Narcissism is one hell of a drug

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  • čas přidán 4. 08. 2024
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Komentáře • 64

  • @acardinalconsideration824
    @acardinalconsideration824 Před 4 měsíci +13

    “Constantly blowing into the balloon of narcissism is bound to lead to many poppenings”
    -Confucius

  • @acardinalconsideration824
    @acardinalconsideration824 Před 4 měsíci +11

    I’ve OD’d on narcissism a dozen times, minimum

  • @clintonlauderdale4856
    @clintonlauderdale4856 Před 4 měsíci +1

    You're an awesome person Tom. Keep up your hard work. It WILL pay off.

  • @dustinemerzian5989
    @dustinemerzian5989 Před 4 měsíci +6

    The best thing to remember, is that there is no one who will remember. Judge yourself not that ye be not judged should be the true meaning of that statement.

  • @austinz9862
    @austinz9862 Před 4 měsíci

    You’re moving full speed ahead with your channel and that’s great but please take a minute to chill out and collect! You’re awesome Tom! Great to have ya back in the zeitgeist

  • @ThePetibonum66
    @ThePetibonum66 Před 4 měsíci +35

    As a narcissict myself, i'd like to get this comment liked so much it would inflate my ego to the point that it blows out 🎈

    • @TF2Starlight
      @TF2Starlight Před 4 měsíci +1

      I love you sm pls can I get your autograph it would mean the world to me. I’m such a fan!

    • @FryGuuuuuy
      @FryGuuuuuy Před 4 měsíci +1

      You got my like man. Been a follower of yours since day 1 when i put the first poster of yours on my wall

  • @Andremetheartist
    @Andremetheartist Před 4 měsíci +1

    I'm sorry to hear about your friend, honestly when you started speaking about gaslighting I immediately thought of a friend of mine that had a similar incident with. They hit my headphones off my head (ultimately breaking them) oneday on the bus we were taking for a field trip, swore at me and made it a big joke in front of the year group. I confronted them afterwards saying I do not appreciate how they treated me, thinking they would understand what they did was wrong. They proceeded to tell me how it was just a joke and that my ego is hurt thats why Im responding the way I did and that I should check my ego. We ended up parting ways because they couldnt live with the idea of being wrong, they couldnt live with their own image being tarnished so they ended up saying we should go our separate ways, even though I said Im willing to forgive them and willing to move on. So Id say my biggest lesson I took from it all myself is learn to acknowledge when youre wrong, and learn to live with not always being right in life. Heck we aren't always right in life, thats being human, to me the best lessons Ive extracted from this life have been in the moments I was wrong, or incorrect, or off the path. People that always are surrounded by agreeableness, never receive conflict, never got told no as kids are the ones that ALWAYS respond poorly to criticism, conflict, failure etc.

  • @marektuma7331
    @marektuma7331 Před 4 měsíci

    really like the recent content Tom

  • @nickmcdonald4888
    @nickmcdonald4888 Před 4 měsíci

    I like the analogy you drew between narcissism and cocaine. To take that a little deeper, I think any sort of negative emotion or state of being can become addictive in a sense. If you don't know or can't conceive any other way of being you're gonna be grasping at straws, trying ANYTHING to avoid looking within.

  • @thinkofme5527
    @thinkofme5527 Před 4 měsíci

    wow strong words man, i look up to you.

  • @Justin--ze6qq
    @Justin--ze6qq Před 4 měsíci

    Wish this was more understood by people. It’s all about accountability and communication instead of fighting fire with (perceived) fire.

  • @scottandcoke1342
    @scottandcoke1342 Před 4 měsíci +7

    I wash myself with a rag on a stick

    • @wswolf12
      @wswolf12 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Are you Brett Keane?

  • @SkellyMC
    @SkellyMC Před 4 měsíci

    Self-preservation vs. narcissism

  • @babovic7775
    @babovic7775 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Im the opposite of a narcissist

  • @RePotHead
    @RePotHead Před 4 měsíci

    I'm mad at my friend for a lot of things, & i feel like i get these narcissistic traits, but i also feel hurt, disappointed & left out. Also insecurities in myself that makes me think bad thoughts. But i don't know if it's narcissistic

  • @SkellyMC
    @SkellyMC Před 4 měsíci

    Depends on your goals as well when starting with SoME, are doing for being popular, are you doing for being heard, help other people, or just connect to like minded people and take it easy, since SoME doesn't have to be a grind for self-image, can also be used a plate to find like-minded friends, but if someone get popular then I can see how narcissism can start to seep in

  • @W3Ar33pic
    @W3Ar33pic Před 4 měsíci +1

    ay tom youre a fucking G keep it up brotha

  • @mrki731
    @mrki731 Před 3 měsíci

    You are gorgeous!

  • @GrandmasterFerg
    @GrandmasterFerg Před 4 měsíci

    HG Tudor is a great resource on narcissistic personality disorder.

    • @hidden2753
      @hidden2753 Před 4 měsíci

      Genuine question.. What is with that guy's obsession with Harry's wife? I have tried to look through the channel for some interesting insights into narcissism and it's like 95% just Harry's wife who I couldn't give less of a sh!t about

    • @GrandmasterFerg
      @GrandmasterFerg Před 4 měsíci +1

      ​@hidden2753 According to him, he met her twice in person, the videos consistently get him higher views, she's always looking for attention and therefore plenty of consistent content.
      I'm not surprised Harry's wife gets high views on his channel, i'd say about 80% of his subscribers are scorned middle-aged women

    • @GrandmasterFerg
      @GrandmasterFerg Před 4 měsíci

      ​@@hidden2753I know what you mean, I never watch those

    • @hidden2753
      @hidden2753 Před 4 měsíci

      Yes, that makes sense that he is probably catering to middle-aged women. He seems like the kind of character who would create those sh!tty clickbait tabloid magazines in the shops that cater to that same demographic too. Fascinating character, but too much noise on his channel for me to really get into it..

