Advice to my middle school self - Q&A about insecurities
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- čas přidán 17. 11. 2022
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Takes a lot to publicize your insecurities but in the end it helps other people as well, including me, so thank you Amber. We love you so much 🥺🌸💖
I ❤️ U!!
this is EXACTLY what the younger generation needs. thank you 👏🏽
im biracial too and it's just so hard to fit in sometimes, but knowing that you are finding people and feeling more connected, gives me hope for myself :') thank you, amber! ily
Sending u a hug!!!!❤️❤️❤️
yes!!
virtual hug @12:50 🥺thanks for opening up to us about these difficult topics
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Didn’t think I’d be crying watching this and how much I could relate. Thank you for being open and awesome
AW!! I love u bae❤️
@@amberalexander I grew up in Missouri half white and have have Filipino and this video brought back so many memories . Once I brought coconut jello to class for snack time in kindergarten and everyone made fun of it on the shelf we set our snacks on. When it was snack time I was too afraid and sad to say that it was mine when the teacher asked who left their snack on the shelf. I didn’t eat anything that day I was so sad. TO THIS DAY I’m afraid to eat coconut jello because of how I felt that day :(
AWH AMBER DON’T CRY ♥️ i asked the question abt undesirability as a poc and what you said genuinely made something click. i’m a freshman in college and was heavily considering transferring to a more diverse place out of my comfort zone and this helped me realize that finding more ppl who share similar experiences is something that excites me. thank you amber
YES MAKE THIS A SERIES PLEASE - this video was needed (been going thru it :,)) and i love how these experiences are so unique yet universal its crazy ily amber u slay always
AH TY i love u!!!!💗💗
Yes pls! I relate so much being a middle child also 🥲
as a skinny person i always thought that eating a lot of junk would get me bigger, but although that is true, this video made me realize how unhealthy it could be for me internally and externally
i’m wasian too and i related so much with dealing with being asian and white. but finding people that support you helps sm with fitting in pls don’t cry you are beautiful amber ❤
I’m Blasian and this sucks even more
12:10 has me SOBBING. omg just being a POC in a majority white school it hits so hard. My confidence and self love is so drastically different and better now but the flashbacks of those times, being so YOUNG, and truly believing I was ugly because of the evnoirment I was around, really just brought me to tears. ily amber ty for making this video
love you, amber!!
at first i started seeing your videos bc of your sister (i hate saying that 😭) but throughout the years i actually feel a lot more connected to you. you are so fun and so so real + so pretty. i know making this video must have taken a lot of courage from you.
it's okay to be shy, you are still so cool and i'd love to have a friend like you.
sending you hugs and love from peru
as a little filipina college freshman, i understand the feeling of thinking you may be undesirable just because you look different and are the "asian girl" in a community of white people. oh my goodness the more you speak, the more you explain your experiences i just relate to you so much. thank you so much for sharing and letting all of us find each other, realizing how we aren't alone. dude i love you. and fr being in a loving relationship is insane.
bro the shy younger sister/confident older sister dynamic has haunted me. i’ve had to really overcome my jealousy and view us both as individuals with different skillsets and experiences. i really appreciate your honesty
it was the same thing for my sister and I. my friends would eventually become her friends and it would end up making me feel alone. it changed my mindset into thinking "wow everyone loves my sister" which made me into a very jealous type for everything 😭
i'm half white half korean too and spent pretty much my whole life in really ethnically diverse areas until I moved south in the middle of high school. i'm telling you i have never felt more unattractive after moving. i feel the same exact way that your younger self did and what's crazy is that even though i feel like no white person will find me attractive unless they have an asian fetish, im literally WHITE and ASIAN -i'm the product of what i think deep down isn't possible for me.
