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0:00 My Entitled Mother demanded that I take out a 1-million-dollar mortgage, just so she could build her dream home, but I refused. Now she hates me. (u/aknic05)
4:25 Am I the Jerk for not being the ideal son?
7:58 My Entitled In-laws are blaming my wife and kids for their increase in mortgage payments, and are expecting us to pay more money to live with them. (u/MrMarineManV)
10:29 My friend wants to have a baby with a guy she met a month ago! (u/LL14_Elite)
13:17 My girlfriend of almost 4 years cheated on me, and I donât know what to do about it. (u/Legitimate-Nobody-89)
17:07 After ten years together, my partner wonât marry me. (u/ladyyummybear)
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âStory 2â I have sympathy for you. I am pretty much in the exact place as you, my mom even said to my face that she doesnât care about my mental health. She keeps me stuck in the house, I rarely get to go hang out with my friends, everyone else but her, actually understands me and who I am as a person.
With my friends. Everyone else but her,
I have respect 4 u
I respect you for dealing with your mother with her like that. (I hope youâre doing okay though)
Tank u :)
Story 2: Similar situation myself, however I've seen the other side. My parents treated me as a trophy child because I did decent in school. They placed expectations on me that I didn't want to meet and couldn't. I was the punching bag for my "friends" who actually kicked me out the group because they were bullying me and I told someone after months of suffering. I wouldn't say my advice is the best but if you can cut contact with them. Blood is thicker than water but that doesn't stop it being poisonous. Family is a double edged sword. It can be the your greatest strength or most crippling weakness. Parents that constantly put you down and try to erase your sense of self aren't parents they're slavers
Hope you're having a great day
You too
Ya
Thanks
You as well :) though this was a year ago^ lol
Story 4: Under no circumstance cheating should be excused. It is not a mistake, it is a choice. There are ppl that will guilt trip you by saying, "oh you were so distant, oh, I did this because u gave me no attention", blah, blah. You should always brake up with a cheater , no matter how long you've been together, no matter how much they said they drunk. Might be hard, especially if you love that person a lot, but choosing to continue the relationship will only make everything worse, because you will never have the same trust towards the person that cheated on you and you will become controlling, this will bring stress in the relation and it will slowly become toxic.
Nothing is ever this simple.
You can choose your pride. Or you might choose some financial stability for your children since you quit your job to be a Mom 12 years ago.
So you decide to go back to school instead. You choose to build your social circle again. You make your husband who you haven't left regret his life's choices... while he might be continuing to make bad choices.
And when you're ready to fly again. Do it. Maybe that's with your husband, maybe it's with yourself. But now it's truly your choice âĄ
The idea isn't to make decisions in pride.
@@msbaboolal Ok, I am sorry, but I am confused, what does what you said have to do with the 4th story? Like I honestly have no idea what you are talking about XD
@@andreiscobai4206 Hahahhahahaha I know I donât understand either
@@andreiscobai4206 It's probably a personal story of how they, or someone close to them dealt with infidelity (when children and marriage were factors, which they weren't in story four).
So, no, it doesn't seem to be about story four. It seems to be a response to the absolutist mentality that there's no other healthy options than to immediately dump a cheater in any circumstance.
Personally, I don't subscribe to that one size fits all mentality either. But, in the case of story four..... both OP and the girlfriend were well aware that the coworkers were very attractive and capable men. Perhaps moreso than OP. The girlfriend was completely unapologetic about walking out on OP and shooting her shot with a coworker. Then, came crying back to the boyfriend when it didn't work out with the coworker. He should NOT take her back. She's clearly not committed to him nor does she care about how he felt about any of this. She will very likely do this again the next time a better option appears. That's just where she's at in life. He doesn't need to subject himself to that. He can walk away as freely as she did. And should do exactly that in this case because he needs to have more respect for his time, energy, and affection than she does by not wasting it on a person who so callously traded him in. He's a human being. Not a life-raft to save a drowning person from her own stupid choices.
That's not the case in every cheating situation. But, it sure is the case for this one.
@@rachelsarmientotack you've hit the nail on the head.
My response is to the absolutist methodology applied in the comment I was responding to.
Mom from story #1 would be living in a house that looked like Eeyore's before I'd take out a loan for 1 million for her. đ€Źđ
I love your videos!
HOW??????
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Everyone (most people): paying attention to the storys
Me (and some other people people):paying attention to the game more than the story
(And kinda the story)
pffft , true.