    • @GrandmasterFerg
      @GrandmasterFerg Před 4 měsíci +1

      @hidden2753 You'd have to be a narcissist psychopath to run one of those magazines haha I get you, I can't watch those videos.
      He has an interview playlist and it's probably the best way of understanding the narcissistic dynamic and how their brains work, it cuts right through the noise

  • @ClairvoyantEntertainment
    @ClairvoyantEntertainment Před 4 měsíci

    its a slippery slope, that narcissism. very confusing stuff that is boy. ruined many lives of victims and perpetrators, very very confusing.

  • @MartialArtUK
    @MartialArtUK Před 4 měsíci

    Interesting , ok I will answer thanks, 1) I like criticism but it's taken a long time to get to this point, I find it entertaining most of the time apart from my worst critic , me , I really hate on myself with no mercy and that does hurt. 2 , I take any apology offered and quick.to give one , a product of my training is the cause and reaction. Its good to be humble, if anything I apologise for things I don't need too . 3 , I like to see people successful but i don't see myself as successful I'm not I don't like that again I blame myself for more that I can be responsible for.

  • @staudingerk
    @staudingerk Před 4 měsíci

    How is your relationship with Adam?

  • @handyhacker11
    @handyhacker11 Před 4 měsíci

    I just want to be appreciated by a few and appreciate myself.

  • @DRO_710
    @DRO_710 Před 4 měsíci +1

    🔥

  • @psychordelia
    @psychordelia Před 4 měsíci

    Sounds like your friend has some unresolved trauma where the narcissistic defensive blowups could stem from. Takes A LOT of courage and time to break that ego down & face yourself. also keep in mind some untreated mental illnesses can stop you from coming to an accountability mindset due to lack of specific molecules or nutrition. Some of us are/were so insecure & don't even realize how many unresolved onion layers there are until we're medicated (Western, eastern, psychedelic....)
    So complicated.... Ugh
    But yeah best to let them go until they can be better (if they do)

  • @enrott8560
    @enrott8560 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Is it narcissistic to take all critisism and apply it to yourself to better yourself so you have more reason to say youre better than everyone else because you actually take criticism and fix yourself? 🤔

    • @extrullorgd4444
      @extrullorgd4444 Před 3 měsíci

      Saying you are better than everyone is a serious narcissistic trait.

  • @elusion23one41
    @elusion23one41 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Bro i dont trust your psychological advice in the state your in recently go back amd listen to some of the comments you make about yourself in your videos

    • @DayDream-RR
      @DayDream-RR Před 4 měsíci

      Many of us are doing the best we can in this moment to relieve suffering. It’s imperfect, but in that imperfection IS the perfection. Get me?

    • @elusion23one41
      @elusion23one41 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Struggling and suffering are not the same thing. You won't die from struggling but you could from suffering. I would say the same thing to my older brother and only cause I expect better from them a little gratitude goes a long way i heard tom speak and this is like an crisis or something he needs to be challenged in my opinion to see some clarity and actually attain a true understanding of the things he preaches

  • @mesopable
    @mesopable Před 4 měsíci +2

    Toms decent into stimulant boosted npc-domhood

    • @mesopable
      @mesopable Před 4 měsíci

      Naa naah. You can do. Also on the cutting table you could be more ruthless. 5-10min vids?

    • @thehandliesthandle
      @thehandliesthandle Před 4 měsíci

      did tom say hes on stimulants? he did mention he was considering adhd medication. i am getting stimulant vibes a little bit

  • @cj548
    @cj548 Před 4 měsíci +5

    NO. it's Addiction to persona*. The Self is unchanging and has no attributes. How about learning something before opening your mouth

    • @ShynolaDaStumpt
      @ShynolaDaStumpt Před 4 měsíci +7

      “NO”🤓 get over urself

    • @cj548
      @cj548 Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@ShynolaDaStumpt nope sry. It's get over your persona* good luck basic beach

    • @JustRidiculingCurrriculum
      @JustRidiculingCurrriculum Před 4 měsíci

      the "self" is god. dummy. where is cj wrong lmao@@ShynolaDaStumpt

    • @grain-coat
      @grain-coat Před 4 měsíci +1

      " How about learning something before opening your mouth" hahahaha

    • @CHANNEL__ZER0
      @CHANNEL__ZER0 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@cj548as you will always.. be “you”

  • @triple_gem_shining
    @triple_gem_shining Před 4 měsíci +2

    Make positive vidoes

  • @DRO_710
    @DRO_710 Před 4 měsíci +3

    I LOVE BOTH YOU AND DAKOTA. 🤍

  • @Pedroza17
    @Pedroza17 Před 2 měsíci

    just want to thank you @atyourmatetom for always inspiring me in times of need.

  • @Mr.CreamCheese69
    @Mr.CreamCheese69 Před 4 měsíci +5

    the false God is the self

    • @moonglow6639
      @moonglow6639 Před 4 měsíci +1

      the concept can be but not your real self :)

    • @GrandmasterFerg
      @GrandmasterFerg Před 4 měsíci

      In Jungian psychology, the self is a fully integrated human

    • @Mr.CreamCheese69
      @Mr.CreamCheese69 Před 4 měsíci

      @GrandmasterFerg not exactly in alignment with what I said. I'm not defining the self here