what's more is that all the non-asian that have confessed to me in the past all seemed to have an unhealthy obsession with anime and somehow that made me feel like i was just a manifestation of their fantasies
This made me tear up because I felt the exact same way growing up as one of the only asian girls in my Elementary school. I was called Mulan and ugly. Boys didn’t want anything to do with me and girls didn’t want to to be my friend or they would bully me into doing things. It still makes me cry till this day when I think about it long enough. But I will say these experiences have really taught me to have tough skin and love yourself. I really appreciate this video and Amber opening up to the world about this. Thank you ❤
"When I was a kid, I really needed someone to talk about these things and make me feel okay about them." I feel that on a spiritual level.
dang that last part resonated so hard with me. growing up with undiagnosed social anxiety/avpd/autism, school was SO hard for me. i literally didn't/couldn't talk to anyone. people didn't like me for acting autistic, which reinforced the avpd/social anxiety, which made it even harder to interact with others, and so on and so forth. it was a never ending cycle. i felt paralyzed with shame and unrelenting feelings of inferiority. which i still do to this day.
just gotta remember to tell myself that it's a trauma response, and to not beat myself up too much about it afterwards. there is nothing shameful about feeling shame.
As a mexican growing up in a white community I feel so understood by what you said. I never really knew how to express this insecurity and I’m so glad I’m not alone, thank you for sharing
when you answered the question about feeling undesirable, especially as a POC, my younger self could not relate more. i’m half hispanic and grew up in a super small, very white town. i remember idolizing my white, blonde friends because they were referred to as pretty way more often than i was. i truly just hope that the next generation of POC recognize and appreciate their beauty before reaching adulthood/college. i’m so sorry that you had to go through what you did, and i hope it helps to know you were not and are not alone. thank you for reminding me of the same
Related this to the core, we appreciate you sm amber!
I relate so much, as someone who also has an older sister (who i love so much and owe alot to) who was naturally good with people and center of attention and me who was younger, extremely introverted, and also had a bad relationship with food. Man I never felt so seen and understood. Sending everyone love!!
I can’t believe she thought she wasn’t a likable person like SRSLY I would die to have a friend like amber with such good values and immaculate personality that’s literally the only thing I think about while watching her videos. I’m so surprised. But I’m letting you know how incredibly you are perceived by others amber❤
amber i am so proud of you for being willing to post about your insecurities, i wanted to say i really love you and you are one of my comfort people and everytime i see that you post i’m so happy, i know its hard to be compared to your older sister, but that doesn’t take away from who you are as a person, i really appreciate who you are and what you do, i’m so grateful for you and im happy you decided to join youtube, i also wanted to say i think you’re so beautiful and so funny and so wonderful and you are so great just as you are, im glad you’ve gotten better about feeling that way and im not great at communicating but im just grateful for you regardless of how you look and how you feel mentally, i think you are wonderful
This video is so important, thank you amber 💗
This is painfully so relatable.... I LUV you Amber. Thank you.
You and Ashley are so healing to listen to.
thank you so much amber for sharing this, it made me feel so valued and understood
Your videos always make me feel happy and motivated afterwards 💛
thank you for opening up. this felt very candid and I really enjoyed this
A big HECK YES to this video!!! For someone that you are right now and someone that you are going to be in the future, be proud and celebrate who you are today, tomorrow and for the days to come. So much love for you all :))
make this a series. this video was so helpful and honestly just good to hear from you. you made really complicated feelings and experiences easy to understand and normalize. when your school aged, things can be heavy and feel like an ambiguous darkness. you’re such a light just in how to teach us that insecurities are things we are able to have better relationships with as we live our human experiences. we have to give our selves a day at a time. well said!
much love!