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Story 1: Your failed parental unit does not care about you, OP. I used to call such parents glorified sperm/egg donors, but that is an insult to actual sperm/egg donors.
*Story 2:* I know the feeling. Expressing my feelings verbally has always been a challenge to me. Every time I try, I always get tongue-tied.
keep up the good work
Story 2: I can relate to having social anxiety, and having mentally and verbally abusive parents would make that a lot worse. If i could i would beat the *living crap* out of them for raising their kid in such a way.
Story #4: the guy should totally break up with her. If she's able to cheat on him once, she'll probably be willing to cheat on him again in the future. And she also did say that she doesn't regret it. She later did change her statement about that, but probably just because she realized that the guy would kick her out, so she's letting out the crocodile-tears to manipulate him, just so she could stay. I personally am kinda sure that she did not just cheat once, she probably did the deed with her ,,work-buddys" everytime she stayed late at work. She also pulled the ,,I was unhappy for months" card and tried to justify her behavior. Considering that justifying and her saying that she didn't regret it, its already obvious that it wasn't just a ,,drunken-Mistake", so she cant pull that card anymore, cuz it ain't working anymore, lady.
Yeah, his female friend is on point. He should totally cut ties with her. If she was really unhappy then she could've talked to him or break up, not cheat. If he stays with her then she'll probably just get better in hiding her behavior.
Ur the best!
Hi AmITheJerk I love your videos
I love ur vids
I put this before sleeping đđ€Ș
If I listened to this before bed I wouldnât be able to sleep, this stuff just boils my blood, because ppl can be so rude and stupid
I have been getting on a roll with watching you and I love the stories I'm glad you find these stories from the community and if you didnt. . . Well I would be bored.
@@AmItheJerk I wish I had stories to submit lol, I'm only a teen right now so I don't have many experiences with people to share.
story 2. this one really hit home. I was in the exact situation. nothing I said or did was ever good enough. I'm now in my early 30s and can tell you how I made it this far. the idea of talking to an adult that you can trust like the guidance counselor is your best plan of action. having that stable support system of an impartial adult is the best aid you can get. the more the better. teachers,counselors principals it doesn't matter. but the more the better. just hang in there my guy. it gets easier. and know your only alone if YOU allow it
7:00 instead of seeing it as a punishment try to get them to get you a counselor or a psychologist. If your telling the whole story, they will likely be able to help you to get your parents to see what they are doing.
Time to binge this đđđ
This is my new favorite channel
I love your videos
nice vid
The second story is my whole life when Iâm with my dad
Every single story in this entire chann3l is just so interesting to the point that it isn't funny anymore
Honestly my favorite stories are relationship issues
Np bro keep up the great work!
The second story I could relate to alot it's sad unfortunately but it happens đ
#1 Why would he even want to have anything to do with his mother? Go no contact.
The second one. My parents were like that, as soon as I hit 17 I moved out and cut all ties, and life has been great without them.
4# If someone cheated on me I would cut ties immediately
No way! They should give there entitle Mother a loan for $1,000,000 to build her a House.
OP w/ horrible parents. The observation and advice provided are excellent. I have two more. Start working on making or improving friendships with people that actually care about you and support you. Then get the heck away from your parents as soon as you are able to. They are toxic and a drain on your mental health. It may be a while before you can get free which is why having caring supportive friendships/relationships are important while you wait until you can get out.
AT the fist story my mother was like that and my dad was the only good parent
You have completed. Me with the stories
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(Stayed for the food prep)
YES
Story #2 is kinda something I know about but it was not my parents it was almost my entire 4th grade class
Is it bad I relate to story 2 a lot.
Story #3-- The mortgage sounds like it's an ARM, or adjustable rate mortgage. Which would be going up now with general interest rates. A lot of buyers chose those when they were cheaper than fixed-rate loans during all-time low interest rates. And a lot of them have gotten in trouble when the rates rose, and could no longer afford their mortgages. But ARM rates have absolutely nothing to do with the number of occupants. Sounds like the in-laws made a bad decision to get a cheaper loan, and are now paying the price. Or more specifically, are expecting OP to pay the price
They stated it was a fixed rate. However, taxes and insurance can go up if they use escrow to pay that. Either wayâŠ.they are idiots!!
My husband and I have been married for almost 22 years. He still hasn't proposed, LOL! He just told me we were engaged after a month, and I couldn't have a better life.
