, porn, etc? We're thrust into a world that says "buy this you'll look cool," or "drink this, you'll make friends." No addict or former addict that I know would push their history and blame society for all of their failings. Brian didn't do that here, either. Taking responsibility is always the best course of action for anything in life. But saying someone is unable to speak out about a society that not only glorifies but encourages consumption in excess, is a huge step backwards.
Yes.. yes. I'm addicted to ice cream bars right now. That's all I've been eating. It brings me pleasure. But now I'm fat. ( Ok fatter than I should be) It's really not funny.
I could not disagree more. A key element of recovery: accepting responsibility for my actions, and accepting the reality that people are going to wrong me and I must focus on what I can do about it. Blaming society is a red flag, especially coming from an addict. For instance: does the criminal justice system impose unfair penalties on addicts? Absolutely... which is precisely why I do everything in my power not to be / become an addict. I can't change society; the winning strategy is to focus on changing myself.
Thank you so much for taking my comment seriously.
Addiction needs to be treated.. not punished.. I say it all the time. Society doesn’t want to deal with the real problem.. they just want to lock us up and throw away the key.. it’s so unfortunate.. I love your videos.. I watch every week.. you’re amazing.. keep on keepin on ❤
Sure, treat addiction. But they should be prosecuted for crimes committed while using.
“As far as your day-to-day life is concerned, there is no ‘society’ . . . your life is made up of individual encounters with individual people that are in your immediate proximity” -say it louder for those in back! ✊👏
I see you everywhere bro
You just make me happy. You have such amazing insight! Thanks for being here.
"So fuck society..."
This.
100000000 times, THIS.
Ayoo. 1 week and 2 days off Kratom. Thank you
Hell yeah!! That's fantastic. Kratom is just as tough to kick as heroin, which means that you are a badass! Keep it up.
@@SmilesforMiles2024bffr. Kratom is Not As hard as heroin to get off. I still had RLS at day 30 off of h/fent. It took 1 week to be sleeping 8 hours after stopping kratom. Yes, it's not easy by any means , but come on now.
Hard to "move on" when the people treating you like you have leprosy are your entire family with whom you live with.😢😢
Move out then. Find a support system.
Can you really blame them? No.
Feeling sorry for yourself about that isn’t that way buddy. Just keep at it and over time your family will begin to trust you again. Prove to yourself and then you are worth it ❤
So true. Been off heroin for almost 2 years and surround myself with positive people and have a great support system I am very very fortunate! I also have worked very hard to get where I'm at as most people recovering from addiction have to also. God bless you 🙏
Society might not accept us, but we can accept each other. This is one of the many reasons why meetings (12 step or other) are so important. We need to talk to each other, build each other up, and create a community of safe people around us.
I couldn't agree more! After my own experiences of overcoming multiple addictions, I finally decided to launch a community/program (starting tomorrow (4th July) for anyone struggling to attend. To have that sense of community and a safe place as it can get lonely sometimes and like you said, it is so important!
So if you yourself are ever having a bad day or even if you'd like to share your own story, you're more than welcome to come along!
Still to this day I’m surprised & blessed for the support I’ve received. Ever since I told my truth my family, all my friends have been so supportive & 💯 nonjudgmental. Honesty, support of family & lifelong friends made it easier. Also anyone toxic in my life is no longer in my life. Everything else fell into place but you still have to put in the work everyday. ☺️🌹
Awesome Video! Thumbs Up 👍 and shared out.❤
Hi Brian, I was pleasantly surprised that you had your video posted earlier than normal this week. Go Brian.
It is kind of scary to think that there are so many addictions that can effect our lives adversely and yet society doesn't frown on them like Alcohol or Drug addictions. One of those addictions is Smart phones where you can go into a restaurant and a group can be sitting around a table. They most likely would looking at their phones instead of speaking with each other. This is especially true of the younger generation. Another big one is Pornography which is an addiction for quite a few people.
It is so true that addicts need the help and support to heal their addictions. Each addiction people suffer from will eventually ruin their lives if not addressed in some way or other.
Take care Brian and wish you much success taking one day at a time.
Another great video, Brian !
I wish you had the time to post more than once a week. I really feel that you connect so well with the viewers. Keep on doing what you’re doing…I wish you the best!
Society is broken. I empathize with your content. Thank you for sharing your compassion and understanding.
Thank you!
Thanks!
Whenever I mention I am 15 years sober, I usually get respect which never fails to surprise me. But not with my family. My mother was suspicious of me till the day she died. I always would get, "you're not on drugs are you"???. She would complain how she wasted money on me and my education. Made me feel awful always. I had to learn to accept this. But did it ever hurt.