Please make this is a series. Loved this video Amber!
slay amber this was probably my favourite video of yours thank you for being so open🥰
This was my favorite video amber ❤ thank you for being so vulnerable with us we love you ❤
Thank you for shining light on this!! Had a similar experience growing up! Sending you a virtual hug!!! You’re amazing bestie stay safe & gorg 🥹!! & Happy holidays 💛💛!!
amber you are literally an angel for being so open and vulnerable!! this was so relatable and sad at the same time!!💔
I just woke up and I see the notifications that Amber posted ❤❤❤ LETS GOOO
you are so genuine amber, i loved this video so much :")
not amber making me cry :,) im so proud of you! i would definitely love to see this become a series, i need more of big sister amber!! much love
I’m so happy I found your channel, you have such a nice mentality and way of thinking about life, it definitely changed my mentality in the best way
I can totally relate to so many things you mentioned. I just want you to know that this video helps us a lot that it reminds us that we are not alone. Thanks Amber.
the social anxiety thing resonates with me so much. It’s nice to see someone who felt the same way that I do and is now living her best life
love sm thank u for this so glad to have someone to relate to so sorry we both have had to go through this but i’m glad we can improve from it
love these types of videos! you are so insightful and brave. i’m so glad to find someone who i can relate to xx
omg amber you should definitely continue doing these type of videos!!
I'm literally crying with you. Thank you for your words amber!
Honestly, these videos where you can hear about some painful experiences that people you admire have suffered are the best, you are not seeing that person who shows you beautiful things, you are seeing their soul speak to you and that gives you such great comfort. Knowing that they have gone through so much pain but that little by little they advance and overcome their fears. My respect for you and your sister is huge, they give my days an inexplicable happiness and I always wish you only the best. Thank you for opening your soul to us, we love you. I send you lots of hugs from Costa Rica 🇨🇷
Thank you Amber for sharing all these😭❤️❤️you are the best
I straight up love listening to this woman
great video amber💯 only halfway thru it and I already feel so much enlightened & positive💗, couldn't fight the urge to comment. love it queen, preachh!!
I'm so proud of you for sharing all these experiences, but also wanna say thank you cause I really feel safe in this channel and you're one of my fav youtubers, you're literally so sweet and kind
thank you for speaking on these subjects! it takes a lot of strength.
This whole video got me feeling emotional and the subjects you talked about made me think how I use to do the same thing, maturing is definitely figuring out how to be your true self
🥺melted my heart when you teared up, thank you for sharing and opening up
you are so real for this amber i love you and thank you for being vulnerable with us
amber i think this is one of my favorite video of yours, just you being able to talk about all of this now just show how strong and like happy you are now and im so happy for you !! i am so so proud of you !!
THIS IS OFFICIALLY MY FAVE AMBER VIDEO. ILYSM AMBER!!
Thank you for talking about these topics, I know it’s hard for myself to talk about this with people I know but seeing you be so open about it with all of us is so inspiring. Love you Amber!!
as a junior in college who is also going through daily epiphanies and self reflections about how i treated myself when i was younger, this video hit hard 🥲
thank you for making this video , it is comforting to watch 💗💗
I’m half asian half white as well and I’ve been fortunate to live in SoCal where the asian demographic is much larger than other more white areas. But as my biracial people know, being half of two things means you’re whole of nothing. It is hard sometimes knowing we aren’t accepted in so many places, but its stuff like this video that reminds us that everyone is valued and loved! Thanks so much :)
I LOVE YOU AMBER, you’re an amazing gall and a great influence
Oh my goodness this was so so good !! You literally hit so many awesome points and grew huge from every negative that tried to come against you in such a positive outcome !! It’s incredible !! This vid should be played in every middle school and high school - that u can get through this and grow through this thing called life !! You are literally amazing and wise and I am a mom and u also encouraged me because after having four children u can sometimes get way to into your body image and foods but it’s so true to literally not let diets and body image consume you !! It seems to make it harder and worse even for yourself and your mind etc . Anyhow !! You are amazinggggg and so real and so genuine 💟 which equals one beautiful person 🌸
most amazing beautiful video you've ever made amber, you are so special ily sm!!!!
it’s so healing to hear your perspective on these things amber! growth takes time for sure and we’re all doing it gradually every day… one step at a time to love ourselves and our bodies 💓🤧
i feel so incredibly seen by this and the topics you’re discussing! you truly inspire me to become who i aspire to be amber!