As someone who works in a bank I can confirm that the number of people living in a home in no way impacts the mortgage payments. Chances are the property tax for where the OP and their inlaws live, or some insurance premium that the inlaws are escrowing went up, or even an HOA fee increased, and that's why the mortgage payments increased.
"This is a really tricky situation". It's not. It's really not.
In regards of the last story, their is the expectation of common law marriage, if you are with someone for at least 7 years, I know it varies from location to location and sometimes location doesnât always have this law
Story 2(AKA the subreddit): if I was op, I would turn the table on my parents and happily become insane just to see how much they like it when I use it on them and potentially unalive them, I have a strict belief that I will never change and happily do if I need to or given the perfect opportunity, and my belief is that anyone who is so awful and willing to go through such lengths to harm others, needs to be taken out of this world regardless of age, medical issues, beliefs, or status, they need to go by any means possible, but not saying I will or want to do it because I'm mostly a pacifist.
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No parent of mine would ask me for a mortgage for them .Even if i was a billionaire.
cheaters will always cheat so deal breaker period
Gekond, Am I the jerk? Is Girst lol
The whole point of a fixed rate loan is that the payments DON'T change if interest rates change. That's what fixed rate means. The interest rate doesn't change. It's a variable rate loan where the rate can change based on fluctuations in rates.
OP in the second story, JUST ASK YOU PARENTS WHY THEY DO THE THINGS THAT THEY SO
Hey Am I The Jerk I love ur videos
Not for nothing but me and my wife were all in after 2 weeks and 13 years, two kids and a mortgage later I have no regrets. Sometimes when you know, you know.
1.000.000$ this is getting ridiculous
16:10 if your gf sincerely regrets what she has done and you still want to be with her, I would recommend going to couples counseling and see if you can try to mend the relationship.
nope. Can't stick it out with the office ho. this economy requires two incomes and every day she works is another opportunity to f up. nobody needs that stress in their life.
No. That won't work. All the blame will be put on the dude. Telling him he messed up to "make her cheat". NONE of the responsibility or accountability will be placed on the woman. He needs to boot her a$$.
Are the universe's way of apologizing for family because you can't choose your given family.
The last one only other thing I think of he could be married on paper
OP of story 2, call their bluff on the psychologist. Any professional will be able to tell you that your parents are the problem and with any luck they can help you escape that toxic situation you are in.
To be honest, my parents weren't married for four years. They only got married a few years ago, but the years before that weren't married and they raised all my siblings and I'm the youngest so don't worry everything will be fine and if not saved money I would say
Already
On mortgages go up it's not fixed
*Story 1:* What the hell? How can anyone afford to take out a loan for $1,000,000? Even if it's for a good thing, such as building someone a house, so what? Unless he works for a company that pays that kind of money, no one can afford that kind of money.
Story 1 that mom should ask Elon musk for the money
run away!!!!!
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She wants to move to another country.... Nowhere in the post was there mention he agreed to move, he was "okay" with her decision to move after the baby was conceived.
Yes, 10 years is an incredibly long time, but those friends who said 5-8 months are idiots. That's not even being out of the "honeymoon phase" of the relationship.
Last story , he might be afraid that op would divorce him after a year and take half of everything he owns , i don t blame him , betrayal never comes from an enemy , but from the people closer to us or closest , yes 10 years of dating is alot but we all know how crazy humanity is and how far people could go for their hearts desire , and , as mentioned in the story , he s an anxious person , he s gonna think at the scenarios where the outcome is bad rather than the outcome that is good.
I really want to know what this game is
Get your free here before a day ticket here!
2nd story OP needs to move out of that household when they get the chance if the parents not helping and just undermining your mental health you need to get out of it there ASAP
Why does another one say you have a sister even though you say you donât have any siblings
This mother what Is she?
First story.The mother is despicable and evil like mine Carrie.Dont waste time trying to get along.Ghost and forget about her.
I literally had a girlfriend that after a month of dating asked me to get her pregnant I was smart though and said no along with a dozen reasons of why that was a bad idea
me sad that the gameplay person didn't beat their high score
For the last story. Me and my boyfriend have been together 24 years. I purposed to him 14 years ago. We've been through alot together, but at the end of the day. I have my best friend at my side that'll never cheat on me, and I'd never cheat on him. It's almost like we're married anyway. This is just another spin on it, if you decide to stay.
What is the game in the video called?
Story 4 starts out girlfriend and then he changed it to wife? Was that a misspeak?