My family is so similar. My dad actually was the first addict on pain pills N started secretly drugging me as an early elementary school age kid. By the time I started high school I had full blown hardcore dependency and didn’t even realize it really. I thought I was doing what I was supposed to do, I trusted my dad and it was him n I against my very mentally ill mom. (Only child) anyway I ended up using stronger and stronger opiates till I was on heroin and Fentanyl and I was in my mid 30s. But I managed to remain very functional and stable and besides my dad literally no one had a clue, not family, not friends, not my own children no one. I don’t know how I did it looking back. But it made a HUGE people pleaser and I’d go above and beyond for people who didn’t deserve it, I had no healthy boundaries etc. so at 36 when I finally got into treatment and outted myself and really dove head first into therapy and groups etc I became the worlds worst human to my family and “friends”….they all loved me so much as the secret functioning heroin addict who never stood up for myself and kissed every ones ass to avoid conflict. But now as a sober healthy 40 year old they all hate on me so much. It’s shocking what my own family says to me and how they all judge me and call me a junkie now etc after 4 years sober and all my achievements in recovery etc. but no one even noticed I was dying and deeply depressed using, that’s when I was “doing my life right” bc I had to literally do mass amounts of drugs to accomplish the insane pressures I put on myself to be perfect for others. Now I only aim to do what’s best for myself. People don’t like that. Now they all gossip about what a looser I am now….sober and mentally healthy. It’s insane. They even press me to quit therapy, outpatient treatment, group etc. they offer me alcohol constantly….even tho I never drank even as a an addict but still I’m clean off everything regardless and they know it. Smh. 🤦🏻♀️
Thanku again
Yes, yes, yes. I had several addictions that no Western doctor would have discovered because my numbers were good. They couldn’t see my insane sugar addiction because of my TOFI body type (thin outside, fat inside) and thin genetics. I was eating sugar straight out of the bowl, several spoonfuls at a time, multiple times a night. I didn’t have honesty to offer doctors because I wasn’t honest with myself. Addictions in my life included: nicotine, alcohol, work, achievement, praise, sugar, and supplying the self absorbed with my attention and esteem. I chose to make my experience of addiction the first full episode of my podcast because addiction recovery is critical for my overall healing. Separately, I like the song of the week idea. Thank you for this video.
Agree!! I had to move on and have an understanding that people who just dont get it will never and it was no support to me! So as part of my rehab journey i just moved on!! Veey sad as lost alot of friends and family!!
Badass song choice Brian!!! My best friend’s band just did a bunch of Tool cover songs Friday night!! Music heals the soul!! 🤘🎤🥁🎸
I love Tool also .
I live in Fort Collins, CO. If you don’t drink regularly here, people look at you like you have lobsters crawling out of your ears. As an affluent white community, you’ll be drinking 9.5%abv imperial barrel aged beers as well. It’s so hard to cut back in this society
so insightful!
the addictions that are profitable and fuel capitalism (nicotine, alcohol, junk food) are tolerated, while other addictions are criminalized in the name of "public safety" or "health" in order to disenfranchise already-vulnerable groups. regardless of whether "society" is a construct, the power structures that have determined whether a given addiction is "good" or "bad" are certainly real.
Dang dude, you’re on a roll. Speaking of which, I’d like to have one with you. A roll.
Just one roll
well said on like 1:00 - 3:00
When you gonna sing (: I’ve been waiting lol 😝
Been off suboxone for seven months now. Doing alright - other than the anhedonia, restlessness and pain of PAWS. Been looking for a "fix" for years - Ibogaine, meditation, AA, etc. Just now accepting that there is no path home - just move on. peace
Sounds like a couple folks missed the entire point of this response. This isn't about pushing the blame to society but rather an observation on how society can and will do its best to get you addicted, and become a mindless consumer. Alcohol, cigarettes, Kratom, over the counter drugs...they're all relatively inexpensive and addicting, and socially accepted. And those are just the ingestibles. What about gambling, shopping, social media threads, porn, etc? We're thrust into a world that says "buy this you'll look cool," or "drink this, you'll make friends." No addict or former addict that I know would push their history and blame society for all of their failings. Brian didn't do that here, either.
Taking responsibility is always the best course of action for anything in life. But saying someone is unable to speak out about a society that not only glorifies but encourages consumption in excess, is a huge step backwards.
Have you though about becoming a certified addiction counselor?
Yes.. yes. I'm addicted to ice cream bars right now. That's all I've been eating. It brings me pleasure. But now I'm fat. ( Ok fatter than I should be) It's really not funny.
I love tool! I’ve seen them a ton❤check out their remake of the song no quarter. I love Led Zeppelin too.
I could not disagree more. A key element of recovery: accepting responsibility for my actions, and accepting the reality that people are going to wrong me and I must focus on what I can do about it. Blaming society is a red flag, especially coming from an addict. For instance: does the criminal justice system impose unfair penalties on addicts? Absolutely... which is precisely why I do everything in my power not to be / become an addict. I can't change society; the winning strategy is to focus on changing myself.