I'm so proud of you Amber 💚
This video is really comforting amber, we need this more ❤️
You’re a such a beautiful person, Amber. Thank you for your vulnerability ❤
Thank you for opening up about this Amber
You're so wonderful and we love you so much ♡ thank you for being vulnerable, this helped me so much xx
ambieeeee i love u so much u deserve all the love and acceptance in the world
This video felt so comforting :') thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts Amber!!
Really glad you made this video, I really felt you when you were talking about social anxiety cause I’m the same way, hopefully I’ll learn to not care about it soon like you managed to do!
Amber, I recently discovered you and you've honestly brightened up my stressful days! all I can say is thank you and keep going because you're doing great! ily ❤
thank you so much amber for posting this video! this definitely has opened my eyes about myself.. you are so inspirational! ❤️
amber is the sister we all need in our lives 🥺🫂💖
omg i love you amber youre such an amazing human being im very glad that you exist and im just very grateful for the video u just made
thank u for making me feel seen as a shy girl love u queen
you’re so sweet , i love u amber.
Thanks for being honest Amber, you're so brave and we all admire that. It takes a lot of courage to upload this kind of video, let alone record it. Great job Amber!
Thank you for this Amber. You're always one of my comfort person out there.
it feels like we literally lived the same life! This was so validating. Thank you
Literally such a great video and great words and advice. The mirror and nature part was amazing
This video is so relatable, I honestly felt like I was the only one experiencing things like this
i literally love you so much and you are such a comfort to me, the hug made me sob it was so wholesome
Gosh. One of my favorite videos you’ve ever made. I don’t think any amount of thank you’s will ever show how much of an impact your videos and knowing I’m not alone struggling in this world being half Asian have on me, growing up in such a predominantly white town had it’s pros and cons; but the one thing that always had me isolated from everyone else was not having the average blonde hair, blue eyes combo, and the racism that came along with it. I felt like such an outsider not being able to fit in. As a kid I hated the way I looked because I thought I wasn’t beautiful enough to have someone or good enough. The way our experiences pave the way for us and as we look back on them shape us to the people we are, im entirely grateful. Thank you ambs :(
U just became my favourite youtuber, like wow...u such an inspirational🤗
oh this made me cry☹️ love u amber thank u for being vulnerable and honest
Your thoughts and reflections are so meaningful. Will always have a fond love for your witty and down to earth dialogue! Thank you for sharing, Amber!!
so proud of the person you are amber
i love you so much amber you don’t have an idea, thank u so much for just opening up with us and sharing ur throughs and opinions 🫶🏼
sending the biggest hug to the younger Amber and sending the one to Amber from now. this was hella emotional to me, thank you for being courageous to share your experience and spreading the positive messages
i really truly needed this video. it takes a lot of courage to open up, vocalise all these insecurities and post this, so thank you it truly helped me. I realized I relate to you on such a deep level on some of these. & I really want to make it clear that you may be ashley's sister but we're all here for YOU. thank u for this video seriously.
I legitimately loveee u omgg>.< We come from different backgrounds and experiences but i related to a lot u have said. We’re all humans living in our own bubbles, but definitely growing up and learning from what we’ve gone through definitely paves a new path for what we can do now as adults, or just new versions of ourselves. We’re the same age but i feel like if younger me saw this i would’ve definitely not made the mistakes i did as a kid/teen. Some are literal anxieties i can’t take back but i could’ve definitely learned new insight on how to cope with it and not restrain myself with. It’s honestly crazyyy we’re people who never met before and live different lives but how easily i connected with u and ur mindset is pretty cool. I’d definitely be superr anxious if i met u in person but just know i’d absolutely lovee it
AMBERRRR! Thank you so much for being an amazing human :’). Literally cried in your video because of the connection i felt. Def would love a series !!
This video really hit close to home. Thank you for opening up we love you 🫶🏻
Oh my goddd!!I literally never expected that you went through alott
I struggle with the same thing, this video is just what i needed right now and it inspired me a lot. As welI as I appreciate you for being open and vulnerable about your insecurities. gosh! i love you so much, Amber! ♡