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Story 2: i think you can let your parents get head doctor bc the doc isnt gonna be payed for your parents but for you. I think he will know that the parents are the problem. Good luck man
Bro I wonât be surprised if heâs going to talk about child aborshin
That woman should not have a baby. She's making immature decisions left right and center. Also a guy willingly wanting to move and have a baby with you after a month is a red flag
There is no such thing as a bad child.
Just bad parenting.
When society starts making mothers accountable, a lot of the worlds problems will disappear.
I am in the same situation as #2 but I am living with my ex wife and she is verbally abusive to me. I have nowhere else to go and she throws it in my face all the time. I wish I was dead sometimes.
Next time you're at work or the library, look up local resources for battered/abused spouses. They can probably help you
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The girlfriend in story four is pure cancer. She only regrets it after she tried it on with the guy she cheated with. The guy should cut her out of his life, and go no contact. Kick that trash out and move on with your life.
Story 5. OP, dump her. She could be genuinely regretful. But it could also be a matter that the situation with the person she cheated with went sour so all of a sudden she's sorry. If that is the case she will be sorry until she finds someone else. She lied to you more than once and only came clean when the guy she was with sent some texts using her phone. There is a good chance she wouldn't have said anything if that hadn't happened. So dump her, you deserve better.
Story one the mom should get a job
I have to agree do things outside your home would be better for you if you can find somewhere else to live look at the hell out of your parents house and they're doing that kind of s*** then it's not worth sticking around I know you love your parents who doesn't but after treating you like crap that badly that's trying to find your own place and get out on your own if you can don't let them bring you down okay
What is that game
boy i regret not watching your vids
Can u share my story so when I was in 4 grade I was on my on 2 friends and many bullies once when I was being bullied my brain burst I was like a wild animal on a hunt I started have rage issues in 6th grade I had no good friend and more bully then 1 guy become my friend so good we called which other partner we were just friend then 1 day I saw him with the bully I took him away but he said they were better friend it was hard I left him then 2 years later I was going to be in class 9 I wanted to mixe thing with those bully then when asked what he's father does he said he's father is dead once when I was fighting a bully when my teacher who was a nice lady took ME in another class and told ME to seat down I snapped that they were the one at fault but she said that his can be angry too i lost hop plz tell me what to do
Story 4 oh thatâs how fatherless people get made that makes sense legit bro he wonât be able to handle the responsibilities of a kid and then leave then the mother will A put the baby in adoption or take care of the baby and have allot of pain oh yea the father will come back when the kid is grown or when their kid gets rich then he wants money
The game play Hurts
Can someone pls give me the game name
The last story sounds too familiar these day's. Why buy a cow when you are getting free milk? Leave and give him something to think about.
What are you talking to her, you know she will screw you and have the home to someone else or the bank will take it, you know thus. just leave say I live you. And bye!!!!!!!
Dude, if someone is going to screw you over by being verbally abusive, for ex. your mom, then you need to avoid that at all costs, you don't need that in you're life. If your mother isn't willing to rekindle that relationship with you, then it's a lose/lose chance for you.
Story 3 they werenât dating
Do have a story of ur own
Am I the jerk because I feel murderous all the time?
This all started then I was a 11 year old boy. Bullies were everywhere at WMS, I'm sure of it. After I got a best friend the 2nd day of school, bullies started showing up. They kept calling us ugly and stuff, and I said one word: Stop.
Apparently, they had 1000% more power just because I said stop. They would show up to us every day we were outside, and kept trying to break us and join their gang. They even got physical one day. On the last 5 weeks of school, I started breaking. But not in the way you expect. I wanted murder for some reason, and at times wanted to die myself. I still have this urge today, and I might need help. Please help me, am I the jerk in this situation?
I feel sorry for you. I can't relate to people being bullied, and I've personally never seen it before, so maybe my opinion doesn't matter that much on this. (For context, everyone in my public school experience acts like good boys and girls around me, and I think it as a curse rather than a blessing). I don't think you are a jerk. I do however think you probably need to consider seeing a therapist, and finding people in your life willing to support you. The fact these bullies tried so hard to assert themselves when you simply said stop makes them garbage humans. I hope this helps a little and I wish you the best of luck going ahead in life.
-EswnPlaysEverything
Not a jerk at all, sounds like you're struggling with your mental health and that's ok you just need to see a mental health professional to find out what exactly is going on and how to handle it